My partner and I have been binge watching your content and applying it into our relationship. Thank you Dr Steph 🌸
@StephAnya
Жыл бұрын
So glad you two are enjoying the videos! Not a doctor yet haha, but thank you!
@kaylan5274
Жыл бұрын
@@StephAnya lol manifesting it for you !!! 😂❤
@DonzellLampkins
Жыл бұрын
@@StephAnya great video. Question: I’m a fellow psychotherapist (LCSW). Are you interested in pursuing the practice or research doctorate?
@Lifewithpanga
4 ай бұрын
I wish 😔
@derekenlow7607
3 ай бұрын
How are things now?
@WiddleMousie
Жыл бұрын
I would love if you could do a video on “genuine responses” as opposed to “pacifying responses”. And how to respond in those situations
@furiousstyles08
Жыл бұрын
"Never try to win the argument. Win the heart. Then there is no argument to win". -Some dude.
@RMaines
Жыл бұрын
Thank you for being so generous with sharing your knowledge and experience.
@StephAnya
Жыл бұрын
Glad it was helpful!
@laurafreeman3335
Жыл бұрын
I don't have a partner but I do enjoy the content that you give give out and I think this is good for all relationships not just people who have a partner
@StephAnya
Жыл бұрын
Thanks so much for watching ♥️
@raptrapcafe
5 ай бұрын
If you need one im available
@aaliyahahmed9112
Жыл бұрын
I normally shut down and am afraid to Express myslef coz I've been mocked lots of time all my life actually by those around me
@Tameshasworld
6 ай бұрын
Very relatable to me too😢
@balbineguylaine
Жыл бұрын
Hi Steph 😊 needless to say that I love your content. It’s so so helpful! A question I have: have you ever considered doing a video (or a series) on long distance relationships? :)
@tadiwanashemugari4349
Жыл бұрын
I second this
@teayacassie4830
11 ай бұрын
Yesss!! I hope she responds
@Scotstralian
2 ай бұрын
At the risk of coming across as negative, from what ive seen, they don't work. (And I don't just mean me) Although i have been there too. I really wish you all the best however I have yet to see it work long term.
@johnrainsman6650
8 ай бұрын
I'm currently mad at my girlfriend. See, we've had arguments so many times, and so far, it's always been my fault. I was always the one who was wrong and had to apologize. The one who had to redeem themself. And I have no problem with owning my mistakes. It's just, I'm tired of being _that guy._ Yesterday, I told my girlfriend that I was jealous of her. Jealous that she was always right and I was always wrong. That it brought me so much pain and self-doubt. And she said, "It's not always about right and wrong." That actually angered me. Can anyone guess why? I don't want to have to explain it. I want someone to understand how I'm feeling without clarification. So again, I told her how I was jealous of her for always being right...how I was in pain by constantly being "the bad guy" while she was "the good guy" in our conflicts...and she said it isn't always about right and wrong. Why do you think that response bothers me?
@91splamy
Жыл бұрын
I have a hard time talking about issues because regardless of whether we give it time to cool it down or not, I get angry or upset pretty easily and then he doesn’t want to continue. I do t know how to stop doing that. It feels like he just wants to let things settle and move on without talking about it. I need to talk through it to get over it, otherwise it feels unresolved.
@stacmont2
10 ай бұрын
I can relate to this
@Scotstralian
2 ай бұрын
Ditto
@EuniceQuintanilla-d7s
Жыл бұрын
I love your videos, they've really helped me be more introspective with myself. I'm wondering if you have content about long distance relationships- the struggles, how best to keep them healthy, etc? Thank you Dr Steph!
@ES-gw7zh
2 ай бұрын
I hope the videos I've watched so far and the notes I've taken help mend the lack of communication in my relationship.
@SS-in1ts
Жыл бұрын
This is very helpful for all relationships, relating in general. Thank you!! I’m saving it and keeping it handy. I have done a couple of these things and didn’t realize how much I contributed and made things worse.
@NDObeats
Жыл бұрын
I’m really enjoying this book so far! Thanks for the recommendation and video. Love reading with you.
@StephAnya
Жыл бұрын
🤗♥️
@stevensantora2976
Жыл бұрын
Great video Steph! I have bought the book. Thank you for all the work that you do.
@StephAnya
Жыл бұрын
Thank you!
@emmasmith6180
2 ай бұрын
You have the most gracious, eloquent presentation I have ever seen!
@StephAnya
2 ай бұрын
You’re so kind! Thank you 🫶🏽
@Don_Willy
Жыл бұрын
Thank you
@StephAnya
Жыл бұрын
Thank you for watching & commenting :)
@chelaxnart
Ай бұрын
I wish my ex and I found your content before we started having issues. I felt like we were slowly getting here with couple’s therapy but we were both very much not aware of our defense mechanisms that destroyed everything we were working on. I need to heal and see how I feel about the lost relationship. Maybe one day I’ll want to reach out and we can try something completely new. Of course if she is willing and has worked on herself too. But for now. I have to keep building upon myself to be a better partner for myself and whoever else will want to give it a go. I feel so much more confident in myself and can depend on myself better than I have in the past. I feel ready for the future and am excited for the process. Can’t hold onto hope, but I can see how much we’ve grown with each other. And it’s not about comparing each other’s growth. It’s the willingness to put in the work and admire your partner for the work they are putting in.
@jbn9029
Жыл бұрын
She is so intentional. ❤️
@wolfcrowned7138
Жыл бұрын
Thank you Steph Anya!
@KalloMoney
2 ай бұрын
Kind and gentle spirit
@missjeffersonifyanasty9571
Жыл бұрын
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾❤️👏🏾❤️❤️❤️ excited for this live!!!
@StephAnya
Жыл бұрын
Yay! Me too!!
@nataliam5744
Жыл бұрын
I really appreciate your content. Makes me reflect on myself like nothing else before. Thank you!
@JaelDan
16 күн бұрын
Watching this for my parents 🤧
@Miss.Bri_
Жыл бұрын
I enjoyed this video, definitely retained some great tips to apply to my currently relationship.
@aaliyahahmed9112
Жыл бұрын
You hair looks so good lots of love I love your composure too 💋
@StephAnya
Жыл бұрын
Aw thank you!! ♥️
@divinelyguided1144
Жыл бұрын
Awesome video thank you 🙏🏾
@fayem1336
Жыл бұрын
Great message!
@Light_in_the_Darkness730
8 ай бұрын
Tips for Marital Conflict - How We Stop Yelling and Start Laughing Again kzitem.info/news/bejne/qpmwv6WikYOnZoI
@exavierbland3450
Ай бұрын
Thank you thank you.❤❤❤💯🔥💯🔥💯
@StephAnya
Ай бұрын
@@exavierbland3450 thank you for watching!
@missjeffersonifyanasty9571
Жыл бұрын
Thank you needed this❤ you mentioned that “and then you yelled at me” was bad communication. Do you have a video further explaining how that is bad communication? I understand from my own sessions with my therapist that I should be focusing on my feelings rather than what the person did because my partner can feel attacked but maybe there’s more to that?
@StephAnya
Жыл бұрын
Hey! Yep. You answered it. Since the meaning of "yelling" is subjective, you want to focus on facts. "I felt scared when it felt to me like you were yelling." Does that make sense?
@missjeffersonifyanasty9571
Жыл бұрын
@@StephAnya yes thank you that does make sense. 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽 I honestly never thought of yelling as subjective.
@StephAnya
Жыл бұрын
@@missjeffersonifyanasty9571 I didn't realize it either until I realized so many of my clients refute with, "That's just how I talk!"
@missjeffersonifyanasty9571
Жыл бұрын
@@StephAnya GIRL! 🤣🤣🤣🤣 it burns my biscuits every time 🤣
@kle105
Жыл бұрын
I feel this so much. When I am in conflict and get anxious my voice gets louder and quicker but I’m not yelling at or about anyone. It’s my trauma response to confrontation
@Neo-wy2oc
6 ай бұрын
Could you make a video on handling conflict and keeping the spark for long distance relationships?
@sin3358
Жыл бұрын
I needed this so much. I really appreciate the videos you put because even thought I had a vague idea how to handle conflict, your videos help me make it easier for me to be able to express my emotions better. Sure, I use the "I" statement but I'm still unsure how to say it efficiently enough so it doesn't sound like I'm attacking my partner. I love the knowledge you share. Thank you do much!
@gracea7471
5 ай бұрын
I enjoyed this-- I think though that these tips are good when you're interacting with someone reasonably emotionally healthy. If your partner is a narcissist or has really limited empathy, these techniques probably won't work. If the narcissist can't take any ownership or accountability for their own role in the conflict (they can't, lol), then one person going above and beyond won't help and might serve as further ammo for them being gaslit/invalidated, etc.
@aaliyahahmed9112
Жыл бұрын
Been strangling with finding a partner am alyah and my mom is making it so hard I do belive in prayers make me part of yours
@angieBhanson
8 ай бұрын
Hi Anya! Another great video from you!
@persciviawatuka1587
5 ай бұрын
thanks for this ❤
@cal.w5269
Жыл бұрын
That was great advice. I’m grateful to you
@carolinasanabria7069
Жыл бұрын
Heyyyy. Usually we give each other space, and then talk when we’re ready. Or we’ll talk right away. And then enjoy a walk.
@StephAnya
Жыл бұрын
I love the idea of a walk! They actually suggest that for the date for this section to symbolize moving together in the same direction.
@Elizabeth_Temi
Жыл бұрын
Amazing video 🙌🏾❤️ thank you
@RunninChic620
Жыл бұрын
Just joined your group!! So excited!!
@StephAnya
Жыл бұрын
Yayyy! Happy to have you!
@thrill102
Жыл бұрын
Good video!
@mbtilover3575
Жыл бұрын
I’m curious to know how someone should interact with a partner that doesn’t share their more vulnerable feelings like if they are hurt feel rejected jealous etc because a lot of people can have a barrier up and just keep talking about the details of something and never express how something made them feel. I have experienced this in friendships with men and woman. So I guess my question is can peoples communication styles in expressing feelings change ? or if they don’t, do we just have to keep putting the pieces together on a feeling they may be feeling but they never directly say because of embarrassment or scared of vulnerability ?
@londonmatchmaker
6 ай бұрын
This right here 👉 Identify your triggers it might be a feeling of rejection it might be you are feeling ignored. Make sure you communicate how you feel and create openness with your partner to avoid conflicts or arguments in your relationship.
@Sharzad
Жыл бұрын
What do you do if your partner doesn’t want to talk about any of this at all, even to tell you what you did that bothered or triggered them?
@shweshwe_k8177
5 ай бұрын
I can relate to this. I'm learning to accept that if he wanted to he would
@ROBERTDAVis2271
Жыл бұрын
Fantastic video 👍🏿
@StephAnya
Жыл бұрын
Thank you!
@Star-dj1kw
Жыл бұрын
❤Great Video!!
@StephAnya
Жыл бұрын
Thank you!
@jessek-9scentdetectiontrai10
Жыл бұрын
Beautiful Smile ❤
@silvias2828
11 ай бұрын
Me and my husband talked about everything but things are getting worse and worse! Any other bright ideas?
@paulalatham6634
9 ай бұрын
Think before you speak 😊
@angieorozco8766
Жыл бұрын
Can I hire you for my relationship issues???
@StephAnya
Жыл бұрын
I wish! I’m only licensed in Georgia and my caseload has been full. I do have a link for you to find another MFT in the description box.
@ace1007
2 ай бұрын
What if the things that are bothering your partner aren't what actually happened and they are accusing you of things that are against your character based on feelings despite the facts...
@emom551
10 ай бұрын
They are running ads about you don’t need couples therapy during your video!
@OshunBreeze78
Ай бұрын
I get upset and start yelling because he quickly interrupts me doesn’t let me finish my thought. That’s what gets me upset and then hear comes the name calling from him and me threatening to leave the relationship. Bottom line I seem to be at fault during every disagreement he doesn’t see what he did or said to get me to that point. Idk if it’s worth fighting anymore I love him but right now I don’t like him 😢💔
@KalloMoney
2 ай бұрын
Not my accountability area
@raquellpn7482
6 ай бұрын
How can I book a session with you?
@KalloMoney
2 ай бұрын
#DB
@iamashleyiam
11 ай бұрын
How do we make an appointment with you?
@faith7934
Жыл бұрын
How much do you charge for me and my partner?
@kimbershark
Жыл бұрын
You're so gorgeous 😍 ✨️
@jessicatill4981
Жыл бұрын
Could Relationships jess till
@KalloMoney
2 ай бұрын
B4 40 no
@JennyGaston
Жыл бұрын
Another great video! As long as too individuals desire to grow and have mutual respect, then the relationship can flourish. Sadly many relationships are about power and control and breeds toxicity.
@KalloMoney
2 ай бұрын
Losing my virginity intentions
@yaaafrifa8974
Жыл бұрын
You are a Barbie girl ❤
@KalloMoney
2 ай бұрын
God Family Career
@KalloMoney
2 ай бұрын
I dont possess any deadly sin
@KalloMoney
2 ай бұрын
Pem click
@anamosa1574
Жыл бұрын
Are you married what is your realationship status Mad people be out here giving advice when they are a train wreck in their personal lives particularly therapists
@anemptyhollow
Жыл бұрын
She's married
@PrettyVicious
9 ай бұрын
She mentioned her husband in the video
@DownSouthHottie
Жыл бұрын
But what if he just degrades your feelings? What if he dismisses your feelings?
@lebu5825
Жыл бұрын
If he doesn’t respect you, then he needs to do some internal work.
@reposentraquilitywithkingc3370
Ай бұрын
Do you find this to be effective even in relationship with 5 plus years of bad communication. One person who shuts down and the other wants to talk about it and gets upset when the other is quiet. Where arguments come easily because of constant frustration to be this better person exists but is not happening the way they are asking it to be.
@speedyblackston1647
10 ай бұрын
Thank you
@KalloMoney
2 ай бұрын
Mute im not attracted to arguing yelling or pain
@devinalexander7415
2 ай бұрын
My partner refuses to do anything on the list until I validate her feelings. I do my best to validate her feelings, but sometimes I get triggered when I am judged so harshly for not being a good partner when I'm trying my best. She will not admit her part in the fight, she will not admit her triggers, she will not admit that she could have communicated better before, during or after the conflict, and she will not let me express my needs because she said she can't meet any of them until I validate her feelings the next time it comes up. To me this feels like someone who isn't willing to work with me, and someone who isn't letting love win. I can take accountability and know where I was in the wrong and apologize, but she has not accepted any part of her behavior during the altercation. What can I do if she isn't willing to do the work with me on anything from the list? She told me it's all up to me because it was a problem that I caused. Feeling deflated.
@candacecarter5864
Жыл бұрын
You’re really good!
@DeVeraJackson-Garber
Жыл бұрын
Thank you for this video. Helpful tools. Just a suggestion, as a queer person, I would find it helpful to show examples of queer couples. I noticed that the clips were all straight couples.
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