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@ashleetarin4070
11 ай бұрын
Thank you so much for sharing this. I have been all three in my life for sure
@SadMother360
3 жыл бұрын
I must say when I first heard of CRAFT I thought it was so naive. I thought “addiction is a beast; you can’t be nice about it”. I tried to “detach with love” (a hypocritical statement if I ever heard one). I found I could not do it. Mother’s are programmed to never turn their back on their child. I came across these videos and thought, “These people are silly, but, what the heck, I’ll give it a try.” Guess what?! It is working!!! After 17 years battling addiction my daughter is finally getting better.I guess I was the naive one! Thank you for these videos; you are saving lots of families.
@PutTheShovelDown
3 жыл бұрын
I'm so happy to hear that! You just made my day!
@lynnej.9357
Жыл бұрын
Sometimes it's nice to be wrong.
@virginiabaker2305
Жыл бұрын
I needed to read this today. God bless you & daughter.
@vclocals5536
5 ай бұрын
Good to hear! Looking for solutions here.
@jennifermullins8673
3 жыл бұрын
I have tried going through some lessons on this but I don’t think I have enough endurance for it. Make the addict’s life good at home so they stop using. They still use no matter what and it brings me and my whole family down in the meantime
@PutTheShovelDown
3 жыл бұрын
Hey Jennifer, I'm glad you made that point. I've been meaning to clarify that issue for a while now. I don't think that making an addicts life good will make them stop using. I think it will make them stop blaming everyone and everything else, which makes them have to take a long hard look at what they're doing. They start to realize how their behavior impacts themselves and everyone else, instead of focusing on self-pity and resentment! I think I'm going to make a video clarifying this issue and send it to everyone inside the Invisible Intervention.
@crystalmcfeetors9907
2 жыл бұрын
Attended my first CRAFT meeting via Zoom and by the end of it that I had finally found my support community with a method that aligns with my beliefs and works. Relieved and hopeful 😌
@PutTheShovelDown
2 жыл бұрын
Love it! Thanks for sharing that ⭐
@tleemf6923
2 жыл бұрын
I ve come so far from being pissed at being told I had choices to do things differently as his parent ...Now I 110% see and agree with these sentiments even thou I'm in it again with my 25 year old son...I m definantly doing things differently...WISH ME LUCK ...and I'll never stop making room for miricles to happen🕊🙏💫🧡💫🙏🕊 My son also has schizophrenia and is off all meds ...making his behavior even more intence ..maybe not more as it's all relative...At this moment ..I am pulling tuff Love for self preservation...tired of feeling selfish ...but am also exhausted and refuse to give it my all anymore ...its honestly boring after years of doing more for your loved one than they do for themselves and literally do nothing in return ..except Lo e you in their hearts...there in lay the conundrum for me ...the LOVE...and yet I need ..he needs the LOVE 🕊🙏💫🧡
@taylernoelle1
5 жыл бұрын
I wish more counselors were trained in this approach. It's so hard knowing what option to choose when it's time to intervene. Good to know this is an option. Thanks, Amber!
@PutTheShovelDown
5 жыл бұрын
Tayler Wurtz you’re so right Tayler, that why I’m so excited about this series. We’re going to be teaching families how to use this method to change their lives and families.
@iggybiggy821
3 жыл бұрын
This channel and YOU are making such a difference Amber! Thank you from the bottom of my heart. I am learning so much I did not know before. I grew up in a household with addiction present, did lots of work in my life on dealing with being co-dependent after the end of my 25 year marriage. All that chronic trying to balance the boat and everyone else in it thing and nearly drowning myself. Yep. Onward. And then I married someone with you guessed it, a hidden alcohol addiction LOL! Shocking right? LOL....NOT! Hmmmm...we are indeed such creatures of habit I have learned. Well I'm one smart cookie: got myself in counseling and absorbing every single thing I can get my hands and brain on to do the work. This work is fabulous I must commend you for making a huge difference.
@PutTheShovelDown
3 жыл бұрын
😃😁😁😁 awww thanks Iggy! I have just recorded a video about the effects on adults of growing up in an addicted home. It will be coming out soon!
@paulbrodie331
Жыл бұрын
A colleague just introduced me to CRAFT and suggested we start doing monthly seminars open to the community based on CRAFT. I'm in research mode now, this is the first CRAFT video I watched. This approach sounds like it fits with my approach to treatment. Should be easy for me to adopt. I'm a licensed alcohol and drug counselor, been in the field for 9 years now.
@mariaandrearichards-HurtadoZ
Жыл бұрын
6:46 thank you so much for your showing this method, I am so relieved that my love one had the help and support he deserves, and also for us as a family it is not a day that we are not worry about him. He is passing over a year of being clean, the works continues. But let me tell you, you are not alone, you can help your love one, you can help yourself. And you can enjoy life with out shame. My advice give this a chance, and keep learning about it so you can be a head and no by surprise. Take a deep breath, take care yourself. You can be a good model of how to enjoy life. My heart with you. 🙏🏾
@PutTheShovelDown
Жыл бұрын
Love This Advice !!!!! 💖💖💖💖💖
@lesleyce9131
8 ай бұрын
Tried this method...it brought relapse upon relapse. Mantaining the love but going Back to 12 step programs.... have really seen their successes!!
@kathydixon1666
7 ай бұрын
Can you recommend a 12 step program on youtube that I can watch? Thank you
@jessnotliketherest85
11 ай бұрын
I thought there was gonna be free group meetings or zoom meetings but once I clicked on her link I saw they charge $19-$27 a month.
@elizabethstacie8039
Жыл бұрын
Yes , I have done the craft method with my alcoholic son. To me you do need a combination of all the methods but approaching with love when someone is sick and giving hope and encouragement is the only way I can conduct myself and feel at all good. CRAFT is a good way to deal with all people really. I do wish they had more access and why don’t they if the success rate is so high. Thank you for your Information 🌺❤️🌺
@michellecarroll6690
Жыл бұрын
I am so grateful for finding your videos. I have a daughter struggling with addiction and it has torn our family apart. She is in a treatment program again, fifth time. I have been searching for help. I've done Al-Anon and tough love method. I'm eager to learn about the craft method. I wish you could be our therapist, you really seem to know what you're talking about. Your videos are giving me some hope that I can help because I can't give up on her. Thank you for your good work and advice. I will continue to watch your videos and with luck I can learn what I need to do to get some normalcy and healing for all.
@mkr6214
3 жыл бұрын
Amber, I first heard of the CRAFT approach when I stumbled onto your channel in July 2021. My bf has severe AUD and has been change-talking for months. I've been researching and looking for answers for both of us since Oct 2020. I wish I could've applied then what I've been learning about for the past few weeks! Everything about the CRAFT method feels right to me. It has certainly helped me understand his addictive behavior and struggles much better. It has provided me with a bazillion tools that I believe will enable me to support him WAY more effectively. Lastly, I'm learning how to take better care of myself. I feel empowered, patient, and truly hopeful. I have had so many questions and can't get over that I have found answers to every single one of them through your channel so far. Wow! I can't wait to see over the coming weeks and months how my guy will respond to such positive, healing and strategic reinforcement. I think he will come to believe that he can successfully beat this! And I'm going to cheer him on. Thank you for sharing your knowledge, Amber. You are a treasure to so many of us--addicted or non-addicted--who are caught up in some seriously wacko craziness.
@PutTheShovelDown
2 жыл бұрын
Yay! I love it!
@jamesmowenby
11 ай бұрын
Amber, these videos are great and have been reaffirming. I had to break up with a woman-friend that I was very much in love with because of her drinking. I will always hold love in my heart for her but she has to make the decision to recognize the problem change her life. Your videos bring it home to me that I made the right decision to walk away. I had a hard time with being away from her but these videos have helped me heal. I hope someday she will get help and change her ways but I can't do it for her. Thank you.
@crazyloon56
Жыл бұрын
I came across this model a few months ago through a family support group. They also recommended I read Beyond Addiction: How Science and Kindness Help People to Change. I have begun implementing some of the principles and it has opened up lines of communication with my son. I made an error with the intervention approach and ended up the 'bad guy'. This is a long road and there are no immediate fixes. I look forward to becoming more empathetic and supportive with the hopes it leads to him seeking help.
@PutTheShovelDown
Жыл бұрын
You're on the right path, D!
@rhondacheramie9173
Жыл бұрын
I appreciate all of your advice and videos Amber. I have been coming back to them so often in the past year since my sons use had taken a turn for the worse . ( he is now in a program and doing extended stay and planning on going to sober living) Also I lead my new puppy into the correct behavior with treats, so it definitely works. 🙌🏼 Thanks for all that you do Amber .
@PutTheShovelDown
Жыл бұрын
You are so welcome!
@meganeff
5 жыл бұрын
I have not heard of the CRAFT approach, but I can’t wait to learn more!
@PutTheShovelDown
5 жыл бұрын
meganeff it’s sort of the opposite of the tough love approach.
@juliastefanko2711
2 жыл бұрын
My first time learning about Craft Community! Going on 11 years with my daughter. Thank you so much.
@PutTheShovelDown
2 жыл бұрын
You are so welcome!
@travelingtiger8657
2 жыл бұрын
Yes I am doing the training now and have completed 2 classes out of 12. More awareness needs to be made so families and friends can get involved and make a difference
@raek8940
2 жыл бұрын
This is the first I have heard of CRAFT, I am interested.
@PutTheShovelDown
2 жыл бұрын
Hi Rae, There's a good book called Beyond Addiction. It listed as one of our recommended Amazon books. Here's the link in case your interested. www.amazon.com/shop/addictionrecoveryresources-hopeforfamilies
@raek8940
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you! I am reading it on Hoopla now because of you. 🥰
@joeortiz6664
2 жыл бұрын
I love, love, love CRAFT! I am a man in recovery from alcohol and drugs for nearly 9 years. 4 years ago I made a career change and entered the world of Addiction Treatment. Last year I decided to become a Professional Interventionist. I trained in the BreakFree method initially and then I discovered CRAFT. CRAFT aligns very much with what I've believed in for a long time....that tecovery is for the WHOLE family. We ALL deserve to get better! Detach with love? No! Engage with love. Improve your family situation. Confrontation? No! Conversation. You can let your addicted loved one know where you stand and do it in a way that is not hurtful to either one of you and yet be effective in promoting change and recovery. I help families and watch families get better all the time. So far, my practice boasts a 70% success rate. 70%!! I encourage everyone to find a professional interventionist that specializes in CRAFT. Learn a new perspective and approach! Become educated, enlightened and empowered! A much better life awaits! :)
@tleemf6923
2 жыл бұрын
You are such a blessing ..thank you for you Light..those who lash out at you ..there just not there yet ...fully committed their drama .I was there once..Some folks grow up and threw the hardness of it all like the flower from the cracks ..others just wont budge....POWER TO USE WHO also reach the bottom of our desperation and trying to help ...I sm so ready for different ..Bought BEYOND ADDICTION it's in my hands now 🧡💫🙏🕊I met a lady who did loose her son to addiction ..but this book gave her her relationship back with her son the 2 presious years befor his death at 17 from an overdose...She stressed she wish shed had this book when he was 10 ..before it all began
@jocelynnowen3078
2 жыл бұрын
Concerning the alcoholics in or not in recovery and all the efforts you’ve devoted to your service I would just like to throw in the mix here that without AA I would have been history long ago. About the criticisms, sit them out. Somebody once said that if I had some haters it’s because I must be doing something right. Kind of cocky but I like. Looked like a good idea at the time. Right? My favorite Alanon thing is , ‘ what is it you don’t understand about the word no.’ 😁
@samdung5630
Жыл бұрын
Thank you!! This makes so much sense! I have BEEN arguing this point. Of course I have SOME influence.
@Medietos
5 ай бұрын
All methods prerequire us to be healthy, balanced family. I haven't been able to be consistent but acted typically Adult Child: Periods of non-care and oblivion, thinking that meant not being Co-dependent. Or hardening inside, harbouring resentment, bitterness and false-martyr- and false-victim thinking. I bet the CRAFT methoid costs money that I don't have access to, or is for Americans only. I need some CRAFT to myself and my addiction/attachment, please! I could owe the money, or pay by work of many kinds. I want to get (us all) well,and I am sure it is possible.
@catherinecook9260
2 жыл бұрын
I just found your videos, I love them! Thank you for your direct speak. Please keep them coming👏🏻👏🏻🎉 We are watching and want more. Tell me MORE about Craft please. I’m watching everyone. Thank you!
@PutTheShovelDown
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for your kind words and feedback Catherine! You can learn more about the CRAFT method in the book Beyond Addiction, and we also teach the CRAFT method in our Invisible Intervention online course: www.familyrecoveryacademy.online/
@dubliners0999
Жыл бұрын
I'm in Nar Anon. I consider it a 100% success rate because I don't feel crazy. My relative will NOT reach out to me for help, so this is the best way. I have no family support, so this is the way to go.
@resilientrecoveryministries
3 жыл бұрын
Thanks for sharing this evidence-based information. I appreciate it!
@PutTheShovelDown
3 жыл бұрын
My pleasure!
@agopedro2671
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you Amber - KEEP SAVING LIVES!!
@PutTheShovelDown
2 жыл бұрын
😁😁😁
@aletamigliero6432
4 жыл бұрын
I am being told to kick my daughter out and I just cannot bring myself to do that. We are also poor and cannot afford the long term rehabs. It's so frustrating.
@PutTheShovelDown
4 жыл бұрын
Aleta Migliero hi Aleta, there are free treatment options. Check out boy playlist on Understanding Treatment Options to learn about all the different options.
@ruandahaasbroek1950
2 жыл бұрын
I agree with this approach much more than the others. We have tried the other methods with my son's drug addictions, and it doesn't work. I would like to try this approach
@PutTheShovelDown
2 жыл бұрын
it works much better in my experience!
@lindabriggs9481
Жыл бұрын
Just found this and I'm hoping to learn a lot because I feel like I'm losing my son. All in my family has blocked him out of their lives and I know from witnessing this that is torn him apart not only the drugs but the loss of all the people he loves I am hoping to get a lot out of this. My family all wanted an intervention but I never felt that was the right way my other son wanted us to kick him out on the streets and I couldn't do that either but it's about to go in that situation He lives with his dad and his dad is done! I hope this works because I don't want to lose him I lost his sister and a brother to drugs and alcohol and I don't want to use my lose my own child
@carolsims1408
2 ай бұрын
I am in the same situation,
@CMoore8539
5 жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing this video!!!
@PutTheShovelDown
5 жыл бұрын
Cindy Moore thank you Cindy! Any special request?
@vclocals5536
5 ай бұрын
Those stupid tv interventions really are setting the person up. Talk about burning bridges...! Thanks for all your helpful info! CRAFT sounds interesting...👍🏻
@brook7880
Жыл бұрын
Thanks again, wish you were closer to us. To help
@PutTheShovelDown
Жыл бұрын
We do offer virtual coaching if you think that would help. www.familyrecoveryacademy.online/consultations
@ashleetarin4070
11 ай бұрын
She contacted me saying that she was scared for her life, so I literally made sure that she is OK and the fact that she allows this guy to show up again, knowing that he is a toxic person and brings her down and she only does drugs with him that bothers the hell out of me
@daniellecole7333
3 жыл бұрын
Where is the link for the next video on the craft?
@djames5137
2 жыл бұрын
What is the name of the communication video you mentioned? Is the link in the description?
@PutTheShovelDown
2 жыл бұрын
I think it's probably this one: kzitem.info/news/bejne/03iOsKutkWOIlnY
@melonqueen5138
3 жыл бұрын
Isn't this in smart recovery? I'm new there. Maybe I'm just thinking of the card acronym.
@ashleetarin4070
11 ай бұрын
I personally don’t want to control anybody but I want to make sure that my ex-wife is OK and she is not manipulated by the guy who helped her become addicted to meth
@catm5549
3 ай бұрын
My daughter is creating chaos and took my car for days. It's not acceptable and I'm looking for options other than kicking her out. It's very difficult as I already lost my son to addiction fatal overdose. 😢
@anthonyrossmaund3161
3 жыл бұрын
I'm not sure what mine is but I have a PO Required treatment 14 hours of groups.
@wackywally69420
4 ай бұрын
its a little embarrassing when you realize this method works, because you start to realize its exactly what many addicts are begging for all the time, but it obviously gets translated through their addiction and gets lost.
@brendareed5050
4 жыл бұрын
Haven’t heard of CRAFT before, what do the letters stand for?
@PutTheShovelDown
4 жыл бұрын
Hi Brenda, CRAFT stands for Community Reinforcement And Family Training. It's not well known, but it's been proven to be the most successful family intervention method.
@jaimep.7022
11 ай бұрын
Does anybody know if this program is in North jersey?
@desiraevest4250
9 ай бұрын
how do i help a brother, and father who has an 8 year meth problem and acts like a hostile, narcissist. everyone is the problem but him! according to him we're the reason and problem. hes never wrong and he yells and breaks things, breaks into our house when we kick him out, and fights everytime hes in our home. hes a natual yeller. what do i do? no job btw, no car, no home, he just uses the kids to come and go as he pleases and uses our home to disrupt any peace we can have.
@albemac9730
2 жыл бұрын
Are there treatment centers in North Carolina that teach the Craft method
@PutTheShovelDown
2 жыл бұрын
Hi Albe, The CRAFT method is mostly geared toward the family members of a person with addiction. We teach it inside of our Invisible Intervention Program, but there are lots of other places to learn about CRAFT as well.
@albemac9730
2 жыл бұрын
I would like to know more about the craft method. I have a grown son who is showing possible signs of drug addiction and I would like to have an idea of how to help him. I’m always praying for him. I’ve never seen him do anything, So I don’t even know what he’s using. But He’s moving different, won’t stay employed, asking for money! And my son has always worked since the age of 16. I would appreciate any information you can give. I just found your channel this morning 🙏🏽
@tamz3653
3 жыл бұрын
Hello sister 🙋🏼♀️ wanna know who’s got the 90% successful rate !?!? Adult Teen Challenge 👏 hallelujah-- see the thing is - they don’t label it as “ disease “ 🙅🏼♀️ OK - & they don’t bs around with calling on “ higher power” 🙅🏼 to JESUS be ALLLLL the glory - it’s about true healing & deliverance & no meds either btw (( hugs!))
@sheliahgriffin5150
Жыл бұрын
My son hasn't called me are texted me in 2 weeks he's not checking his phone I'm so scared
@mariaandrearichards-HurtadoZ
Жыл бұрын
Im sorry you are passing for this, you are in a safe and good place here you will find good information.
@nmartin5551
7 ай бұрын
nothing works 100%. Really hurt people who have lost people are probably your haters
@Angee82111
Күн бұрын
I’m getting so annoyed going to so many videos get to the point
@nanamc881
4 жыл бұрын
Where’s your proof 🤔
@PutTheShovelDown
4 жыл бұрын
The statistics used in this video can be found in the book “beyond addiction”
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