It's funny how they shame the girls but not the fathers who abandoned them 🤷♀️
@jessicayoung3656
Жыл бұрын
Patriarchal society blames women (even female children) on men's behaviors. Its so weird, men should have all the power to control but none of the responsibility of terrible actions.
@greeneggsand-s1g
Жыл бұрын
Exactly
@kayleighdriessen
Жыл бұрын
It's kind of ironic how patriarchal society insists that men have all the power and absolute yet they can't seem to have control of their 'biological urges' and blame them on the women and children for it.
@blazeswithwolvez7221
Жыл бұрын
welp, I specifically remember getting laughed at for writing love letters to girls, so emotional Men aren't rewarded, so there ya go...
@heatherhaven1268
Жыл бұрын
This is always somewhere on daddy issues videos or topics…and I’m always happy to find it.
@nastiazhy
Жыл бұрын
I think we should ask question “why do we have so many daddy issues” but “why so many men are bad dads”
@neo1053
Жыл бұрын
Exactly
@_.Max.i.mus._
Жыл бұрын
for real bruh
@jeremyjub9147
Жыл бұрын
Presumably because they had shitty dads themselves and society doesn't particularly encourage them to get help.
@Peecamarke
Жыл бұрын
THIS 😔
@MrEvldreamr
Жыл бұрын
Bc women pick them. Its literally the mothers choice who she has kids with
@rejectionisprotection4448
Жыл бұрын
Not only are the fathers not criticised for their abandonment or abusive behaviour, but the blame is not only placed on the daughter, but also the mother for not “choosing better” or initiating a divorce.
@annasullivan7641
Жыл бұрын
I mean the mother is the other parent you can't portray all women as angels.
@rejectionisprotection4448
Жыл бұрын
@@annasullivan7641 But it's disproportionate blame. In comparison, the father gets off scot free.
@annasullivan7641
Жыл бұрын
@@rejectionisprotection4448 It's both parents fault honestly the main important thing if one or two parents have a child a human being is to make sure they grow up functionally and respect people we can't blame one parent since it is a two person job .
@kiriki4558
Жыл бұрын
@@annasullivan7641 just admit you are misoginistic
@annasullivan7641
Жыл бұрын
@@kiriki4558 Oh so if a woman a mother is abusive or neglectful doesn't protect her own child that she also decided to bring into the world and that Said child has problems with women in the future that makes me misogynistic 🙃
@leticiatorres1020
Жыл бұрын
I have a problem with romanticizing the resilience of some girls as if the abandonment is ok and these girls don't also need help. Because the "independence" and "resilience" is also a symptom. They often feel they have to be independent or strong or hardworking or any other "positive" trait in order to be loved. Just looking at the "problematic" girls and not at the ones that "survived" excludes them from these conversations and leave them feeling more abandoned and alone than they already do. All of them need to have a space or a way to deal with the childhood trauma...
@lapaofox1682
Жыл бұрын
Thanks for mentioning this I always had like a duty to be the best in my class and graduate from uni really fast to start working. I've always been independent and strong, but that doesn't mean abandonment hasn't marked me. It's so sad...
@justunithingz
Жыл бұрын
Your comment is articulated beautifully.
@Lwoods1717
Жыл бұрын
This is a great point. Beautifully put 👌🏼👌🏼
@Introvertsan
Жыл бұрын
Definitely
@misst693
4 ай бұрын
Thanks for pointing this out. I know your comment is from a year ago but it resonated with me. I had a horrible father growing up, he still is today. Even though it forced me to leave home early in life and make my own way I still feel the effects of having a negligent father.
@lo_Ovung
Жыл бұрын
It's funny how the internet loves to label the behaviour of certain women as "fatherless behaviour", while failing to acknowledge the fact that the catalyst is the failure of the father to be in his daughter's life and not the other way around
@ahabalheis2478
Жыл бұрын
So you'd take accountability from the women? Are they excused to hurt people just because they have issues?
@lo_Ovung
Жыл бұрын
@@ahabalheis2478 who is talking about "hurting" other people here? I'm talking about the men online who throw around the word "fatherless behaviour" everytime they see a woman living her life even though, the women's way has zero impact on their personal life..
@ahabalheis2478
Жыл бұрын
Seek therapy because it's a serious issue that does affect behavior and mind
@Ranakk900
Жыл бұрын
@@ahabalheis2478I think you need therapy .. she made some really good points
@ssbashalot7324
10 ай бұрын
@@lo_OvungYes but you’re lying. Men are often held accountable for stuff like this
@pixiebells
Жыл бұрын
Great video, but one example didn't work: Tiana in Princess and the Frog wasn't "fatherless", her dad strongly inspired her dream of owning a restaurant & they had a great relationship, it was actually central to her character development and plot! It's just her father apparently died during the time jump to her adulthood. That's something you should really consider correcting or omitting. And the fact that she's one of only a few Black & Brown Disney princesses doesn't help either. While his death may provide lingering trauma he was ultimately her inspiration & should NOT be lumped in with people with "daddy issues".
@jayneb6053
Жыл бұрын
Why did you say her parents plural her mother is still alive ?
@katelyntaylor7384
Жыл бұрын
THANK YOU!!! Tiana, as a little girl, had a loving mother and father, who both inspired her to pursue her dream of owning her own restaurant. Her father wasn't absent, he died. From the picture she keeps framed and the medal with it, it looks like he died in war. Her father was a good man who didn't leave her with issues. Her mother is still alive when Tiana is an adult. They have a moment together of mourning him.
@NatalieZii
Жыл бұрын
From a psychology perspective, a death of a parent absolutely still can create attachment issues. It may not be a purposeful abandonment but the child still feels it.
@jlo803
Жыл бұрын
Mom's alive
@AirQuotes
Жыл бұрын
Yes she definitely shouldn't have been included in this category
@KaylaNoelle1
Жыл бұрын
Daddy issues are a tragedy when they happen to men but a porn category when they happen to women. My dad has daddy issues but he broke the cycle with me and I really admire him for that.
@Ummmmmmmm841
Жыл бұрын
I agree with you but also I think it is also somewhat of a porn category/ romanticized within gay community as well, I'm not sure, not gay personally but it is a trend I kinda noticed. (Correct me if I'm wrong tho)
@zappernapper
Жыл бұрын
They're a porn category for guys too IJS.
@JoRiver11
Жыл бұрын
All about that sweet sweet POWER. A low-effort way to get into someone's heart and mind and mess with them, feeling above them.
@Kushagra.j
Жыл бұрын
Divorce are a tragedy for women but when they happen to men people treat it as a joke and ask him to man up and pay his ex wife
@Ikaros23
Жыл бұрын
Trust me. 98% of the narcissistic men in porn have the same issues. That is absent or abusive dad`s, or mothers. That is the real blind spot. When we see porn, we often see the codependent relationship play out on the screen. This is also a large part of why people get addicted to porn ( they play out this fantasy in their mind).
@marijag
Жыл бұрын
I absolutely despise the fetishism with daddy issues. No, it's not sexy knowing your father will never love you. No, it's not sexy to look for male comfort and validation to fill a void that he created. No, it's not sexy to be treated like garbage and insulted by your father every single day. It isn't sexy, it's downright sad.
@Mini-ge9sm
16 күн бұрын
Agree
@The0neWomanShow
Жыл бұрын
I have daddy issues and it has not made me sexy or promiscuous, it has led to developing depression and anxiety. I’m only in my early 20s and only now reckoning with what I have dealt with and trying to work on it on my own term
@selrox879
Жыл бұрын
Same.
@alinashirinian2485
Жыл бұрын
Same, my father-related trauma has made me depressed, angry and emotionally distant. Was one of the main causes of my OCD too. I don't have a ton of sexual partners, I have PTSD because of the immense amount of stress my so-called father caused me, it's anything but sexy lmfao.
@iaf4454
Жыл бұрын
@@alinashirinian2485 it is hard but you know people can be resilient. it can be hard for you but if you try to treat yourself with the love and care that he did not give you, you will feel that the "issue" will get over easily... prioritize you and you... then if you have the opportunity to confront him without putting yourself in danger can be a good thing... the anger you hold inside is because you need to speak up, confront him and telling what you feel without expecting anything from ... i did this before he died and it worked for me... of course he has never been in my life and now I am greatful for that, he was a terrible human being...
@alyzu4755
Жыл бұрын
I saw a video yesterday in which a man said that when he learned he and his wife were going to have a girl, he went to "the biggest man who*re [he] could find" and asked him how to keep his daughter safe from men like him. The guy said to "let her know you love her, otherwise someone who doesn't will make her believe he does".
@vidishaarkasali7194
Жыл бұрын
Me too even i watched the same
@GryffindorLioness
Жыл бұрын
lol, I saw that tiktok just yesterday
@lilac6222
Жыл бұрын
The title of the video please.
@alyzu4755
Жыл бұрын
@@lilac6222 I'll try to find it.
@winterbutterfly8861
Жыл бұрын
Omg same, I watched like 2 days ago
@thewishfulthinker
Жыл бұрын
Phantom of the Opera is an interesting example of this character type. Not subtle, but then it is a Gothic rock opera. I love that Christine ultimately triumphs over her insecurities, sees the Phantom for what he is, and in finally kissing him, acts with agency instead of infatuation. She's granting him mercy, not falling under his spell.
@_heisenburgerr
Жыл бұрын
My father has been absent since I was 7. This made me crave for male validation ever since. I would immediately like any guy who liked me as long as they seemed "nice", which blinded me from their true intentions. Until now with my current boyfriend, I still find myself submitting to what I think would be pleasing for him. But I'm lucky that he always acknowledges my needs and what I truly want. Of course, that's a bare minimum but I'm confident that I'll be able to break the generational trauma.
@winterbutterfly8861
Жыл бұрын
The fact that my father literally told me and my sister that we were to blame. He and my mom got a divorce when we were still babies cause he cheated on her and he never forgive her for not forgiving him. He was not part of our lives (lived 7 miles from our home and spend over a year without visiting us despite my mom insistence). After we grew up he once told me that he didn't went to see us more because we weren't happy enough to see him, that he saw other children cry when they saw their fathers and being more excited about it (we were 6 and 5 at this point he was referring to) and that he had to ask us to say "daddy I love you" (which we said) and therefore he didn't felt welcomed and loved enough. To this day his side of the family treats us like we're some kind of monsters for going on and having happy healthy lives without them despite them being the ones who rejected us when we were little. My dad literally used the little time he had the few times that he did come to see us to try and say bad things about my mom (like he cheated because they argue and it was her fault or whatever) but when we (little girls) asked him not to do that he said it was because she manipulated us and tell us what to say and then procede to not come see us in a long time. Once we grew he blamed us of being "like her". His ego couldn't take that we were capable of being happy after he abandoned us.
@IBH94
Жыл бұрын
I was disappointed with how Barney Stinson only appeared in the quick intro while he is one of the best examples of daddy issues
@giftofgab1791
Жыл бұрын
My dad is an abandoning, narcissistic addict and I had a narcissistic ex try to weaponize that as an excuse to break up with me but the irony is that I don’t really have any traits that could tend to be associated with so-called “daddy issues” (I have major trust issues and anxiety but not the other stuff) but I know plenty of women with stable, loving relationships with their dad’s who display all the stereotypical behaviors of a person with “daddy issues”. I think this label is a crock of shit and completely misogynistic, why is no one coming for the shitty dad’s who psychologically harmed their children?
@missbellaiza
Жыл бұрын
Finally, someone hears my struggles and understands me!
@jaminavestajugo3456
Жыл бұрын
One implication of the "daddy issues" slur is that a good woman should be able to work through the impact of her childhood by herself, or smilingly perform happiness because she's so selfless that she would never want to make others uncomfortable. A daughter with visible "issues" is blamed for not covering them up in this way. On the other hand, so many stories present a son's daddy issues as a prerequisite for "brooding hero" status. You know what I mean, that protagonist who's an asshole or stressed-out overachiever because his father always made him feel inadequate, etc. That's not good, either, but the difference in the portrayal daughters' vs. sons' "daddy issues" tells a lot about how society views gender.
@MsDreamer1994
Жыл бұрын
I wonder is there a big difference between daddy issues and mommy issues? The one example I can think of are criminals/serial killers who lack maternal figures tend to act the way they do due to lack of nurturing.
@LarrySonOfMilton
Жыл бұрын
lesbians who look for older lesbians, similar to straight women looking for older men.
@marslara
Жыл бұрын
imo there's no difference, it's really just general neglect or bad parental relationships regardless of gender.
@Sishel
Жыл бұрын
@@LarrySonOfMilton This is supposed to be a joke right?
@Sishel
Жыл бұрын
I have both a father wound and a mother would. I’m not a criminal nor a serial killer. Please stop it with this bullshit correlation. All criminals have mental issues, but not all people with mental issues are criminals 🤦♀️
@down-to-earth-mystery-school
Жыл бұрын
Serial killer and psychopaths are born without wiring in their brains for empathy
@bexniccals3686
Жыл бұрын
It's Not Just Women With Daddy/Mommy Issues Men Can Also Have It
@mariapetrova1294
Жыл бұрын
yes and this conversation is about women with daddy issues
@Friendship1nmillion
Жыл бұрын
*YEP* 😮💨 : Just change the word " girl " to " boy " And *EVERYTHING* that's explained in this video of traits associated with the term IS about me . ♑️✍️💔🇦🇺🇳🇴
@Toastcat890
Жыл бұрын
It's not just women though it's ANYONE except for veterans that have trauma we have this way of ignoring trauma till it manifests itself in either mental illness, unaliving yourself, or other toxic behaviors then we blame the victim for being traumatized and not able to magically be better and normal because no generation has ever been intent on teaching people how to heal or find healthy coping mechanisms and helping to break the cycle.
@heatherhaven1268
Жыл бұрын
Damn. Cassie is always such a hard watch for me. That was me in high school. It still hurts and I’m almost 40 EDIT: Cassie and rue combo phew
@elizabeth5147
Жыл бұрын
Having an absent or neglectful father is bad for everyone, but the wild thing is that absent fathers have a way more negative effect on boys behavior than on girls behavior (Bureau of Economic Development)
@dorcassg
10 ай бұрын
The concept of the fetishization of daddy issues has always been disgusting to me. It is because it always came across as women who have daddy issues are sexually desired because their daddy issues & lack of stable father figure who protected them & loved them makes them more vulnerable to predatory men who will prey on a lack of boundaries & self esteem in order to use them sexually & even abuse them. When sometimes daddy issues manifest in the opposite way where women might become hyper vigilant & have extra walls and boundaries but that type of daddy issues isn’t fetishized because it doesn’t make those women more vulnerable to the sexual whims of men that only want to use them. People who fetishize women because they are more vulnerable to selfish men & the harm that comes with that are weird to me & I don’t think that they view women in a healthy way.
@crystalcastillo7575
Жыл бұрын
It always bothered me how people always mock the parent that stayed and never the one who left 👀😑
@ManicMaidenASMR
Жыл бұрын
This is a very sensitive topic for me as my father was and still is very abusive towards me and my family. He neglected me since I was 5 years old. Because of this I used to cling to older men as I grew up and became fearful of guys. I dress goth and have a couple of mental illness and people always make fun of me and sexualize me. The worst is the sexualization because I’m a goth girl people automatically believe I’m a caricature of this sex doll thanks to the “big titty goth girl” cringe trend. I’m also black so I hate how I’m also a statistic too. I feel like I was cheated by life somehow and how much better my life would have been if I had a father figure in it. My mom is also extremely hard working and is the reason for my independent spirit, but I hate when single mothers get ridiculed when the father is the POS not them. Anyways now that I’m starting to do better in life he suddenly remembered me and guilt tripped me to forgive him. and said I have to forgive him since I’m a “Christian and God forgives”. I used to cry at night thinking something was wrong with me, as if I didn’t deserve love and now I cry from relief. now he’s getting old, and he lost his vision in one eye and he’s lonely. Good. Karma got him. I hope he rots.
@sarahh_99
Жыл бұрын
It's sad because there are people literally *on this platform* who devalue Cassie. I saw one person sum up her trauma as "white tears," with little analysis to be had. Now, I'm not excusing Cassie for being a bit horrible at times, but still, I think people are failing to see the actual problem.
@ladyredl3210
Жыл бұрын
Maybe instead of blaming women for their “daddy issues” we could take men to task for not being fathers, and women for not being good mothers. Such things could be resolved if parents were better and more responsible.
@razaaurelie3692
3 ай бұрын
There's one thing that I never understood: why having daddy issues (and to be honest, I resent this term : I have issues that my father left me with) is normalized. I mean, we are girls, human beings with values. I'm seeking the solution in a father that is half-*ssed in being a dad and for what ? My isses aren't disappearing. I just implemant stuff so that it doesn't worsen everything. And I dream that, one day, it'll just quiet away.
@gaillewis5472
Жыл бұрын
These are characters written by men who crave women to exploit. Misogyny at its worst.
@witchingbrew3
Жыл бұрын
I appreciate the euphoria one because it felt less like a daddy issue and more the burden of beauty both the father and daughter share. I know people have their opinions on the show as a whole but I had never seen the background of a father that way. To note that a lot of his problems started out similar to her, that no one listened or took him seriously because he was incredibly handsome. It led to his vices but he loved his daughters dearly. I felt heartbroken for both him and cassie.
@zakiazoma1227
2 ай бұрын
I'm from Moroccan an Islamic country my mom living without husband I never asked her for my father I'm scared of the answer but I'm Su struggling with my type of relationship now I'm 20 and I refuse to have any relationship with boy's close to my age I can't even be interested to them I'm always looking for 30 40 50 year and I know it's gonna ruined my whole life Living without father make me feel I'm build different I'm not Muslim and this is another problem that makes all my friendship difficult and short I had a boy friend for the first time I 6 month ago he's 31 years And I called him daddy I was Su happy and feeling safe around him but he was in secret relationship with my best friend and now I'm alone again
@zuri-ji6cv
Жыл бұрын
🥺Please please please consider making a take of overprotective fathers 🙏
@thedoctor2808
Жыл бұрын
I think daddy issues is a term that can be applied equally to men as to women it's more of a catch all phrase For poor upbringing
@rejectionisprotection4448
Жыл бұрын
But it isn’t.
@علي-ش7ث8ب
Жыл бұрын
*I've always believed that It's Men's fault,I'm a man.*
@thereisnosanctuary6184
Жыл бұрын
I don't vilify anybody that is damaged because of their parents.
@lindildeev5721
Жыл бұрын
Something I don't understand at all: why do movies always feature girls with daddy issues and guys with mother issues? As if the opposite didn't exist?
@ericad8412
Жыл бұрын
I am the opposite. Good luck trying to get me to open up. Thanks Dad.
@scarletshield009
Жыл бұрын
What about mommy issues? Eminem lambasting everything his mom did. Here is another reference, Garden of Shadows by V.C Andrew's leading to the antagonists misogynistic views
@Missmagazinebura
Жыл бұрын
Yes that should be next video
@scarletshield009
Жыл бұрын
@@Missmagazinebura spoilers. The guy had a spoiled and promiscuous mom who left him and his rich dad and having double standards how women are sinful promiscuous things while he lusts after women. Basically its the trope, Sex is bad and I am horny
@jeffersonhassan4558
Жыл бұрын
I would love to watch a take on mommy issues on men
@winnermarshal
Жыл бұрын
is daddy issues only affect the woman? not only the man with father issues?
@M-WG
Жыл бұрын
I wonder the same thing. It has to be more sexism because women with mommy issues and men with daddy issues seems like it’s not “sexy” enough to laugh at or exploit.
@chrissiek8706
Жыл бұрын
Yeah, can fatherless sons have daddy issues?
@birdiewolf3497
Жыл бұрын
It effects everyone to be honest. And honestly everyone gets mocked except the father that abandons the family. But this channel is about media and its tropes. I don't know if I have seen a lot of media that does something similar in men. They are typically are afforded with more depth and complexity. Irl though? Mocked.
@axlrosesson6300
Жыл бұрын
I know we like to talk a lot about deadbeat dads but if we want to analyze the problem, we gotta look at all factors. For example, family court bias against fathers or toxic mothers alienating them making it difficult for good dad's to be involved. Another big issue is that fathers in todays culture are not valued the way they used to be in the last century. They're viewed as disposable ATM machines or sperm donors and are portrayed in sitcoms as idiots which I would argue doesn't encourage men to feel confident enough to be a present father.
@Opal5674
Жыл бұрын
And it got to the point where father were viewed that way for a reason because so many men walked out on their families people came to expect them to leave. low expectations are easily met. My family hasn't had a string beneficial man in it for 100 years at least and that's just as far back as I can track it.
@TheTrueWanderCat
Жыл бұрын
The quick answer: misogyny
@nestorsifuentesaguirre2722
Жыл бұрын
The real answer is scumbag human who should have died as a baby
@christinacatalano
Жыл бұрын
I think “issues” are unanimous, regardless of gender. That’s a good starting point.
@apieceoflife2732
Жыл бұрын
Euphoria doesn't mock daddy issues,it excuses Cassie's shitty behaviours with excuse of daddy issues.
@karawardlaw4090
Жыл бұрын
I absolutely agree with this!!!! It never felt mocking her but that it excuses her behavior!!!
@TP-nx7uf
9 ай бұрын
It´s kinda funny that men with mommy issues aren´t as mocked or sexualized, they are rather seen as victims while women with daddy issues are basically viewed as unstable sex toys.
@pc_hmk2204
Жыл бұрын
I guess most of times if we have toxic parents & haven't seen normalcy then we try to see how normal looks like in our surroundings. But mostly people with this issues are also introverts and don't have actually sources of outside world & only source is internet & movies. And obviously movies always shows men are strong, emotionaless & perfect. So thus, some this girls think that to have normal life they have to achieve men like in TV. This was atleast true atleast in my case. But now with lots of reading, watching video about self-therepy my perspective have changed too much. So obviously it is also important to understand problem created within ourselves from childhood. And only then we can work on it. Not all people are Fortunate enough & sometimes to find their perfect partner they jump from one partner to another. Which unhealthy for your as well as other person's sanity.
@Roseforthethorns
Жыл бұрын
I wonder how much of this trope is male writers projecting and furthering patriarchy and biases
@SentaiYamaneko
Жыл бұрын
Seriously? I always thought of 'daddy issues' as a way of blaming the father for being neglectful/abusive. There are seriously people who use that as an excuse to blame the victim?
@sharisemartinem
Жыл бұрын
It’s not ok. I’ve always said this.
@raquelsantiagoactriz9421
Жыл бұрын
Thanks!!!
@nonofyourbiz9921
5 ай бұрын
If women would get married for love, affection, sex, and companionship instead of "financial security". maybe the relationships would last, but organized religion is at the core of condemnation to increase their bottom line.
@cupcake5854
Жыл бұрын
12:00 Tiana was NOT fatherless. He died when she was young, but they had a very close relationship
@sapphic.flower
Жыл бұрын
I think Sidney Sweeney’s character is well written as an objectified girl she can’t overcome due to the men around her and her abandonment issues but it honestly fails when the director pretty clearly objectifies her as well. Like the second season made me hella uncomfortable and to me, not any better than other male-fantasy depictions of daddy issues.
@penelopeclearwater4454
Жыл бұрын
They wrote you that way!
@M.A.C.01
Жыл бұрын
Why do most daddy issues stories focus so much on woman? Guys can have daddy issues too.
@Silverswitch1
Жыл бұрын
No one cares about men having daddy issues.
@ladymary22
Жыл бұрын
You gotta wonder what made those Daddys like that
@BillLaBrie
Жыл бұрын
Far more men with mommy issues, really.
@Greyseabee
Жыл бұрын
Omg the commercials in this episode what a distraction it ruined the flow of the ideas they are trying to convey. KZitem how much do you need to be paid for advertising on one video ? Seriously, 5 commercial breaks in a 13 min video?
@subbinbacktoallsubbs5272
Жыл бұрын
Its assumed they can overcome this because most people cant overcome a to of stuff in life. One cant be in a relationship trying to fix someone elses life.
@miahuang2242
Жыл бұрын
Well isn’t it just rich that we as a society never blame the absent fathers yet find the audacity to mock single moms and girls with “daddy issues”.
@chiaraimpeduglia1308
Жыл бұрын
And at the same time people argue that children need a stable home with both a mother and a father. Make it make sense, damn it!
@blazeswithwolvez7221
Жыл бұрын
emotional Men are not rewarded. tiktok chicks are not writing essays on astrophysics.
@fmamamaba1460
Жыл бұрын
@@blazeswithwolvez7221 wtf r u even saying my guy
@Missmagazinebura
Жыл бұрын
My friends have daddy issues
@perfectallycromulent
Жыл бұрын
sure they do. there's plenty of media depictions of workaholic and/or abusive fathers ruining families. it's just that they're shows more oriented toward adults, and the abusive workaholics are often in high-prestige professions like doctor, lawyer, politician, rock star, athlete... it's wrapped up with the "power turns you into a narcissist" theme, but it's there.
@rvawildcardwolf2843
Жыл бұрын
The Disney one has a caveat. Tiana was not abandoned or neglected by her father, he passed away before she grew up. He was a loving and very active part of her early childhood. So Tiana's workaholic nature and obsession with her legacy project for her dad isn't out of neglect, but grief.
@hadbetterdays8118
Жыл бұрын
The one exception, sadly Tiana didn't fully learn her lesson from Mama Odi as she still thought working harder was going to make her father happier I mean she learned to value random people for more than just money but not working herself to an early grave
@dayofglory89
Жыл бұрын
Thank you for this comment! I thought the same thing.
@alim.9801
Жыл бұрын
Thank you, a very important thing to get wrong. I fear this channel is somewhat declining in quality
@nathfairy
Жыл бұрын
To be fair, most of the Disney girls weren't abandoned or neglected, actually. Most of them just lost one parent or both.
@silashurd3597
Жыл бұрын
Do people actually think that he left? HE DIED! To anyone who thinks otherwise have not seen the Fricking movie
@starrsmith3810
Жыл бұрын
Honestly Jenny from Forrest Gump didn’t need a relationship, she needed help.
@angelaholmes8888
Жыл бұрын
Yeah she totally needed help
@anveshnidumolu3679
Жыл бұрын
help was plenty done there by Mister gump, yet she still see him as idiot but not as real man. its tragic.
@starrsmith3810
Жыл бұрын
@@anveshnidumolu3679 Help as in professional help. I literally just said that she didn’t need a relationship in her current state, that’s including Forrest. We’ve seen how it worked out when she would go to Forrest in her current state, it’s backwards and forth and really not healthy for neither of them. It’s a lot smarter AND better to get help first before starting a relationship with someone when your ready.
@anveshnidumolu3679
Жыл бұрын
with your point I agree, wish the author had written more about her, than just vanish and death... with single apology with gump being so forgiving type. Rather we men are simple we just want our first crush to lead happy life. Tom Hank really played good role as Forrest Gump so did Miss Sally as Jenny. Let us appreicate the writer for keeping plot interesting and realistic. rather than fan sided biased, its rare nowadays.
@Ikaros23
Жыл бұрын
@@anveshnidumolu3679 Forest Gump was not a therapist. That is she needed professional help. It`s like if you break your leg, you need help from a doctor. Not from a friend. That is if your brain is broken from trauma you need therapy.
@MsDudette21
Жыл бұрын
Reminds me of a tweet that said "How did daddy issues become an insult to girls when its men who failed as fathers?". Love this video.
@hadbetterdays8118
Жыл бұрын
The reverse but somewhat a double standard is mommy issues for a man. Like I see it in certain show with men but when this does happen we find the man being a lot more disrespectful to women. Sadly this behavior gets a pass as it isn't that oversexulized but rather symapathisized
@MrEvldreamr
Жыл бұрын
Bc its the mother who picks the man to have kids with, thats why its equally the womans fault.
@MsDudette21
Жыл бұрын
@@MrEvldreamr it's not if the man decided to leave. Thats the man's fault. Ever take into consideration that a relationship is fine then later the guy dips for no reason? If u leave for whatever reason you're a terrible parent. Custody exists. U don't have to stay together but u can still be in their life. Unless it's one of those situations where the mom won't let him see the kid, the man is to blame. Not sure why it's so hard for ppl to admit men fuck up a lot too. Stop making excuses for shitty men
@Chris-rg6nm
Жыл бұрын
Because women think of themselves as the main character
@LoneWulf278
Жыл бұрын
@@MrEvldreamr I hear this being said a lot. The woman usually picks a man to be with her, not a man who wants to be a father. So they don’t expect to be left with the baby. Standards for a romantic relationship are completely different than standards for a family. So yeah, she chose a boyfriend. But that doesn’t mean she chose a deadbeat or absent dad for her kid. You wouldn’t be able to predict his ‘family material’ qualities unless you actually talk about children early on in the dating process (which very few people do).
@hendrixavery3988
Жыл бұрын
We laugh at the girl with daddy issues and at the single mother who stayed but never at the man who left.
@N.I.A23
Жыл бұрын
They're not his problem tho. He did his job (spreading his seeds) what happens next is on them not him. He has no reason to stay lmao.
@hojosconsal9913
Жыл бұрын
@@N.I.A23 gotta be trolling or otherwise you are dense as a brick wall lmfao
@N.I.A23
Жыл бұрын
@@hojosconsal9913 how am I dense? Cause I say the truth? Why should you be our problem??
@TunTheOfficial
Жыл бұрын
@@N.I.A23 this is what is wrong with the world. But the absent seed spreader has the nerve to come back and ask for a relationship when they're old and on their Deathbed
@N.I.A23
Жыл бұрын
@@TunTheOfficial at what scenario will we ever need your "help"? Lmao
@sophiacozzo8964
Жыл бұрын
As someone with real life "daddy issues" (a father that was always emotionaly distant), it did NOT made me sexy. It gave me anxiety, impostor syndrom, maladactve perfectionism and a tendency to neglect my on feeling to the point it got so bad I could only feel numbness for days. But I grew, with hekp of friends and therapy, but I am learning to unlearn those paterns. So if you are someone how use daddy issues as a short hand for a girl that is "fuckable, but not marrige material" and "to far gone too change", my most sincere fuck you. (Sorry for any bad spelling, english is not my first language)
@saunderczarsalazar7254
Жыл бұрын
Hi, Currently dating someone with “daddy issues”. it’s been really hard to deal with and I have been trying my best for this past year to help her deal with it. There has been a lot of growth I feel but it seems like deeper issues pop up and harder problems come up. As someone who has these issues. You got any advice?
@rightrightrightuhhuhuhhuh6516
Жыл бұрын
I think talking about this is great. Hey let's meet for drinks later, i'll be the guy in the knit sweater and pipe
@sapphic.flower
Жыл бұрын
Same! I was only able to see my dad sometimes and he was an alcoholic and my step dad was emotionally abusive. The idea daddy issues manifests in sexuality and no other way is just gross because I definitely didn’t go looking for comfort from older people (not shaming those who do, just that there’s something perverted going on when that’s how daddy issues are handled on screen). It just gave me trust issues and trauma, especially with men.
@sophiacozzo8964
Жыл бұрын
@@saunderczarsalazar7254 suggest them talk to a professional, that was whem I started to make more progress
@kellybeck4579
Жыл бұрын
From someone else with "daddy issues", same.
@burgeaccount
Жыл бұрын
What's also so weird about this is that there is clear evidence on the psychological damage boys and men suffer from when their dads abandon them. So many men have severe "daddy issues" but we don't talk about it that way, we talk about it as competitiveness, "anger management problems," or vague, poorly defined "mental health issues" which are then blamed on the mom who stayed or the girlfriend who tried to help.
@danimolusco
Жыл бұрын
I hope they make a video about this too
@proudatheist2042
Жыл бұрын
Excellent point. However, I am seeing more people say "oh, I bet that he didn't have a Dad in his life." So, more people are talking about the issues that boys/men can face growing up without a father.
@Chris-rg6nm
Жыл бұрын
Probably because that isn't sexy. Also no one cares about mens problems.
@burgeaccount
Жыл бұрын
@@Chris-rg6nm Bro I have no idea what you're talking about, at least 70% of movies and TV shows are still about mens problems
@VixxKong2
Жыл бұрын
It's too easy to say that the mom "stayed". Most divorce are initiated by women. That means most of the time it's the mom leaving, but she's leaving WITH the kids. The courts always give the kids to the mother anyways. It's too easy to call the dad a deadbeat when we all know our society doesn't tend to leave the kids with their fathers after a separation
@untitled1464
Жыл бұрын
As a mid 20s woman still trying to work through her childhood “daddy issues” it boils my blood that men assume this makes me more sexually promiscuous or “easy” when my childhood trauma has literally made me AVOID all kinds of intimacy, including sex.
@alinashirinian2485
Жыл бұрын
YES. I'm 23 and I'm the furthest from being hypersexual or eager to please men, just thinking about it makes me feel angry and sick! I've never even had a crush, never trusted anyone to be vulnerable with them. Ffs before I got in therapy I never cried in front of my MOM unless someone died. I have so much repressed anger for my father that I wasn't able to express until we lost our house because of his debt (in our culture you are not allowed to disobey your father or 'talk back' to him if you're a woman). I've been told that I deal with my childhood trauma 'like a man' (not in a good way) and I don't think I've ever seen this represented in media. Some of us girls are angry, emotionally distant wall-punchers too, dammit!
@MiniM69
Жыл бұрын
THANK YOU!!!!
@ladymunsonthemagnificent6929
Жыл бұрын
I can relate! Don't have a dad and most of the men I had in my life were shit, which made me emotionally distant and unimpressed by dating and relationships. Also, it just seems to me that being in a relationship is exhausting.
@Enoch610
Жыл бұрын
Hello there, 25 years old and nearly-alcoholic woman with general parent issues XD here. The older I got, the more I **hated** the mere idea of "trying" to be intimate with anyone. The older I got the less tolerant I was. It always felt so weird and unnatural to me. My longest relationship lasted for six months and month after month I felt even more detached from him than even in the very beggining of our first meeting. Every time it ended the same way. I loved this relief and actual happiness when it was all over. Today I don't even remember their names. We sometimes talked about sex, despite me being repulsed every time I imagined someone shoving his tool into me. I was **never** taking them seriously, never thought of them as my potential 'friends' or 'partners', whatever. It was soo wrong to me... still is. It's not even disgusting or 'dirty' to me, I just don't see myself as someone's fxck buddy. It would only be me with pain to deal with after, both mental and physical. At some point I had some kind of 'remorse' feeling for not being able to like these guys - but they probably didn't like me that much either; many, many people would consider me extremely boring, even autistic. I just know they would and I don't even mind. I'm actual, 3D version of this 'mommy/daddy issues' meme and I almost accepted things as they are. I've been in therapy for 3 years and I haven't move an inch towards 'normalcy', pills weren't much of a help either, so I gust gave up. I don't care if anyone thinks of me as a 'cheap wh0re' or some other deranged fool, I learned quite some time ago it's not my problem if I have 0 control over this. I'm not responsible for other's issues and insecurities, I have enough of my own already.... I don't have anything more to say to you. Wish you the best, friend. I have a feeling you're a good person.
@OzanaDivine
Жыл бұрын
@@alinashirinian2485 I'm 23 too and I feel the same. People assume having such issues makes everyone hyper sexualized but I'm actually celibate and have been for about 3 years. For personal reasons and because I have issues with intimacy. Sometimes I feel like I am on the spectrum of asexuality even.
@taylorgayhart9497
Жыл бұрын
As children we build something called “our core beliefs” it’s the subconscious view we have of ourselves, others, and the world. If you grow up dejected by one or both of your parents, often one of those core beliefs is that you are unworthy of love. It doesn’t matter if your a man or woman, or if it’s your mom or dad, your self worth is affected.
@angelaholmes8888
Жыл бұрын
Yeah sadly you are right
@user-yk5xu8gr1e
Жыл бұрын
Maybe it’s true? Otherwise y would our parents not loved us
@ThatGuy-tx4vm
4 ай бұрын
@@user-yk5xu8gr1emaybe it is the parent who was unworthy of love? Evil people exist.
@user-yk5xu8gr1e
4 ай бұрын
@@ThatGuy-tx4vm yes...I agree....some people are jerks just being a parent doesnt magically elevate them
@AutumnFS
Жыл бұрын
As a kid, my father wasn't absent, but I wished he was. He was full of rage he refused to control, and took sadistic delight in punishing his children for failing to be perfect. Abandonment is not the only way fathers can damage their daughters. As a result of his abuse, I longed for male companionship and validation from someone who WAS kind and loving, and became desperate and fell into exploitative relationships as a result.
@madinp1177
Жыл бұрын
are you me
@merry_christmas
Жыл бұрын
That's why it's not the absence of a parent that causes problems, but the absence of parent figures. I am extremely blessed to have been be raised by a loving mother (who's more a father figure tbh), but I deeply struggle with vulnerability and dependency in relationships. I've never had the example growing up. By no means do I intend to compare myself. I'm just contemplating the unfathomable impact of the relationships you witness during your formative years. I hope you're coping with and healing from the conscious and subconscious traumas brought upon you. Wishing you ease. ❤️
@CorderralLewis
Жыл бұрын
My partner also had a very present abusive father and was bombarded with how she should be grateful for her father simply because fatherlessness is common. Caused a lot of dissociation and difficulty for her in childhood, forcing doubt that the abuse was as bad as it was and a man that reproduced and is in the child's life is inherently a good thing. It's not.
@cristinarivera5707
Жыл бұрын
Autumn! You and I have led the same life. It truly attracts emotionally manipulative partners. Much love and healing!❤️
@noorie_noorie_
Жыл бұрын
We all deserve so much better. Wishing you the best fellow abuse survivor ❤
@EMunaBee
Жыл бұрын
New terms - "Daddy has issues." "Daddy is an issue." Perhaps the one leads to the other...
@carloszapata847
Жыл бұрын
Gendo Ikari from Neon Genesis Evangelion is both.
@taiyabazaheer9492
Жыл бұрын
When men have issues, their female partners are told to adjust and accept them. But when women have issues, they are again the ones to be told to adjust and compromise. No one should be with someone who's toxic, NO ONE but what's wrong if she wants him to be slightly more affectionate, more considerate and caring to help her feel validated that her father didn't help her feel.
@blazeswithwolvez7221
Жыл бұрын
do you know why? Women aren't the breadwinners, nor are they gonna build a home. You get me a diamond ring, get on your knee and ask me to marry you... you buy the car and the house, then...
@taiyabazaheer9492
Жыл бұрын
@@blazeswithwolvez7221 women are definitely breadwinners in many households including mine. Women can build houses as civil engineers and architects. Women definitely do special and romantic things for their men (sometimes even proposing to him) but sadly you'll never experience that because you're not a worthy man. You'll end up like those men on 90 Days Fiance who have never met their long distance gf from across the world and get scammed in the end.
@jacknelson927
Жыл бұрын
Both men and women are bad as each other but there are points in so many situations like custody buying the house by me dinner pay fir dinner and other stuff
@Ummmmmmmm841
Жыл бұрын
@@blazeswithwolvez7221 Soooo......relationship/marriage is basically a trade? One offers financial value and another offers themselves as a person in exchange? I thought relationships are suppose to be equal emotionally at least for both parties, leaving financial status or anything that's other than your relationship outside your relationship is what I've been taught lul.
@ajmerriman2230
Жыл бұрын
@@blazeswithwolvez7221 Uh-oh, looks like someone's got Mummy Issues...
@carrie2469
Жыл бұрын
Thank you for making a video about this. I remember a few years back it started getting used as a common phrase, both from men and women, and I remember thinking it was such a derogatory term. As someone who endured years of all kinds of abuse from my narcissistic father, I think it is absolutely disgusting how women are demonised for having trauma responses, mental health difficulties and struggles in adulthood as a result of their fathers. It’s never the men that are demonised, but the women who have suffered in their hands.
@loverrlee
Жыл бұрын
THIS 😭😭😭
@amyadams9970
Жыл бұрын
Cassie in season two was a cry for help, honestly feel sad for her rather than anger towards her
@MB-nb7yq
Жыл бұрын
Cassie definitely needs help. 😢
@elatafalando
Жыл бұрын
I hate when audience are hateful towards Cassie and feel empathy for Zendaya's character considering both suffers from the same pain but deal in diferent ways.
@tiamarrow6366
Жыл бұрын
Exactly! Like while yes Cassie was wrong for what she did, Nate was also in the wrong and he knew it was wrong to. Everyone solely bashed Cassie but because the whole “boyfriend/ex boyfriend hooks up with girlfriend/ex girlfriend’s best friend” is normalized…..nobody though to attack him just as much, all the hate was geared towards Cassie and that just shows how misogynistic and sexist our society is. Let’s also not forget how many girls bashed Cassie and didn’t bat an eye at Nate….that tells me that those are the type of girls who would end up in a Maddy/Nate/Cassie situation, but wouldn’t care at all until they get hurt to.
@gracetaylorsversion294
Жыл бұрын
this is honestly something that needs to be more talked about. it’s not something to be romanticized or jokes about and having abandonment issues is a serious problem so many ppl go thro.
@rene3759
Жыл бұрын
@@jaysensei0 abandonment is always an issue time period doesn't matter. even if something is normal or a lot of people experience it doesn't mean it should be ignored or people shouldn't be receiving help. normalized doesn't mean healthy.
@not-a-ghost2206
Жыл бұрын
That's because abandonment is treated lightly because this society as its whole abandoned its members. So If we were to treat that childhood wound we would heal. But we are much better influenced by capitalism, if broken. If I hear one more time that trauma only refers to big events I'm gonna scream. Trauma is what you didn't get and that can be different for everyone. Sooner sibling can be completely fine and the other has a playe of trauma cause their needs weren't met.
@MrEvldreamr
Жыл бұрын
Yea but its the parents fault (mostly the mothers) for picking the very same men they then complain abt. You cant say "absentee fathers aint shit" while looking at divorce alstats and realizing women leave men, not the other way around. So 80% of the time it IS THE MOTHERS FAULT she fucked and then abandoned the man she had kids with.
@ThatGuy-tx4vm
4 ай бұрын
Well society simply does not care. Incels are the same. Not the psycho sect, but the literal definition of incel... The virgins of the world. They feel as abandoned as they come, yet they are immediately sidelined. Guys with mommy issues. Girls with daddy issues etc. In 2024 we live and die alone it seems... Or at least we have to accept the possibility that we will live alone... If we meet someone that truly cares then it is just a bonus.
@Jivi_Galaxy
Жыл бұрын
The reason woman who have daddy issue might end up being s£xually assaulted or having multiple s£xual partner is because people use them for s£x , those people only show any love or care to these woman is when she fullfill his s£xual desire. People don't realise how serious this is. I'm survivor of child sexual abuse(by both female and male), grooming, mother wound, father wound,s£lf-harm, bullying by teachers and classmate, online sexual abuse, anxiety issues, suicidal thoughts since i was barely 10, symptoms of Dissociative disorders. One thing related to another and so on. Nobody to help. Everyone simply enjoying, taking advantage, mocking,and some even try but they don't know how to help.
@angelaholmes8888
Жыл бұрын
I'm sorry that you went through that
@Sishel
Жыл бұрын
I am so sorry you went through all of this. I relate in many of your points, it’s so unbelievably painful and lonely. But you’re a survivor and a warrior. You’re not alone. Hug yourself everyday, tell yourself you are enough, just the way you are. Do something everyday that brings you joy and fuck everything else.
@moona3206
Жыл бұрын
It happens because we don't held abusers accountable...it's easier to make fun of the victim for having " daddy issues "
@N.I.A23
Жыл бұрын
You obviously did something wrong. We only abuse you when you have it coming.
@Jivi_Galaxy
Жыл бұрын
@@Sishel ❤️❤️
@erylaria398
Жыл бұрын
My daddy issues (emotionally distant father, overbearing, authoritative grandfather who demanded perfection and ambition for affection) lead to many, many abusive relationships with older men (i started dating men in their 20s when i was 15ish) and a debilitating need for male approval. To this day, i just want a male authority figure to pat my head and tell me I'm doing well. I am 32 years old. Plus, it's part of my sexuality. Apparently. So that's... a reality i have to live with. And people find it SOOOO funny. But on the inside, when the lights are off, emotionally, i am an abandoned 12 year old girl. It's not a joke, it's annoying and embarrassing.
@iridescentraindrops
Жыл бұрын
Girl, see a therapist. My father was also always never there, but you should recognize how predators act after being with even one, try to find the opposite personality.
@billcipher2893
Жыл бұрын
There's nothing to be embarrassed of, it's just biology. I hope you find healing. Wish you the best.
@mejuliie
Жыл бұрын
First of, as someone with daddy- and mommy-issues, therapy can help with a lot of the feelings you perceive and struggle with. I've been in therapy for over 5 years, and it has completely changed the way I think. Plus, it has helped confront a lot of the issues that came from emotionally unavailable, and emotionally abusive parents. Secondly, your sexuality is nothing to be ashamed of! Craving to be with a loving, respectful, dominant partner is nothing wrong, because even if a scene may not reflect that - the overall relationship will/should do. There are a lot of abusive people who use the dom/sub sexual dynamic to pray on vulnerable people, so you have to be careful. But there are just as many people who understand that communication, respect, understanding and valuing your partner is important. It also can be a health and fulfilling relationship dynamic (does not have to be sexual). It also teaches you that communication is key, and that you are valued for who you are (including that 12 year old girl that wants love and affection). And it can also help heal some of our wounds and help re-learn/re-evaluate unhealthy patterns and relationships. So really nothing to be ashamed of!! :)
@johnhenry4844
Жыл бұрын
I bet you’re bodycount is insane woman 😂
@lousdinovembre
Жыл бұрын
You need a therapist! There’s so many open wounds that need a band aid. Hope you find peace in the midst of your turmoils. Men aren’t all that! Once you start loving yourself you’ll realize that you don’t need a man to feel complete or happy. We’re already born to be self-sufficient. It’s not too late to make peace with your past and show some love to your 12 year old self. Deep down she’s screaming begging for attention and love. You are the only one that can protect and love her at this point, no one else but you. Stop neglecting her and start showing up for her Hope you find your worth ❤
@burgeaccount
Жыл бұрын
The best examination of this (better than Euphoria) is in Crazy Ex Girlfriend, because it doesn't sexualize the protagonist for daddy issues, it really gets into exactly how it has affected her and how she works on healing herself
@kb_100
Жыл бұрын
The label "crazy" applied to women is even more pernicious than the label of "daddy issues". Firstly, it's such a lazy catch-all adjective that is almost meaningless. But more importantly it is used to completely minimize and diminish a person's opinions and expression of those feelings.
@burgeaccount
Жыл бұрын
@@kb_100 Yes indeed. Have you watched the show?
@kb_100
Жыл бұрын
@@burgeaccount no I don't get HBO. But this video has made me interested in seeing it.
@justjoannak
3 ай бұрын
@@kb_100 That show was originally on the CW so I believe it's on the CW Seed
@PrettyPrincess9609
Жыл бұрын
Thank you for making this video. I remember commenting how I would love for you to make a “ daddy issues trope “ video. As someone who grew up without a father, I was blamed for having “ daddy issues “. Instead of blaming the father who chose to left , they often blame the children who are the victims. Also as someone who was SA’d and blackmailed, I partly blame my father for not being around. I was looking for love that my father didn’t provide and I ended up being used and taken advantage of. I still resent my father for not being there.
@kamsismith
Жыл бұрын
I'm sorry you had to deal with that.
@yashaswinikrishnan1878
Жыл бұрын
im really sorry. you're brave to talk about it, hope talking about it more makes you feel better, it did for me 🤍
@zero1188
Жыл бұрын
Yes the father left but how you react to it is within your control
@yashaswinikrishnan1878
Жыл бұрын
@@zero1188 sometimes it's not
@savibang4412
Жыл бұрын
So if a child grows up with mommy issues because they were sent to the foster system. is the biological mother to blame for how that child ends up?
@kayleighdriessen
Жыл бұрын
Daddy and mommy issues alike are not to be romanticised or turned into some sick joke, I still feel bad for anyone mocked for these issues even if I never really got that treatment or have been 'abandoned' myself. My parents were divorced when I was barely 2 years old so I didn't really know better at the time what was going on and why my parents didn't live together with me and while my dad moved out and I only saw him few times in a week my mother married again with a narcissist shortly after divorce who did actively abused me and my mother and let's just say both my mom and dad had their own reasons why in some cases I grew up with emotionally absent parents so I mostly found comfort and safety within my own creative hobbies and seeking support from close teachers, maybe they could have ended up worse if they still stayed in a relationship in which they fell out of love and sticked around for me so I'm not holding anything against them.
@cheryl5667
Жыл бұрын
It's so deeply heartbreaking that men do this to us.
@magnisky
Жыл бұрын
It is really too sad.
@cheryl5667
Жыл бұрын
Abandon/abuse, sexually exploit, and then further abuse due to our vulnerability to said sexual abuse, exploitation and degradation for what they clearly understand as low self-esteem.
@ahabalheis2478
Жыл бұрын
Why are you generalizing when men suffer from that as well and from women with issues? Do you think women are the only ones born into families? Or the man who left is exactly like a another who's only similarity is that they share male genitalia?
@cheryl5667
Жыл бұрын
@@ahabalheis2478 men choose to leave and shame women for their fathers being shitty or out of the picture. if men wanted to stop they would. it's a men's issue. Women are allowed to acknowledge this and shame on you for trying to get us to stop because you're fucking offended.
@ahabalheis2478
Жыл бұрын
I'm not gonna let you demonize a sex and exonerate another, it's fucked up to abandon your family for any sex and men and women should deal with their issues that could stem from anything, I'm honestly on your side I just want everyone accountable
@SoniaSephia
Жыл бұрын
The social reminds me of creepy way how some Hollywood tropes would view a girl with daddy issues as a fetish, because that meant that she is "easy."
@leilamaach5229
Жыл бұрын
Why is anybody talking about Lexi from Euphoria? At the end of season 2 we clearly see she is also deeply affected by her father's abandonment. She was a good example on how many girls are still traumatised by this, and had to face other problems that don't mean ending up being promiscous or sexualised. Developing more a character like this could show other ways on how young girls deal with this trauma.
@steamyvegetables1445
Жыл бұрын
I related to Lexi so much. As my sister is like Cassie, very promiscuous and gets into toxic relationships with guys. She also does drugs and have angry outbursts over little things. We both have "daddy issues" but deal with them differently. I struggle with anxiety and possibly another mental health issues. I display similar behaviour as Lexi, just being quiet in the background and observing others not saying anything. And I do enjoy the arts and wanting to write a book/novel, liking fanfics and interpretations to shows, anime etc. similar to Lexi's play.
@tiamarrow6366
Жыл бұрын
While Lexi also suffered from their dad’s abandonment….they way she opened up about it wasn’t that great, especially with her play…..she was wrong for that. She didn’t seem to get permission from any of her friends to do it, and then when Cassie confronted her for only doing the play as a way to humiliate and embarrass all of them, Lexi tried to deny it…..but she literally had all of the characters in her play portraying her friends doing the same shit that we saw from all of them in Season 1, with similar names….it couldn’t have been any more obvious that she was making a play about them, the only difference is that with her friends…she was just describing them and what they’ve gone through in their lives……with Cassie, she fully shamed and made fun of her all because Cassie has big boobs, but was constantly being sexualized by those around her, including their mom or was feeling insecure about herself which is completely normal but “shallow” and “stuck up” in Lexi’s eyes. Lexi basically made the play to vent about how insecure and non empathetic she is. What’s worse is that she didn’t even fully go into detail about how traumatized she was from her father leaving the family……there was small parts here and there, but it was mostly about everyone else. While Lexi did definitely experience some type of trauma…..the way she expressed it wasn’t that good. There should’ve been an episode where they could’ve done an intervention with Cassie, Lexi, and Suze…..for them to open up about their emotions and solve the problem, no yelling, no shaming, no craziness.
@Technique1995
Жыл бұрын
"The fundamental truth that there is nothing we can do that can make someone love us."
@gcavenaugh
Жыл бұрын
I kept waiting for the video to make this point: one reason that women with "daddy issues" are presumed to be fatally incapable of addressing their issues is that our culture assumes that "having a strong man in your life" is absolutely essential for a woman to feel complete.
@marslara
Жыл бұрын
I never really understood "daddy" issues tbh... I was always under the impression that it's really just general neglect or bad parental relationships from either side regardless of the gender.
@Lwoods1717
Жыл бұрын
The problem with having a bad parent is that the other parent will ALSO be affected and need help her/himself. An absent father is more likely to mean an absent mom because she might be working overtime to support the family, or is out looking for other men, or is traumatized and depressed from the abandonment herself. In this situation, the child has essentially no strong supportive figure and is left all alone.
@dos.2168
Жыл бұрын
@@Lwoods1717 this.
@Peecamarke
Жыл бұрын
Wow, thank you for saying this, this was very illuminating. The mere concept of daddy issues being gendered and heteronormative. We should be addressing general parental neglect instead of saying it’s a mother/father issue 🤔
@moona3206
Жыл бұрын
@@Peecamarke It's gendered because of how its unfortunatly sexualised I think.
@EH012
Жыл бұрын
Loved this video - I'd actually like to see a male counterpart Take as well. For once the derailers in the comments bring up as interesting topic - men have daddy issues too, and they show up in different ways, that make them likely to be perpetrators rather than victims. Sometimes it's toxic and performative masculinity and treating women as conquests or objects, or becoming ruthless and unethical in business, or (most benignly) workaholics, to emulate and win the approval of a father figure. Sometimes the men taking advantage of women with daddy issues have them, too. Funny how patriarchal male culture is at the root of BOTH, huh?
@Peecamarke
Жыл бұрын
THIS!
@Movieslurge2
Жыл бұрын
Cassie is written and treated just as badly as Marilyn was in Blonde- especially in Season Two. Levinson literally gets off on humiliating her.
@bayoumuddah
Жыл бұрын
That's because there are women like her. Plenty of that sleep with best friends boyfriends and are heaux.
@Tulpen23
Жыл бұрын
Learning about attachment styles and their origins (familial neglect and emotional abuse) not only illuminated why I kept falling into the same dysfunctional relationship patterns, it completely changed my life, and might have even saved it.
@Lwoods1717
Жыл бұрын
Thank you for mentioning this. I shall look it up. I recently cut out all negative men from my life and am working on rebuilding myself.
@naveerarizwan5329
Жыл бұрын
The best example of a girl w daddy issues where it isn’t fetishised or demonised is Annabeth Chase from Percy Jackson. It genuinely shows her abondonment issues and she’s naver blamed for her father being an absentee.
@NellyNutmeg
Жыл бұрын
It's gross how people hate on Jenny from Forrest Gump
@carloszapata847
Жыл бұрын
People criticize her for not paying attention to Forrest's feelings towards her, but we must remember something: Forrest's mental disorder. I think the reason Jenny is so reluctant to romance Forrest is probably because she is afraid that by doing so she would be taking advantage of someone with a disability.
@steamyvegetables1445
Жыл бұрын
Yeah and it was HEAVILY IMPLIED that her Dad s**ually abused both her and her sister.
@austincde
Жыл бұрын
I'm really new to this phenomenon, it's not that Forrest is a "nice guy" but every jenny h8r seems to think he's unable to fully consent to being in a relationship?
@rithvikmuthyalapati9754
Жыл бұрын
People hate her because she treated Forrest like a dumb person and was a terrible friend to him. He did so much for her and she took it for granted.
@mirandusdaniel
Жыл бұрын
Cassie deserved so much better. She was the character I empathized with the most off Euphoria. I love her. 💕
@bayoumuddah
Жыл бұрын
She slept with her best friends boyfriend.
@alisiademi
Жыл бұрын
I grew up with a verbally and mentally abusive dad and ended up in either an abusive relationship or chasing guys who didn't want to see me past 1 or 2 hookups. Thank goodness I found meditation, spirituality, knowledge on narcissistic abuse, and read the book "Attached" on attachment style! I gradually healed and reprogrammed myself over a few years. The anxiety and self loathing of revolving my life around getting guys to like me was not a life I would wish on anyone. Healing is possible though. Self-compassion is also a great book. Taking shrooms also helped me
@user-yk5xu8gr1e
Жыл бұрын
I always feel maybe it’s because we weren’t pretty girls and so were not much appreciated by our dads….because I have rarely seen a pretty girl (who is born beautiful) having daddy issues it’s always the plain looking ones….
@Jivi_Galaxy
Жыл бұрын
0:32 interested in older men because they have wounded inner child. They are looking for love, protection and safty which they never received. Sometimes they aren't interested in the person but the support and safety they can give.
@naveerarizwan5329
Жыл бұрын
Me and my sister have severe Daddy issues. Our dad didn’t leave he stayed and abused us, he was narcissistic and controlling and a lot of it came from the fact that he himself has mommy issues. He never got love and approval from his own mother and was abused by her. He grew up very poor in Pakistan so when he finally came to Australia and started making money from being a doctor he became abusive and narcissistic in order to prove himself to his parents. And started becoming just like them. Just like Cassie’s father he was very loving when we were younger but started having episodes as we got older. It was terrible. My older sister ran away in march and he finally slowly started to realise what how terrible he’d been (my mum too) and he slowly started to get better. But I can’t say that all the effects if his abuse haven’t gone away.
@rebeccaforbes9624
Жыл бұрын
I’m so sorry is your sister safe? Do you have any contact with her?
@naveerarizwan5329
Жыл бұрын
@@rebeccaforbes9624 yeah she actually moved back a few months ago. Things are definitely better.
@lu-themadpillow2985
Жыл бұрын
Fathers who abandon daughters or don’t care for them are so incredibly ridiculous and not to be taken seriously as partners.
@Doidao-xx5vf
Жыл бұрын
Have you ever thought about the fact that maybe the mother pushed them away and expelled him from the family?
@isabella6075
Жыл бұрын
@@Doidao-xx5vf Nothing should take you away from you own child!! No one!!
@Doidao-xx5vf
Жыл бұрын
@@isabella6075 well the law can. It’s not always the fathers fault. If women took accountability for their actions society would realize this but they don’t. Ppl always act like it’s the mans fault 100% of the time.
@isabella6075
Жыл бұрын
@@Doidao-xx5vf Yet who created that system oh wait males did. Remember the gender roles they placed on women it’s backfiring against them. You deflected blamed women for a system your gender created. Seem like males don’t take accountability for their own actions!!
@Doidao-xx5vf
Жыл бұрын
@@isabella6075 regardless of who created it or not women need to take accountability of their actions same as men so situations like this don’t occur.
@BabaJaga
Жыл бұрын
I would love to see a second part with men’s daddy issues, cause they also have them when their fathers are absent but there is literally no representation or calling out in media.
@isbalella
Жыл бұрын
Idk how it is where you live, but every time there's a school shooting or other crime committed by a male there's mention of single parent households (almost always mothers) or growing up without fathers contributing to this. I don't think anyone is unaware of the negative effects growing up without a father figure affects children of all genders, but girls and women are by far more likely to be blamed and mocked for having daddy issues.
@BabaJaga
Жыл бұрын
@@isbalella First outside the US are way less school shootings, so this might be a factor, yes. Secondly I am talking about entertainment media, like the movies that were talked about in this video. I can name you dozens of movies with girls having daddy issues and being blamed for it, but close to none where the same thing can be said about male figures. For example INCELs and MRAs are mostly abondoned by their parents, the majority being fathers, cause they are mostly to leave.
@beebomouse
Жыл бұрын
Not true - Boy Meets World deals with this
@BabaJaga
Жыл бұрын
@@beebomouse Exactly what I said, so it is true
@beebomouse
Жыл бұрын
@@BabaJaga 'no representation or calling out in media' were your words, I provided example, so no, not true that there are no representations 😂
@chihirokai9530
Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for making this video. Having a complicated relationship with my parents, especially my father, led to years of me prioritizing acceptance and validation regardless of personal preference with male friends in school. I also have a horrible habit of forgiving and keeping men in my life who were manipulative, broken in their own right, or downright sexist. You want to please men and you also hate them. You feel like you can’t trust a male romantic partner too much and at the same time you’re terrified of abandonment. And this video is so educational, even for me! To deprogram my own inherent misogyny that I developed in my misguided desire to be loved and accepted and non threatening to men of all ages.
@BioshadowX
Жыл бұрын
At least we have the Disney orphans to look up to
@JinxSanity
Жыл бұрын
It evens get more disturbing when used as a sexual kink, like in Bad Boys 2 where Will's psychiatrist ends up having sex with him and her casually saying "Daddy" suddenly makes Will's character turn the tables on her and suddenly she's now his patient, therefore mocking her status as a female psychiatrist. Then again she's dressed in a very sexy outfit and in a Michael Bay movie so this atrocious cringey scene was expected.
@inicole47
Жыл бұрын
The fact that it’s a Micheal Bay film says everything…not surprised
@mejuliie
Жыл бұрын
That's honestly disgusting. As it not only trivializes the real emotional issues, but also a valid sexual dynamic - basically over-sexualizing both. If looking at a dom/sub relationship, there is always respect and kindness involved. Lots of communication, boundary setting, and making sure the sub as well as the dom are okay with what is happening. Even if it may seem to an outsider like the dom doesn't take their little serious or mocks them - it's part on a mutually agreed on dynamic. A dominant will always make sure that their sub will feel respected, valued, and understood. Unfortunately, it has been fetishized and misrepresented more and more in recent years. Many people don't understand that, done right, it can be a healthy, positive dynamic. That lack of knowledge can often lead someone vulnerable into an abusive relationship.
@truth-uncensored2426
Жыл бұрын
You guys are overthink this too much
@PokhrajRoy.
Жыл бұрын
This Video Essay made me realise that a lot of Queer Stories are tragedies but they rarely ever mention the ugliness of familial issues or the parent issues. We need more of that in mainstream media.
@ayanna6327
Жыл бұрын
There is a whole spectrum of daddy issues and Hollywood mainly focuses on the one that is most palatable to men. There is a whole other side of the spectrum that is the opposite. My daddy issues made me actively hate men years and want nothing to do with them.
@luvburden5743
Жыл бұрын
Same. My dad exists in so many men, behavior wise. That's why I hate them so much. I see him in alot of men.
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