Never check reviews for mental hospital, jail, or anywhere where the customer don't want to be there. What does a good review of a mental hospital even look like?
@125hana
2 жыл бұрын
Yep, good point!
@brandyk
2 ай бұрын
I actually wrote a very nice letter to several staff people in one. It happens but also what does the review actually say. That makes a difference
@rkworth1
2 ай бұрын
this ladie's daughter sounds like our situation. our daughter had years of depression, and took her life at 16. the hospitals and care centers were generally terrible. (she was hospitalized multiple times before she took her life). anyway - i hope things are going better for you. and i hope that it does not end up like our situation. the only thing that gives me peace, is that she is at peace now.
@brandyk
2 ай бұрын
I'm so so sorry. What a horror. Obviously it is not necessarily the cause of these psych hospitals n you are not saying that but John really not doing this woman any favors by telling her not to read the reviews n that somehow it's just angry parents blaming them n not liking that they got a bill. I'm sure there's a little of that in the same way someone may be unfair in reviewing a restaurant online n so many relatively unimportant experiences but many of these places are horrible or simply not worth the money n risk. No offense to this woman but why is she in counseling with someone they think is great n this is still the result n even if it wasn't still needing therapy for 10 years. Why exactly. They are likely not making the most of these sessions. The therapist will be happy to drag it out. Are Mom n Dad not doing their own heavy lifting re parental guilt etc n their own childhoods n relationships.?
@blueStarKitt7924
9 күн бұрын
Sorry about what you went through. May you heal and find peace.😔🙏❤️
@jennysjourney02
2 жыл бұрын
My husband and I went through this with our daughter three years ago but didn't have a choice of where to send her. We were told what was going to happen and that was it, we didn't have a say in her care. The hospital picked any place that had room which ended up being over an hour away. The place also had bad reviews but I think they did a wonderful job communicating with us and was happy with her care. I was survival mode too, it felt like I was in a dream and didn't feel real. I didn't grieve till much later when she was home. I'm grateful it was before Covid, that would make it so much more difficult. She is doing really good now but unfortunately two of her friends succeeded at taking their lives a year later and one month apart from each other. They were so young. It's a real issue with teens. My heart breaks for this mother and for her daughter. I remember going through it like it was yesterday. (Hugs)
@mariahconklin4150
Жыл бұрын
Professionals are so bad at their job to. When I tried to take my own life it was with alcohol and the Dr said, "Oh that's not a suicidal attempt." What an idiot. I don't even bother anymore it's useless. Always told I was too much or it's BPD. BPD BPD. So sick and tired of hearing so bs excuse that's the disorder all woman get diagnosed with which I've heard they have to put a diagnosis for insurance reasons but if they keep diagnosing people with that and not ADHD and or autism they aren't going to help them. I've told them MANY TIMES I was diagnosed with Auditory Processing Disorder and that my family members have some sort of disability most a sensory processing disorder or ADHD and nothing they don't care. I just read a response on an autistic youtube where some guy said he finally snapped and tried to strangle his therapist because he wasn't being heard. How long are they going to continue to give us these bs diagnoses and not listen? I'm tired of it. Then when people do listen and see if they need help or I need help I just walk away because I trust no one. Why is it that I am calling daily to get help and no one calls back? They don't care they are just there for the money. It's pathetic. The mental health field needs to be changed. Then if you throw $500 in their face each session (like my step mom did) it's just another attempt for them to manipulate and keep me there forever..."Oh I want to wait to see what you have..." I told my ex this and he said, "Yes it's just an attempt for them to get more money. So yes if you aren't rich like Miley Cyrus you can't get the help you need it's pathetic.
@sophiewillett2466
2 жыл бұрын
Dr John it's so lovely to see someone who deals with these issues, wonderfully, sensitively and with good advice and good humour. I learn a lot listening to you. Thanks for a great podcast and some positivity and light in the darkness.
@dhrh0500
2 жыл бұрын
I was appalled at how hard it was to get help when we went through this with one of our children. I was in major momma bear mode, and was able to fight for services. I cannot imagine having to put up such a fight while you yourself are going through something like this.
@mariahconklin4150
Жыл бұрын
It's still hard Danita it really is. I've been asking for help sense forever and I'm 38. I'm tired of it. So I just listen to these videos and try to help myself. I'm just angry and annoyed at this point. Plus I've asked for help like a counselor and it was, "Oh all counselors aren't available they are all booked up." So I hope people are happy when suicide rates keep going up, more people are in rehab, and more people are homeless. Pathetic. We need help to not more psych meds and or Disneyland spending it's pathetic. Capitalism though makes sense and hospitals love psychotic kids right?
@rnt45t1
2 жыл бұрын
I almost lost my brother twice in our teens. Now he's a police office, best shape of his life, and has a lovely wife and a little daughter. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. Life ALWAYS gets better.
@JennaMonsoon8
2 жыл бұрын
I’m so glad to hear that! Glad he is still here with us!
@briannaquiroz1011
2 жыл бұрын
how about when a person suffers deep depression from a medical condition with absolutely no cure? is suicide a permanent solution to a temporary problem then?
@rnt45t1
2 жыл бұрын
@@briannaquiroz1011 I am morally against taking your own life, no matter the circumstances.
@stellarocquie7957
2 жыл бұрын
@@briannaquiroz1011 My thoughts exactly. You beat me to it.
@stellarocquie7957
2 жыл бұрын
@@rnt45t1 But YOU cannot take someone else's inventory.
@MT-un5xq
2 жыл бұрын
We have just gone thru this with our son... Who went from a bright vibrant A student Jr year (34 on the ACT) to nearly failing senior year. Online school and ADHD do not go together. However our principal and school counselor and related resources came alongside us and helped us navigate this, I am so grateful. He is not out of the woods yet, took a gap year, just started a new job, hoping he can regain some of his zest for life (was always so exuberant!).
@markratigliano7511
2 жыл бұрын
Smart phones did this to many
@mattbickford2640
2 жыл бұрын
idk why but i was listening to this earlier this morning just with the part where john was talking about having a letter of those telling her that they miss her and why they love her or all the good memories, i about broke in tears, i didnt think that i had an issue with this but man i am feeling some unresolved stuff while listening to this part of the podcast earlier today, i wish the best for the family, i was almost in tears the whole time, super happy to know she is wanting help tho
@mariahconklin4150
Жыл бұрын
Exactly. And the most kindest of people do that but others can't? It's pathetic. I watched as three grown men could buy a bunch of food at 711 but they can't help the homeless lady that's just sitting there? It's pathetic. Don't worry I'll do something. Pathetic no one cares they would rather go to Disneyland and spend 3,000 dollars then help anyone because they are selfish. And those that do help the homeless need to get something out of it...oh lets video the homeless on Tik Tok that way I can get money to. It's seriously a pathetic world we live in I'm so over it and it's just going to get worse.
@two_seconds_too_late3307
2 жыл бұрын
This really hits home for me personally. I was in an eerily similar situation a few years ago, except I was in her daughter’s shoes. The letter writing idea is brilliant. It would have helped me so much to have something like that back then.
@starlingswallow
2 жыл бұрын
I'm glad you are still here ♥️
@flamingmonferno
2 жыл бұрын
My heart breaks for this family it’s really does. Sometimes I experience suicidal thoughts and it’s not fun. But I am constantly reminded every day that I am in Christ Jesus and that I am His. Psalm 23, Jeremiah 29:11, and Isaiah 41:10 just a few verses. I pray this family can find some good sound spiritual guidance as well as getting the proper mental/medical help this young lady needs. This family will be in my prayers for sure.
@droptozro
2 жыл бұрын
Uh... better be cops at this place stopping me because if you quarantined my own child after they attempted suicide and said I couldn't visit you're gonna have major problems at that mental hospital.
@markbrown5117
2 жыл бұрын
The mother is blaming everyone but herself and the dad
@zone453
2 жыл бұрын
I don't understand Delony saying he doesn't want to place blame when he brings up the divorce. Regardless of what happened between the two them splitting up was probably the catalyst to her being this way.
@Anotherhumanexisting
8 күн бұрын
Imo the seeds of having SI are usually planted even before we are even born. And even more in the first few years of life by unequipped parents…
@ritamerringer2173
2 жыл бұрын
Wow Dr John you can’t say “that’s a whole another show” and not have that show! I for one wanna hear that show! Please and 😊! I love you and your show .. kudos! You are greAt at this and I wish you were my counselor. I am looking for one ☝️😂
@freezinginhere
2 жыл бұрын
There is a children's book called Life by Cynthia Rylant. It is beautifully illustrated and the story is wonderful. It comes to mind right now. I highly recommend it to anyone struggling.
@carlamarlene2927
4 ай бұрын
A good friend of mine had 2 kids with 2 friends of mine, and then 2 girls with a woman that abandoned them all. We go way back. His youngest daughter just died today after her kidneys and liver ceased working after she took a bunch of Benadryl and chased it with antifreeze. My heart breaks for him and all of the families. What is going on with these kids?
@barecasts9114
2 жыл бұрын
How many points does this episode score on the PopPsych Delony Show Scorecard? All points worth 1, extra credit worth 1. [ ] Greet the caller with an awkward joke. Extra credit if the joke is related to the caller's location or references an on-air segment between him and the booth. [ ] Despite knowing the caller's situation beforehand, still ask them how they are doing as if you just ran into them at a bar. Only counts if the call is tragic in nature. [ ] Cut the caller off almost as soon as they start introducing their problem. [ ] "Taking a minute" to recognize someone's strength/courage/etc usually after caller mentions number of kids they have. Extra credit if the caller if "living right in the middle of it" [ ] Making an awkward mention of how there's only "like 16 people listening and two are my brother" when the caller is clearly nervous [ ] Thanking the caller for having the courage to call in [ ] Telling someone to write another person a letter. Extra credit if he suggests two people write letters to each other. [ ] Name drop a real psychologist. Extra credit if a book of theirs is mentioned. [ ] Suggest the caller go have coffee with someone [ ] "Hearing something" in the caller's voice [ ] Telling the caller to stop and take a deep breath. Extra credit if the caller seemed to be talking fine and not in need of calming down. [ ] Making a wildly speculative guess about the "real problem" the caller is facing. Plus 4(!) extra credit points if the caller tells him he is wrong.
@Cathy-xi8cb
2 жыл бұрын
Welcome to the show! I am a professional, and I watch it for fun. You have to work in a facility and go to team meetings to see this kind of constant stream of mis-steps. Miss those days.
@gracekelly2810
2 жыл бұрын
Sending prayers, love & light.
@hangrycoon4252
2 жыл бұрын
Sending you a big hug mama 💜 It's so scary and you feel hopeless - my brother did the same thing and my dad found him too.
@stellarocquie7957
2 жыл бұрын
The FIRST question that needs to be asked of a child who fails a suicide attempt, is whether they have been molested or sexually abused. MOST children ( and adults ) will NOT readily volunteer this information.
@lifeaccordingtotheo9643
2 жыл бұрын
Mom needs help for her anxiety so she can be a rock for her daughter and not more anxiety to feed off of.
@spiritualservicesgodbless7641
2 жыл бұрын
THANK YOU FOR THE VIDEO
@BSCTrainerRob
2 жыл бұрын
12 Tylenol pm is a cry for help for sure. 120 Tylenol pm is a suicide attempt
@patriciaabatemarco3834
4 күн бұрын
So Tylenol is acetaminophen and a surprisingly small dose can cause coma and liver failure. I worked in a hospital ER and we’d have the occasional sad case who would come in for a Tylenol OD. If it’s too late to pump a stomach they can wake up, decide they don’t really want to die and then be told their liver is failing and die a day or two after in agony. That’s why they tell you to pay attention to dosages. And be aware that they put acetaminophen in lots of cold and flu medicine. So if you take those and then Tylenol for your splitting headache you can od. Read those labels.
@shannonmcneill9464
3 ай бұрын
Canada has what's called 24/7 I wish everyone had acess like this help for families and patient
@brandyk
2 ай бұрын
If Marie n her husband are not getting help for their issues whatever they may be they can't help their daughter as much or at all
@donnag.3611
2 жыл бұрын
I struggled w/ suicide ideation many years ago & I know that each person's situation can be somewhat different. For me, clearly it was shown to me that it was an evil spirit & when that revelation came to me & I battled against it in Jesus' Name, it was gone in a short time b/c the spirit was found out! The EMDR also helped me a lot in dealing w/ the roots that caused this ideation. May this daughter find the healing she so desperately needs.
@mariahconklin4150
Жыл бұрын
Here we go the religous mumbo jumbo. SO annoying. Yes I cut so I have a demon in me. Heard it all before. Been there done that. Screw that crap.
@kylapfisterer
3 ай бұрын
I have also been in the same situation
@marcicisketti4608
2 ай бұрын
i have been in places that has said it's a horrible places and like a 2.0 google rating, the place it was good hospital , they are actually good places because i was there before i even read the reviews, so ya don't go with reviews.
@brendaleverick3655
6 ай бұрын
Young people are more prone to suicide, for some reason. Perhaps because they are not fully mature and do not know how to properly handle tough times. I had a young cousin who killed himself when his marriage ended. Either that, or he was murdered by his ex-wife and her lover...which I have always suspected.
@mariahconklin4150
Жыл бұрын
Also Marie is in denial and she needs to stop it's not helping her daughter it's just frusterating hopefully her daughter got help and so did she.
@spiritualservicesgodbless7641
2 жыл бұрын
This is why my husband and I are NOT having kids
@wiseowl2020
2 жыл бұрын
Life is about risks not guarantees.
@barecasts9114
2 жыл бұрын
After watching some of your videos... the entire planet earth thanks you for this decision.
@athail3658
2 жыл бұрын
@@barecasts9114 Saved her children from guaranteed Fetal Alcohol Syndrome!
@brookesmith1550
2 жыл бұрын
Johns stop laughing at people!!! You are rude!!
@ravenestrella2310
2 жыл бұрын
He’s not laughing at them. He’s helping them to smile just a bit so that they feel less hopeless about their situation. There’s a difference between laughing at someone, and poking playful fun, and she knows this, because she was laughing too! The fact that he was able to get her smiling just a bit despite the horrible situation she’s in is what matters!
@brookesmith1550
2 жыл бұрын
No she was not laughing both times he laughed at her actions!
@brookesmith1550
2 жыл бұрын
He laughs at callers actions a lot!
@firefly9838
Жыл бұрын
Assisted suicide is legal in 10 states. Just saying.
@MT-un5xq
2 жыл бұрын
We have just gone thru this with our son... Who went from a bright vibrant A student Jr year (34 on the ACT) to nearly failing senior year. Online school and ADHD do not go together. However our principal and school counselor and related resources came alongside us and helped us navigate this, I am so grateful. He is not out of the woods yet, took a gap year, just started a new job, hoping he can regain some of his zest for life (was always so exuberant!).
@laurel9274
4 ай бұрын
Hi! In a similar situation, adhd kid + online school + failing. Did the school help your son get back to in-person school or how else did they help navigate your family if you’re comfortable sharing?
@MT-un5xq
4 ай бұрын
@laurel9274 so sorry you are going through this. The principal unenrolled him out of many classes that he did not need to graduate. She also reassigned his remaining English class to a special needs teacher who allowed him to go over the curriculum verbally in person rather than online assignments. Now 3 years on, he has totally overcome that terrible time, is a sophomore in university studying mechanical engineering. Since he is a year older than his classmates he is like an older brother, helping students around him. Also in his first year, he registered with an on campus counselor and met with her weekly. He looks back at that datk time and says it's made him stronger, more mature, more empathetic, and more aware of his needs. Also, he insisted on getting off medication quite early on, instead has focused on good sleep habits, fitness. He's a 3rd degree blackbelt in taekwondo, and is now training at a Brazilian jujitsu gym. I hope you and your student avail yourselves of every possible means of support and that you all are able to navigate and overcome! God bless
@Anotherhumanexisting
8 күн бұрын
The fact that you have a son with SI and are talking about his ACT scores and rank in taekwondo… to me, says A LOT about how you view his value as your offspring, and the pressure he must be under…
@MT-un5xq
8 күн бұрын
@Anotherhumanexisting nope, you got that all wrong. Mentioned his accomplishments only to juxtapose his mental state pre covid, during covid, post covid. Also wanted to give examples of how he overcame to give people hope. I am proud of the man my son is becoming, the supportive friend that he is. I don't know what his current grades are, don't care.
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