Hi, Ben! Cutting 1000 calories a day? Couldn't be me. You're going to be one grumpy kid! I have been trying to formulate a comment ever since you posted your last video. I hear you. Sometimes you give and give and get nothing in return. I worked in healthcare (in the US) for five years, and the hardest part of the job was finding that balance of how far to push myself to help others. By the end of those five years, I had burned out so bad that I had started watching small KZitemrs named Ben to try and feel something. No but really, boundaries are important, especially for Bens with people-pleasing tendencies. If you give people the opportunity to take advantage of your kindness, then they will do it. You may be main character in your own story, but in other people's stories, you're just a supporting character. Communicating your needs or your boundaries can feel a bit needy sometimes, but... nobody can read your mind. So... how do you get people to recognize your worth? How do you get others to reciprocate? It's so hard. And this is especially difficult in school, because you are almost never going to be somebody's first priority. I think you just have to find the right people. Invest your time and energy into the people who are good at communication; people you value the most; people who you don't expect anything back from, because they already provide you with so much. And be careful not to spend time or energy that you don't have. Also, I like this video by Dr Orion Taraban. He suggests giving others "The Gift of your Absence." I think it's worth a listen. kzitem.info/news/bejne/2YmAyYiOmIeEg20 Hope it gets better for you, mate. Cheers.
@bennnyoung
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Hey Ben! Let me first say, every time I notice a comment from you, a tear comes to my eye. Not sure how it happened but I'm so glad we crossed paths (albeit in an odd fashion!). Really grateful for all the time and thought you put into interacting with these random small KZitemrs named Ben! And sorry to hear you were burnt out by the latter end of those five years. It sounds like a seriously tough job having to regulate your own level of care for others. I imagine it would been hell for a while going against what felt natural in favour of your own health. It seems things are no longer as they were which is good, and I hope you're more content now. In any case, I've blocked out time tomorrow to watch the video you suggested. Looking forward to it, thanks for the suggestion! Best wishes to you Ben!
@roguelegend4945
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we need higher volume, i cannot hear the words clearly..
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