Being a Stay At Home Mom , we can get social anxiety since we don’t go out much or social with other adults as much. It made my anxiety worst and turned into social anxiety. I completely understand . Thank you for sharing that. Love you guys! 💗
@Kkstarss
3 жыл бұрын
I can relate to Vanessa a lot about the anxiety/memory. As a child I was never diagnosed with anything because I never saw a professional. Now, as an adult who works in mental health, I can look back now and know that I was a very anxious child with depression. I think I know why I have that memory loss because I vaguely remember a traumatic event.
@marylu2216
3 жыл бұрын
Same here!!🖐
@MyAltereeeGO
3 жыл бұрын
we appreciate you guys watching:)
@lifewithashly
3 жыл бұрын
lmao “welcome to the ahhh SH*T the kids are awake podcast” 😂 love y’all so much!
@kayla-tn2wf
3 жыл бұрын
Hearing Vanessa’s struggle with social anxiety gave me a lot of peace (as contradicting as it sounds lol..) I’ve struggled really really bad with social anxiety and find it very hard to connect with people unless my boyfriend is around. I’m glad we got to hear her take on it. I feel a little less alone ❤️
@timewithestefany1386
3 жыл бұрын
I love that we get to see Vanessa’s personally! This podcast makes me get to know her a little more! ✨ I thought she was shy and quite, but once she’s comfortable she opens up and is completely herself! ♥️
@jennalva-v4372
2 жыл бұрын
Great points . I have brain fog so I can relate with Vanessa. So much bad and negation on the daily.
@ReallyDude89
3 жыл бұрын
I can relate to Vanessa so much. I feel you girl 💞 I love these podcasts with you two
@genesypacheco8480
3 жыл бұрын
I can relate to you nessa, ive never been diagnosed with anything, but im sure i could have something similar, my brain forgets everything! And i could talk to someone and forget in that same moment, it sucks to hear memories from fam and friends and you dont remeber shit.
@SexiiAzzcAnBLaDyShY
3 жыл бұрын
I have everyone at work hooked on your podcasts!! After the first episode we made it a deal to all listen to it in the office Wednesdays! 🥲
@thelegit969
Жыл бұрын
Wth 😂
@gjennifer0427
3 жыл бұрын
This is so therapeutic for me 😌 I enjoy all your topics and the balance between serious topics but super fun and relatable! Great job guys! I’m a stay at home mom and college students and I have 2 daughters; (3 years and a newborn 1 month) so this is like listening to my friends 🫂
@gjennifer0427
3 жыл бұрын
I also LOVE how long these videos are! Please, the longer the better! 🤩
@Yasmin014
3 жыл бұрын
It’s crazy how much I can relate to Vanessa , like my memory as well is gone for most of the time, but i do believe it’s from my traumatic childhood !
@TaniaYMunoz
3 жыл бұрын
Same here😌 Nessa is awesome💜
@d.c.m8700
3 жыл бұрын
Minute 11:26 selective memory. Omg i can relate my husband can tell me oh do you remember last week ... And I'll be like idk, but I'll randomly remember something from years ago and he'll be like you remember that but you don't remember last week?😅 Lol
@JazzyMina
3 жыл бұрын
And the whole answering the phone and needing to be alone, I thought I was the only one! I feel dumb answering the phone but then sometimes I sound professional and I’m like damn? I really thought it through before answering . My anxiety really rises when I need to answer a phone call .
@KassandraEsperanza
3 жыл бұрын
I love listening to the podcast on my way to work through Spotify! I love it ✨
@stephanies7738
3 жыл бұрын
I can relate to Vanessa so much! I have so much social anxiety but it definitely got worse since I’ve been a stay at home mom
@cleanbunny
3 жыл бұрын
You guys should take a lot of pictures of you two and your kids. So if you forget, you’ll still have pictures of those moments. Eric can help you remember as well, for when you’re old or can’t remember.
@lyssamichellem
Жыл бұрын
Hey Vanessa, i’m a therapist & my thoughts are that because you were anxious & depressed, you were dissociated throughout most of your life & still are. Therefore - you’re not present & your brain isn’t soaking in the normal things it typically would - therefore, no memory. Dissociation is typically a trauma response but really when you’re anxious &/or depressed, you end up really in “flight” mode & not able to be living in the moment. I’d look into doing some body scans, maybe using the “calm” app which asks you a few times a day to “check in” & different things to bring you back into the moment/the present/your body.
@Vanessa-nr4pn
3 жыл бұрын
Magneto💙💙💙💙💙
@danielagutierrez8975
3 жыл бұрын
I just love listening to your podcast! ❤️ having every Wednesday off from work is my favorite now 😄
@arianapardo9530
3 жыл бұрын
when i make calls i have to leave the room too i can’t order something on the phone if anyone else is around 🥺
@melissasanchez5258
3 жыл бұрын
Hell yeah ! New podcast! Love you guys🙂 you guys are so funny! I’ve been a fan of cholo adventures for years! And nessa is so sweet and so genuine.
@briannasanchez6219
3 жыл бұрын
The way Eric watches nessa walk out of the room is so adorable!!! Also the level of communication and open-mindness between you guys is so mature! We love a couple who works on themselves personally to be better together!! I look forward to this every week!
@jazielmunoz4293
3 жыл бұрын
Great podcast , on a slide note y’all notice at the end how Eric got lost checking out Vanessa 😂 n then realized he had to end the podcast 😂 too funny!
@seasun4948
3 жыл бұрын
I love the open conversation! Enjoying the podcast!
@verooo__2082
3 жыл бұрын
I enjoy these so much! 🤍 hearing it my way to work
@abigailramirez9688
3 жыл бұрын
I loved hearing your story Vanessa! I have been struggling with memory too idk what it is… but I feel like it’s good that now you guys can talk or make videos about your day to relive that day and maybe memories that happened in your day can be relived. 💗
@elviacastillo3159
3 жыл бұрын
Been enjoying this podcast a whole lot! Keep it up, guys🤝
@judytrinh
3 жыл бұрын
your relationship seems so healthy & happy :') it's sweet to see. it gives me hope ❤️❤️❤️ and vanessa, you are so genuine & lovely! regarding dreams/memories, sometimes they can be from past lives. i don't remember my childhood either...i've done spiritual medicine (ayahuasca) with energy healers & it's due to trauma that we've suppressed. you can try searching for energy healers on yelp that do hypnosis --- they might be able to help you see what happened. for me, i needed medicine to dig deep since my childhood trauma was heavy. the "not going into detail" part is most likely anxiety. i used to be like that before my ayahuasca session. it was because i was always in my head/anxious and not present in the moment. so if you asked me "how was yesterday", i'd only say "ok" because i was anxious the entire time and that's all i can remember...:( anxiety is really heavy. i feel like society overlooks it, but it is indeed very debilitating. vanessa, you'll be okay ❤️ .
@asapmobera2388
3 жыл бұрын
Lol the way y'all say hello is funny af
@rosaochoa6789
3 жыл бұрын
I’m loving this podcast 💕💕💕
@marlinavila2242
3 жыл бұрын
I can relate to Vanessa so much with the social anxiety part. I honestly got a restuarant job just to challenge myself to interact with people. Of course I still struggle with it, but I've noticed improvements with myself : )
@karlaaraujo828
3 жыл бұрын
Same here. I only can remember from when i was 13 n up but all blurred out. I did end up finding out my old nanny abused me so that could explain that. But till this day i struggle with my memory yet i been a server for 6 years 😅
@LuisHernandez-br1wt
3 жыл бұрын
This podcast is great
@lovelyerika9211
3 жыл бұрын
Vanessa!!! I am literally crying because we are so much alike! My memories are bad and can't remember much either.. I though I was the only one that has this issue and I'm glad I can relate and know I'm not alone! I do have alot of times where I feel like some memories might be dreams and some dreams are memories but I can never tell what's what.... I know I have to have gone threw something bad during my childhood that I'm like this I just dont know what my mind blocked it off 😢 thank u for opening up about this it means so much to me that I'm not the only one! 😭 I'm loving the podcast guys really so much!! You guys are so real and I feel happy watching it and relate to alot that u guys go threw THANK YOU GUYS FOR DOING THIS! keep it up it's great!!
@lonaaa316
3 жыл бұрын
LOL your Tik Tok routine before sleeping is me and my husband too 😂
@juanamartin3457
3 жыл бұрын
This is very calming for me I love the podcasts 😅☺️☺️ can’t wait to watch the next one!
@cynthia.7700
3 жыл бұрын
Totally on the same boat as, Vanessa! (When it comes to social anxiety). Glad to see i'm not alone. It's so hard to even order food like she said. I'd even be stuttering sometimes! Love to see Vanessa's personality come out so easily when she talks to you though! She's a total goof ball and i love it! :)
@christopherjreyes
3 жыл бұрын
Great episode! Can you share a little about your journey with your faith? I bet that’d be great and a blessing for others to hear.
@Vanessa-nr4pn
3 жыл бұрын
Love these podcasts!! Its the only one I watch I love you guys 💙💙💙💙💙💙
@SweetKillah97
3 жыл бұрын
I used to be social back in 2012-2015. I got pregnant in 2016 and I ended up being a stay at home mom/housewife. I stopped using social media around 2017 till now I still don’t be on IG/FB/SC. When I went back to work in 2018 I was so nervous and I just wanted to quit that same day because I didn’t know how to communicate and I would overthink shit like “what if they ask me stuff” “how am I going to answer questions” I would talk really low and I stutter. Then I got pregnant again and stopped having contact with people. So my anxiety got worst. Now a days I still get really bad anxiety going to places by myself I feel like everyone is watching me. It sucks because I use to be really outgoing, i would have conversations with the waitress or whoever talked to me and now I’m the opposite. 😭
@paolaalvarez329
3 жыл бұрын
I relate with Nessa on the memory blockage, growing up my dad was very abusive and an alcoholic so I wasn't really shown how to be loved and was kinda thrown to the side while everyone dealt with their own issues. It sucks because you try your best to feel happy and not telling our trauma dictates us now. I love you guys.
@paolamejia9826
3 жыл бұрын
Yay new episode. Also thank you so much Vanessa for being so raw with your own story and letting us in. This podcast has really given us a chance to get to know you.
@amieenriquez1
3 жыл бұрын
Love these podcasts , it has helped me to better myself . So thank you !!❤️
@yazminsalinas4741
3 жыл бұрын
I have never related more to a podcast. I relate to the struggle with anxiety because I have also struggled with that and mental health since I was a kid. Thankfully I’m finally starting to confront it ❤️
@Vanessa-nr4pn
3 жыл бұрын
I can’t wait for #5 😭💕
@jazmin_m_o1994
3 жыл бұрын
Nahhh math gives everybody stress lol 😂
@kayestrada2186
2 жыл бұрын
haha you guys did only change your shirts from the last episode
@Yessevee
3 жыл бұрын
I can relate with Vanessa so much ! And makes me happy Erik is supportive my husband gets upset when we both go to Walmart and I’m like uhhmmm I’ll wait in the car you do the shopping or babe I don’t want to go to the flea market cause there’s so many people he’s coming around to the idea of how I am but it’s still hard at times cause he is a SOCIAL butterfly! He can talk to ANYONE! And I can’t we have two boys and it’s the same with them I have one social one like dad and one antisocial like me lol
@Joy11boy22
3 жыл бұрын
Manifest your dreams into reality, raise ur consciousness
@dociliainfante9555
3 жыл бұрын
Loving these podcast..you guys are too funny ...I like that you guys get into real life situations. Thank you again for sharing .. Kids are adorable.
@562Prisyjalisco
3 жыл бұрын
I can totally relate to Vanessa in so many levels with the social anxiety I can’t be around malls or partys I feel like I’m going to have a panic attack even if I order on the phone I wouldn’t wish it on my own worse enemy
@porfiriato84
3 жыл бұрын
Dang. This was definitely an interesting podcast. I was an extremely nervous kid all throughout elementary and middle/high school. And as many have commented I can relate bc I also wish I knew exactly why I cant remember my past too well. I've had cousins tell me "hey remember when..." And I'm always like damn I don't remember that at all. It sucks. But it's strange how I still have social anxiety yet when it comes to restaurants, I am the most talkative and curious one towards waiters and employees. Ugh our brains are strange af 😔
@babylorlor066
3 жыл бұрын
Hey guys love your podcast and your conversations! I think Vanessa could have been dissociating as a child. I do it now and I’m (31) from stress and anxiety. Either way, you aren’t alone at all. I have social anxiety and sometimes I wish I could be like others but it’s not who I am. I would definitely have some lab work done and check for deficiencies as a start to addressing memory issues. I work my brain daily with brain games, learning a language and exercise. Wishing you all the best truly 💜 Lauren
@Joy11boy22
3 жыл бұрын
Everything we want we already have, look within
@lisettecoronel2545
3 жыл бұрын
Ahhh these podcasts always be making my day 😭✨
@miralarosie
3 жыл бұрын
Vanessa you should try emdr it helps recall memories. I’m in therapy and that’s the tool we use in order to recall my childhood. It’s very emotional and tiring but it helps overall heal and overcome the trauma.
@TrippiePineapplz
3 жыл бұрын
I also highly recommend EMDR!!! I have healed so much trauma, even times when I didn't realize something was traumatic. You have to have someone you trust help you practice, then you learn to do it on your own.
@Daniel-kx7ip
3 жыл бұрын
I relate to her with ordering fast food and making phone calls. I be stuttering all over the place.
@jazmin_m_o1994
3 жыл бұрын
Lol Eric 😂 “ except you’re farts ” lol no one can hold those in isn’t it bad health wise 😂😂😂
@ashleyramales1
3 жыл бұрын
Good morning ❤️ perfect timing before work 🥰
@jose53011
2 жыл бұрын
The kids look just like there mom omg
@destinygallegos1887
3 жыл бұрын
I relate so much!! I have to leave the room to be alone when I am on the phone. I also struggle with answering the phone. I will legit watch the phone call ring until it stop.
@TayRex14
3 жыл бұрын
Omg Vanessa describes exactly how I am too.😭 I don’t understand it. I forget everything, I am same with conversations, never had anything traumatic happen. Literally describes me to a T. Feels good to not be alone 💕
@ericapavia2592
3 жыл бұрын
It might be that your brain is trying to protect you from a traumatic experience from childhood, it happens to me too. I have twins too and my memory got really bad during my pregnancy and after I gave birth to my twins. Try to meditate that will help you with your anxiety,, try guided meditation AND reduce caffeine intake because that makes your anxiety worst. TAKE CARE ❤ GOD bless you and your family.
@jazmin_m_o1994
3 жыл бұрын
That’s me too Eric I’m very detailed lol 😂 idk why even with people I’ve only known for a short period maybe that’s a Mexican thing because they be asking us where we been with who what day what we’re we wearing lol 😂 so we just describe everything
@bethcooper6125
3 жыл бұрын
I have really bad social anxiety as well, it sucks, I forget a lot of things too but I can remember a lot from my childhood.
@s.ramirez2148
3 жыл бұрын
100th comment 🥳 this is the only podcast I watch...I can relate to Vanessa about not remembering my childhood though and it’s crazy and sad that I could only remember the bad memories of my childhood :((
@christianrobles2588
3 жыл бұрын
Tik tok is basically Vine app lmao
@reynar917
3 жыл бұрын
I like her she’s so down to earth. Social anxiety is very common . Honestly I wouldn’t be able to tell she’s always been open
@shealasordia8639
3 жыл бұрын
I can relate to everything your describing omg. I understand what you mean Vanessa.
@Grlnuerongir
3 жыл бұрын
I developed social anxiety when I was 10 after my dad died. It was not diagnosed until I was in my 30s - until then people just told me I was weird. Since it started when I was so young I just thought it was normal
@JoseReyes-yb7mf
3 жыл бұрын
I too struggle with social anxiety & sometimes people think I’m this mean person but in reality I’m just nervous around new people & I’ve noticed i too forget alot of things from the past , even things from days ago. The main thing i struggle with is calling somewhere i never called or an unknown calller, in my head i say if it’s important they’ll leave a voicemail lmao. But yeah it’s a daily struggle but slowly working to get better at the simple things. I’m also glad my other half understands & is patient with me.
@BlazeUpMaryJane
3 жыл бұрын
I feel Vanessa on the the ordering food part lmao I use to turn around to my sister to order for me lmao now I just tell the waiter what I want idc 😂🤣
@compajrtv728
3 жыл бұрын
i don’t have kids but prepares me mentally for future kids👍🏻
@isaacsantos8878
3 жыл бұрын
Oh shit i need to go see a doctor
@isaacsantos8878
3 жыл бұрын
How do you know your are depressed
@isaacsantos8878
3 жыл бұрын
I forget a lot to is that good
@isaacs6013
3 жыл бұрын
Huh I relate to alot of what nessa said my family would try to remind me of a certain memory or moment at some places or time in the past and I have no recollection of anything, as well as a certain smell would trigger a "memory" but if I would tell my family they will say "That never happened" or "it didn't happen like that at all". I don't remember anything traumatic in my childhood but there are some memories I remember but almost 90% of them I don't remember . I haven't been diagnosed with anything but it makes me wonder if I should see a professional.
@flyywithme_mj
3 жыл бұрын
I am a SAHM who jst went back to work part time. &every time i get ready for work i get anxiety… i can totally relate to that.
@Nicovero54
3 жыл бұрын
I feel like i have a very similar personality... I can totally relate to everything she is saying
@lawrencejohnson6797
3 жыл бұрын
Social Anxiety is super variable. There are a lot of grounding techniques you can use with yourself and others to help you in a group.
@melaniereyes4593
3 жыл бұрын
40:46 what Vanessa said is a good alternative idea name for your podcast especially when your boys are up and they have to be in the podcast with you. Like if you guys are still wanting to talk about something in the podcast but the boys just woke up you guys can be like “ ah SHH the kids are awake.” Still using your original “SHH” from your podcast name. In other words it’s like a little segment ft your kids from time to time.
@VivoParaAdorarle
3 жыл бұрын
I can relate to Vanessa, because I can’t remember my childhood as well, I remember certain events but not like details. But it makes sense, that maybe something traumatic happened but I just don’t remember… and sometimes it dose scary me because what happened that harmed me? Why can’t I remember. But yeah, Vanessa you’re not alone
@JimmyisaGeek
3 жыл бұрын
I always thought Smalls was a Sandlot reference.
@Vanessa-nr4pn
3 жыл бұрын
Yes I love tik tok for that exact reason too! 😊💙
@jennifervillegas9058
3 жыл бұрын
I feel like I'm like Vanesaa a lot. I have short term memory loss I forget mid sentence what I was saying sometimes with the slightest interruption, I have "memories" that I feel like I make up, and I get anxious to do simple things at times. Like I always joke I'll get Alzheimers because it's only getting worse I feel like. Glad I'm not the only one. Nice talk guys!!
@Luckey2212
3 жыл бұрын
If y’all ever make merch, have the quote “you’re killing me smalls” somewhere in there.
@crazyskittles32
3 жыл бұрын
Agh I’m also a bartender at cpk!!
@porfiriato84
3 жыл бұрын
Sucks for you lol Jk
@mariog28weirdo80
3 жыл бұрын
I have a spotty memory too idk if it’s a depression thing but I need someone to refresh my memory sometimes cuz when that happens I literally feel something in my brain gets unlocked but there’s time I’m like “what are you talking about??” And I really have to reach to the bottom of jar to pull a memory... if I’m lucky lol
@TheBatQueen147
3 жыл бұрын
Dangg I relate soo hard to smalls when she says she doesn’t remember things from her childhood and I have no idea why either! It is really sad, does anyone know why that could be??
@axt1378
3 жыл бұрын
They say it’s because of childhood trauma. 🤷🏻♀️
@SaulAguilar.
3 жыл бұрын
Childhood trauma. Or it could be you just don't remember. Some people don't remember unless it's a big event that happened.
@lalicastillo4441
3 жыл бұрын
I literally have the same problem it’s crazy sometimes I feel like when I say things I “remember” my family doesn’t or they say I wasn’t there.I Thought I was the only one with that problem. when I try to remember Things they are a blur and I don’t even know If I’m making it up or if I dreamt it But it feels like I’m going crazy 😅
@ryegee9464
3 жыл бұрын
I’m lowkee je louse I never had a relationship that was communicated like ego n her wife
@esmeb4358
3 жыл бұрын
The main reason why I quit smoking weed was because my memory was getting so so bad. It was becoming a problem and let me tell you it was scary as hell. So I Can understand the feeling vane. Not saying that your memory is bad because of weed. Because i don’t know that. But the feeling of not remembering simple shit is terrifying sometimes. Maybe some memory vitamins or something will help. Either way I hope it gets better.
@Traumatize894
3 жыл бұрын
Bro I’m the same as Vanessa not as much but I forget things.
@dianaantunez4633
3 жыл бұрын
You could have had a happy full childhood but parenting styles also affect you. also being the youngest maybe they didn’t let you talk or the attention was not always on you.. so thats why you get anxiety when the attention is on you. I hope you are still going to therapy.
@sherlyn1701
3 жыл бұрын
I have never connect with someone’s problems as much as nessa’s
@sherlyn1701
3 жыл бұрын
Connected *
@yeseniabravo2674
3 жыл бұрын
Why did the video go to a commercial when Eric went to the restroom 😂💀💀 Like hold up, he’ll be back rn🙄😅
@marssssbarssss
3 жыл бұрын
It’s baby zekie🥺💗
@doubles1577
3 жыл бұрын
I cant wait for a video called "(Cruz or eziquel) found my KZitem channel" I dont know how to spell their names sorry about that. This video title might not come out but if it does I'll be tuned in untill they are grown and hopefully you guys still post in that Long period of time.😀
@eliasflores777777777
3 жыл бұрын
Anxiety in General can cause memory fog. You’re brain can develop a habit of forgetting subconsciously due to anxiety and it not wanted to over think past events but this is reversible with therapy and meditation
@rachelvazquez7228
3 жыл бұрын
My boyfriend is exactly like vanessa he cant remember much from his childhood . When I ask how work went he will literally just say fine then forget the rest lol This brings me awareness
@isabelleromero5222
3 жыл бұрын
😐 my mind is exactly like yours. Feels like yall are talking about me omg i thought i was alone 😅
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