It's only over the past couple of years (I'm 56) that I have realized that I have done many things throughout my adult life, in search of some kind of love and/or affection. Is it possible that external love is a wonderful partner for self-love, but a poor-substitute for it. In other words, once self-love is present, external-love can multiply self-love's power. But if self-love is zero (or worse ---- negative), external-love can never raise someone to the same level. Even after having awoken to this truth, all the old habits are still there. So I still find myself looking first to the external world for love and validation, though at least I catch myself these days. Thanks for this video.
@feiwyatt
3 жыл бұрын
Wow! Thank you for sharing about your journey and the wisdom that you’re dropping here. “A wonderful partner but poor substitute for self-love.” I love this formula that you are suggesting: that external love is a multiplier for what is already inside. I hope you find all the love and validation you need as you continue along this journey of strengthening that muscle of inner love 💜
@samuelshofet8357
2 жыл бұрын
A very wonderful video and great message. But my question is …where and how does one start?
@feiwyatt
2 жыл бұрын
What a wonderful question! I imagine the journey can look different for each person. I highly recommend seeking out Men's groups, and getting support - from groups, therapists, coaches etc. to begin developing that inner sense of worthiness. Perhaps looking at healing the wounds from a childhood of not being loved enough is also something that is a common need and a foundational place to begin.
@samuelshofet8357
2 жыл бұрын
Yes! Grew up in a very unhealthy home, got bullied through k through 12, and just failed at everything as an adult. I somehow strengthened the paradigm that I’m a failure and am unworthy of love. I’ve spent 10 years chasing religion, new age, self help, therapy. Nothing seems to work. I feel overwhelmed and just don’t know how to even start fixing this mess.
@feiwyatt
2 жыл бұрын
@@samuelshofet8357 There’s something really painful about having tried so many different things and still feeling stuck. Feeling care for you there. 💜💙❤️🩹
@samuelshofet8357
2 жыл бұрын
Well, I guess we have two choices. Continue sinking or continue trying. Sinking hasn’t been fun. I decided to swallow my ego and shush the past. Signing up for therapy again. 54th time’s a charm 😅
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