Just because it doesn’t last forever doesn’t mean it wasn’t real for the time.
@MattSkylar
6 жыл бұрын
Jamie Brower That's what we call lust.
@PomegranateStaindGrn
6 жыл бұрын
MattSkylar No.
@crazyanimeloveable
6 жыл бұрын
That's a beautiful quote 😊
@d.2542
6 жыл бұрын
True. What a beautiful quote
@Rubarb84
6 жыл бұрын
Jamie Brower true
@GracefullyKaren
6 жыл бұрын
Key Points I took away: Stop avoiding confrontation. Find a way to approach things before they escalate. Listen when your partner speaks. Don't dismiss the issue. Get your point across in a respectful manner. The way a person is raised plays a lot in how they interact with people and see life.
@isidoraveronica
6 жыл бұрын
Queen Karen exactly and relationships are not as easy as they seem
@judithep.8604
6 жыл бұрын
Well said
@Sweeettt.Caroline
6 жыл бұрын
Great points !
@reerbaadia1896
6 жыл бұрын
You're a keeper my queen. But the moist important is remembering all that in challenging times.
@muffindolphindaphnee
6 жыл бұрын
Queen Karen as your name says ... QUEEN haha
@shanicejoseph170
6 жыл бұрын
Why is everyone breaking up!!!!!!! Its slightly depressing
@evie6533
6 жыл бұрын
Shanice Joseph Who else is?
@Patshawna
6 жыл бұрын
Ellie Ellie Channing Tatum & his wife lol
@stephaniec.6388
6 жыл бұрын
it's because mercury is in retrograde :///
@trevorncube808
6 жыл бұрын
slightly? it's intensely depressing.. is love even a thing anymore
@etf42
6 жыл бұрын
indefinite monogamous relationships are extremely unnatural for humans. thats why 'marriage' was created.
@lichi1244eva
6 жыл бұрын
I am sad about this. I really liked them as a couple. Honestly, it makes me realize that you can't take relationships for granted. My husband and I have been together for 13 years and I know I want to be with him for the rest of my life but there are no guarantees, though I hope we will both give it our all.
@NissyBrown
6 жыл бұрын
lichi1244eva like wise with my husband and i 💛 all you can do is pray on it, and take it one day a time.
@kellz8260
5 жыл бұрын
Its sad.. its also great to realize and except in a good way.. 18 years and felt same as u for whole time.. till now.. somtimes even if we think after this long we were in love.. we were not and somtimes to much is said bad and cannot be fixed. I say.. for advice to ANYONE.. do not tell him or her things in anger you do not mean.. because 13 years.. 18 whatever and it takes just this light moment where you CANNOT be the same again after just one word or the same words over and over.. and sooner or later you start to BELIEVE it.. and then there's no going back reguardless of whatever love you think u have.. its just care at that point if ANYTHING. 😑😊
@thenjiwemeyiwa167
4 жыл бұрын
You know what? You're spot-on. NEVER EVER TAKE EACH OTHER FOR GRANTED. As a divorced woman, that's what I strongly hold was the essence of the dissolution of my marriage,,, thinking and acting like WE'RE BOTH HERE AT ALL COST. My tiny advice is just that... And work on your marriage everyday, check it out and be the lookout just like what you do with the weather before you figure out what to wear,,, and just like your "What's for lunch or dinner" question. And, accordingly plan,,, & rework what's not working or strengthen that which works,,, towards putting your best foot, fit-for-the-purpose forward (just like we do daily preparing/ figuring out a proper outfit for the day.
@craigwa5346
4 жыл бұрын
Coming from someone who has been unsuccessful in forming lasting relationships your words give me hope that there is someone out there for me that's compatible and willing put the time in.
@vyentro29
6 жыл бұрын
If Keisha and Andrew break up I'll flip a goddamn table.
@MegaCadette55
6 жыл бұрын
or Ben and Sidra. damn! I hope not!
@DeeperThanMyThoughts
6 жыл бұрын
Leilani Andra 😂😂😂
@sarabsaiso
6 жыл бұрын
Leilani Andra if that’s you in your profile picture, you’re so beautiful 😍😍😍
@vyentro29
6 жыл бұрын
Sara Oh thank you! It is me. Lol.
@musingsofajay387
6 жыл бұрын
when i saw them in the intro i freaked out lol
@buffdaddddddddy
6 жыл бұрын
it is sad but i think we might be missing the point if sadness is our only reaction. i found it hopeful and gracious. to realize that the person you love so much is perhaps not the right person for your growth is a brave and generous thing to do. the fact that they can openly evaluate that "chapter" and say we did the best in that chapter is a beautiful way to look at it
@WorthyofMoreWithLitaV
6 жыл бұрын
Wow. I can see that the root is how they process pain and communication. He is emotionally abandoning her and the reason I say that is because when she presents her emotions to him and how she feels , he is unable to respond to affirm her which leaves her feeling like her expression of feeling is not valuable or understood . That draws a wedge between them. He is not doing it on purpose because he is shut down by the triggers. This is making him inoperable for the journey together as one. She has needs and he is unable to cover her emotionally as a husband because he is still broken in that area. The great part is, is that she loves him enough and understands him enough to know why and be patient with him, but at this point , she is left with a major need that she is tired of not getting met. I'm quite sure there are other factors but this one is major. As couples, there's must be a need to work on our single issues. These issues are the ones that are present with and without a partner, because our single issues effect our couple issues. I pray that He gets that because he needs it. I pray that God will send healing to him to be able to confront his past and how it made him feel so he can have a mindshift that will allow him to not see her words as darts but as words of truth that can be worked through. He reminds me of me. Avoidance is never key. Even if he moves on, he will not have the capacity to be that for the next woman. He must understand that his healing is detrimental to having healthy, happy , honest and open relationships in all places. It will be the best work of his life and once he is free , he will be able to love her more deeply and intimately because he will be allowing her into a new space. I pray that they both seek the guidance and don't give up. Marriage can be rough but it is the most glorious covenant God has made between two people. :)
@mishalmooremusic
6 жыл бұрын
Lita Lovely Valmon this brought me to tears. You are VERY observant. Thank you for these special and healing words! Mishal
@WorthyofMoreWithLitaV
6 жыл бұрын
mishalmooremusic You are absolutely welcome:) . As I was watching , God was just showing me what's happening and it saddened me because I know that pain can take its course and when it's not dealt with can cause havoc on things that are important to us , drawing things away that matter and it sucks . I saw that there was so much love present and I saw your frustration and defeat . I don't know your faith at all but just declare freedom over his life by speaking out loud that he will face what hurts and he will overcome this and if your heart desires to stay married , declare that this will be mended and that what lies on the other side will be a blessing of restoration beyond your dreams . God knows and he sees and He will work right along with your faith to see it through. There is this really awesome book that's helping me and many close to me called Your Pain Has a Past written by someone very dear to me that truly understands patterns and how to identify and break them. Definitely Check It Out If Your interested. Here's the link: I pray this helps www.lulu.com/shop/belinda-s-allen/your-pain-has-a-past/ebook/product-23583342.html God Bless :)
@orphansparrow2
6 жыл бұрын
You are very emotionally intelligent. Really insightful. :)
@Pogglethelesser-bj9wp
5 жыл бұрын
Lita lovely Valm your awesome and I love your message.😍😍😊
@learnwithme1131
5 жыл бұрын
Whoa...You are good. Are you a counselor?
@MrsTruthTeller
6 жыл бұрын
She had pain in her eyes at the beginning but when she said, “that’s just who you are and it’s not for me” he immediately stopped smiling and I can see the fear of losing her crept into him. That’s why he said, “you talk like it’s over, I mean it’s not over yet.” These two had issues that could’ve easily been resolved through counseling but it seems that she is ready to move on from him and unfortunately when a woman is fed up and ready to go that’s usually always the end of a relationship.
@eileengomezmesa7933
2 жыл бұрын
TRUE!!!!
@marimayn716
6 жыл бұрын
I'm among the broken-hearted, yet I love their respect of each other
@sagalwarsame5984
6 жыл бұрын
Noo! They were my favourite couple! Can’t believe they broke up :(
@diaundras
6 жыл бұрын
Sagal Warsame mine too
@movebyfaith3
6 жыл бұрын
same here...
@RepentAndBelieve1437
6 жыл бұрын
He did not want to be engaged in communication.. they had "conversations.." however communication goes deeper. He needs to mature in that area.. to actually care about her. Being ONE flesh. If you say you love someone then you should care for their feelings... he gave her the short end... all she wants to do is connect/intimacy [in-to-me-see]. Being selfish can really rob you of something really deep, raw, and real...
@zainabmejja9936
6 жыл бұрын
Beautiful Beloved I think so too. I see it. Even in the communication here.
@Lisa_Flowers
6 жыл бұрын
Very well articulated.
@RepentAndBelieve1437
6 жыл бұрын
Rocknalldatime99 I really appreciate it! Thank you😊
@RepentAndBelieve1437
6 жыл бұрын
Zainab M. Adam yes!
@cookiegirl891
6 жыл бұрын
Beautiful Beloved THIS
@lauraw1221
6 жыл бұрын
So special and rare to see a connection like these two have. Sad they broke up.. but i love the respect i see between them and how they want the other to succeed and be happy. I thi j thats the biggest form of love, wanting to see the other person happy
@ayodejiboyede4594
6 жыл бұрын
I think Elliot got the courtship easy n took it a little lightly, she worked more n he did less , then she was done, this is workable but he's not trying at alll
@BigRedGlowingNose
6 жыл бұрын
As much as their break up saddens me, the way they're handling it is so inspirational and refreshing. Instead of throwing hate and blame at each other, they're actually able to not throw their 13 year old bond away and still harbour respect and appreciation for each other! I can only wish for my future separations to work out this smoothly.
@astra7015
6 жыл бұрын
Kata yeah yeah they ll probably regret it later . Doesn t happen so often tó find someone now
@SherylS
6 жыл бұрын
Wow. I'm done. Dating is cancelled. There's no point.
@kissy0k8
6 жыл бұрын
Sheryl S lol
@keke555788
5 жыл бұрын
Exactly how I feel
@MrWatchmen759
4 жыл бұрын
Sheryl S you don’t even know them. How about focusing on your relationship smh females
@carameldarling2980
4 жыл бұрын
@@MrWatchmen759 looool init, I never understood people who base their hope of finding love on KZitem/Celebrity couples and marriages or even comparing yourself to social media relationships of couples you don't know anything about. Always found that odd
@MrWatchmen759
4 жыл бұрын
Caramel Darling me neither is so pathetic honestly. Women need to stop with this type of thinking
@missiemaya
6 жыл бұрын
They can totally work through this.
@ayodejiboyede4594
6 жыл бұрын
I think she gave up trying n she almost got there tho'
@Traveler_18332
6 жыл бұрын
I so want them to!!
@akinyiokeyo4618
6 жыл бұрын
missie maya Not advisable.... painful but let it be.
@KYRA_FX
6 жыл бұрын
missie maya I really want them to 😹
@oraromaochi5584
6 жыл бұрын
missie maya any man can see that he wants out.
@helena3631
4 жыл бұрын
She asked him to marry her and practically begged him because he was playing hard to get ..no wonder it didnt last the dynamics were off from the begining he thought he was the prize
@annmaina1692
4 жыл бұрын
Lol,so a girl cant shoot her shot
@TheSpiritRoom23
3 жыл бұрын
Ann Maina she can without begging.
@younggwood91
3 жыл бұрын
So a man can’t be a prize?
@theLordismysheperd98
3 жыл бұрын
@@annmaina1692 imo it’s too masculine but suit yourself. Go for it if that’s what you like.
@tumelomoyo854
6 жыл бұрын
I am so depressed right now. This is the worst news ever. Ooh my heart
@annaelise207
6 жыл бұрын
I feel like I could learn so much from this couple and how they still show respect and maturity in how they speak to each other. So dear to my heart. I wish you both the best in life!
@chicagogirl14
6 жыл бұрын
She is so gorgeous!
@KYRA_FX
6 жыл бұрын
QueenJ her smile 😍
@mikaylahenderson3274
6 жыл бұрын
QueenJ You a damn lie.
@mikealan1984
6 жыл бұрын
That wig needs to go in the trash
@sheenabailey
6 жыл бұрын
QueenJ they both are. Hope they made some kids.
@seanparker2243
6 жыл бұрын
Sheena Bailey you got a man in your life?
@alexandralydia4362
4 жыл бұрын
She wasn’t being heard and that causes lack of love in any relationship.
@HealingEraWithTricia
6 жыл бұрын
The pain in her eye's is sad. wishing her everything beautiful!
@MrsTruthTeller
6 жыл бұрын
Lots of pain in her eyes for sure. That big and bright smile disguises it.
@sahmed5541
6 жыл бұрын
Lady Day Dream, I can see it too
@sethrocket1523
4 жыл бұрын
I think he is feeling it too.he just has a different way of handling it.
@ravenanderson1695
6 жыл бұрын
After watching I’m still inspired, they’re handling such a tough time in the best way possible.
@nickylnr
6 жыл бұрын
They know what the issue is.. They should go to counselling but I think they've already made up their minds
@lolaayodele6941
6 жыл бұрын
YESSSS!!!!!!
@kch1474
6 жыл бұрын
They're still goals! As long as they are both happy it's all good.
@coolzizable
6 жыл бұрын
See this is why i don't the relationship thing. How you break up after 13 years of marriage? I'm pissed
@habeshasister11
5 жыл бұрын
AZIZISREAL it was doomed from the beginning. They admitted getting married for the wrong reason & rushing it
@laninaclay6276
4 жыл бұрын
You don't do the relationship thing based on people you don't know personally?
@canwejustloveeachother2550
3 жыл бұрын
She begged him to be with her. I'm not blaming her but a man's pursuit and behavior says a lot. I'm in no way implying that a man won't waste your time if he chases you. In this case, however, it might have helped her gauge his intentions
@breea07
6 жыл бұрын
I hope they can work it out. Thy seem to just have different relationship languages. I can see what she means about him being dismissive. It’s very obvious that he doesn’t like conflict to the point of just agreeing to get her to stop talking instead of saying what he actually feels about it.
@etf42
6 жыл бұрын
This is the perfect approach for men to take towards women along with never being afraid to let a woman go. Women's 'concerns' are usually trivial and inconsequential and women's emotions are always in a state of flux. Showing emotion and care for her concerns subconsciously makes you look WEAK and INSECURE and she will lose respect and attraction for you. All that matters is her BEHAVIOR, not her WORDS (case in point: she stayed with him for 13 years and will still take him back while he is ready to move on). Women THINK they want to be the prize, but in reality they want their man to be the prize. Relationships are woman's work. They are the natural 'deciders'. Men should simply build themselves to be as high value they can. The world then enters or leaves dependent on how valuable he is.
@HunniiChii
6 жыл бұрын
etf42 I bet the women come at you like hyenas
@etf42
6 жыл бұрын
Highsgg Hfs is there something I said you don't agree with? yes, since adopting this mentality i have had more success with women versus being "nice"
@justonetime6179
6 жыл бұрын
etf42 I bet the quality of women you get is the highest.
@etf42
6 жыл бұрын
+Just One Time Ironically, yes this mentality this mentality helps you attract higher quality women as well. I know it sounds opposite of what you have been told so you are facing some cognitive dissonance, but it is the truth about what women are attracted to. These are immutable facts of life about women. They cannot be modified or abolished.
@spottieottiedopalisciousan3333
6 жыл бұрын
Their separation is utterly surprising. I absolutely disapprove, but they must do what's best for themselves as individuals. I love that they still have a bond. It's beautiful that there's no animosity between them. Just pure love and friendship.
@Justin21586
5 жыл бұрын
The moral of the story is that when your partner grows, you have to grow with them
@ladze77
6 жыл бұрын
If a couple never fight, they are not going to stay together, I hope they learn it’s ok to confront each other sometimes.
@Lisa_Flowers
6 жыл бұрын
I love The And because it gives us a raw and intimate look into other people's lives and relationships, but the risk of it (and of really any shows like this) is that we can fall under the assumption that we really know people's relationships when in fact, we don't. A lot of people are sad and disappointed about Mishal and Elliott's seperation and they have every right to feel that way (I do to), but I think it's dangerous for it to negatively impact your view of love or long term relationships as a whole, or to make you think that love is unnattainable or impossible or to even to draw really large conclusions at all. You have to remember that we only saw 12 minutes of their life and of their relationships in the last video, and under half an hour of it here (part 1 and presuambly part 2). You can't get an accurate view of anything in 12 minutes. This is not at all to discount The And as a valid and impactful show (nor is it to discount what the people who participate in it are willing to share of their lives: they can't show everything) but it is to remind people that things aren't always what they seem. It's great to see positive depictions of relationships of all kinds (especially when you didn't grow up seeing them and are sometimes not sure they exist in a healthy way at all) but we should be wary of putting people's relationships on pedestals and seeing them as equal to love itself. We all have our favourite couples who seem perfect together, but you always have to remember that usually we are seeing the good and not the bad, the fruit of their labour but not the labour. What defines a relationship is the work put into it, not just the people. No relationship is impervious to conflict or trials or breakdown . Love has to be maintained and it doesn't matter how perfect two people are for each other if they don't keep choosing to do the work of being in a relationship, and sadly, sometimes the work goes too long undone, or people stop being on the same page. tldr; don't put people's relationships on pedestals no matter how perfect they look because we often only see the end result and not the hardwork or failure before success, and acknowledge that a couples relationship no matter how great or long standing stil needs to be maintained and needs hard work and if that work isn't done, things can break down. A relationship cannot last off soulmate status alone.
@digg1ty
6 жыл бұрын
Rocknalldatime99 thanks for this, very well said
@braidedbella5117
5 жыл бұрын
Agreed!
@greenb1877
6 жыл бұрын
She is hurt by his inability to relate to her pain,most definitely to find the strength to realise it won't change therefore going is the only way!
@bauthentic333
6 жыл бұрын
They dated for only ten months, she asked him to get married. He said no. She begged him until he did it. Tbh, they were doomed from the start m
@Achebi
3 жыл бұрын
True true
@itssssj
3 жыл бұрын
fax
@bogolinews6047
2 жыл бұрын
A woman should never beg a man...,this is coming from a man. Just looks desperate.
@coulorfully
4 жыл бұрын
beautiful gorgeous darling black women, don't ever beg a man to be with you. You bring too much goodness into the lives of a partner to beg. She knows now and that is growth
@chrissysconvos
4 жыл бұрын
His method of "Active listening" (mhmm,right,yeah)- isnt genuine, its dry and dismissive. He is hearing her but he is not fully engaged, it's a disconnect.
@daghettogandhi8746
3 жыл бұрын
He literally teased her when she said you have a special place in my heart. He goes “do I ?🥺 “ and folds his hands as if mocking her. So sad
@echakamonjok
6 жыл бұрын
😭😭😭😭 I remember their first video! He was her faveorite person! Come on! Noooo! Y’all have got to fight! I don’t know them but I know for me if I really love someone, I’m fighting. We in this together. I’m committed. I like and I love you. I would want to marry someone with the same mentality, like for real. We won’t even use the d word, divorce. It won’t be in our vocabulary. I’m sooo serious. Especially when I marry my best friend? My favorite person?? Hell no lol I’m not losing you. Marriage is rooted in committed. I may not feel all those love feelings but I’m going to love you. I choose to love you-be gentle, kind, faithful, etc. and it goes both ways. When you reallly love someone you choose to love despite their imperfections. However before you can really love someone you have got to LOVE YOURSELF. Love is not a feeling.
@shumetesam7407
5 жыл бұрын
Well said
@needtoknowtruth7035
5 жыл бұрын
Agreed.
@godsbabeborn-again5945
4 жыл бұрын
💯
@JoanneCheptoo
4 жыл бұрын
Damn!!! You said it juuuust right💯 I love this. Fight for it.
@sarahxrose
6 жыл бұрын
I love how they respect each other. Separating is hard, but sometimes it's the best decision
@VasHappeninCocineras
6 жыл бұрын
Why are so many of y'all sad and suggesting that they work it out? I'mma suggest y'all question the "one-person-till-death" romanticism you've been socialized. Life is about your journey and you choose to bring people into YOUR journey to connect with them and contribute to your growth. They are still connecting, and that is beautiful. They said they are no longer growing together, and it is also beautiful to be able to claim that. Relationships don't have to end because of conflict. They can end in order to go on a different path of your journey. They spent 13 years together, that's a big chapter, but there's more to the book of life. Congrats to them for a beautiful connection and I wish them prosperity on their future paths.
@mishalmooremusic
6 жыл бұрын
Yes. YES. You get it! Thank you for your intellect and understanding ☺️ Mishal
@msknich0le
4 жыл бұрын
Marriage is a lifetime commitment. For better or worse. It shouldn't end unless cheating it death occurs. People seem to forget worse can happen and bail when it does.
@thegrandoti00
4 жыл бұрын
@@msknich0le How can you utter those words with the current divorce rates; where women, by the way, file for 80% of divorces. Like the initial poster stated; you've been socialized to believe what you believe.
@organicallyhannah
6 жыл бұрын
April Fools was 4 Days ago .... do y’all need a calendar
@Aritul
5 жыл бұрын
🤣
@Big87653
3 жыл бұрын
😂😂😂
@MinaMina-tf7ig
6 жыл бұрын
They still have respect for each other, it is obvious. I feel they'll still be in each other's lives. The background noise was very distracting.
@beam8250
6 жыл бұрын
She's so beautiful, and deserves a man who really values her. I wish them both all the best!
@CC-fq9uz
6 жыл бұрын
Sooo this is what is meant by "uncoupling".. what a beautiful way to reflect and end a journey in their lives..#positivityloveandkindness ❤
@Eveningbreeze721
6 жыл бұрын
kissed-by-carol great comment
@ymb6987
6 жыл бұрын
Literally loved their first video and truly respect them even more with this one.
@okalaniwilson4159
6 жыл бұрын
WAIT A DAMN MINUTE.... does Elliot have a bit of a English accent? It seems to come and go.
@sagalwarsame5984
6 жыл бұрын
Okalani Wilson Yes he is from London
@hellensonga8009
6 жыл бұрын
I literally stopped the video to look for this comment. I hear it too but then I hear the American accent & just hahdofksozfoanchisjs
@layobenson3841
6 жыл бұрын
it’s really been there the whole time
@rubyvasquez8433
6 жыл бұрын
Okalani Wilson haha yeah he does. He’s been in the US way too long lol
@DeeperThanMyThoughts
6 жыл бұрын
As a Brit, it's pretty easy to recognise. He doesn't sound in the least bit American.
@MsDee-xc8uc
6 жыл бұрын
Whose going to show Elliot the way home?
@PerfectlyFlawed101
6 жыл бұрын
I am so much like him and my ex was soooo much like her. I loved every bit of this. Def opened my eyes. I avoid confrontation like a plague because I know the destruction I can cause. So this here def opened my eyes to how it can actually affect the other person.
@jdoe3240
6 жыл бұрын
I'm glad they admitted that they went about the marriage route impulsively hence their current situation. Stop rushing to tie the knot, and get to to know each other for some time. With that said, if it's meant to be between these two, I hope they can work out their differences and rekindle their relationship. If it's not meant to be, I hope they find compatible partners and learn from their previous mistakes.
@jdoe3240
6 жыл бұрын
Based on what she said, it's implied that they dated for months before getting married. She said "There was this moment where I was like "If you think I'm gonna date you for 10 months, that's not happening". They both said getting married was impulsive.
@naima6967
6 жыл бұрын
Nooooooo! 💔 This was one of my favorite couples. It's heartbreaking, but also weirdly reassuring to witness the level of respect they maintain for one another.
@theruthellen
6 жыл бұрын
Nooooooo! Saw the notification with the headline and my heart sank. I hope they do what’s best for them, they seem like beautiful human beings 💜
@nusafee12
6 жыл бұрын
This conversation is important to have. We are still mastering communication and understanding. Marriage is a partnership, they hit a chord when they said that they weren't growing together, but they are still in business and interacting, that's encouraging and very mature of them. Thanks for your vulnerability and sharing with us that even though you're not together there is a peaceful arrangement between you guys love and respect :)
@relaunchinglife
6 жыл бұрын
Their communication is exactly like me & my ex - I always want to talk about our relationship & he never did - so because he never realized how he really felt about things, because he never spoke about them - I never knew who he was
@bolanleadisa
6 жыл бұрын
Wow! Thank you for this video! This was a wake-up call for me. When Elliott pointed out that Mishal is frank and direct with everyone else but takes a defeatist approach with him, that hit a nerve. It pretty much sums up how I handle issues in my relationship. I get really frustrated with trying to explain my frustrations when my S.O is taking a defensive stance. I just drop it and it boils over pretty often. After this video, I've figured that open, honest and immediate communication is vital to the overall health of relationships. We talk for hours like you both did but the issues that cut deep in our hearts are still not being addressed. Good luck to you Elliott & Mishal! I wish you success in your endeavours. May you find favour wherever the soles of your feet touch!
@ginamcintyre806
6 жыл бұрын
She's still in pain and he's not.
@Jrfusion08
6 жыл бұрын
He's in pain he just shows it in different manners. But he has accepted their fate whereas she is still hopeful.
@etf42
6 жыл бұрын
if he shows pain she will look at him as weak and lose respect and attraction for him
@organicallyhannah
6 жыл бұрын
Hurts to watch.
@ayodejiboyede4594
6 жыл бұрын
organicallyhannah very! Especially when u had watched the previous when they were still together
@raginbaby
6 жыл бұрын
You can see the sadness in her eyes, whereas he looks thrilled!
@uzzygal2k10
6 жыл бұрын
I remember hearing they have decided to part on there podcast and I had to take a moment. Girl several moments. Having watched this though I can tell they do still love each other so much, and I am sooooo rooting for them to work on their differences & get back to being in love. Y’all are literally my most fave couple everrr. Cannot wait for part 2!
@smallappetitemukbangs8582
4 жыл бұрын
He is not a good listener. He listens too respond and not to understand.
@influencedaesthetic9550
6 жыл бұрын
I’m still rooting for them...!!! I wish that I can one day have this much maturity and articulation towards my spouse regardless if we stay together or not. It’s good to know there is a sense of direction of life after a breakup of any kind. So many people are devastated & lost after breakups. These guys have shown me that you don’t have to be everything for anyone...you just have to be your authentic self... if it works it works if it doesn’t it doesn’t. That doesn’t mean you throw the person away you just begin to love and appreciate them in a different way. I hope they decide to remain in one another’s life as friends at least.
@mishalmooremusic
6 жыл бұрын
INFLUENCED AESTHETIC exactly. And we are still very much friends AND business partners ;)
@influencedaesthetic9550
6 жыл бұрын
mishalmooremusic that’s awesome.... you both are inspirational beings. Continue growing and doing what makes each of you genuinely happy. I wish the best for you guys business endeavors in every successful way.
@hopscotch39
6 жыл бұрын
I gasped in sadness when I first saw the title for the video. But after watching them talk, they’re still my faves. It sounds like they’re being really thoughtful with their decision and how they view the beginnings and path of their relationship. I really connected to what Mishal was saying in the second video about how she couldn’t take how he continually shut her out. I felt that. I wish them both the very best, and they’re both very pretty people, so they should do fine in LA lol.
@Naeema311
Ай бұрын
RIP Mishal. So sad to hear the news. This episode introduced me to the Skin Deep and this will aware be one of the most beautiful conversations I’ve witnessed ❤
@TR-vh1fi
24 күн бұрын
What do you mean RIP?
@kaeeross6809
24 күн бұрын
@@TR-vh1fi Mishal recently passed away
@TR-vh1fi
22 күн бұрын
@kaeeross6809 ohh my goodness :(💔
@ShaliahzJustOriginal
6 жыл бұрын
Tisha Campbell's twin brother.
@monetchic
6 жыл бұрын
Vudaux Damn Gina..... took the words out my mouth
@lichi1244eva
6 жыл бұрын
Vudaux OMG that's right 😂😂😂
@B.Christine_W222
6 жыл бұрын
I see it too!!!! Someone show her this lol
@kaydeep7880
6 жыл бұрын
I'm steel here
@jenrobinson7883
6 жыл бұрын
Omg!
@lookingforsure
6 жыл бұрын
i think he jokes too much and after 13 years she felt like he wasnt maturing up enough to match her drive
@ayodejiboyede4594
6 жыл бұрын
lookingforsure I agree
@zainabmejja9936
6 жыл бұрын
Totally. She's like 'dude, I'm serious.' And he's like 'oh c'mon, we're cool, nothing is wrong, let's just smile and live together' 😒
@etf42
6 жыл бұрын
if he was serious, she would complain that he doesn't joke enough. don't ever worry about what a woman wants.
@gloriawuwu
3 жыл бұрын
@@etf42 did you not watch the same video she's clearly communicating what she needed from him and voicing valid concerns about her relationship its not about him not being serious enough or she would complain if he was you're twisting things around based on stereotypes maybe gain some critical thinking skills and watch it again
@jackiejacksful
6 жыл бұрын
Gutted....but they said seperating so hopefully they will find their way to each other again.
@ravenanderson1695
6 жыл бұрын
Omgggg between Jenna & Channing now them I can’t deal. I’m in mourning. Really guys all while mercury is in retrograde??? lawd!!!
@alexapink2529
4 жыл бұрын
He's not taking it seriously enough. He puts in comedic moments when the timing is wrong and he needs to confront the tension not deflect from it
@alexiasomerset2534
4 жыл бұрын
Alexa Pink he seems gay 💁🏽♀️ that’s why it didn’t work
@gloriawuwu
3 жыл бұрын
some good points also she even says they both dont like confrontation but she still tries to voice what bothers her and hes dismissive about it
@daaayum_gena
6 жыл бұрын
I am absolutely grateful that these two shared their story after so many of us were "Goals"-ing their relationship. Their first video, demonstrated precisely the kind of relationship that I want. That deep-seated friendship where the romance bloomed in moments that are otherwise mundane with less connected couples. And, in the age of social media, the comparison game is real. That awesome feeling of watching Mishal and Elliot, or Ben and Sidra, or Keisha and Andrew (all my favorites), as well as people that I actually know, mixes with a worry that I won't find what they have. But then you see this second installment where two dynamic people who demonstrate an amazing chemistry need to take time apart because of the very real problems they were facing. And they don't know whether it's permanent or temporary. And this grounded me again in the reality that regardless of what our perception is as outsiders, the perfect relationship doesn't exist. Cognitively I know, but we are products of our society, and ours romanticizes the shit of...well, romance. This has been long but maybe some of you can relate to what I'm saying. Thank you, Skin Deep, and Mishal & Elliot for this realness. Words cannot express how much I appreciate you for showing this.
@mishalmooremusic
6 жыл бұрын
Gena Brigham I love this. Thank you so much for not idolizing our relationship, but instead seeing there is no perfection in anything. Change is inevitable...the more we can accept change, the easier it is to remain present and thankful for every teaching moment life gifts us! Mishal
@spangled_soul
6 жыл бұрын
Love is CANCELLED if they've broken up forevaa. On a serious note, it just shows that love isnt always enough. I think it's sad that often we enter relationships without having done the work on ourselves (unhealed/resolved issues from childhood) and things inevitably negatively impact the relationships we have with people. It is however, respectable that they realized their issues and valued themselves enough to give themselves what they need. If they get back together they got to come back on (actually they should come back on regardless).
@mfaison93
6 жыл бұрын
I really hope they are able to work through their issues and come back together stronger than before. love prevails!
@brainsandbeauty2832
5 жыл бұрын
wow i love how well she articulated her emotion, i wish i can do this at crucial points
@justinaadk5081
6 жыл бұрын
I think one of the biggest challenges to millennial relationships is that we have so many exit strategies and people on the outside gassing us up and vying for our attention, that it's harder today to actually work on your marriage (which will forever require effort no matter how perfectly matched you are) than it is to leave it. "Till death do us part" has become as much of a lie as "I love you".
@annaelise207
6 жыл бұрын
I loved (still love) this couple. Oh my heart!
@Denailacole
4 жыл бұрын
She’s gorgeous, but she looks worn out. Somehow he looks revived, he’s smiling every other minute while she looks serious. She came into this relationship as a “pick me” when she is so much for than that. Hope this decision stands, because she deserves better ❤️
@Tredale850
3 жыл бұрын
Well said 💓
@Zeeeeeeeex
6 жыл бұрын
I love Mishal. I've been watching her KZitem channel and listening to her music since high school. Wow time goes by fast. I wish she posted more. I also learned so much watching this. Thank you for sharing!
@trblessed1020
6 жыл бұрын
They still wear their rings so.......ijs
@rinasweetness
6 жыл бұрын
trblessed1020 they are separated, not divorced.
@traitorsss
6 жыл бұрын
She doesn't now.
@trblessed1020
6 жыл бұрын
I know but they spoke of dating others and possibly never reconciling so I'm sure they would remove rings if there was no hope
@kspencer5129
6 жыл бұрын
This is just a phase. They're definitely getting back together. Their bond has so much soul.
@birdiewolf3497
6 жыл бұрын
I don't know the details, but it really does seem like they could have tried more. Like the dismissiveness and the fear of confrontation all seem like things that can be worked on. I don't think a lasting relationship could function with those things, so instead of breaking up, work on them. I don't know. Maybe yall did and it was still an issue. I am just heartbroken that a beautiful couple, that can still make each other smile and giggle like yall just got together, are separating.
@zainabmejja9936
6 жыл бұрын
Birdie Wolf IKR! Like now they know, can they work on it?! Feels like it's not over.
@seriesthach
6 жыл бұрын
Yeah easier said than done ...
@birdiewolf3497
6 жыл бұрын
Series Thach never suggested that it was easy, but marriage is about going through the hard times. I get it if he isn't really gonna make an effort, but if he is trying idk why you shouldn't stand by him while that happens. Again she talked about how she worked on herself and they were still married. Now that he needs work done it is time to call it quits? It just didn't sit well with me.
@seriesthach
6 жыл бұрын
Yes I agree.. but it IS much easier said than done. Some of us do give it our all and still, our partner still find a way to fuck it up.. I was in a long term with my best friend of 15 years together for 4.. and he kept a lie from me of infidelity for an entire year.. It's painful and I am still here for him as a friend, as he's now going through this hurt and trying his best to accept the consequences of his mistakes.. So I am sure that she probably has already accepted his flaws on so many occasions and has forgiven him time and time again that she finally hit her breaking point... He not only screwed up our relationship, but he ruined our friendship. We've been friends since we were 13, and now I am 28.. I have accepted SOOOO many "weird" things that he's made me think was normal in a relationship, but when he screwed up...It's hard to even think about working through that.. I am sure this couple will always love each other as I will always love Anthony.. But it definitely will take a LOTTTT of time..patience.. "Love is patient....Love is kind.." In a marriage, you will find yourself falling in and out of love with them.. But each time you fall back in love with them, it's just so much stronger than before..
@birdiewolf3497
6 жыл бұрын
Series Thach And she let those things slide because of her flaws and fear of confrontation. It is one thing when you knowing hurt people but when you don't even know your are doing it, there should be at least an effort to make amends. I am fully aware that he was confronted but didn't really didn't want to work towards nothing or maybe she discovered that he does it on purpose. Idk. Just seems a bit cruel to be like you need therapy and I don't really want to be there for you while you go through it, but there is a door open for you to come back when you've fixed yourself. Especially considering in their first video they said they are quick to drop people. Which I personally never been comfortable with doing unless I have explored the necessary avenues.
@shashavengesayi6055
6 жыл бұрын
Y'all are getting back 2gether, there's still a lot of love
@Quesarahsarah97
6 жыл бұрын
Y’all are so emotionally intelligent. Literally inspiring
@moilwalk
6 жыл бұрын
Oh, I love you guys so much! I am so proud and excited for your growth. Well done!!
@mishalmooremusic
6 жыл бұрын
katlego moilwa thank you! 💋
@Noor-ug1no
6 жыл бұрын
i dont believe in love anymore
@etf42
6 жыл бұрын
"love" is a chemical reaction in the brain. its a trick to get humans to reproduce
@Eveningbreeze721
6 жыл бұрын
They still love each other though. Most love does not mean life long marriage.
@AdelaideAnn
6 жыл бұрын
There’s still hope guys!! 💕 Relationships and love take a LOT of hard work and dedication. Love and committing to one person isn’t easy at all. We all weren’t there for every second of their relationship so we don’t know what happened behind the scenes
@chanaef.8189
6 жыл бұрын
I literally just watched their first video yesterday...and now this? 😢 I’m shocked! But I love the respect and honesty.
@carmelliawright9936
6 жыл бұрын
I think that in every relationship you get to a point where you feel comfortable, and in that, you become routine and that doesn't lead to growth as a couple but an individual growth. Determining how to grow together while still being engaged with each other is super important in a marriage.
@katlegomhlauli8423
6 жыл бұрын
The pain in her eyes cuts me so deep
@Honeypepper.
5 жыл бұрын
6:34 Ok, from here, I now see the problem, and I totally get it. When some refuses to acknowledge or address or ignores someone's feeling toward a particular matter or issue it is a *SURE FIRE* way to end a relationship!
@amapparatistkwabena
6 жыл бұрын
This is such a mature conversation. Ugh! Even in breaking up you guys one up is! Much love. :)
@Sweeettt.Caroline
6 жыл бұрын
I watched their 'married' story just the other day and almost every comment said they loved them and the "feels" they got, but I could just feel something was off. DATING (for more than a year, my opinion) is so IMPORTANT, asking questions IS SO important. It was this episode of 'The Real' that basically summoned up LOVE is not enough COMPATIBILITY is extremely important as well. Praying for these two and their new ventures !
@Venus-ci7nw
6 жыл бұрын
I’m going to ignore this video and act like this isn’t happening right now....
@DarkMatter11k
6 жыл бұрын
When I saw their first session, I saw the huge differences between them. She was hurting in the first video. He seemed like he tried to be her rainbow and be her joy, not realizing that she needed to find it within herself.
@hollyken3
6 жыл бұрын
I love how well they listen to each other
@saucyfaces
6 жыл бұрын
Ugh! I could've done without this update honestly. Lol Wishing you guys the best tho.
@helene6686
6 жыл бұрын
This is just buring me deeper in my "I truly don't believe relationships work out" hole
@alreem9891
6 жыл бұрын
who tf is screaming in the background
@prettyhamburger6462
4 жыл бұрын
Probably an other "The And" session, lol 😂
@alisiayoung5796
4 жыл бұрын
😆
@ism711
6 жыл бұрын
so healthy! what a beautiful conversation
@chandlerfranklin8283
6 жыл бұрын
I admire how these two are okay with each other, they’re not angry, or hateful. They both respect and love each other still but they’re amazing.
@alexxolo
6 жыл бұрын
All people break up in the end.... I'm done with love
@b.h3877
6 жыл бұрын
that was exactly what i thought , their first video gave me hope actually ....
@AdelaideAnn
6 жыл бұрын
Not true! Everyone is different! There is still hope :) relationships and love just take a lot of hard work and dedication. It’s not easy, but it’s very possible
@drawingit9836
6 жыл бұрын
I've Never had a Boyfriend but i'm Really Scared
@matubatsimoloi104
6 жыл бұрын
I agree.. romantic love doesn't seem to exist
@etf42
6 жыл бұрын
"love" is a chemical reaction in the brain. its a trick to get humans to reproduce
@idaliakulik
3 жыл бұрын
I can just tell that it was the guy who suggested the separation from the body language of these two.
@soysuka
4 жыл бұрын
I have been listening to Mishal Moore's music for more than a decade! What a beautiful soul. I guess the lessons she learned with this man will make for more beautiful music. What a stunning woman.
@giovannataylor7598
4 жыл бұрын
This was a very healthy conversation
@Isthatjaleesa
6 жыл бұрын
Is still wearing the ring a common thing amongst divorcing couples? They seem so level headed and on page with the separation. Great video!
@isntshelovely5823
6 жыл бұрын
Noooooo. You dam right u crushed my heart!!! How dare u. Yall was my fav. I was rooting for you. We were all rooting for you!!! *tyra voice
@mishalmooremusic
6 жыл бұрын
Gloria Garcia 😂😂☠️
@jjmusiclover3
6 жыл бұрын
I’m cryinggggg!!!!!! They are just cute and mature communicators.
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