I have sat on the sofa with my mother-in-law folding wash clothes and hand towels for up to 45 minutes! We enjoyed conversations about her past while she folded. I also have an assortment of childrens socks of various colors and patterns that I have kept in a ziplock baggy. The more specific patterns for matching the more fun as in polkadots, stripes, hearts and even holiday socks like Christmas, Halloween and Valentine's Day. I only set out 4 sets at a time for her to match so she will not be overwhelmed. She loves helping me "do the laundry". Another activity she does for me is to match up lids and screw them onto kids no spill cups. Once again I make it easy by having different colored ones that have the matching colored lids, most are actiually interchangable so if she doesn't get the matching color that's ok. I have gone to educational websites for making word search puzzles. I set the setting to limit the columns and rows as well as only having the answers horizontal from left to right one answer per row. You can even handwrite these having only 6 to 8 answers even. I make copies and redo the same ones! I use family members names; simple names of flowers such as rose, tulip, daisy, lily etc.; things in a place setting like plate, fork, spoon, knife, cup and napkin; art supplies paper, pencil, paint, paintbrush. These are great to have on doctors visits as I set with her while waiting. I have an ancient IPAD that I downloaded some very simple kids apps such as "Flower garden", "Sago Mini Farm" and TV game show apps like "Wheel of Fortune" and "Family Fued" we do these together for as brief a time as she is willing while waiting at the doctor. I also always have those little snack packs of popcorn, cheese crackers, peanut butter and cracker and mini cookies with a small bottled water. She will say she is not hungary or thirsty but I simply open them and she manages to finish them off!
@helperboy5020
Жыл бұрын
Jeez your such a thoughtful person. I'm an asshole. I end up shouting at her, and feel like complete shit after a while. repeat this day in and out. (i have to deal with ocd/depression myself). I'm going to write the simple Puzzles for her. thank you
@ccpperrett7522
Жыл бұрын
Thank you for some wonderful ideas.
@djondjon
2 ай бұрын
@@marthadaniel4848 Sounds like your mother-in-law must be blessed to have you in her life.
@phyllissmith225
3 жыл бұрын
My siblings and I try to engage our mom to colour . Sometimes we colour with her. There are adult colouring books and lots of cool crayons these days. Some r even scented .Also we bring kid puzzles with the large pieces to do with her as she can no longer do normal puzzles. Another thing my sister did was buy some fake flowers from dollar store and a flower pot and get her to arrange and sort how she wants. Every day we get her to rearrange so she has a different pot of flowers each time. My mom loves bright colours so the more colourful the better!!
@denigrif3
3 жыл бұрын
Good one!
@sevendinosaursatemypizza
2 жыл бұрын
These are great ideas! Thanks for the tips.
@helperboy5020
Жыл бұрын
i will try the puzzle thing. Sounds good. I make her draw. Her drawing has gone downhill , but what to do. thank you.
@Tootsie806
4 ай бұрын
Coloring is a great idea,
@sarahlynch9596
2 жыл бұрын
I am a care provider to a dementia patient and we use fabric paint in tubes to paint rocks. It has been a wonderful way for her to feel good about herself and be creative. We picked out her favourite colors and she can even make gifts to give to her friends and family. The paint in a tube with a tiny nozzle allows her to control similar to a pen so she is successful. I've done this 3 times a week for a month and it's been great!
@Tootsie806
4 ай бұрын
Terrific idea.
@KiwiCakeful
6 жыл бұрын
I set up a small easel on a table with all the supplies to paint and showed my dad. He would thought the day sit and paint. I can really tell he enjoys it :)
@jurejo
5 жыл бұрын
Dancing,singing, walking & spotting trees,ships, birds, admiring nature in general, watching comedies,documentaries, talking in between, sharing a joke and laugh, having chats about various things they are interested in, etc,... being creative but very much depending on person's interests and preferences.
@nancyrandall1762
2 жыл бұрын
I have found that my older brother loves to listent to old music cds and although his short term is pretty nonexistent and his long term is also going, he is usually spot on with the artist and band. Another thing he likes to do is water his yard and sweep up the fallen leaves, so that we do together in the early morning, when it's still somewhat cool (we're in Arizona). Our habit every day, so far, is to sit out under the trees in the dawn hours and drink our coffee and talk about the birds, his flowers, the weather, whatever he comes up with. So far he's pretty active in the morning but by the afternoon, he's very sleepy which I've found is common among dementia sufferers. I think the key is to find things that the person liked when they were healthy and continue those when dementia strikes. Oh, and yes, we frequent the local Goodwill and he loves to see all the things that remind him of his past experiences.
@donbaxter7607
6 жыл бұрын
I am care giver to my mother, who is 91 years old. These videos are a great resource for me. It's only been the last 6-7 months where different behaviors described in these videos have been presenting themselves, so I'm educating myself as best I can. Thank you so much for these videos.
@DementiaCareblazers
6 жыл бұрын
Don Baxter, you are welcome! Sending all the best to you and your mom!
@lokisfriend
4 жыл бұрын
I am in the same boat as yourself, am so glad to have found these videos, they are so caring and gentle and they even help my anxiety levels a lot.
@djondjon
2 жыл бұрын
Did she have her covid 'vaccination' at some point prior to these symptoms?
@evacuatedspace6946
Жыл бұрын
Some dementia I've realised since my Mum 88yrs old has been showing obvious signs this year of it are not as severe as this, but keeping the person and their brain active constructively is I find key to reversing some effects. Good luck all of you. All the best. :)
@shinycretin
Жыл бұрын
@@djondjon Hey my Nan had her "vax" when she was under my Dad's care before it she was fine typical old age condition at 80, decent health, ok-good memory. She had the vax and is full-blown Dementia to the max, she does know her name and can eat well and walk around. Besides that her memory is out the window, it's sad n hard but the Good Lord has given my sisters and I strength to give her good care. Anyone else notice Dementia from the "vax"?
@brenteyre5892
4 жыл бұрын
Regarding polishing silverware or copper. Ketchup works great for polishing most metals. It is safe for anyone to use.
@DementiaCareblazers
4 жыл бұрын
Awesome, thanks for the tip!
@cockeyedoptimista
4 жыл бұрын
Thanks for bright suggestion! Hey, I think toothpaste works too! If you have some expired toothpaste, it's a good household tip too. Also could polishing jewelry work? Maybe could get lost, though.
@rlongjr6164
5 жыл бұрын
Have a few small puzzles ( 12 pieces or so ) made with family pictures or familiar scenes.
@godsvessel9306
3 жыл бұрын
Great idea!!!
@sueb6662
3 жыл бұрын
Where did u get them made
@ariana_208
3 жыл бұрын
@@sueb6662 there are stalls at the mall that make custom tshirts and mugs. You can check there or go online
@peforster6725
4 жыл бұрын
Thesen videos are so helpful! My mother-in-law was diagnosed with Alzheimer's a month ago. The difficult thing for my husband & me is that we live 10 hrs away from his parents. We've decided the best way to help out Dad is to be there to support him for a week or so every 6 to 8 weeks. This tips are great - gives me some tools & tips to help while I'm there.
@janisaldridge7239
2 жыл бұрын
The balloon game sounds great, I went out and bought two plastic tennis rackets from the dollar store, $1 each, and we shot balloons back and forth to each other. Another suggestion is paddle ball, which is 1 or $2 at the dollar store
@HelloKitty-ed5cy
4 жыл бұрын
Such good sensible advice. Thank you. I take my 90yo mum walking and she happily 'dusts' and waters her pot plants but I will adopt the other activities too. I also have taken notes from other comments here so I feel I have a good number of activities to draw on now. So thank you everyone. 😁
@AZHITW
Жыл бұрын
I made a bean bag toss game, rice in sturdy plastic bags I just stapled the bags closed and a photo storage box to toss the bags into. It was so much fun I even enjoyed it. He played bean bag toss until the middle of stage 6, then he lost interest. Another job he liked was I gave him a sheet of twist ties for food storage bags and asked if he would separate them for me, he did it for an hour or two while watching TV. He passed away a month ago.
@ahha351
3 жыл бұрын
One thing I often say my grandma with last stage dementia is that *YOU ARE SOO BEAUTIFUL..OO MY GOD HOW...* she always laugh at this
@janekreger5749
3 жыл бұрын
I have learned so much from these videos. I am a paid caregiver although I am a friend of the family though. I totally love doing this work.
@joanntakehara5390
3 жыл бұрын
My dad does puzzles. Only up to 100 pieces and the larger sized pieces but he’ll stay focused until he’s done. Unfortunately, most those size are very kiddie but pictures of animals work well. I also order some online with photos of family.
@lisalassiter1626
3 жыл бұрын
My mom loves to sort socks, fold towels and dance with my young children. As long as she is smiling and laughing I don’t care if the tasks are completed “correctly”.
@esotericsolitaire
3 жыл бұрын
That's right. I have plastic dishes also that can be sorted and put away. I don't care how.
@eandsm4620
4 ай бұрын
Hubby loves going down memory lane looking at pictures, his HS yearbooks, etc. Need to ask them to do this more often. Am fortunate he does still exercise alot and his summertime daily walk doesn't change (knock on wood) and we live in a small enough town that we both know folks that live on the streets where he walks. I have told a couple of folks on these streets about my husband. I need to be more proactive and be talking to more of the neighbors. I still write snail mail and he loves to look at the cards we recieve and arrange them on the table. I let him "decorate" the dining room table as we seldom sit at the table anymore (he's more comfy eating off a TV tray table while being seated on the couch). He's the decorator of the table for ALL seasons and takes his time and great pride placing cards & objects in just the right places. Thanks so much for your videos. They are loaded with helpful tips. Keep up the good work there are many stars in your crown!
@lauraantos3105
5 жыл бұрын
I really appreciate and am grateful for your videos, advice and experiences that you share. I recently came across your channel and I can’t stop listening to them! Every time a video pops up in my feed it seems to be the current challenge I’m having with my mom who has dementia. You are a blessing!
@carolyn6001
4 жыл бұрын
thank you so much for your time and effort to give us these resources when they are relevant to us as we need them.
@rlongjr6164
5 жыл бұрын
Draw a rectangle with 12 squares. Leave one square blank and write the numbers 2 to 12 in the remaining 11 squares. Using 2 dice, roll them and put an x through the box with that number. For example, you would put an x in the 7 box if you roll a 2 and a 5. Keep rolling until all the boxes have x's in them.
@cockeyedoptimista
4 жыл бұрын
Is there a point to this game-like activity or doesn't it need one? For that matter, could they play a game (like big tic tac toe)? Or is that too hard?
@paularoberts866
3 жыл бұрын
Great idea
@paularoberts866
3 жыл бұрын
Awesome
@ericribbens4645
4 жыл бұрын
good ideas. My wife loves to knit. She doesn't know what she is making now, but enjoys it.
@sarahstrong7174
4 жыл бұрын
Make sure plants that might get watered are not near electrical outlets or items. Or close to important papers.
@BenjaminGib
4 жыл бұрын
My mom would definitely refuse to do any of these things or can’t do them. 😔 She is too much preoccupation w “going home, I’ve gotta get home, why won’t you take me?”
@hannahrn9470
4 жыл бұрын
BenjaminGib yeah. I agree. My LOWD is experienced the same. Too much stimulation cause the sundowning.
@passionatesingle
3 жыл бұрын
Have you tried taking her out for a drive? When my mum 'wants to go home' even though she is home I usually take her for out for about 30 mins and on the way back I always mention the last few streets we pass before reaching our street and saying home now as she still remembers the street name and number although not the house. This usually works for me as its the sense and feeling of 'returning home'
@kathyoverton998
3 жыл бұрын
I wonder if having her pack a bag because you are leaving to take her home tomorrow will help. Then tomorrow, say "But you just got here for a weekend visit. Here lets unpack." And maybe write ask her to dictate a letter home?
@joy2dworld595
3 жыл бұрын
It may mean something else. I reassure my dad by begging him to stay with us, we love having him here, it's getting dark, you've had a drink. When I mention we've got a bed made up for you he looks really relieved. "Oh have you?" That's what it was all along, he was just tired
@papabear2515
3 жыл бұрын
When they’re asking or wanting to go “home” it always always means their childhood home - physically or emotionally - meaning, they want to either truly go to their childhood home or they want to feel like they did when they were home as a child. It’s where their strongest memories are. Often, sadly. neither of these desires is an actual option. When my mom starts the “I just want to go home” repetitions, I try and empathize with her and say things like, “I know mom, and someday we will go there” (because her memory is so impaired, she doesn’t remember that we’ve said that, but in that moment, she’s a bit happier hearing that) and then I try to talk with her about what kind of things she did as a child - ex: when you were a child, what did you like to eat, did you have a garden, did you walk to school, etc. (Even though I already know her what she will answer- it doesn’t matter at all.). This seems to both make her a bit happier and also distracts her from the repetitive phrase of “I want to go home.” Sometimes other distractions work that are more physical in a nature …. telling her I need help and then asking if she can I help me by - sorting socks, folding towels, etc.
@jacquelinemako637
2 жыл бұрын
I appreciate your helpful videos. I no longer feel alone and frightened thinking about what is coming next. I look forward to every video and enjoy watching them twice. Thank you from Ponte Vedra Beach, Florida.
@stephanieringler443
5 жыл бұрын
We went through a photo album. Photos of her trip back in 2008 she went overseas with her sister. A number of photos that she wanted put in her book album. The non technical way. It got her to look at the photos and talk about it.
@karenc2844
4 жыл бұрын
My 98 yr old mother lives with me... not ambulatory, w macular degeneration , with probably anesthesia induced dementia from surgery to fix a broken bone from a fall last year...it is my pleasure and honor to care for this woman who cared for me and my 5 siblings (along with dad), who was a Girl Scout leader, a teacher, and mentored elementary students until she was 90! I choose to remember who SHE is.. loving, committed, patient, devoted, sharing, smart, funny, giving... all those qualities that i won't let dementia take away from the "who" behind the disease....all that said.. it is heartbreaking to watch this once vibrant woman suffer thru the confusion, the feelings of uselessness, the "loneliness" she can sometimes feel despite family being around her daily because she can't remember sometimes as soon as they walk out the door....i do look for things to help her feel useful... she dries dishes, folds washcloths, dish towels (bath towels too big).. might try dusting.. might hand her the garden hose and have at it... thanks for the ideas..
@saraharold3670
3 жыл бұрын
Shelling peas and other non knife vegetable jobs comes to mind. Also doing a photo album together sorting photos and sticking them in the album.
@cindypatrick785
3 жыл бұрын
Dad and I took all of his photographs that were loose in a drawer and put them in a photo album. It helped give me a better idea of how much his Alzheimer’s disease has progressed because he could give me names of people in the pictures from his teen years but couldn’t recognize his home in Branson, Missouri that he lived in for 4 years😏. So we will go through the album from time to time and see what he remembers then.
@adubs6646
6 жыл бұрын
She loved a task, no matter how small. Also she watched as her spouse had PT and did the execute was doing🙂
@manuelitodivinabendano910
6 жыл бұрын
Nice advice
@Tootsie806
4 ай бұрын
My brother in law is still mobile and he loves dogs, so we volunteer at the animal shelter a few times a week. Just simple interaction with the dogs makes such a difference for all of them,
@angelh8262
3 жыл бұрын
My friend is recovering from a stroke which has resulted in early stage vascular dementia here are some of the daily activities we enjoy doing together; Play board games; ie scrabble, dominoes, snakes and ladders. Fill up the bird feeders with peanuts or wild bird food. We have a washing line so she helps me hang out the washing, by handing the items to me from the laundry basket. Folding the clothes when they come out of the dryer/ washing line. Painting/staining the garden shed using a paintbrush with a tin of water as a treatment, any teabag can be used to stain the water ( great for the men) Colouring books Writing simple words - you will be amazing what he/she has the muscle memory to spell! Look at books together with large colourful pictures, especially babies and animals or whatever the person’s interests are. Make a scrap book together. We go for a short walk every day, if we can take a dog along with us all the better! Sometimes, if the weather is fine we make a little picnic and have a snack on the bench in the park. If my friend is feeling tired we might sit out in the garden and watch the birds feeding from the bird table together.
@jacquidixon2665
6 жыл бұрын
I’m so glad I came across your videos, they are so useful. Thank you!
@DementiaCareblazers
6 жыл бұрын
You are welcome, I'm so glad they are helping!
@karylpowell-booth6674
5 жыл бұрын
Thanks for sharing. These activities sound good. My grandmother is 98, has dementia and is also blind, but is able to move about with assistance. I will adapt some of these to suit her situation. Some of them I actually use already.
@virginiawallace87
4 жыл бұрын
Maryland (If I May) Are you familiar with Library for the Blind? They will supply a recorder and mail you tapes on many subjects and also books. My husband has been blind for 25 years and enjoys listening. It is a great “calmer down “ for him. God Bless You being so kind. I know I can be very difficult at times but you will never regret any time you can give to help her out. Do not allow yourself to get to stressed out. This is not good for you. Prayers for you and all caregivers we are certainly being tested with you this new outbreak. 😷🇺🇸👍
@creativecompanion
7 жыл бұрын
Thank you for all of these videos. I would like to be a caregiver and these are a great start.
@mickeemickee3713
3 жыл бұрын
I hope it works out for you. I am a caregiver my 90 yo dad. Didn't have a good relationship with him over the years. So, I hope it works for you and you enjoy it but not working very well for me.
@markallen5104
5 жыл бұрын
Thank you your such a blessing!
@onthehill3381
11 ай бұрын
For the life of me I can’t get over how my 89 yr old mom with moderate late stage dementia can do 300 piece puzzles on her own. They aren’t easy ones either. She has a huge library of puzzles we put together for her.
@laurdmera3900
4 жыл бұрын
I spelling word and she said the words, I give a book and pen so she write down the memories she still have before vanishes, she have intact the long term memory so is enjoyable heard stories about her childhood, went she meets her husband ,she is not related too me, but I have a coneccion with her ,god blessed a family with a patient suffering from this
@DementiaCareblazers
7 жыл бұрын
What activities have you tried with your loved one with dementia?
@Joy4650B
7 жыл бұрын
I moved my 89-year old Mom in with me January 1, 2017 which is now 10 months ago. She has had dementia for many years, but I was never able to help her until she started falling several times a day. I have had to figure a lot of this out on my own because I just found you yesterday, lol. My Mom was always a fanatic about the laundry, so I decided to have her FOLD the laundry. She is GREAT at it. Can't fold a sheet into the size of a postage stamp anymore, but she folds towels and underwear and pajamas perfectly. She LOOKS for laundry to fold. She always wants to know if we are washing anything. I wash dish towels every day so she can fold them. And JUST BY ACCIDENT we discovered a few weeks ago that my Mom loves to spell words. She used to be a writer and kept journals her whole adult life. I was playing a word game on my phone one day and was sitting across from her on the patio. I started telling her the letters I was trying to UNscramble, and she was trying to spell words but couldn't really do it without seeing the letters. The next day, her part-time caretaker (who had been there on the patio) found a Boggle game in Mom's closet. She poured the letters out onto a table, and my Mom spelled over 50 words with them! They now play that game daily when I am at work. Mother also loves to take walks from the back patio to the front patio and sit on the porch swing. She also wants to have a calendar on the table in her room. She makes notes on it all the time about her bathroom activities and names of people who are coming. I print out a new monthly calendar each month with large squares for her to write on. She makes a lot of mistakes, so I got her an erasable ink pen. Another thing I have done is make 4x6 index cards with the name and picture of caregivers, the chaplain, the nurse, etc. She keeps them on her nightstand and shuffles through them a lot to "plan her day".
@edenpereira4
6 жыл бұрын
I made my dad jog around the park, and at 84 yrs old, he jogged 3 laps, and walked around the neighborhood in 34° weather
@salehmalaeb9834
6 жыл бұрын
Cool stuff....it's sad u know...heartbreaking....important thing is to never stop loving them
@mgyder
6 жыл бұрын
I play cards, gin rummy, also scrabble, it makes her think of words, there are a lot of fun game board games out there that they can play. And it's fun for both of us!!!
@Wisepati
6 жыл бұрын
My mom also loves to fold laundry. I found some puzzles with large pieces. I have tried simple coloring books but she is not super interested.
@frankiefurbag9030
3 жыл бұрын
My mom will do jigsaw puzzles, 97 and has no clue what day it is but she can finish a puzzle in a few days. She knows I am her daughter though, never seems to forget that Oddly a friend just told me about folding towels. I wash a load every morning. She doesnt remember yesterday so no problem. She loves peeling potatoes and carrots and making batches to be frozen for weekly dinners. If I have to much in the freezer I just toss it out when she is not around and keep the cycle going. Love the socks, adding that to the routine.
@DementiaCareblazers
3 жыл бұрын
What great ideas!
@lindamaxey3827
4 жыл бұрын
You could even get a small basket from dollar store and get some things to sort , like wooden puzzle and books !
@valik5369
6 жыл бұрын
Thanks for these simple suggestions I hadn’t thought of.
@ellagrobler6982
2 жыл бұрын
Thanks for sharing. Let your LO fold some platic bags. They loved it.
@kathyclarke6327
3 жыл бұрын
It’s hard to entertain them all the time🥺 my husband just sat down after pacing the house for 3 hours😳
@eandsm4620
Жыл бұрын
What about playing some music for him, while he walks?
@rlongjr6164
5 жыл бұрын
Round up a small set of pictures of the same individual that are progressive ( different years where age increase is obvious ) and ask the LO to put them in order
@peggyharvey6558
3 жыл бұрын
My husband likes to watch the rabbits in the yard so I bought him a set of binoculars so he could see them better..he also likes to look out the double glass doors in the kitchen and loves to watch the squirrels come and get nuts off the deck..he loves watching them eat...he used to hunt and now says there is no way he could ever kill another rabbit or squirrel...thanks..
@danabenedetti8753
2 жыл бұрын
We bought our mother sticker picture books. She finds the sticker and places it over the corresponding numbered shape, which eventually turns into a cute colorful picture. When this is difficult for her, she calls out the number and her husband hands her the right sticker.
@Nicole-mr8po
2 жыл бұрын
I do the exercise, meditation (guided) and say rosary with my mom hope this gives someone ideas. Also, my sister plays BINGO with her.
@deniesekline-thatcher8380
2 жыл бұрын
Those are all good ideas 💡 another thing I found is singing church songs / reading Bible together play scrabble with no score keeping
@MontyVideo969
4 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for this video. Have you produced a video on why/how to overcome days when a person with early/mid-stage dementia says they "can't be bothered to read the paper" even though they used to avidly?
@anitanapp6759
3 жыл бұрын
It’s probably because they can’t comprehend what they are reading anymore! They act they are not interested anymore...
@sherrychristensen5127
2 жыл бұрын
My LO always read the newspaper with great interest daily. Then I began to notice he no longer had any interest in it, several days passed without reading it, and now no longer even notices it’s there. In the past he was a frequent book reader as well. Then I noticed he was carrying around a single book but not really making any progress. Now he shows no interest in reading at all. He also can’t use a phone or a tv remote. This is all normal progression I’m sure.
@patwestover2148
2 жыл бұрын
This is a great activity for my LO ! Thank you so much
@lindagraham8884
4 жыл бұрын
Thanks for the helpful ideas, really appreciate all the help I can get
@lokisfriend
4 жыл бұрын
me too, it's a scary prospect isn't it?
@linda.brotherton1689
2 жыл бұрын
I'm living in a nursing home and I sew dementia aprons with toys on, zippers, buttons and mazes and dolls. I love them very much. Hopefully expressing my brain will push dementia far away. What do you think I can do with them here in the nursing home.
@linda.brotherton1689
2 жыл бұрын
I also send videos so my daughter can get ready for me?
@christinpasker5211
4 жыл бұрын
My loved one has Lewy Body Dementia. As you know, depression is a common symptom. Due to the depression, my loved one has lost interest in almost all activities that he used to enjoy. How do I motivate my loved one to participate in the activities you and others have suggested? I cannot force him to engage in activities and it seems that he responds more positively to strangers than me.
@joy2dworld595
3 жыл бұрын
What helps my dad with Lewy Bodies is if he thinks he is helping me. He rarely has motivation of his own but he sounds pleasantly surprised if he's literally only holding a bag open or if when he's really messed things up I just act like he's helpfully sorted them. Then he gets loads of praise & thanks & he says he wanted to help
@vincenttoronto775
2 жыл бұрын
@@joy2dworld595 qvc
@thebelatexan4649
3 жыл бұрын
Thanks
@patrobinson7530
6 ай бұрын
Very helpful
@kathleenwylie6382
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for the ideas.
@jacquelinesierra9682
4 жыл бұрын
My mom has dementia and she’s pretty active. She likes to stay busy and loves to do stuff in the kitchen. She has basically taken over my kitchen and that’s fine with me. I no longer know where anything is. I love that she likes to do things around the house but The issue I have is she is constantly calling me and my husband when she misplace things or just to show us how good of a job she did. She constantly fusses when she can’t find things and it is irritating because she blames other people for the “disappearance”. My husband and I work from home and the constant interruptions can be very distracting. We live in a small house and work from our living room with no privacy. What do you suggest we can do?
@leejones4900
3 жыл бұрын
I know you may find this hard to believe or understand right now, but after your mom has been gone a few years you would pay $1000 dollars for just one interuption if you could. Trust me on this. Hang in there.
@cinthyaavelino859
3 жыл бұрын
Thank you 🙏🏼
@rhondabaroli2683
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for a helpful video
@selmapelaezhervas3891
6 жыл бұрын
Thank you for all of these videos. Can we prognose the evolution of our loved one with dementia?
@DementiaCareblazers
6 жыл бұрын
Selma Peláez Hervás dementia is so different for everyone. There is no way for us to know how fast it will evolve.
@youtubestreets8340
3 ай бұрын
How about some ideas for deaf individuals?
@Allergictocatstoo
4 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this!
@roseculp2924
5 жыл бұрын
Wonderful!!!
@SonnyGTA
3 жыл бұрын
These vids are great!
@christinamartina2914
3 жыл бұрын
Thanks.
@gwenpine2733
6 жыл бұрын
Non toxic silver polish is available. I used it in my classroom, but I can't remember the brand name.
@DementiaCareblazers
6 жыл бұрын
Gwen Pine awesome! Thanks for the info!
@dianamorihovitis5388
3 жыл бұрын
Thank you 🙏
@terrimaid
4 жыл бұрын
I have a question: my client wants to be as close to her partner as possible. Wants her partner to move her recliner next to her all the time. I don't think it is a good idea to oblige the client as the client needs tissues n a trash can to throw the soiled tissues away. The client has C.O.P.D on top of a page full of other ailments. She is also non- ambulatory and therefore a fall risk. Some of her non- ambulating is learned helplessness from being with another caregiver who maybe didn't exercise my client enough to keep her muscle tone strong.i told her partner that it isn't a good idea to move the chairs close to each other n that we just need to re-direct the client or change the subject. Any ideas out there?? Part of her behavior could be insecurity or fear that her partner would leave her..
@valeriesmith2627
2 жыл бұрын
I am really struggling with mega anxiety with my mother’s stages and her present condition
@LurkStarKing
Жыл бұрын
Often the simpler the idea the better
@glendajackson6244
4 жыл бұрын
Like these ideas.
@sueb6662
3 жыл бұрын
Good ideas 💡 👌
@kathyoverton998
3 жыл бұрын
My mother cared for a woman and would have her fold clothes with her and put clothes up. Then my mother would walk around and retrieve the underwear from the silverware drawer and places like that. It is sad to tell this story of what my mother did and now have to prepare to do it with her.
@cindypatrick785
3 жыл бұрын
I can relate, I let my 86 yr old dad clean his own house but when he goes outside to check the garden I give it the “ female touch”😘
@cathyswanberg413
4 жыл бұрын
These ideas sound great but unfortunately my husband has several other disabilities. He can hardly hear so music is out. he has a degenerative lower back so only gets around with a walker and has real mobility issues. I have a person come in for an hour each day to do some exercising and walking with him but other than that I can't get him to do anything but sit on the couch and veg or sleep. really at a loss right now. I try to get him to engage and he just won't. we sit in silence most of the time
@cockeyedoptimista
4 жыл бұрын
Good luck. It's a lot of work. Does he at least like to read, or watch tv? Can at least engage his mind. If he gets that it helps him to move once in awhile.. Look at pictures?
@biscuitpowder9700
3 жыл бұрын
Read to him something like short stories that are inspirational or comical. I like Chicken Soup for the Soul books. They hit on a bit of everything you can of. My 93 year old is very hard of hearing and blind and copd. She uses a speaker that is loud and she can hold it to her ear and hear her music. Helps alot. A visiting pet? Animals do amazing things for some people. Fidget blanket. Just throwing some things out there that I've done here lately.
@mstarr67
2 жыл бұрын
Dance party, balloon toss, wipe/dust furniture, mild stretches, water plants. Sort or match socks, clip coupons to clip coins, polish silverware, SEATED; dance party, balloon toss, stretching
@doriswinskie7049
3 жыл бұрын
I am having a hard time when my husband with dementia keeps saying things over and over such as “I don’t know” or ‘ok, ok”. After awhile it is nerve wracking. The one thing that he loves is I have a container garden in the yard and I have a comfortable chair for him in the shade and I play music for him. It relaxes him so much and he loves looking at the plants so much.
@DavidPerez-wz1ss
Жыл бұрын
My mom jumps a foot out of her chair and starts panicking if a ballon pops. Just a thought for others
@janicebeyer6231
3 жыл бұрын
how do I get a dementia patient to change clothes?.
@catherinebosley7539
5 жыл бұрын
Can any one advise on progress of Vascular Dementia?Husband 'recently diagnosed
@DementiaCareblazers
5 жыл бұрын
Wow, I'm just now realizing I don't have a video on vascular dementia. I'll have to put one together in the near future. The progression of vascular dementia varies greatly. It does not follow a certain timeline and is different depending on the other medical conditions involved, history of stroke, where the vascular impairment is in the brain and so on. With vascular dementia, it is especially important to control any vascular risk factors as best as possible (i.e., controlling any high blood pressure and diabetes). Eating healthy foods and regular exercise are also very important (for all dementias but especially for vascular).
@marygamble-coy4287
5 жыл бұрын
My dad has vascular dementia. Have you created a video about this? I would like info please.
@sv3216
2 жыл бұрын
Please stop peppering “loved one” all over your videos. It’s quite triggering for me because he’s not my loved one. He’s the one no one else wants to look after that abused me.
@DementiaCareblazers
2 жыл бұрын
I'm so sorry S V
@nyx3967
2 жыл бұрын
I'm sure a lot of people are in the same situation. Not everyone loves (or was loved by) the PWD (Person with Dementia) I'm so sorry you're having to deal with all this trauma 😔
@sv3216
2 жыл бұрын
@@nyx3967 that’s very kind of you. Thanks for understanding.
@karenfocht885
5 жыл бұрын
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@tonytackett3843
4 жыл бұрын
I have learned a great deal about the careactor of this disease. But it saddens me to say you give zero response to my greatest problem as a caregiver . Again I will state this problem and be more Blount about it. My family consists of 4 brothers and myself. I've spent a lifetime of being scapegoated by my brothers mother and father. After my fathers death I was asked to move in with my mother to take care of her. I sold my home and moved in with her on the agreement that they would sign the deed to her home over to me. Sense I've did so they now deny her problem and have use her statements of being mistreated against me in every way possible using this as a reason not to sign the deed. These problems have consisted of her false complaints of lack of medications and mistreatment by her doctors that resulted in them giving her medical advice over the phone. 4 near death experiences have occurred from this. Family ran to her aid to help her cope with the pain she suffers from old injuries, resulting in a severe drug addiction that caused bleeding threw her stool. The loss of blood in her body was "MORE" than half the blood in her body and caused her to fall in near accoma state. ER records report she had none of her life sustaining meds in her system and large amounts of hydrocodone. This caused her to get cut off her pain meds and entered into Casper, "the legal system for detection of drug abusers ". She now refuses to see a doctor and blames me for everything and the family blames me for her every complaint because I was the one that brought this drug abuse to the doctors attention. Upwards of 200 hydrocodone 10mgs and 6 to 10 oxycoton a month became her norm. She now tries everything she can to claim I abuse her in revenge. So you see my greatest problem is a legal problem. Nursing home can't help because she has had no doctor for almost two years now and they need a doctor and list of medical problems and meds to assess weather their equip to take her. Without further detail I will say her action have almost killed us both several times. I HAVE GAS HEAT AND STOVE. Chemicals such as cleaning products and kitchen knives. It is now spread threw out my extended family that I want to put her away to steel her home. Nothing make sense to me, but threw it all , I love her and no she doesn't understand the extent of these problems. PS. She maintains study vitals as that is all I can keep an eye on these days.
@cockeyedoptimista
4 жыл бұрын
No-one can read all you wrote, but perhaps you could check with some authorities: county or police..
@Emily_S2001
6 жыл бұрын
Trick them into doing your household chores!
@sarahstrong7174
4 жыл бұрын
Yep Grandma I really need you to take the big dustbin up to the road! Well maybe not but if they are happy washing up things that are not too fragile or sharp, washing the bathroom sink or pushing a broom round the patio or maybe just get them to sort the junkmail & put what they think should be in the bin.
@moretreeslessassholes1398
3 жыл бұрын
your videos have helped me so much with my father. thank you so much.
@debbykidd9813
3 жыл бұрын
We do a lot of brain teasers, crossword puzzles that are not overly difficult oh, word searches, missing letters, matching, and some jigsaw puzzles. All of these help her to retain as much cognition and executive function as possible. Although I know it is not permanent, she went from a 12 to a 21 out of 30 on one of the cognition scales after a month-and-a-half of doing puzzles and brain activities
@helperboy5020
Жыл бұрын
thanx , i must try .
@carolbenson6524
5 жыл бұрын
The balloon activity looks like fun! One of the patients that I helped at home LOVED helping me bake cookies...I had her measure ingredients and stir everything in the bowl. Would keep her busy for an hour!!
@DementiaCareblazers
5 жыл бұрын
That sounds lovely! Keep up the good work!
@kevinmccoy7385
2 жыл бұрын
Early in the summer I got my LO outside and we planted zinnia seeds along the side of the house and had him water "his flowers" every day. Now we go out and admire the flowers every day. Also my LO has adopted 4 feral cats he feeds twice a day. It gives him such joy to go out and talk to his cats.
@carolbenson6524
3 жыл бұрын
Two years ago I was taking care of an 82 year old woman that had frontal temporal dementia..what I found and relayed to her family was the fact that if the patient had an activity or chore or event to focus on...that they became almost free of their dementia..even if it was only for 20 to 30 minutes. So what you are saying in this video is so accurate and true and necessary. Thank you!!
@hemabatith4666
4 жыл бұрын
Some times my mama get angry ,first thing I cool myself and listen to her and show my love and care..
@moxig5717
2 жыл бұрын
This is such great advice, my dad always asks me if he can help me do anything And it sort of frustrates me because I think that he knows that he can’t do anything But all of this is new and I’m evolving through the process
@janekreger5749
3 жыл бұрын
I have a lot of your suggestions. My specialty is preventing anger. When I can tell he is getting ready to get mad, I simply change the subject. He loves the views from his home so can also change the topic pointing out things on or around what he sees. Pointing out something that he likes will end is bad mood quickly
@susanlarberg2380
2 жыл бұрын
I ask my husband to fold towels and he says “sure.” They’re not perfect but no matter- he says he wants to help cause he sees all I do around home. Thankful for that!
@ЛіліяЛаўрэцкая
3 жыл бұрын
And what can be suggested for a loved one with dementia who is completely BLIND and can hardly walk? Thank you very much
@shirazpatrawala6493
4 жыл бұрын
What if they are not interested in doing anything at all. How to convince them?
@jenniferrivera5995
3 жыл бұрын
That is my father... No interest in anything.
@shirazpatrawala6493
3 жыл бұрын
@@jenniferrivera5995 Yes so much to do but no motivation that's the biggest roadblock
@jenniferbueller2302
3 жыл бұрын
Often instead of asking if my father would like to do something with me, I just start doing it by myself right next to him, and then he decides to join in whenever he feels ready. Often it’s because he is not sure what I’m asking him to do and if I begin then it helps to remind him how to do the activity. Other times he watches me do a puzzle and he doesn’t want to help, but he will discuss the colors and the different shapes so he is at least engaged in a discussion. It doesn’t matter how much or how little they are involved, it just matters that they are feeling content.
@sjh9833
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for bringing this up. This is a difficult situation when there's not much they ever enjoyed. My dad has never been interested in much besides work and pulling weeds which he can no longer do. I'm going to have to find something for him to do...just not sure what yet.
@sjh9833
2 жыл бұрын
@@jenniferbueller2302 Thank you for this positive response. All we can do is keep trying.
@deirdrehelfferich8281
2 жыл бұрын
my wife just got diagnosed, I had the hope to turn it around or at least get her back to walking! I feel awful! I can't stopcrying...
@songbirdmedows
2 жыл бұрын
I just came across this video when I was looking for more activities to do with my client. I am a senior home care worker these people are not my loved ones they are my clients. I appreciate the, just not the term loved one. Not everybody that watches these I am sure is a family member..
@nyx3967
2 жыл бұрын
I think that PWD (Person with Dementia) is a better idea than "loved one" As you say, loved one is not appropriate for everyone (some people never felt loved by the PWD and have a very difficult relationship with them)
@jerraalexander4189
2 жыл бұрын
My husband has a negative attitude and will not participate in any cavities. I have tried puzzles, cards , board games, etc. All he wants to do is watch sports on TV. I need more suggestions on how to improve his attitude. I am using behavioral modification by refusing him what he wants to do until he does something I want him to do it no tv till he showers, etc. What else can I do? I'm getting frustrated...
@DementiaCareblazers
2 жыл бұрын
HI Jerra, This is Trisha. Dr. Natali's social media manager. I'm sorry to hear about your situation;. Here is a KZitem video she made that I hope can help you with your situation. 💖 kzitem.info/news/bejne/uKeK2aNra4F7lW0
@esotericsolitaire
3 жыл бұрын
My 98 year old swept the kitchen for me. She had to sit down quickly afterwards and went right to sleep. Lol. She also "does laundry" for hours at a time. Folds, unfolds, straightens and gets tired. Today, she does not want to do anything. Walking back and forth looking for a way out. I let her stick her head outside (100°F). She stepped back in and went to bed, wide awake. Thanks for this video! I had not thought about balloons.
@billbernhard3582
3 жыл бұрын
Thanks for this conversation ! Activities are key, so long as they do not develop control issues. Somehow, "being able to do tasks" turns into "I don't need//want you here - I'm in control of myself" ! Will try your ideas !
@sevendinosaursatemypizza
2 жыл бұрын
Wow I was already doing a lot of this. It’s good to know that my instincts were correct. Thank you for these videos. They always help in some way :)
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