I don't know that I would describe it the way you did, but the sense you're conveying is true for me. Ive had people I was very close to at the time that I haven't talked to or really thought about in years. When something does remind me of them, I do feel a pang of sadness or something -- missing them -- but then something else draws my attention away and can go months or years more without thinking about them. It's not at all that I don't care about them, I just don't have the capacity to keep them in my active memory because I have so many other things to keep track of. But I also think that if I had a more boring and consistent life that I might think about those people more.
@bekahh.5002
2 ай бұрын
"Object permanence" is not the same as "out of sight, out of mind". Object permanence is a developmental stage for babies. Until they develop this, they actually believe something does not exist if they cannot see, but they don't forget about it immediately. If Mom goes out of the room, the baby might cry because they think mom is gone from existence. Out of sight out of mind is when you are likely to forget about something because you cannot see it. You know it exists and you can still think of it if your memory is jogged by something else. This is why I like to have visual reminders around my house as Q's for tasks and routines that need to be done regularly. It's why I remember to do the dishes and forget to take out the trash. That said.... I find that this can be true for me a lot! It's gotten to the point where I will forget to message people and I don't actually miss them like I feel like I'm supposed to and I feel like I'm a horrible person for it. But knowing someone else can relate to this is validating.
@SYA357
2 ай бұрын
What he means is object consistency.
@HobbitBroad
2 ай бұрын
I had not realized this was an ADHD thing. It explains a lot.
@MKaylaT
2 ай бұрын
Exactly this !!
@collin2401
2 ай бұрын
This is wrong, please don't spread clinical misinformation based on anecdotal experiences
@SYA357
2 ай бұрын
What you describe sounds more like a component of attachment disorder. But then, again, us psychodynamical geeks argue that some ADHD cases are related to - or are minor forms of attachment disorders.
@edupunknoob
2 ай бұрын
Your experience is not universal. Please don’t speak for others in this way.
@cjbird7121
2 ай бұрын
Not true for all people with ADHD.
@tellkell9394
2 ай бұрын
Not true, this applies to you but not all
@evelynspaghetti4978
2 ай бұрын
Disagree. When you see something or hear something that reminds you of them, you remember them We obviously only focus on whats in front of us, but to say we don't miss people is not true..we just can go long periods where other things are taking up our time focus and experience
@DrakeWurrum
2 ай бұрын
Don't get stuck on the phrasing. The point is that we'll forget to interact with people for indeterminate periods of time, and then when we DO interact with them, nothing has changed for us. What you said in your comment is literally the same thing he's saying, but with different words because you got emotionally stuck on the words he chose.
@Dan1ell
2 ай бұрын
@@DrakeWurrum "What you said in your comment is literally the same thing he's saying," No, words matter.
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