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@SOCCERNUT32
5 ай бұрын
Abbey , I use to be 275lb at my heaviest as a teenager , I’m at 180lb and kept it off and in I’m in my forties . DO NOT deflect on what Blair is appropriating calling out which she is totally , 💯 correct . All these creators are using the visual ( bring fat ) in some sort of expressing who they are . Their weight is a catalyst to who they are and they are about . We ALL know fat is not healthy and being fit is in general. Being in great shape for most of my life now doesn’t mean I don’t have issues but as to say fat in-hanses a better way of life , you’re just lying to these kids . Call it what it is ! Everyone is so concern not to hurt peoples feelings but you’re doing an injustice rationalizing fat is okay . As a gay , ex vet . Dude , being real and telling me the truth for my health and in the military my survival was the best thing . People are too weak these days to accept and receive basic facts .
@TheSnuffy1994
6 ай бұрын
Pretty sure the woman who says her cat needs to be fat is absolutely 100% sarcastic
@brittneymorgan7455
6 ай бұрын
Yes! Thank you! Clearly a response to people saying those things unsolicited.
@agnesmarion8161
6 ай бұрын
Honestly you never know...but I suspect so, yes 😅
@lindsaybeyerstein7096
6 ай бұрын
I think I recognize that activist. If it's the person I'm thinking of, she has some odd FA views, but she's being sarcastic in this clip.
@mariannescheesepulls
6 ай бұрын
It’s 100% satire 😂😂😂
@cindyblount8621
6 ай бұрын
Yes, I figured that was pure satire.
@AlinaTowers
4 ай бұрын
I joined a Food Freedom online community for support, and here's what I would say. It's not JUST the extremes that are the problem. This community believes doctors should NOT weigh them or mention their weight. So a woman posts that her doctor told her she needed an operation for something, but that her weight put her at increased risk of complications. She was incensed. Her husband wrote the doctor and told him he has no business mentioning his wife's weight. As a nurse who agrees with you that everyone deserves respect, this mentality blows my mind! We're telling doctors to neglect their duty to warn clients because it makes them feel bad. Denying reality isn't going to help anyone!
@julibeanbag
6 ай бұрын
The way the girl says “just because I’m fat doesn’t invalidate the things I say” and then this woman immediately goes “she’s dead”. Okay, she didn’t say “I’m fat and I’m the healthiest person and I’m going to live forever”. For someone to say, hey I’m still a human being with valuable thoughts and feelings and just going “oh well she’s dead” is just a disgusting response.
@AbbeysKitchen
6 ай бұрын
Truly
@WiseMindNutrition
6 ай бұрын
That part got us also, everyone deserves respect regardless of body shape/color/size!
@chuyistheshiz6811
6 ай бұрын
It's not disgusting. Blaire told no lies. She literally just said she was dead.
@sophialw
6 ай бұрын
@@chuyistheshiz6811 oh I just know you would lose your shit if anyone would say something like that when your mom dies. It’s not about truth, it’s about being insensitive and disrespectful.
@esikazemese
6 ай бұрын
Just don't be surprised if you're insanely obese and you die young.@@WiseMindNutrition
@dagnolia6004
6 ай бұрын
Blair is NOT a dietitian, nor does she pretend to be. she is saying it is UNHEALTHY to glorify UNHEALTHY behaviors....
@MarissaSmith20
6 ай бұрын
You have zero idea what someone eats when overweight just by looking at them . Medicine can make you gain weight,hormones can make you gain weight. I had an ed and I still was considered “overweight” despite being a size small in clothes. Now I eat way more than I did when I was fat am considered a “healthy weight”
@paarthurnax8519
6 ай бұрын
@@MarissaSmith20Those are the exception, not the rule. Overeating is the #1 cause of obesity. Stop with the lies.
@MarissaSmith20
6 ай бұрын
@@paarthurnax8519 I mean with a well thought out statement like that how could I possibly disagree 😂 ….. however I’m a scientist I’d love to discuss more. Overeating is clearly one reason someone might be overweight, it’s also not the only reason. You are confusing causation and correlation. If we look back at history in America when we saw obesity rates go up coincide with when America sold out food systems to factory farming and “convenience ” foods. Both things destroy a lot of the nutrients in foods so as we eat those foods our bodies are still not getting the nutrients our bodies need leading the signal to our brains to eat more, we also saw another uptake in obesity when they started putting sugar in everything. It also overfarmed our soil leaving even fruits and veggies less nutritious that it was…..We also know that mental health and stress are huge factors in overeating. America is literally one of the most stressed out countries in the world. Another thing and this is just my opinion is that Americans are shallow as hell and judge people’s morality by how they look, which adds to stress. Genetics are also a huge factor, I have several skinny friends who eat like garbage most of the time and no one judges them …why? Because it’s not about health it’s about being able to shit on a group of people that you view as immoral because of how they look… so YOU stop with the lies. And to ignore my actual personal account of being fat, is callous but from birth literally I born 9 pounds what could I have done at birth- 6 years to lose weight?? Because my parents fed me healthier than most kids…. No juice, lots of fruits and veggies, wasn’t allowed dessert or seconds…If you’d like to look at the cdc causes of death in America for 2021 which I think is the most up to date but i might be wrong, the number one cause is heart attack, which we know people who are not genetically obese have a higher incidence of heart attack but the number one group is actually female runners within the heart attack group, second is cancer, third was Covid and fourth was accidents soooo looking at that the number of heart attacks was 695,547 and cancer was 605,213 about even but do you blame cancer patients or judge them no cause again it’s not about health, it never was. It’s about thinking someone has the moral high ground because of looks.
@user-ri5ex9xl9e
6 ай бұрын
@@MarissaSmith20 Blair specifically went after fat influencers who do eat massive amounts of unhealthy foods.
@julia_biss
6 ай бұрын
@@MarissaSmith20 You're right but that isn't the point. People PROMOTE obesity and it's a problem
@mysticmama_3692
6 ай бұрын
As someone who is overweight myself...I get what Blaire is saying and it doesn't offend me whatsoever. She's specifically talking about the "health at every size" and "fat positivity" influencers. She's not shaming the average fat person...but those that specifically push the idea that fat people are just as healthy as anyone else. We have decades and decades of medical science that is ignored to push these ideas, and anyone that even remotely suggests that they are at risk for diabetes, heart attack, stroke, and other major health issues that lead to an early grave is attacked as being "fat phobic". Again, this is specifically about fat positivity INFLUENCERS who's content allows dangerously overweight people to make excuses to themselves to continue the lifestyle that will eventually kill them. Blaire is just being very blunt, which offends a lot of people...but she isn't wrong that depression rates are sky high with overweight people, and that the mortality rates are also sky high. She's just not kind with her delivery. It actually disgusts me to see fat influencers pushing "health" at every size...because its such a dangerous lie. You CAN learn to love yourself while also accepting that you are unhealthy.
@nicoledickerson9516
6 ай бұрын
I 100% agree with you!!! Thank you for posting this here. I would add to that genuinely loving yourself is what motivates you to want to be healthy. When people don’t love themselves they give up on their health because they don’t care what happens to them selves and trades loving themselves for temporary food related contentment.
@laurenelizabeth2505
6 ай бұрын
Agreed!!!!! Well said!! The whole "offended" trend is just outrageously obvious for victim-mind set, constantly being "personally affected" by another's outlook. Insanely prioritized. Blaire kicks ass.
@KateKatastrophe
6 ай бұрын
Blair is never coming from a good place. Empathy, understanding, and good faith criticism are not things she is capable of. She's a reactionary grifter who doesn't two figs if ANY fat people live or die, are healthy or unhealthy.
@MarissaSmith20
6 ай бұрын
As someone who was fat from birth and is now, after 36 years of being fat, skinny, I can tell you this is bs. One of the things I always felt as kid who was fat in the 90’s is that adults especially were way meaner to me because of my size but I talked myself out it. Turns out people are soooo much nicer to me now that I’m small and I hate it. The reason why I bring this up is because A. I was fat from birth, since we “blame people” for being fat what could I have done as a baby to lose weight? B. There is a massive correlation between depression and anxiety and weight. Being treated like crap as a kid because of my outside definitely made me depressed and anxious. C Most people truly are genetically predisposed to be heavier or not. On my dna test it says genetically I have the gene that makes people 6-10% heavier than most people. If you look at the cdc stats which I will try to link, that while yes heart attack is the number one killer in America, most heart attacks are actually from stress not being fat. The next two highest mortality cancer and Covid for (2021). To be honest as a scientist I look at the data and it’s very clear that stress is the actual killer in America and Americans are very stressed all the time. Stress also leads to weight gain. I will tell you and I hope you hear me….. I am not healthier at 138 pounds than I was at 220. In fact I will tell you I eat more sugar and less salads….. I also have several super skinny friends who eat like crap but nobody is bugging them. My biggest point is the us has a stress issue and a god awful food system, even the “healthiest” of foods have issues here due to soil issues. Also Blair is trolling you, me and everyone. She is a trans lady who hates trans people and says these very inflammatory things for attention. You don’t make change by hating yourself you make true change by love and loving yourself which I think is what yall are trying to say anyways. I’m on your side. I just want to say that maybe the depression and anxiety fatigue people feel is because of being hated for their outside which is shallow and doesn’t speak to who they are. www.cdc.gov/nchs/fastats/deaths.htm
@NotTheVibe
5 ай бұрын
exactly!
@brendapisciotta4690
Ай бұрын
I was in a relationship with a man who liked bigger women. I ended up with high cholesterol and tipping the scales at 185 pounds. I got myself in shape, got down to 135 pounds, and the relationship ended. So, for some people, it is a deal breaker. He kept telling me that it didn't matter if I gained weight. He wanted me to gain. My husband now just wants me healthy.
@cindyharris5442
6 ай бұрын
As a hospice nurse, I’m done being a “gentle” science communicator. I see the end result of “ health at every size”. I agree with Blair.
@JimmysAdventures6
6 ай бұрын
100% ❤
@tabbyreed8925
5 ай бұрын
And? A fat person hating themselves does not lead to weight loss, the opposite is the more likely result and people like you hating fat people doesn't make them lose weight either.
@jankokol9817
5 ай бұрын
@@tabbyreed8925 When I was at my heaviest, only after starting hating my fat body and all of the bad effects it caused for my health did I finally start to eat healthier and exercised more regularly. Do you know what brought me to my heaviest weight? "Loving myself" and believing that HAES was possible. When given the choice, negative motivation works far better than positive reinforcement.
@Pidatha
4 ай бұрын
@@tabbyreed8925 Nobody's asking them to hate themselves. Love yourself enough to get out of that cycle or atleast stop trying to promote obesity as beautiful or healthy
@MsBhappy
4 ай бұрын
Agreed we all have vices that we make excuses for and try to justify or times we are lazy or procrastinate. We all have underlying reasons for our behaviour. Having studied psychology I agree body positivity should solely be about inclusivity not karma farming narcississm and glorification of unhealthy behaviours. There is an underlying denial of scientific reality due to suvjective emotions at the very origins of body positivity that has turned into a cult mindset of emotional sensitivity and reactivity. It is all a distraction from reality of medical health issues and risks.
@amyyap177
6 ай бұрын
I'm just giving my input based on someone who had sat on both sides of the fences. I grew up being a fat child and weighed 180 pounds at my peak. I have health issues, namely diabetes, hypertension, high cholesterol, and psoriasis. I was on insulin, methotrexate, hypertension, and cholesterol control medications. , Before I chose to lose weight and crossover to the health-conscious side, I was happily fat and loved myself for who I am. I think this is the real and good reason for loving who you are at any size. The reason I ever crossed over to the other side was because my uncontrolled diabetes had caused me to develop diabetic retinopathy, which affected my eyesight. After changing my diet, starting to exercise, and losing about 40 pounds of weight, my health conditions improved vastly, and I got off insulin, hypertension medications, etc. My diabetic retinopathy is also under control currently. I think both sides has its arguments but I do not agree with body shaming at any size, be it thin or fat. To be honest, people from both sides of the regime get an equal amount of attacks from bystanders. If their lifestyle does not cause any health risk or concern of them dying, I think that is fine as long as they do not promote that their lifestyle is the correct way. There is no correct way but only the most suitable way for each individual if they choose to. No one single person reacts to foods or exercise or anything else, the same way. For context, I was experimenting with myself on my blood sugar responses to foods and found out that my blood spikes high with potatoes and is not able to come down to normal range of 6.5mmol/l after two hours of my meal which included protein, fibre and fats. In the eyes of most people, potatoes are a good source of carbohydrates. It is not that these people are wrong, nor is it potatoes' fault as they are indeed good source of carbohydrates. It is just my genes that affected me in such a manner that I do not respond to them well. My argument is that Blaire White is not entirely wrong when she calls out behaviours and comments like " I will not love my cat if it is not fat." I think love should be unconditional. However, I do also agree with Abbey that the individual influencers are entirely to be blamed for their actions as the social media community did also misled them into thinking that their actions were right through the relentless support. I believe that we all play a part to put a stop to all these image and outlook anxiety and focus on the right things such as physical and mental health.
@arachnid33
6 ай бұрын
I love this reasoned, balanced take. ❤
@leighleigh747
5 ай бұрын
Why methotrexate auto immune disease?
@hhharm
5 ай бұрын
I have the opposite story. I'm fat from childhood, I'm extremely unhappy about it since 6 year old, but actually my health is ok, even despine decade of yo-yo dieting and still being fat. So yes, as you said - no one single person's body reacts the same way
@paytonlarson3709
3 ай бұрын
Psoriasis is an auto immune disease if that's what you're trying to ask @@leighleigh747
@jen7662
2 ай бұрын
While yes, you’re correct that all body’s are different, there is research that connects a variety of diseases to obesity.
@silverdweller2809
6 ай бұрын
I have mixed feelings all around. Of course obese people can be happy and it's ridiculous to say they can't be. I don't think you can be healthy at any size, if you're 500+ pounds your quality of life long term will be tangibly worse than if you lost weight. All that being said, obese people deserve respect and compassion not hate.
@joshuadobson8555
4 ай бұрын
Healthy at any size was emphasizing that people could be morbidly obese and still be healthy. You have wildly misrepresented what they were saying. People died because of that movement.
@ashleyh8352
6 ай бұрын
For your first point - i.e. the person in the video feeding their cat - I've seen many videos like that and they're satirical. The creators make them because people comment stating that the creator is "promoting obesity" by being a fat activisit and literally just existing in a fat body. Since that's not the case (of the one's I've seen), the creators make a satirical video in reply - stating things as ridiculous as not loving their cat unless it's obese.
@tynouiy
6 ай бұрын
I was gonna comment this!! Since it's so over the top, that first video clip is definitely satire.
@AbbeysKitchen
6 ай бұрын
ok thanks for the context!
@rosiered2357
6 ай бұрын
she posts some really funny satirical tik toks very funny
@racatiwood
6 ай бұрын
Cats will love you as much as they want to at any given time
@AstralAu
6 ай бұрын
Ashleyh ... And that is your interpretation. You aren't the content creator, and from having watched the clip, it seemed genuine. That she felt power in causing a different species of sentient being to be fat and experience higher risks of ailments... Essentially, do you have peer reviewed receipts of what you're saying, or are you just speaking anecdotally?
@plutotoad203
6 ай бұрын
There's nothing controversial about it, all the obese influencers are dead. We all knew it would happen Abbey Sharpe.
@laurenelizabeth2505
6 ай бұрын
Controversy - innate opposition- is what fuels these videos, obv.
@Imbatmn57
5 ай бұрын
Everyone dies even skinny people, nothing new
@725Kellybean
6 ай бұрын
I’ve been watching your videos for about 6 weeks. Your non-fat shaming, and actual real nutrition advice has been great. I’ve learned how to better feed myself, I’m drinking more water, and I’m easing into to working out. I’ve lost 24.4lbs by not depriving myself of food. Just wanted to say thanks!
@AbbeysKitchen
6 ай бұрын
Amazing!!
@user-uo9kf1sx5o
6 ай бұрын
That's really cool and tour comment was so sweet. Congratulations and well done for putting your health before being skinny for the sake of it!
@noneya1238
5 ай бұрын
People stating facts are shaming now? Grow a pair.
@725Kellybean
5 ай бұрын
@@noneya1238 You must be a lot of fun at parties.
@noneya1238
5 ай бұрын
@@725Kellybean Probably not at yours. You all like things kandi coated, grow a pair.
@tabithaalbright2063
6 ай бұрын
Mukbang videos are not limited to fat people. However, no one says anything about a thin person doing it. I don't watch those videos anyway, but it's ridiculous either way.
@AbbeysKitchen
6 ай бұрын
Yes. I did a comment analysis once and it was shocking
@gowrinandana8999
6 ай бұрын
Mukbang videos promote binge eating. They are rubbish
@Sarahlee358
6 ай бұрын
Well thin person is not a food addict, like a morbidly obese one, so clearly no one will say anything about them doing mukbangs.
@RipResistantPantyhose
6 ай бұрын
People do say things about thin people, usually accusations of purging
@Prismalpink
6 ай бұрын
Actually I hate all mukbang videos, regardless of who’s doing it. They’re obnoxious, noisy, cringey, and the creators don’t even eat everything on their plate (they throw it up or hide the food whenever the screen is cut lol). And I especially hate the ones where Koreans are in it, because they’re just doing them to show off how awesome their new nose job or facial plastic surgery procedure looks.
@crazywaffleking
6 ай бұрын
How often have you seen someone in public who was super obese and looked to be in their 80s?
@Knapolih_16
3 ай бұрын
I will say my grandmother is 91 and was obese her whole adult life. However I would say her quality of life was not good. There was so much she missed out on because her weight. So it can be done but she missed out on A LOT. And it’s just sad. Walking with us doing things she wanted to do with her grandchildren was stopped because she wasn’t physically able. So I will say it’s hard I’ve had a front row seat
@hadassahm3016
6 ай бұрын
That first video clip of that women with her cat is clearly satire tho
@nellivilhelmiina
6 ай бұрын
The issue is that the extremist in this movement are the loudest ones (as they always are) and the ones who make the tiktoks etc etc and spread misinformation AND disinformation. And because of social media they have a huge reach. But wait a few years and their health is gonna go downhill, it’s already happening. This has gone too far. Children have type 2 diabetes now and are predicted to live shorter lives than their parents because they are obese from such a young age. Body positivity is great, but obesity epidemic is very worrying.
@BoringTroublemaker
6 ай бұрын
It’s interesting to me, as a fat person living in the world, that the ONLY time I hear about this minority of fat activist extremists that have this alleged massive huge influence is when thin fat-shaming social media “influencers” are peddling their sack of BS making videos about them to make money complaining about how they are “glorifying obesity”. I’m not talking about Abby, obviously, but rather trash like Blaire.
@Cbbartelt
6 ай бұрын
Children have always had type 2 diabetes. The difference is that we have easy access to research and the data and medical intervention. And we don’t even know how many children had type two diabetes before they were being tested because people weren’t going to the Dr regularly. My parents are boomers. My brother was at risk of diabetes when he was 11. And those of us who are children of boomers are probably some of the first people who are actually tested for those things regularly. My parents did not go to the doctor regularly and I don’t know very many boomers who did. There was specific social and financial groups that went to the Dr. You’re also ignoring all of the changes that have happened. You’re kind of accidentally glorifying starvation. The silent generation grew up during the Great Depression and a lot of them did not have access to food, so is it less likely that people who are starving and bartering in order to survive had children type two diabetes? Yes, it is. It’s also more likely that children who had type one diabetes never reached adulthood. In the greatest generation and every generation before, it’s also most likely that any child who had type two diabetes never reached adulthood because they didn’t have access to the tools they needed to survive. It’s also less likely that boomers who were children with type two diabetes survived to adults since easy medical access was not the standard. Even the comment about the obesity epidemic that is about the access to food and, more than that, capitalism. As inflation, rises fresh foods are harder to purchase. When minimum wage cannot pay for an apartment, in any city in the US Many parents work multiple jobs and therefore they do not have time to cook real food and they still can’t afford a lot of the actual vegetables and fruits because those have risen in price more inflation than they are canned counterparts. This means more children get a larger amount of salt in a lot of amount of sugar, because they are buying more prepackaged food. Of course, as a mental health crisis part of this as well so if you are parent who is severely depressed, your children are going to eat more prepackaged food because you do not have the spoons (I’m taking a leap and hoping you know spoon theory) to cook some thing more than that. Now, on the other hand in previous generations, those children would starve in both of those situations. I’m in a free food group in my city. People are on that group every single day needing food for their children. The food that gets given away is prepackaged food because those families are living off of the little bit they get in our state for food stamps what is given to food banks, and what they can get for free in that group some people can’t even get the food banks because they don’t have a vehicle. Things are all prepackaged, and typically have a higher risk of causing diabetes, but that’s the risk of parent takes when they need to feed their children and they live in an end-stage capitalist society that does not pay them enough for the work they do and does not raise the rate of pay to be in line with inflation. If you want to fix the obesity epidemic, you need to fix healthcare access, stigmatize, mental illness, and raise the rate of the minimum wage in line with inflation so people can work a job and afford to feed their families the food that they want to feed them. Comments like these are not flippant, and when you say them in a flippant manner, you are creating harm. Please stop and think about all of the things that impact our society have changed over years before making comments like these.
@nellivilhelmiina
6 ай бұрын
@@Cbbartelt yes, obese children have had type 2 diabetes, but if you look at the statistics, you can see how the rates have skyrocketed. You personal experience has nothing to do with it, my comment is based on statistical research and facts. (:
@nellivilhelmiina
6 ай бұрын
@@Cbbartelt oh and I don’t mean that things haven’t changed in society or that reasons of obesity epidemic aren’t multifactoral. But the reasons behind the issue don’t diminish the issue itself or make it less harmful. Answer isn’t simple either.
@Rentheflower
5 ай бұрын
@@nellivilhelmiina Do you know what it’s like to grow up food insecure? To come home and hope you have something to eat, to only be able to eat lunch at school because you work in the lunch room? If you want to talk Research you should look at the link between growing up food insecure and Type 2 Diabetes www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC10465985/#:~:text=Individuals%20who%20experience%20food%20insecurity,adults%20without%20diabetes%20(9).
@xepyis
6 ай бұрын
The argument that she is not a doctor or mental health professional doesn't stand the test of time either.... We have good portion of docs that ignore current research and stagnant in their eduction frozen in time..., piece of paper saying one graduated from certain institution means very little nowadays, the access to information, current research or education without certification is widely available.
@yallthought8444
6 ай бұрын
Yes and no. I am 100% going to first trust someone with credentials than anyone who said they did their own research.
@alejandromolinac
6 ай бұрын
Gee….. appeal to authority fallacy. ..
@uniquenewyork3325
5 ай бұрын
Just because some doctors don't further their knowledge doesn't mean the average Joe is more knowledgeable
@kham6006
4 ай бұрын
Fauci was the doctor for Covid and he failed miserably/ -and tried to ruin reputable doctors reputations
@jMichaels878
3 ай бұрын
I agree more with Blaire honestly. She's not attacking the average overweight person, or the person who may have gained weight due to a health issue or medication, she's calling out people who are obese and are actively promoting that it is just as healthy as being a healthy-weight on social media. To this day I have never seen an obese person who looks older than the age of, like, 60... because they typically rarely live that long. I do disagree with her saying they can't be happy, after all, ignorance is bliss. They are probably quite happy.
@micky_knuckles
6 ай бұрын
Oh my God, first thing out of her mouth, she goes from saying you can't be fat and healthy to you can't be fat and HAPPY. like...these are different things here... And the first "fat activist" is being sarcastic...
@Gee-xb7rt
6 ай бұрын
Blaire has been a butt pimple on the transgender community for a long, long time. In her opinion everyone should be like her or they shouldn't be allowed oxygen.
@abbeypoteet4773
6 ай бұрын
I caught that, too!
@rinvfx
6 ай бұрын
u could be fat and happy, but i never encountered person who lost weight but genuinely reminiscing about old days when they were fat wishing they wouldn’t do it. ability to do normal things like basic exercising and walking up the stairs, better body image, improved hormonal function, ability to have control over life and health - these definitely improve the mental state of a person. i would say that u can be “fat” and happy, but u can’t be obese and happy unless there’s some delusion going on
@prairiehorse6168
6 ай бұрын
@@rinvfxI have met people who lost weight and are obsessed with every morsel they eat. They spend hours in gym and their personality is centered around weight loss.
@AbbeysKitchen
6 ай бұрын
@@rinvfxthat’s not true actually. Some folks lose weight in such a way that really ruins their life. I know many folks who were happier fat than with an ED
@DarthYoungling
6 ай бұрын
Mukbang used to just be a form of asmr where the youtuber would eat a normal meal (sometimes not even showing it) and just talking to the camera about their life/day. I saw one recently and it made me nauseous.
@isabelleburdge4308
4 ай бұрын
They are disgusting now. Was neutral about them early on but now, just flat out disgusted.
@Darkernorakeln
6 ай бұрын
That's probably Blaire's least controversial take ever, given that she's right, they have sadly passed from the consequences of their terrible habits
@christinar.9116
6 ай бұрын
The first take was obviously being sarcastic 🤦🏻♀️
@laurenelizabeth2505
6 ай бұрын
How are you sure? People are legally entitled to 'identify' as anything, from a cat to a half person one hour, full person the next.
@kham6006
4 ай бұрын
@@laurenelizabeth2505❤
@NovaG0
Ай бұрын
There's a difference being morbidly obese and being curvy. People should be accepting different body SHAPES not FAT.
@sabrinagranger5468
6 ай бұрын
THANK YOU for pointing out how everyone else is also complicit in the mukbang thing. Everyone who hate-watches those videos to get grossed out, as Blaire puts it, is just as complicit as anyone who would watch it to get off for sexual reasons or to encourage it for some convoluted fat positivity reasons. There's no way to just wash one's hands off this and pretend otherwise. As far as the algorithm is concerned, a view is a view is a view.
@TheSnuffy1994
6 ай бұрын
Its the same kind of vibe as people who 'celebrate' when someone on a raw food or whatever fringe diet passes away. I cant fathom feeling anything besides sad for the person who passed away and empathy for those who just lost a loved one. I cant imagine being this frankly heartless and using fringe cases to spew hate towards a whole group of people.
@libraryminnie5908
6 ай бұрын
The empathy is strong when somebody dies from undereating, the conversation and comments are gentle and carry a sense that this person had a disease and mental health issues they could not conquer. The same genuine sadness about the demise of someone morbidly obese who dies from health problems brought on from being morbidly obese. These people are just not given that grace even though their obesity could easily be caused by mental health issues that brought on the health problems linked to consumption of far too much food of an unhealthy variety or even healthier choices in unwise quantity. How is that so very different that the person who starves themselves to death despite the intervention of specialists and supportive family who do their best to get them the care that will save their lives. Who mocks them? I have seen nobody mock them and am sick of fat people still being fair game to target when so many marginalized communities have been recognized as deserving of our empathy.
@fashionista444
6 ай бұрын
So well put!! @@libraryminnie5908
@TheSnuffy1994
6 ай бұрын
@@libraryminnie5908 Oh I see it happen every once in a while when a vegan or a raw foodist dies. Theres always a few people who are like "haha gotcha!!". It's so weird. I'm not sure if you understood my comment. Because I also meant to say that it is awful and heartless that people mock obese people who die. Like my point is that it's the same thing. It is both just as sad
@cielostack2698
6 ай бұрын
Why is everyone on here debating?? Oh that’s right…everyone’s is entitled to their opinion. It’s funny how everyone throws hands in the comment section. What are you going to accomplish by doing so?
@Richard.Atkinson
6 ай бұрын
These influencers are lying to their followers and giving them dangerous advice that will kill them. I think pointing out that the influencers are dying from following this advice is absolutely necessary to combat this dangerous movement. It’s not bullying - it’s a public service announcement.
@coltthestarsheriff3544
6 ай бұрын
Fat liberation movement didn't come out of nowhere, it's a result of obsession with thinness as one of the pillars of global popular culture. In the past, like in the 90s, people weren't really thinking about someone's health, especially when they pressured thin girls and boys to be even thinner and got them into eating disorders. It's what pushed these extremists into defending obesity at all cost in the first place. That doesn't mean that obesity won't kill you, it's just that stigma, combined with bitterness and narcissism, will probably have opposite effect on the person you are allegedly trying to help with insults. It won't. You don't bully cancer and diabetic patients, right, so why would you do that to the bigger folks, if you're all about health as you say? For bullies, health is alway an excuse. I recommend sociological classic book Stigma by Canadian sociologist Erving Goffman, in order to easily see how stigma of many kinds is the essential part of our daily cross - cultural and social life.
@BaconManBruh
6 ай бұрын
I don't like bullying, it's just dumb but there are ways to tell people certain things without offending them. I'm pro fitness and i'm also pro freedom so i always with all my heart say being overweight is a huge obstacle to someone's life in general and being fit should always be prioritised coz it helps you not just with society being random and your quality of life since you are more comfortable moving around all the way to health "less reasons to see the doctor" and mental health since your body runs better and generally have a long life free of the burdens of being overweight coz i was overweight and i wore the shoes so i know how bad the quality of life being overweight gives you. It makes me sad that overweight people are dying left and right when it can be dealt with and i am aware it's a slippery slope and it's close to kicking off and addiction but it has to be done and people saying being fat is OK is not cool for me and i hate people like that coz you are pretty much saying it's OK for them to suffer when they shouldn't coz they are suffering like joint problems is just one add the mental health issues jeez list goes on.
@AbbeysKitchen
6 ай бұрын
Great recommendation!!
@coltthestarsheriff3544
6 ай бұрын
@@BaconManBruh what are people like me "saying to them?" Nobody is justifying obesity, but the questions like "how do you wipe your butt?", look at yourself you "f.t l.ser", etc. with intention to humiliate ( we all know when something that happen, from the contex), or someone physically assaulting that person will likely have opposite affeect, it will destroy their poor mental health even more, that got them into obesity in the first place. You can say the facts in assertive, not aggressive, humiliating way. Thinking in extremes is dangerous. Plus, you are saying like, if I am asking for people not to be treated cruelly, that must mean I advocate for obesity, which is not the case. That's not what I said, you should practice reading more carefully. And yes, bullies don't care abour anyone's health, that's and an exuse, always has been. I say this like someone who experienced bullying for being "thinner" although healthy swimmer. Bullies love excuses and alibis, their behavior is all about power dominance, abuse and stroking bullies' fragile egos.
@coltthestarsheriff3544
6 ай бұрын
@@BaconManBruh you can say facts in assertive, not aggressive way. Sentences like " how do you wipe your. bu.., physical asaults in schools etc. will only firm them in poor mental health and hopelessness that brought them into obesity in the first place. Bullying is all about power domination and ego, it never has anyone's best interests at heart. I can confirm as someone who was bullied for being thin, excuses for that were various, health was one them. That wasn't the case: I was and still am a healthy swimmer. Being assertive doesn't mean saying obesity is awesome. Bloke, that's not what I said, please.
@WiseMindNutrition
6 ай бұрын
We agree with this! Suggesting all people deserve dignity and respect regardless size/shape doesn't seem like it should be such a controversial opinion
@leighleigh747
5 ай бұрын
I don't necessarily disagree with Blair saying that if your kink is making women overeat gain weight a feeder etc then yeah they should be checked
@Drea62621
2 ай бұрын
Blaire rocks and keeps it real in a world of people acting foolish. 🙌
@d14551
6 ай бұрын
"Do not watch, do not engage." Incredibly wise advice for coping with social media, thanks!
@AbbeysKitchen
6 ай бұрын
Very important
@daniellecrill3677
6 ай бұрын
This video is full of straw man arguments. I’m sure you know what you’re talking about but going for the straw man argument on almost every point just makes you look disingenuous. A few examples: Blaire *after playing several videos of fat people claiming to be happy*: “these people aren’t happy.” This woman: “Blaire doesn’t know that there isn’t a single fat person who is happy.” Blaire: “This is how the fat positivity movement started.” This woman: “It’s not like that anymore.” Lady, you are refuting points that aren’t being made.
@Sakura-pc9cp
5 ай бұрын
She knows exactly what she’s doing. She’s pandering to an unintelligent audience
@basbleupeaunoire
6 ай бұрын
That woman's easy slippage between "you can't be healthy" and "you can't be happy" is bonkers. So many people are unhealthy for so many reasons. Can you imagine "You have lung cancer, so you can't be happy." Or "She uses a wheelchair; she can't be happy. " Strong ANA vibes coming off her argument there.
@grossoutgal4863
5 ай бұрын
You're not wrong about Blaire having Ana-Mia vibes bc she has talked before about taking laxatives to make her stomach flat
@reginaobrien8983
6 ай бұрын
Fat shaming, fat phobia, and subtle (and not so subtle) discrimination against fat people are far more potent forces in our society. Extreme and unhealthy responses to these forces are predictable. Most fat people don’t hold a positive view of themselves. Sadly, they are reminded every day and in multiple ways that they are deemed to be unworthy of dignity and respect. Sure, these examples of extreme so labeled “fat positivity” attitudes are not helpful and should be called out. But they are often responses to (often life long) degrading treatment by others. Let’s all take a step back and begin approaching these issues with knowledge and compassion.
@AbbeysKitchen
6 ай бұрын
Absolutely
@baphometsolutely
6 ай бұрын
A lot of the fat shaming I get are from my parents. "We're just worried about you!" Yeah! I'm worried about me too! But growing up with finishing your plate, pcos, and an eating disorder, I just felt so defeated. Finding out I had PCOS and BED was a game changer!! Suddenly, the weight I could never lose is sloughing off with diet and exercise. I've lost 60 lbs, and it's still not enough for them. Getting older is doing things for yourself 😅
@Sarahlee358
6 ай бұрын
When I was overweight, I felt bad not because of any discrimination but because I wasn’t feeling well physically. I think blaming others is just projection for one’s failings.
@baphometsolutely
6 ай бұрын
@@Sarahlee358 Psychology has a bit to do with it! She goes over it in her video! 🥰
@Cbbartelt
6 ай бұрын
@@Sarahlee358generalizing your experience is dangerous in this situation. Not all people feel physically bad or ill because they’re fat and people can be perfectly healthy and fat. Your experience (per your comment ) also ignores that many times the fat people are uncomfortable in their bodies because of fat phobia in medical offices. You could have a chronic illness, you could have cancer, you could have a plethora of different actual illnesses and never be diagnosed because your doctor just says you’re having problems because you’re fat. So being fat and being uncomfortable or in pain or feeling crappy in your body are not necessarily even related, except to the extent of medical professionals hating you because you’re fat and not caring if you live or die enough to do any testing. So, by generalizing your own experience of ‘I was fat and I did not feel good so it must be your fault if you don’t feel good and you’re fat’, you are justifying doctors killing people by medical neglect. This is why generalizing your experience with no context and no greater understanding of how the world is working is very dangerous and actually turns into eugenics and this is only one example of why it’s dangerous.
@ShannonAlexis96
6 ай бұрын
I disagree that the problem is the people watching problematic content. I think the problem, as Nikocado hinted at, is our terrible economic and social system that punishes and pushes out those of us who don't fit the mould. Everyone has to get their bills paid somehow and not everyone is cut out for the 9-5 grind (neurotypical people, physically disabled, mentally ill, etc.) and 95% of people are not gonna make it the unconventional route (influencer, entrepreneur, etc.) so what other choice do people like Amberlynn Reid, Nikocado, EC have but to continue down the path of least resitance? And if suddenly the public audience disappeared I can assure you that their private donors would increase and they would be pushing for far more harmful content. Edit: and I say this as someone who doesn't watch any of those people, this is not an endorsement of any type of harmful content...
@corbinbishop7097
6 ай бұрын
I think you may be presenting a false dichotomy or maybe I am misunderstanding your point. You say "the" problem, as though there is only one problem. It sounds like you could be suggesting that people watching harmful content and supporting it isn't a problem, but later your edit says you don't watch or endorse that content. Perhaps I am misunderstanding, but do you mean that our economic/social system is the cause of this issue (people watching problematic content), or do you mean that people cant watch whatever and it's not a problem? I am trying to be charitable and not misrepresent what you're saying. In my view, it can be both true that we live in a terrible economic/social system and that we are responsible for the things we choose to consume (choose is the key word because ofc our terrible economic system forces the consumption of some unethical products- but no one needs to watch mukbangs there is an absolute wealth other entertaining and informative content like Abbey here). Anyways, I agree with your points- capitalism sucks, but I don't think we're absolved of our choice to be complicit in watching that content.
@janicefinch3563
6 ай бұрын
They aren't being forced to make these videos or be homeless. They can switch careers. Regular people do it all the time. Nikocado Avocado has likely made 100s of thousands if not at least a million dollars off KZitem. If he can't afford to take a break to look for a new job while he works on his health, than that is horrible money mismanagement on his part. A lot of times with big KZitemrs, when you learn that they are struggling with bills, it's usually something like they bought a house that's way bigger than anyone needs and they don't want to downsize or simplify their lifestyle.
@ShannonAlexis96
6 ай бұрын
@@corbinbishop7097 I'm not suggesting that watching harmful content isn't a problem. And I'm DEFINITELY not saying "the problem is bigger than us so we should just keep watching the slow motion trainwreck without feeling any remorse." Our entertainment is not more important than the welfare of humanbeings. All I said is that to boil it down to "we just need to stop watching them!" is a 0 nuance take and not actually addressing the root problem, which is that people are choosing to hurt themselves for fiancial stability. So you have to ask yourself, how much does someone have to be struggling to basically choose death over fitting the mould?
@corbinbishop7097
6 ай бұрын
@@ShannonAlexis96 Ah okay, that makes sense. I though that may have been what you meant. Just from the initial statement it was unclear if you thought it was or wasn't a problem. Thanks for clarifying. Edit: also I agree with your take, definitely capitalism the underlying issue causing, well, a lot of problems really.
@s.a.6082
6 ай бұрын
Saying men can’t be attracted to fat women without being perverts is like saying men can’t be attracted to trans women without being perverts.
@lisalarsen2384
6 ай бұрын
I mean true haha. You gotta be really careful who you’re with on both ends!
@noneya1238
5 ай бұрын
They both would have to have issues to like either.
@luchirimoya
5 ай бұрын
@@noneya1238 I think you're the only one who has issues here buddy, keep your transphobia to yourself
@RuminatingRaptor
5 ай бұрын
@@noneya1238 You are so full of hate, you are obviously an empty shell of a person.
@NancyMancarious
5 ай бұрын
I don't think these are equivalent examples though.
@joeholman7470
Ай бұрын
"she's not a dietician or someone to get the facts from, but she just happens to be right about most of it'
@garlicgalore
6 ай бұрын
Note to anyone with unexplained weight gain - check any medications you are taking. I recently learned my PPI made me gain 26 lbs in 4 months - an acknowledged side effect for some people! So many medical people STILL have the bias that if you are fat, you are making bad choices ...but sometimes it's meds (or other health issues!) Ask them "If I wasn't fat, what would your diagnosis be?" Advocate for your life! A little off topic, perhaps, but I wanted to put the med link in people's minds. So many Drs don't check. Informative video - 👍
@razia6046
6 ай бұрын
And check if you are in perimenopause if your are a woman, this can start in your 30s.
@lynncrf
6 ай бұрын
@@razia6046The problem is how exactly do you know you are in peri though?
@Diana-qp2rw
6 ай бұрын
Being obsese can often be the reason for health issues, though, in many cases you just have to accept that that’s the diagnosis.
@OrNaurItsKat
6 ай бұрын
@@Diana-qp2rwthat's true, but it doesn't change the fact that people who are overweight or obese have other health issues that get ignored - and that those other health issues can contribute to difficulty losing weight or cause unexplained weight gain, which was the point that the comment you're replying to was trying to make. I have a chronic illness and I'm in multiple online support groups and almost every woman with a chronic illness was initially told to lose weight, even when they weren't obese or overweight. Myself included, when I got sick initially I gained 20 lbs suddenly, which was very weird for me and it should have been taken more seriously. Instead it took years to get a doctor to take me seriously and my disease caused irreversible damage to my spine and SI joints that will put me in a wheelchair before I'm 40. I'm on proper medication now and working on getting my life back, but I will never believe I should have been ignored just because of a 20 lb weight gain.
@stephv1986
6 ай бұрын
It's not the medicine that's making you gain almost 30 lbs. You can't pull calories from air. It may mess up your hormones making it harder, but it's not impossible. If you're gaining a substantial amount of weight, you're eating more than you realize. No one is immune to the laws of thermodynamics.
@DanielHerrera-rl1vw
6 ай бұрын
Blair actually had an eating disorder she has talked about it several times - she used to abuse laxatives and starve herself.
@lynncrf
6 ай бұрын
That explains her repulsion towards fat people. The thought of being fat is completely triggering even when recovered.
@Prismalpink
6 ай бұрын
That’s crazy because I lost weight naturally and I have the same body type as she does. Idk why they go so far by starving themselves when they can lose weight slowly and healthily.
@liilykh4n
6 ай бұрын
@@Prismalpinkmaybe because eating disorders are deadly mental disorders and not weight disorders? Such a stupid and blunt thing to say please educate yourself
@liilykh4n
6 ай бұрын
@@lynncrfI’m going to be honest as someone who spent 16 years of their life being fat, the idea of going back to that and having so many limitations due to my weight and knowingly putting more pressure on my organs and joints everyday, waking up with heart pain ect ect absolutely terrifies me. As it should with anyone. I disagree with treating fat people poorly it’s their life they can do whatever they want, but individuals should actively try avoid becoming fat because we know the health issues that come with it. Health is wealth
@lisalarsen2384
6 ай бұрын
@@lynncrfthat’s me!!!! It’s genuinely one of my biggest fears and I used to be scared of obese people. I had to go to therapy! It’s a real thing
@strawbraryliberry4604
6 ай бұрын
People always talk about how unhealthy it is to be fat, but not how unhealthy & deadly it is to be underweight. I'm severely underweight & I'm terrified tbh. (Currently refeeding, so many side effects holy crud lol) Regardless, shame isn't going to make anyone of any size healthier. People of any size should be treated with dignity & respect. Weight & metabolism are complicated, it's unfair to judge others on issues you don't have personally. I think these are things people miss when discussing fat acceptance & HAES. Just treat people like valuable human beings regardless of their health or perceived health. It is weird & wrong to hate ppl for health problems. People are allowed to love & accept themselves, even in unhealthy bodies.
@ThePugs-xv6zs
6 ай бұрын
This is false. Check out any Eugenia Cooney video. People definitely talk about how unhealthy it is to be underweight. Of course, like with being overweight there will always be some who fetishize it or ignore it.
@gowrinandana8999
6 ай бұрын
Not true. People who are underweight too are constantly criticised and judged.
@arbyswitch5580
6 ай бұрын
i completely agree with your sentiment. there's no legitimate concern for folks on either extreme end of the weight spectrum. we cannot even talk about our own experiences without being told we are wrong! i'm also struggling HEAVILY with successfully gaining and maintaining weight, watching Abbey's videos has been so helpful for me getting neutral advice on how to adequately nourish the body. idk i guess i just wanted you to know, you're not alone and this journey is hard (so, so hard) but important
@janicefinch3563
6 ай бұрын
Like another commenter mentioned, people do talk about how unhealthy it is to be underweight which is why Eugenia Cooney is one of the most controversial KZitemrs. You may just see the conversation around obesity more often because it's just statistically a larger (no pun intended) problem in Western countries than the reverse.
@strawbraryliberry4604
6 ай бұрын
@gowrinandana8999 (Trigger warning, in depth weight discussion) .... I mean, I am underweight, and have been my entire life & now, severely underweight. So, while it is true that people criticize it sometimes or definitely judge or make assumptions about me based on that- It's definitely not to the same degree, it's a very different experience than it seems to be overweight. A lot of people have talked about me & assumed I had anorexia (I have ARFID & health problems)- very few people have ever said it makes me look bad or criticized what I ate. A lot of people give very unsolicited (and bad) advise, about how I should "just eat whatever I want" although I have a lot of food sensitivities & eat a ton of candy already. (People say just eat sweets.) It definitely isn't constant. What made me personally see fatphobia was what people said to me about my weight. "You're lucky, you can eat whatever you want bc you aren't fat"- ignoring how I literally cannot because my stomach hates a lot of foods & I have allergies. "Your stomach hurts all the time, but it keeps you from eating too much so you stay attractive." 🙃😅 My doctor when I was 20lbs underweight & throwing up regularly: "your weight is fine." This with too many people to count: Me: I'm underweight & my stomach hurts all the time People: you look really healthy tho I no longer look healthy. I'm now a walking skeleton ugh 😑 People have finally started acknowledging that I don't "look healthy". 30+lbs underweight. I've been sick for like 12 years. Sadly, our society often puts thinness on a pedestal, so it is treated very differently than being overweight. I think it's harder to be larger in society. Although to be fair if I was a tiny man, that probably would be a very different experience too. I've gotten criticized & judged for being thin, but I've also gotten a lot of praise & dismissal that it's a problem at all. Being praised for being sick is a very odd experience.
@nikiichan
6 ай бұрын
"50% of dopamine is produced inside your gut" I didn't realize there was that gut brain access. That is so interesting!
@AbbeysKitchen
6 ай бұрын
Yep!
@nikiichan
6 ай бұрын
@@Daniel_Meyers thank you!! I was wondering why I found nothing when googling. The typo explains. Ah! Sneaky blood brain barrier at it again :p
@leighleigh747
5 ай бұрын
Me either I'm wondering if chronic constipation can mess up this relationship with the gut and dopamine etc
@americacastro4069
10 күн бұрын
These statements are wild I was 95 lbs at 19 and suicidal. After years of treatment and psychological therapy, I’m at 140 lbs and quite happy, active and healthy ❤
@stevieodonnell
6 ай бұрын
just because a fat person “isn’t trying” to lose weight doesn’t mean that they aren’t in pursuit of becoming healthier which would ultimately result in weight loss people are honestly so ignorant focusing on aesthetic first. HEALTH IS NOT A LOOK WAKE UP!! fat people are not being irresponsible in admitting that they are not trying to lose weight. they might just not be in pursuit of an aesthetic goal. The aesthetic may come as a byproduct of being healthier, but that doesn’t mean they are “trying to lose weight” if these people were worried about health they would promote healthy eating behavior not shrinking. question your own fucking bias. moreover i live in a college town. i know more people shame fat people here than smokers. i know shaming smokers used to be something i saw, but now at least in my circle its far less common than shaming fat people. i think this is in part because on some level people know shame tactics don’t work. anyways speaking as a thin smoker myself (even though I DON’T BELIEVE IN SHAME TACTICS) if you’re gonna shame anyone shame me LMAO
@hailbee222
6 ай бұрын
That sweater reminds me of Neal from "The Santa Clause" and I very much enjoy it 😁
@margeauxlazar6992
6 ай бұрын
that’s how you know it’s a good one haha
@AbbeysKitchen
6 ай бұрын
Hahahaha
@AbbeysKitchen
6 ай бұрын
Fun fact- if I was a boy I was gonna be named Neal apparently lol
@TC-kz4bx
6 ай бұрын
That's where I've seen it before!!
@veronicavatter6436
6 ай бұрын
Lol
@ymonnieforde2370
4 ай бұрын
whether it is satirical or not, saying you wouldn't love your cat if they aren't fat and going on about glorifying obesity is still wrong. It may be a joke but how many people would actually understand that it was a joke? Especially in time glorifying such behaviors are prominent? I think we need to take a step back and realize that loving yourself means that we need make sure that we're healthy. And to do that means not yelling at doctors and dieticians when they say that you're not at a healthy weight. they're not trying to insult you, they're to help you. Last year my doctor was shocked to see how much weight I had gained. I wasn't morbidly obese, but it was to the point where my unhealthy diet had started to show. I told her that my joints where always in pain when walking for the same distance I'd always walked when I was healthier, I started getter severe short of breaths to the points where I felt faint and the pain was becoming so bad I didn't want to go out anymore. When my results came back I was prediabetic. Anyway I am much healthier now and while my experience is not the same as everyone, I think that we should respect and love ourselves more because our body tells us when things are wrong and we should listen to it
@kham6006
4 ай бұрын
Theirs fat. And then their is obese - that’s what Blaine’s talking about - I struggle w my weight and always fair better thinner. Sorry
@jennywhiskey9327
6 ай бұрын
people of all sizes deserve to have respect, be loved and be taken seriously. I don’t understand why Blaire has such a hard time grasping this very simple basic concept.
@gustavedore1073
6 ай бұрын
It's the deserving respect and love part she doesn't grasp. If you are different than her ideals you don't deserve either. That goes even to herself, she is trans so she doesn't deserve same respect that cis people. Or that at least is the way she behaves. It is sad, I would feel very sorry for her, if she wasn't so eager to be so cruel. She has spread misinformation for years now and only seems to get worse
@AbbeysKitchen
6 ай бұрын
It’s sad really
@lynncrf
6 ай бұрын
Yes. Especially since she is trans and I am sure has been discriminated against as a result.
@elbee5784
6 ай бұрын
Thanks for this, that Blaire (sp?) video really made me angry. I'm not fat myself but people being so flippant about the deaths of others is just so sickening.
@TheFleurDeMer
6 ай бұрын
Blair is a super offensive person who makes context like to get clicks and make money
@Fen_Fox
6 ай бұрын
I stumbled across this video like a week go and had to stop watching half way through because the lack of empathy she had towards the people who died made me so upset, especially when the tiktok was like "just because I'm fat doesn't invalidate the things I say" and then she went "she died". Like, I am overweight and fully aware of the potential health effects that can cause, I don't need some heartless woman practically gloating over people's deaths from obesity to know that. It doesn't help people want to lose weight as abby mentions in the vid, and is just insensitive to the loved ones of those who passed away.
@scarlett8782
6 ай бұрын
I saw a commenter say the following in the comments section here: "its wrong to criticize the tiktoker who said 'just because I'm fat, it doesn't invalidate the things that I say". I have some context. when that tiktoker said "just because I'm fat it doesn't invalidate the things I say" she was talking about her relationship to fat acceptance, diet, and health. when someone is in the throes of an eating disorder that is about to take their life, you don't just "validate" everything their ED is telling them to say. when someone who has binge eating disorder says "yes I'm fat but you're not allowed to invalidate my feelings about food and fat acceptance", at some point, someone with empathy and courage has to stand up and say, "you are valid, however, sometimes ED may cause a person to have thoughts that are intrusive and abnormal, leading to negative words and actions that impact health". we cannot just validate every single word that anyone says - sometimes people are just wrong or mentally ill, and it is not okay to reinforce their intrusive thoughts and/or poor judgement, especially if that poor judgement is going to cost them their life. Blaire is overly harsh on purpose because that's her brand - to be toxic, for better or worse. however, I do not think it is acceptable to validate ED thoughts, words, and behaviors out of sympathy. these women died from food addiction, disordered eating, and poor mental health, and were validated over and over again until their bodies gave up. we have to do better for these women, instead of being cowards who refuse to do what is right simply out of fear of hurting someone's feelings. at some point, we need to realize that life is more important than temporarily hurt feelings. these women needed to get off of the internet/reality television, and seek help for their disordered eating, yet their ED was validated and even celebrated at every turn until they passed. it's a tragedy that these women died very preventable deaths. I can't imagine the regret they felt in their final moments. my heart goes out to their families.
@missjo2036
6 ай бұрын
Well, I can say this as a former obese person. I love Blair, but not her fat phobia. The things she says can be harmful. I had people call me fat thinking in their sick mind that insulting me was going to motivate me when it did the exact opposite it made me more self conscious. Their is a way to go about it because there are usually deeper issues to why people get this obese like in the video, and Blair saying stuff like your dead, etc, is not how to go about it.
@hamlet557
6 ай бұрын
@@missjo2036 1. Βlair said that certain fatfluencers died. And it's FACTUALLY CORRECT. If you heard "your dead" then check your ears. 2. You accuse Blair for what OTHER people called you? Check YOUR issues. 3. Do you think that before Blair people didn't insult others? Do you think that no one else gets insulted but you? You can't change 100% of people around you - despite what fatfluencers tell you- but you can always change how you react to that. It's 1000 times easier and more productive. Btw fake compliments, especially for people who make money out of these compliments disgust me. I don't keep them around my life and that's why I get better and better instead of staying the way I am and always feel victimized. When someone says "the Emperor has no clothes" my reaction is to get dressed. Your reaction is to blame the messenger. Well, you choose the life you want to live.I choose to have control over my own life instead of blaming everyone else but me.
@epowell4211
Ай бұрын
I once heard a preacher say, "the devil can't create, he can only pervert God's creation". Religious or not, the fact that many good things get twisted into bad is obvious. Movements pushing for equal rights, treatment and accommodation for the obese is a good thing. Campaigns to eradicate bullying or prejudice against the obese are good. Encouraging people to love themselves, take care of themselves, strive to be healthy no matter what their current body state is are a good thing. But encouraging people to delude themselves about their state is not. The word "healthy" needs to be reexamined. Just because someone at this very moment is not suffering any urgent ill effects does not mean they are "healthy." I personally think of being healthy as living in a way to give my future self the greatest opportunity to live without assistance for the longest possible time. "Healthy" doesn't mean "I feel good today, I'm happy, I'm comfortable." Healthy is a never ending project. TBH, I would not have gotten obese if I'd ever thought about how my future self would suffer because of it, if I hadn't accepted good reports from the doctor (except for weight) as carte blanche to continue living as I was. We also need to stop equating fat with ugly or less than. Our bodies are just containers and it's only what's inside that will be remembered decades after we're gone.
@Beeperoni
6 ай бұрын
Nothing Blaire says holds any value. Her only goal is to cause a ruckus.
@Khs394
6 ай бұрын
I just think sometimes I find it hard to find a “side” because both sides are so extreme. It’s exhausting lol. I just don’t even agree with either extreme
@impossiblezucchini
6 ай бұрын
Hm. I think both video examples of “extremists” were really misinterpreted. The first creator, Jordan Allen Hall, was very obviously satirizing the concept of “glorifying obesity,” and to me the second creator seemed to simply be affirming that if you’re a fat person who isn’t actively trying to become smaller, you are still worthy of love, which seems very uncontroversial. Was also really disappointed not to see any affirmation that fat people can, of course, be happy. As someone who by the scale is technically morbidly obese but who is otherwise in perfect health (I’ll even show you my most recent labs!) and has a loving partner, a good job, and a very active social life, it was quite odd to watch this speculation about my capacity for happiness. (Though I should of course also note understanding health as a prerequisite for happiness at all is ableist, and fat activism and disability activism are very intertwined.) Anyway, a lot of this could have been addressed in a much more fair, culturally competent, holistic way by actually speaking to a fat person. Would love to see that in a future video - there are many therapists, wellness influencers, and nutritionists who are fat, and I would be more than happy to recommend some if ever needed.
@MtnManChris
4 ай бұрын
People with different opinions Does noooot = phobic. As a professional, you shouldn't be overly using this term.
@bethlovesthings
6 ай бұрын
I am SUPER into gut x brain connection (which is why I chose to get a degree in psychology and nutrition). But guess what was in ALSO in our curriculum - HAES - because it tied into viewing nutrition with a focus on the individual. Was a very interesting thing to discuss and debate with our lecturer. Critical thinking is the best skill anyone can hone ❤
@prairiehorse6168
6 ай бұрын
That's really cool. I have a psychology degree and I volunteer with people with eating disorders. We were also trained on HAES and intuitive eating principles. I would love to study further in this field but I am not sure if there are options that combine both psychology and dietetics.
@WiseMindNutrition
6 ай бұрын
The gut brain axis is fascinating! The more we learn, the more we realize how limited our current assumptions are. This field is about to blow up!
@deepwaters7242
6 ай бұрын
@@prairiehorse6168 orthomolecular psychiatry is a newer friend but it's growing! There's a great program in Eugene, OR that's been gaining traction. I'm also interested in both, starting out with psychology and then building my degrees from there to include nutrition and eventually ortho-molecular psychiatry, including medical school. There are options but there will be more in the next ten years.
@zetizahara
6 ай бұрын
This constant misinterpretation of HAES by people like Blair is upsetting to the point I'm feeling unhinged about it. God I just want to live and make health-enhancing choices without thinking about weight and fat every second of every day.
@Esthie229
4 ай бұрын
I'm really interested in the gut/brain connection. I'm autistic and I have always had GI issues. I currently struggle with binge eating (over 10 years) but because I'm not overweight my doctor didn't take me seriously. I'm working with my psychologist to see if we can figure out what's causing it. My psychologist and nutritionist have completely different views on this.
@01peace
6 ай бұрын
I think it's a little dangerous to brush off such harmful ideas as being limited to fringe extremists. As we've seen, it often starts that way and then bc of their power and viewership slowly gets increasingly normalized.
@charmainemary1
5 ай бұрын
I'm technically obese and I am happy. Yes I am working on getting my weight down but that doesn't mean I'm not happy. I love Blair, but I don't agree with how she's saying those things.
@kyleephilip9849
2 ай бұрын
I've spent so much time in my bigger body just hating on it my entire life because I've always been fat. Being fat positive isn't just about "ooo look how unhealthy I am!" It's about that little girl I once was being told I can't wear a two piece swimsuit because I have a stomachache, or my mom looking at me with big eyes everytime I put on a crop top even as an adult, everytime I've had to hide every inch of my body because I wasn't allowed to feel pretty. Now here I am as an adult going into severe calorie deficit so I can look pretty like everyone else. People like that lady will never get it.
@AnniK243
6 ай бұрын
Let's stop normalising obesity and thinking that is cool and ok to die early due to poor eating habits. They deserve respect and love just like anyone at any size but let's not pander and glorifying this.
@strangergoat
6 ай бұрын
As a fat person, I'm pretty happy, but also I'm not always happy, because life. Can someone in a thin body please let me know if they are always happy? Because Blair seems to think y'all are, but I suspect that people in all bodies experience a range of emotions and affects. 🤔
@Diana-qp2rw
6 ай бұрын
As a thin person, I definitely have less struggles that fat people have - that definitely contributes to happiness and makes many things easier. I can’t imagine not being able to move my body like I can because of excess weight and I’m happier with my body (not just looks, also health and what it’s able to do) than I would be if I was overweight. That being said, happiness is much more complex and it doesn’t come from weight. I have happy moments and unhappy moments, just as everyone.
@tbryan5437
6 ай бұрын
My question/rebuttal to this woman stating that these people died, is “okay, now let’s look at all the thin young people who have died”.
@Taromnom
6 ай бұрын
Or all the people who died during plastic surgery procedures since she seems to be a fan of those 🤷🏼♀️
@hamlet557
6 ай бұрын
@@Taromnom The difference is that no one would call you "plastophobe" and that speaks volumes about how childish your group behaves. Keep crying about the "cruel world out there" while everyone else just shrugs and moves on with their lives.
@Taromnom
6 ай бұрын
@@hamlet557 “your group” okay bro
@jen7662
2 ай бұрын
Abbey you are certainly entitled to your thoughts around this topic, but my red flags are pinging big time with activism lingo (primarily ‘folks’ and ‘oppression’ and ‘fatphobic’.) Healthy at any size is complete BS. Fat people (like myself) are not victims, most of us make unhealthy choices which put us in an unhealthy body. I have PCOS, Hashimoto’s and have used food to cope from an early age. I would have much rather have people around me loving me enough to encourage me to explore why I use food and to take action on it than simply validating me. There is a difference between people actually hating fat people versus being concerned and speaking out due to that concern. While there may be individuals who may be clinically obese but metabolically healthy, I wonder how much age has to do with it. For example, my 23 year old body was metabolically healthy even from years of binging while my now 42 year old body has high BP, seeing insulin resistance, my joints hurt, etc. My point is, fat people should be treated with respect like anyone else, but not treated with kid gloves because of activism.
@woxy6532
3 ай бұрын
Ive done a lot of research into gut microbiology, and the odds of an obese person having a healthy gut microbiome is EXTREMELY unlikely. To become obese its virtually impossible to become obese on whole foods, high fiber and foods that are fermented fibers that balance the microbiome. Obese people are taking in simple sugars which we know causes small intestine bacterial overgrowth, bacteria migrating and living in the small intestines where they are NOT supposed to be. With SIBO it causes MASSIVE intestinal inflammation, leaky gut syndrome, malabsorption disorders and the bacteria in the small intestines literally steal micro nutrients, vitamins and minerals. With the gut inflammation it causes massive immune responses especially cortisol which slows and interferes with the metabolism even more.
@finomcitrom
6 ай бұрын
How is it that you always critique people who eat healthy but little, but don't critique the ones who eat more but also clearly not as healthy or even unhealthy?
@alylei31
6 ай бұрын
I think there are mixes like I think it’s good to love yourself at any size but the issue imo lies in the extreme side, like being delusional thinking it’s healthy to be extremely obese, you can still love yourself but I think if you allow yourself to get to such a state of ill health is a reflection of mental state too. I find that when I was obese that was the case for me but again could vary per person but regardless it’s a tough topic. It’s really sad that our society pushes for people to be thin yet food is so highly processed and we live such a sedentary lifestyle it makes it very difficult to then be shamed for your size when it’s difficult to mentally and physically get to a healthier state
@rosiered2357
6 ай бұрын
Blaire white is jumping on the fat phobia bandwagon simply because it's controversial. She is the queen of misinformation and toxic to the core. The Right Opinion did a fantastic deep-dive documentary on her. I know very little about nutrition and the science surrounding it, however, I am an expert on mental health. A lot of super morbidly obese people deserve the same sympathy and respect as someone with anorexia. They have a similar prognosis, unfortunately, and require intense psychological support to get better. We don't shame people with broken legs but eating disorders, especially over eating disorders are treated with ridicule and contempt. Nutrition is of course very important to mental well-being, but super morbid obesity is a mental illness, a lot of the people I have worked with who have this issue, are well aware of what foods are healthy, that is not the problem, they are aware of the how their body size is extremely damaging to their health, but the compulsion, addiction or using food as a coping mechanism is too strong to manage without professional support. Blaire white has zero compassion for people who struggle every day with this.
@AbbeysKitchen
6 ай бұрын
Yes, agree. We need to exercise empathy for folks struggling at both ends of spectrum (and between)
@sorellabby
6 ай бұрын
I think Blaire is targeting more of the fat activists actively forcing it down others throats on social media and those who hate others for stopping the engagement with the movement rather than normal people imo, it’s the same way people try to tell Eugenia cooney to seek help for years now but she’s actively influencing many people to become like her indirectly even through fetishization etc.
@Spectra651
6 ай бұрын
The point about using food as a coping mechanism is so true. I used to watch a lot of 'My 600lb Life' because I found it rather interesting, and whenever the show delved into the back stories of those individuals featured, I noticed there was one thing almost all of them always had in common: at some point in their lives, usually their childhoods, they were the victims of SA. Far more often than not this is where their extreme dependence on food began, and without professional therapy to get at the root of the problem, it only got worse as the years went on. That's one aspect about the show I *never* cared for, the fact they'd take these super morbidly obese people, have the resident doctor put them on a highly restrictive diet in order to qualify for gastric bypass surgery, watch them struggle on their own over the next several months, and then only *after* they've failed several times to successfully lose the weight (and been "rightfully" shamed for it) were any kind of psychotherapy sessions considered. How do you take away these people's one coping mechanism and expect them to do well on a radically different diet plan without FIRST AND FORMOST delving into the issues that made them turn to food in the first place? It's so backwards. As a doctor you would *never* just hand a severe anorexic a pamphlet and say, "Here, I want you to gain 20lbs over the next three months. Just stick to this diet and ignore that little voice in your head that tells you to restrict food. Arighty, see you at the next appointment!" I truly don't know why we treat one ED with such care and compassion but not the other.
@anniec1978
6 ай бұрын
I find the gut brain connection content super interesting, I would love to hear you make a video about a mental health promoting diet!
@merandareast2552
6 ай бұрын
Unfortunately the Body Positivity movement has actually become a “if you aren’t actively getting fatter we don’t want you” movement. People are getting kicked out of groups for expressing concerns about their health, their weight, a desire to lose weight or not wanting to keep gaining weight. Also, your suggestion to report these dangerous videos is great in theory but none of the platforms will do anything and they always say “this video does not go against our community standards”.
@OkayestChemist
6 ай бұрын
The first video that you posted (the activist with the cat) seems to me, without context, seems like it was posted by the OP with sarcasm. Of course, one of the things I know about Blaire White is that she's very, very good at presenting things without context with the specific intent of spitting out talking points for views. I definitely appreciate your breakdown of Blaire's claims, but man I hate that we always have to break her stuff down to mitigate the damage she does to anyone unfortunate enough to watch one of her videos.
@vectoon3739
6 ай бұрын
This. I came here to share that. It was clearly sarcasm
@justcallmejessz3712
6 ай бұрын
Blair's delivery is not.... the kindest. But. She is also not wrong. The body positivity has come around to including all bodies and just big bodies. But the bias it created still lingers. Being thin, or too thin, is allowed to be commented on while saying someone is too big makes you horrid. (Lets agree to jist keep our mouth shut about others bodies lol) A nuanced bit but something i noticed in this video... clips of the morbidly obese bodies were shown on screen. The image of Eugenia is blurred. While i DO understand the idea behind it it still does perpetually point out the difference in the body acceptance movement when the body is too small
@CarlosRomeroFilosofia
6 ай бұрын
8:15 "so a fat person who perhaps is eating in a calorie surplus but is eating a lot of high fiber whole foods could potentially have a more favorable microbiome than a skinny person who eats a ton of sugar and meat" No. If you're eating a lot --- a _literal_, _real_ lot --- of high fiber whole foods, it's _very_ difficult to eat in a surplus; simply because high fiber whole foods are some of the most satiating foods. How many morbidly obese people are eating high fiber whole foods? Please be real, what the research _does_ support is that the epidemiological rise of obesity is very tightly associated with rising consumption of _ultra-processed_ foods, _not_ high fiber whole foods. It doesn't matter that you think that "potentially", i.e. in an imaginary situation, it could be otherwise.
@Antigone10
6 ай бұрын
I have degrees in both psychology and microbiology and as a nonexpert who has reviewed the literature, fat people have loads more mental health issues than healthy weight patients because of their fatness. Yes, some of that is tied to the microbiome but most is tied to the destroyed endocrine and neurotransmitter systems. Good news, weight loss and exercise have been shown to be 900 times more effective at treating things like depression, anxiety, etc. in obese patients than any medications. You mental health is very much tied to your body health and obesity is literally a disease state and impossible to be healthy in. Overweight, some patients can be perfectly healthy. Obese, diseased, always.
@itsgabbybtch5587
6 ай бұрын
I love how it's always the antimaskers who police people's bodies the most, like if being fat is unhealthy, let that person be unhealthy. It's not an infectious disease, it's not something one spreads just by being fat/not agreeing with you, and it's only getting worse because of the economy. Eating healthy is next to impossible for working class people because it's so expensive, quinoa and organic almond butter are quite simply out of our price ranges. Fat activism isn't about making everyone fat, it's about dismantling discrimination. Body positivity is about loving your body, not making everyone fat. What's making everyone fat is the fact they need to work 60-70 hours a week just to house their kid and feed them. Who has the time to make hearty healthy meals when you're working 2-3 jobs just to survive? If we had an economy where everyone could make themselves healthy meals very easily, the obesity rates would be a hell of a lot lower, but that's not the case. However, there's no getting rid of obesity completely without policing people's bodies in ways that are quite frankly unethical, health is great, but so is a person's bodily autonomy.
@shandi6246
6 ай бұрын
You don't need quinoa and organic almond butter for fat loss, you just need to be educated on how thermodynamics works
@kraaaah2823
6 ай бұрын
And we know how great the education system is in the US @@shandi6246
@mysteriousastrolabe
6 ай бұрын
@@shandi6246 CICO may be simple, but it is not easy. Being rich is simple, a matter of money in > money out. Simple. But obviously not easy.
@shandi6246
6 ай бұрын
@@mysteriousastrolabe Fat loss is hard but being out of shape is harder. We have to choose our hard. The good news is there are tons of free educational resources out there.
@pallasydoor7116
6 ай бұрын
Her point is still important though. Even if it's not quinoa, or almond butter. It's a hold of foods that are potentially better for others vs some. Not everyone has the same gut so like quinoa could potentially better for some vs rice. It depends. Though a lot of health foods are noted as like vegetables and healthy meats and fats. Which quinoa is one of those points. It get weird after a while.
@shandi6246
6 ай бұрын
Getting to a healthy fat level is the ultimate form of body positivity and self love because it means my internal organs will no longer be squished by the visceral fat around my stomach area. My heart won't have to work as hard to pump my blood. I have not seen much from this community that isn't blatantly enabling people to remain in an unhealthy state. That said, no one should be discriminated or ridiculed because of their size. There is a difference between tough love and cruelty.
@nnnnnnnnnnn7292
5 ай бұрын
What immediately caught my attention was Blair herself. She had undergone so many plastic surgeries and enhancements that one could easily conclude that she suffers from advanced psychological disorders. She seems to be trying to resolve her own issues through passive aggression toward those outside her 'ideal narcissistic circle'. However, I know from personal experience that every overweight person has likely experienced significant trauma in their childhood. They may be struggling with depression, even if they try to hide it behind a facade of happiness. It's important to remember that physical health and mental wellbeing go hand in hand.
@cam8868
4 ай бұрын
Blair said that her being trans is most likely a response to childhood trauma
@chloro8306
5 ай бұрын
The core tenant of HAES is that you can be healthy at literally any size. People try to say that that's a strawman and in reality HAES just means you can pursue health at any size, but that's not true. HAES, from its beginning, has been a movement founded on the belief that you can be healthy at any size. And there is no axis of oppression against fat people. There simply is not. There are biases and prejudices against fat people, there is not oppression. These are different things. There are also prejudices against people who are not perceived as attractive for many other reasons, also not axes of oppression. To say that fat people are oppressed would require you to believe that thin people hold systemic power over fat people. Take one look at the distribution of fat and thin people on Earth and you can clearly see that is not true, let alone the fact that there is no evidence of this within rich countries either. There is also still little to no understanding of how the gut biome works, let alone anywhere close to as much evidence for the microbiome causing good or bad health outcomes as there is for excess fat causing bad health outcomes. The gut microbiome is still pretty much a mystery, fat is not. And lastly, all you had to do to get Blaire is point out that she ripped this basically plagiarized her video from Michelle McDaniel.
@spectre9957
6 ай бұрын
When you're dead at 40 and have to be buried in a piano box, the point becomes moot.
@Raven74408
6 ай бұрын
The only thing that makes me unhappy as a fat person is being treated poorly by others because of my size. Full stop. My life is actually pretty good outside of that.
@tgilbs
6 ай бұрын
Like many biases, prejudices, etc., it can be easy to rationalize our hatred and our disgust. Fatphobia is a real thing and most people who express their "concern" about fat people and fatness, they are not actually concerned about the health or well being of fat people. This creator (Blaire) can go on and on about how bad the fat positivity movement is, but she perpetuates the hurt and harm that fat people experience in their every day lives. I want to tell people - mind your own business!!! I also find we are obsessed with the narrative that it's solely a personal responsibility and not a reflection of our food environment, culture, and some potential genetic predispositions. If it was as simple as people make it out to be, I don't think we would have the obesity rates we have. We are culturally obsessed with thin bodies and fit bodies, but most people in the US are fat. That, to me, is telling that it is not 100% without our control. But I do think that HAES has a bad reputation, possible ill-earned. Until this video, I thought HAES promoted the idea that obesity is not a valid health concern. But this seems to be a controversial take, compared to the consensus that obesity is high risk factor for long term health.
@laurenthomas7074
6 ай бұрын
I am interested in food and bodies and discrimination but I avoid most of that content, even from otherwise responsible creators, because I dont trust people to deal with these topics sensitively. Those topics often end up being triggering even when creators think they are being careful Your channel is one of only a few sources I will readily engage with on these issues, because I feel like I can trust you to be genuinely thoughtful and to deal with these issues fairly without massively triggering your audience, thank you x
@uniquenewyork3325
5 ай бұрын
I think you hit the mark perfectly, the second I started seeing all this increase in predatory cherry picked content on fat people I've been dodging it like the plague, the level of fat phobia each one manages to sneak into their videos is insane. People will literally line up excuses for calling someone a whale or a big back by saying "I'm just helping them" instead of taking the care to handle an eating disorder the way it should be.
@kmdiamond
3 ай бұрын
The thing people dont realise is body positivity does not = obese positivity. essentially that;s where all of this movement's downfalls come from. These blogs aren't happy though. Every few blogs they throw in one where they're crying about how no one knows how much they hate themselves. Mukbangs are comletely separate from fat positivity. He wasn't doing Mukbangs.
@queenangel321
4 ай бұрын
Mukbang videos are actually what helped me stop my eating disorder and push me into intuitive eating. Also not all mukbang videos are people eating 25 cheeseburgers.
@AndyPresto75
6 ай бұрын
Being transgender and having no doubt faced much hatred and discrimination you'd think that she'd have more (some?) compassion, kindness and open-mindedness as well as less of that smug and hateful nastiness. Nice work as usual, Abbey.
@msdouglas12100
6 ай бұрын
Nope she's a terrible person and has been just as terrible to other trans people.
@caroline-s
6 ай бұрын
She's actually anti-trans. It's so strange.
@AndyPresto75
6 ай бұрын
@@caroline-s Self-hatred directed outwards, maybe? Regardless, it's very strange.
@caroline-s
6 ай бұрын
@@AndyPresto75 Possibly.
@MikanVTuber
6 ай бұрын
@@caroline-sshe's not anti trans, have you ever actually watched a video of hers?
@audreybringgold6217
6 ай бұрын
Blair plays the social media game well. She's great at getting people mad and engaged in her videos, and I personally agree with the core messages in quite a few of her videos. After watching her stuff for a while I noticed that I felt more angry at the world and agitated afterwards. I stopped watching. I've learned that I need to spend my downtime on things that are uplifting in my current season of funky mental health. I don't really miss watching Blair. I get why Blair is jaded by social media and some of the groups she targets, so her spiciness is understandable. Soooo the Abbey inserts of empathy, understanding, and kindness really balanced out the messages in Blair's video 😂 Great video.
@Diana-qp2rw
6 ай бұрын
Agree! I used to watch Blair a lot when I had just finished high school and wasn’t studying yet. It made me too angry, so while I still think she has some good takes, I don’t watch Blair anymore. I usually prefer more positive videos now.
@swiftcastholy9034
5 ай бұрын
I feel like this might be a harder one for you to tackle, just because your own experiences with disordered eating are very different. Struggling with classically recognized disorered eating means trusting your mind over your body. Your mind tells you that the hunger isn't real, and that you shouldn’t indulge it. Your body still knows you need food. Struggling with overeating is trusting your body over your mind. You give in to every impulse, and your body adjusts to those new norms. You likely understand what you're doing is unhealthy, but it feels good. That positive feedback loop is the issue there, because you're getting pleasure from the process. The closest you can get on the other end of the spectrum is a feeling of achievment of losing another pound. Blaire might not be tactful, but she’s honest. This lifestyle kills people quickly, and anything short of condemnation is enabling that behavior. Is she too harsh? Maybe, yeah, but she's genuine in her belief... and correct.
@lucymcknight605
6 ай бұрын
I think Blaire is mostly trying to drive home that obesity is a common comorbidity and a factor of depression, maybe she isn't qualified to go into the details but I don't think she's wrong. Surely some obese people are perfectly happy and have good blood markers etc but statistically I think she's probably right. I think she might lack subtlety but overall she has a good point. There are so many movements that say "you're perfect as you are" and so many others saying "you must attain perfection as we describe it". Those of us that appreciate subtlety and lifestyles that cater to us as individuals don't tend to try to create movements. In short if everyone focused on being their best selves and forgot about mob movements we'd have a lot less problems
@Ifoundkatrina
6 ай бұрын
A clear example of fatphobia being wrapped in a false sheet of concern. I appreciate your endless tact when exploring this topic. So much work to be done in the nutrition community and society at large!
@AbbeysKitchen
6 ай бұрын
Thank you 🙏🏻
@oddi-trea6099
4 ай бұрын
The slander towards Bill Fabrey (one of the founders of NAAFA) is terrible. Sure, he is attracted to fat women, but much of his motivations were human rights and even as a man in his 80s, he's still active in this, as you can see from his social media. He wasn't this creep lusting after a bunch of fat women. The wife he had that motivated him to start this movement was someone he was married to until she died of cancer a couple of decades ago and it seems like he's in a relationship now. I listened to the new leader, Tigress Osbourne, talk about NAAFA's history and direction in a podcast. It's a good idea to learn about an organisation from the people in it. I personally have no opinions on any person or organisation I mentioned in this comment but I do strongly opine that Blair seeks to be inflammatory and omit things to make a point.
@daisycow0006
7 күн бұрын
14:30 she can't imagine only have 3 yrs to live because of bad diet but is ok with cosmetic procedures that could change your life over night
@evasestic
6 ай бұрын
Abbey you have become politicaly correct. She was implying that being OBESE you truly cannot be happy. You CANNOT promote being that big to other people saying it's okay. Most of people that size really have serious health issues. Nobody can tell me that it's okay not being able to run, climb normally on the stairs etc. FAT ACTIVIST??? What kind od BS is that?
@cathycupcakes
6 ай бұрын
You should go watch her vids from a few years ago. She’s used to be a lot worse. It’s actually quite refreshing to hear her newer content.
@ariel5186
26 күн бұрын
Do people forget there's such a thing as being underweight and that it's even worse for your health just to be a little underweight/malnourished than it is to be a little chubby? 🤔😅
@B1scu1t_Case
7 күн бұрын
Except no one in the video is "a little chubby"... These fatfluencers dropping dead were all MORBIDLY OBESE.
@LiquidReality90
6 ай бұрын
Great video ! Can you do a video on where the (false) connection of food dyes causing adhd comes from? As a person with ADHD it's a maddening and dismissive notion.
@thunderstorm0826
6 ай бұрын
‘Men can be attracted to thinness, or big butts, or brown hair, or blue eyes, and they aren’t called a pervert, why can’t they be attracted to larger women’ - how large are we talking. Obese women? Obesity is not healthy. Humans naturally are attracted to health. Healthy partner means healthy offspring. Thinner frame does majority of times suggest a healthier better lifestyle. Liking big butts IS a sexual preference. Liking brown hair and blue eyes is also a preference that is purely aesthetic, I don’t understand why that would be considered perverted? Also, none of those affects quality of life. An obese partner, man or woman (idk why we are only talking about men liking bigger women here), is at risk of a lot of health issues, they often lose their motor skills and functions, can’t properly parent their children, can’t live a normal fulfilling life, and are at risk of early death. Now explain why would someone be attracted to a partner like that. And if you can’t come up with a reasonable answer, maybe dig a little deeper in the darkest corners of the internet. Blaire’s takes may be harsh and sound too cruel but at least she is actually saying something, that obesity is a problem and should not be culturally reinforced, while some of you are too busy being PC to ever dare to say anything that isn’t ambiguous and actually takes a stance on the matter.
@y2ssimon
20 күн бұрын
Loved this video, bringing the truths of a video, to have some balanced analysis..one thing to note, is that Blair, in my opinion is not mocking the showcased people that past away not even the ones that appear to convey a radical message, whether you like her or not, as she looks clearly concerned and saddened how people may tske this route. There are people that do struggle to have a healthier life style and try hard but cannot get results, despite what science states what is needed to do, and I think that her video was for that people to help them keep in their mindset to fight for their physical and mental health.
@lovelifeloveyourself9870
6 ай бұрын
Has Blair doesn't a video on the fitness influencer who died of heart attacks. Let's be real. She just wanted a reason to fat shame and be hateful. The worst part about this is that she has no compassion for the deceased loved ones. Imagine losing someone you love than come across a hate video about that person. Have some compassion.
@Lulu-kt6gr
5 ай бұрын
Most people can see through the BS of this movement and yet you try to foment bad feelings towards Blair?? Blair is saving lives! Every single time I’ve mistakenly clicked on one of your videos I come away with the same feeling about you - and I won’t do it again.
@jensarkany8005
27 күн бұрын
Blaire definitely doesn’t give AF about hurting feelings but I appreciate your take Abbey. Love you both. :)
@minanawe
6 ай бұрын
Do we just not understand sarcasm anymore? 😂 Who believes someone would hate their cat if it was not fat? Come on
@Mommythief0069
4 ай бұрын
At first, I was hearing fat phobia alert. Then I was like, this is going to be dumb. I actually learned a lot in this video.
@nora-.-g
6 ай бұрын
I recently wanted to learn more about anti fat bias so I am listening to the book “you just need to lose weight and 19 other myths about fat people” by Aubrey Gordon - it’s packed with great facts and data, I recommend it!
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