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@clint120
8 ай бұрын
You find out a lot about people when they never compliment. and their dead silence is a big giveaway.
@majakodzoman4924
8 ай бұрын
Yes.. and then they use their evil words "to help you"
@rwells9867
8 ай бұрын
One Hundred Percent!!!
@merithmoon2501
8 ай бұрын
Fact
@user-ly3li3ex8c
8 ай бұрын
Some people are so put off by other people using compliments to manipulate them and have a fear of looking like they're trying to brown nose that they just never have it in their mind to give compliments to those they care about. Maybe they want their compliments to mean something and be genuine instead of fishing to make up a compliment to fill some minimum quota. You should ask these people about it instead of assuming their motives behind their actions and inaction.
@noogate2672
8 ай бұрын
@@user-ly3li3ex8cThis and also I always feel as though I sound really insincere or even sarcastic when I complement people. If you were never complemented growing up then it feels weird and maybe even bad when people say anything nice about you and it's difficult to really understand that other people don't feel like that.
@CatBab-es5ju
8 ай бұрын
The first time I got the "silent treatment," it was like a literal slap in the face. I look back and can't believe I stuck it out for 17 years. 😢
@Pyrrhic537
7 ай бұрын
My elderly mother has many narcissistic traits. Always did...Highly emotionally abusive, scratches and claws and slaps , martyrdom, guilt tripping, insulting, no boundaries etc but she has never ever given me silent treatments. She did give every past partner she had though. She ghosted several. Nearly everyone she knew was violent or threatened suicide. My wife or ex wife does give silent treatments and ghost's. The latest has lasted a year. She unblocked me to ask me a favour a year ago a few times and I was blocked for another year or so earlier. She was not abusive on a daily basis like my mother is but she would become cold, silent and leave me feeling something was going on. Longest silent treatment she gave me when I lived with her was 2 month's. She had 2 former boyfriend's who seemingly abused her and both were suicidal when she left them. I'm a alot stronger emotionally than I used to be. I was not abusive to my wife except when the pressure of a few month's silence tipped me over into rage. No violence though although I threw my own possessions in anger a few times but not in the direction of anyone. I didn't mean to address this comment to you. I guess I'm venting. Men can't tell people this stuff. I'm no angel and I think I have a bit of sociopathic narcissistic in me but low on the spectrum.
@sunnyadams5842
7 ай бұрын
I did 17 too. Should have been less than 17 DAYS! 😂 OH. Well, we're here now!
@rosaliaaaaaa
6 ай бұрын
Is it such a relief those sh*ts just keeping shut ? Why silent treatment hurt ?? My mother did it when I was 11 or something and still continues. First time it hurt now it's such a relief
@chetpomeroy1399
8 ай бұрын
These are *red flags.* Make secret plans to distance yourself from *anyone* who shows these behaviors. Getting and keeping toxic people out of your life is *job number one.*
@RatedArggg
8 ай бұрын
I had a narc mom, sister, and two boyfriends. I think I've learned my lesson.
@rubberbiscuit99
8 ай бұрын
Every narcissist does these and other devaluing tactics. These sick mind games do so much damage. It is really important to keep an awareness of these games in your pocket all of the time. I have remembered many things from my childhood, but now with a new understanding of what messages I was being sent, without the messages having been sent openly and directly. It is sickening. I wish we could make this behavior punishable by law.
@nyeahgarner2420
6 ай бұрын
We used to have God led family systems but that was done away with.
@familyman1118
8 ай бұрын
when i met my narcissist girlfriend i had so many things i wanted to do , cooking , writing etc an she just shot down everything i was excited about. For example i like cooking an she would say cooking is for female not men or writing music is for younger people , that im too old. would never compliment me on anything or thank me. she tried to make me feel like im nothing
@patfume23
8 ай бұрын
I hope you got rid of her!
@familyman1118
8 ай бұрын
@@patfume23 I'm away from her now , 3000 miles . she keeps trying lure me back
@user-zy8gk2nn7d
8 ай бұрын
@@familyman1118 of course bc yous till have life in you and she wants you to stop existing
@orangeorangeness2116
6 ай бұрын
It's like they all come with the same playbook. They do that.
@ellevee5586
8 ай бұрын
Wow you have one of the kindest faces ever. Beautiful !!!! Speechless.
@glarimo80
8 ай бұрын
Totally agree 💯
@FromSurvivingToThriving
8 ай бұрын
you're so sweet!! Thanks!!!
@Clevelandsteamer324
6 ай бұрын
No simpin
@desleyroberts8674
7 ай бұрын
Yep , Totally what u say is true , I felt like I was going to have a MENTAL BREAKDOWN 💔 , when I realized they enjoyed trying to Ruin my life ♥️ 🙏 🕊️
@stevensawyer5924
8 ай бұрын
You just described perfectly my 2 years with a trauma therapist for my cptsd. She got all my life savings. 10 months now no contact. It's like coming out of a fog from a powerful drug. I've tried to report it but no one believes me. Its easy for them to blame my cptsd. They play it off as," you two were just not a good fit." I know what happened, I have issues but I'm not crazy.
@Lioness_of_Gaia
8 ай бұрын
💚
@estherhirsch4460
8 ай бұрын
Really upset to hear. Scarey that a therapist can do more harm. Wishing u blessings
@drppr76
8 ай бұрын
Some therapists get it, but others are just a waste of time and money
@quickgirl80
8 ай бұрын
That makes my blood boil! That’s the perfect position for an abuser to find a vulnerable person. I’m sorry that happened to you. Glad you’re away from them now.
@Michael-it7nx
8 ай бұрын
Many therapists, havnt healed their own issues, imo, some just want the societal status… I learned to find ones that have had their own personal healing journey as well, opposed to a therapist that only has the paper work. And .. if you’re a man , get a man therapist. Ive had some good female therapists , but harder to find.
@Song_of_Praise
8 ай бұрын
Now let’s get a build self esteem vid 😊
@Shadowman...
8 ай бұрын
What's soooo creepy and scary about these people is HOW ALIKE there behaviors are~No matter what part of the world or country there from. Twilight Zone stuff I swear...
@Jeanelle.Mishkina
7 ай бұрын
Demons inside speaking through that's why. They speak word curses over you that make you come into agreement through believing their words. Literally speaking death over you again and again which is why you start to get physically sick. As I've come to Jesus, He gave me dreams and revealed to me when I was ready to start healing. The Lord prepares a table before us in The presence of our enemies. The word of God is becoming my armor, as I now see my worth, my identity in Christ and no longer can be attacked in this way like before. Only the words of God gives life and spirit, builds you up, heals those wounds. A personal relationship with Jesus has been healing me more than anyone could. Only the Greatest Physician can heal these wounds of our soul. He restores my soul. From Psalm 23
@Truthteller1s
8 ай бұрын
So good. I know the fawn response is my weakness. It was engrained in me in childhood due to my abusive grandiose narcissist father. It continued on in my 29 year marriage to a covert narcissist. I remember looking at her when she was raging and thinking "I married my father". So sad that these miserable people choose to ruin so many lives.
@_soupdumpling_
8 ай бұрын
You just described my parents and elder sister to the T. Directly telling me how I will never be loved by anyone or I will never achieve anything in life or being sarcastic while talking "nice" about me. My mother the instigator of all the fight, liar and also manipulator and when confronted acts like she never did any of those and my elder sister should be awarded for her tactics and mastery in gaslighting. I kid you not her attitude towards me " you are nothing without me ". Has turned all of my other sibling towards me with her manipulation and gaslighting.
@glarimo80
8 ай бұрын
You are so smart and helpful in the healing process. Thank you for sharing your knowledge and insight! 👏 👏 👏
@MysteryGrey
8 ай бұрын
Boundaries. Then, enforcing boundaries.
@jean-pierrep6844
8 ай бұрын
The problem is that a young person has been attracted to, addicted to, and dated at least 10 toxic people, jerks, or assholes. This is a dependant personality disorder, aka codependency. I was codependent because I was lonely and lost my identity.
@annastone5624
8 ай бұрын
My god YEARS of this. It helps so much to hear it described JUST WHAT THEY WERE UP TO!! I always believed they ‘didn’t mean it’ … NOW I’m convinced most of them know exactly what they are doing. Thank you, fawning is not a personality trait, an essential adaptation to stay safe.
@lynngregory393
7 ай бұрын
My so called friend has used me for over 7 years and she displays all 10. Thank you for this. The covert narcissist is the worst. Don’t fix the relationship. Leave it. Leave it and get your self esteem back.
@donaldmacphail9988
5 ай бұрын
Am soooo grateful to have listened to you as the penny has now dropped. This simply fantastic and so well put. If I could hug you right now I would. Thank you "from the bottom of my heart"
@sxfnlc
8 ай бұрын
Wow the fawning is so true.. I lost myself in this awful relationship. The trauma bond is so unhealthy. I blocked this man and have been crying a lot and miss him 😮why do I miss him? He was so abusive to me.
@kdub3288
8 ай бұрын
Yep, I was gaslit 100%. She literally said I was being controlling and dismissive (because I asked if we can have a conversation about our conflict the next day since I was out with a bunch of friends as the conflict was occurring)and literally 8 hours later (when I had the time to respond) I pointed out that I wasn’t the one that was name calling (we were arguing) and she literally said to me that she NEVER called me names. Mind you this was literally 8-10 hours later and I had the proof but I just didn’t care anymore. I actually watched a video by a psychologist that talked about how some narcissistic people literally do not remember what happened or what they said when they go into a rage. It’s like their mind shuts down and they go into an autopilot rage where they aren’t in control and that’s why sometimes they deny they ever said things because they actually can’t remember. Which is NO EXCUSE, but just thought it was really interesting.
@Shadowman...
8 ай бұрын
it is true when they rage out that they can't remember. I think a lot of them are Bipolar and narcissistic. If you were to film them when there raging out, and then play the footage back later when there calm, they would say they have no memory of that or that it looks like a crazy person on film. So strange...
@alimccreery755
5 ай бұрын
I heard all of that. Since I got rid of the toxic people in my life I’m slowly reaching out to others to communicate but I’m not allowing anyone to get too close to me yet. I still have a ways to go in my healing journey. I’m reaching out a little bit so that I don’t lose touch with communicating. I enjoy spending time by myself and especially now because I know I have that cptsd and I want to take care of myself. Thank you for your videos 🥰🥰
@boxelder9167
8 ай бұрын
The fawn response is how narcissistic people find us. I felt really angry when I finally saw that they were using my efforts to make the relationship work to be abusive. Super sick. Then I realized that I had become sick just from being around them for so long and it’s all I knew. I realized that I couldn’t just get better by making healthy boundaries because they weren’t there to respect me or any boundaries that I had. I had to get away from them to heal and I had to realize that if I didn’t change anything that I would attract more people like them. I had to completely stop and start from scratch.
@mebeasensei
8 ай бұрын
i get this vibe from co-workers and YES the fawn response is how they get us. And I rationalize how I do it - and i resent it afterwards, and my boundaries are weaker than ever. And sometimes, it would be creating instant enemies when I can't afford any more - if I don't do the fawning response. They frame it in a way that it is either do x or do y and you are damned wither way. So I live to fight another day. Sort of.
@Shadowman...
8 ай бұрын
So true, They have that power also because there so damn uncompromising and willing to budge on anything. Here is a poem I have always loved about putting ourselves first. It's called the Journey- by Mary Oliver. One day you finally knew what you had to do, and began, though the voices around you kept shouting their bad advice- though the whole house began to tremble and you felt the old tug at your ankles. "Mend my life!" each voice cried. But you didn't stop. You knew what you had to do, though the wind pried with its stiff fingers at the very foundations, though their melancholy was terrible. It was already late enough, and a wild night, and the road full of fallen branches and stones. But little by little, as you left their voices behind, the stars began to burn through the sheets of clouds, and there was a new voice which you slowly recognized as your own, that kept you company as you strode deeper and deeper into the world, determined to do the only thing you could do- determined to save the only life you could save.
@boxelder9167
8 ай бұрын
@@mebeasensei - Saying no caused retaliation in the past so I learned to avoid that. Then I started saying no to everything just to get practice. Especially when I had someone who was trying to get one over. The answer is always no to them. I have to get used to saying things like, “That’s not true”, and, “I wasn’t put on this earth so you could have someone to manipulate”, and, “I’m here to do my job and that’s all.” I have to be prepared for the backlash but over time they get someone else to take advantage of.
@tmking7483
8 ай бұрын
Hi boxer Thanks for your post , a light bulb moment for me
@tmking7483
8 ай бұрын
@@mebeasenseihey me ,_ ignore them _ really they have fantasy that they king and u their slave. These nut jobs trust me so much that they actually come up to me and say hi ,_ you my slave or you give me your house. It's bizarre. Or how about the neighbour asking me if I want their bank info.Weird to be me.
@TheHeavensAndEarth
8 ай бұрын
I was the trophy child, scape goat, and yet never acknowledged if you can imagine that.
@davidlind3237
7 ай бұрын
Right now I’m getting the silent treatment. Before that the usual weight requirements daily weigh ins. The usual eating noises and other normal noises she could not stand. Plus the excessive exercise routines. Never doing it the right way. But you are helping me so much. I taking my power back. Thanks!
@Shadowman...
8 ай бұрын
The fact that they want to destroy self esteem in others says volumes about not only there character, but what they will have to deal with in the next life. KARMA IS REAL ~ THEY WILL MEET WHAT THEY SOW. But to admit that there is a spiritual force above them doesn't sit well with the little jerks that they all are, so they just deny it.
@DebbieNixon-ui6gp
8 ай бұрын
The self esteem video - is me to a capital T - I have been stuck in this brain for soo long - this has made me realize sooo much - I want to get unstuck from this brain
@jezbezzer4277
8 ай бұрын
Thx for the help you do ❤
@guenthermarschall01
6 ай бұрын
Thank you for this video. I experienced more or less all of these things in a six-month relationship with a narcissistic woman. I couldn't believe how she behaved in so many situations. Especially the point that she was "such a nice person" to others and I got all the shit that nobody knows about her who only sees her 1-2 times. It's all the little blows and irritations that break you. At some point you move and talk like you're walking on eggshells; you can't do anything right. At some point, you get so angry about the double standards and the constant "it's everyone else's fault" and the passive-aggressive micro-injuries that it becomes a pure horror trip. Normal, healthy, empathetic human behavior doesn't exist. Only a self-righteous and self-centered worldview. It's like dealing with a defiant and badly behaved little child. Whenever something is not as this child (in the body of an adult woman) imagines it to be, it gets angry, whines or talks total nonsense that you simply can't understand.
@mhhth
7 ай бұрын
Knowledge about narcism helped/ helps me to understand why the narcist did it: thank you Michele again for your clear explanation. Also Ben Taylor, he is/was a narcist, explains very well how narcists think. Till now this helps me to get back to my own feelings.: PMT is helping me: for so long I was in my head ( to survive), now I had to learn that my feelings are there too. I had to make connection with my body again: be honest to myself and my borders and know that God sees my worth ... he gave his son for me too. The Bible explains too that we life in difficult times where many people only thinks for themselves. Ben Taylor said also: look at the FACTS about the narsist ( not what they say: I love you ...) but also the ( wrong) stories you told and believed yourself all the years. Look at the facts. The Bible say: The truth makes your free!
@tamaraweed3124
8 ай бұрын
😢 from childhood I have been in this but now I've also become the narrasiste. I can only imagine how much work this will take to get my life on the right path and break these chains 😢
@Jeanelle.Mishkina
7 ай бұрын
My husband has and does all 10 and I'm sure more things. This is the year i can finally SEE it more clearly.
@user-dk3gv9dp3x
7 ай бұрын
For many years, my covert narc ex of 33+ years made me feel afraid and intimidated that I wasn't allowed to say what the narc or their family was really like and what was really happening behind closed doors, the narc abuse from them. That I would be punished.
@tsmanu81
5 ай бұрын
Your explanations are spot on. Thanks a lot for doing this 😍
@drewisours
6 ай бұрын
You described my Mom and family
@cindy7733
7 ай бұрын
This is spot on! Thank you, Michele. I really feel validated every time I see your videos! Makes me realize I have been brainwashed my entire life to not love myself.
@loribakergirl6438
8 ай бұрын
What’s so crazy to me is …. WHY would a person intentionally do these things to another person?? I know for certain they do. But why??
@LeftEyeofRa
8 ай бұрын
It's "control" to them. It isn't. Block them
@GNIKOFFICIAL1
8 ай бұрын
Trauma
@loribakergirl6438
8 ай бұрын
@@GNIKOFFICIAL1 trauma in their own lives?
@KellenAdair
8 ай бұрын
They want you to be as traumatized and f'd up as them. Especially, if they've been jealous of you for decades.
@loribakergirl6438
8 ай бұрын
@@KellenAdair thank you. Wow…. Ive heard the saying, “hurt people hurt people.” But so truly sad and hard to wrap your head around the fact someone would purposely play games, manipulate and hurt others to these extents. Thank you for answering.
@majakodzoman4924
8 ай бұрын
I had almost all of them with my mom. Minus gaslig
@IzabelaWaniek-i1x
8 ай бұрын
Thank you for brilliant observations and advice Michelle 😊God bless you❤
@cfrmom
8 ай бұрын
ALL TEN. If I said the wrong thing on a Friday, I would be punished with the silent treatment all weekend - "That's it, YOU have just ruined the ENTIRE weekend!." And when I was asked how my day was, he would walk into another room. When I questioned why he did that, he said he did not have time, he was busy. And ALL the other ones too. I have way too many examples, and they are all just so mean/wrong. Very sad.
@GB-sh9st
8 ай бұрын
So helpful.
@duchessdelarue5983
6 ай бұрын
You have helped me so much. I had no idea that I’ve been a victim of narcissistic abuse for 2 decades with my husband and 2 decades before that with my parents.
@Infiniteplanesociety
4 ай бұрын
I’ve been living with silent treatment, stonewalling, indifference, and withholding behaviors for five years. It took me three years to notice. Once I realized it was a set of tactics, I begin documenting it. It was then I noticed that my previous journals were nothing but a record of intermittent silent treatments. I created an escape plan, but I’ve been blocked. It’s almost like supernatural bondage to a demonically possessed person. Now I study it. These beings are subtle. When I realized what I was looking at I stopped feeding it. I stopped envisioning this relationship lasting forever. I started to imagine a separate future. But these last two years have not afforded any opportunity to escape without losing everything. But it may be worth it because I’m no different than them now. We’re both fake. She has her outside mask and her inside mask. I have my mask I wear around her, and I can be myself outside when she’s not around. It’s mindbending. These people will destroy you. They don’t possess the capacity for love.
@Tanyabah1
8 ай бұрын
I feel like you know me, my pain.Thank you
@gangGreenthumb
8 ай бұрын
The golden child.... my mother fawned over the children of my siblings, she lavished praise upon them. But did not do the same for my daughter. She didn't say anything directly mean, but she just didn't say anything nice, either. It was obvious. Then my mother would complain that I would never allow my daughter to spend the night at her home. Who would send their kid into the lion's den?? My daughter was never, never alone with my malignant narc mother and her drunken racist boyfriend of 30 years... and I didn't know anything at the time about narcissism. I just inherently knew my mother was a horrible person in spite of the grandiose persona she projected. In spite of this, I'm sure this treatment effected my daughter's self-esteem, but at least I protected her from the worst of it. My sister and I argued about this for a decade, but she finally gets it, she finally agrees I did the right thing.
@Mandajo7
6 ай бұрын
My mother is a narcissist. I separated from her 2 years ago. I keep running into highly narcissistic women who trigger that trauma. I get away and then run into another one. This time, it’s my boss. I’m working on finding another job and am diving back into trying to heal.
@randymarko486
7 ай бұрын
Thank you Michele, You're the best....... Love ALL the comments too.
@llllllllllilillii
6 ай бұрын
You are a very compelling person and enjoyable to listen to. You don't need the cheap looking B roll or distracting zooming in while you're talking, it cheapens your channel and can be triggering for people. A vid with just you talking without all the flash is much better and way easier to view.
@SriVenus-r9e
6 ай бұрын
My memories from home are in the dark. Wondering what to do to start remembering. I'm not even sure I want to at this point.
@erendiraolsen4843
8 ай бұрын
❤
@jimmyclance7955
8 ай бұрын
I have been no contact from the narc for 2 years . I am with a new partner now , and she is great!! I still struggle badly . I'm very open with my new partner about the abuse I suffered through the 21 year marriage with the narrcissist, but I catch myself in these weird self pity moods , and I give my new partner the silent treatment, and really don't want to communicate with anyone. All I want to do is isolate and feel sorry for myself. I recognize the problem, but how in the world do I get out of this? Does anyone else feel this way?
@rhythmnblues9195
7 ай бұрын
He would definitely yawn or purposefully ignore what I said, he would take little jabs at my appearance and when I would say it hurts my feelings he would say it’s a joke, he spoke another language and when we were in his home country he made fun of me in his language and wouldn’t tell me what he said in English, his sister told me right away. He would condescend me in front of other people by making fun of my lack of knowledge on something sports-related which was his profession. It was so subtle no one would notice except for me. He would comment on how attractive women looked on tv and ogle women in public and then deny it when I tried to let him know how much it hurt me. I still don’t know if this is normal, or if it’s cultural. He was from the Czech Republic and his family teased each other. Still confused to this day, but I’m home now and away from him. Turns out he was lying and hiding messages with women as well…and when I’d call him out on it, he gave me the silent treatment. The funny thing is, he called me beautiful all the time, was gentle and kind with me and supported me and all of my artistic talents. So I’m still struggling to figure out if it was me that’s the problem or him.
@anneofhearts
7 ай бұрын
hi Michelle, love your videos one tiny suggestion,,,as someone with epilepsy, too many of those digital jolt of camera close ups can trigger a seizure just to let you know
@AugustusTiberius-tq1gw
5 ай бұрын
My X was gaslighting mixed with a touch of manipulation. Pumping herself up, distance and cold. Any bar tenders out there that can make these narcissistic mixed drinks 🍸 I am buying. Lol
@quickgirl80
8 ай бұрын
Yep. My ex mastered all 10 of these, and more. 😔
@richardfrank4647
7 ай бұрын
Thank you for sharing your wisdom and understanding with us , so grateful, God bless you sister 🌈🌈
@silverlining5796
5 ай бұрын
👌🏼 exact
@tgreer1387
6 ай бұрын
What do you do to protect your CHILD from a narcissist parent? Mom is just realizing she’s been surviving narcissistic abuse and see it happening to their CHILD. How do you protect the child’s mental well being
@Ribas_darkkissa
8 ай бұрын
Just today experienced a common one in my interaction with the CN. I start telling a about smthing I saw on a video, and he interjects mid sentence with what crossed his mind (that is usually smthing he can reveal what he knows scientifically), so I just spoke on top of his interjection to clarify it was a different setting than what he referred to me, and I immediately got the eye roll, closed face and pause from him, to show me I interrupted him again, (how dare I talk at all?) I felt awful right away and again thinking why don’t I just learn to keep our interaction to hi and bye? I think that is what he wants with these in the end, to condition me to not talk to him at all, because it’s beneath him to waste his time listening to whatever I ever have to say. Unless it’s about him of course. I don’t experience these emotions in conversation with my friends, sometimes they interrupt me, specially on the phone and if I’ve been going for a while, and I just ask them to pls hear me out and let me finish , but I don’t show them displeased faces or tell them they interrupt me all the time and so discard them for that. Sigh… won’t be long until I don’t have to deal with this much longer, at least not on a daily basis. Will still need to co-parent with a CN…
@user-zy8gk2nn7d
8 ай бұрын
when narc speaks do not say or look at it just look at your phone all the time - when you have to say something just say it but do not look at him only at your phone:)))) the other thing they hate just look and adore your beautiful hand - it is like my hand is so much more valuable than you narc
@SandeepSinghCreator
8 ай бұрын
I have suffered narcissistic abuse at the hands of my parents and siblings. I was stuck in fight or flight ✈️ trauma response. I have been also walking on eggshells because of the embarassment I have to face upon showing up to the narcissist in my life. Thanks for the video Michelle. No matter what I achieved in my life, I'm still a disappointment in the eyes of my parents and sibling. The narcissistic sociopath in my life hard wired me to devalue myself and even treated my feelings as a joke. You're so cute Michelle, can I pull your cheeks?
@janeylynn5934
8 ай бұрын
What is your advice for people who have no money? I don't have $79.99 for your course, and I don't have the financial resources to get out of my narc family living situation.
@SuperPrDude
7 ай бұрын
Haha! My ex - narcissistic wife "never" insulted me. According to her, it was just an opinion.
@MostHigh198
8 ай бұрын
10/10 🙏 ❤
@carolynaranda3661
8 ай бұрын
Is the course and zoom meeting only for those that are out of a relationship with a narcissist, or will it help while still in it?
@TechViewOpinions
7 ай бұрын
All 10 😂
@rswear
8 ай бұрын
Yup, all 10.
@anitahedgecock1968
7 ай бұрын
✨🌹🌿✨
@gorillamax4872
8 ай бұрын
TEN
@ricardocamara1602
8 ай бұрын
So Michelle when you get blamed for everything breaking down in the house because i told to buy the house
@chickenbiscuit4525
8 ай бұрын
Thanks, I just know how to outstarve the cortisol., not to play some prestsil trick trying to put it back to them again. They are the helpless gain victims. They are the true damsels in distress.
@jothriny
8 ай бұрын
You are so lovely and cute ❤
@llllllllllilillii
6 ай бұрын
The blurry video is really hard to watch. Just show plain video.
@motowngirl5891
6 ай бұрын
There is no such thing as “rewiring” your brain
@dannypolska
7 ай бұрын
help you my ass:)
@brightpage1020
8 ай бұрын
Try saying, "Gee. That comment felt really hurtful and humiliating. Is that what you meant, Babe? Was that your intent to make me feel hurt or humiliated in front of our young sons and extended family at our daughter's school play?" They'll balk. They were "just joking" and you simply are oversensitive to their light hearted ribbing. Riiiiiight. "Ok then. I don't appreciate mean spirited humor, that's true. Do you think you'd be flexible enough to cut that out with me in the future? I'd really appreciate it. Thanks!"
@TCupp-Mass
8 ай бұрын
Check list - ✅️ yep, lived through all ten for over a decade before divorce. Thank God for second chances and an actual loving marriage with a good partner!
@TheQueensWish
8 ай бұрын
A loving marriage is the best revenge.
@Shadowman...
8 ай бұрын
There basically ALL Rebellious RULE BREAKERS~ Everything *THEY DO* is what we are ALL TAUGHT *NOT TO DO* in grade school and childhood.
@chriskahlson
8 ай бұрын
Highly recommended: informative insights about typical narcissist personality types who are totally void of a “moral compass” unless you have a valid premise for a particular “situationship” your time and efforts will be better spent with absolutely no contact. Also keep in mind if alcohol is involved, which is quite common, it’s serving yet another purpose , so depends on your level and duration of involvement you not only will have an unexpected breakup to contend with when your discarded it may also be compounded with alcohol withdrawal and sex addiction. Notes on Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) and Alcohol Usage Disorder (AUD): NPD and AUD frequently co-exist and can increase the effects of each other. People with a pattern of narcissism often turn to alcohol to reinforce a false sense of grandiosity. People with AUD, also known as alcoholism, can display patterns of narcissism, including self-absorption and an underlying craving for admiration.
@Theowlhawk
8 ай бұрын
You dont matter, they hate you ! Its all about them, what they want. Sadistic, cruel and with a smile
@Theowlhawk
8 ай бұрын
Had it my whole life, i was so kind, forgiving, i still have a kind good nature. Just need to mind myself, as notice some people pretend to be genuine but are cut from same toxic cloth. I forget! Because i am being more me, authentic, they hate!!!! Hense i love being by myself, in nature with my dog.
@MaryDunford
8 ай бұрын
I actually like the silent treatment. I find it relaxing, and requires zero effort. Plus, it's probably as close to a straight answer as you're likely to get.
@doriaware2965
7 ай бұрын
It does provide relief at times. Ironic, isn't it?
@jancooper443
7 ай бұрын
That's hilarious, about the straight answer......so true!
@Jallohsehkiss_41
6 ай бұрын
On if you know about it
@1Marflowa
7 ай бұрын
I found your channel these days and think your spot on. Its very helpfull. I have a question: my mom does ( almost )all the things you talk about. Now at 43/44 im done. Im done with the manipulation, name calling, false blame, lies etc etc. I said my gpodbeyes to her and the rest of the family. ( not my dad, he was the best dad. But he passed away, and I miss him so much ) Im doing much better since i went no contact. But... now my mom act as if nothing is going on and want to visit me. Almost..... the little child in me wanted to say... yesss. Luckely i waited with responding to her. In a few hours she e-mailed me that she worries about me, couse i shut out everyone from my life. And that i need mental help. My question. Do 'they ' talk you into an ilness as soon as you set boundries/ go no contact? She said im autistic, then again i have a not good function brain etc. She want me to go in therapie etc. I hope you understand what i say as Englisch is not my first language. Thank you
@lilus8060
8 ай бұрын
thank you for this video, it's very helpful!❤
@mariajmc6557
8 ай бұрын
dumped a husband and a sister and on a lease a brother nearly 20 years and enjoying it....
@pauline-v3b
4 сағат бұрын
You have the prettiest face michele , are u spanish ? Thankyou for all your videos 🧡
@naveedrehman2987
7 ай бұрын
Learn to establish BOUNDARIES and learn to say “NO.”
@SoHai80
8 ай бұрын
Yes. Yes. But. "What's love gotsta do gotsta do wit it?"
@fairygurl9269
8 ай бұрын
Research "I Can Change" SouthPark Movie 🖖😋👍
@orangeorangeness2116
6 ай бұрын
The last sales pitch I got from a particular narc was that she tried to help me be a better person, insinuating that I will miss out on her magical greatness and guidance. This was all coming from a person who could not hold on to a job, lived in her hatchback car because her own mother couldn't handle her and had no friends as no one could stand her. She would down alcohol like water and couldn't go long without consuming emotional suppressing substances. It's been almost 10 yrs since she destroyed my life and it's still as of today I still struggle to forgive myself for allowing her into my life. She still has people on her side because she came out winning since she is charismatic and her fake cool mask is solid. I'm so angry about it.
@susanfernandez5817
5 ай бұрын
This might sound weird but I thought it would be worth mentioning. The narcissist I am dealing with uses another method to make me feel inferior and that is by over flattering me in front of others, it's just too much and it's very embarrassing for me. I feel patronised and I have even been tempted to tell him to shut up because its like a big act to get brownie points in front of others to make himself look like a devoted husband. It practically makes me cringe.
@adrianamonereo8245
6 ай бұрын
Thank you so much for your really clear explanation Michele. That’ s exactly what I’ve been through
@elonmust8859
7 ай бұрын
How can you tell the difference between someone who is gaslighting unintentionally because they have been abused and don't know what they are doing, and someone who is a narcissistic arse hole ? I mean narchole.🎉
@incognito595
7 ай бұрын
I would have been long gone from the narc, but it is literally impossible. I am so despairing.
@andreaarias2085
6 ай бұрын
Michelle thank you for your insight!
@jeanninerossouw5921
6 ай бұрын
an extra one, is being really nice in front of other people,
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