Thank you all for your support. This is tough topic that I would rather have than not. I hope this video opened some minds and started some thinking about how we can do better for our children. Thank you all! ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
@danielledarlow73
3 жыл бұрын
Although I don't completely fit this conversation because my child is biologically mine she is mixed. She had no relationship with her father. My daughter has struggled with similar issues. I appreciate you so much. Thank you for sharing.
@dakeitaj
3 жыл бұрын
God bless you and your beautiful family. Pray for blessings to come your way. 💜💜💜💜
@amandabanks2249
3 жыл бұрын
You are such a great mom and your children are lucky to have you. It’s a breath of fresh air to see that you are making sure to incorporate and teach them about their culture. Keep doing the great job that you are doing.
@heathereverette2122
3 жыл бұрын
This story is absolutely PRECIOUS!!! As are you and your family, we need soooo many more people in the world with these kinds of open, compassionate minds!!!❤️❤️❤️
@jenkolk2731
3 жыл бұрын
i was always the only white kid in school hahah. i live in the Caribbean.
@JasmineLakay
3 жыл бұрын
I have NOTHING but respect for Christy and her husband. This is how you go out your way for your children. Thank you for not erasing their culture. ❤️
@wandaparker6183
3 жыл бұрын
I was just saying the same thing.
@evelyngondo7346
3 жыл бұрын
So true, they are blessed to have such big hearts
@Heart3019
3 жыл бұрын
I’m black and I appreciate you for doing the WORK. I don’t know you but when I tell you - you truly have a genuine heart who loves humans no matter what nationalities they are. Continue being phenomenal . Those children are soooo bless to have you all in their lives and I’m sure y’all are bless to have them in y’all lives.
@tammi67able
3 жыл бұрын
Amen to that!
@introspectiver1787
3 жыл бұрын
Agreed
@kerrismindset
3 жыл бұрын
I second that
@ndestine
3 жыл бұрын
So so true 💯
@candyspringerblackman9878
3 жыл бұрын
So true
@Ola_oben
3 жыл бұрын
I have never seen someone who loves her children like Christy . You talk always about them keep ya spirit high
@carolseay3806
3 жыл бұрын
Ditto
@feemac6561
3 жыл бұрын
Are they not supposed to be loved?
@mariehill8734
2 жыл бұрын
That’s says a lot about your upbringing if she’s the only person you ever saw loving her children.
@jennafarcus6063
3 жыл бұрын
There’s been so many saying negative things about a white mom giving advice for black children... DONT LISTEN! YOU ARE AMAZING! It’s a blessing what you are doing and the love you have for your kids! People are just unkind.
@ChristyGior8
3 жыл бұрын
Thank you. I am speaking mostly to white women in hopes they let their guard down and listen to me.
@reafaasa8065
3 жыл бұрын
@@ChristyGior8 im a young black woman im proud of u for how u are raising your kids to me color dont matter its all about love
@reafaasa8065
3 жыл бұрын
@@ChristyGior8 do ur kids see their bigocially family
@DorothyDandridge
3 жыл бұрын
💯
@carolpandy7476
3 жыл бұрын
Both you and Ed are definitely phenomenal parents. You, Ed and the kids are blessed to have each other.
@GlamourDees94
3 жыл бұрын
I’m white and my fiancé is black. We grew up in the same community and he always mentions how he was one of the few black students in class. Hearing you say that you looked and took the step to have a more inclusive/diverse class really struck my heart. I’m definitely going to have this conversation with my fiancé now so that we know we are in the right place for our future children. Thank you 💖
@mitziivey8405
3 жыл бұрын
If I may add, please continue following this channel. Christy gets it! The way she takes care of her daughters’ hair and the positive affirmations she bestows are noteworthy. My nephew married a white woman who doesn’t get it. She told her daughter she crazy hair which lead the other daughter to tell her that too. Now she hates her curly hair and wishes it were straight. She’s also got low self esteem. Black children need to know they are beautiful. Remember that. Also, don’t forget to have the “talk” with your kids. It’s life saving. Things are not changing with the police and with “Karens”. Don’t be naive.
@amde8554
3 жыл бұрын
@@mitziivey8405 I’m so sorry to hear that and I hope things change. Black hair is beautiful!
@caitrionaobrien9137
3 жыл бұрын
@@mitziivey8405 Such important information and message for parents! Thank you!
@TheMimmieb
3 жыл бұрын
@@mitziivey8405 wow I am so sorry for you grandniece? ( is this the case). I am white myself, and I have never been told my hair is crazy( which is soooo rude!!!) but I suffer from low self esteem , and your right black kids need to feel beautiful! They are beautiful! Everyone should feel beautiful and I am not there yet. And specifically young black girls and women have heard feks there natural beautiful hair are sometimes wrong for their work etc! So infuriating! So sad your family is suffering from this at an early age! Hope one day your nephew wife gets it one day. If not for her but for her daughter. Her self esteem needs to be championed. Have a great day again so sorry for you!
@tamerilee
3 жыл бұрын
You are literally the best case scenario for any child 🥺🥰
@anbonner17
3 жыл бұрын
Hey girl! 😄
@tamerilee
3 жыл бұрын
@@anbonner17 heyyy 😊
@jessicaholloway-brown1448
3 жыл бұрын
My child is not adopted but I fill you when you say why your son is the only black child. Keep up the great work with those beautiful babies
@Moreofnaomi
3 жыл бұрын
Who else cried? You're an amazing mom, Christy 😭❤️
@queneshiab
3 жыл бұрын
Me 😭😭😭
@lilkatdevil
3 жыл бұрын
🙋♀️
@DianneBondyYoga
3 жыл бұрын
Yup me!
@_howtobrain_474
3 жыл бұрын
Currently crying 💗💗💗
@veronicas8270
3 жыл бұрын
I definitely cried
@thewinningfam5048
3 жыл бұрын
This is a deep conversation. We live in a predominantly White area with a lot of folks adopting black kids. This video has motivated me to do better with connecting in a meaningful way with White Families that have black kids💯👏🏾👏🏾
@jacrispy2068
3 жыл бұрын
You guys hate whites but they the ones stepping up and taking care of kids y’all be making me included
@BrookAhlberg
3 жыл бұрын
@@jacrispy2068 what
@reneebishop9748
3 жыл бұрын
Christy's channel is all about love , positive vibes and diversity, why you gotta bring negativity here, you better move around with that mess
@AsmrbyAJ2024
3 жыл бұрын
@@jacrispy2068 LOOK KAREN WE DISLIKE PEOPLE LIKE YOU. STOP WITH YOUR NEGATIVITY AND GET A LIFE ! WE AREN'T WORRIED ABOUT YOU TRUST ME !
@hannah9560
3 жыл бұрын
@@jacrispy2068 Excuse me? I'm a black adoptive mother and every time I fostered and ended up adopting was white children whose parents abandoned them for drugs/alcohol. I think you should really note that all races have kids that they don't deserve. It isn't a black thing and it isn't a white thing. Plus, no one "hates whites". I think you need to open your eyes to the wonderful things in front of you instead of binge-watching the news because nothing positive is seen there.
@leighculbertson
3 жыл бұрын
White girl here! When I was a baby my parents moved from TX back to OH where they grew up. They were very purposeful about moving in to a school district that was as diverse as possible and because of that I grew up with friends that were black, asian, persian, jewish, buddist, muslim, christian, baha'i etc. and I am a better person because of that. I'm so glad Christy was intentional about this for her kids! If more people with the means did this for their families, no matter how they are created, the world would be a more loving and understanding place!
@ayshap1076
3 жыл бұрын
Wow so nice to hear someone mention Baha'is!
@sneakerhead6625
3 жыл бұрын
yh i was the same it’s so important because you get to meet ppl from so many backgrounds, especially where i live (london, england) almost everyone in my class was an immigrant (including me) so u get to learn so much, whether it’s jewish beliefs about Jesus or a typical dinner in a angolan household lol
@TheMimmieb
3 жыл бұрын
I looove this so much. Your parents sound amazing!
@byulow9905
3 жыл бұрын
I’m Asian American who grew up in a white/black community and this video almost had me in tears because I always had such a hard time fitting in with the right people and having an identity crisis. Seeing how you moved to a better area for your family is amazing. I always felt more comfort around asians but even when I made friends with the few that lived here, I always felt left out since they were from a different ethnicity. Even the Asians who were my ethnicity sometimes looked down on me too for being half and not being able to speak my mother’s language... it was really difficult growing up here in the states! On a side note I did make a best friend in middle school who was black too and we always and I mean we ALWAYS laughed together. I’m definitely grateful for having her in my life because I was going through so much. Even her parents were happy to know that I made her day. I was shy towards them back then but looking back on it now I understand how they must’ve felt. Anyways, lovely story time! Keep going strong Momma!
@Coopogers
3 жыл бұрын
I loved hearing your story. Thank you for sharing and I hope you continue to find your tribe but also continue to explore diversity. I have three best friends. 2 of them are not only 10 years younger than me but one is male from China and the other is female from Iran. My last best friend is only a few years younger and is from Nigeria. I love them all and we all hangout together. They're my tribe!
@kaiiir9312
3 жыл бұрын
so are you mixed? black and asian?
@Megh2D
3 жыл бұрын
Not only do I appreciate you making a big life shift for the benefit of your children, but I peep that fire extinguisher in the corner. That's preparation, safety, and care right there! It reminds me that I need to get a new one...
@ChristyGior8
3 жыл бұрын
That is my hubby making our home safe :) Foster home habits
@Megh2D
3 жыл бұрын
@@ChristyGior8 kudos to both of you. I hope that you never need it, but it is excellent that you have it.🤘
@dakotabussey8855
3 жыл бұрын
U do u girl😘
@pretty.hustle
3 жыл бұрын
Can somebody tell me what putting it by the door mean
@ughlele4037
3 жыл бұрын
as a 20 year old with no kids or plans for them rn idk how i got here but i am in tears the love you have for your children is so beautiful
@stephpowell7648
3 жыл бұрын
My cynical brain keeps waiting for the drop, the bad thing to come up, the thing that makes me disappointed and confirms my fears.... It just isn't coming.... I'm repeatedly impressed and blessed by you guys. I love you Christy
@lizzybabe2710
3 жыл бұрын
It's too evident that the love and genuine concern is there. It's not even offensive how she explains & understands the culture because it comes from a place of love. I have no bad critiques for her. At all ❤
@stephpowell7648
3 жыл бұрын
@@lizzybabe2710 agreed
@Micheleoneandonly
3 жыл бұрын
🥰 We are all human, and we make mistakes from time to time. Grace affords us this, thankfully. The opportunity to learn from mistakes and do better. I am sure she will slip up eventually, as we all do. I for one, will be here for her even if she does. No one is perfect and even with the best intentions, we all fall short sometimes. She has made her intentions very clear, and has been humble enough to learn what she lacks. She appears to value the feedback her youtubr community provides for her, as well. 💛
@stephpowell7648
3 жыл бұрын
@@Micheleoneandonly agreed but that isn't what I meant. Little slip ups are to be expected as part or learning and development, I'm speaking of bigger things, but again, I've not seem any to warrant my fears and I am so very grateful for her heart. Its as pure and well intentioned as it seems and that is rare.
@latoshasawyertheactress
3 жыл бұрын
I just love the devotion for your children! My husband and I have 4 adopted and biological children and the love for each isn’t any more or any less. I see that with your family and your children are just as blessed to have you as you are to have them.
@ChristyGior8
3 жыл бұрын
That’s my first purpose to show that we love the same and are no different than a biological family ❤️
@dakotabussey8855
3 жыл бұрын
Do your kids do remote and some go to school
@bulat128
3 жыл бұрын
❤️❤️❤️❤️ I grew up as one of the only black guys in my class and this touched me! It’s so important keep up the great work. Ignore the trolls, you are walking in your purpose and you’re appreciated!
@danamaria80
3 жыл бұрын
I’m a white mom with an adopted biracial boy. I’m in tears watching you. Happy tears. We’ve also experienced these same scenarios from the hair care to the emotional aspects. I could give a hundred examples and he’s only 8 years old. Thanks so much for your sharing and openness. He watches your videos with me sometimes. I especially like him to see Ace and the girls. Keep it up!!
@umismiles
3 жыл бұрын
Just hearing about the black families being present had me in my feels too! Christy girl I love you, you are doing so well by these babies and for your followers in similar situations! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 #Don'tBeAKarenBeAChristy! 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
@kittyykatie
3 жыл бұрын
haha love that hashag. no more karens , Christy's instead 💜
@feemac6561
3 жыл бұрын
Christy is definitely a light in this world...
@Heyaungegirl
3 жыл бұрын
Christy I’m sick and tired of you making me cry 😭 ...but in all seriousness I love what you do and the awareness that you are raising. You are a beautiful person and I love watching your content.
@rachellewhite4054
3 жыл бұрын
This has me teary. As a biracial woman that was adopted into a white family, I really appreciate the way you have been raising your family. Also - we used to live in Vegas! I miss it terribly, but I have two autistic kids, and unfortunately Nevada isn’t the best state for those on the spectrum. Keep up the great work!
@slimmm360
3 жыл бұрын
I am a black mom of 3 and I can relate my daughter now in 2nd grade has often been the only back child in her class. I make sure to schedule lots of playdate with my black friends and family members. We also have lots of playdate with classmates and neighbors who are white. I love her school and our neighborhood so we won't move however playdate and lots of open discussion helps alot.
@milenatarui
3 жыл бұрын
The way you're always ready to learn and share your learning journey on parenting is really inspiring!
@no.931
3 жыл бұрын
Not sure how I came across this channel but I'm glad I did. We are a military family of about 5 years and I haven't really thought of diversity until moving out of our small town. Thank you!
@silmuffin86
3 жыл бұрын
we are a military family as well and I love how diverse the community is. when my daughter was at the CDC on base it was very noticeable
@shaniathom6458
3 жыл бұрын
My family is mixed race and I never got to connect with the black side of my family or experience the culture and it definitely leaves you with identity issues. I love learning from you all the things I was never fortunate enough to learn growing up. Keep up the amazing work ☺️
@sheliamaxwell2569
2 жыл бұрын
@ Shania Thom I hope someone that has their own biracial children sees your comment. What you have expressed speaks volumes. I hope mixed families will realize how not being exposed to both sides of their families could possibly leave a void in the child's life.
@Jujuumobi
3 жыл бұрын
I’m just emotional as you because I put myself in the children’s shoe and what that boy felt in that moment of seeing someone with the same family dynamics as him is a sense of normalcy and gratitude. Thank you Christy and other adoptive parents out there because what you guys do requires a special kind of grace.
@truthhurtz19
3 жыл бұрын
My Dad is black and being a Dr in the north of England 10 years ago my sister's and I where the only black girls in school constantly, I appreciate you for doing this and making the effort.
@sneakerhead6625
3 жыл бұрын
come to the city, there’s so many of us here!
@DumplinMills1
3 жыл бұрын
Come to london we have got your back
@amandavanwyk5661
3 жыл бұрын
I know. I was the only black girl in an all girls school, the girls grammar girl school that Margaret Thatcher attended. In Lincolnshire of all places and I was born in Cape Town!!
@truthhurtz19
3 жыл бұрын
@@amandavanwyk5661 I'm Zambian! I try to explain to my daughter that being a black Northerner and African was not a vibe in the 90's 😂 funny thing is my daughter schools in Harrogate at a school heavily funded by the Thatcher family, a small world! I so wish we could really talk. X
@jemimakitoko4386
3 жыл бұрын
@@truthhurtz19 ayyy I’m in north sis too
@jaybird1301
3 жыл бұрын
Christy got me over here crying, 😭😭😭😭 Christy and Ed I wanna say from this black mom, y’all are doing things right sister. Taking time to make sure your kids know there culture is such a Awesome thing to do. This babies are so BLESSED 💕
@screwgravity100
3 жыл бұрын
This is how we can fight racism at its roots! Raising inclusive children, teaching them about inclusivity, going an extra mile... our babies are the future of this planet and we need to raise them better 👏👏
@delaanaleonard8903
3 жыл бұрын
Yes,sis I love the way you take the time to let all your kid's are beautiful and I don't know how to do my grand daughter hair,but I learned by watching you do your girls twists and I've gotten better,because I had 4 son's. But you always be encouraged, you're doing a great job.💙💜💚🧡
@jarista9844
3 жыл бұрын
Yes! Diversity is so important. I am a unique mix of Bangladeshi and multiple European cultures. I married a white hispanic and each one of our children is a different color. I wish more people thought like you. We have had so many ignorant comments over the years. This is such an important conversation! Bless you
@thatguybutitsactuallyagirl5384
3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for White Hispanic and not messed up race and ethnicity
@suewurfel-allen7330
3 жыл бұрын
What is a white hispanic? I have never heard this.
@sneakerhead6625
3 жыл бұрын
@@suewurfel-allen7330 really? about 30% of hispanics are white, they are people from spanish speaking countries who are racially white but ethnically latino or spanish. kinda how you can be white american or black american. Hope this helps!
@parkerkriel3212
3 жыл бұрын
these kids are gonna have such great, valuable conversations with their mom as they get older. the love she has and the effort she puts into doing her research to do right by them makes me wish my own mom had seen families like theirs when i was younger. it's really powerful to see such love and compassion, especially nowadays
@amiachelle9989
3 жыл бұрын
I’m not even an adoptive parent but I watch her videos because of the fact that she’s raising awareness for other white women and other adoptive transracial families to open their minds is so heart warming. I love her and the way she uses her platform to educate because you don’t get much of that these days. Thank you, Christy!
@Ceelle2
3 жыл бұрын
You always go the extra mile! And it is deeply appreciated. I am a mixed race person and my adoptive daughter is also mixed race. (Only shared to say we look alike so folks don't automatically know she is adopted.) I know all of what you are sharing. All of it! House location...schools...church!...friends. All of it. I always wanted to make sure my daughter appreciated her Black culture, Black history. And now at 27, I know she does. When she was 6 a school psychologist was amazed how she played with all on the playground.. Her best friends even today are diverse. She can converse with all confident in her own identity. Keep doing great!
@octaviafails2497
3 жыл бұрын
I really do like where you are going with this diversity situation when I was young my mom made sure we went to a school where there were black and white
@highpsi11
11 ай бұрын
It's so important that you didn't go into denial about the difficulties that your children will face and you constantly work to support their vision of what life can be like when families embrace different cultures and ethnicities.
@miyaomar1211
3 жыл бұрын
Christy I'm glad you and your husband understand the importance of making sure your black children have black friends, mentors, teachers, etc. So many white people adopt black/biracial or have biracial children yet don't try to expose them to others that look like them. They don't step out of their own white privileged bubbles to give their children the important exposure to a diverse community.
@patiencemukania4800
3 жыл бұрын
You are a devoted parent to your kids. You teaching America on how to embrace all our differences and it's okay to be different...
@calebwright3722
3 жыл бұрын
I was adopted in a transracial home of 8 and my adoptive mom had 8 of her own so I totally can relate to your family. It’s really great to show your kiddos that diversity and importance of it. I can also relate to the feeling of being the “only black kid.” Thank you for sharing and bringing your light, positivity and wisdom to other similar families. Much love to you and yours ❤️
@CarolinaKley
3 жыл бұрын
I literally cried when you told us what the other boy said.
@stephaniep104
3 жыл бұрын
I don't know you personally... but I've been watching you for a while because you inspire me to be a better mom and person. Today I cried with you hearing the amazing story of two adopted boys seeing each other as the same. Thank you for sharing!
@Lifetalkswithbb
3 жыл бұрын
I love that you bring this up. I’m an adoptee and I remember growing up I always wanted to meet other adoptees and it’s hard to do sometimes. Even as a young adult now I seek that out.
@squigglz97
3 жыл бұрын
I remember the first time I met another kid with two moms I felt so happy. Seeing and meeting diverse families really makes a huge difference with identity and self confidence ❤️
@aliyahbianca1930
3 жыл бұрын
I would love to see you one day on the Red Table Talk I think it would be such a great conversation. Since they had a talk not to long ago where a black woman came on and talked about her experience with her adoptive parents and how she didn’t necessarily identify with her black community growing up.
@CatchingPiecesOfMe
2 жыл бұрын
I just wanna say, i love parents committed to the wellness and happiness of there kids. My heart melts seeing this family living there BEST life.
@nyahj2735
3 жыл бұрын
I’ve wanted to adopt kids from different races because I love children and always wanted to learn the importance of learning their lives as well, I love your channel Christy.
@IAmSuzyQ
3 жыл бұрын
“Thousands of candles can be lighted from a single candle, and the life of the single candle will not be shortened. Happiness never decreases by being shared.” -Buddha
@biancaduchatellier4059
3 жыл бұрын
I 100% agree that children need to be in an environment that reflects diversity. As a black woman raised in a predominantly white neighborhood, I experienced a serious identity crisis when I was finally around people who looked like me. I didn’t know how to interact with people who looked like me and I started questioning everything about myself and felt like I no longer fit in with any group of people. Keep it up Christy! Thanks for being such a positive influence!
@asiannahamilton3865
3 жыл бұрын
I am black and grew up in a predominantly white neighborhood.. i wish my parents have done what you have done for your children. I love it. Your heart is absolutely beautiful. Keep being you!
@athomewithtroy1690
3 жыл бұрын
I love this message, by complete accident my daughter found a friend that has a Latino father and Spanish is their fathers First language, so him having accent was something she was uncomfortable about for a short while and now that they have that in common and see they aren't the only ones with that type of parent including the little girl also has a black mom she doesn't feel so odd. As a military family we move alot but our families have never lost touch we know the girls need each other.
@ChristyGior8
3 жыл бұрын
I love that. Connections are so important :)
@dakotabussey8855
3 жыл бұрын
Wow u have black neighbors. My whole fam is Cape Verdean. I have white and black neighbors but they’re so rude and disrespectful to us 🤨
@keishaboyd3343
3 жыл бұрын
You hear so many stories from adults about how hard it was growing up being the only or the minority. I sure your kids will be happy and whole adults with you looking out for them now
@donyelledaily
3 жыл бұрын
I remember my elementary school was pure Hispanics (I live in l.a) I felt so out of place, I didn’t know Spanish (all the kids were speaking Spanish to each other) my hair wasn’t as “pretty” and long as theirs and I just felt so insecure and out of place...then I went to a 90% black high school and I felt like FINALLLY HOME... It was just an unexplainable feeling to see peers who looked like me, educators who looked like me...I just felt a connection on another level..so yeah, I totally feel what your saying with being the ONLY black person in a group it’s so annoying and awkward at times lol.
@amandalemos310
3 жыл бұрын
That’s so nice :) ❤️
@111mckenzie
3 жыл бұрын
I understand you feeling better, but doesn’t that end up with hispanics only relating to Hispanic’s, blacks only to blacks, etc?
@donyelledaily
3 жыл бұрын
@@111mckenzie true....but kids are brutally honest so when I attempted to try to blend in and make friends at my school I was met with uncomfortable conversations & mean things being said like, “ why does your hair look like that?” Or notes being passed around the classroom of drawings of me with no hair & colored with a black crayon..they even brought a onion to school with the tiny hairs sprouting out on top of the onion drew a face on it and wrote, “ this is you and your hair” and put it in my locker...So again, I just felt so much more relieved when I was surrounded by my peers who looked like me. 🖤
@111mckenzie
3 жыл бұрын
@@donyelledaily I’m so sorry this happened. Kids can be so mean, but I do believe that this means parents were a bit like that too
@sailuna9195
3 жыл бұрын
Reading you're comments really hurts because I understand, I just moved to a predominantly latino community, my daughter is 6 she's mostly been around latino or white kids, the only place she plays with any black kids is at the park and I've tried to be friends with one mom cause her boy is 7 and goes to the same school, there for he is only a small % of kids that look like him and only my daughter plays with him at the park, I've shown her that everyone is beautifu but we will always be judged by the way we look and to never let anyone disrespect her or her friends because we know silence is just as bad, I'm so tired of the discrimination and racism between minorities, it shouldn't be like that, I'm hoping we can change that so no other little girl goes true what you went true❤️
@TriciaTheStoryteller
3 жыл бұрын
Yay! I am here!💃You are so amazing. Embracing the black community and looking to bring out the best in your kids. The point about having my kids go to a school where there are others that look like her was the highlight for me. Thank u Christy for these inspiring words. U r amazing💕
@mzhappyfree7688
3 жыл бұрын
My husband and i are dealing with this now. My kids have always been the only black kids at school and in the neighborhood. It’s hard but we are being intentional about meeting ppl these days.
@danitapenn-green2347
3 жыл бұрын
Christy, thank you for all the love that you have for your children. I see how much you love them.
@dominique4359
3 жыл бұрын
You are so intelligent and genuine. Thank you, for showing love to our community raising kids of different heritages. Thank you, for caring and just being a fantastic human being ❤ .Long live your health and happiness.
@danaperks6092
3 жыл бұрын
While I didn't adopt my daughter, your content on transracial parenting has been so helpful. My daughters father is Mexican, but he is no longer in her life. I often struggle with wanting her to be in touch with her culture but I feel like an imposter or even worse an appropriator. It's a hard line to walk and I know I'll misstep but your content reminds me that for my daughter it's a journey worth taking.
@handzeepunicura7557
Жыл бұрын
As a black adult i lived in an all white city in the Netherlands for about 6 years. It was not healthy for my well being. I'm so happy they have a mom that thinks so deeply about their wellbeing. So precious for the boys. Thanks for sharing.
@cassadygomez4748
3 жыл бұрын
i teared up when you got to the part of your story of what the womans son said. you have such a beautiful soul. i really enjoy your channel!
@tamerilee
3 жыл бұрын
Y’all are my cousins in my head!! 🥰🥰
@Snu647
3 жыл бұрын
You brought tears to my eyes. Your babies are truly blessed to you and your hubby.😄
@123lovedance456
3 жыл бұрын
Wow Cristy you surprised me every time. You are awsome.I'm not black ,but I totally understand. You are an amazing mom👏
@mzchamillion2000
3 жыл бұрын
You can not underestimate the power of positive self images. Some would have us believe there are no Black families, homeowners, engaged parents and communities. Seeing these very things firsthand will go a long way with your babies appreciation for your sacrifices once they are older. TFS 💜
@wmhfv992
3 жыл бұрын
You remind me so much of my own mom, which is a very high compliment. I am a transracial adoptee raised by a white single mother, and I'm now in my 20s and realizing not all adopted kids got the same privilege. I've spent some time in a lot of transracial adoptee groups and there is so much resentment from children who were raised in a homogenous white suburb and grew up hating themselves. My mother, just like you, purposefully put me in school in a diverse area where I got to grow up with kids from all backgrounds, including kids who looked like me. You just remind me SO much of her, I had to share this with her.
@Ashley-tc1vx
3 жыл бұрын
"if your child is the only black person in that class, you need to do something about that" A MESSAGE. On Soul of a Nation, a question they ask is "when did you first know when you were black?" I think honestly think we know before someone can say anything [demeaning] to us. When you're a child and you walk into a classroom 1 of 1 or 1 of 2 black ppl, you FEEL it. I will never forget being so young and feeling that, knowing it's because of my skin color vs walking in and there being multiple others my culture or skin color. Christy, being emotional over the diversity in your neighborhood and childrens school etc., shows that you empathize with your children and that you understand and you did something about it! I think that is imperative of adoptive parents to do for their kids of different races or ethnicities. You're emotional so I'm sure you can imagine how much more seeing those same things have subconsciously impacted your children that they might not be able to articulate right now. I'm sure 1 day your kids will tell you how thankful they are for loving them through your actions.
@luckyroost3647
3 жыл бұрын
It’s so amazing watching you do it all ! Your doing a great job christy!
@jannislewis13
3 жыл бұрын
I know you love your children and make sure their different cultures and make sure you inter act with other families. ☺☺☺
@MwanaWevhu
3 жыл бұрын
Not me crying @11:20 😭😂♥️
@loriwatkins7836
3 жыл бұрын
I grew up going to mostly black schools and worked cleaning jobs that were mostly black coworkers and that taught me how to interact with different cultures , some didn't want to be around me at first but after they got to know me it was okay with them. I think kids benefit from being around all races, I think you are a loving mama and want the best for your kids. Respect to ya
@HejTuNatalia
3 жыл бұрын
Awww this made me emotional as well ❤ I don't even have kids but this subject is so important for me ! Thank you for sharing your story. And I'm glad you said at the end that showing your kids diversity is important for everyone not only for adoptive parents. I'm in a mixed relationship so if we ever have kids I will for sure want to show them other mixed families ❤👩🏼🧔🏻👶🏽 BTW I love your channel especially the hair washing or styling tutorial (even though as I said I don't have kids and I'm not black just interested in other cultures) ❤ kisses from Poland !
@maplesyrup6052
3 жыл бұрын
Can you make a video about Lily and Natalia's heritage? That would be so cool!
@micaella2294
3 жыл бұрын
I was just gonna write that too ! I wonder what’s their mix and how they incorporate that in their house .
@SmallFaerie
2 жыл бұрын
I got to the point where you talked about the lack of diversity in your old community and I just had to commend you on realising the importance of that! I grew up as one of the only kids with Middle Eastern heritage in an almost purely white area and it took me decades to understand just how much damage that actually did to me, to constantly be "the other". Now, I know my parents did what they thought was best and as immigrants they wanted our family to get the chance to integrate properly and I fully understand how many benefits that brought with it too, but the drawbacks aren't erased by that unfortunately. So kudos to you both, for not only understanding this but actually acting on this understanding and making real change.
@TaeKookie239
3 жыл бұрын
I cried during this video. You r a great mom and even tho I don't know you personally I feel that you are generally a wonderful and caring person.
@tamerilee
3 жыл бұрын
As much as we tell u, you’ll never fully know how much u positively affect ur fam, us, and the world. Keep shining, loving and learning 💛💛💛💛
@lu8605
3 жыл бұрын
as a brown hispanic kid, being the only poc in class was always super difficult for me. i ended up becoming quite shy and for a while, very whitewashed. you have no idea how much of an impact it is to avidly surround your kids with people that look, talk, and laugh like them. ur kids will really appreciate it when they grow older :)
@Charlene626
3 жыл бұрын
Loved this video ❤. You're a great mother, so many adoptive parents of black children can learn from you. I smiled the whole way through this video!
@Roses4YouTubers
2 жыл бұрын
Nice of you to share this info on multiculturalism and adoption. Yes, language is important especially when working with Black children. Being careful not to call a Black youth a ' Boy' or 'Gal' is representing cultural sensitivity. Also with Asian youth it is important to promote them as a normal child and not the 'model Asian or overly smart child. Children absorb their environment, so make it positive for them. A well rounded multicultural experience is key to their emotional, physical, and spiritual development in my opinion. Don't isolate them to just one cultural dynamic. That's why I love you and ed's family dynamics.
@roxyj3182
3 жыл бұрын
She’s doing this genuinely from her heart and we can all feel it...beautiful 😍
@nyieshabyers9966
3 жыл бұрын
I am from the Bay, and yes it is very diverse but to have a big family you all deserved affordable living. I can def understand why you all chose to move. Happy you found a more diverse community and an amazing home.
@deborahcopeland4922
3 жыл бұрын
Christy you have me crying... You are a beautiful soul! Thank you.
@mcbrydes4eva411
3 жыл бұрын
I love how you love on ALL your babies. It’s important for them to know about diversity. And I’ve said it in past videos I love that you and your husband took the time to learn how to do the girls hair. Y’all don’t hide behind the fact that your family is “blended” that’s what I love most about your videos. Your family is beautiful and real keep it going
@yomiikotun3495
3 жыл бұрын
It’s funny that the children are also scanning the room just as you were - looking for similarities and trying to identify. Glad in this case the boy wasn’t disappointed. I just want to say thumbs up and God bless your beautiful family.
@destinipoole5047
3 жыл бұрын
You are 1 in a million, you give me tears of joy knowing that a person like you exist. God Bless you.
@des8336
3 жыл бұрын
I wasn’t expecting to cry but that story is so beautiful and so special
@celinehigh9594
3 жыл бұрын
I just LOVE you so much! I think interracial families sometimes face backlash for adopting “outside” of their race, and for that ignorance I apologize. But on the other end of the spectrum, I as a black woman, APPRECIATE YOU! Thank you for loving these babies and not taking away their culture. It’s so important from the hair to making sure they see others that are “like them.” You are heaven sent and I love you so much! Your heart is so pure Christy.
@TiktokTita
3 жыл бұрын
There are many Filipino kids in Vegas, hope your kids can discover that community!
@Joseph-zd7kg
3 жыл бұрын
I don't think she is aware that FIlipino go through even worse racism then blacks but get ignored since their community rarely talks about it or stands up for themselves. She needs to address the racial attacks and racism happening to asian americans to her kids. I believe the two youngest are either native or asian.
@missanthropocene2020
3 жыл бұрын
Growing up, I was always the only asian kid in my classes. It sucked so much. I never realised how big of a problem it was until I moved to London and found the diversity. Thank you for speaking up about this and thank you for moving for your kids.
@crunchtime_fitness
3 жыл бұрын
This is so important. We live in the burbs of NY and we look for the same when considering schools and extra curricular activities. I had to pull my oldest daughter off the lacrosse team because for 3 years she was the only black child. So this is dear to my heart.
@marysmith3336
3 жыл бұрын
Hey I was just wondering (ofc no judgement) did she want to leave the team or was it you who decided that u thought it was better for her to be pulled?
@crunchtime_fitness
3 жыл бұрын
@@marysmith3336 she wanted to leave for at least 1 year before I pulled her. I wanted her to stick with it and I was encouraging her to stay but then realized it wasnt benefiting her. Being the only black player was isolating. Painful for me to watch and painful for her to go through
@yvettec777
3 жыл бұрын
@@crunchtime_fitness so she liked the sport, but didn’t want to stay cause she was the only black person? If so, did the coach know about it?
@merrilax1
3 жыл бұрын
I grew up in the suburbs of NY as one of the only (non-Black) POC of my school. I don’t think my parents realized how toxic an environment that was. I’m so glad you were able to recognize your daughter’s needs ♥️
@crunchtime_fitness
3 жыл бұрын
@@yvettec777 I had several conversations with her coach about the lack of diversity and I expressed my concerns, especially after I felt my daughter was being specifically being targeted. The coach tried to encourage team building and kindness between the girls but it wasnt enough, and wasnt what was needed. They needed to try recruiting black and brown girls from other towns (because it was a travel team they could do that) but they never did.
@valeriecarre8967
3 жыл бұрын
You are doing such a great job says the black woman. I was telling someone I hate when people say they don't see color. I am happy you say you see it acknowledge it and respect it. Differences should be appreciated not eliminated. Elimination means forgotten and erased. Black people Asians don't like being erased
@ceew2756
3 жыл бұрын
I think the vast majority that say they don't see color truly mean they don't treat others differently based on colors. I have asked a bunch that say that to explain more about what they mean by saying that and that has always been their response.
@valeriecarre8967
3 жыл бұрын
@@ceew2756 they say that but I reality since white culture is dominant visually consumption people also follow through with treat you exactly how i treat my own if every way. This is why I appreciate this mom's ability to say yes we are all humans but we have differences and I see them acknowledge them and respect them
@tallouse2146
3 жыл бұрын
I love the fact that we live in a very multi cultural community. My kids grew up with friends in every kind of background and now as adults continue to. My oldest has been in a relationship with his Chinese girlfriend for 8 years and learned to speak Chinese to be able to talk to her family. He’s been to 20 countries and can speak 8 languages. I’m so proud that he has moved to a multi racial/ cultural community and continues to spread the message of love thy neighbor and learn from each other.
@ladykatesmith6377
3 жыл бұрын
Christy....you are awesome your children are going to make this world a more positive place.
@tasha7239
3 жыл бұрын
These conversations are so important especially in this context! Love this channel and what you are doing to raise your children & educate the masses! I’m not a mother yet but I will be taking notes for the future
@luv2cook5
3 жыл бұрын
I'm a white mom with 2 black bi-racial biological kids..i see the racism in people's eyes..sadly i know it wont end but with more people opening there heart's to other races helps alot ..thank you Christy for being a beautiful person. 💕
@jenniferaugust4895
3 жыл бұрын
Wow, Christy!! By watching your videos, I’ve always known you are an awesome mother. By watching this video, now I know for a fact that you are beyond awesome. Your kids are blessed to have you and your husband as parents.
@heidib9377
3 жыл бұрын
I can completely relate to this. We scout out the classrooms, play groups etc looking for other Black families too. Our community is diverse (Asian, Persian, Hispanic and Indian) but VERY FEW Black families. My husband has his own business so moving is a real challenge, but we dream of being able to move some day. Luckily my husband’s sister adopted as well and her daughter is Black. It’s wonderful seeing the kids together and hear the occasional discussions they have about being Black with white moms. I’m SO happy you found this connection. Kids love being able to identify with others. Our adoptions are open and we have a great relationship with the bio-mom and brother and one of the dads. It is exciting having these relationships grow with time. Love your videos! Thank you for sharing your journey
@kat.g.
3 жыл бұрын
I know your children love you now, but when they grow up, they will very much appreciate your thoughtfulness and purpose behind how you raised them. You are an amazing person! 💛
@QueenininTx
3 жыл бұрын
This is what I call real love 💕. . Nothing better than a mother’s love. This is indeed beautiful and your doing a great job mom. I love the fact that you call them “black” instead of terms like colored or African American. Your family is beautiful and you have a heart of gold.
@busagyrl8109
3 жыл бұрын
You have such a beautiful soul you and your husband. Those kids have been truly blessed me adopted by such a beautiful family. It is better to raise strong children than try to fix broken adults. Much love and continue to be blessed
@dr.nealpsy.d2783
3 жыл бұрын
First above all Thank You! For your honesty, openness and being an awesome mother. My heart filled with joy watching this video. Just want you to know your doing it right! I am a doctor and have worked with many foster families and children who were that rare face within their home and/ or school. Bless you and your family! Continue doing what you do and being a wonderful along with nurturing parent. Love your channel!!!
@Str8blunt
3 жыл бұрын
Are you truly this goodness? All that you and your husband seem to be, I’m sure, makes so many more than black people hopeful. I’m positive other historically oppressed people feel weight lift when you speak relative to our own struggles. I know I feel my people have been heard and seen. Thank goodness for your hope filled words
@tonaisiam
3 жыл бұрын
Christy thank you !!!!!!! People like you and your husband make the world a better place!
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