the fact you can drive on I35 through Austin and not get road rage within minutes is a testament to how strong you are mentally
@Eibhlis
18 күн бұрын
@@benified6920 This made me laugh! So true!
@BRLaue
16 күн бұрын
The fact that he is moving is more amazing.
@billarchie5040
16 күн бұрын
Word Brother!
@gingerjoy5836
16 күн бұрын
Haha no kidding 😆😂35 is no joke!😅
@gingerjoy5836
16 күн бұрын
@@BRLaue Haha VERY TRUE!😆😂
@naps3386
16 күн бұрын
I’m 9 years later too (married 25 years), and now I’m in better financial condition, better health, and better life experiences than ever. I will NEVER marry again.
@CobraR1993
21 күн бұрын
Women seem to move on quickly because by the time a woman tells you she is done, she has cheated/checked out of the relationship 1-3 years before you even got the notice even if there were no arguments.
@mcbraveheart13
20 күн бұрын
Exactly, right on the money! 3 years before divorce- mine left relationship
@grawakendream8980
20 күн бұрын
i think they move on because they are more socially and emotionally developed. and they attract undeveloped men either socially or emotionally or both, lot of them. so they have a lot of options, but all the options are lame in some way
@isabelojeda5925
20 күн бұрын
🙏🤗🙏
@hey_youtubeim_back2159
20 күн бұрын
Was with mine 21 years. In the end she told me she was unhappy for 20 years. Had two kids 3 and 4 years in
@rubensano4860
19 күн бұрын
If monkeys didn't grab hold of another branch before leaving the branch they are currently on, they would risk falling out of the tree.
@igonzalez0
17 күн бұрын
I got divorced 2 years ago, after 20 years of marriage, June of 2022 , all of the sudden one day she started crying and telling me she didn’t wanted me anymore.. for 3 months I tried to save my marriage.. August 2022, I left my home.. gave her what she wanted, divorce, my kids stayed with her.. and me? I started all over again.. it hasn’t been easy..but time heals .. that’s a fact, stay strong 💪!!
@williampadin537
14 күн бұрын
@@igonzalez0 El amor se acaba pero casi siempre tienen otro gonzalez y lloran por q tambien se hacen las victimas. Cuando se acuesta con otro hombre es por q no de Ama cuando un hombre se acuesta con una mujer fuera de su matrimonios es por sexo no por q no las Amamos estas mejor sin ella.
@user-vg8ox3he1i
13 күн бұрын
Men need to stop just giving her everything
@JohnBoyed-fo6fm
12 күн бұрын
Ouch bro I feel u😣 20 years wasted wtf
@igonzalez0
12 күн бұрын
@@JohnBoyed-fo6fm yeah.. 2 decades.., after I left my home, she contacted me, saying she realized that I did a lot for our marriage..and that she wanted us to get counseling, i said NO THANKS, all the fucked up words she said to me and hurt me like a MF, made me not forget the humiliation I received from her.., I’m 48 now, and my life changed like you have no idea, I miss my 2 kids.. I’m alone now, no one cares for me, but now I feel more confident, I’m taking care of only person I really care about : ME. Cheers !!
@JohnBoyed-fo6fm
12 күн бұрын
@@igonzalez0 right on bro 🙌. Stay stoic stay strong fuk her ok she doesn't deserve you. Do only for you. The red pill and the mgtow is the truth it's helping alot of men. These 304s have broken up a lot of families and destroyed a lot of good men over there the feelings so fuk em. Sorry about the kids man hopefully one day they can learn the truth.
@redvraven3285
19 күн бұрын
I lost all friends in divorce in 2018. Still best thing I ever did. Got rid of huge financial burden, her. I have $$$ for retirement, she has nothing. Good luck to her. Working and stacking bills. Chilling for next 15 years. No struggle. With her, would have always been something.
@trdriver430
18 күн бұрын
Great to hear
@relaxyourmind7
18 күн бұрын
about to take the dive myself, hope it goes well.
@philh9238
18 күн бұрын
I know what ya mean. I had to dump the baggage last year. Made good money but still had nothin to spend. Making the same this year as last and actually got full pockets. It was always some drama. Finishing up my debt resolution this coming April
@captorres5467
17 күн бұрын
Man I need your attorney
@coffeepot3123
17 күн бұрын
It's time to move on with life.
@Chicken-Feet-88
20 күн бұрын
I'm am 60 today. Divorced 25 years. It was the right decision, but the process was traumatic. The feeling of loss of autonomy was life altering. She remarried. We are friends on holidays for the kid's sake. My sons are 30 and 33, both married. I never re-married, but have had a few relationships. I don't need to re-marry at this point. Been there, done that. I wouldn't mind a practical relationship, but there will never be romance again. Good luck to you. Sounds like you are doing fine. Subbed.
@lancelotdufrane
20 күн бұрын
Agree with your perspective.
@grawakendream8980
20 күн бұрын
are you celibate?
@Chicken-Feet-88
20 күн бұрын
@@grawakendream8980 I am. I have plenty of opportunities, but no interest. It's too much like work anymore. I rather do stuff I enjoy.
@captainsunbear5472
19 күн бұрын
@@grawakendream8980 Does jacking off count as calibate?
@carmentorres1426
18 күн бұрын
never say never
@XmXFLUXmX2
19 күн бұрын
1:20 the reason why divorce effects us so greatly is because not only is the person you love dead, but so is the person you originally were and on top of that you cannot help but lose your innocence and embrace the crueler nature of reality.
@jjminor
17 күн бұрын
I feel for the guy. I think you begin to understand the nature of humanity more as you get older and the cruelty that comes with it.
@applejacks8160
17 күн бұрын
Very well said. I never understood, cared to hear, when people would say “this will make you stronger”. But it’s true, and it does.
@Canadian_Eh_I
14 күн бұрын
Perfectly said, although Ive never been married I kindof feel the same way lmao.
@JohnBoyed-fo6fm
12 күн бұрын
Marriage was obsolete the day they let these 304s be liberated for absolutely nothing for simply just existing but still holding the other gender AKA us to a higher standard WTF. It makes no sense and it's not logical me being a youngster in school back in the day studying in biology studying sociology studying history it just didn't make sense the women want to be free and liberated yet they still want a provider and a relationship?😑🤔 but also want power and control this stuff didn't make any sense and made my head hurt. Further studies shows the birth of f3minism made the nuclear family/ middle class family be on life support. Then after putting the sperm banks on every corner and Planned Parenthood on every corner it absolutely k!lled it haha. Man listen once you get educated and study things especially about wahman you would never take them serious or marry them. I'm glad the red pill and mgtow saved most of my fellow men. I feel sorry for the ones that fell for the all hoopla
@dumpybear8664
16 күн бұрын
Her: Doesn't want the kids to see what a bad marriage looks like. Also Her: Has a new guy every few months.
@Peakedin1990s
14 күн бұрын
Single moms...ruining society one child at a time.
@duhg6059
19 күн бұрын
Men will sacrifice his happiness for his family, a woman will sacrifice her family for her happiness..
@Leaptab
18 күн бұрын
100% correct. Women are much more narcissistic and thus care only about themselves.
@LilyGazou
18 күн бұрын
I’ve seen that here - Mary Kay Letourneau sacrificed a husband and 4 kids.
@RoofedAsian89
15 күн бұрын
100% truth
@racebannon96
15 күн бұрын
@@LilyGazou I remember reading her ex-husband move to Alaska with the four kids to get away from everything.
@KevinAnger
15 күн бұрын
Amen brother!
@ak_naral
19 күн бұрын
*"A new guy every year". Wow, she must be a role model for your children.*
@powell2j900
18 күн бұрын
Hurtful, part of the fact that the kids are watching their mom go through men like a 12 pack at house party
@JohnBoyed-fo6fm
12 күн бұрын
@@powell2j900 these 304s are no different from the harlots in the Bible. Quarrelsome rambunctious promiscuous Unholy wahman.. wicked
@darcandelaria
20 күн бұрын
Wow 61? You look good for 61! Even with everything you went through, you look great 🙂 I don’t know how this came up on my feed but thanks for sharing ❤🙏🏼
@mikelawson6924
19 күн бұрын
@@Tar9p With a federal retirement you look really really good
@darcandelaria
19 күн бұрын
@@Tar9p You make absolutely no sense. Real people who live fulfilling lives and have a purpose, don’t care about those silly things. I hope you find meaning in your life rather than chasing after those vain and empty things, they’ll never bring you real happiness in life. There’s better things in life, I promise. ❤️
@flat4wankel
19 күн бұрын
The universe is trying to tell you something. Me and my gf are fighting at this moment and this video is s reminder not to marry her ever in the future. Btw, last year she left me for someone else aka monkey brsnch
@darcandelaria
18 күн бұрын
@@flat4wankel I’ve been married for 20 years. The universe? I’m a Christian and I don’t listen to the universe, I listen to the creator of the universe. Sorry about your relationship ❤️
@mr.squanch
5 күн бұрын
@@flat4wankel Dont get married, dont have kids! That's the best advice I can give you as a man. Don't give women the chance to destroy your life.
@paulkelly4731
18 күн бұрын
I'm in the Divorce process now, after 44 years... and as this guy and the commenters have said, once a woman has checked out, it's over.. no matter how much effort the man puts into reconciliation, it's wasted effort.. she's done. I'm guilty of thinking I could salvage it.. but like this guy, my Counselor said, miracles do happen, but 99% of the time, when she is done, she is done... don't waste your time. Move on.
@lmErnest
18 күн бұрын
@paulkelly4731 Yep, that's what happened to me. There was no changing her mind. Thanks for watching
@ctgeorgia
13 күн бұрын
I can't imagine! 44 years of marriage??? I'm only 4 yrs into mine and she told me she was done "again" this week. I've lost count how many times she's told me she was done and a day later apologized. It wears on me though.
@billdo4134
18 күн бұрын
I thank God for my divorce!!! 10 years now. LONE WOLF - I will never be involved with another woman.
@Peace-nm6bx
12 күн бұрын
You deserved happiness. There are more good ladies out there. Life pass fast.
@ronbronb
20 күн бұрын
Its easier to move quickly while getting paid than while paying.
@peterobertson2086
21 күн бұрын
The word that sums up my divorce, 15 years ago...Betrayal. certainly is not a nice thing.
@digidrum2003
16 күн бұрын
Yep....that word hurts so much.
@bignateesquire
21 күн бұрын
You are a lot less jaded than I am. Good for you buddy. I still can't get over the crooked divorce court process and the extortion they call shared custody with child support. I hope I can speak objectively like you one day.
@DavidMitchell-t7p
21 күн бұрын
you are so right about extortion, add in alienation of a parent and that's called a living abortion, most once called dad's live with this more than the government looks at, so let's quit calling it father's day, and call it as the government see's it.......fertilizer day.
@sandleman3006
20 күн бұрын
It's called the gynocentric court system for a reason. The best a man can do is 50%, The worst a woman can do is 50%.
@themusclebob23
19 күн бұрын
I am 50 and never married or had kids. I have a different perspective of marriage. I was a technician, and when I was younger, I would work on a house. Men would warn ⚠️ me about divorce rape and everything that comes with it, and what a scam and epidemic it is. One thing they all said is if high school taught me this before I got married, I wouldn't have entered the scam. Most men I meet married are walking D..d and act as their sole has been ripped out and replaced with her needs. People used to break my balls that I wasn't married, no kids, now they envy that I listened to men over the years, and they all got divorce raped. I learned misery Loves ❤️ company and nobody I mean not one politician talks about divorce rape or men's issues. I call it the Red, White, and Blue dildo because it enforces feelings of women. Had to ramble... good luck out there, brother.
@Grow_Win_Up
18 күн бұрын
Divorce is one of the most common things men go through, it’s not unique, it’s been a thing in society for many decades, not just you, why take it SO personal? Let it go Sir, that should help. Don’t be so self-absorbed lol divorce is one of the most common things. Be grateful, otherwise you’ll suffer longer.
@bignateesquire
18 күн бұрын
@@Grow_Win_Up I didn't say I minded the divorce. I said crooked court process and the ongoing process of extortion by taking money from me to give to my ex's Starbucks fund while limiting my access to my kid. People also get raped all the time. Should we tell them it's common and they should not have any hard feelings?
@billytothe6thpower
20 күн бұрын
Just dont get married. No need . Men will always loose during and after not worth it. Most of the time the juice is just not worh the squeeze.
@RhondaStevens-t4l
19 күн бұрын
That's not true,my man is horrible every day...they kill it being bad going over boundaries,disrespect,no loyalty...not saying he's that way just my experience
@SuperFacecloth
18 күн бұрын
Just understand that it's a risk/reward scenario and be wise.
@relaxyourmind7
18 күн бұрын
wish I saw this before I did
@rchi3906
18 күн бұрын
Facts , only a moron would get legally married these days
@3chunter307
16 күн бұрын
Women get cash and prizes to leave you. They have incentive.
@TheDarkHorseRides
20 күн бұрын
By the time you find out its over, she has already emotionally and financially prepared herself for that transition months, sometimes years before!
@grawakendream8980
20 күн бұрын
yeah but why do you think she did that
@Channelinterrupted
20 күн бұрын
@@grawakendream8980as a former wife twice .. I made my concerns known many many times and was ignored or talked down to or worse... For years... After a while we give up and detach over a few years... By the time the man is clued in, were done... They didn't take us seriously until it's too late...
@Peakedin1990s
14 күн бұрын
@@grawakendream8980Because w ome n are sneaky cowards that fail to properly communicate and always jump to a new man to fill their void. Hypergamy. Never happy or satisfied
@thecoldcallerguy
20 күн бұрын
Man; the way you speak about this with such mental clarity is amazing. I hope to acquire this type of peace in the future.
@Hunter-vl6ft
15 күн бұрын
Divorced in 2004. Worked and saved money and was able to retire in 2016 at 46 years old. Still have a flunky job for health insurance. Have plenty of money to do whatever I want. Whenever I want. Wherever I want. However much I want. Live life and ENJOY IT!
@TheRedDevil_NC
19 күн бұрын
If you get divorced and still speak to the ex, kids or not, you are doing it wrong
@CDRFINANCE
15 күн бұрын
I concur, no need to keep a betrayer in your life.
@ericgoingoverseas5064
5 күн бұрын
Trash belongs in a can on the street. No deposit, no return.
@kiddytube3915
18 күн бұрын
I didn’t lose anything in my divorce. Oddly enough, my friends and family consolidated around me. I ended up having full custody of the kids and she contributes child support. She has visitation rights and I’ve never denied her these rights. I only deal with her on a matter of fact, and bare minimum basis. I’ve forgiven her but I’ll never forget the heart she broke. She still in touch with my side of the family, but I have never speak to hers. Whatever mutual friends that we share, all decided to cut her off. It was only her toxic single friends or her friends that stuck by her. I don’t think they were genuine and the last I heard, they also started disappearing from her life. My life has been good. Romance is something that I can easily gain but I’ve decided to focus on my children. I can’t put another woman above them so it’s hard to keep dating when the woman knows my stance.
@minimatemasterworks
16 күн бұрын
I had a heart attack a year and a half after my divorce. My divorce was amicable even though she initiated and didn't want to even try to repair it. It didn't cost me much, it was quick, and I have my kids 50% of the time. I'd rather go through a heart attack again. I'd rather lay in a hospital bed for 5 days again and not be sure if I'll live than be removed from the home I planned on raising my children and be robbed of half my kids childhood. My life is better than I thought it could possibly be now(9 years a fe days ago). Every once in awhile I still like to think about how much better my life could be if I married a woman who worked with me and lived instead of against me for 8 years.
@Kaiji700M
16 күн бұрын
Women move on faster, because they already have secured a replacement before divorce.
@killingsley
20 күн бұрын
Women move on faster than men because women keep options open while they're in a relationship. The man she moves on with didn't just fall out of the sky, he's been there the whole time & you just never knew about him
@grawakendream8980
20 күн бұрын
she doesn't need to keep options open brother. men make themselves an option because they're desperate fox sex with women. most men are emotionally undeveloped and will have sex with whoever will have sex with them. a woman inherently has options because she's more social, and because men are pressed. if he was handling his business it would have panned out, what can you say
@Channelinterrupted
20 күн бұрын
Not so! Women are usually not taken seriously for years and then check out for a couple more years hoping a miracle happens.. but then we give up and when that happens... We're done done .. it's a process that doesn't happen overnight .. unless she's immature ....
@XmXFLUXmX2
19 күн бұрын
@@Channelinterrupted nah, you guys like to cheat lmao. it is what it is.
@Oscarlevy1992
19 күн бұрын
💯 correct! And the only way a man wins is avoiding these freeloading leeches.
@killingsley
19 күн бұрын
@@Oscarlevy1992 You can deal with them just don't invest too much into them because not only do they not value your sacrifice, if they're really attracted to a man he can have her for free
@Ducati007
18 күн бұрын
Don't ever move in with a woman.The relationship dynamics change, she will unconsciously use leverage against you. After all, it is her place not yours.
@LesWiles
20 күн бұрын
I think we can all say between getting married or staying single for your whole life. it's the difference between having your sanity and being internally broken
@truthreigns3465
16 күн бұрын
Married 15 years and feel defeated completely
@kingjoseph5901
14 күн бұрын
I'm glad I got out of mine after 13 years. F that b*tvh!
@terrywalker8857
21 күн бұрын
Hi Ernest, not sure how I stumbled upon your video but I did and it’s so ironic. I too am 61. I’ve been divorced since 2015 also, my husband said one day he didn’t want to be married anymore. I did not beg him, I let him go but it hurt like hell. Long story short he had someone else. Since then he’s moved to Texas than Hawaii and no longer with that woman. I’m in So Calif and have become stronger and better than ever through faith and pain. Your story is so familiar and I’m glad you’re getting through also and taking good care of yourself. 😊
@nyquil762
17 күн бұрын
🙏🏽💯
@woodrmp1
15 күн бұрын
Has it been good? Or has it been cats and boxed wine? 😂
@johnessmyer4665
18 күн бұрын
I’ve described it as a death without a body.
@Latina75
21 күн бұрын
Divorced for 15 years and it was hard in the beginning I don't wish it on noone
@t-pain3343
18 күн бұрын
I'm 41, coming up on my first year post divorce. Was married 10 years, have a 3 and 4 1/2 year old. Ex wife cheated on me with a guy and with a girl, who is/was our 22F daycare worker....they got matching tattoos on their wrists with each others initials. I'm sure that relationship will last. Great video. I've got a long road to recovery still. People should figure out their sexuality before they get married and have kids.
@Peakedin1990s
14 күн бұрын
💯 W o men are never happy
@user-vg8ox3he1i
13 күн бұрын
Sadly she knew. She was looking for free IVF and child support. Sorry it was you. Also paternity test your kids
@mcbraveheart13
20 күн бұрын
Bro- I stopped drinking in 1987! Never smoked. Glad you quit bro! No amount of workout can cover a drinking/ smoking problem! Stay clean bro! God bless
@Lex3501
19 күн бұрын
Ernest, I saw and appreciated your video and you did a really good job. Thanks for your thoughts. I know it’s been a long 9 years. I’m in the exact same spot as you, mine 10 years out. All the things you said about getting control of your habits etc. is really important. For me, it took a long time to get over it also, I learned how to make the best use of my time and how to have fun again in a clean way. I have made more money than ever, saved it all for future retirement and bought a house almost paid for. I’ve gotten really healthy, and I enjoy doing productive things and including working on my music. Keep up your great work! Hope you had a good and safe time in Dallas.
@Rob-z7k
19 күн бұрын
I got divorced 10 yrs ago! Was so happy to be honest! A year after i started travelling internationally and began to meet women half my age! Trust me....their is a much appreciated world of girls out there that need a man! Women in the U.S. are Not worth it!
@jilllisa5724
18 күн бұрын
Im single at 57, woman. I feel like i took care of and gave all that i had to everyone, found out my ex was meeting woman on line. Im drained, tired. Hurt. Alone. Dont want to go throught a relationship again. But it lonley.
@woodrmp1
15 күн бұрын
I’m sure he felt nagged constantly for 30 years and rarely got sex. But you “did everything” I bet….
@thearch1tect249
20 күн бұрын
Best decision I ever made. Thankfully I woke up when I was 30. Was it rough in the beginning? Absolutely! Once I got over it I have been living peacefully since. She won the battle but I won the war. She's a middle aged woman now in and out of relationships constantly. Truck and motorcycle paid off. House will be paid off shortly no other debts. I learned that nobody cares about men. We are a utility to woman, the world and even to a degree to our kids, easily discarded if we don't meet certain conditions!
@grawakendream8980
20 күн бұрын
i don't think it's that stark. but a lot of people don't want to face growing up emotionally. they make fun of it. especially men. and that's how we end up where we are
@relaxyourmind7
18 күн бұрын
so true, I wish someone filled me in on this years ago. thank you.
@Wisdom_Eqauls_Power
18 күн бұрын
Good advice sir, thank you. I'm 35 and about to walk away from it all and do me.
@grawakendream8980
18 күн бұрын
@@Wisdom_Eqauls_Power good luck. just remember: there's nothing to walk away from. and you can never do anything but you. just saying
@thearch1tect249
17 күн бұрын
@@Wisdom_Eqauls_Power I promise you will not regret it. When you get to that place do not be surprised when you will say to yourself what took me so long to do this! You have plenty of good and more fulfilling years ahead of you!
@ThatsTheChicagoWay45
17 күн бұрын
Thank you for sharing. I've just finished year 1 after 9.5 yrs of marriage.
@jjminor
17 күн бұрын
Women tend to move on faster than men because they’ve already moved on by the time it occurs. My mother had moved on from my dad long before the divorce and was cheating on him. She was completely disconnected from him by the time the divorce came around.
@jjminor
17 күн бұрын
I’m 42 years old right now, and listening to you talk about your wife reminds me a lot of my mother. She got divorced from my father when I was eight years old, and she has been remarried and divorced twice since then (three times total). Yet she never came to understand that she might be part of the problem (most to all of the problem in my opinion). She also tried to brainwash my brother and I, which has unfortunately been highly successful on my brother, has he hates our father, even though my father has done a lot to help him out. I have two children of my own and because of my mother‘s behavior towards them, she will be missing out on a lot of their lives. I’m glad that it seems to be that you have a good relationship with your daughters. That’s important.
@flat4wankel
19 күн бұрын
Thanks for the reminder not get marry.
@HomeSlize
18 күн бұрын
Thanks for sharing this Ernest, really appreciate it. I just recently turned 46. Never been married and don't have any kids. I've had 3 major relationships that together spanned about 12 years. My last relationship ended when I was 38. I actually thought we were going to get married but after a year I found out she cheated on me several times early in our relationship which she denied even after I showed her proof. She eventually admitted to the cheating, a year later, but by that time I had moved on which was very difficult. Her not admitting to the cheating for that long gave me the strength to move on which I'm thankful for. Honestly, to this point in my life, I very happy. I have no regrets about not getting married. My issues/problems are created by me ( I don't have many ) my time is spent with my immediate family, my career, a few friends and my hobbies. Thanks for sharing this video. Subbed.
@sambigg4620
18 күн бұрын
I feel for you brother I see the pain in your eyes
@Peter_Wang
18 күн бұрын
Post divorce - Invest in yourself FIRST, everything else will fall into place naturally.
@jamesgeist9535
15 күн бұрын
Very authentic brother. Very honest and vulnerable. Men don't have a community like women. Your post helped meet this need. Thank you sir.
@mifi5913
16 күн бұрын
The most dangerous thing a married can hear, “I’m not happy”
@phabulouss1
18 күн бұрын
Divorce is very personal and hard. In a way it’s as if death entered your home, which can and does effect your life. So, yes, divorce can be viewed as death to / in the family structure.
@lancelotdufrane
20 күн бұрын
Divorced. 15hrs ago. It is a death…. Of sorts. I’ll always care about the other parent. However….. I’m made the right choice. Thanks for sharing your journey.
@neo23thirty-eight
18 күн бұрын
Sounds like a case of bpd for the ex..glad to hear you’re doing well, though I can still feel some unresolved pain
@YoMamashouse770
18 күн бұрын
Thank you so much! I needed to hear that part about how she left you. The same thing happened to me and I have had a difficult time wrapping my head around it. I just couldn’t figure out why she would destroy the family; but you answered the question she was acting on her feelings. Thanks again, I can be at peace now.
@BlakesPipes
18 күн бұрын
I divorced the second time about a year ago. But left the house 4 years ago. I am 51 years old now and I am good now. Will not invite the female hobby back into my life. Been there done that, got 2 t shirts. I have hobbies that I enjoy and have seen so many others going through the same thing. I made mistakes with both of them by putting them on a pedestal. I screwed that up on my understanding of women. But do not have the energy to get back in that game again. I will walk the beach every day and ride my motorcycles and relax doing the things I want. When I wake in the middle of the night, I can make noise and engage with my hobbies. I would like to move to the mountains and start growing my own food and become more self sufficient, but that is going to take a little more time. Thanks for the talk. I stopped smoking 19 years ago, but I did find pipe smoking and cigars , as I can smoke every day or not. All depends on outside weather and if I want to go out and think for 30 or so minutes. Found peace with it.😊
@turtletouche
16 күн бұрын
25yrs later God help me through it. I have found my undiscovered country. It's the best trip I have ever been on. Labor day 1999 we separated.
@rc9272
19 күн бұрын
She didn't want to give your kids a bad example of living in a loveless marriage, but the bad example of shacking up every few months with every Tom, Dick and Harry is okay to her apparently. Sounds like she's just another one making up whatever reason is useful at the moment.
@LolaizaJazzmine
18 күн бұрын
Yup shes ok with the chads. What a teerible way to live. He lucked out. To be away from her otherwise she would cheated him. Terribly
@dakansa
15 күн бұрын
Divorced this April, 2024. Ex had a three years long affair with a decade younger Chad)))). Me 44, ex 42. Good luck to her )))) Divorce already benefits me. No more the financial burden. No more emotional havocs. Completely at peace with myself and how the things turned out. Ex monkey branched ))) Older sons don't want to have anything with their mom. I share my youngest daughter, 5, since I believe it's hard for her to cope with the divorce. Weekends, sometimes during the week. But overall kids live with me. Never take your exes back. You'd be and do better in a long run without your ex. I didn't hesitate and plunged on dating. So many of our exes on the dating apps. Pump and dump. No feelings. Making money. Providing for my kids and myself. Peace of mind is a treasure.
@Brad-jq4tp
20 күн бұрын
Wish you the best my guy! Sad to see bad things happen to men like this dude, he obviously has a good head on his shoulders and still things don’t work out like they should. I am 35 and have never been married or had kids bc of so many men’s stories just like this one, sad world we live in where everything is based solely on your current feelings instead of loyalty. There is a reason people like my grandparents stayed married for 60 years while my parents got divorced multiple times, loyalty is the most beautiful thing someone can give you
@grawakendream8980
20 күн бұрын
you minimized the part where he said he went out drinking a lot during the marriage, i guess
@duhg6059
18 күн бұрын
Thanks to social media and divorced single women/friends influencing their emotional decisions.. i tell my son when hes married if his wife says she wants to go girls night out, i told him look her straight in the eye and tell her go and have fun and when you get back your stuff will be in front yard and locks will be changed.. dont be a simp
@alfe608
13 күн бұрын
“When he’s married..” best advice would be not to marry in first place.
@TheoSprinkles
11 күн бұрын
Social media is killing marriages. Women see this fake life of single women and think the grass is always greener.
@deedeetravels969
20 күн бұрын
Same thing with me except he didnt have feelings for me anymore. He was mean then violent. I gave him house, property and i left working on knowing peace. We were together for 30 years and i was provider. He didn't work.
@yvonneerrend8217
10 күн бұрын
I'm 6 yrs later. Married and with my husband 27 years. He just got up and abandoned me.😢 I was devastated because I never seen it coming. Now at my age, material possession mean zero!. Praying for all to find true love.❤
@Ephesians--zs6pv
18 күн бұрын
Keep your head up. Trust in God!
@Onetakelifestyle3323
18 күн бұрын
Been there too., lost all my friends., she was able to manipulate a lot of people. Sad 😢 but life goes on. I’m happier now and a better dad. All that matters to me anymore
@serjpo1719
15 күн бұрын
You're 61yo? 😮 You look like early 50s. Divorce definitely did very good effect on you
@billarchie5040
16 күн бұрын
Married 27 years. Divorced now for 12. I like this dude. The kind of guy I would like to hang out with.
@DEEYAZ89
21 күн бұрын
your ex wife seems to be confused, she doesn't know what she wants!
@grawakendream8980
20 күн бұрын
she just knows she doesn't want him
@mikelawson6924
19 күн бұрын
@@grawakendream8980 She knows exactly want she wants
@Oscarlevy1992
19 күн бұрын
Every woman posses that trait!
@Stefano-o5f
18 күн бұрын
Yes, Because women are well known for knowing what they want...😂
@grawakendream8980
18 күн бұрын
@@Stefano-o5f or maybe they can't communicate because the man is too erratic emotionally
@bigthunder7002
18 күн бұрын
Man I’m 29 yo and romance died years ago for me
@ElChupahuahua
7 күн бұрын
61? Dude, you look great for that age. Most women at that age look like they are one-foot in the grave.
@journeyto100channel2
18 күн бұрын
Got Divorced at 27… Learned a little Waaaay too much in my 20s. I can’t and won’t find myself in a relationship here in the U.S again. I’ve went to Philippines, and just traveled about. And found out I just need to take my Sweet Time until I find the Right one. But fixing my Mental Health was the best thing I did in my life. So much more to say but I’ll just leave it at that.
@jr-mynext50years41
20 күн бұрын
My divorce was not a good one. I dated afterwards but discovered I’m a magnet for guys who are….. hmmm….. how to put this nicely…. Cheats and liars. So I prayed for God to take those desires out of me and He did. I think I’ve been single too long to be in a relationship again. I’ve embraced being single and now have a grand child to focus on. This was another good video Ernest.
@grawakendream8980
20 күн бұрын
relationships are super difficult
@XmXFLUXmX2
19 күн бұрын
Nice guys are boring and you like excitement from bad boys. Why is this so hard to admit?
@grawakendream8980
11 күн бұрын
@@TheoSprinkles sounds like it was to me. she doesn't have to deal with the jackasses anymore
@grawakendream8980
11 күн бұрын
@@TheoSprinkles all of them weren't worth her time or resources
@MoltenMetalGod7
20 күн бұрын
yeah nobody need to be getting married these days. respect to you for making the effort but this is how it ends for most men. it likely wasn’t that bad they make that all up in their mind based on what they see on tv and social media and think they deserve some life that doesn’t even exist and they hurt their kids in the process. The best thing kids can have is a stable father
@nimfaballesteros3156
20 күн бұрын
Separation in any kind is painful.. Good to see you grow and learn through your divorce. 😊
@joe77njcp
19 күн бұрын
Separate 3 years but I am ready for divorce
@Sally01d
21 күн бұрын
I have a DivorceCare Ministry for women only at my church and one of the most important topics I talk to them about is Forgiveness and letting go. If a person cannot forgive they will never be able to live a joyful life. I’m glad you are doing better after all these years. Blessings!
@steelearmstrong9616
21 күн бұрын
Wrong. It’s about acceptance not forgiveness
@asymptoticsingularity9281
20 күн бұрын
@@steelearmstrong9616 practically the same thing except forgiveness is a bit deeper
@steelearmstrong9616
20 күн бұрын
@@asymptoticsingularity9281 Whatever warms your heart and helps you sleep better at night
@JohnVanMeter58
19 күн бұрын
Thanks for sharing your story.
@THERetiredHomeskoolMomma
19 күн бұрын
Divorce Care saved my life 6 yrs ago🎉
@TESTA-CC
14 күн бұрын
I'm 39 Years Old been single for almost 6 years, Never Married, Two Kids. Freedom is Priceless, leave these women too it, life is better and stress free without them. They picked the wrong choice and left you, Leave them too it because there life is worse off but will never admit it. They broke up the family because they thought the grass was greener on the otherside. Now they know it's not, but we have shut down and moved on. Too late, find the next sucker!
@sw6118
19 күн бұрын
Life is episodic. You had a married episode. You’re in an unmarried episode. What’s next?
@LorettaKnelsen-go7mf
21 күн бұрын
Hi thank you for sharing your journey after the divorce. I went through 2 divorces and then both spouses have since passed away. I looked after my first x for 6 years as he had terminal cancer. Now happy that I’m single and live happy with my 4 spoiled cats and going into van life next spring with my cats. 😃
@grawakendream8980
20 күн бұрын
what's the situation there, why vanlife
@LorettaKnelsen-go7mf
19 күн бұрын
Hi love to meet other van dwellers. I follow over 200 from around the world and nice way to talk with people through texting when you live alone.
@LilyGazou
18 күн бұрын
@@LorettaKnelsen-go7mf van life 👍. I can go where the work is.
@trevor6607
15 күн бұрын
I love coming across these videos of good dudes like yourself coming out of a tough situation and finding your own way in living life and enjoying it on your terms. Good for you brother
@elaishh3533
16 күн бұрын
“Are you married ? Nope, happily divorced 😎
@BenchwarmerGOAT
20 күн бұрын
Thanks for sharing it's been a pleasure finding you're channel have a blessed weekend brother 🙏
@visionforetold4568
15 күн бұрын
The reason she told you was not the true reason she filed.
@kd90588
18 күн бұрын
Your ex sounds like mine….selfish and nobody will make her happy. I swore that I would never remarry. But, next year will be my 25th wedding anniversary to my second husband. I could not have found a better step-father to my children.
@woodrmp1
15 күн бұрын
Oh man….king simp over there! Raising another man’s children? SIMP!! 😂
@VersionBest
13 күн бұрын
With each passing day, I'm glad I made the decision not to get married seeing how bad it is out there. Knowing all the divorce statistics scared the shit out of me. I mean, it's literally 50/50 like a flip of a coin you can either stay in a marriage that may or may not be a good and healthy one, or a divorce is around the corner. The risks far outweighs any so called "benefits" (if any) of being in a marriage. I'm so glad I'm learning from the mistakes of other people, rather than going through the experiences myself firsthand. I'm getting wiser every time I see a video such as this. To me, wisdom is more important than intelligence when it comes to romance.
@sandradavis9775
5 күн бұрын
Well I “am feeling” like you still have a whole life ahead of you. You are just a genuine guy. God is Good. ❤
@alexrolon3505
16 күн бұрын
Thank u for sharing your story bro, my ex was cheating on me with some other dude a few months back, now we're done completely.. God bless u brother 🙏
@andresmattos7541
18 күн бұрын
Women file for divorce because the system allows them to file fore retirement, pay day and use men as piggy backs.
@RhodaStone
19 күн бұрын
as soon as the Real Estate Market Crashes-grab a Nice Little Townhouse & Pay it Off Quick Like🤣
@QUICKNEASYHANDYMAN
20 күн бұрын
Damn man she got out pretty well in comparison
@grawakendream8980
20 күн бұрын
how so. she sounds unhappy in her partnerships. meanwhile this guy managed to have another 4 1/2 year marriage in that time
@JBakk007
20 күн бұрын
Sounds like you've got a positive mind set brother and that's awesome. But from the sound of it you got screwed in the divorce. Just an outside observation. That's not right. You shouldn't be living in an RV and paying child support while your ex wife is living in a house you helped pay for, getting married and spending all the time with your kids. F that and F the court system for ruining mens lives.
@mcbraveheart13
20 күн бұрын
My divorce 6 anniversay is here. Mine was scary at 58- but sooo liberating! We did not have kids together! I will never talk with her again! God hates divorce but he will not tollerate abandonment. Advice: there is life after divorce! Get a great attorney, don't let anyone take you to the cleaners or bad- mouth you online!! I didn't!!
@susanwright4414
18 күн бұрын
In the catholic Church we work through down times. It's wrong to break up your family because of feelings. ❤ Commitment is important. Integrity is important. I really feel for you. Praying for you and yours.
@vegassurvivor2745
19 күн бұрын
Your a strong person, so glad the pain is in the past. You went thru alot if hard stuff and to your standing strong. Child support is paid, new chapter. Please rethink giving the money to the kids. Keep that money to yourself. We always think we are heloing our kids but let them work and figure life iut thenselves.
@packratswhatif.3990
18 күн бұрын
70 years old and never married or had kids. I must say that it has been good for me and I am content. But I never lasted long in any relationship so I guess it was meant to be. No regrets there at all and living a comfortable quiet live.
@imveryhungry112
20 күн бұрын
Bruh you need some good guy friends. Friends make you feel good bruh.
@lmErnest
20 күн бұрын
@imveryhungry112 hard to find but I got one. Thanks
@Tar9p
19 күн бұрын
You don't understand. People ostracize you once your divorce
@bronxbomber80
20 күн бұрын
6:56 sounds like a narcissist. She needs a high with new people, then discard.
@deedeetravels969
20 күн бұрын
I think its an individual thing Not more women than males vise versa. I am still solo since September 26th, 2015. I spend my days with 2 dogs and outdoors
@GigaChad_169
20 күн бұрын
Thanks for sharing. Divorce is really traumatic but it definitely has built my character up as I have gotten back in touch with myself on a deeper level. Sounds like you’ve experienced this also. I hope you have a great Labor Day weekend!
@Thramak
7 күн бұрын
My story is similar to yours, we never really fought, had a good stable life. She basically fell out of love with me after about 10 years, had several affairs until it hit breaking point and I asked for a Divorce, she was gone within 3 months. It's been 4 years, I just proposed to my now girlfriend, so I am giving it another shot. I know I'm a good dude, and I did not deserve what happened to me. She's still in a relationship with her last affair partner, he lives in a different country I don't get it but more power to her it's not my problem anymore. Going through this does change you, my new partner is a fantastic women who has been through hell and is so happy to be with me you can see it in her eyes. But I will always carry that scar of betrayal.
@orlandovelastegui1391
18 күн бұрын
Only one advice i got for you is don’t move in with any women if you have a place she can move in with you but, not the other way around!
@karencoffee8960
21 күн бұрын
A lot of women move on quickly because we spend a couple of years saying “we need to talk”, and once we stop saying that, we begin transitioning out mentally and physically. This is my experience. Seems like we move on quickly but it’s definitely over time.
@grawakendream8980
20 күн бұрын
yea, and he did say he went out drinking a lot. so when he should have been building intimacy with his partner, he had his head somewhere else, kicking the can of emotional development down the road.
@marcK599.
20 күн бұрын
Break ups were hard for me in my early 20’s but they don’t bother me anymore. I move on and never look back
@grawakendream8980
20 күн бұрын
@@marcK599. the fact that you're still breaking up past your 20s says something
@Channelinterrupted
20 күн бұрын
Yes, that's what I commented too.... I wish couples would be more careful about each other in marriage so it doesn't get to divorce .. I know I have my all in both... 😢
@insanebeatjunkie
19 күн бұрын
@@grawakendream8980even if he did "talk" she would have talked about divorce lol when women want to talk ain't no saving it 😂🎉🎉
@deusvult6632
15 күн бұрын
Married once and and never remarried by choice. I dated here and there but never found another woman who I felt would be worth the time, effort, and investment to sign another government contract for. The cards are stacked against men in the courts and I'm not giving away half my stuff and alimony for another woman again. It's a pointless endeaver. The women I did date were chalk full of drama, problems, kids, and generally nothing but trouble. I've been seeing a lady pretty steady now for over 12 years but she knows we're never getting married and she's just fine with it. I stack cash, travel, eat and do what I want and have no expectations placed on me which suits me fine.
@joe77njcp
19 күн бұрын
Is not that you are slow in relationships you are more stable your ex wife is unstable. Probably looking for something that she is not going to find
@canoayala5285
18 күн бұрын
Ecclesiasticus 25: 19 “All wickedness is but little to the wickedness of a woman: let the portion of a sinner fall upon her.” King James Version (KJV)
@joseibanez227
16 күн бұрын
Femenine Logic: its better to get divorced so the kids dont see an unhappy marriage (from her point of view). Also femenine Logic: having a revolving door of step dads its Ok Baseline: they want to do whatever they want without any consequences
@EmbraceHappiness1
20 күн бұрын
Well I'm glad you are on the other side of that. My husband went through a similar situation before me. I saw what he went through with all of that. So I definitely feel for anyone that went through it. Wishing you and anyone else that experienced that all the love and happiness that you deserve.
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