Ok Newlys, this is my list of Do’s and Don’ts after your first big fight as a married couple.
This first fight can be the spring board to some really effective communication tools you’ll use the rest of your marriage.
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DO: Step away and take a deep breathe.
DON’T: Do not respond harshly.
Scripture reference: Ephesians 4&31, “Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamour, and evil speaking, be put away from you, with all malice:”
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DO: Listen to your husband.
DON’T: Do not try to talk over your spouse,.
Scripture reference: James 1&19, “Wherefore, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, and slow to wrath.”
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DO: Write it down before you speak.
DON’T: Do not lie!
Scripture reference: Proverbs 12&22, "Lying lips are an abomination to the Lord, but they that deal truly are His delight."
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DO: Forgive each other and seek resolution.
DON’T: Do not seek revenge.
Scripture reference: Ephesians 4&26, “Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath:
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DO: Put together an action plan.
DON’T: Don’t just leave the conversation without putting steps in place to do better the next time.
Scripture reference: 1 Timothy 6&18, “That they do good, that they be rich in good works, ready to distribute, willing to communicate.”
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DO: Cry.
DON’T: Don’t be pessimistic.
Scripture reference: Psalms 126&5, “They that sow in tears shall reap in joy.”
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DO: At the end of it all, show some affection.
DON’T: Do not separate without resolve.
Scripture reference: Jeremiah 31&3, “The Lord hath appeared of old unto me, saying, Yea, I have loved thee with an everlasting love: therefore with lovingkindness have a I drawn thee.”
It may take you a few disagreements before you get the hang of these do’s and don’ts. And if you both just feel like it’s really bad, don’t be prideful! Get some help! Seek counsel. Things are not going to magically change just because you got married. Work still needs to be put in and from my experience, even more work needs to be put in now. Every argument is different but you can apply all the same principles to have a successful resolution. Remember, this is not going to “break” you guys. Your relationship is malleable.
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