I've been sober since the 1st of January 2021. Yay me!
@besober
3 жыл бұрын
Lorraine, congratulations! That's fantastic.
@jareklewis5519
3 жыл бұрын
Congrats
@GunnerDS2
2 жыл бұрын
That is great! So happy for you! I can't wait to start my journey!
@jaypapi4512
2 жыл бұрын
Lookin for an atta boy?
@jaypapi4512
2 жыл бұрын
Atta boy
@milenaseymour446
4 жыл бұрын
I always experience severe anxiety and depression the day after and sometimes days after. It has increased dramatically over the years.
@GeraltOfRivia99
4 жыл бұрын
same here i left a comment i explained why i think that over the years the depression part has got worse
@diamondback7789
4 жыл бұрын
@@GeraltOfRivia99 alchohol has ruined my life
@diamondback7789
4 жыл бұрын
I feel you we especially loosing your job and feeling alone is horrible .
@besober
4 жыл бұрын
Hi Milena - alcohol is like fuel on the fire when it comes to anxiety and depression. The difference I have experienced since I quit drinking has been nothing short of incredible. If you want to explore stopping drinking you should consider joining my programme, it will give you what you need in terms of support, structure, tactics and connection. Details here: www.joinbesober.com Simon
@atwatson67
3 жыл бұрын
Me too suffering real bad
@Miss_Annlaug
2 жыл бұрын
My main reason to quit is the depression it triggers and negative self talk it causes. The over all negative effect on my mental health.
@neveralone7
3 жыл бұрын
This is so true, I had not had depression for over a year, I have not had a drink in over a year, had one drink last night and today I feel depressed.
@thems.harrisshow2160
3 жыл бұрын
Thank you soooo much for this video. Because alcohol makes me feel so depressed! Lord...I pray to God to take the feeling away from me after I drink. Alcohol didn’t use to make me feel sad (just hung over 😔). Drinking makes me feel so down and trapped! Thank you sooo much for this video.
@besober
3 жыл бұрын
Hi Alex, it is my absolute pleasure! I will be uploading a lot more videos throughout this year, so please keep coming back and I hope they help. If you haven't already, you should check out my stop drinking program, I think you would get a lot from it - www.joinbesober.com/ Please keep me updated with your progress.
@wherezenith2856
3 жыл бұрын
For me, alcohol seems particularly sneaky because on the hangover day I actually feel OK mood-wise but the days following I notice depression/anxiety, etc. Because of this delay, it has taken me a while to associate the low mood with alcohol.
@besober
3 жыл бұрын
Alcohol is definitely the culprit!
@suco4676
3 жыл бұрын
This gave me some clarity. I've suffered from anxiety and anxiety attacks for a few years now, but I just recently began experiencing massive anxiety/panic attacks right after drinking, when alcohol starts wearing off.
@besober
3 жыл бұрын
Alcohol definitely contributes to anxiety. I hope you'll look at my website and join my sober community for help and support. joinbesober.com
@angelastandlee6424
Жыл бұрын
I needed to hear this. My anxiety and depression have been through the roof especially after I drink and I find myself having another drink just to go on with my day. It’s killing me it’s no way to live 😢
@jdssurf
8 ай бұрын
i drink nightly, i know i need to cut it down, but it's the only thing that helps my depression but the next day depression and anxiety back, then repeat, scared to quit then just be dark constantly, thoughts? How are you doing?
@robinsmith4958
3 ай бұрын
I hope your both ok
@liamwatson4925
4 жыл бұрын
Hi Simon, I have worked in the field of addiction for the last 20 years. Convincing people that alcohol CAUSES depression and anxiety rather than alleviating it, is a massive obstacle as many only think of the short term relief . Its the GABA/Glutamate mechanism in the brain that leads to the severe anxiety, sleepless nights and racing mind. As the glutatmate spikes after the excessive GABA release, it releases adrenaline and cortisol which are, of course, stimulants. Thanks. Liam from Cardiff
@besober
4 жыл бұрын
Liam Watson thanks Liam - totally agree, I’ve seen it first hand from both sides and so many people I coach to help them quit drinking experience the same thing 👍 knowledge is power.
@liamwatson4925
4 жыл бұрын
@@besober Hi Simon, what does 'certified alcohol coach' refer to?
@jdssurf
8 ай бұрын
I drink at night because it finally helps depression and anhedonia, but next day no motivation and the world is zapped of joy, then that night i'm good again after a couple drinks, i just quit smoking for three months, but now i'm going to cut the alcohol down, i not sure how i'm gonna make it, i'm fighting low testosterone too so already lacking joy and motivation, scared i'm going to feel even more dark. I've quit for a couple months here and there, but i still had cigs, now i'll have nothing for dopamine. Thoughts?
@diamondback7789
4 жыл бұрын
I'm here having a huge crash and depressed because drinking in the past. It takes time for your body to heal . Bloated liver , headaches puke ect. Most important having supportive people is important. Today I just layed in bed for migraines. Btw why would anyone dislike this. This saves life.
@besober
3 жыл бұрын
I'm glad you found the video helpful. Side effects from the toxicity of alcohol can be intense. Good for you for realizing that! You can find tips and tactics for staying sober on my website, besober.co.uk
@Z4CH4
2 жыл бұрын
I'm not a heavy drinker but I love going out with friends on weekends & I usually end up getting smashed. I believe I'm pretty strong willed. I quit smoking just like that with my sheer will in 2014. I've never gone back to smoking again. But I've never actually quit drinking. But today at 42, after a great night, I feel like shit everytime the day after. I become depressive & anxiety sets in for about 3-4 days after. Falls in line exactly with how u described it. I don't believe I'm a bad father to my wife & 3 kids but I want to be a better person & I'm thankful for this video. Its given me a sense of confidence & reassurance that I'm on the right path but complete abstinence from alcohol is pretty hard. I find it harder than quiting smoking. Definitely gonna try harder. Thank you.
@malpert1000
2 жыл бұрын
The high anxiety piece of this video was great. Especially about the constant bad scenarios you think about that will not go away.. that is me. Thank you for the video
@besober
2 жыл бұрын
My pleasure, I am glad it helped.
@joshgreer3527
Жыл бұрын
Yea I get depressed and anxiety goes crazy my girlfriend is getting mad because I can't stop drinking but we were drinking together that's how I relapsed before had to beg her to stop buying me alcohol
@elviagutierrez7875
3 жыл бұрын
I’m here to try to help out my friend going true depression and anxiety and alcoholism ❤️
@maarten7
3 жыл бұрын
Here's what I experience when I don't drink for several days or a week (which I do regularly): The anxiety levels *decrease*. It's anti-intuitive, but it's true. That doesn't mean I don't want to drink, because I do. However, after the first few hours, the anxiety decreases. The sleep is much better. I think clearer. So why do I drink at all? You got me there.
@besober
3 жыл бұрын
In my programme, and my new book, How to Quit Alcohol in 50 Days, you'll find ways to explore why you drink. Examining your beliefs about alcohol is an important step in understanding your "why(s)". Thank you for sharing your experience. I hope you will keep trying to understand your beliefs about drinking, and continue in your efforts to quit alcohol.
@robinsmith4958
3 ай бұрын
I like it cuz it makes me feel good, I love that just getting buzzed feeling. But it doesn’t last.
@Slickomicko
Жыл бұрын
Its been one week for me, I cannot believe the positive results, much more stable moods, better sleep and hope for the future. The negative feedback loop looking back was destroying my life. I’m soooo thankful I tried. Hard at first but i replaced it with exercise and that took the edge off to get me through the hardest bit.
@carrieoff
Жыл бұрын
You still off the sauce?
@Slickomicko
Жыл бұрын
@@carrieoff I stayed off for 8 weeks, but now I have found my self enjoying a drink. Sometimes I wonder if the old habits have crept back in but for different reasons and I potentially need to go cold turkey again.
@carrieoff
Жыл бұрын
@@Slickomicko Give it another go? Im nearly six months in and scared of ever touching another drink as I really feel I like me so much more without it.
@jdssurf
8 ай бұрын
@@Slickomickohow is it now? most ppl can be ok having drinks on occasions but if you dipped back in and now drinking several times a week then yeah you should pry stop.
@Slickomicko
7 ай бұрын
@@jdssurf the root cause is my stress in my current life situations, like I have a wonderful life that would leave lots of people envious( beautiful wife, great marrige, 2 beautiful healthy boys I’m building my own house on the dream block etc etc) but the pressure is on and I get anxious, which leads me to drink to feel less anxious, however drinking causes more anxiety next day so you can see the snowball effect. I’m not dealing with my anxiety properly because it’s harder work than drinking to take the edge off and I’m so tired all the time from all the hard work. I need to give it another crack.
@meganp340
3 жыл бұрын
Okay I will try this for a whole month and get back to you. I'm 23 but unfortunately I've already experienced the negative effects of alcohol so much already.
@besober
3 жыл бұрын
Megan, have you joined my FB group, Be Sober - Quit Drinking and Enjoy Life? You'll find lots of support there. Being sober curious is a great beginning towards freedom from alcohol.
@pekkajussila2979
3 жыл бұрын
Suffering from depression and anxiety. This was a nice video and Simon seems to be a really nice Guy who knows what hes talking about. And i knows that My excessive drinking is causing at least 90% of My mental health problems
@pekkajussila2979
3 жыл бұрын
Sorry for bad english, hello from Finland
@besober
3 жыл бұрын
Please do not apologise! I really appreciate your kind words. Yes, mental health and addiction do go hand in hand. I do have a lot of other useful information which I think will help you. Please click on this link - besober.co.uk/2020/08/18/stop-drinking-books-by-simon-chapple-recommended-quit-alcohol-books/
@davisleonard4262
3 жыл бұрын
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@davisleonard4262
3 жыл бұрын
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@fullspeedaheadbarcelona6502
2 жыл бұрын
Alcohol gives me depression and anxiety for about 3 days after I’ve had a drink. I only drink on a Saturday when I’m out with my mates at the pub but we binge drink which is something I need to stop!
@besober
2 жыл бұрын
When you look at the trade off in terms of what alcohol gives us versus what it takes away, it isn't a deal worth doing. If you want to quit drinking have a look at my programme, it will set you up for success, the website is www.joinbesober.com - Simon
@skye-annecollwell-smith9358
3 жыл бұрын
I get extremely tired the next day and then I can't sleep the next night from the regretable behaviour it makes me so depressed doing things and saying things I wouldnt usually do while drinking I get so bored so I drink and I'm already depressed it does make it worse I keep doing it and haven't learnt all those times this video sort of helped my mind set to quit
@besober
3 жыл бұрын
Hi Skye-Anne, alcohol contributes greatly to anxiety and depression. For tips, tactics, and information about how to quit drinking, visit my website at besober.co.uk. You might also find my new book helpful, How to Quit Drinking in 50 Days.
@cherellewhyte9546
3 жыл бұрын
1 month sober & counting!
@Jacktemps
3 жыл бұрын
It’s got the point to where I can even have 2 drinks anymore, it disrupts my sleep and I can feel the effects the following day when the depression sets in. Gonna have to knock it on the head I think.
@besober
3 жыл бұрын
Hi Jack, Yes, I got to that same point. My anxiety would spike even after a couple of drinks and I realised it just was not worth the pain. Please keep me updated on your progress :)
@sandykern941
4 жыл бұрын
Simon, your enthusiasm, advice and common sense approach to being and staying alcohol free have been a huge factor in my AF journey. Thank you for the support and encouragement. You are making a huge difference in so many lives. Keep up the awesome work!
@besober
4 жыл бұрын
Thanks Sandy - that is wonderful and means so much! Simon
@techmantra4521
3 жыл бұрын
I went alcohol free for a month or so and I felt a lot better, then it creeped back in again due to life pressures. I'm pretty sure I might as well give it up for good.
@besober
3 жыл бұрын
It's amazing that you did the month which shows you can do it! Yes, you have to want to do it and decide yourself that you no longer wish to drink alcohol. If you do need any additional help or tips, then please head over to here - besober.co.uk/2020/08/18/stop-drinking-books-by-simon-chapple-recommended-quit-alcohol-books/
@Spacepluscaptive
3 жыл бұрын
I understand
@rickm6232
3 жыл бұрын
I'm on day 5 of sobriety who suffers from anxiety and depression. I had to quit. I'm on medication which it didn't make effective. It made me worse the next day. Thanks Simon!
@besober
3 жыл бұрын
Hi MaltLiner, I have replied to a comment you left on my other video, but also wanted to comment on this one. Please do keep me updated with your journey. Well done on your progress so far :)
@diamondback7789
3 жыл бұрын
Hope you're doing good :) I am in that journey too
@jareklewis5519
3 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for this video. I think I'm ready to finally stop drinking even though I'm so scared
@besober
3 жыл бұрын
You might want to join my community or my programme for support and resources to help you along the way. Be Sober Quit Drinking & Enjoy Life is my FB group. My website is joinbesober.com. Many people find that having a group for support is key to their success in quitting drinking.
@colby6512
5 ай бұрын
Personally speaking, I’ve on and off dealt with mental health issues since I was a teenager, nearly 30 now. Life is difficult, I appreciate the social aspect of drinking, I really do… but my mental health has been having a on and off, perhaps the most difficult road personally speaking since November and because of that, just taking out the alcohol and starting with that for awhile is worth it to me… I don’t expect it to be a cure all, but hey 👋 I do have hope that maybe it may significantly improve my mental health after a month, maybe after 3 months. If I got significantly better after 1-3 months, not saying I’d quit alcohol forever… but I’d consider it at this point in my life.
@theunnameable2637
3 жыл бұрын
I do not usually drink but I did a bit at a wedding yesterday and today I had very serious negative depressive thoughts.. Now I feel better but it was provably the most intense depression I ever had.. I provably left the alcohol years ago because of that, unconciously. Keep strong everyone! Much love :)
@besober
3 жыл бұрын
It's great that you recognize the depressive qualities in alcohol. I am glad you are feeling better.
@AP-nx6xo
3 жыл бұрын
Thanks Simon. I want to experiment 30 days no drinking . The last 2 years have been hell. I’ve been drinking to deal with a bad living situation that I’m in. A nightmare and I believe alcohol is making everything worse Just listening to you helps motivate me to smarten up and start looking after myself. Thanks for your videos. Keep them coming 👍🏻
@besober
3 жыл бұрын
I'm glad you found the videos helpful. There are Live Alcohol Experiment sessions (LAE) that are 30 days. In addition, if you check my website, you'll find information about boot camps, 7-day programmes, and a private member's community -- joinbesober.com
@AP-nx6xo
3 жыл бұрын
@@besober thanks Simon👍🏻
@jackharris3288
Жыл бұрын
2 weeks sober - depression and anxiety fading away rapidly.
@jdssurf
8 ай бұрын
how is it now, i'm scared to try, i drink nightly, not drunk, but it takes away my depression, but i'm scared i'll end up more depressed
@krystalkrietemeyer3202
Жыл бұрын
The first week of August I did good even when my man was was around me 2 week failed every day and he would nicely have a drink for me at home. Friday I felt like shit and very emotionally broken Saturday I felt my body going through withdrawal couldnt sleep my head hurts and my body still sweating out the toxicness. I HAVE TWO BEAUTIFUL GIRLS 4 AND 8 MONTHS. I know they deserve a better of ME. I ALSO WORK FULL TIME NOW. Im sick of fighting this fight. I try my hardest to remember how awful I feel when I comes to drinking. Ive tryed AA meetings but I can leave all the time.
@ThugNipples
2 жыл бұрын
I had a ridiculous explosion of rage over a snarky comment from my girlfriend who looked through my phone while we were at the pub with all my friends having a good time. I totally embarrassed myself and her. It's been days and I've yet to recover. Core problem is, nothing in my life is working. Applications keep getting rejected despite my decade years of experience in my field and I'm at risk of homelessness... and nobody cares.
@AmSuperBlessed
Жыл бұрын
It will work out dear, believe me. I had decent paying job but my contract eventually ended. I got way better paying job now after being out of job for 5 years. Nothing was working but I have always believed that God doesn't want me to get any kind of job. I used to say when I get a job, it is gonna be big and that is exactly what happened. I am grateful. What doesn't kill you makes you stronger ❤
@erinthatcher5605
8 ай бұрын
I just found this video and boy I’m glad I did. Today is the 1st day of not drinking for me. You inspired me to go 30 days without a sip. I have been suffering from crippling anxiety and depression while also drinking heavily on a daily basis. You really spoke to me when you said that after 30 days I’ll see the real version of me, and then can decide how really anxious and depressed I am. I was thinking of just getting on antidepressants, but this video convinced me to just try sobriety first and then see how I feel. I am super excited to not feel this way anymore. Thank you! 🙏
@coreywalne5243
3 жыл бұрын
I'm 26 and I drink from the moment I open my eyes and to make me fall asleep, I drink at least 15 cans a day, everyday. If anyone in recovery can help me please reply because I need my family back, what a speaker man
@besober
3 жыл бұрын
Hi Corey. I'm sorry you are struggling with alcohol use. I hope you'll join my sober community where you'll find lots of support, compassion, friendships, tips and tactics for becoming alcohol free. joinbesober.com You can also message me directly there. You might find my new book helpful. How to Quit Alcohol in 50 Days. It's available on Amazon. Thousands of other people have been where you are. There is hope and freedom from alcohol!
@coreywalne5243
3 жыл бұрын
@@besober I've since learned that I can't go cold turkey or abstinence of alcohol straigh away as I had a siezure yesterday. Please can you PM me some more details? Thankyou dude and I hope your well
@Jay-ew8in
3 жыл бұрын
12 days after not having a day off in 5 years. My depression and anxiety had got really bad. Its almost gone already. Can't belive how bad alchole is and how hard it was to quit. I was saying are start tomorrow for 5 years.
@besober
3 жыл бұрын
Yes, one of the most addictive drugs in my opinion! Well done on 12 days, that is such a fantastic start! If you haven't already, I would highly recommend checking out my books, I think they could really help with your journey! bit.ly/2MjFYm1
@edwardbalboa5528
3 жыл бұрын
Alcohol is a nightmare
@PorshSpice
4 жыл бұрын
Thank you Simon, I’ve been watching your videos religiously for the last two days, and regularly for the alcohol experiments since November. I had a 31 day alcohol free streak then two nights ago I thought it would be OK to have 1 to 2 glasses of wine at a friends house for a company meeting. I remember having 2 1/2 and then I blacked out! Apparently I was very rude to my husband after and I had a really bad hangover and extreme anxiety yesterday. Maybe you can tell me if it was 31 days of detox that made me very sensitive to the alcohol. Well that answered my question with moderation and I am done! Thanks again for all the wonderful videos and keep rocking your fun clothes!
@besober
4 жыл бұрын
Hi Portia - thanks for the message, there is a good chance your tolerance to alcohol had changed which is why it hit you hard when you drank again. I believe you are part of my quit drinking programme and that you are doing great, well done! Do stick with it though, the learning and growth don't stop, it just becomes more fun! Simon
@johnmartin9992
2 жыл бұрын
I hate feeling like this after drinking horrible low feelings how can I quit I must stress I only drink once a fortnight I have to stop this drink to socialise and I good at the time but its ruining me
@lisanatashavarghese3700
2 жыл бұрын
I have been dealing with my severe depression and anxiety. But I feel drowning depression for days on end after a weekend of drinking
@AshA-mw3xl
4 жыл бұрын
Hi Simon! Thank you thank you! Been having a lot of wobbles this week and your videos help me so much! I've got 4 weeks today. I'll never forget how you so wonderfully put it awhile back. I'll say it in a hashtag. #recoveringmyself. Have a great week!
@besober
4 жыл бұрын
4 weeks 💪 nice work - be gentle with yourself, it all takes time and there will be wobbles but you’re doing great 😊
@jive499
4 ай бұрын
so much truth. God bless you for helping others.
@elva12345
2 жыл бұрын
Somehow, unintentionally, I haven’t consumed alcohol for few weeks. I had been consuming couple drinks few times a week. Anyway, my mood now seems to be better and I feel less anxious. I started wondering if it may be related. That’s how I run into this video. It makes me thinking that improvement is related to abstinence, isn’t it?
@glyph241
2 жыл бұрын
✅
@TheENDEVOUR
2 жыл бұрын
Just listening 👂 to the logic of what you say is making me shake. I just want to survive and be happy. 🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳
@PRESSPLAYRADIO
3 жыл бұрын
This channel, Pip and Sober Leon's and Alcohol Mastery are the 4 go to daily creators for me and the key factors as to why i smashed the 1st month so well . MVP's the lot of you.
@besober
3 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much! It really does mean a lot to hear that what I am creating is helping others!
@Jay-ew8in
3 жыл бұрын
This video really hits the nail on the head, perfect information
@besober
3 жыл бұрын
Thanks Jay! Really pleased to hear you liked the vid! Stay tuned as more to come for this year!
@Uvvibes
Жыл бұрын
I wake up after binging alcohol absolutely terrified and scared for more than half the day the next day
@jacedjohnson3541
3 жыл бұрын
Much love for this video. Dipped back into some old habits and im noticing the back slide
@besober
3 жыл бұрын
Keep going on your sober journey. Remember, set backs can turn into come backs.
@huvandirwamakaza3582
Жыл бұрын
Appreciate your factual explanation on anxiety and depression. Thank you 😊
@tt-rama2246
Жыл бұрын
Even the 14 standard units of alcohol a week that are said to be "safe" cause depression for me. Even when I take 2-3 days off in a week. And what I noticed is, the depression fades away after 2-3 sobriety weeks. For me it takes that long to adjust.
@TAdams-tt8sf
2 жыл бұрын
I’m not addicted or a heavy drinker. But I have depression and anxiety. I’m curious about if going sober can help me. Gonna do the 30 days!
@derycktrahair8108
Жыл бұрын
That's good advice Simon. You've nailed the myth of self-medication. Thanks.
@JamesP44
10 ай бұрын
Ive been binge drinking heavy almost every weekend since 18. At the most I'll go 2 weeks without any of it. Just turned 41 now and for most of my adult life, due to my life style been depressed and anxious all the time. Havent been happy at all, my mind always in a bad place with some moments of calm maybe. The drink with friends has always been a temporary means of escape for me while drunk. Takes me away from my head for that small bit of time. Then back to reality the next day, hungover, depressed, anxiety. Back to normal basically. This coming Sunday, it will be 5 weeks for me. Its slightly better but still get really bad days like today. So just wondering will it get better from here? 🤷♂️ i need peace in the mind.
@realgareths
Жыл бұрын
thank you so much for this, keep doing this incredibly important work 💛
@jdssurf
8 ай бұрын
I drink at night because it finally helps depression and anhedonia, but next day no motivation and the world is zapped of joy, then that night i'm good again after a couple drinks, i just quit smoking for three months, but now i'm going to cut the alcohol down, i not sure how i'm gonna make it, i'm fighting low testosterone too so already lacking joy and motivation, scared i'm going to feel even more dark. I've quit for a couple months here and there, but i still had cigs, now i'll have nothing for dopamine. Thoughts?
@leov6840
2 жыл бұрын
Love your videos! Haven't had a drink in a few days but the craving is bad sometimes
@Daniel-dl6cu
3 жыл бұрын
I'm not a frequent drinker but even when I have a little alcohol, as soon as I sober up I have really bad mood swings and depressive feelings
@besober
3 жыл бұрын
Hi Daniel, yes it really can impact people in such different ways. Does this put you off from drinking altogether?
@petethompson2780
3 жыл бұрын
Alcohol really does cause anxiety. When I'm hungover I won't talk to anyone. Fear of what they think. So I just stay away so no one can smell beer on me. I couldn't even talk to the mechanic about my truck, worrying about does he know I'm hungover right now. My mind isn't there. I just want to get away asap
@besober
3 жыл бұрын
Hi Pete - so true, I have experienced it first hand. For over two decades my anxiety was out of control. After I stopped drinking it faded down to what I consider to be normal levels and has been the same ever since - have you tried to quit drinking? Simon
@jdssurf
8 ай бұрын
HELP ME BROTHER,anxiety for me isn't even related to worries, my body just gets anxiety and i get nauseated and such, it sux, light headed, dizzy................of course i can get it from bad worries, but also just for no reason, i'm still having drinks nightly, ugh, but just quit smoking for 3 months so cutting down the alcohol is next, hoping it helps with anhedonia too?
@Spacepluscaptive
3 жыл бұрын
Your a powerful man!! I failed alot and keep failing.
@besober
3 жыл бұрын
Are you in my FB group? Be Sober - Quit Drinking and Enjoy Life. There's lots of support there to help you succeed. Keep trying and doing work by reading quit lit and watching videos. A community will help greatly.
@Spacepluscaptive
3 жыл бұрын
@@besober 👍🏿
@annerowan8622
2 жыл бұрын
Anxiety overload by the end of the video😞
@besober
2 жыл бұрын
Sorry to hear that, if you are still drinking you will likely find it is like pouring fuel on the fire of anxiety. It helped me to begin exploring each anxious episode and figuring out what triggered it, then I began to put boundaries in place and work on keeping myself safe from unhealthy and unhelpful sources of anxiety. You may want to take a look at my stop drinking programme www.joinbesober.com - Simon
@sadb2270
8 ай бұрын
I wanted Forget everything but I can't after a few hours. I just remember all of them. What is my memory? Please, can you help me if you can. Please tell me how do I do?
@serenitygoodwyn
3 жыл бұрын
It's worth noting that depression doesn't always manifest as a low mood. Sometimes it can appear as a feeling of numbness. I've suffered depression for most of my life. I'd been asked by doctors repeatedly do you feel low, to which I would answer 'no', have you lost your apatite, to which I would answer 'no' so I didn't get a diagnosis. One day a smart doctor asked me how I felt, to which I replied 'nothing, sometimes angry', he asked me how my appetite was, to which I answered 'ravenous, I can't stop eating, I don't know what's wrong with me'. I have what is know as atypical depression, it's less common, but not uncommon. Those who experience bipolar type 2 (which I was eventually diagnosed with) are much more likely to have atypical depression, although most people with atypical depression do not have bipolar. It is worth noting though that those with bipolar II two have a 70% chance of alcohol or drug misuse, as a means to self medicate. Bipolar II tends to go misdiagnosed as recurrent depression for many many years as the the hypomania is much less obvious, can even be beneficial, compared with the mania of bipolar type 1. Unfortunately, antidepressants can make bipolar I or II worse so this misdiagnosis is an issue. Also, continuing to drink makes achieving a stable mood for someone with bipolar almost impossible in my experience.
@besober
3 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for your insightful comments! This is really helpful to know. I'm so glad you have the medical care that you need to deal with such a complex health issue.
@serenitygoodwyn
3 жыл бұрын
@@besober Thank you. Although unfortunately the medical care didn't help. The medications although they somewhat worked the side effects made my other conditions worse making life unbearable. However following a ketogenic diet was a total game changer and I now manage the bipolar and the other medical condition without medication as a result. So happy ending eventually.
@edwardgunawan2689
Жыл бұрын
Hi, I have stopped drinking since Nov 2022. Is it normal that i still feel anxious, however i feel that my mental health is getting better each week.
@Rich13canada
3 жыл бұрын
Never experienced the black outs. But I am in a state that I feel unrelenting anxiety when I am not drinking.
@besober
3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for your reply, Rich. Anxiety is such a terrible thing and I am sorry to read what you are going through. What's the longest period you have gone without drinking?
@Rich13canada
3 жыл бұрын
@@besober 2 weeks after I was hospitalized with Diverticulitis.
@Xenoforge78
2 жыл бұрын
Drank almost daily for a few weeks now, I feel like my anxiety won't go away. Life is not only boring but I kinda think i'm fucking up my relationship too... I feel like I get clingy which is brought on by the anxiety, I never get like that normally. It's fucking awful. I really want to stop but I feel like I am not entertaining or have the social energy to interact with people otherwise... anyone in the same boat?
@besober
2 жыл бұрын
I can relate to this, the key for me was finding the right support, connection and tools to help me navigate an alcohol-free life. Have a look at my programme, it will really help you, the website is www.joinbesober.com
@tamarasmith1706
3 жыл бұрын
I get that analogy, it was very helpful
@besober
3 жыл бұрын
I'm glad you found the video helpful.
@roolyfe
4 жыл бұрын
I am an alcoholic! My live in girlfriend left me today! I am depressed and anxiety! I need help
@besober
4 жыл бұрын
I am sorry to hear about your girlfriend, you should try and ensure you have support around you. Consider joining my programme, it will really help you, details here: www.joinbesober.com
@roolyfe
4 жыл бұрын
Quit Alcohol Coach - Simon Chapple - Be Sober absolutely
@richardstones7027
Жыл бұрын
I don’t agree on quitting all together! Prefer to stick to the drink a ware government page . What do you think ?
@supriyabhandari489
3 жыл бұрын
I always get emotional after i drink alcohol, I remember the things which has happened and i get emotional again and again when drinking alcohol and when i drink i want something and i dont get than again i get emotional dont know why it is happeing so plz tell me why this is happening to me
@besober
3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for your comment, Supriya. Yes, I too use to experience this when I was drinking. I have found that alcohol just heightens our underlying mood/emotions. If you aren't feeling great, then we think alcohol is the answer but actually, once the drug is in our system, it makes the problems seem so much worse. If you need any support with removing alcohol from your life, then please check out my support community on FB - facebook.com/groups/1960061840706240
@diamondback7789
3 жыл бұрын
I'm trying not to drink, I have no job rn , bills are coming and figting with GF. I'm fighting rn and my heart hurts. I'm going to beat this habit and think clearly. But the other things hurt too
@besober
3 жыл бұрын
I am really sorry to read what you are going through at the moment. Just remember that alcohol will not help your mind deal and cope with any issues. Please do join my Facebook support community, it's completely free and will help - facebook.com/groups/1960061840706240
@donnaryan3162
3 жыл бұрын
The best explanation ever.
@emchammer1815
2 жыл бұрын
Just wish the high from drinking could be replicated somehow
@besober
2 жыл бұрын
You have to remember that alcohol is a drug and all drugs have to have some kind of 'upside' or nobody would by them, with alcohol the 'upside' is a 45-60 minute dulling of our senses and loss of inhibitions, after that it tends to be followed by negative consequences. When we remove alcohol the joy returns to activities that have lost their sparkle, it takes time, but it happens.
@camillacars
3 жыл бұрын
I think I have a depression cause I moved to my hometown and Started my business and it’s difficult, also dating locals doesn’t look appealing to me. So I have developed a psychological addiction to casual drinking, I drink 1-1.5 glasses of wine two times a week and the next day I feel so miserable. Laser night I visited a new pub and I had one small beer and today I feel so down I wanna cry and it’s already 8pm.
@besober
3 жыл бұрын
You can change, don't beat yourself up - come join my stop drinking programme, I am certain it will help. Details here - www.joinbesober.com
@fuckcoppas4life
Жыл бұрын
Love your videos mate 👍 been out of detox 2 weeks 3 weeks sober. How many weeks does it take for anxiety to go away feel a bit better but still anxious.
@zenstiller8938
2 жыл бұрын
good man , thanks very much
@FrankensteinintoFranken-FINE.
Жыл бұрын
I stopped drinking now for four months and still feel depressed. Hope this sorts out soon, was a binge drinker at weekends on and off for 26 years..
@christopherwg4236
11 ай бұрын
After that long I've heard it take time for your gaba receptors to repair themselves..They have down regulated.
@jdssurf
8 ай бұрын
how's it going now
@Brian-gh2ij
3 жыл бұрын
Im 54 and abused alcohol heavily everyday last 4 years ..im sober a week now and anxiety super strong...how long in your experience will anxiety last?
@besober
3 жыл бұрын
Hi Brian - my own experience was that I began to notice myself feeling calmer after a week or two, it was around 3-4 months when it faded to 'normal' levels, it is different for everyone, I recommend downloading an App called iMood Journal as it will allow you to track it and notice that it is getting better. If you need extra support to help you stay on track I recommend getting a copy of my new book and joining my Facebook community. You are also welcome to take a look at my program, which is helping a lot of people, details here: www.joinbesober.com - Simon
@maarten7
3 жыл бұрын
I have crippling anxiety and it actually fades quickly after not drinking. I also went on Prozac for depression as I just bottomed-out in November after doing well since July. If the anxiety is that severe, get some help. (Not benzos, which make the matter worse.) I really love great wine, and want to moderate it. I'm doing well, but I honestly feel better without it than with it.
@sg1190
4 жыл бұрын
Great video,well done 👍
@besober
4 жыл бұрын
Thanks for the comment - Simon
@Lauratayloradams
2 жыл бұрын
I pray for those who have these issues. God knows.
@joshgreer3527
Жыл бұрын
How did you quit drinking rehab or what
@leodf4371
4 жыл бұрын
I drink every once and a while im not gonna drink anymore it don't help with life at all i got emotional
@besober
4 жыл бұрын
Hi Leo - good decision, I am sure it will make life so much better. Simon.
@colinkeatley3381
3 жыл бұрын
Hope things get better for you. Exercise really helps me-feel great after!
@SuperDurv
Жыл бұрын
Day 1
@ildiphoenix
3 жыл бұрын
My daughter drinks since 18 and she cant stop ,sometimes she get so drunk she says she wants to kill herself and sometimes she gets violent ,she has 3 children that is affected about it but i took care of them since babys to 12 years old but i feel she now at36 really needs help ,she is japanese I live in Japan ,she won’t accept about her problem,I don’t know what to do to help her thank you
@besober
3 жыл бұрын
Many thanks for your comment. I am really sorry to read what you are going through with your daughter. I do have a wealth of information on my site which will help for you with helping her which you can access here - besober.co.uk/ Please do keep me updated and I also have a fantastic support community available here - facebook.com/groups/1960061840706240
@TruDis01
9 ай бұрын
Approximately 100% of everyone watching this video is hungover.
@TheENDEVOUR
2 жыл бұрын
I’m going to stop ✋ in the new yr. I’m frightened 😩. How will I survive.
@walterwalterson3982
3 жыл бұрын
Thank you
@besober
3 жыл бұрын
Hi Walter, my pleasure! I am glad you like it :)
@helpfulcommenter
Жыл бұрын
Chapple is a cool name
@Miss_Annlaug
2 жыл бұрын
I did the math today: ill save between 50 000 and 70 000 calories pr year being sober! What? It's equivalent to up to 12 kg of body fat per year! Holy moly!!
@kevywilliams3304
3 жыл бұрын
Oh wow !!!! This is because I drink daily 🥲
@serapiopena2776
2 жыл бұрын
Hello my dear friend. When you say two weeks today has been two weeks and my depression and anxiety is still way out of control. Is it possible that that this can last longer? I also have feelings Of complete utter despair as if my soul and mine are not connected to this reality. I am very frightened that this will not pass. Ever since I was a child I had these feelings. That’s why I took up alcohol as a crutch for 35 years. I don’t see the light at the end of the tunnel at all. Me and my girlfriend have been in a toxic relationship and it has overwhelmed me so I started drinking day and night for two months straight. I’m so stressed out because I’m still trying to work it out with her And dealing with these feelings of despair from quitting drinking. Any information will help much appreciated God bless you thank you for all that you do.
@k.b1596
3 жыл бұрын
I am not a regular alcohol consumer but is it normal to have intrusive worries stuck thoughts and catastrophic thinking in high levels after night drinking??? Can it last for days and weeks after one night drinking?
@besober
3 жыл бұрын
Hi K.B It's really difficult for me to say on an individual level but yes, alcohol can heighten and prolong anxious thoughts. I would really like you to join my support community as you will be able to discuss this with others as well - facebook.com/groups/1960061840706240
@k.b1596
3 жыл бұрын
@@besober thanks. I dont use social media.
@aberserkwolf361
3 жыл бұрын
Does it makes you have depressing thoughts and stuff and make you feel depressed and stressed I only drank like about 1 mikes 5% and a smearnoff 5% wasn’t much can only a little do it
@besober
3 жыл бұрын
It depends on the individual. Some people have a very low tolerance for alcohol, but can still experience anxiety and depression. It's a very powerful drug! We completely underestimate it.
@kevywilliams3304
3 жыл бұрын
Do you answer people !
@besober
3 жыл бұрын
I have posted several replies to your comments. If you are not seeing them, please let me know as there might be some kind of technical difficulty we need to fix. Thanks.
@gurkarancheema8589
3 жыл бұрын
Dear Sir, i am near death. i am clinically diagnosed as severly depressed and i am now fiercly resorting to alcohol now. can you save me?
@besober
3 жыл бұрын
I am sorry to read what you are going through. Do you have a support network around you to help you? I have lots of helpful information here that you should have a look through - besober.co.uk/2020/08/18/stop-drinking-books-by-simon-chapple-recommended-quit-alcohol-books/
@gurkarancheema8589
3 жыл бұрын
@@besober The support network is almost non-existential. I will surely give a read to your link and provide my feedback.
@seriousoldman8997
2 жыл бұрын
Great metaphor!
@Franco-ss4bu
Жыл бұрын
Some people dont like the real version of themselves
@Calferr
4 жыл бұрын
👍
@besober
4 жыл бұрын
Hope the video helped - Simon
@philbouwer2583
Жыл бұрын
Tx a stack
@missharris1513
3 жыл бұрын
Great video! 😊
@besober
3 жыл бұрын
Glad you liked it!!
@jaypapi4512
2 жыл бұрын
What about if you stay drunk?
@livepeacefully615
3 жыл бұрын
I stayed in bed and just drink water all day . Because I drank too much and binge. But I'm still sad .
@besober
3 жыл бұрын
It is an awful vicious cycle. We drink because we feel sad but then the alcohol makes us feel worse. Do you have anyone close to you that you can speak openly with? I would love for you to join my support network as I think it will really help you dealing with the sadness so you can then control the alcohol consumption - facebook.com/groups/1960061840706240
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