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@tana3875
20 сағат бұрын
Sadly, women are in danger no matter what we wear. I’m sure everyone already knows that. But the example I often think of is that if clothing protected women from getting harmed, then that would mean women who are Muslim or dress in conservative clothing for their religion would never be victims. This isn’t true so it clearly tells us the answer.
@michiko_nox
18 сағат бұрын
not everyone knows that unfortunately
@arianam6430
17 сағат бұрын
There are things that definitely signal to the cis straight man that certain women aren't interested or seeking their attention. But predators and bad actors don't listen, don't care what you're wearing, or even think of us as ppl, so...
@roxassora2706
17 сағат бұрын
Or they were brainwashed by misogyny on one side@@michiko_nox
@SingingSealRiana
11 сағат бұрын
Like with modeat dressing it probably works a little, as long as other women are around who suit their tastes more but as soon as everyone dresses modest or you are alone, nothing will detere men
@saschamayer4050
9 сағат бұрын
Eagerly nose-picking seems to do the trick almost always. No special equipment needed. 😉👍
@dublancdedinde
20 сағат бұрын
from the tiktoks im seeing, i thought "man-repellent" would be a lot more... alternative. when i imagine man-repellent, i imagine aliencore, mall goth, spunky colorful almost clown-y makeup, just bold with the style. these outfits just seem to follow the conventional tiktok fashion trends but veeeeeeeery slightly edgier. + frankly, nothing could ever be truly man-repellent. being woman presenting and breathing is enough to be noticed, unfortunately
@saltiestsiren
20 сағат бұрын
Yeah a lot of guys LOVE that shit lol. The "big tiddy goth gf" trope didn't form in a vacuum after all
@Kyle496
19 сағат бұрын
@@saltiestsiren Why anyone would think that's repellent is beyond me. It's a whole fantasy for many men.
@MrQuantumInc
18 сағат бұрын
The "man-repellant" will be a variation on the fashion trends they normally do, not a re-invention of fashion. Especially someone trying to survive on TikTok is going to be terrified of being too weird, (rather different from whatever their audience expects). On the positive side, for every possible female style there are men who genuinely like that. Maybe he is hard to find, maybe he gets made fun of for liking the wrong thing, but he exists. On the negative side, there are a lot of men who don't care about your fashion sense because they simply don't care about the personality you are trying to express...or consent...
@ghoot
18 сағат бұрын
mall goth isn't very bold tho
@ghoot
18 сағат бұрын
btw there are ways to be generally more man repellent even if you can't be a 100% but if you think that even soap don't eliminate 100% of bacteria...
@loveline119
20 сағат бұрын
omg!! you said it!! I didn't know why the whole thing made me uncomfortable... Thinking that modesty (or any form of clothing) deters men is senseless! Clothes don't stop men. Never have, never will. And thinking we can fix it by wearing something specific is dangerous.
@valentine.58
19 сағат бұрын
yea. some men even find it MORE hot when youre modest because then its like a mystery or some gross shit 🤩🤩🤩
@MagisterialVoyager
14 сағат бұрын
@@valentine.58 frfr, it's super gross.
@juliusk.2307
12 сағат бұрын
Also it puts the responsibility on women again when it should be on men not to be harassing creeps.
@jmvr
11 сағат бұрын
I mean, when women in burkas are still affected, you know it's not the "modesty" of the clothing
@ironman_546
10 сағат бұрын
Except you're saying our lived experience isn't real. I definitely get less male attention when I wear bold, over-accessoried looks versus regular wear.
@Lilah-Violet
20 сағат бұрын
I heard some esoteric mooing outside my window, and knew Tara had to have posted. This is the earliest I've been to a video! Thank you to the cow for alerting me!
@TaraMooknee
20 сағат бұрын
This made me chuckle, thank you for the chuckle
@daniellespencer5026
20 сағат бұрын
Do you think we'll ever hear mooing and "Flight of the Valkyries" and Tara will just be flying through the sky on a herd of cows?
@uniquechallenges2478
19 сағат бұрын
@@TaraMooknee Honestly in my opinion to discourse around the female gaze is homophobic basically there saying that if you like women especially feminine women you are male or a deviant. I don't lnow if you know this but it's something to think about. I'm a femme lesbian that likes other femmes so what does that make me, male gaze or the female gaze ?! Do you see how it excludes gay people, just a thought?!
@Lilah-Violet
18 сағат бұрын
@@TaraMooknee I'm honored I could make you chuckle, I've loved your channel for years and you always make me laugh! 🥰 Your commentary tends to be really balanced and you discuss serious subjects without it being too heavy. I also love that you're passionate about animal welfare, and the pet shout outs always make me smile. Thank you for existing on this platform!! 💖
@leoniep9231
12 сағат бұрын
@uniquechallenges2478 As I understand it, the male gaze is about how a patriarchal system favours traditional male perspectives which often includes objectifying women. Whatever type you have, if you see women as complex human beings while finding them attractive and are able to personally relate to their experiences (which probably you do since if are a woman yourself), I don't think you qualify at all for the male gaze by definition. The male gaze is about the male spectator, it's not about how the observed woman looks. (Please correct me if you think I am wrong or If you have different thoughts on the topic.)
@MusiciansRule07
20 сағат бұрын
Speaking from personal experience: absolutely fucking NOT. Whether I was in my oversized and comfy pajamas at school before they changed to dress code or the near floor length skirts and flowy tops I wore when I was in the Jehovah's Witness Cult or when I'm on the move in my workout gear and now age appropriate clothing, I have had men, Creepy or Sane approach me. It is what it is. It's just something that we as women have to deal with so wear whatever you want when you want and don't overthink things.
@Frenchaboo
19 сағат бұрын
As a lesbian, I find all sorts of those quirky, creative, multi-layered or boxy outfits really fun and flattering. I feel like they immediately tell me something about the woman's personality and preferences and sometimes they look like art. But I will admit, maybe because I live in a christian and conservative country, I can't tell whether I'm genuinely not attracted to very feminine/"natural" looking women (long un-dyed hair, popular styles of make-up, clothing straight out of celebrity insta, long nails etc) or whether I've conditioned myself to avoid them because they're usually straight as compared to alt girls. The next thing we gotta study is the anti-gay gaze haha
@Pellow-princess
20 сағат бұрын
I have not watched the video yet however my opinion has always been this. Talk to any Muslim woman that chooses to cover themself and they will tell you that no, being fully covered does not stop men from being pests. If men have eyes they will gaze.
@salmaabdullahgb
20 сағат бұрын
A guy told me he was into hijabs
@user-ct6jz3im2o
19 сағат бұрын
that's why the concept of a hijab is bullshit. it puts the blame of men's actions on women.
@anava7030
19 сағат бұрын
@@salmaabdullahgbthat’s so GROSS 😣
@michiko_nox
18 сағат бұрын
@@salmaabdullahgb thats so disgusting im sorry that happened
@emmao6578
15 сағат бұрын
Exactly and I've received more than enough disgusting catcalls while bundled head to toe in bulky winter clothing to know this personally as well
@Alex-cw3rz
20 сағат бұрын
So bascially it's dress like the quirky British sister or cousin in a Rom-Com.
@Patchouliprince
19 сағат бұрын
As a gay man I was like “why don’t these guys think these clothing are attractive? I think they look fucking amazing” and then I realized lmao
@tonivazquez1081
18 сағат бұрын
Same, Bi here.
@LayneBenofsky
17 сағат бұрын
The Male Gays are definitely into it! :D
@LondonMoneyCashEnterprise
14 сағат бұрын
As a straight man we like what we like
@no-one.in.particular
12 сағат бұрын
@@LayneBenofsky I genuinely thought, for way too long, that everyone was talking about dressing for the "male gays" like that was bad and I was very confused because that is exactly who I want to compliment my outfit lol
@lanskandal1181
11 сағат бұрын
Lmao I like this interpretation much better. @@no-one.in.particular
@GrandArchPriestOfTheAlgorithm
20 сағат бұрын
The Bechdel Test does not look agency, it just look for women's existence. Agency is the sexy lamp test.
@frogblehfrog143
12 сағат бұрын
Yeah and just saying the bechdel test was about lesbians and the lack of rep they get
@juliawnuk3644
10 сағат бұрын
What is the sexy lamp test?💡 Please explain, I need to know more about it!!! ❤️
@ypp0p
9 сағат бұрын
@@juliawnuk3644 replace the woman in the story with a sexy lamp. If the story still makes sense, the woman has no agency. A truly shocking amount of media somehow fails this insane test.
@GrandArchPriestOfTheAlgorithm
9 сағат бұрын
@@juliawnuk3644 Can you replace what a character does in the plot with a stationary object? If so, you got a sexy lamp.
@hummmusqueeen
9 сағат бұрын
@@juliawnuk3644 from what i remember, it's pretty much what it says: check if the woman could be replaced by a sexy lamp and if it would change anything to the narrative. if it doesn't, congrats, your woman character has no agency
@kelbinatorYT
13 сағат бұрын
What's frustrating about these trends is they still put the responsibility of violence against women on women, when it's men who need to stop harassing women and be more proactive about calling out other men for shitty behavior.
@anthill1510
7 сағат бұрын
The second part! Men need to start calling out other men when they harass women! It`s so accepted. I swa it even in friendgroups with a lot of great men, they wouldn`t call out one of their guys groping a women.
@valap2
20 сағат бұрын
I dress for the cow gaze.
@MaizeSnallygaster
17 сағат бұрын
That’s moosic to my ears.
@roecocoa
11 сағат бұрын
Female graze ☘️
@schwagecko5589
9 сағат бұрын
Lots of green I assume
@PeanutBugger
20 сағат бұрын
Female gaze? How about female GRAZE? 🌿🐄🐮 Amoo-sing video BTW
@materla4102
20 сағат бұрын
I know it's not the point of this video, but Tara's gorgeous face shape is definitely not a woman repellent for sure
@TaraMooknee
20 сағат бұрын
I’m BLUSHING
@materla4102
20 сағат бұрын
@@TaraMooknee Kekeke then I'm glad! I went back to delete it, worried I sounded like a creep. But it's true
@zeppie_
19 сағат бұрын
Not to say that Tara is necessarily man-repellant, but I'd believe you if you said she was because she's such a woman-attractant!
@aawillma
18 сағат бұрын
Certified woman here, FULL CONCUR.
@BookishLovely
18 сағат бұрын
And the way she enunciates her words so clearly! Makes me so hot 🔥
@Nurah123
14 сағат бұрын
I find all this pretty funny (terrifyingly sad) because i live in the middle east and I have friends who dress in full Burqa to basically what western women wear and they ALL have stories of sexual harassment from men. ALL of them. Which pretty much proves it's not about the outfits.
@ryss335
7 сағат бұрын
Exactly!!
@Oxellee
6 сағат бұрын
I have a theory that it's because the whole idea of a burka is to cover up as much of a female body as to "not be indecent" and "not tempt men". So by wearing a burka, a woman accepts the responsibility of male behavior, which in turn relieves them of responsibility for their actions. A man who believes he bears no responsibility or accountabilty for his actions and the harm he's done is simply more likely to act in those inappropriate or even criminal way, because "it's not his fault". It's not the clothes that commit SA, it's the male mentality and entitlement and lack of self accountability. A large number of men aren't running around murdering and stealing right now simply because they fear consequences. Watch how many of them turn under the promise of no consequences.
@seabrain1212
19 сағат бұрын
I think the problem you'll run into is that the weirder you dress to repell men, the weirder the men you'll attract.
@leoniep9231
12 сағат бұрын
Yep taste differs but some men be weird regardless
@J_Lynn
11 сағат бұрын
So unfortunately true, although I have had some men approach me just to ask what kind of clothes they are with genuine interest and to tell me they like my outfit. Very nice dudes. But also yeah... some total freaks.
@angelac.1211
10 сағат бұрын
maybe we're not trying to attract any men and its about repelling them, pay attention @seabrain1212
@MoeHasubandoAbsolver
19 сағат бұрын
I find the idea of "man repellent" outfits really strange personally... Dressing in relation to what men "don't want" still grants a strange amount of power to the preferences of men, and still bases decision making around those expectations. Not to mention that a lot of these outfits are just really cute... I understand that beauty standards being repurposed for something other than the service of patriarchy is productive, but it kinda seems like maybe beauty standards just shouldn't be projected onto people at all in the first place. Maybe this is what the first step towards that looks like? It seems like engaging in a cultural gender war with misogynists just kinda plays into anti-feminist rhetoric when perhaps the issue could be sidestepped. At the end of the day I'm an outsider looking in tho so I guess this take should probably be taken with a grain of salt.
@hannajung7512
19 сағат бұрын
While the goal should be to wear just what makes you happy, on the journey to finding yourself being contrarian on purpose, with "ugly" styles, "anti-fashion" styles or "man repellant" styles can be important steps. By breaking up the norms you wear raised to conform to and find security and validation in you can learn how it feels to present this way, learn about your own comfort in clothing and about realistique reactions of your environment (because the truth is, that there is no way of dressing, that will actually "keep man away", at best you can choose which type of men will react more frequently. And when you realise that by dressing contrarian you start to be open to really find your own style, that expresses who you want to be in public, and not what you think is expected of you. Of course this is not the only way of doing things, but it is one way.
@melanieg.9092
10 сағат бұрын
@@hannajung7512 I think what you write is important to note! Wearing what pissed off or weirded people out most helped me get comfortable in wearing what I can wear (sensory issues) even if it's not as fem as I'd like to...
@anthill1510
7 сағат бұрын
I agree with you that it`s still dressing in relation to men and that is still a kind of a prison. If you really want to be left alone and that is your priority than it`s worth taking mens reaction into account, though. There is no way you will change the world or men over night, so accomodating to reality it is.
@vainpiers
7 сағат бұрын
I don't think that's a valid criticism. We're fighting against male oppression and a society that caters to men, that's why people want to wear clothes that repel or even offend them. Its a statement against oppression.
@polygonvvitch
20 сағат бұрын
A man repellant outfit is the Knight of Thorns set from Dark Souls. No man will get close to you if you wear that.
@Man-ej6uv
20 сағат бұрын
even though i might get stabbed i think it's hot. women in armor make me weak in the knees
@juans213
19 сағат бұрын
Pyromancy time
@dakotaadams189
19 сағат бұрын
Are you sure about that?
@zeppie_
19 сағат бұрын
These are the REAL secrets that the LOTHRIC KNIGHTS will never tell you!!!
@fightthepowerman
18 сағат бұрын
Didn't stop Maneater Mildred :(
@mayas883
11 сағат бұрын
This trend always reminds me of the haunting "what were you wearing" art exhibit. Sadly, there is no man-repellent
@tash4710
15 сағат бұрын
When a man says you just haven't met the right one, just say "You know what - you're right! And I still haven't." Lol.
@pandakatiefominz
20 сағат бұрын
Honestly, I'm very grateful for this video. I've been struggling a bit lately with questions of, "Am I dressing for men? I don't feel like I am, but... am I?" and this was the quiet reality shock of, "just wear the clothes you like to wear!" I did go out in clown inspired makeup recently and I felt genuine so powerful. I want to try do more over the top makeup, in the past I've only saved that stuff for special events, but it felt really nice to put a sparkly heart on my cheek and make my eyeliner look like a butterfly
@megapiglatin2574
9 сағат бұрын
YASSS 🙌🙌🙌
@PinkBerryMoose
18 сағат бұрын
Ive found that the louder my outfits are (no matter how modest or immodest) icky men leave me alone. My clothes are very bright, frilly and flowy. My lipstick half the time is green or blue and I have glitter under my eyes. I dress to be happy that’s it and I think the confidence makes them uncomfortable.
@TreeHairedGingerAle
16 сағат бұрын
I would say that this is the crux of it, but there are exceptions to every rule. I've had unfortunate reason to learn that some men ( _especially_ conservatives ), will seek out a leftist woman for a partner (often lying about himself in order to entrap them), rather than a tradwife wannabe...because their internal desire is ultimately to dismantle and sabotage and gaslight and control their woman in order to feel powerful...and so, doing that to a woman who DOES want to exercise agency and autonomy feels more satisfying to them than dismantling a woman who was looking to "submit to" and "obey" him from the beginning.
@stavroulagiannari59
13 сағат бұрын
This describes my experience, I kinda feel like I look like an "easier target" in the low effort outfits that the icky men would consider "normal" cause I look like I don't have much of a personality or standards or I am probably desperate in their heads
@PinkBerryMoose
13 сағат бұрын
@@stavroulagiannari59 absolutely. When I dress down I get approached a lot more.
@electronics-girl
11 сағат бұрын
Interesting. That could explain some things. I dress in a way I consider very feminine, even hyperfeminine. But yes, it tends to involve things like an elaborate, frilly dress that's the color of Pepto-Bismol.
@elisehalflight
7 сағат бұрын
As a trans woman with lots of male friends I can testify that, yes. Most men are easily scared by hyperfemininity, particularly when presented with confidence, have no idea why.
@GilTheDragon
19 сағат бұрын
Not to be man going um actually; but my quip for male gaze is: it's not a look but a way of looking. Any *aesthetic* can be seen with a male gaze. Any body can be male-gazed: like the action movie focus on lead's ass or abs: that's male gaze! Its cutting up the body for consumption as object of desire, it is the dehumanizing, the erasing of a person to an aesthetic sentiment... Then again reducing people to aesthetic sentiments is wildly lucrative so
@sersergv
13 сағат бұрын
If you've ever spent any amount of time in a gay club or on grindr you'll get an idea of what men look like through the male gaze. The gay community has a huge problem with body dysmorphia for this exact reason.
@leoniep9231
12 сағат бұрын
Well said!
@Caleb6000
7 сағат бұрын
So when men gaze at women's features that's the male gaze. And when women gaze at men's features that's... also male gaze?
@BryonyClaire
15 сағат бұрын
It doesn't matter what you wear, nothing stops people from putting whatever message on you they want. Thank you for pointing out the slut shaming issue here, we really do criticize and side eye eachother over everything and I'd love it if more of us could recognize we grow up around misogynistic messaging so we all have internalized this to some degree, unlearning that is an ongoing thing and this discussion is v much part of it
@littlemissmello
6 сағат бұрын
I just want to say I really love your video's as well! Thanks for your hard work!
@hannahfanning9585
20 сағат бұрын
I very much agree with this video. In my personal life, I have had good experiences with "male repellent clothing," before it was called that. While I was in college, I lived down the street from a whole cluster of bars and nightclubs, and it was scary walking by at night sometimes, because you were very likely to be harassed if you looked fem-presenting. It was comforting to waer certain things, because frequently, when men would turn to look at me, instead of catcalling (or worse) they'd just look taken aback and keep right on turning. But, policing what other people wear because it isn't what makes you feel good, is the exact opposite of what this kind of awareness should be. You, and everyone, should dress in a way that makes you feel safe and happy. Someone else wearing something you don't personally like isn't an inditement of their character.
@fighttheevilrobots3417
17 сағат бұрын
Im a fat woman who was a fat girl and so this is like anthropological research for me because in general I don't get male attention even if I want to. Whether I wear baggy clothes or tight clothes, my body is always considered "wrong". None of the women in this video have a body that looks remotely like mine in any way. I remember when I was younger and I got whistled at on the street I was so shocked and happy. And wow, that's sad.
@parallelself
16 сағат бұрын
yeah… I was walking down the street this weekend and this dude yelled to his friends, “you see this lady in the ice cream shirt, she’s, like, a five!” and they all laughed. but as a fat person I kind of wanted to flip my hair a bit and be all omg he thinks I’m a five! 😂😅
@LondonMoneyCashEnterprise
14 сағат бұрын
The problem is not that women get too much male attention but that there is large inequality in who is getting male attention
@camelopardalis84
14 сағат бұрын
Based on my personal experience and things I have been told by other women, I can tell you that no, you aren't automatically safe if you're overweight or clearly morbidly obese. Maybe there is a point at which most women are considered too big for most men, but it must be a fairly high weight. 135 kilos at a height of 165 cms doesn't cut it, for example.
@elizabethpemberton8445
14 сағат бұрын
@@camelopardalis84I’m 5’9” and 350 pounds and totally gray and wear glasses and 54 years old, and massively depressed, and the thing I consider when I am planning for any day I need to walk to the bus stop and ride a bus is: is any part of my ensemble really striking in pattern or color or design or decoration? Is my lipstick too fancy? Am I in any way just plain visually noticeable, even in the abstract, or just one piece? If so, I need to be on my guard because men will be all over me IF they see me. Not men I am interested in; much older, or way too young, whom I am assuming want my presumed money (ha!). If I am just in comfortable, generic clothes, my body and age are an instant cloak of invisibility. So often I put makeup on at my destination, and save my fun, extravagant, quirky things for when I am in a group. I am not saying this to brag - no one has been interested in me as a human being for decades now. But as a TARGET - for harassment, for solicitation, for “Oh she must be super-desperate, I bet I can score” - all they need is to see you. If you exist, as a woman, in their sight, they feel you are making yourself a target. How dare you be out in public? Even old fat women. It is NOT about anything as pleasant as attraction.
@electronics-girl
11 сағат бұрын
As an overweight, middle-aged, non-passing trans woman, I never get that sort of attention. From a practical standpoint, I guess that's good. But on the other hand, I would like to experience it, at least once in a while.
@baileykeller288
20 сағат бұрын
What is the pay distribution between you and the cow? If she only has a coin, are you paying her a fair wage for her work?
@Patchouliprince
19 сағат бұрын
Watched a video not long ago about how the 1700’s trend of bringing the waistline high up made men angry because they thought everyone was pregnant- Same vibe
@Peregrina
9 сағат бұрын
Perfect :'3
@denslc
11 сағат бұрын
Tara is right that there are no guarantees, but I’ll never forget going out the morning after I shaved my head for the first time. I had about a 30 minute walk to my classes and not a single man I passed would even make eye contact with me. There is not a single outfit that has made me feel as invisible to men as a buzz cut did. I felt the freest I ever have rocking a buzz cut at the bar. My hair is long long now, but I think about shaving it off quite often just to feel free like that again.
@catvalentine4317
15 сағат бұрын
The thing that shocks me most about women's clothing is this: Imagine a typical jeans shorts cut on a man - impractical and skimpy. A bikini - where to tuck anything? And my labia certainly feels that. I cannot wear "regular" women's clothes since that revelation. Most are so strangely shaped... So I've basically been living in nice black maxiskirts with cropped T-shirts this summer :) Loved it
@ishathakor
17 сағат бұрын
the male gaze female gaze tiktok trend is genuinely laughable because all they do is very slightly edgier makeup or flowy clothes instead of bodycon clothes. but like it's all 100% shit i've seen straight men say they find really attractive. it's still objectifying. it's like tiktok thinks the difference between the male gaze and female gaze is being one dimensional and sexy or one dimensional and cute. when both of them are just being objectified and the actual female gaze in film is about just not objectifying everyone in the first fucking place.
@SarastistheSerpent
20 сағат бұрын
As a cis guy who is queer, I must say I personally find the ladies in “man repellent” outfits shown in this video quite alluring, although possibly because some of the boyish outfits look like stuff I would wear myself
@PunishedTlacuache
20 сағат бұрын
My Gramma wore baggy sweaters and jeans not only for my whole life, but for my mom's whole life. She always wore beanies, so we all have beanies that we call our "Gramma hats". I've never questioned her femininity. Now that I'm older, hearing people argue about whats a "woman", I'm just like "wtf is going on? Why can't people wear clothes?! 😭
@Duck-wc9de
19 сағат бұрын
My grandmother rocked stripes. She loved striped pattherns.
@PenelopeAstony
13 сағат бұрын
Love this
@irradiated_woman8016
20 сағат бұрын
Me-unshaven, militant*, protesting, vegan, lesbian: (◕‿◕✿) *I don't even know what they mean by this, but I'm just gonna assume "feminist, not the fun kind" and in that case, check!
@SamuraiShizuo
15 сағат бұрын
If there was a way for women to dress to avoid sexual harassment we would have figured it out by now. 💀
@katiechamberlin4194
11 сағат бұрын
EXACTLY 😭
@nikki-b
20 сағат бұрын
i find that my hot pink pepper spray is a pretty good man repeller. (i'm over 30 with weird hair and dress like an emo adam sandler... and still get weird comments from weird men. they never give up!)
@elilla3583
11 сағат бұрын
I was about to make the same comment. It's funny but also real; men following me on the street suddenly change course when I hold my pepper spray visibly. Now I know why they make them in neon colours, best fashion accessory
@ANYHOO0
15 сағат бұрын
As a fairly butchy lesbian i can confidently say that all men are not attracted to one type of woman. You would think that sometimes looking more like them than they do would turn them all off, but it turns out that there are a few out there that don't go for the feminine look!
@TyroneBackyardiagains
14 сағат бұрын
Yeah, I remembered a youtube short where a stud was just walking outside in a neighborhood and dudes were still trying to pick her up. There is no real way to avoid the male gaze, especially if you are fairly attractive.
@pansepot1490
9 сағат бұрын
This whole video has been a colossal waste of my time. Once I saw a research (I think it was in the context of p**n) on what type of erotic fantasy het men and women prefer and turns out men prefer the “girl next door” type while it’s women who go for the hot guy, tall, muscular and lookalike of their favorite Hollywood actor. Seems to me these women expert on the ’male gaze’ are projecting.
@molluscumlore
20 сағат бұрын
I just hate the way ppl are misusing "male gaze" everywhere. It was about the agency given or barred from female characters in fiction, not about girls looking sexy. The sexiness is incidental to the male gaze, a female character could be fat and hairy in baggy jeans and a band tee and she's still male gaze if she's sidelined by the story and entirely lacks agency compared to the male characters, and a different female character could be in stripper heels and bikini armor but if she's a driving force of the plot and has interiority as a character she isn't male gaze. There are other critiques for those that don't involve assigning attraction to women as a male thing, which is a stereotype that really fucked me up as a baby lesbian. As for fashion? If we're applying the original idea of male gaze to it, you literally cannot stop men from using their "male gaze" on you. If they don't see women as people with interiority, that isn't gonna change if you put on baggy sweatpants. And if we're gonna reverse male gaze into female gaze, the quintessential female gaze art form is yuri manga where men either don't exist or only exist on the side lines. A man in the female gaze is a nameless faceless boyfriend who only exists as a 10 second phone call while a woman is fucking his girlfriend lol
@hannajung7512
19 сағат бұрын
the important factor is not only agency in the story, but agency in the presentation of the moment. Is the woman in question depicted as a complete human with emotions, ideas etc. or is she just a projection of the viewers desires and thoughts. The easiest reckogniseable way is of course the objectivication and sexualisation, but the opposite can be the case, too. When the image of the woman is used for other forms of projection, like depicting her only as a mother, especcially with a boy child in the center (I would argue Mother Mary is very much depicted with a male gaze almost every time). It is important to reckognise, that even a character that has agency in the story, can be portraite by the camera with a male gaze by turning her into an object of desire or disgust in the way she is filmed. Almost all "strong women" characters in 2000's action films and video games are like that.
@hannajung7512
19 сағат бұрын
and no, the manga scene you described is not female gaze, it can be still male gaze. At least usually. Because it is still a male fantasy, and the girls are drawn mostly to be attractive to men and in situations that serve as projection for male desire.
@molluscumlore
18 сағат бұрын
@@hannajung7512 I think you just don't understand what agency and interiority mean here. While you can't control the interpretation a viewer has, if a female character is given interiority and agency in the story she is by definition not just existing as a stereotype. The "strong women" stereotype you refer to is a distillation of this. While they in theory have agency, 9/10 times they are side characters that defer to men on most fronts and whose only characterization is not like other girls bullshit. There's also very often a male self insert following her around even if she's the MC specifically to act as the gaze of the audience, to make it easy for men to insert themselves into the story without having to empathize with a female character. When a "strong woman" character doesn't do this, she's fine.
@michiko_nox
18 сағат бұрын
most of yuri readers are actually men believe it or not. they also like this entire "tiktok muscle mommy" thing (my partner does for example)... good for them i guess?? lmao. most of these muscular women are still anatomically incorrect anyway (in anime/manga) , as they still have huge chests. an actual muscular woman is going to be way different looking than the average tiktok muscle mommy. i really wish there were more butch characters, but men will call that "tomboy" instead. seems like there's no way of winning this debate if someone is into that sort of stuff, i don't care but people need to acknowledge the flaws of it
@molluscumlore
18 сағат бұрын
@@hannajung7512 Men don't have a monopoly on being horny for women you know. Do you know how badly it fucks up young lesbians to be told over and over how only men would like tits and lesbian porn? Men don't even like it that much! I see what they call "lesbian porn" and it's all ffm threesome shit or conversion fetish fantasy. As yuri goes, a consistent 50% of readership are women in japan, and in the west it attracts so many trans women i doubt the number of male fans will stay that high when trans rights get better. Then for authorship, out of a random sample of 150 yuri authors 60% are women, 20% are men, and 20% are entirely anonymous so it's far from men writing for men (I can't link but search " Yuri mangaka gender database, 2024 edition "). On top of that, while research is relatively sparse a thesis in 2011 (Maser, Beautiful and innocent) found that straight men and lesbians in yuri fandom had very similar tastes with each groups top 5 favorite yuri being the same shows in different orders. And the 1 smut manga in the top 5, shoujo sect, was liked by men and lesbians basically the same amount. The men also liked the more LGBT focused and unsexy stories (Maria sama ga miteru, Aoi Hana) at the same rates. This isn't to say straight men and lesbians are the same, but the type of straight guy who likes yuri either will not be kept from fetishizing lesbians no matter how "wholesome" the story is or can just empathize with female characters and also won't be put off by wholesomeness or discussion of LGBT rights. We have to stop calling lesbians men just because we like tits. It's not male gaze if it doesn't involve men, it's MY gaze. Male gaze is about joining male audience with perspective character in the gentlest manner possible so he never has to worry about empathizing with a female character, and that does not work with lesbian stories that don't feature main men.
@CatastropheCat97
18 сағат бұрын
I think it’s interesting that every woman that was used as an example of man repellent/female gaze content was skinny & overall pretty conventionally attractive. I don’t know exactly what that says about the content or our culture as a whole, but I feel like it says something
@Darm0k
15 сағат бұрын
What it says is that attractive people are more likely to attempt to monetize their looks on social media. Or that attractive people will just be more successful on social media.
@emmao6578
15 сағат бұрын
We know for sure that social media algorithms are often biased towards stereotypically attractive people and that many people are too. I imagine that likely influenced the clips tara put in the video as she probably just searched for the most popular clips on this theme.
@atherisGAY
11 сағат бұрын
Pretty people get the clicks.
@Rubestur
16 сағат бұрын
as someone who has no sence of what is "fasionalble' I have given up. I put on whatever I feel best in and call it maximalism. Works every time
@SpookyStag2015
19 сағат бұрын
also the thing that makes me mad is this notion of "the female gaze." ???????????? yeah sure language can evolve etc etc but the entire point of the male gaze is that it's an academic term used to refer to the ways in which women are portrayed in media and how that affects women's self-perception (and men's perceptions of women) in the real world. and these tiktok people hought it'd be a good idea to co-opt that language for "this is what girls like🤗☺"
@probsnooneyouknowtbh3712
17 сағат бұрын
"I didn't retaliate because you just don't know what could happen." I felt this 😭 "Why weren't you more aggressive?" "Why didn't you tell him off?" Because some people are dangerous when they're angry? Because I've experienced that first hand? Because my brain has switched to survival mode and I'm trying my darndest not to make the guy mad because I DON'T KNOW what could happen?
@Cat-fz1uu
15 сағат бұрын
One advice I've seen is if you're a bistander for a situation like that you should act like you know the victim and just start talking to them to make the harasser uncomfortable enough that they'll just leave
@kittyfreya9141
13 сағат бұрын
This gives me SAs going to the police and first question being. "What were you wearing... " We breath they will try talk to you. Clothes make no difference... 😔
@JustAHorrorShow
19 сағат бұрын
I've actually experienced more harassment from men while showing less skin and more harassment from women while showing more skin...
@verdancyhime
12 сағат бұрын
I looked at the example photo in "men hate my outfits" and it showed the kind of woman I always get dumped for. I have no idea what men want. I'm tired.
@jennifererixon2578
19 сағат бұрын
being fat and trans has turned me into solid man-repellant, i haven't been hit on in almost a decade
@camelopardalis84
14 сағат бұрын
"Fat" alone doesn't cut it.
@electronics-girl
11 сағат бұрын
@@camelopardalis84 Maybe not alone, but I am fat, middle-aged, and visibly trans, and I get zero unwanted attention. (I also get zero wanted attention, but at this phase in my life I don't even really care anymore.)
@sylvieroche9364
12 сағат бұрын
I am 50 something. When i want to be absolutely left alone in town, public transports, bars etc, i just dress 10 years older lol. Still not 100% effective but it does make a huge difference. I am planning to go full "witch from old disney movies" one day 🤣
@bpdlr
18 сағат бұрын
I always thought Robin Williams' description of lesbians as "women in comfortable shoes" was cute on so many levels
@elizahart661
13 сағат бұрын
I am 1000% of the mindset that "men repellent" outfits don't exist. If you appear vaguely female, you will be harassed. Also, male intimidation outfit too, like looking edgy and tough seems logical until you remember it's just another 🌽 category to these dudes.
@kezia8027
20 сағат бұрын
only 5 minutes in, but the problem I'm seeing so far is it seems like so many of these "i'm not dressing for the male gaze any more!" types, are still basing their entire wardrobe around what men like and don't like... Sure they're focusing on what men don't like, but they're still focusing all their choices around men... Like girl.. just wear whatever makes YOU feel good why does it need to be so complicated? Avril lavigne was right
@kezia8027
20 сағат бұрын
and having now finished, I'd say I agree with the ending summation; no matter what you do, there will always be someone who insists on violating your boundaries, whether implicit or explicit, so focus on the things you DO want to have around you, rather than focusing on the things you DON'T want to attract. People who violate boundaries, by definition, are going to ignore the signs you put up warning them away, so all we can do is learn to deal with them, and encourage the types of people we DO want around us.
@Alex-cw3rz
20 сағат бұрын
10:23 I saw one of those interview on a street and "one of the guys said it was awful" and when she asked because he's wearing a dress he said "no, he can wear a dress, it's just that one's sh*t" and I agree with that guy, be provocative but at least have some fashion sense (not as in sexy, as in actually looks nice).
@dumbumbumbum8649
19 сағат бұрын
Glad to see you guys are still finding ways to arbitrarily, needlessly judge people’s appearance in a way that (supposedly) fits in with your politics.
@Alex-cw3rz
19 сағат бұрын
@@dumbumbumbum8649 what?
@NecrozmaJade
17 сағат бұрын
@@dumbumbumbum8649 They're judging the dress brother, I don't think the dress's feelings will be hurt
@birdmandan9456
18 сағат бұрын
l'm speaking as a man but like... The whole idea of the male gaze as used by tiktok and shit is so unhelpful. Like, it's so far removed form its useful origins as a critique of cisheteronormative patriarchal standards limiting perspective in film to just be generally essentialist nonsense that doesn't actually grapple with systemic issues. But hey, pop psychology did the same shit with Narcissism, depression, anxiety, OCD, etc so i cant exactly be surprised.
@LilyVanilli88
13 сағат бұрын
I know what GORP is: Good Ol' Raisins and Peanuts. Shorthand for a type of trail mix... which I guess is a snack designed for people who spend a lot of time outdoors?? lol That being said, I like the way it sounds and I have used it as a name for a goblin PC in D&D.
@laurenwalker1048
19 сағат бұрын
My husband hates my clothes and I don’t give a rats arse.
@baileykeller288
19 сағат бұрын
I'd be too nervous to talk to any stranger in public unprompted, but honestly, someone who is dressed more comfortably would be easier to talk to. I hate tight clothes with rough fabric. Yes, I'm autistic, how could you tell?
@kaileebailee23
16 сағат бұрын
Tara Mooknee always taking silly pop feminist trends and giving it nuance and weight! I love your videos!
@TofuDinoNugs
18 сағат бұрын
I think that man repellent is different from modesty like a burka. It’s be weird and off putting. Offensively dressed, not defensive
@tauntingeveryone7208
20 сағат бұрын
So this is basically another I am not like the other girls trend. I think it is great to empower people to dress like they want but also this teend like most empowered trends usually puts down those who do not agree with your choice. The idea that some clothes are "male repellent" means that those who do not dress like that are atteacting guys and can be used to justify their attention. If you do not want guys attention then dont dress for the "male gaze." I am not saying that is what moat of these people saying but I can see the logical end of this trend.
@saltiestsiren
19 сағат бұрын
There were girls in my high school class who came to school wearing boxer shorts (not boxer briefs) (over their underwear I imagine) and either guy's basketball shorts or baggy sweatpants/athleisure pants (think Adidas pants w/the snaps on the side), socks with slides or sometimes those suede slipper/clog things that Ugg made popular in the 2010s, and pretty much anything went for tops as long as it was casual. Sometimes a guy's tee and sometimes a tight-fitting Aeropostale tee. I don't know if anybody else experienced this but at the time I was like "wtf" but now I'm indifferent; I don't think it was meant to repel the guys because the guys were already friends with them and vice versa and they seemed unbothered... ...but it was almost like the opposite of when guys were wearing short shorts or rolling up their basketball shorts, even coming to school in jorts or a skirt, due to absurd dress code rules that were heavily enforced by a vice principal with a power complex and internalized misogyny, probably
@NyxTyrianthinus
9 сағат бұрын
I believe the only way to prevent harassment from anyone is to change the social rules that are taught and upheld not change the way anyone dresses. I used to go out in the german goth scene a lot and I am still active in the goth and metal subculture. Here social norms are such, that as a woman you can be pretty much naked and harassment towards you would not be socialy accepted. Of course people still look, gothic festivals have a see and be seen character, but persistant staring is very uncommon and any kind of harassment will spark everyone arround you to move in and remove the perpetrator from the occasion. It is common that if someone is drunk and a bit to persistent in their flirting, for other clubbers to kindly ask if you need help telling them off. The reason for the german scene to feel that safe is not, that all goths are amazing, flawless saints, it is an unspoken contract that we try to keep each other safe and keep the scene respectful. So people who would show inappropriate behaviour learn not to follow those impulses, as their social enviroment tells them to reconsider and change their behaviour. And we still manage to be pretty naughty and sex positive xD
@Im_Merobiba_
19 сағат бұрын
I definitely dress to repel men (mace and bowie knife)
@SamClemens-id3cl
10 сағат бұрын
Once when i worked at a retail store, i was buying underwear after work. They were cutsie character themed. And a male co-worker saw me & commented, " no men are going to find that attractive." 😂😂😂 I told all my female employees. Guess, it is completely news to men that women do things that women like.
@daniellespencer5026
19 сағат бұрын
It's always interesting to think about what I would wear if I wasn't going to be perceived by anyone but myself.
@TofuDinoNugs
18 сағат бұрын
Gosh what a dream
@dinogrl4102
20 сағат бұрын
no matter what it'll still be the woman's fault bc she "tempted him"
@jbonesrva9679
7 сағат бұрын
I get the impression that the "female gaze" is more of the perspective of wearing what you'd like without caring if you look attractive to men more so than being a specific aesthetic and that includes baggy/modest clothes along with skimpy clothes. It's about your personal reason for wearing the clothes, not the clothes themselves.
@ziggylegion1604
12 сағат бұрын
i dont dress fem every day, but when i wear the outfit in my YT pfp, something so minimally fem, ive had random men say weird shit to me, as well as touch me without the slightest provocation. on MANY occasions. sometimes even when im with my very obviously straight bros, whose friend you might not wanna harass. if they are willing to be so uncritically forward in that situation, then imagine how quickly and easily out-of-hand things could get for a lady, dressed nicely and by herself? explaining things this way has actually helped more often than i ever imagined it would
@demoncorejunior
12 сағат бұрын
5:42 thank you for instantly connecting some dots in my brain. hard to summarize for those not in my brain, but something along the lines of a eureka moment: all the fits you posted in this montage look amazing, and i’d compliment someone wearing them. oh, because it was meant to appeal to my non-male-gaze (sorry to use outside the context of film, it’s convenient shorthand!)
@hjelsethak
20 сағат бұрын
No, oh sorry, I haven't yet watched the video.
@sumacmusac
20 сағат бұрын
omg im early! slay! ty tara and cow!
@TheCatie
20 сағат бұрын
I think one of the big things about this, is that why I support any individual woman (like Julia Fox, who I quite like!) saying that she no longer wants to dress for the male gaze, this “man repellant” fashion as a trend is only available and applied to women who already have societal approval. Fat women, queer women, Black women and Hispanic women have been dressing how they want for YEARS. It’s also the idea that dressing in general still has to be tied to the idea of “fashion” which in our culture is still racist and fat phobic.
@joshuaizly5502
19 сағат бұрын
I have to disagree I have seen many fat man being fashionable
@electronics-girl
11 сағат бұрын
I see a pretty dress and I buy it. That's pretty much as far as my thought process goes.
@pencilfangs
11 сағат бұрын
Unfortunately men are not a monolith, and it's not as easy as buying the right outfit or styling the right make up to avoid harassment (and framing it that way does feel victim-blamey). Men Repellent fashion feels like an attempt at profiting off of women's fears.
@Acinnn
7 сағат бұрын
The personal story about harassment reminded me how as not yet realised ace person( with social anxiety) in past I had really hard time telling where is the line between harassment and just flirting.(The clasic idea of flirting made me uncomfortable) I remember at one Anime convention some drunk guy was "pestering" my friend and she didn't seem interested in him so I spoke up but from what I remembe the friend was still trying to say to let it be that it's oke and I started questioning my judgement. Now I would probably report him to orgs and gave him kicked out. Being drunk isn't generally tolerated in these cons.
@parasaurolofun
14 сағат бұрын
I've always found this trend slightly annoying because all of it seems so arbitrary. Some men like "tomboys", some like women who dress up like medieval elves, and some like it when you dress up like a rainbow. The Japanese fashion trends Lolita (not related to the book) or Gyaru stemmed from a desire to not conform to strict gender standards within the culture, but both groups still get sexualized and objectified by men. What these women are doing is mostly harmless but I feel like it's also pushing the idea that there is a right way to protect yourself from men by dressing a certain way, but we know from history that there is no perfect solution to getting harassed or worse.
@ironman_546
10 сағат бұрын
I think the confusion is that this isn't about dressing for modesty. It's about dressing to intimidate men. Creepy men (the ones who we are actually repelling) don't want "high maintenance" women. They don't want women with standards that reach the moon, and if it's clear you've spent two hours on your appearance, they can assume you will keep doing that, making you unattractive to them. I wear very bold looks in all ranges of color and glitter eyeshadow, a skirt and button down, or very big colorful eyeliner keeps men away almost as much as just having a man with me. Even my hyper-feminie, pink and ruffley dresses keep men away. It's not about covering up, its about being so bold that the creeps decide you aren't worth targeting.
@thekidfromyesterday2334
16 сағат бұрын
Was watching before I went to sleep and my eyes were getting droopy. Then you threw Johnlock in there and my blood started boiling again. Will never be over this 😂
@namtellectjoonal7230
8 сағат бұрын
I started wearing a particular alternative fashion style a few years ago. It's frilly and hyperfem and doesn't show much skin or figure. Basically, it's peak femme gaze. Never in my life have I been catcalled as much as when I wear that style. It's almost like harrassment like this isn't always about attraction but about power. They see me clearly not dressing to be attractive and they go "Let's bring them down a peg" Unfortunately, no matter what we do, we can't guarantee safety from men because ultimately it's not our choices that lead to harrassment, assault or rape, it's the offender's choice to harrass, assault and rape. So yes: dress in what makes you feel nice, but never let your guard down or let the clothes give you a false sense of security. Because it has never been about the clothes.
@dominikdalek
18 сағат бұрын
I feel like man repellent differs massively between, uhm, man types. For instance: me and my wife very often talk about stereotypical "christian girl look" which is long skirt, high neckline and glasses. This is the kind of outfit both of us find bland and a turn off. But we know people who are very much into hesus who'd find this outfit attractive! Conversely I know people (incels, mostly) who'd find any tattoo on a woman body a 10/10 repellent, where both of us find tattoos hot.
@turkicnomad5632
11 сағат бұрын
As a stud/butch lesbian, I’ve managed to be a pretty effective male repellent, for my friends as well, because I naturally carry myself like I’m itching to throw a pest into traffic. However, I do fear the day that someone challenges that. It’s not a bluff, but I know my odds.
@Seneida
12 сағат бұрын
But…the «man repellent” outfits are just regular clothes I see most women wear on a daily basis🤷🏻♀️
@elijahsanders7362
16 сағат бұрын
"Is that what a fact is?" I genuinely cried laughing
@soupcake3092
13 сағат бұрын
Alot of my friends get hit on/cat called/harassed more than I do, and I like to think it's because a 6ft woman covered in spiderwebs and spider themed clothes is alot harder to approach and maybe alot of creepy dudes are also arachnaphobic. But it's probably because I barely spend any time outside on my own.
@PokhrajRoy.
13 сағат бұрын
I’m just happy that Producer Cow is stepping up and making new videos happen.
@m.b.3750
11 сағат бұрын
there is no such thing as "man repellent" clothing because harrasment is not about clothes. the function of harassment and rape is punishing women for being out of the house and in public, for daring to encroach on a "male" space
@viceroybolt3518
15 сағат бұрын
So you're saying my favorite clothes of all time, my maxi skirt and clogs, is keeping them away? I know you said several other things but I needed good news today. Here's hope it works for the first time.
@g3intel
7 сағат бұрын
I appreciate that the very first cited example included the "and the gays" part. I felt very seen (masculine enby with a male partner) after having rewound the outfit montage because I wanted to get a better look at all the cute tops.
@jofip9199
14 сағат бұрын
I never thought about it but if I was 100% sure I will be safe I would dress sooo differently
@CanIswearinmyhandle
20 сағат бұрын
can we please not let tiktokers take film theory terms and apply them to real life? Either that or apply every film theory concept to real life
@roxassora2706
17 сағат бұрын
I apply it to art and media.
@camelopardalis84
14 сағат бұрын
Yes, can we please not let tiktokers.
@GrungeGalactica
17 сағат бұрын
I recently learned about hat pins. they were to secure womens' hats in place ofc, but if men forced themselves on women, they became a sharp 12inch form of self defense. maybe that's why those types of hats fell out of favour, what with men controlling fashion...
@thepinkestpigglet7529
11 сағат бұрын
No hats in general fell out of favor because you took them off inside and so with the invention of cars, a new interior, people spent less time outside wearing hats
@roecocoa
11 сағат бұрын
Lots of opinion columns, editorial cartoons, and letters-to-the-editor at the time from harassers who were livid that they might get stabbed if they tried anything.
@estheracquah7541
8 сағат бұрын
I will never miss a Tara Mooknee video. I've missed you girl
@myragroenewegen5426
13 сағат бұрын
I really like this. It makes me realize that a lot of the logic behind "trendifying" dressing for oneself and not for men is inherrently toxic thinking in so many ways, but, without forgetting that, it's probably amoung the best ways to find enjoyable fashion. This needn't only work because of how it relates to men, or even sex appeal. Things that cater, first of all, to what we think others want to see us in encourage us to buy uncomfortable things, or things suitable for specific contexts like the workplace only, leading to buying more clothing we don't like, and spend less time actually wearing. There's zero wrong with dressing to be the spotlight in a room, even when gesturing toward convention and playing up sexuality plays some role in that. At the same time, you can get more use out of a diverse wardrobe of clothes by breaking any rules that seem to exist until the experimentation leads to something that authentically works. The truely free fashion lover can dress objectively badly a fair bit, and consider it a successful learning experience. This trend may not quite deliver what it too often claims, but it's a good way to find fashion lovers who aren't trying to please everyone anymore. My body and life feel in flux right now, so any trend that aggrees with a good cargo pants and a comfy cotton jacket is about my speed right now. Also abstract construct of annoyingly conventional men don't like rainbow dressing or frilliness? Both rather important to the impractical lingerie and bathing suit market. Trying to pin down how this works makes it fall appart. Which is not to say that it's crap--just vaguely defined, which is for the best.
@Varanids
12 сағат бұрын
my gut response of man-repellant outfits is "well, you're still centering men," but my lived reality is men will approach a woman whether they're wearing a lingerie set or in full mormon dress. clothing has never deterred men. clothing has been an obsession with men for as long as fashion has existed, whether they think they are obsessed or not. so often, a woman in more ""challenging"" outfits is considered just that: a challenge. "maybe /I/ will be the man to get past all that extra 'bullshit' she's wearing, it's clearly a defense, and /I/ can disarm her" what women wear has nothing to do with what a lot of men grow up believing. that they are that one special someone who can "break down" a woman's walls, no matter what she looks like or how many times she rejects them.
@ziggylegion1604
13 сағат бұрын
love why did you do the ad-read so asmr coded lmao
@Hotelyorba
20 сағат бұрын
I ran here when this posted.
@Moon0525_
11 сағат бұрын
Thank you for this video so much. As a Purity Culture Dropout, I've been side-eyeing why everything deemed "for the female gaze" is actually about covering up and reducing my sexuality... Whereas "for the male gaze" is about putting it all on show and exhibiting my sexuality. But what if I want to exhibit my sexuality because as a teenager I was told that's the very thing I can't do, because god forbid I make a man lust after me (and I'm a sinner if I cause him to lust)? Called an "attention seeking wh*" by my own mother just because I wanted cute crop tops and jeans because I PERSONALLY ADMIRED the women who were wearing that? I really don't like how "for the female gaze" is now becoming a layman's terms for simply just 'modesty and androgyny'. Imho for the female gaze is about self expression, art, comfort, freedom, and without repression.... HOWEVER that may be. To dress covered or with nothing more than a bandeau and American Apparel disco shorts. To dress high femme or as masc as you can. To be creative and do whatever makes you smile at the woman reflecting back at you in the mirror. I never got a chance to 'be sexy' growing up in a Christian household, so yeah, I am a sexy adult. Am I doing that for the male gaze, or am I doing that for the girl who had her mother buying her clothes until her early 20s?
@pssurvivor
9 сағат бұрын
the early to mid 200s were a wild ride! i'm glad it's behind us
@GravityFallsUp
13 сағат бұрын
Yeah male repellent definitely doesn’t work lol. I wear pretty baggy, excessively long or modest looks very often especially at work and get hit on by men constantly. As a matter of fact, it seems the weird ‘unflattering’ outfits I wear is a big part of what attracts them to talk to me in the first place. I won’t change how I dress for them, I love my style and feel good and confident in it, but I’d say they’re either a) starting to pick up on the ‘male repellent’ style and purposely pushing it against it to make us feel unsafe or b) starting to fetishize and sexualize it similarly to how goth style has been
@ANYHOO0
15 сағат бұрын
That was a very sultry data breach ad!😂
@whackstro5184
13 сағат бұрын
Thank you for making this video. My girlfriend likes to glam up (sometimes with lots of boobage) when she meets up with her girls downtown. It's not my scene so I don't always go, but I am always worried sick when I do stay home because I fear for her safety. I WISH she could dress as scantily as she wanted without the risk of being harassed, it would save me many grey follicles lol. However, I know that risk is present when she is out anywhere in the world, and far be it from me to make her choices based on my fears. I also want to thank you for sharing your anecdote about the train ride. It reminded me that when I'm in public and I tune out, I could also be tuning out those in similar precarious situations. There have been a few times in my life where I have confronted men who were being creepy to women, and to any men reading: none of those encounters went like the movies where the "bad guys" try to beat up the "hero." I have found men that harass women are often quite cowardly, and firmly letting them know you will not tolerate that often makes them disappear with their tail between their legs. Just do what's right :)
@electronics-girl
11 сағат бұрын
Yeah, it's easy for me to sit here watching a video and say "I would speak up", but it's a lot harder to do in the moment. I'm really ashamed that one time, I got off of the elevator at a hotel, and right in front on me were a woman and a man having some sort of altercation, and the woman was in her underwear. I "noped" out of there so fast, and hit the "door close" button. By the time it occurred to me that I should have helped her, the elevator was already moving. I wish I could have a "do-over" on that.
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