I just want to say your videos have helped me so much. I can honestly say the no contact worked. My ex just contacted me earlier this week after 5 months of no contact. I really thought she was gone for good but she actually came back and we have talked and met with each other and now are back together and it's like we never missed a beat. I know we still have to keep working on it so this doesn't happen again and most importantly communicate. I just want everyone out there struggling to hold on and keep the faith cause believe me I had my doubts but it can happen that they come back I am living witness it can. Stay strong. Thanks coach Lee for the videos.
@Canizarezqw
4 жыл бұрын
I'm happy to hear that for you. how long were you dating before the BU? I myself am currently 3 months in of no contact. The first 2 was really hard, but it's gotten a lot easier. Without coming off as desperate or pathetic, I do wish the same thing would happen to me *praying hands*
@benshekell1867
4 жыл бұрын
Mordekaiser I’m going through the same thing we broke up a week ago and she is still viewing all my stuff on Snapchat sometimes she the first one too hope it work out bro❤️
@keithford5525
4 жыл бұрын
@@Canizarezqw Thank so much. We were together like 5 and a half months. Not very long I know but we had tremendous chemistry and got along great and hardly argued which is why it was a surprise we broke up. Believe me I really struggled and started to really doubt she would come back but she really did. She told me she had been wanting to reach out but she was afraid of or wasn't sure what my reaction would be after all this time and really I felt the same way cause I wasn't sure what her reaction would be and plus both of us are stubborn lol. Ultimately she told me she broke up with me cause she thought I wasn't into her like she was with me which wasn't true. So basically it all came down to communication. We weren't communicating with each other about how we felt or if there were any concerns. Believe me I don't see you as desperate or pathetic. I was in the same boat as you. Keep the faith cause you never know things can change in an instant. If mine can come back to me after five months it's definitely possible for it to happen for you. I will pray for you that they will. Good luck my friend.
@keithford5525
4 жыл бұрын
@@thehavoc6331 Hang in there and keep the faith. I didn't believe my ex would come back but she did even after 5 months so it can definitely happen. I will pray for you.
@keithford5525
4 жыл бұрын
@@thehavoc6331sounds like a misunderstanding and communication issue which is what happened in my situation. I didn't wind up contacting her though which was hard believe me cause I wanted to real bad but I held my ground and it worked and she eventually reached out to me. I think her posting things about the break up is a good sign cause it means she probably still cares and cares about you. Obviously if she posted that on her Facebook she knew you would see it and wanted you to see it. Like coach Lee says you need to use no contact. I know that sucks but it worked for me and it might work for you
@sreach93
4 жыл бұрын
I've said this before, Silence is food for the subconscious, feed your exes subconscious, stay silent and let their subconscious do the reaching out
@thejedi5079
4 жыл бұрын
Love it...so much sense...as I know that the sub-concious is 80% negative redundant thoughts?!.. Thanks man.. Silence is golden...
@troyesivan7069
4 жыл бұрын
can you explain this more? 😔
@sreach93
4 жыл бұрын
@@troyesivan7069 As hard as it is mate, don't reach out, don't contact them, that doesn't mean ignore them if they contact you. I can talk from experience, it worked for me. All the best 👍
@troyesivan7069
4 жыл бұрын
S A how long before ur ex reached out? thank you.
@sreach93
4 жыл бұрын
@@troyesivan7069 10 months, but there were other factors involved, ( people in her ear ) otherwise it would've been sooner according to her.
@cairecto4547
4 жыл бұрын
It's almost a month now since we broke up, every day is hard but you have to learn not to want them. Do this for yourself. After all, if they're not doing anything to keep you, then why are you fighting to stay?
@youngwolf9005
4 жыл бұрын
Caí Recto that so damn true love ...
@patriciaearley4177
4 жыл бұрын
Agree
@LoneCapricorn
4 жыл бұрын
Exactly! If they really want you then they have to be the one to reach out to you, especially if they were the one to break up with you. Coming back before that only hurts you and puts you at a disadvantage. They will not appreciate you as much as if they were the one to come to you.
@mireyaluna9073
4 жыл бұрын
You have no idea how much your comment helped me. It made me realize that I need to keep going for my own well being
@patriciaearley4177
4 жыл бұрын
Cal Recto, you are right! I'm in this situation now this guy I been talking to went silent suddenly.We are not in a relationship haven't even met yet due to us living in different cities.Anyways but he's done this before and then texts me again when he isn't upset anymore.Very fickle and unpredictable behavior I did nothing to cause this. It's a problem now and definitely more of a problem if we got in a relationship eventually.well I'm taking a break from this nonsense.If he wants to contact me he can if not it wasn't the right guy.I'm guessing he's going through a hard time family issues ect.but he hardly talked about it. Anyways,I wish you the best and strength I hear you.I hope I can remain strong and not contact him first🙏✌🍀
@landonforet5406
4 жыл бұрын
Regardless what anyone says at the end of the day it all boils down to weather YOU FEEL your ex is worth fighting for or not
@dnap2526
3 жыл бұрын
But how long should you be in no contact for
@roboboytoy
3 жыл бұрын
@@dnap2526 untill THEY reach out. Keep strong and work on yourself
@chantehowe7798
2 жыл бұрын
If he's in a new relationship no I wouldn't want to get back with him
@TEUTONIC__ORDER699
2 жыл бұрын
@@chantehowe7798 exactly , those ex's that jump into rebounds cannot love anyone and you should not fight for Them bc people that jump in a new relationship expose how they really are
@thehavoc6331
2 жыл бұрын
my ex dumped me after she was going through job and her own family related issues Even though I was there to support her. And my ex did reached , but that's when I messed up I showed her that I was still interested in her, so she told me she's not interested in a relationship and only wants to be friends Ofcourse I declined the offer, but we did had few positive interaction after that But since things were not moving fast, I started overthinking and I showed her how hurt I was after breakup. And I was afraid that she would told me to move on, so out of fear of her response I blocked. But on the same day , I unblocked her because I knew I did something terrible in full of emotions and I really regret it. I apologised to her multiple times, and told her what I did was not a true representation of me and I was just full of emotions and anxiety and messed up She did forgave me , but told me "we're done" and there is no future for us So I guess I only have to move on. But there's a part of me , who still hopes and want her back Because regardless of the ups and downs we had a good relationship Even her friends and family liked me. So I pray and hope our ex come back, because it would be shame to throw away such a beautiful bond
@TheHawaiigurl20
4 жыл бұрын
But let’s not forget your advice that I followed in one of your previous no contact videos that went somewhere along the lines of this... “If you’ve waited the 2 months or so of no contact and you are still very much wanting them back it’s ok to reach out, because maybe they think you’ve moved on or maybe they think you’re mad at them or maybe they are having trouble mustering up the courage to reach out to you” And Coach Lee that’s exactly what I did and he was missing me and was happy that I reached out and we’ve been back together for about 6 months now, so I have you to thank for sticking with the no contact and helping me get my Ex back 🥰🙌🏻
@AddictzAnt
3 жыл бұрын
Could you tell me how it’s going
@privxete4089
3 жыл бұрын
I would let her come back. Or she see me weak
@JorDel_1111
3 жыл бұрын
He hasn't contacted me yet Radio silence of 2 months What should I do ?
@niklaskossmann3678
3 жыл бұрын
@@JorDel_1111 Same problem here haha
@JorDel_1111
3 жыл бұрын
@@niklaskossmann3678 moving on is best dear 🥺😞 I’m trying my utmost 🙃
@Dilligaf777
4 жыл бұрын
Watching your videos are like a mantra to get through a break up.
@kiasca3489
4 жыл бұрын
😏 yeap, so relieving
@ekatime
4 жыл бұрын
Haha, that's exactly what they are. They mayyyy come back for a few weeks or so but the exes are really gone forever. But each video gives you just a little hope to not get disappointed and just the right amount of hope to keep moving forward. That's the best way to get over it.
@2WOKE-
4 жыл бұрын
@@ekatime did you not have good luck with the no contact?
@juleanchapper8401
3 жыл бұрын
@@ekatime mm. 😂
@ekatime
3 жыл бұрын
@@2WOKE- I did. But she just wanted to hookup once without her new boyfriend knowing, lol.
@vshal786
3 жыл бұрын
NEVER EVER CONTACT THEM IF THEY BROKE UP WITH YOU. SILENCE! SILENCE! SILENCE!
@unune9069
3 жыл бұрын
@Blythe Girl no, if they broke up with you it's their responsibility to contact you.
@waleedchorfii2495
2 жыл бұрын
What if they didn't break up with you, and it was a mutual pull back ?
@GamerKidPlaysGames
2 жыл бұрын
what if i neglected her ..
@aimenjawad4638
2 жыл бұрын
@@GamerKidPlaysGames then u have to reach out please I assure u it's the right thing to do
@aimenjawad4638
2 жыл бұрын
@@GamerKidPlaysGames u see I dumped him because he started to ignore me a lot and seemed uninterested in our conversations so I just had enough and dumped him after a huge fight but I miss him so take my advice and never neglect her again if you get her back because one more blow and she'll be gone for good
@proton6179
2 жыл бұрын
It's remarkable how they can change, the one moment they say they love you, you talk all day long like best friends, and then they tell you they wanna break up. As if everything was a lie. I dont know what to think anymore, trying to have my best life, and meet a lot of people. But something in me broke, I think for good, how can you ever show vulnerability to a person again if previously someone used you like that?
@TEUTONIC__ORDER699
2 жыл бұрын
If they break up in a whim without a good reason, than why would you want that person back? If they truly love you its not a game When someone loves you they dont see your inperfections, and they Will Stay by your side
@timothymurray1236
2 жыл бұрын
I feel your pain. My ex broke up with me 3 weeks ago out of the blue. It was a great relationship, 2.5 years and we'd been traveling a lot and doing romantic weekend breaks, normal couple stuff that we couldn't do during lockdown. She cried on the couch a week before the break up and said she was suffering from depression. I was see a she wasn't feeling the best from a while but not to this extent. I miss her so much but She has a lot of things to work through
@carltondouglas4997
2 жыл бұрын
@@timothymurray1236 what’s your plan going forward ? Have you reached out to her or simply strict No Contact?
@timothymurray1236
2 жыл бұрын
@@carltondouglas4997 hi Carlton. She has a lot of her own stuff to work through at the moment I feel. She went home for the 1st time in 10 years, we both live in Ireland but she's from South America. We were texting back and forth while She was away and she even told me what she wanted for her birthday, I offered her a choice and she picked something for her garden, that was exactly 3 weeks before break up. She messaged me the day she was coming home saying she couldn't wait to see me, I was working so we had to wait another day to see each other. About a week after coming back to Ireland she got very bad and couldnt talk about her family, elderly grandparents who she was probably saying goodbye to as they are both ill. Very tough. She's also had some health issues too and wasn't feeling the best for a few months prior. Then out of the blue she told me she didn't love me and felt she'd been on a hedonistic path, ffs. I'm doing no contact now and will reach out in about 4/5 weeks as coach Lee recommends
@timothymurray1236
2 жыл бұрын
@@carltondouglas4997 coach Lee said he thinks it's ok to reach out after about 2.5 months when you feel you have nothing to lose.
@betherealdeal
4 жыл бұрын
I will contact with my silence and my absence If I wanted I will be chased
@Layerlol
7 ай бұрын
When they leave you, Just do your best to forget them. No contact and let them be. As long as you gave them your all and you showed nothing but love towards him/her, Believe me, They won't forget you and they'll come back, and once they do they are at your mercy. Just be careful when they do come back because you don't know is they're coming back for genuine love or to just use you again. Take it slow.
@Phl206-h9b
3 ай бұрын
Is six months of nc to long to wait .. that what dealing now loosing hope everyday
@AlexanderBeenGreat
4 жыл бұрын
They want you to contact them because they want to feel like they've made the right but incase they didn't, they want to make sure you'll always be at their disposal
@Azizajewelry
4 жыл бұрын
This doesn’t relate to the subject but your new hair looks great 👍
@gtaashwagandhaman7551
4 жыл бұрын
Lol I agree. His ex is getting attracted to him again with the change LMAO😂😂😂
@cairecto4547
4 жыл бұрын
😁😊
@robertschrader
4 жыл бұрын
It really is. Dare I say it's hot?
@marija_beloved
4 жыл бұрын
Mesmerizing 😊
@sanayachinsang909
4 жыл бұрын
Coach Lee is so handsome like if y'all agree 💓 He's the best!!!!!!! and his eye's are so beautiful!!!!💕
@AineeZahra-ww5sk
Ай бұрын
Yes magical personality very handsome with very magical n attractive voice n eyes luv u coach Lee Sir❤
@Banana-lk7tf
4 жыл бұрын
Love how you break this stuff down. You truly are a genius in your field.
@ryancollinsvideo
Жыл бұрын
Each day passes by and I'm more excited about my future, I'm getting my routine back, learning from past mistakes and what a good relationship actually looks like. I'm only 6 days in and starting to think I'd never take her back.
@ribkahutauruk6315
4 жыл бұрын
It's been 40 days no contact. I get my power over and over again 💪😁
@hwdareu5848
4 жыл бұрын
It's been 2 and half months since she broke up with me..... 1 month of no contact.. 😂 I stayed in contact with her for 1 and half months, I guess I've ruined my chances already.
@FreedominLove711
4 жыл бұрын
Any updates?
@ribkahutauruk6315
4 жыл бұрын
Almost two years after break up, he called me and saying miss you. Hahaha I dont care
@skincarerainbow4950
8 ай бұрын
After two years!!! Gosh that's a long time!! Have you moved on already??@@ribkahutauruk6315
@AineeZahra-ww5sk
Ай бұрын
Same here❤
@OhQuickly
2 жыл бұрын
Ladies & gentlemen, your ex broke up with YOU, he or she made the mistake so THEY have to fix it. It's not your job to fix someone else's mistakes
@Thomas_Curiel09
4 жыл бұрын
“They may want that ego stroke, they probably like hearing that you’re suffering without them” = No empathy, egotistical, and Narcissistic . If they want to see you in pain even after They broke up/divorced you, that’s a Red Flag right there. I’ve been dead to her for almost 9 months now after 8 years of being Married . True love is walking away quietly knowing you did everything to save what you had with your best friend and the love of your life yet you weren’t as valuable to them. Embrace it, it only makes you stronger.
@LG-vh2gs
4 жыл бұрын
Thomas Curiel 💯💯💯
@markk1720
4 жыл бұрын
Thomas Curiel Hi pal, glad to see you are staying strong. It’s now been just over over a year since my ex discarded me and have heard nothing except for a ‘ happy birthday’ on my fb wall. I’ve been doing so much research during this year into narcissistic personality disorder. now and only now, I have painfully realised I was dating a covert narcissist. Many of the traits, attitudes and behaviours described in various sources including many great youtube channels are parallel to my ex’s actions. Looking back, there were convert red flags which i ignored. I have noticed some coaches say things such as “ oh only a tiny % of people have NPD” and state their clients should not diagnose their ex’s as they are not professionals. However, I have realised this is foolish advice and is doing a great disservice to those of us who are suffering.
@aaronk3788
4 жыл бұрын
exactly, one hundo Thomas
@aaronk3788
4 жыл бұрын
I went against the grain and straight up called my ex a narc to her face which they say never to do but I said F it I am calling her out (I watched a bunch of youtube vids just like you guys and came to the covert narc conclusion). She reacted by first doing the laughing with tears emoji then two days later said I shouldn't ever say that to a girl bc that could drive them to suicide. As the days went by she slowly started warming up to me and at one point said she was still in love with me. Subsequently called me the following week and chatted me up for an hour twice only to disappear after she broke off a meet up. So yeah she is a narc fo sho!
@lesliebean4594
4 жыл бұрын
My ex is a diagnosed narcissist. He also had some other diagnosed mental disorders. He'd be so sweet, and genuine at times, and then be emotionally abusive. I talked to him about it multiple times and when I finally realized staying wasn't going to "fix" it. I spoke to him honestly and openly telling him I felt it was time for me to move on and see other people. Not because I wasn't in love with him, but because he didn't have the kind of love I need. His response was "your dead to me now". Ive been treated poorly by narcissists multiple times, but that could possibly be the most hateful thing anyone's ever said to me. So, I told him I loved him, and I was sorry for all the ways I hadn't made him feel loved. Then blocked him. As I read what you just shared I felt it on every level. I am so sorry for the pain you have felt. I'm hoping and praying you find healing, peace, contentment, and true love. Thank you for sharing and allowing us to relate. Sometimes people can make you feel so alone in the world. It's nice to know we're not. 😊
@DominiqueSpeaks
4 жыл бұрын
Tell it to your children’s children 🤣😂😂😂 made me laugh during my sorrow stage. You’re helping me so much!
@connormotsinger8149
4 жыл бұрын
Man this guy is amazing, I really appreciate everything you say man, it really does make you think.
@lumb.2565
4 жыл бұрын
Do not reach out to your Ex, ever, I have learnt that the hard way.
@africanfufu
4 жыл бұрын
Lum B. Explain further please
@Mistressillyanna
4 жыл бұрын
I did and just kept getting rejected which would put me back to square one and in pain. Now I'm trying minimal contact (no contact is impossible as we have kids). I will never reach out again. Ever.
@mattiematthews9310
4 жыл бұрын
I messed up and slept with my ex now hes being an ass
@dbzsrb9654
4 жыл бұрын
Michelle francis never
@stacym2201
4 жыл бұрын
Same here...
@ursh99
4 жыл бұрын
My ex contacted me 12 months later right on what would've been our anniversary of dating and the beginning our relationship. Just to ask me to meet him for coffee. He can piss off to his own little "Polly Anna World" 😂😆
@AbdulmalikHamid
4 жыл бұрын
You are the best and most reasonable of all relationship experts I have seen out there.
@thetempleunfinished
4 жыл бұрын
Yes they do! Mine broke up with me and after 6 months of no contact she started posting status updates on my WhatsApp which she never did when we were together, because.....why would she? We were together. I knew what her status was already. Lol Anyway, they were random pictures that no one else would have related to other than her and I. I knew what she was doing. I foolishly got lulled into it thinking she was reaching out and played along adding some pics and other things to reciprocate until just a bit of texting finally came to fruition when she started sending some hot lips emojis my way. I was the last one to text her she was on my mind. Guess what? Crickets from her end. It was all a cruel ruse to stroke her ego. Once she got the ego stroke, she disappeared like a fart in the wind. DON"T FALL FOR IT PEOPLE!!! Don't fall for the old "I've been thinking of you" line either. Thinking of you is not the same as being with you. Talk is cheap, observe their actions. Thats the difference, Best of luck...
@oneputtsteven
4 жыл бұрын
I get the feeling my ex couldn't give a care about whether or not I contact them. She's done with me. Indifference is the worst.
@LisaLiLi4U
4 жыл бұрын
Good you know that now you can move on.
@kashawnfinley1476
4 жыл бұрын
There’s always hope. Just keep a positive state of mind and do what you think is best. You have a positive state of mind you will have a lot of positive results. No one is to tell you if you should move on or not. Only time will tell. I hope everything gets well and you have really great outcomes.
@selinashiny6343
4 жыл бұрын
I’m honestly so sad I miss him so much. He broke up with me a little over a week ago. I just want to talk to him so badly. Maybe he misses me maybe he doesn’t :,( I have been trying to stay strong and move on for myself but my heart still wants him
@jaytaylor2435
4 жыл бұрын
@@selinashiny6343 did he come back?
@johnwilkening5262
4 жыл бұрын
At least ur not paying child support lol
@cumbriacam5742
3 жыл бұрын
The problem isn’t solely with the the ex. It’s the way we react to their behaviour.
@babydii3487
Ай бұрын
Yep
@amymitchell1054
Жыл бұрын
No truer words have ever been spoken….. “ What you want you pursue”
@jannlewandowski5540
Жыл бұрын
Amy Mitchell, I can recommend Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit . It's terrific! It has strategies for every situation. myexbackcoach.com/ebk
@sziami09
4 жыл бұрын
You just answered the question i was wondering about today 🙃 You are the best!
@lilyoh7460
4 жыл бұрын
Watching your videos is like an everyday mantra for me😍 it is so comforting. Thank you so much for sharing your knowledge! ♥️
@aitorjara100
3 жыл бұрын
3 months already of NC. Feeling strong and so over her right now.... even if she doesn't come back crawling I have improved myself and I'm already meeting new people :D
@spicyjedi4584
4 жыл бұрын
Seems best to just let No Contact run it’s course. More so to get yourself feelin better and stronger about life than keeping tabs on them. Stroking their ego does you no favors. Screw that. Maybe they’ll come around. Maybe they won’t. You gotta stay upright and move forward though.
@agbordaniels
4 жыл бұрын
Write it down, read it everyday, know it. Your ex wants you to contact them.
@xtrekrex
4 жыл бұрын
It’s been around 180 days NC 😛✌️
@remojoeyrome6630
4 жыл бұрын
thanks we are back together after 1 month
@gamingforcasuals6072
4 жыл бұрын
Your new hairstyle looks good also a great video as always.
@chevy2583
4 жыл бұрын
When time pass on, you realized that the reason they broke up with you go down to attraction. It is hard for us as dumpees to accept it in the beginning, and we are probably 100% sure they love us and they are attracted to us. The reality is different, and as Coach Lee said, in most most cases it is attraction. I know it is difficult to hear, I know it is unfair by the dumpers, and I know for real they will taste the same medicine. Stay strong guys, and know your worth. I remember the time when my ex was very unattractive, and I never judged her, I just accepted her as she is. She improved herself a lot, while I go back due to depression and financila stresses. With time, she felt she is better and lost attraction to me. She dumped me without any guilt, and cut me as I was not part of her life for 6 years. She forgot when I taught her every single thing in life and took her hand through her life journey until she reached where she is now. Guys, accept the reality that human being is selfish by nature, take this as motivation and prove yourself. You are worthy!
@nathanb2167
4 жыл бұрын
what if its cause of argueing?
@skincarerainbow4950
8 ай бұрын
She was being truly selfish..it's inhumane how some people can behave. How are you doing now?
@chevy2583
8 ай бұрын
@@skincarerainbow4950 I cannot say that I completely healed. While I feel that I don't love this girl anymore, I am still feeling the pain of humiliations and inhumane treatment. What hurts me the most they she broke up with me. We had 6 year relationship, she ended everything in matters of days. After 6 years together, she blocked me and I never heard from her again, not even a word! It was like a sudden death, that is why the pain was terrible.
@Aryan-nv9kd
3 ай бұрын
@@skincarerainbow4950 Doesn't matter. Something similar happened with me. It is no wonder many people give up on dating altogether. There are some ruthless unempathetic animals out there. And the worst part is that you can not tell them apart from the healthy people.
@elainehoward1569
4 жыл бұрын
Stay strong and stay busy! ❤️❤️💯 Good video( they are all excellent)🌹
@mireyaluna9073
4 жыл бұрын
I haven't get over my ex, but I blocked him already. I don't wanna have anything to do with him anymore. I'm focusing on myself and on getting Fit and finding myself again. Still I watch your videos because they're interesting. Thank you
@dnap2526
3 жыл бұрын
She actually blocked me and she broke up with me so since you still miss him do you think there's a chance she'll still contact me
@MsPili1
4 жыл бұрын
Coach I did a BIG mistake I was succeeding in no contacto for month and a half And this Saturday he texted me “ yesterday I remember you and I missed you even I should not telling this “ And I was a little bit drunk and I reply “ I would lie if I said I don’t miss you “ and he replied. “I know “ I inflate his ego again I messed it up 😡!!!!!!!!! Now I have to try again no contact one more time
@traviswepfer1270
4 жыл бұрын
Absolutely not a mistake
@toms81162
4 жыл бұрын
Keep in mind it was a text. It wasnt a mistake, a goof? Sorry , yes. Remember Lee did say to respond in kind, however with something like, Oh, hello, I hope you are well, then let it be. Now, my original thought. Its a text. He couldve meant I know with an arrogant swagger, as an ego booster, as yeah me too, I screwed up, etc. Thats the problem with texts, you never know what the person on the other side really meant by it.
@skincarerainbow4950
8 ай бұрын
Start the no contact all over again and don't get drunk!
@thiagoideas
4 жыл бұрын
you're so handsome I'm beggining to forget my ex effortlessly
@dolanSWEG
3 жыл бұрын
GEH
@rayf5360
4 жыл бұрын
Your material gets better and better, the videos really offer unique insight and comfort. You are very well spoken, compassionate and clearly have a lot of experience and knowledge in this field. Thanks for the effort and time you put into these videos. Definitely in my top 3 of online relationship coaches!
@kashawnfinley1476
4 жыл бұрын
I watch these everyday and I can say I’ve been strong behind these amazing videos 💚💛🧡
@AineeZahra-ww5sk
Ай бұрын
Dear Sir❤, you r just like Maseeha (jesus) for all broken hearts..
@patriotastronomer6780
4 жыл бұрын
My ex told me that she filed for divorce because she wanted to give me my freedom. My freedom? Was I in prison? I am standing my ground with no contact....Thanks Coach Lee....it sucks that our anniversary is on the 12th, and Christmas around the corner too....
@buntingsmith
4 жыл бұрын
Thank you again Coach Lee for your videos, you really are helping me through a tough breakup, whether that be working towards getting my ex back or keeping me on track to determine I come out of the transition a stronger and better person. You say in your articles that the best thing to do is to “let your ex go and move on” during no contact - I understand that this is a bold statement, but is there any way you could do us a video or article explaining how you can take care of yourself and work toward this mindset during no contact so that no contact can become second nature and not something in the forefront of our minds? I’m struggling to not become too obsessed with wanting to get my ex back and focus on becoming a better me. Many thanks x
@nicolebelleville9633
Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much Coach Lee for all your amazing videos. They have brought me so much peace and make me feel so much better about myself and the situation. I thought my ex wanted me to reach out and after watching this fantastic video, I now know he does but I most definitely won't be contacting him 💪 Thank you so much 💞
@sheridandy
4 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this video. Today marks 45 days no contact. I’ve started to really doubt no contact recently. But watching this video was an encouragement. While yes, I would love to talk to him, I can’t reach out because the desire for him to talk to me isn’t high enough because he hasn’t reached out. I keep telling myself to focus on me and my goals and not to focus on what he’s doing. Not always successful but I’m trying😩
@jessecageller3463
4 жыл бұрын
Did he contact you yet?
@FM-zg5hz
4 жыл бұрын
Any update?
@Haitiancowboyhtx
4 жыл бұрын
Update
@captainswan3079
3 жыл бұрын
How's it going?
@elsitabebe
2 жыл бұрын
I'm a month out of no contact although I have been social pouting due to just dealing with feelings of depression and getting through difficult times as I am barely a year out of a 10 year relationship and barely back in October I started talking/dating a guy who I fell for really badly and initially I pulled back because I felt that he didn't have time for me and I felt like I was chasing and THEN he came after a week of not speaking and I wasn't sure what he really wanted from me so I kinda put every scenario on the table saying that I was cool with whatever since I know that I'm not ready for anything serious and according to him I was basically disrespecting myself by constantly trying to get him to be with me somehow. He did ask for me to back off and that MAYBE he'd reach out sometime in the future since he really liked me but that it was too intense at the time for him. I completely cut him off. I noticed after a while that he unfollowed on IG so I did the same and have pulled back on posting anything on FB....I want to try to go radio silent. The first month was heartbreaking especially when he didn't reach out during the holidays and my hope was to spend NYE together. So far he hasn't reached out. I'm not sure that I even want him back because the way he went about it was really hurtful and he broke my shower and never fixed it so he has those strikes against him too. I feel like I romanticized him bcuz of infatuation and what I felt wasn't even love but I feel like if we could just come BRUTALLY honest about what we want from each other that MAYBE we could have something really beautiful but now he's going to have to court me in ways he didn't back then. I made it WAAAAAAY to ease for him to be with me. I didn't value myself at the time as I thought it was just sex, but I KNOW that I'm such an amazing woman and that he's very lucky to have met me in the same way I was in meeting him. I'm doing better now that I'm not so obsessed with him. I'm healing but it's still day by day.
@patriciaearley4177
4 жыл бұрын
Yes I agree,scarcity is attractive 🙏✌
@ishan9365
4 жыл бұрын
Day 8th of NC and i dnt want my ex back 🤣
@JelenaVecic024
4 жыл бұрын
Im on day 5... its hard..but i will not give up and text/call... must be strong.. we were togenter almost 7 years so i still believe that everything will go back to normal.. i still have a hope.
@FM-zg5hz
4 жыл бұрын
Jelena Vecic any update?
@fracosativa38
4 жыл бұрын
Day 46 and I Still want her and she is in a Rebound with a another dude
@jamiebelly7905
4 жыл бұрын
I watched this video twice in a row. Its so therapeutic thanks!
@DeclanEuropaQuantoi
3 жыл бұрын
This is actually a completely unique take on the subject. Very intuitive, insightful and informative. Thanks Coach !
@bernieoconnell5515
Жыл бұрын
No they don’t. They dumped you because they wanted to replace you in most cases. Don’t lift a finger to contact them since they thought they were too good for you when they dumped you.
@Josh-zp2ce
4 жыл бұрын
This is the video I needed cus she posted that it’s crazy how someone you haven’t talked to in months is on your mind every day
@calvinthomasmuzik
4 жыл бұрын
Josh 456 like my post
@maxhedge9535
4 жыл бұрын
she met another guy.. we been together for 6 years. Its been 2 years since the break up and she still with the same guy , i did nc since , been working out, having a high status circle friends and having a better job. I never bothered her she reaches out here and there but not to reconcile. we had 2 dogs that is staying with me , I still have dreams/nightmares about her. I miss her so much but i can never tell her that
@paladintactical8250
4 жыл бұрын
remain Stoic my friend, stay strong and keep up the great progress...keeping lifting, making money etc. You are a high value person, remember that.
@mrs.camillewarrenempress3115
4 жыл бұрын
she has low esteem issues , i had an so called friend like this .. time will pass , dont force yourself from anyone , be yourself dude .. i am learning not to force an relationship with no one right now until the time is right
@maxhedge9535
4 жыл бұрын
Even though I'm doing everything I'm supposed to be doing working out , better career , good social life doing no contact, have a abundance mindset I still miss and care for her... I'm over the break up but not over her if that make sense
@vangelis3b
2 ай бұрын
This one is the best video covering the essence, the mechanics of No Contact. Although the subject line is about the ex's potential desire to hear from you, it however delves deeply and most accurately into the "circuitry" of No Contact.
@BiofrostGaming
4 жыл бұрын
My ex deleted me off FB after I told her I can't be friends, but she is now always watching my IG stories and liking my posts. So weird.. I have no clue what that's about.
@MrSaiyan1
4 жыл бұрын
Ayrenne me too
@calvinthomasmuzik
4 жыл бұрын
Still friends on my fb with mine but I deleted all her family an she has like my post an sent me a message that was meaningless text I didn’t even try to start a conversation 5 days of NC
@orangemoon7825
4 жыл бұрын
I love your work. You are all about logic, that is why you are soooo convincing! Every little thing you say, it is so well explained with really reasonable arguments. I am impressed. My respects. And yes, great hairs ;)
@TKIG1
4 жыл бұрын
Okay the moral of the story I'd this I been with my ex for 3 years we broke up because I ended it I couldnt take the stress and the lies anymore pretty much she was gone almost every night to go hang out with (friends) and sometimes during the day when shes off of work as well.. I couldnt take it anymore she stop paying Bill's as well and gave excuses as in I had to pay my mom this and this because I owed her for doing this and this..blahnik blah blah end of story I broke up with her in person while her mom was on the phone I just couldnt take it. Everyday was something new with her and everyday was always soooooo stressful shes 21 I'm 26. So the next day I reached out to her and said sorry for breaking up with you and taking my stress out on you I'm just going through alot because my uncle that I was very closed to passed away.. and your never there for me and I told her this time and time again while we were dating and she still was absent....she replied back I dont want to be back together, I said why shes like when I came back to live at my moms I just feel at peace. Long story short I did everything your not supposed to do I went to her tried to get her back I couldnt even make it to her front door because she asked her friend to tell me leave as if she knew I was coming... I didnt even tell her I was...then the next couple of days I tried messaging and calling to say sorry she just ignored and said this is for the best.. she came over to come pack her stuff I surprised her with Rose's daisy's rose petals over the floor clean house a 20 min video of our memories 7 page sorry letter and how i will be better and I proposed with a promise ring, she denied all of it and began packing I went in after her and said please dont and started crying and she got up and said I need time to think and left and went back home..that very day she said okay I'll work on things with you..never moved back in and said I'm going to stay at my moms though for a while. I said okay..she didnt work on anything if anything she was worst and it felt like she was trying to purposely make me break up with her again but I didnt cave and we never argued... on the time we were suppose to be working on things she never hardly came home even after begging or asking she probably came over 3x in 20 days....literally trying to make me regret asking her to be back together. Long story short we had a date planned the next day, the next day comes she writes me a message saying I cant do this I'm sorry you deserve better and I hope you can understand yadda yadda yadda I begged and tried to get her to go on at least 1 date and she ended up blocking my phone number, and wrote me on another social media and said I'll be back to get my things please dont stop me I said okay if this is what you want. She came and I helped her pack her things...I'm thinking to myself damn I never did shit to her for her to be doing this to me what the hell.. so I went no contact 10 days later banging on the door in the middle of night door bell ringing messages up the ass 5 miss phone calls a day.. letters on my door and car, ignored it all.. shes pleading and begging me to give her another chance over and over I finally contacted her a week in half later after her calling me for the 14th time and said whatsup what's going on.. and she just balled out crying saying she made a mistake and want me back extc extc you wanna know what I said No I'm good I feel stress free without you and I deserve better I feel like you were cheating on me and you probably was talking to another dude the whole time.. she blocks me on all social media and phone and got into another relationship 3 days later with the guy she was talking to while in a relationship with me....so the whole time she was cheating she just wanted confirmation that I was done with her so she wouldnt feel guilty for how she played me. But little does she know she csnt find another me so once again shell be back lol. But the moral of the story is you two broke up for a reason and you truly do deserve better you have to know your own self worth and that my friend is the most attractive thing to any human on this earth so thank you for the advice but I truly moved on from a 3 year relationship I knew I was over when she changed her Facebook status to in a relationship with sam..i started laughing my ass off
@johnniepeterson8065
4 жыл бұрын
I can't take it coach Lee I'm doing the no contact but she doesn't seem bothered at all and now shes talking to someone else
@dnap2526
3 жыл бұрын
How do you know she's talking to someone else
@Steven-gg1bn
3 жыл бұрын
There are times when I feel like all is lost and then I just watch one of your videos and I’m a believer in NC again! You’re getting me through this and words can’t describe how grateful I am for you! ❤️
@lolitawebelman2996
4 жыл бұрын
My ex had blocked me everywhere after the big breakup fight. He unblocked me recently, I suspect he wants me to contact him.
@azazel3944
4 жыл бұрын
Or he will contact you
@smokers40
4 жыл бұрын
Don't reach him, let him reach you
@nbafan3021
4 жыл бұрын
I blocked my ex for 2 years straight. ( I am a guy by the way) and then I unblocked her. My reason ( and I am being genuine and honest with you here) for blocking her was so I could heal and fall out of love with her, which I did in those 2 years. Once I felt okay again, I unlocked. I texted her to say hello and she replied. I have zero feelings for her now and there is no way I would ever want her back in my life romantically, even if God showed up today and commanded me to be with her I still would not. So it is not true that when an ex returns to say hello it means he wants you back or wants to hang out with you. I only texted my ex to check if she was alive and doing well. I don't treat ex's as enemies. I don't treat them like trash. I check up on people I happen to meet and know in this life. Thats just me. I have about 6 ex's and I have never asked any of them for a second chance at love. NEVER! Once I am out of love with someone, I will never allow myself to fall for that person again.
@TheMissAlira
4 жыл бұрын
Wow, congrats!
@youngwolf9005
4 жыл бұрын
F *** great bro
@ernitahap2718
3 жыл бұрын
You've given me the answers. Thank you Coach for saving me from breaking contact😘
@ernitahap2718
3 жыл бұрын
@@angelaportman9847 i dont believe in magic spells😄 sorry i cannot be your customer
@jaynefernandez483
4 жыл бұрын
Everything you said is true. I’ve experienced it.. I ❤️ Coach Lee
@zoey9921
4 жыл бұрын
i just bought emergency kit, and following the steps now. I don’t know what I want so far , but Coach Lee definitely gave me the calm thoughts.
@FreedominLove711
4 жыл бұрын
Update?
@bensen7075
4 жыл бұрын
Day 7 of no contact and I'm already getting over him 🤣🤣
@mhoss9
3 жыл бұрын
Crazy how it gets easier each day usually. Sometimes u forget why u even wanted them back! Thats progress
@stevendoesnt663
3 жыл бұрын
Or most probably there was no love at all ... 7 days pfffff come on 🤣🤣🤣
@merysantana4789
2 жыл бұрын
Wow I'm on week 4 and it got more difficult. At the beginning I thought he would text me back but now after 4 week I start to lose hope
@christinalewis3635
4 жыл бұрын
They want you to reach out so they can turn you down sounds so fucked up doesn't it
@JelenaVecic024
4 жыл бұрын
Im fresh... we broke up 5 days ago after almost 7 year ldr.. was sad.. relationship was great in general, no cheating, no hard argumenta ,no fights, a lot of good communication etc.overall we are both good people... and that happened..we broke up.. i am into no contact rule, and my heart is somehow broken... memories are killing me.. but i will stick with no contact rule no matter what. Thia videos are very helpful.thank you coach Lee :)
@RandomInternetDude
4 жыл бұрын
Hey Jelena, I feel you, I'm going though the exact same process. I hope after these months you've slowly started to heal. Sending light, love & positivity your way.
@JelenaVecic024
4 жыл бұрын
@@RandomInternetDude thank you.after 65 days ex texted me and we talked.. and issue now is covid19..borders are closed ..so we have conversation about future etc. And even now we are in contsct every day(like before)..> dont mind waiting but with a plan.. i was all those 65 days in NC... lets hope we will see each other soon.. 🍀
@nathanb2167
4 жыл бұрын
@@JelenaVecic024 did you make them jump through some hoops for hurting you
@bobdelano6746
3 жыл бұрын
We are in yr 6 Life is almost perfect without her
@rosanne3680
4 жыл бұрын
17 yrs & not in love with me anymore. He feels nothing , I'm still here raising his son & seeing everything of our life together . This truly sucks
@HonestTraveller
4 жыл бұрын
Nah shes made her instagram public and uploading photos hiking with a new lad. Petty . AF
@paladintactical8250
4 жыл бұрын
well at least you know she is overcompensating.
@BxJerseyShorefan
4 жыл бұрын
Paladin Tactical well said
@Sharkenite
4 жыл бұрын
There's a saying, people who use social media the a lot are the most depressed. Why? Well why show off on social media? For attention? Validation? Sense of importance? False happiness? To show people that she's/he's doing great even after the breakup?
@aCleverFishingPun
3 жыл бұрын
This feels like it’s a lose lose situation. If you’re in no contact then aren’t you going through the same feelings that your ex is going through? What if their thought process is the same as yours and they are in no contact because they want you to reach out. Aren’t you in a stalemate at that point?
@aCleverFishingPun
3 жыл бұрын
I was in a stalemate. I reached out to my ex after 2 weeks and we’re talking again and working on things. She said she wanted to reach out, but didn’t out of respect for me and I didn’t reach out to her for the same reason. We were both wrong about how the other person felt. Neither one of us wanted to break up, but if I hadn’t reached out then she wouldn’t have either.
@cadanflix
4 жыл бұрын
My ex said “we were meant to fall in love but not be together” I hate how that sounds.
@nbafan3021
4 жыл бұрын
Sounds to be the ex is on strong medications.
@SOICEE_IZ_ME
4 жыл бұрын
What the hell?
@hiuchinghung439
4 жыл бұрын
its excuse. REALLY. just say, you are right. and walk away. work on yourself. When you get over it, you won't want it back.
@nayeliestrada8000
4 жыл бұрын
At least they didn't tell you something like: "I love you but not that way" or "I don't believe in love xD Do you? XD"
@JustinRothberg
4 жыл бұрын
That's manipulative. Trying to keep you on a string. Messed up. Def a culprit for no contact.
@NouLachenZeg
3 жыл бұрын
Okay, I made it to 2.5 months of NC. But what if she’s in a rebound relationship by now?
@sheritogarcia2631
4 жыл бұрын
3 days of no contact and my ex sent me a couple of texts. They were very surface level questions but I am happy to see that this NC rule is working. Looking forward to see what happens next. 😊
@emnamati9393
3 жыл бұрын
I keep waching this video whenever I feel the need of recontacting my ex D4 of no contact and now I m wondering do I really want to welcome back someone in my life who treated me that bad! Thank you coach lee
@andreadickinson3076
3 жыл бұрын
My ex says he “ does not want to hurt his girlfriend “ 🤣
@Violets14
4 жыл бұрын
I find this video to be very reassuring in staying strong like many of your other videos. Thanks! :)
@4SuReGaming
4 жыл бұрын
Sigh, no contact is so tough only 2 weeks and i feel like im gonna reach out. Im out doing things and i have a good time but shes always in the back of my mind and after im doing what i was doing or coming back home i can only thing about her. Its also hard because ill have dreams/nightmares of her and it just makes it harder.
@jatinsingh4193
4 жыл бұрын
Same story dude
@KLEngle2
3 жыл бұрын
Same :(
@saulvazquez1950
3 жыл бұрын
@@KLEngle2 it gets better I was just there and it’s getting easy
@KLEngle2
3 жыл бұрын
What steps have you taken to get over your ex?
@ashlaurence8382
4 жыл бұрын
2 months of NC now and I’m doing good. He texted me twice that he has my safe key and asked how I want to get it back. Second text said he doesn’t know if I’m ignoring him on purpose or have been blocked . I still remain silent and didn’t respond. I can make a copy of the key no need to get it back.
@sziami09
4 жыл бұрын
But do you want your ex back?
@ashlaurence8382
4 жыл бұрын
violetta09 I finally respond last night 2 days after he texted me with the third and Final notice lol. And he didn’t respond. It’s okay I don’t want him back anymore I’m dating someone better than him .
@sziami09
4 жыл бұрын
@@ashlaurence8382 wow good to hear!:))
@indialemon3148
4 жыл бұрын
I’ve watched a lot of your videos and I have to assume that your advice is to NEVER break no contact. Basically, do nothing unless they contact you ever??
@thomasmckenzie6339
4 жыл бұрын
Michelle Miller YES!! That is if they were the one who broke off the relationship.
@laurieclarice5755
4 жыл бұрын
I was in no contact for 90 days and I reached out today.... ugh I wish I saw this earlier. I hate myself right now. Can I turn it around?
@JaxtheGem
4 жыл бұрын
Laurie Clarice me too! I contacted my ex via email last night. Gotta dust myself off and keep going.
@thetempleunfinished
4 жыл бұрын
As Coach would say "you have to reset no contact now" when you do that. Not a big deal. I've gone 6-7 months and got sucked into exchanging WhatsApp updates by my ex who did it just to get me to break no contact for an ego stroke. She never initiates contact. So just continue with no contact. A friend of mine heard from his ex after almost 3 yrs of no contact. So in some cases there really is no time limit on when someone decides to reach out depending on life circumstances. Life can change on a dime or at a moments notice. Its not a race, its a marathon. In the meantime, life should never stop for you. Stay busy, meet new people and do stuff....do life and stay in the present moment. All the best.
@azazel3944
4 жыл бұрын
Never ever contact them they have to put the effort
@EJayyDreadHead
4 жыл бұрын
@@azazel3944 facts
@daraluloomintr786
Жыл бұрын
Coach Lee, my gf is going through you a very difficuly divorce case and she said she needs time until she feels well emotionally. Could you please guide, should I go no contact or reach our to her every few days?
@jannlewandowski5540
Жыл бұрын
adilahmadder. If your girlfriend needs time, respect her wishes. She will contact you when she is stable enough.
@giftofbeautyq7399
3 жыл бұрын
Coach lee nailed this video! My ex broke up with me 2 weeks ago because i felt like it was a one way relationship he didn’t want to come over to my house because I live with my mother smh ok he knew this when we got together and so what!! and i had a major surgery and he didn’t even come and see me or try and put in any effort I couldn’t drive for 4 weeks so you would think he would come and take some pressure off ya girl! NO!! and he basically told me “he’s just too busy with his company and taking care of his daughter and he has to work on himself and he’s still hurt from his last relationship”! To hear him say that I just felt I couldn’t even argue with him with the breakup and he knew that I didn’t argue with him we both cried but i let it go. A day after we broke up he text me abs said could he still help me write my paper for my class I said sure. So we kept in contact for a week after the official breakup. It was very weird to hear him talk to me like a student smh and then not hear from him at all. I told him Thankyou for the edits for my pager and i told him I’ll talk to him in due time. So I’m now 9 days into no contact. To hear coach lee say this!! I’m officially getting my strength back working on myself, because I believe i was the rebound relationship for him. So I’m in school, working on my photography, booking photo shoots, and getting my happiness back. I never looked at it as he wants me to contact him to strike his ego. But I believe made it easy for him when we first got together and I REFUSE TO SETTLE and make everything Convenient for him. He will take accountability and he always use to everyone wanting to go to him fir guidance and needing him because he’s intelligent but not I. 💪💪stay strong ladies and gentlemen we are worth everything and then taxes!!!
@fw5572
Жыл бұрын
My ex came to my work two weekends in a row and stayed with me until after my shift and gave obvious hints that she likes me, (this was over 2 months after breakup), a couple weeks have passed and she’s made no further contact through text, is she waiting for me to respond, shall I just stay in no contact?
@jannlewandowski5540
Жыл бұрын
Fw5, Stay in NC if you need more time. If you want to use great strategies, I highly recommend Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit. myexbackcoach.com/ebk
@renatelewis6607
4 жыл бұрын
He had his chance. He didn't want me, I cried, I begged until I woke up. I'm in no contact for almost a year. Can't go back. It didn't work, why would it work now. The grass will be always greener on the other side. Remember you're the Diamond. Lol
@renatelewis6607
4 жыл бұрын
@@chuksbryt8935 After a year of no contact he called me under a private Number. I answered because I didn't know who it was so I answered it. He hoovered me and I fell for it. It lasted until Feb 4th. he told me he's not coming back (he's in Seattle) jobwise. So I cut it off and went NC. This been going on for almost 6 years. He was in a rebound he told me and I can't over come that. I love him but the only way I would take him back if he would commit but I don't trust him. He told me he'll never forget me. So I don't know what to do. How much would it be for a spell?. I really don't know if I wanna do that. Thank you. anyway's
@marlottaslife6118
Жыл бұрын
Yes I contacted him. He was contacting me for 3 days straight then I blocked him to 10 days (doing NO contact) But I reached out eventually. So am I the dumper or him? I stop responding because I felt a shift. He’s actually coming over today to pick up the dog 🐕 after I texted him to come get him
My gf was going cold on me not replying to my messages ect etc.. I went straight solid to no contact as coach Lee said, after 1 week she dm's me saying she missed me alot and that she wanted some space to "think about her future with me" and asked me if i really love her or not, well now I'm back with her. If she went cold on me for any other silly reasons like "playing mind games on me" or "testing me" then i was going to forget her forever, but thank good coach Lee you deserve a respect 👌.
@TKIG1
4 жыл бұрын
Bro that's because she was doing something with another man felt guilty or perhaps it didnt work out with him and wanted you back that's what that was
@easyxyg
4 жыл бұрын
TKIG 😭😭
@CottonWoodBlues
2 жыл бұрын
I know my ex misses me during football season. I had bought season tickets as a wedding present..and a few years later right after football season started, in 2020 and eight months after getting a marriage license, he left me. I heard the l'ets be friends' and 'maybe we can go to a football game sometimes' comments that he said to me. I never responded to either..but those season tickets in Vegas arent cheap and he is. So every time he watches his football team, he probably wishes .......fill in the blank!! Again..I have say..I love him and miss him and wished he would come back a humble repentant man..but oh well...GO RAIDERS!!!
@jannlewandowski5540
Жыл бұрын
Blue, I highly recommend Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit. It's awesome! It has EVERYTHING in it. myexbackcoach.com/ebk On a more personal note, I'm an EAGLES FAN! 😉
@anjelsberrios7649
3 жыл бұрын
Woow! You’ve mentioned almost everything that my ex said during the breakup & it’s such an eye opener my jaw dropped. I was giving him excuses for the breakup for example “he was working on himself “ he also just got a new job! 🤦🏻♀️ I am just blown away by you. Thank you so very much for your knowledge in this! Excited to see what happens moving forward..
@rajukhadka9931
4 жыл бұрын
Can some one please tell me can i get my ex back in far distance even after 4 months of no contact and already used no contact last year ? Sounds crazy but im curious. I cant take this anymore. Plus im still blocked.
@naderhamid
3 жыл бұрын
Coach Lee is a blessing in the lives of all the broken hearted. So grateful to have found this channel
@tala2633
3 жыл бұрын
Just broke up with my bf last Tuesday. It was him who dumped me. I was so devastated and sad for the first few days. Didn’t talk to him for a few days after the breakup. Then last friday I texted him and talked things through until saturday. I finally accepted the breakup and we agreed to stay friends and in contact with each other. But it’s so hard for me rn to do the no contact rule. I always miss him. I love him. I always wanna text/call him. I thought I was fine with it when I went out with a friend and told her what we talked about but when I got home it hit me again. Every night it hits me still and makes me cry. I guess it’s still too soon to tell if he wants me back or not but when I tried to get back to him during the breakup he said he doesn’t wanna go back. I am so confused, hurt and sad rn. I don’t know what to do and how long will I have to wait until I can talk to him again.😔
@Missybella92227
Жыл бұрын
Thank you Coach! I’ve been watching your videos religiously and reading my Exes mean breakup texts to give me the strength NOT to reach out! Definitely agree.. they want that EGO boost. It’s reflected in my recent exes conversations earlier in our relationship. He’d boast of how he’d needed to get restraining order on one and how some still talk about him. I vowed to myself that I WONT be one of them! Your videos really help… thank you!🙏
@mikemichaelides9979
4 жыл бұрын
Hi lee. Welcome back. You are corect about that. I send a message with no reply offcourse. I hope you be good because me i am not. After 2 months breakup and 20 days of no contact she speaks bad for my person to her friends and she doesnt want them to comunicate with me
@chanekawaihae8068
Жыл бұрын
I’m always shocked how dating is a covert jealousy thing. If I saw my ex with someone I’d give up.
@deanmohan
3 жыл бұрын
I understand people get attached to people and I’ve been there but when you take of the rose tinted glasses and ask yourself were you happy with that person the majority of the time you weren’t, it’s better to move on and find that person that is a good fit for you
@elizabethcolleen1012
4 жыл бұрын
If I can say anything that will help. It's that you need to listen to all of his videos. Hes right. Hes so right.
@stevendoesnt663
3 жыл бұрын
Not really sure about this video some may not have the courage to contact you because they know they hurt you real bad, humiliated you and more... therefore they will date someone else to fill the void, help them to forget about you if you don't contact them after quiet sometime ...!!! And for some yes it's an ego boost !
@paulfaulkner6299
Жыл бұрын
My wife left me with a lot of debt - not "her" debt - but when she left, I was left with the debt on the mortgage of our house and her half of the equity. She went just under 5½ years ago. I systematically set about paying all the debt off (mortgages and buying her half of the equity out). I paid off my mortage 7½ years earlier than was ever envisaged or planned on 30 December 2022. At that point I fellt free to walk through the door of the cage which had been left ajar since the end of 2017. I am entirely debt free and I no longer feel I owe her anything. Something changed in me on the day I made that very last overpayment. That was enough. I have paid enough in time and money for my mistakes in what was our relationship (no, it wasn't "all my fault" - but I faced up to all of mine, some of hers and I also didn't run away). We had kept casual lines open to talk with each other. But when I told her that I had paid the mortgage off entirely on 30/12/22 by posting a small announcement to say that I had managed to pay of my mortgage and had become entirely debt free too in so doing, she flipped in what she publicly posted to and about me (excoriating flaming) and unfriended me. C'est la vie. Undoubtedly the last 6 years have hurt me and they have certainly slipped by as time taken out of my life which I may not all get back. But I own the house outright now and have no other debt at all. I have also learned to speak a 2nd foreign language from scratch and gotten my health back by cycling (which is effectively free once you have a bike) most nights. My estranged wife rents, drinks, smokes and has a weight and gambling problem (still). Sure - I've been on my own a long time but the tortoise always wins in the end. It is my turn. I have so much to offer someone else. I've paid. I really have and it is over. And as for no contact. I had reached that point on my own sometime back before the Queen died anyhow and had just ignored her (the wife) because I knew the end of the mortgage was coming and the time when I would be able to consider the time when I could look in the mirror and simply say I'd paid enough. And I have. I was responsible fror allowing this woman into my life. It was my fault for allowing her to make me feel the way I used to. But I have owned the problem as my own from the time she left here and have gone about sorting my life out on my own. I have had no real help or support from anyone else. To get my health back, I cycle on my own, I read my language books on my own (though I do attend classes) because I really am going to have a verly long, deserved, damned good holiday and have foregone the nightclubs, pubs, shows and TV subscriptions to use every spare penny to pay off the debt. Well it's done now. I worked on me and now I am free. I have paid and I can walk away. The fact that my wife threw her rattle out of the pram and slagged me off for my achievements on reading an insignificant notice merely underlines and re-inforces my long time taken conclusion that what has happened is right for me as painful as it was. I will never go back - but I have forgiven her trespasses and now all I need to discover is where on earth do I go to show I am available to other suitors. I have watched a dozen or so oof this fellow's films since coming across them - ironically since the start of 2023 - believe me when i say I really *DO NOT* want my ex back! That's enough! Enough! I have paid enough.
@devilishgirlsubliminals730
4 жыл бұрын
I think NC is starting to work on my ex. I'm on day 20 now and he has started initiating conversations again. He first started on day 17. We just made polite small talk and then I let the conversation die. Today he reached out again and this time after more small talk we started some lighthearted joking around and it kind of felt a little flirtatious at times. He also told me that he wanted cuddles. But he has not said anything meaningful yet like telling me he misses me or wanting to see me. I think he will need more time to miss me enough for that but so far I feel like I'm doing pretty well. His reason for wanting us to end was "I don't feel like I'm ready for a relationship and I need to get my life sorted but I will want to get back together with you" but I couldn't help but feel like he just was planning to keep me as a back up plan in case he couldn't find better. I did start to get a little jealous in the relationship and always telling him how much I missed him whenever he wasn't around and stuff like that. My logic was that I thought that if I made him feel loved and boosted his ego and stuff that he would be happy and less likely to leave but after watching your videos I'm starting to see the error in that.
@aluschelatukalightythunder3288
3 жыл бұрын
I’m Almost in the exact same position
@333pinkitty
2 жыл бұрын
I'm going through this right now. It's only the first day
@Camcam75
Жыл бұрын
Update?
@dan11thehands
Жыл бұрын
She broke up 3 months ago but yes i text twice cause seing lot places after 1 month send something...after a second month another text but just to say hello guess what twice she told me dont text or call 😢
@jannlewandowski5540
Жыл бұрын
dan11hehands, it sounds like she doesn't want to be bothered. Move on Dan, and find someone who DOES want you. ❤
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