It helped me realize my husband was "the one" when he reciprocated my efforts.
@isabelguzmanmiranda5025
4 ай бұрын
Yeah, that's the spirit. You start giving and with good intentions, and if the other person does not reciprocate, you leave. But it's not smart to begin on "defensive" mode. Begin on kind and giving mode, and get out if it doesn't work, man or woman. It's simple.
@leroyrussell8766
4 ай бұрын
The reason the system is broken is promiscuity. When women made men step up, and she too had to show the man what kind of person she was, BEFORE sex, the system worked. But the only way it works is with one crucial ingredient. Time. Any player can step up for a short amount of time. He can't do it for the long haul. If all women made all men wait, then men would have to up their game. Men would then only pursue the woman he wants. No more time wasting. No more ghosting. No more siutationships. But to be pursued, the woman would have to show she's worth it to him for the long haul. This is how the system works. We broke the system with hookup culture. Only women can make that go away. But women are short term thinkers. They want the bag, etc... They think they should be able to run around having fun in their 20s, and then find their man in their late 20s to early 30s. But the men they want in their 20s, don't want them long term. Now they have to pursue the guys who do. Those men are increasingly no longer interested in sloppy leftovers.
@Al_ate_my_soup
4 ай бұрын
@@leroyrussell8766Hook up culture does have its downsides but making men wait for sex like a carrot on a stick is hardly a recipe for a healthy relationship, seeing a relationship as an exchange instead of a partnership is fucking weird dude. Sure, some of it is an exchange for us humans to satisfy our cravings for intimacy but that’s a very 1 dimensional way of looking at things. You’re glazing over everything else that goes into partner selection and oversimplifying how dating works. It’s possible for people to treat each other well without giving out sex like treats to men, that’s fucking ridiculous
@triscuitgonzalez7936
4 ай бұрын
@@leroyrussell8766dude dating isn’t a system ffs. It’s simple: shoot your shot, reciprocate their efforts, and work with them to make it work. Sometimes you get unlucky and it doesn’t work, but if you keep trying and being a good person you will find someone
@missAlice1990
4 ай бұрын
But he didn't do the effort first, right? Just waited for you to make an effort and he oh so generously "reciprocated" it. Girl...
@jerryc452
4 ай бұрын
Single women keep women single.
@fuel4insanity6
4 ай бұрын
Absolutely true. I was in a relationship with my girlfriend at the time, some of her friends would talk her out of being a relationship and she figured out that they were toxic or I would basically confront them privately say.. you can either be happy for the fact that we're in a relationship with your friend, or I can have you taken home. And have her block you for the rest of your life... They messed around and found out
@AndyViant
4 ай бұрын
Love this. Reciprocation. An acknowledgement of all the efforts men make not being a bare minimum, because the bare minimum really is actually nothing. The ending. Single women keeping women single, and the putdown. Love it.
@TheMareism
4 ай бұрын
That one hits hard, because it’s accurate af
@adamsheaffer
4 ай бұрын
Exactly. Women need to stop shunning for being romantic.
@bryanramirez1631
4 ай бұрын
Facts
@falaknadeem162
3 ай бұрын
"What's our bare minimum ?" Well said girllllll👏🔥we need to remember if we expect so much then we have to give equal efforts in return. A
@klarieberry
2 ай бұрын
expecting to not have to pay on dates they ask u out to is not expecting too much
@falaknadeem162
2 ай бұрын
@@klarieberry thinking just showing up is enough is NOT enough either.
@Ganggank9000
2 ай бұрын
If you expect something in return when you love someone you are not in love, you're in a relationship for the mutual benefits dear
@falaknadeem162
2 ай бұрын
@@Ganggank9000 did you even read my comment ?
@youknowwhatelseisbig484
2 ай бұрын
@@falaknadeem162I don't think that's what she meant. I think she meant that he's been treating her nice, so she made him a lunch in return. He took her on the date, and she's picking him up and making him lunch. Honestly, seems like a fair trade. 🤷♀️
@Merlewhitefire
3 ай бұрын
"What do I bring to the table" vs. "I *am* the table!" in a nutshell right there.
@poppaT686
2 ай бұрын
😂
@goldenhate6649
2 ай бұрын
What do I bring to the table girls are good for years, I am the table girls are good for a night
@boredomania9245
2 ай бұрын
If a woman were to ever tell me that she is the table, I would respond with "then I'm not needed and there's nothing further to discuss" then move on
@TedCameron_335
2 ай бұрын
Securing commitment is a woman's problem, not a man's. She's just out here trying to sabotage her competition.😂
@E.Mulchi
2 ай бұрын
@@boredomania9245 Don't worry they won't
@CruxusAshbourne
4 ай бұрын
Difference between a wife and a woman that’ll be single for the rest of her life.
@Madchris8828
4 ай бұрын
Provide value get value back. This is just a truthful statement no matter which gender
@Madchris8828
4 ай бұрын
@@AprilReigns18 how does making a sandwich for a man because you want to anything like that? That's actually the opposite
@Madchris8828
4 ай бұрын
@@AprilReigns18 how much does a guy taking a girl on a date cost?? What's with the weird miserable cost comparison? I don't get what it accomplishes. Enjoying a persons company should be a thing in its own..
@ManabuHori
4 ай бұрын
@@AprilReigns18NO fucking way did you just call a married women , a wife just a "slave". Go and rethink your existance.
@AprilReigns18
4 ай бұрын
@@Madchris8828 That would depend on the method of transportation and the date itself. But I'm assuming both agreed to the date and it's various costs and inconveniences. That guy was going to have to get home from the airport whether he had a girlfriend or not.
@PaddyMacWorld
4 ай бұрын
A girl I been going out with for about 6 weeks, out of the blue, made me a packed lunch before I headed out. It was kind and thoughtful and happened over 20 years ago and I still remember the gesture with fondness.
@mauritsgresnigt2801
4 ай бұрын
Tells you something about how low the bar is.
@somkhandagumbi
4 ай бұрын
@@mauritsgresnigt2801 and yet somehow they fail to reach it
@thunblot78
4 ай бұрын
@@mauritsgresnigt2801it really does, men take ANY compliment we get and cherish that shit because it rarely happens unless you're conventionally attractive
@shadowik2010
4 ай бұрын
And why did you separate? 👀
@theepicgerman6153
4 ай бұрын
How long have you two been married?
@danielshaffer2609
2 ай бұрын
Speaking on behalf of all Dan's, mutual effort like this is so rare and attractive. Even if it doesn't work out, you can both know that you tried, and walk away while respecting each other.
@MrHattick
13 күн бұрын
Us Dan's need to stick together 😁
@WarGrey_
3 ай бұрын
If you wanna be his queen, treat him like a king is the best saying ever.
@renenetatm8222
2 ай бұрын
Men love saying that, because they want a servant. In reality if you put someone on the pedestal, they will not treat you as equal, that's the same with men and women. Your partner should be your bestie, not some royalty.
@debra-qq1np
2 ай бұрын
@@renenetatm8222 If he is treating you like a Queen, you are not a servant; it is reciprocal. Give as you wish to receive.
@goldenhate6649
2 ай бұрын
Oh my lord mate, you dug way to deep for that. The saying now simply means to reciprocate. I ain’t gonna try in a relationship if all the woman brings is s**. You have to bring some level of effort or I am just going to quit bring effort. I will go over the literal moon for someone who brings even a marginal amount of effort into a relationship to make me feel loved/wanted. And I ain’t talking romantics, I can buy a hooker for that.
@Entropy9312
2 ай бұрын
@@renenetatm8222we don't want servants though. It's a saying, don't take it literally
@valentinlageot4101
2 ай бұрын
@@renenetatm8222women want to be treated as queen while treating their guy as a servant men want to be treated as king by their queens. do you see the difference, 1 is hierachal one is equal
@stratigangames508
4 ай бұрын
"Trying way too hard." No, its just called putting effort into a relationship. Thanks for all you do, its refreshing to hear a woman who actually cares.
@Haexxchen
4 ай бұрын
I often don't even see these things as effort. I care for the other person, so I WANT to do this stuff. So I argue it is called "showing affection".
@sugarnads
4 ай бұрын
Theyre not in a relationship. Theyve had two dates.
@stratigangames508
4 ай бұрын
@@sugarnads If two dates in, and they're still going out, isn't the beginning of a relationship, then you need to rethink some things.
@paulawojciechowska
4 ай бұрын
me here thinking my whole life it's normal
@AVKryshtal
3 ай бұрын
@stratigangames508 two dates isn't enough time to really know someone. For all you know, the person you're going out with could be going out with two other people.
@ektasaikia7153
4 ай бұрын
Men deserve to be pampered too. If he treats you like a Queen, make sure you treat him like a King😊
@SwordRose_Azusa
3 ай бұрын
Exactly. Always treat the man like a king. If he doesn’t reciprocate, then find the man who will.
@TKUA11
3 ай бұрын
Gota do those wifely duties
@blackblade99009
3 ай бұрын
remember, only put a collar on your man if you both are into it. once it stops, it stops though.
@Nollideel
3 ай бұрын
100% the thought process a lot of women have is if he won’t find someone who will men are doing the same now and it’s really ruffling some feathers but either way that doesn’t correlate to what you said what you said is perfection
@SwordRose_Azusa
3 ай бұрын
@@Nollideel is this in response to the original comment?
@theresap6317
Ай бұрын
Finally someone gets it!!!! People called me crazy for treating my man like this since the beginning. Now we're getting married
@marybarachielsardua1713
3 ай бұрын
EXACTLY my girlies, being kind will not make you lose anything, especially if that’s how u really are and how u feel doing
@wh3elson
4 ай бұрын
“What’s being a woman, what’s our bare minimum?” Beautifully said, and the single girl had no answer other than “you’re trying too hard”.
@anthonyju6392
4 ай бұрын
The bare minimum for a woman on a date is to be pleasant no matter where you go and be good company. Basically make sure everyone is having a good time. Then when it comes time to say that there won't be a 2nd date if things didn't go well to not be a total biatch when you say it.
@michaeldietz7793
4 ай бұрын
@@anthonyju6392 And, this isn't the same for a guy?
@NLTops
4 ай бұрын
Women like that are just mad that they are being made to look bad in comparison. Only way a low standard works for someone is if other people apply it too. Then again... if too many women set the bar for themselves too low, then men apparently just peace out and play video games.
@anthonyju6392
4 ай бұрын
@@michaeldietz7793 It is a little different but I didn't word it specifically enough. The guy is going to be the anxious one since the onus is on him is to try and carry the date but the woman is suppose to a soothing element calming allowing the guy to feel more comfortable which leads to a better time for everyone involved. This might require laughing at stupid jokes, smiling a lot, and speaking words of encouragement without being condescending.
@Hunter-bd1ob
4 ай бұрын
You are very amazing. We need more people like you in the world. All the other women are intolerant to this thing we need some more good women like you good job you go girl.
@bigloudandnoisy3601
4 ай бұрын
I met this girl at a party and she was ALLLL THAT, maroon-red dyed hair, thin waist, pretty face. The house party that we were all at, was at her aunts house and her nephews were there and they came downstairs hungry. I watched her make food for these 2 kids in the middle of people partying,dancing and singing. She brought them back up and came back down and cleaned the kitchen and the house while the party continued. I went back to my apartment at college and I got a call from one of my boys “Yo, that girl with the red hair wanted your number!” The next week she moved in with me because I learned she was sleeping on a couch at her aunts place for months. That was 5 years ago and we got married last February. Girls, be wifey material to get husband material. Guys, be husband material to get wifey material. It’s a 50/50, not a one way street.
@ladyoftheflowers44
4 ай бұрын
Dude you kidnapped a homeless woman… how do we know she’s okay
@preythemantis5731
4 ай бұрын
It starts as 50/50 but should go up to 100/100 as you both test each other out
@bigloudandnoisy3601
4 ай бұрын
@@ladyoftheflowers44 ahhhh, she’s cookin dinner and watching Hell’s Kitchen while happy-dancing. That’s happy to me!
@bbcakez
4 ай бұрын
wow
@Only1BandIsTheBand
4 ай бұрын
soooo what exactly did you do that makes you husband material? you were the one who was 'just there' in this scenario lol
@olivierblanchard5179
2 ай бұрын
This might go unnoticed but I'd like to say a great big thank you for doing these shorts and dedicating your time to get these messages out there. As a young man I find myself very confused on how I'm supposed to act sometimes and I try my best on the few dates I've been going to recently. Seeing and hearing that someone like you is out there making us guys feel welcomed to be ourselves instead of being forced into sacrificing out identify is great. I look forward to every new video you post and as I hope to learn more and more.
@Simslord15
2 ай бұрын
also a guy here, I feel the exact same way
@fmoore003
3 ай бұрын
He who finds a wife, truly finds a treasure !
@paulfisher3e
2 ай бұрын
He who finds a LONG TERM GOOD WIFE has a treasure beyond price indeed 🎉😊❤
@amazingfantasy6315
2 ай бұрын
@@paulfisher3e I'd say peace and quiet is worth more than a wife.
@sykelicious3923
2 ай бұрын
@@amazingfantasy6315 agreed.
@sanguine7599
2 ай бұрын
@@amazingfantasy6315 The book the quote is from continues to explain why a proper wife is truly a treasure. It also lists out what to ,look for in a good wife, and good husband. However, for most women these days, peace and quiet is worth more.
@dennisjulius_021
2 ай бұрын
Based comment 😎✝️
@mrdean2539
4 ай бұрын
Ladies, guys will remember and treasure a small act of kindness for YEARS. Just putting that out there.
@Zoro4Swords
4 ай бұрын
Same as dogs 💀 Ok no I'm sorry... I'm a guy myself but it seemed a perfect opportunity to crack a joke lol
@yoshiwhere148
4 ай бұрын
@@Zoro4Swords it was
@Zoro4Swords
4 ай бұрын
@@yoshiwhere148 ??
@post-leftluddite
4 ай бұрын
You're working under the assumption that these women actually care about pleasing anyone but themselves
@mrdean2539
4 ай бұрын
@@post-leftluddite I know. But I refuse to believe that that is the norm, no matter how often I see it. (I know it's a little naïve, but I would rather have a little hope)
@uuuhuhuh
4 ай бұрын
when my boyfriend and i first started dating, he wasnt feeling too good at work/hadnt eaten so i dropped him off some chicken nuggets from mcdonalds and added a lil hand written note saying i hope he enjoys and i care about him, it was between my work shifts and i didnt think much of it.. just wanted him to know i care and wanted him to eat something - he said that was one of the most thoughtful things hes ever experienced and still has the note to this day.
@systemdeveloper5266
3 ай бұрын
Aww so lovely to hear 🥰
@asherandai1000
3 ай бұрын
I’m dating the wrong women. Never had any woman do anything for me just because she cares.
@snidecommenter7117
3 ай бұрын
Some chicken nuggets and a note is memorable... Yeah. People reading your comment should let that sink in.
@storyteller7150
3 ай бұрын
When we just started dating, my boyfriend got sick. I brought him a box of Kleenex. It floored him that I would do that. It is one of his favorite memories about me, and proved to him I really did like him. We've now been married a couple years ❤ I thought it was just a simple act to help. But it made his year, ncs guys receive so little simple decency anymore 😢
@MollyMcGeeSimp
3 ай бұрын
I wish someone would care about me even though I'm different…
@wokecults
2 ай бұрын
"What's your boyfriend's name again?" LOL
@XxchezztoxX
2 ай бұрын
Buuuuurn 🗣🔥🔥🔥
@E4439Qv5
Ай бұрын
And it's _there_ that I understand what the problem is as well-- shaming the one giving the extra effort.
@kryshunter
Ай бұрын
That was a finishing move.
@Chohana17
Ай бұрын
but just make sure that he really gives effort in return for your efforts 😊 all of my previous relationships failed cause I always was the only one giving my all. It NEEDS to go both ways, no matter who starts it
@HelloThere...
4 ай бұрын
Still remember receiving flowers on a date for the first time when I was 23. Blew my mind. I never knew I could receive flowers and it made me so happy!
@missantrafalgar782
4 ай бұрын
Did marry her?
@HelloThere...
4 ай бұрын
@@missantrafalgar782 well, I’m 24 now, and we realized we weren’t right for each other around our 8th date. Though it didn’t work out, I’ve learned that even though I’m male presenting, I still deserve to be treated with the same attention and care that a woman does on dates! :) I’m in a relationship now, and she always wants to take care of me. Like, the other day I was really feeling unwell, so she went grocery shopping for the essentials for me, and handmade me some sushi rolls to eat since it’s my favorite food. She makes me very happy, and I think she’s the one :)
@pixelqube3274
4 ай бұрын
You are a person of course you can. however society says no. Me? I buy myself flowers or plants that i like. If someone thinks otherwise I don't care. It's not your business.
@AnjaLerntDeutsch
4 ай бұрын
My boyfriend didn't realise i bought flowers for him. He thought someone left them and i took them or smth else. Men are not used to flowers...
@kendi5391
4 ай бұрын
@@AnjaLerntDeutschI mean they also need to like flowers. Personally I don't.
@MinkedChopstix
4 ай бұрын
It’s always the single ones😂 miserable people love company.
@cedricdellafaille1361
4 ай бұрын
ask a woman genuinly, what do you bring in a relationship ? she will either say its sexist but actually litterally dont know what they offer in a relationship yet they know immedietaly the whole list they want in a man, these women are incredibly entitled these days its sad
@charlesbrown-cv3jx
4 ай бұрын
Facts
@Rosie82333
4 ай бұрын
It’s always the smart ones that don’t need male validation 😂
@eldiospalomo2334
4 ай бұрын
My friend in misery is such a true song
@didierbaudot
4 ай бұрын
Its because they think i'm offering my beauty and sex be happy for that you have me thats the mindset of modern women 🤔@@cedricdellafaille1361
@sonicthehedge
3 ай бұрын
A man's difficult part is getting a girlfriend. A woman's difficult part is keeping the boyfriend.
@bicyclist2
2 күн бұрын
This shouldn't be controversial. It should be perfectly normal.
@WarBishop101
4 ай бұрын
“what’s ur bf’s name again?” omg fuck’n murdered her 🤣
@TNTYOD
4 ай бұрын
Joshua James Brian Kurvok Tio Tam Samuel Lucian Frank Graham David Ben And of course Jessica But they are just for fun And her main is posh tom
@MRGF78
4 ай бұрын
What day is it???
@zitens66
4 ай бұрын
Michael McDoesntexist
@josh18230
4 ай бұрын
Yes she destroyed an argument she created in her head and then acted out
@user-tv3sk5cs4w
4 ай бұрын
What color is your Bugatti
@ShyFly221
4 ай бұрын
Highkey a good friendly gesture too. Not everything is romantic my love language is just acts of service
@Rosie82333
4 ай бұрын
Your love language is getting taken advantage of
@kaior1
4 ай бұрын
No girl is doing this unless they like you lmao
@Nightmare-wo2gd
4 ай бұрын
Normalize love language expression in contexts that aren't always romantic. Cuz they aren't. My love language is physical touch. I always make sure to dap up the homies and pat em on the back when they're down. It goes a long way.
@Nightmare-wo2gd
4 ай бұрын
@@kaior1that's not true.
@Nightmare-wo2gd
4 ай бұрын
@@Rosie82333if they want to do acts of service for people they care about leave em alone, it's not getting used if they want to do it.
@AllePotky
3 ай бұрын
This is insanely true! Equality is about showing the same consideration for our partner that our partner shows for us and I think that's how strong relationships get built.
@rzslo9084
2 ай бұрын
Can confirm, my gf does things like this and it definitely makes me stick around. And i do things for her with no question in return. Seeing appreciation helps alot.
@hazamahonoka7439
4 ай бұрын
“What’s your boyfriend’s name again?” The silence is quite literally the answer 😂
@AVKryshtal
3 ай бұрын
Neither of them have a boyfriend though.
@knisa6350
3 ай бұрын
Actually most girls with high standards do actually get boyfriends. So this is just factually untrue lol.
@Chrono_Mitsurugi
3 ай бұрын
@@AVKryshtal One does, she is picking him up at the airport.
@bearwitty9690
3 ай бұрын
@@Chrono_Mitsurugiafter 2 dates? Talking about "wifey-energy" is crazy. 😅
@DustinKnustin
3 ай бұрын
@@bearwitty9690don’t date someone you can’t imagine being in a marriage with. That’s the reason why all those pushy and cringe wifey women are happily married and the others… own cats
@cathleeniapeterson4504
4 ай бұрын
Funny how I acted like this with mine and now we live together with 4 kids. If you want to do this for a man u like there is nothing wrong with it. Stop taking dating advice from people that call a kind gesture a wifey task 😂
@DASSANTAMARIA
4 ай бұрын
Moments like this when you realise there should be a double-like button
@omarcook3663
4 ай бұрын
Smart based woman with real life results!!!
@james50227
4 ай бұрын
I don't get it. Like a women making me food has 0 effect on how I feel about her. Doesn't matter if she does or does not. If its a nice gesture then its one that I don't care about.
@joepharmasst
4 ай бұрын
Funny how you don't just say married unless it doesn't apply
@sirsanchez1330
4 ай бұрын
Congratulations!!
@IyseHexxo-br8uo
23 күн бұрын
Miss, I am not even looking to get married but I must admit something. I'm glad to see people like you still exist. That's the true definition of a real woman. Much respect and appreciation for you. God bless you:-)
@TopNotchV
3 ай бұрын
It’s true, don’t do it. Dating is nothing like it used to be. They always have options on the side now no matter how nice you are. Focus on you.
@Cyclops0000
4 ай бұрын
Well said. I'd say about half my dating experience is just women "showing up" and expecting me to do everything. Plan the date, pick them up, carry the conversation, do all the gentleman stuff, take them home, be nice to their family and friends if we meet, make the move towards intimacy and all this carries the risk of rejection at any point while getting no appreciation. Really feels like it's 1 wrong move and all the 99 good things you've done are forgotten.
@bojangles713
4 ай бұрын
Well stated! 👍🤟
@pamenasdespartah4444
4 ай бұрын
Couldn't ave said it better
@jaybee2981
4 ай бұрын
Yeah really.. couldn’t have said it better
@Igeltod
4 ай бұрын
brilliantly worded
@Igeltod
4 ай бұрын
sounds about right. its definitely not as horrible as some of the red pill content makes it sound like. but about half or alittle above that is also what i experienced.
4 ай бұрын
I LOVE it when a woman does stuff like that at the beginning. Good way to make him fall hard for you
@samuraitadpole5459
4 ай бұрын
Especially since guys stupidly give husband treatment before she proves herself a wife. No wonder women are so entitled men make it too easy to be
@joepharmasst
4 ай бұрын
None do lol
@relax6098
4 ай бұрын
Actually it's rare but if you find a girl that does be very careful. She might be faking her personality, I fell that for a whole year she played me
@joepharmasst
4 ай бұрын
@@relax6098 usually the ones who act that way look like men as well
@tasospat4919
4 ай бұрын
@@relax6098 True story. Could be part of the love bombing a narcissist does in the beginning of dating and the relationship. Then she'll devalue you and you'll wonder what you did wrong
@chrispatton6947
18 күн бұрын
More women need to think this way. If the man's putting out everything and the woman is doing absolutely nothing for him, he won't think that She's worth it for him. If you can't reciprocate any positiveness to him, he'll just drop you and move on to the next one that will show him some effort. For every action, there needs to be an equal reaction, Us men are getting tired of women, just expecting everything as a self entitlement for them. Women, this is no longer of the 1950's.This is 2024.
@kahliajade8871
2 ай бұрын
My husband proposed to me after 3 weeks and 1 date. He told me he knew I was gonna be his wife when he got home from work and I was still there because I just wanted to make sure he always had someone at home waiting for him and to make sure he was happy and cared about. Men deserve to be pampered and taken care of because in this world NOBODY cares about them. We’ve been married for almost 2 years and I see us growing old together. Take care of your men and they will give you the world ❤
@lunedefroid8817
4 ай бұрын
It's so sweet to make a lunch for your partner. It only becomes a problem when he takes it for granted and does not express gratitude.
@voevodineu
4 ай бұрын
What if he does something back, and doesn't expect your gratitude as well?
@WiseWordsbyWiki
4 ай бұрын
Sure if this situation was about partner. This is a dude that she's seen twice. This is just Insanity.
@lunedefroid8817
4 ай бұрын
@@voevodineu i think people should both express gratitude. Just saying thank you and reminding how much it something matters to you is not hard, and it means a lot
@MacerXGP
3 ай бұрын
@@voevodineu Enjoy your healthy relationship?
@voevodineu
3 ай бұрын
@@lunedefroid8817 It depends on one's empathy level I'd say, I am one of those people who finds it hard to express feelings, sure it's some kind of social cripliness, but nevertheless, it's not easy for everyone as you said - that's what I would like to point out
@AckeeandSaltfish
4 ай бұрын
I think the big thing is to make sure you’re doing this for the right person. Doing all of this stuff earlier on can def backfire if it’s the wrong person. This is where discernment comes into play 💙
@dennis_hdmi5402
4 ай бұрын
How can that backfire??
@2011troya
4 ай бұрын
@@dennis_hdmi5402doing it for the wrong person means 1) you waste time by throwing pearls to swine 2) you open yourself up for being unappreciated to the point where it can border on disrespect because they do not reciprocate 3) you open yourself up to attacks on your time, energy and sometimes psychological well being from people who have no good intentions for you. It can definitely backfire alright…
@ligitz
4 ай бұрын
@2011troya agreed, but all of that is observable, and when it happens, you now know to leave him for someone who won't do that. So it isn't a problem and can help with discernment.
@9308323
4 ай бұрын
@2011troya Dude, she's trying to make him lunch. She's not trying to pay up his 7-figure debt. It's not that deep. Reciprocate affection and gesture to the person you're dating. If you're gonna get caught up with the "are they the right person" mentality, then don't date them and respect the other person's time they could be spending with someone who could show appreciation because you clearly can't.
@sirdeadlock
4 ай бұрын
@@dennis_hdmi5402I'm a giver, not a taker. I don't like it when people do things for me that we didn't talk about first, but I'm happy to be generous and thoughtful when there's an opportunity. If someone made a lunch for me without asking first if I wanted one, I'd be upset by the obligation being imposed. I'm probably a fringe case though. Food stuff is the kind of thing a person learns on a first date. I'm just saying they've got a point about discernment. In relationships, communication is key.
@snugglyhugs8698
2 ай бұрын
Relationships aren't 50/50 folks. They're 100/100. Both sides should be giving 100% of what they can, and that's what makes them work.
@Robert.Sheard
Ай бұрын
"I AM the table." Yeah, well I'm not shopping for furniture. Love the "what's our bare minimum?" line.
@AbramSeigler
4 ай бұрын
I 100% support this, you should not be getting advice from people cannot hold a date of their own
@MarkaNgamer
4 ай бұрын
They're called Dating Experts nowadays.
@Lomhow
4 ай бұрын
Such facts
@user-ve4ye6kx4v
4 ай бұрын
Married 33 years One of your better videos keep up the good work
@itchfinger
4 ай бұрын
Well done and great work. Not married, but been with the same for 15 years, with 2 kids. It sure take some effort and there can be some really low periods where you can regret it all. Buuut it passes and life is good again.
@chaseonfroy
4 ай бұрын
@@itchfinger15 years and 2 kids? you're already married at that point fam
@rossmckinley4875
2 ай бұрын
😂 I can't stop laughing to say anything. The realization that comes to this woman. Man.... 😂😂😂😂😂
@huntersmith2151
Ай бұрын
Single women friends are how happy relationships end.
@AIR-Dmnshn
4 ай бұрын
Women... AND men, are forgetting that in order to please someone you have to strive to be nice. In the society we are developing, it is increasingly common to see vanity, self-centeredness and self-indulgence at their best.
@Scottney
4 ай бұрын
As a man, please accept my sincerest gratitude for educating the future generations on "reciprocation" , equal effort and mutual respect.
@mkontent
4 ай бұрын
Yes!
@redfatseal2407
4 ай бұрын
Well said, brother!
@KRYMauL
4 ай бұрын
Also, half the stuff she said was just good manners, that’s not going above and beyond.
@DJH12193
3 ай бұрын
Praise this woman until the end of time
@shantiwillaert
3 ай бұрын
LMAOOO she's so right, i love this, you cant expect something you dont give
@theakaneko
4 ай бұрын
I just sent my hubby some flowers and a snack to tell him I love him and appreciate all the hard work he's been doing (doing his job while dealing with flaky contractors during some home repair, ugg...). It made him so happy to get them. And he has done the same for me (or run out at midnight for random snack attack fries for us both). It is give and take and mutual effort that makes relationships work.
@61countdown
3 ай бұрын
Absolutely. But how about next time, put some lingerie with that snack pack instead of flowers. Wrap the sandwich with it. My guess is that he'll get the message and knock your socks off when he gets home. And expect him to take the next day off too. 😅
@gracefullybethany
3 ай бұрын
Not relevant. Giving your HUSBAND wifey treatment is not the same giving a man you’ve met twice wifey treatment. You are literally your husband’s wife.
@dfr691980
3 ай бұрын
@@gracefullybethanydefinitely not graceful
@Londubh
2 ай бұрын
Cooperation, communication, and mutual support is where it's at
@ninjatreefrog9346
4 ай бұрын
Exactly. Give and take. No relationship can function without both sides willing to give. Too many women feel too entitled to man’s effort. Too many men only willing to put forth the effort if they think it will get them laid.
@prestonbrandt2193
4 ай бұрын
The part about women k agree with but thee men one only sleaze bags expect to be laid and they are the minority of men not the majority the majority of men are ignored and we tend to be more gentlemanly and only expect you to not be going on multiple dates a day or be sleeping around when with us cause I can tell you this we aren't or can't. Not from lack of trying either cause like I said ignored.
@user-zm9hg6gk6l
4 ай бұрын
a relationship should be build on love not business, there shouldnt be give and take but rather selflessness
@ditchan1806
4 ай бұрын
You've never heard of codependecy
@isabelsalamanca893
4 ай бұрын
@@ditchan1806 I think you meant interdependency? Codependence is toxic but interdependence is necessary because we can’t all possibly be completely self-sufficient. It just doesn’t work in the modern world. With interdependence, we rely on each other to provide for everyone’s needs. So, in a couple, one person may work for a paycheck that pays to keep a roof over heads, food on the table and clothes on the back. And then the cleaning, cooking and laundry is split up (house chores are more demanding than an office job. My partner gets all his work done in less than 2 hours a day, but I work retail shipment so it’s like a workout for me 3-5 days a week, 8 hours, but he works from home. He can do his share of housework).
@ditchan1806
4 ай бұрын
@@isabelsalamanca893 nah he said no relationship works on just giving but there are a lot of codependent couples (toxic) which do last I was meaning that
@FrancisFarmerMusic
Күн бұрын
This girl is always on point!
@ANTHONYTERRELL
Ай бұрын
PROTECT THIS WOMEN AT ALL COST!!!!!💎
@krissmith3498
4 ай бұрын
Met my wife 53 years ago one evening when we were both in separate high schools, about 25 miles apart & We clicked :) I've shortened this story, but I immediately started picking her up from school , but in order to see her daily, I chose to help her with her busy outside charity work. It brought us that much closer & it has worked well - both ways - over the years, including when I was in the Navy right after graduation & she still had another year of school.... Great ride & I'd do it again!
@theeclectic2919
4 ай бұрын
Awesome!
@AndyfnB
4 ай бұрын
My dad used to go hangout at the hospital so he could spend time with my mom who was what they called a "Candy Striper."
@zakariyahabdulkarim5853
4 ай бұрын
My wife has been wifey since day 1. Everything she did amd continues to do for me fills my heart with so much love and respect. I give her thay same love and energy in return. Weve been together happily ever since and plam on having kids soon.
@4real4real-cf1ii
3 ай бұрын
Wow. That's great mate. Your children will come by God's grace. Good story
@imagonnacrash9736
2 ай бұрын
Hilarious! lol. The last line is great!
@thetorontogirl
Ай бұрын
My man was utterly shocked when I surprised him one time at work with lunch. It was my day off but I wanted to do something nice for him. When I tapped his shoulder and he turned around he stood staring at me for a good minute. No one looked at me the way he did. He still reminds me of how amazing that made him feel. I took him out for coffee during his break. As a guy who's been in different relationships he said he never had anyone treat him the way I have. ❤
@obsessedequestrian4410
4 ай бұрын
You tell it girl! Being kind to others doesn't require some kind of minimal criteria; your behavior reflects on you, not them. If they "use" you and don't reciprocate similar behavior, then that says everything you need to know about them.
@JoshuaMGro
4 ай бұрын
Greatly said!!👌
@JustASuscriber
3 ай бұрын
Changing your behavior because someone MIGHT use you might be the dumbest thing I've ever heard, honestly. Just be normal, be kind, make yourself likeable by the other individual. If they don't reciprocate, then they might not be a fit for you, but you should never assume that they won't.
@DiggandDugg
3 ай бұрын
Exactly! You give the energy you want back and show genuine interest and care for the person you are dating. If they don't reciprocate and use you then you leave. Being aloof and not showing affection isn't going to make a good man suddenly want to wife you up, it's just childish mind games
@seatongrey315
4 ай бұрын
This kind of respectful , valuing, loving behaviour makes me melt.
@piyushawasthi986
Ай бұрын
You ma'am have earned a like and my comment. More true words have not been spoken. Well said💯
@Gear_Banger
2 ай бұрын
Facts!!! A lot of women don’t understand you don’t get the “job” without the proper qualifications during the “interview”.
@EmilyW-2000
4 ай бұрын
When I met my husband, he didn't mind taking me on our first date to Panera Bread when he asked me out which is my favorite place and on our second date I decided to treat him out to a nice coffee shop in my suburban area and a bike ride adventure together. We didn't mind treating each other out on dates.
@Madchris8828
4 ай бұрын
That sounds awesome. It's nice to hear good stories on dating rather than the typical horror stories plastered all over social media
@BerkelEHaluesen
4 ай бұрын
This is really cute and sweet! 🥰 Bike ride adventure sounds like an awesome date idea, it's something fun! Dinner dates are nice but it's cool to see people doing other fun ideas.
@tairschol6910
4 ай бұрын
You approached the relationship thinking "What can I do for him?" and his was "What can I do for her?". This is the secret to every successful relationship and (as far as I can gather) that is what you experiencing. Keep it up the both of you.
@dbaxter604
4 ай бұрын
Treat people awesome right off the bat, they dont match your energy or effort then move on. Dont play the "earn it" game, no one wins.
@Allanrpsx
4 ай бұрын
☝🏼
@annelieetsebeth1830
4 ай бұрын
Yes!!!
@sherifhossny8062
3 ай бұрын
God bless! The world needs more of you.
@mizzpearlgearl
Ай бұрын
I got sick when i first met my boyfriend. It's not even 1 month in, and I need to go to the ER. This man gently took me to and from the hospital, staying with me and holding my hand while I'm actively ill. I'm apologizing the whole time, and all he can say is I'm beautiful and sweet. I am still floored, and you better believe he gets the wifey treatment whenever I'm able...
@clashdevil2925
4 ай бұрын
Honestly its such a really nice gesture. Like not even romantic. Thoughtful and sweet. It just shows you its kind
@Ribbitplease
4 ай бұрын
No, men will take you as a doormat. Men have biological tendency to chase women. If a woman is too nice, they take it as cue to walk all over her and give her bare minimum in return. All of that while he stalks and likes Stacey’s insta profile and longs for her.
@cakefete2
4 ай бұрын
Single women keep women single
@divyamishra4717
4 ай бұрын
And also shitty men
@ErinThePsychicWitch
4 ай бұрын
You wish it was difficult to find a man 😂
@cakefete2
4 ай бұрын
@ErinThePsychicWitch you find them, you just can't keep them.
@under-dog5390
4 ай бұрын
@@ErinThePsychicWitch Ah guys are around everywhere, every store you go to, down every street you are on but most of them wont be interested. Ya'all think guys are dumb but they can sus you up pretty quickly and if not they certainly will when they learn more about you for good or for bad (usually bad.) Most guys are single afterall, they just don't wanna be with you and would actually prefer to remain single than be with you. 9 times out of 10 the single life is a better life for them rather than the alternative and they know it down to their core.
@ALrinea
2 ай бұрын
Men appreciate being recognized for their efforts. My wife surprised me when we first started dating by organizing a picnic and taking me on a weekend trip to the Baltic Sea.
@morgantalbert7103
Ай бұрын
I am not sure how I came across these videos. But I love that they are short and to the point. As a man, sometimes (most of the time) less is more. I like how they are too sided and the thought provoking. Stay the course.
@2ndbrain909
3 ай бұрын
Literally a case of “if you want kindness then be eager to give kindness”
@jerryc452
3 ай бұрын
Yep. Totally agree 👍
@jonsku6662
3 ай бұрын
"Treat others how you wish to be treated" - The old golden rule No wonder functional relationships has both parties treat eachother as equals
@ohrats731
2 ай бұрын
Some of us are jaded from past heartbreak 😔 In my most recent relationship, I was so happy getting to play wife, doing all these things for him. I helped him with a surgery, taking him to and from and providing in-home care for a couple weeks… fewer than 6 months into the relationship. I continued to help with his medical needs for 2 years, even postponing work opportunities to accommodate his surgery schedule. Then one time I needed to go to the emergency clinic. He refused to leave work a couple hours early to take me, even though he would not have been punished at work for doing so. Instead my mom had to drive down from where she lives and take me. I should have recognized his true colors that day. He was an overall nice guy every day, but the double standards in how we were willing to take care of each other should have told me all I needed to know right then and there. But I was the fool. And I kept letting the disparity in care grow until he didn’t want to live together anymore. Now I know that wife behavior has to be earned, except that makes me just another jaded woman who seems unattractively selfish 😮💨 I just want to settle down and grow old with someone who loves me the way I love him
@spectrelead
2 ай бұрын
@@jonsku6662 Abso-fucking-lutely!
@karlriggs3240
4 ай бұрын
I love how some women think equality only goes one way, I like to go the extra mile, to show I'm not like other men that do minimum and think its a lot, but I also like to feel that what I'm doing is appreciated and not just taken for granted.
@godleveleldritchblast5257
4 ай бұрын
I'm the type of guy who just does as he pleases and it's always seen as I'm going the extra mile. Which is funny because all my ex's loved that about me but because of that chose to build the relationship on lies because they didn't want to lose me. They became my ex's for a reason.😂
@KRYMauL
4 ай бұрын
According to society, and if modern feminist get their way, women will get everything and men will work the manual labor jobs and be seen as beneath them. Oh wait that’s already happening, there are more women in college than men, and men are increasingly being drawn to the trades because they don’t have to incur the debt that their supposed wife will have. Also, true equality stopped being the goal like 50 years ago, now they just want a matriarchy. If you ask me, the best society is an egalitarian society like we we’re heading towards anyway.
@jesseessej
3 ай бұрын
Three thumbs all the way up. Thank you for volunteering for the task of teaching what should be obvious. It is alas desperately needed.
@AzureFenris
3 ай бұрын
What's your boyfriends name again?" Savage lmfao that was perfect
@seanmahoney7905
4 ай бұрын
Protect this woman at all costs!!!
@vortigaunt911
4 ай бұрын
I want her to keep telling me what I want to hear
@seanmahoney7905
4 ай бұрын
@@vortigaunt911 she spitting facts.
@rebekahmokool4759
4 ай бұрын
He didn’t ask for the lunch. That makes it a nice and kind gesture
@emiliojosemedinarosado5503
3 ай бұрын
Worst thing a Woman can do is been told by another Woman on how to treat a Man . Women always be yourselves; It's never bad to treat Men properly 🙏🏻
@morgananderson1091
3 ай бұрын
We must protect her at all costs For she is valuable!
@bubandit06
4 ай бұрын
💯 Be the partner you want to be and you'll find that in them too
@Rosie82333
4 ай бұрын
They just take advantage
@bubandit06
4 ай бұрын
@@Rosie82333 I understand that, so they won't get your time for very long, but becoming jaded and testing every potential partner before revealing your true self is nearly as bad as pretending to be a wonderful person and then manipulating your partner, both are dishonest. You miss out on all those truly good people who only got to see your hard shell and decided that person wasn't for them. I don't see how anyone thinks they can find happiness by pretending to be something they're not.
@bubandit06
4 ай бұрын
@@Rosie82333 You'll miss out on the right one when you show everybody a person who isn't the true you. You're asking someone to not only show you their true self, but to break down the walls you put up against them. Why would anybody do that? Would you do that? Keep fighting for a relationship where that person is punishing you from day 1 for things you had nothing to do with? Be true to yourself and the right person will be true to you
@hisinddjsomnsl
4 ай бұрын
@@Rosie82333then leave
@yahoot1779
4 ай бұрын
@@Rosie82333its your second comment, there prob are more. Get your heartbroken ahh outa here
@MattGentry807
4 ай бұрын
Women in white knows what she wants, and knows how to lock it down.. Bravo
@Rosie82333
4 ай бұрын
Getting taken advantage of 😂
@yagamilight589
4 ай бұрын
@@Rosie82333 30 years from now: a girl in the white is happily playing with her 3rd grandkid. While smart fems who "never allowed to take advantage of them" are crying to the pillow and thinking about getting the 5th cat :D
@lastchancefancypants7905
4 ай бұрын
@@Rosie82333 You must be sad
@misspriss2482
4 ай бұрын
Bullshit. That doesn't lock any man down. Ask the women who have played wifey for years and he's still cheating.
@misspriss2482
4 ай бұрын
@@lastchancefancypants7905 Nah, just hip to the game.
@Ursapien
2 ай бұрын
I just want to say, nothing breeds loyalty like a gift of food. Even if I'm not hungry, the thought that I could have been, and her wanting to make sure I'm taken care of is something that will stick with me as a core memory of who she is as a person.
@Sam-zu9jn
3 ай бұрын
She is saving women. The world needs her more than ever.
@catalan500_8
4 ай бұрын
It’s hilarious cause I guarantee you the second you hand that guy the surprise lunch the first thing that will pop into his head is “what in the wifey material is this??” 😂❤️
@darrylcarter5004
3 ай бұрын
I like this Lady, she's on point, real talk.
@samdroy
2 ай бұрын
Well, I have been fortunate enough to bump into such women before. You ladies deserve all the love and respect.
@kodan7879
3 ай бұрын
These videos give me hope as a man that i really have a chance to find a good woman after i lost someone i really really loved.
@gnjnnn
4 ай бұрын
Not really about the video, but i just wanna share. My friend has been with this guy for two years. Everyday she’ll prepare his clothes, do laundry, clean, organize his closet, prepare his towel, heck she even SQUEEZES the toothpaste into the brush for him everytime he’s about to take a shower. AND THIS GUY JUST CHEATED ON MY FRIEND. While I do agree with the video, appreciation should go both way for a relationship so i hope the person anyone’s on the date with appreciates this kind gesture.
@AmandaGeyerSnobahr
4 ай бұрын
There's "wifey treatment" and then there's "mommy treatment"...
@jansix4287
4 ай бұрын
He probably put her in the friendzone, because she didn’t gave him enough bad girl vibes or something? At least that’s the female explanation on why they cheat on good husbands.
@Brunettebeach
4 ай бұрын
Exactly. The man has to be quality…
@roycewalters
4 ай бұрын
While I don't condone cheating in a monogamous relationship, if they were sexless and he addressed this with her, then there were only two real possible outcomes of she didn't correct that. You may not be getting the whole story.
@WiseWordsbyWiki
4 ай бұрын
@@roycewalters I found the incel
@rmt3589
4 ай бұрын
As a guy, that's boss! 100% gonna "get you back" with a surprise lunch of your own.
@RohitVerma-mo2ij
2 ай бұрын
Respect. We need to mk women who are only receivers & not givers think. We need to mk our women think of their part to play. My Respect to real women. God bless.
@ommpeter
Ай бұрын
It does sound weird... until you mention he's treating you right. then it sounds appropriate
@OneTalkerOne
4 ай бұрын
Thank you for this video. To men, these little acts of kindness mean everything. Most women have no idea.
@DavidAVest
4 ай бұрын
How did women buy into the dating advice that "resentful enmity" would land them a decent man? While "Be appreciative and respectful" is just too advanced and incomprehensible.
@jimbolove5669
2 ай бұрын
this is a breath of fresh air right here. love this video.
@ryanmacklin712
3 ай бұрын
Husband material is a true man...any real man would treat a woman with respect and dignity...a packed lunch means more than you would ever know
@ambersummer2685
3 ай бұрын
I love this. Some of us have had bad experiences being “wifey material” and see that as the problem to why we weren’t taken seriously when we were just with the wrong guy. You should always put in effort as much as he is. Especially if he’s paying for dates, making sure you’re safe and opening doors for you. Making someone a meal or snack is the most kindest thing you can do. You’d want the guy to do things for you while dating too. You don’t have to go full on wife but you can show your interest in your actions.
@brianschuetz2614
3 ай бұрын
Yes, it goes both ways. Guys have had their share of bad experiences as well.
"what's your boyfriend's name again?" EMOTIONAL DAMAGE!!!!!
@thesecatsarecrazy567
2 ай бұрын
My now wife told me she never got flowers from someone. So when I left work, I went and got her some and had them dropped off the next morning at work with no note. She stared at them all day and wondered, and had everyone trying to guess who sent them. I showed up at work the next morning and didn't say anything to her and just went about my day. She came to my office and asked me if I gave her the flowers, I said,"Yes." She said," How come no note?" I said," It kept you thinking all day, didn't it?" No, but I enjoyed the attention that I received from getting them. Thank you." The next day, she brought me cookies. The rest is history. Twenty-seven years ago.
@claytongore916
4 ай бұрын
Literally thank you, wish more women had these types of values too. There'd be more hope for both genders of our generation...
@xjt9787
4 ай бұрын
Protect this woman at all costs
@markolean6815
4 ай бұрын
100%
@theviruekanayake9638
4 ай бұрын
Agreed 💯
@redvapez6771
21 күн бұрын
I love this lady!!!! Sorry babygirl but she is as real as the ocean
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