To find out if a woman has these problematic traits during the getting-to-know phase, you can ask subtle questions and pay close attention to her behavior. Direct confrontations or tests can be inappropriate, so it’s better to approach this carefully and attentively. Here are some recommendations: 1. **The Complainer**: - **Questions:** “How was your day?” or “How do you handle stressful situations?” - **What to watch for:** Listen to see if she mainly speaks negatively and frequently complains about minor things. Pay attention if she often criticizes others or situations. 2. **The Discontented**: - **Questions:** “What do you envision for your future?” or “What’s important to you in a relationship?” - **What to watch for:** Notice if she frequently talks about missed opportunities or idealizes other men. Watch for signs that she often says things could have been better or different. 3. **The Envious**: - **Questions:** “What motivates you?” or “What do you admire in other people?” - **What to watch for:** Observe if she talks a lot about what others have and often compares herself to others. If she frequently expresses a desire for more or better things, this could be a warning sign. 4. **The Vain**: - **Questions:** “What are your hobbies?” or “How do you spend your free time?” - **What to watch for:** Notice if she mostly talks about her appearance or is overly focused on fashion, makeup, and looks. She might constantly take selfies or spend a lot of time on her appearance. 5. **The Talker**: - **Questions:** Ask simple, open-ended questions and observe how much space she leaves for you to respond. - **What to watch for:** If she dominates the conversation and leaves little room for you to speak, or if she sends you long messages frequently, this could be a sign. **General Tips:** - **Observe her behavior in different situations:** Pay attention to how she acts around friends, family, and in stressful moments. - **Explore her communication style:** Notice whether she listens to you or tends to dominate conversations. - **Be honest and direct when necessary:** Ask about her values, desires, and expectations to understand her views on partnership and family.
@RidwaanA
9 күн бұрын
@@Human-zd1mx jazaakallaahu khayraa
@mahama998
8 күн бұрын
Barakallahu fiik brother
@ummabdulrahmaan
7 күн бұрын
As Salam alaykum masha Allah that brother will save lives Allahuma barik lahu fih. I lacked so much knowledge but al hamdulillah still. We all grow slowly..
@magiccomments
5 күн бұрын
جزاك الله خيرًا brother! May Allah reward you immensely
@Donotcare6
5 күн бұрын
Masha'Allah. This was helpful
@lemonades7674
10 күн бұрын
Allah please have mercy on me, I married a women with all these traits, she said her ex husband was better than me, and how she lost the love of her life and would go back and marry him if she had the chance while we were arguing. I stayed and destroyed myself being with her. It's time I let her go.
@RidwaanA
10 күн бұрын
May Allaah grant you ease and grant you the best of wives. Aameen.
@Memic86
10 күн бұрын
Let her go if you tried everything according to the sunnah…dont let her destroy your life…Allah and his messenger are more important than her.
@halalmedia.
10 күн бұрын
100% may Allah guide us
@SheedLordBear
8 күн бұрын
You lost your mind and didn’t respect yourself. That ex husband was desecrating her insides. You are nothing for her.
@amarhussain7287
8 күн бұрын
I feel sorry for you my brother. You probably had red flags before but ignored them from the love in your heart. This world is a cruel place. I hope you find your happiness in sha allah. If you're from Yorkshire drop me a message. We will go out and find someone more suitable for you 😂
@naimaismail4356
13 күн бұрын
My uncle loved a woman who was #4 of the 5 he mentioned and he didn’t marry her knowing she was too self absorbed. He chose a much better woman as a wife who takes good care of his son, him and the home. Very humble, pious and kind woman.
@UdruusJayyida
13 күн бұрын
جزاكم الله خيرا وبارك الله فيكم
@Kuzon13
9 күн бұрын
But how can one know if she has these characteristics before marriage? Only maybe the overly talkative trait will be visible before settling in. The other 4 is a gamble. Sure you can ask subtle and leading questions to get a read on her, but people always show their best side when dealing with new people.
@okstartul4014
12 күн бұрын
How you suppose to know before you’re married to them ?? I don’t even get this.
@M.Nimaynb
12 күн бұрын
Same question, I imagine these traits don't come out by simply talking before nikah. How do we find out if she has one of those traits?
@okstartul4014
12 күн бұрын
@@M.Nimaynb I don’t understand either, makes no sense in my opinion. You find out people traits after you get married.
@brownieyumm
12 күн бұрын
Ask people who know her, e.g. family, friends, teachers, etc. always make mashwara with people who will have your best interest in mind. May Allah Ta’ala make it easy for us all in sha Allah
@imaanhanif8863
12 күн бұрын
Maybe it's advising early signs to leave before kids come in the picture?
@penguinman38
9 күн бұрын
Easy, marry someone religious
@8noisyddawgs270
2 күн бұрын
jazakAllah
@UncleSaif
8 күн бұрын
😂😂😂whatever rocks yr boat brother
@RayaanAbdullahi32
Күн бұрын
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
@Soyodi
12 күн бұрын
You find and know of all these types of woman after marriage not before. You can’t avoid things about someone that you don’t know of yet.
@Yxcvbnmxy
11 күн бұрын
There are signs when the proper questions are asked beforehand
@penguinman38
9 күн бұрын
Easy, marry a woman who is religious
@UncleSaif
8 күн бұрын
Not true….we lack discovery skills
@Soyodi
18 сағат бұрын
@@UncleSaif any tips on how to uncover these types of woman
@b.d2071
10 күн бұрын
Alhamdulillah my mom had non of these, she was the best of the best.
@deltaechomusicnh555
8 күн бұрын
How would you know? Only your farther knows behind closed doors.
@b.d2071
8 күн бұрын
@@deltaechomusicnh555 my father has already told everyone of her good character, how she never complained and how patience she was, secondly non of these characteristics are of people who do it closed door, women complains out in open not closed door. And shame on you on doubting and making a slander statement about a good woman like my mom, that also tells me which kind of characteristics you have.
@sonny7159
8 күн бұрын
@@deltaechomusicnh555You're out of touch there, friend. A child grows up with her parents and doesn't know who they are?
@bramkayser3194
7 күн бұрын
May Allah grant her firdaws! But we can all agree that the best women ever lived were Sayidna Mariam (Mary A.S.) and Khadija (R.A). My opinion!
@b.d2071
7 күн бұрын
@@bramkayser3194 Ameen. Indeed they are among best women and may Allah make women like us follow them in this world, Ameen.
@AakhiMuslim
12 күн бұрын
But subhanaLah!! what to do if I discover that she is like this once married...? How could I've known it before married? is there a method? JazakumuLah al khayr
@islam_for_life_
12 күн бұрын
You get an idea about how she will be by looking at their parents, and their close knit. But you obviously don't get the full picture until you marry. So make Dua!
@X72mlg
12 күн бұрын
You don’t-but you now know that if you catch one of these traits beforehand, it is a red flag
@user-uy8pg4wv4b
2 күн бұрын
ask around about her ask her family , friends etc
@UncleSaif
8 күн бұрын
Therapy
@ibnamanot
11 күн бұрын
What can I do if I am in a bad marriage by marrying the wrong woman and also have children with her? My marriage is hell.
@KK-by1ms
10 күн бұрын
Stop listening to this guy
@MuhammadAli-wy6ku
10 күн бұрын
May Allah make it easy for you, the prophet said overlook her bad traits, maybe Allah has placed some kheyr in what you dislike.
@ibnamanot
10 күн бұрын
@@KK-by1ms why?
@Mohmeetsworld
21 сағат бұрын
How long you been married for?
@ibnamanot
10 сағат бұрын
@@Mohmeetsworld 4 years
@anisaabdullahi3802
13 күн бұрын
all humans arent the same so it makes sense that all their marriages arenr the same either.
@saikouceesay3056
12 күн бұрын
That’s not an excuse for having bad character. The sheikh is saying don’t go overboard.
@UncleSaif
8 күн бұрын
😂
@Kuzon13
9 күн бұрын
How about a loud and/or foul mouthed woman? Or an extremely introverted/shy woman. I think brothers should watch out for those too
@am60k
8 күн бұрын
There’s absolutely nothing wrong with an extremely shy person. I’m fact that’s great. The prophet said shyness is from eman
@Kuzon13
8 күн бұрын
@@am60k yes some shyness is good, but i’m talking about the extreme level. Where people can’t even order food on a drive thru or wont connect with others because they are afraid to meet new people or who are too afraid to raise their voices and defend themselves when someone does them bad. They get nervous and have mental breakdown just by thinking about it. That level cannot be good And yes there are those people that exist
@taimurahmad
8 күн бұрын
shy wmn are the bst. they will imrpove after marriage.
@ummabdulrahmaan
7 күн бұрын
I don't want any dunia just hijrah and focus on diin with my kids lol
@magiccomments
5 күн бұрын
How can one even find this out before marriage brother?
@islam_for_life_
4 күн бұрын
You can't find all these qualities before marriage akhi. Just make Dua, and look at the family to judge the person.
@arshiabasheer75
4 күн бұрын
Aztaghfirullah!!!!!!!
@user-dx8wm2oj7w
8 күн бұрын
These five traits sound like every Westernised woman.
@amatulfulani6390
2 күн бұрын
Wrong. That’s a generalization. People have diverse personalities regardless of what part of the world they are in. It’s not a Western/Eastern thing.
@naimaismail4356
2 күн бұрын
@@amatulfulani6390Thanks for bringing out logic. Many naive people, have this belief that western women are all bad and eastern women are good. That’s not how life works. It’s a person to person thing.
@ilianvv9327
13 күн бұрын
All women have all these charecteristics 😭
@arshadmahmood2579
13 күн бұрын
As Salamu Alaykum which is why the brother mentioned at 2:30 (around) as long as it doesn’t go out of the norm, because that is what makes women women.
@arshadmahmood2579
13 күн бұрын
By norm I think the brother means the sisters do have these characteristics but as long as they’re discipled and fear Allah then it should be fine so they can control them and actually appreciate what they have and look after the home and not fall into sin because of the nature
@arshadmahmood2579
13 күн бұрын
Like for example the brother said women love beauty (and men love looking at it) but what is extreme and what you should avoid is that they get so preoccupied that they forget their family and first and foremost Allah which is what the brother in short said
@arshadmahmood2579
13 күн бұрын
However the brother did say if the marriage is good then keep it, keep in mind both sides have to be good. The man and the woman
@naimaismail4356
13 күн бұрын
Untrue
@Kuzon13
9 күн бұрын
But how can one know if she has these characteristics before marriage? Only maybe the overly talkative trait will be visible before settling in. The other 4 is a gamble. Sure you can ask subtle and leading questions to get a read on her, but people always show their best side when dealing with new people.
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