Please listen and leave me a review on Spotify or Apple Podcasts 🤞🏻. Let me know what you thought! Should we prioritise exploratory therapy for gender dysphoric people?
@alisonholloway6726
6 ай бұрын
Dr Hakeem is saying all the things I say, especially around music culture. I was a New Romantic and all the men were beautiful to me, they dressed so well, wore makeup and did their hair with piles of hairspray and colour. They worked hard on their look, and broke all the manly man rules. It was an amazing time for men and women. Men can be beautiful, wear makeup and be non comforming, yet still men. What an excellent guest. I will be watching this at least twice and sending it to friends.
@JackxJewell
6 ай бұрын
Thank you so much 🙌
@non_ideological_transexual7414
5 ай бұрын
feminist boomers 🙄 dreaming about old days, may be enough for some but it is a far cry from what life transitioning allows and a much larger dating pool. The oldest lie that society accepts very GNC children, if that were the case we not have developed gender dysphoria or had all the issues attached to it we do.
@justanumber9053
12 күн бұрын
Yes, as a girl in that era, I thought the men were beautiful too. I had the biggest crush on Adam Ant.
@Shahrdad
5 ай бұрын
Gay men have called each other she/her forever without ever thinking that they were talking about a woman.
@JackxJewell
5 ай бұрын
I always think about this point. I need to understand what, if legally, we refer to natal sex, is the argument from some GC feminists on the implications of using pronouns apart from their desire and autonomy not to. I agree that should be respected.
@sebastiancrowder459
5 ай бұрын
And I hate that. I hate even more when women do it to us. The sad thing is that they use "girl" as an insult to straight-passing gays. Being a woman is beautiful, it's just not what I am.
@nitemvres2749
5 ай бұрын
@JackxJewell I think most gay men do so do it whimsically, and others do so in a way to "take back the power" from when they were bullied as boys being called "girls", "he-she's", "sissies", etc. I think for many it's a way of acknowledging that they prefer to express themselves in a stereotypically feminine way without thinking that they are supposed to be the opposite sex. You may also have others who prefer to think of themselves as "girls in boys bodies" but instead of feeling dysphoric about it and wanting to change their bodies, they enjoy this perceived "mismatch" as a unique way of walking through life. I'm sure most GC feminists won't appreciate these possible explanations but at least they are more of a private experience that don't involve these gay men entering female only spaces.
@Shahrdad
5 ай бұрын
@@nitemvres2749 Agreed 100%. It's a whimsical thing where gay men celebrate their feminine side without every thinking they're women or that they belong in women's spaces.
@pickupmygroceriespeasant
19 күн бұрын
@@nitemvres2749 I’m gender critical and I love this. I still feel bad about using the pronouns that people don’t prefer, even after becoming GC it still made me feel like I was being mean. But this take on things gives me a reason to use preferred pronouns without feeling like I’m indulging TI men’s desires to enter women’s spaces or be legally recognised as women. The feminine pronoun is exactly that - the FEMININE pronoun, not the female pronoun.
@pickupmygroceriespeasant
19 күн бұрын
I’m autistic and a detransitioned woman. My experience resonates with so much of what Dr Hakeem is saying. I was traumatised due to being severely bullied at an all-girls school and associated being female with something bad. I had autoandrophilia that eventually developed into full blown gender dysohoria in part because of this experience. I had the black and white thinking of “you’re either affirming me or you hate me” and got angry and defensive whenever people challenged my identity. I’m extremely lucky that I didn’t have any surgical interventions. It’s terrible that I was allowed to take testosterone at all, let alone for as long as I was (which was 4 years). It should have been a requirement for people with my presentation to have extensive talk therapy before any kind of medical intervention. I wasn’t even diagnosed with autism until several years after I had already detransitioned. This system is a disgrace.
@ltlwlwl5057
17 күн бұрын
❤❤❤
@hospitalsgivingpatientsdan8894
17 күн бұрын
Femininity in males is different to being female.
@jonathanedwards984
2 ай бұрын
A great conversation. I wish more people would talk to Dr. Hakeem. His discovery that there is a link between autism, asexuality and the desire to “transition” is fascinating and should be investigated further. I had a lot of behaviours as a kid that are now considered symptoms of autism (I have never bothered to be formally diagnosed). When I hit puberty I developed crushes on a few guys but had no curiosity about sex until my late teens. There does seem to be an over representation of “LGBT” among people with autism. As gender ideology has been propagated in the education system people with autism (an increasing number) have identified as “trans” especially non-binary. That label would have made sense to me at 14.
@JackxJewell
2 ай бұрын
It certainly makes sense if you feel alienated from the ‘human experience’ and then conclude this means you’re the wrong sex / neither sex.
@jaynemacklyne1462
8 күн бұрын
À really good, thought provoking video. The association of autism and transitioning was very clear. So much detail, exploration at a deep level. The influence of social context wasn't skipped over. Wonderfully dealt with. No intrusive interviewing, so very informative and so accessible without a trace of sensationalism. Thankyou
@JackxJewell
8 күн бұрын
Thanks for watching!
@MultiLlewis
4 ай бұрын
My boyfriend when I was 15 was so vain about styling his mid-length hair he used a can of ellnett hairspray a week. It never occurred to him or me that he wasn't male. The 70's were much more liberal than today.
@annaxyz5132
6 ай бұрын
Great interview, Jack! Hope to see more conversations like this on this channel. You’re a very engaging and switched-on interviewer and asked some really interesting questions
@JackxJewell
6 ай бұрын
Aw thank you! I had so many burning questions trying to make sense of it all. Could have continued for much longer.
@TheDeadofNightAmbience
5 ай бұрын
Fascinating interview. Absolutely love this channel.
@JackxJewell
5 ай бұрын
So glad you enjoyed! 💜
@jm162
9 күн бұрын
The New Romantics were my era and my thing...I totally get Dr Az's thinking on this - particularly about the autistic "you have to believe what I am because I believe it" rather than letting people think what they do and having your own thoughts...
@honberg193
6 ай бұрын
I do think as the mainstream sexologisrs agree, one should always undergo exploratory therapy. That's what used to happen.hes also correct now trans is the new emo, or goth
@chase-brown
5 ай бұрын
Learned a lot from this conversation and happy birthday, Jack
@JackxJewell
5 ай бұрын
Thank you! 💜
@lannguyen-pu1db
14 күн бұрын
Why aren't they making room for the Detrans in the LGBTQ....group? They should have added a D for the detransitioners and let them join the parade if they were really "inclusive".
@stephanie06-9
9 күн бұрын
It isn’t necessary. They’re either an L, a G or a B, and included as such, or they’re heterosexual cross dressers and don’t really belong in the gay pride movement
@andrewunderwood4570
19 күн бұрын
Thanks Jack for bringing Dr Hakeem on this was really interesting. I wish more of the so calles gender clinics had a Dr Hakeem in them.
@annukkakiviranta4356
5 ай бұрын
Welcome to Finland. We have only one pronouns for both male and female ""hän". I do know this pronouns thing is serious matter in english speaking world - but I have my popcorns. Love your channel btw
@JackxJewell
5 ай бұрын
Thank you! I’ve heard this about Finland actually. I hope it stays in the realm of reality for you guys!
@annukkakiviranta4356
5 ай бұрын
@@JackxJewell we keep it calm, because it is so fucki***g cold here.
@chase-brown
5 ай бұрын
Same thing in Hungarian, which is also an Uralic language. We use *ő* for everyone.
@thehitcher7044
6 ай бұрын
I think you are right about gay voices on this Jack. Really appreciate your videos!
@JackxJewell
6 ай бұрын
Thank you 💜
@annukkakiviranta4356
5 ай бұрын
Dr Hakeem to Dr Phil Show. He is spittig the truth.
@honberg193
6 ай бұрын
Prior to 2015, only around 15 mainly boys presented on average at the Tavistock. Which is true,
@jm162
9 күн бұрын
"...no body is wrong...and if it's a mind thing then let's help with the mind...and let's not just chop bits off..." is EXACTLY the right treatment!! My friend's 50+ year old lesbian sister is now Trans-M - I think it's because they are from quite devout SDA's and the sister decided she felt better about being a "man" with a woman than a woman with a woman...sad. xo
@JackxJewell
8 күн бұрын
💔
@RossH-bu3rv
Ай бұрын
I absolutely love Dr Hakeem's jewellery.
@colleenfoyn9921
4 ай бұрын
Great video Jack!
@SteveRoot-r8r
23 күн бұрын
Thanks!
@JackxJewell
22 күн бұрын
Thank you! 💜
@cosmickilroy
3 ай бұрын
Wow!! This man is awesome. So glad you had him on. I’m thinking I have to get his book. I think sexuality is different than sexual orientation! But many of my gay or bi guy friends definitely had absent or less than present dads or ones that were not great to there. That’s something I’ve heard before. BUT think of how people often want to be with someone like their parents as well!
@Joy-gx8fq
5 ай бұрын
This was an excellent guest to have…a great listen. It’s also nice to have a commentary that still has a little wiggle room if that makes any sense lol.
@JackxJewell
5 ай бұрын
Thank you 💜
@pointingfigureinblack
5 ай бұрын
Dr Hakeem is hunkish 🙊
@Peneloppqueen
3 ай бұрын
omg i felt the same
@chrismills9620
14 күн бұрын
The rings 😄
@honberg193
6 ай бұрын
He's correct regarding follow up. Once your eventualy signed off, which in the UK was 3 years after SRS. You are no longer a statistic. What is observationaly evident is. 95% of those that use the term " trans " transitioned to some extent within the last 5 to 10 years. Leaving the 5% or so between 1960 and 2015. When trans really got political 30% of those of the early onset, and 70%, non homosexual subtype. Are the stats quoted by Blanchard. I do question some of his assumptions regarding evidence. Just because someone blends back into society. Doesn't mean that there is no evidence of its effectiveness in treatment. I also question the autistic claim for " transsexuals ". Autism is a disorder around social interaction. Historically treatment was given, primarily to improve ones social, and in many their sexual interactions i.e HSTS, but the same can be said of the other group, if severe enough. Dr Az, is also gay identified, he statement regarding HSTS is his opinion, and not that of the independent , but gay identified. Dr Cantor, Bailey and even Blanchard. What ones taste in men, and how ones orientation exhibits it's sexuality, was clearly described by these experts from their studies. GD kids don't don't know their orientatiin till puberty . Dr Az, is also heavily involved in LGB alliance, which is ideological by its own admission. Mental group membership opposite to ones sex. Is the disorder. Not ones sexual orientation. Dr Cantor and Dr Soh support the evidence that the early onset transsexuals brain, is pushed further in the opposite sex direction than gay men. That can result in gender identity disorder. For the few as adults. They are left with few options. Very rare. There as some homosexuals who claim to have GD, but don't. For them it's all about being ignored by gay men for not being what a gay man wants. They are observationaly very different, usualy attracting gamp men.
@JackxJewell
6 ай бұрын
From what I've read, from Dr. Soh at least, there is evidence of feminised brains in the HSTS transexuals, but they are no different from regular gay men, so it is impossible to know if that has anything to do with causing GD, or if it is just correlated.
@cormorant12
5 ай бұрын
Yes, and that's why there is debate within the HSTS community, with those who see themselves as truly trans with gender dysphoria wanting to be distinguished from opportunistic gay men or "drag queens with extra steps", the latter courtesy of Kay Brown.
@cormorant12
5 ай бұрын
The "true trans" are quite resentful of Bailey's "y'all are transitioning to get laid" argument. He got accused of being a homophobic straight man who was too clueless to understand the complexity of the issue (and if you listen to Bailey's interviews, it does become evident he's not one for subtlety). Even Blanchard was not too fond of Bailey presenting it that way in The Man Who Would Be Queen.
@honberg193
5 ай бұрын
@@cormorant12The HSTS community? The Trans Community. These are a modern online community. Where people apear to identify as things they may or not actualy be? Who Blanchard defined, and interviewed doesn't automatically translate to someone who calls themself HSTS. Those he saw and treated were wishing to fully integrate. Today anyone who is clinicaly homosexual, who got caught up in the new gender world. Calls themself HSTS. Some with disastrous consequences who later de transition. Kay apears to be the historical type. Genitaly Avoident, had surgery and settled down in a heteronormative relationship. The studies have always defined less dysphoric individuals who in some cases the distinction between transsexual and what some would call, transgender indivuals is sometimes not so clear. It apears to be a matter of intensity and societal acceptance, early in transition. Unlike AGP, there is a great deal of self awareness to outscomes/passabity, and especialy fear of transition. Which would of been much higher the further back in time. Only a few decades ago, one would of lost employment, family, and any possible support network. The True trans is still more about idenity politics within those communities than actual " same sex attraction " most from dipping a toe in those onmine communities, are either shemales, or autosexuals who, hate being such, or communities looking for gamp men, and not fully straight men. Mike Bailey apears to agree now.
@honberg193
5 ай бұрын
@@cormorant12 I wish you well, but, I'm unscribing to this channel, and I won't be commeting further. The debate has gotten too toxic, and I've got a life. Gay identity politics, trans identity politics, GC ideology. Its all leftwing ideology gone to to extremes. I would suggest you do the same. Lead your best life 🙂
@cuteanimalseverywhere7620
6 ай бұрын
He described Sheldon from Big Bang Theory perfectly with the autistic asexual (except for the trans bit!)
@rosemarybockner
4 ай бұрын
love u both, thanks so much
@JackxJewell
4 ай бұрын
Thank you too!
@andrew3347
4 ай бұрын
Not the point of the video, but Az is so handsome.
@ditta7865
2 ай бұрын
There are awesome people in England, some who have moved to England to live and some who are English who are gay who are speaking up against all of this. It's just people are keeping them quiet. I know in the beginning it is hard to find them, especially in England. Mr menno I can't quite remember if he's Dutch or swedish, but he lives in England and he has his own channel where he speaks up against this and he makes little songs parodies of all of it. Gareth Roberts a screenplay writer and wrote for Doctor who. A gay man who has recently released a book and he tries to get on as many KZitem channels that will let him speak about his book which is literally saying his opinion of what gay was throughout his years and talking against this trans nonsense. He was also on a gay KZitem channel. Dr. Az Hakeem is awesome and I have seen him on many KZitem channels.
@JackxJewell
2 ай бұрын
@@ditta7865 Yeah I know Menno and I’m eager to read Gareth’s book!
@ditta7865
2 ай бұрын
@@JackxJewell Oh I forgot James Dreyfus is speaking out he's been in a lot of interviews
@maureenparnaby1912
Ай бұрын
Fast becoming your stalker Jack. Great interview! And nice that you don’t interrupt! But I couldn’t take my eye’s off Dr Az’s rings! I’ve just realised hat I have his DeTrans book on my Kindle!
@Oendikla
5 ай бұрын
what happens to the transsexual AGP type if they don't transition?
@JackxJewell
5 ай бұрын
Some have mild agp feelings so can live happily whilst enjoying the sexual interest in private. Some will probably get help therapeutically if it becomes a disorder to help them manage their feelings/dysphoria. I assume some may recover this way. Some may continue to struggle if it is very bad and they don’t get the right help I guess. I think there are likely cases where it is so bad, they will struggle without surgery. It is all anecdotal stuff I’ve ready though so I’m not qualified to say.
@sincereley_michael
6 ай бұрын
Hey Jack, youre as handsome as always! I hope you have a great day ahead!
@dakota-sessions
6 ай бұрын
sexualities are NOT caused by trauma.
@sincereley_michael
6 ай бұрын
My comments get deleted 😒
@dakota-sessions
6 ай бұрын
@@sincereley_michaelI hate that.
@JackxJewell
6 ай бұрын
I don't delete your comments! How do they get deleted?
@sincereley_michael
6 ай бұрын
@@JackxJewell apparently KZitem deletes "offensive" comments. I might have shared my experience in an explicit detail.
@Greggah
6 ай бұрын
Theres been experiments on goats and sheep where you could imprint goats to be attracted primarily to sheep if you switched their flock, so why not humans? That sexual abuse as a child is correlated with certain behaviours growing up is well studied. Its pretty obvious you are just reacting from a emotional or political standpoint, rather than thinking the idea through. Nobody needs to outlaw homosexuality or treat them bad, but yes, being sexually abused or maltreated as a child might cause issues with your sexuality down the line. I always get this feeling many leftists cant think in the grays that life actually concists off. Meanwhile conservatives can argue for caring for children to avoid difficult sexualities, AND want homosexuals to have decent lives. I have four very close gay friends, I can want to wish for their well-being, while simultaneously seeing that their many mental issues(homosexuality is strongly correlated with other mental issues too) was likely from a upbringing that wasnt really optimal. Not a single one of my gay friends has parents that are not divorced for example.
@ltlwlwl5057
17 күн бұрын
❤️🤍💙
@sebastiancrowder459
5 ай бұрын
I feel like gayboy femininity exists on a spectrum... I, too, was different from straight boys, but I didn't hang out with girls. I liked visual arts and sports. Even today my best friends are usually geeky straight guys while some gay men love female friends. I think the level of anxiety around males in childhood may have to do with levels of adult gender non-conformity.
@JackxJewell
5 ай бұрын
There’s also a lot of masculinity shaming which is really damaging for straight men I think. It doesn’t promote healthy masculinity and creates either incel like men, or actual ‘toxic’ men. Obviously not the only factor but a big party in my opinion
@sebastiancrowder459
5 ай бұрын
@@JackxJewell I think men need some form of social structure that most women don't need. Men have very high leves of testosterone running through the veins, so all kinds of shït can happen. Some feminists, particularly liberal ones, push men to be emotional, but men's emotions are way more aggressive than women's. They are asking men to be animalistic and don't know it. You end up with violent and unproductive males that scare their kids and wives and have nothing to teach their children.
@Peneloppqueen
3 ай бұрын
im pretty similar minus the sports, i never felt like i fit in with the girls or the guys in a lot of ways, but i just hung out with whoever i did feel comfortable with regardless of what they were
@M00nGlitz
17 күн бұрын
If the dude wants to be taken seriously he's got to lose the rings.
@richalderson6069
13 күн бұрын
Yep, what is THAT all about?!
@thefudgejudge6962
16 сағат бұрын
Well..which head...
@xmaseveeve5259
3 ай бұрын
Same words, like a script.
@non_ideological_transexual7414
5 ай бұрын
How insulting gender dysphoria is not ideological concept , it's not delusions or visions though some agps have those with their form but it is not G/D in the same sense. Too bad the Dr does has a vested interest and ignores why some would want the choice to opt out . Almost no cosmetic surgeons have the skill level to do SRS well which is functional ,they need to do better with standards like any other complex surgical speciality . BTW one of the reasons why it's hard to do follow up studies is because everyone i know has gone stealth, from 23 to late 50s transitioning decades ago that is the norm . This is about self determination not keeping people in the LGB, most of just like heterosexual men better & more sexually attractive to us.OUR CHOICE "i didn't want the outcomes to be sex change" , " Only 2% of my patients transitioned" What a monster it's not about you
@JackxJewell
5 ай бұрын
Despite being a 'non ideological transexual,' you're blatantly misquoting him, which is easily falsified. He said he was a 'neutral' space and did not try to convince them not to transition, nor to transition. He explored their feelings and their wider bio/psycho/social reality. Saying only 2% transitioned is a fact, not making it about him. It is an important fact, as it suggests there may be other, less invasive ways to help some people. Medical treatment is not just about 'my choice.' Would you not prefer some people don't become medical patients for life yet still happy and at peace? Medicine has a duty to 'do no harm' and provide care that is evidence-based. Not being able to follow-up on patients is a major problem, as they have no proof they are improving people's lives or not. If they were able to gather such evidence and found out the majority of people had improved circumstances and health, then that would be a big indicator it should be provided.
@non_ideological_transexual7414
5 ай бұрын
Again Dr. Az Hakeem: "Only 2% of My Patients Transitioned" with a large number of patients with G/D and being very GNC ? please...NOT NEUTRAL .| This should not be a source of pride if the priority of the patients is first . Having a view * better to live gay* as a mode for therapy ignores research showing the shift to brain at the extreme end much better suited to living as the opposite sex and not having to cope with a far less ideal lifestyle and choices, G/D diagnosis has simply been the TRIGGER for a type , a well recognized self selecting cohort with different phenotype characteristics and WELL STUDIED. What i would like is for others to have the same choices i did and to avoid much of the traumas , comorbidities caused by our treatment INCLUDING being in and around the gay community with some of it's abusive men obsessed by sex who have not heard "No" enough because well gay culture ,gay men .🙄 "Medical treatment is not just about 'my choice.' Would you not prefer some people don't become medical patients for life yet still happy and at peace? Medicine has a duty to 'do no harm' and provide care that is evidence-based. Not being able to follow-up on patients is a major problem, as they have no proof they are improving people's lives or not. If they were able to gather such evidence and found out the majority of people had improved circumstances and health, then that would be a big indicator it should be provided." Most all of the these would be corrected by medicalization standards actual gate keeping ,use of decades of cases files. There would be READY current medical histories available if we could do it safely without outing ourselves. Many of us do share & add information to give to specialist and collect data but there is no data base which we have ASKED FOR. We have some specialized long term info that no one has , unpublished but real they just need more case files to add and then someone uncancelable to publish in areas . The problem is no one has the motivation do anything due to politics ( including Hakeem ) we cannot do it ourselves became AGP men run NGOs ,Orgs & then "you guys", Terfs, GCs of whom do not want MORE of us walking around unseen . Lack of follow up is an excuse to shut the door, no one anywhere has tried to change that .
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