"I was not willing to waste a day, and in that I almost wasted my entire life." This line made me tear up realizing I've been through that.
@lalakuma9
2 жыл бұрын
This is so true, I was in a constant state of panic that I couldn't focus on anything when I thought that my life would be over by 30
@rcditti
2 жыл бұрын
I hate how defeatist this kind of statement is. Sometimes it really does take going through all that suffering to end out on the other side.
@RTB1400
Жыл бұрын
@@rcditti Underrated comment. Big agree that sometimes, for whatever reason, folks need to go through the suffering to then see that they'd survive.
@joaoreis185
Жыл бұрын
For me its the opposite i am more than whilling to wast a day and so i wasted the last 3 years. I am just 16 but still i feel like im wortheless and cabt do anything right. Giving up on my goals even before the work has started.
@xFearilx
Жыл бұрын
@@joaoreis185 Dude if you're 16 and you already realize that you have problem and you try to improve by watching dr. K or searching for some self help then you're already way, way ahead of me. Be proud of yourself!
@LorekeeperThal
2 жыл бұрын
The statement "being not able to tolerate frustration" hit me more than I thought
@lunar686
2 жыл бұрын
Dealing with that one is definitely something I’ve got a still learn....But hey if you figure it out before I do please remember this thread somewhere in the back of your mind 😊😊😊
@StarmenRock
2 жыл бұрын
Hey, If the circumstances are awful, of course you wont be resistant to frustration. You're doing your best even though things suck and it gets worse due to a mistake or due to someone else's incompetence... It feels really unfair.
@ethangilbert7305
2 жыл бұрын
it's frustrating, being so frustrated all the time
@Zane-zz5ht
4 ай бұрын
@@lunar686If it's in the context of study or work. Just remember the feeling of frustration basically means your making progress. You'll start to take joy in the frustration knowing you're doing your best and not diverting your attention. Can be similar to delayed onset muscle soreness in the gym when you feel super sore the days after. If you reframe it to understand how much you've accomplished or are accomplishing with that feeling, you grow to absolutely love feeling sore like that. Alternatively hunger could be another one although still comes from a gym focus on cutting. Slight hunger within healthy calorie deficit can be a persistent reminder that you're succeeding in your diet.
@lunar686
3 ай бұрын
@@Zane-zz5ht no idea why you used a ‘training’ analogy...but...thank you for your psychic powers 🙂!!! Didn’t actually realise that there were already aspects of my life I was already successfully applying this to. Not saying I have the tolerance of a gym-junkie, lol I’m a former national athlete actually and slowly learning about all the things I didn’t know that I kinda wish I had known when I was competing, so don’t seem to know as much as the people at the gym doing bodybuilding, lol used to think I was putting my body to the best tests, now I’m learning that there is so much more that can be learned and unlocked (even if I’m not as young and injury free as I used to be, I weirdly like the challenge of what the current version of me can do, plus I get to show off a little by asking coach ‘which’ bicep head he wanted me to build up back in the day lmfao)... So yeah, honestly thank you for that one. Makes it easier to remember and look out for
@anonymone453
2 жыл бұрын
I always interpreted "you've got time" as "you've got time before you need to start" instead of "if you start today, you've got time to work on it"
@BlackOreoCookie
2 жыл бұрын
Holy crap
@levylost8550
2 жыл бұрын
Is that not normal? 🗿
@NikHem343
2 жыл бұрын
Exactly
@desooooooooooooooo
2 жыл бұрын
@@levylost8550 It's more of the wrong interpretation
@montyi8
2 жыл бұрын
Wonderful thought
@bdonbits
2 жыл бұрын
Man… “I was not willing to waste a day, and in that, I almost wasted my entire life” is beautifully profound.
@omarnaasan3536
Жыл бұрын
26:40
@dariovdo3237
Жыл бұрын
I just stopped the video to cry, It has completely changed my view, I didn't know about Dr. K before today and I'm glad I found him
@-SimonRiley
Жыл бұрын
@@dariovdo3237me too. I knew about him but always procrastinated cuz the video's were too long. Meanwhile I would watch hour long videos of my fav entertainment youtubers. But I am so glad I built up the motivation to give it a try and just kept on going because I kept on finding solutions to my sufferings and what was not letting me do it, helping me along the journey
@procrastinathor4594
2 жыл бұрын
I finally realize why dr. K timing is so perfect... it's because 99% of his videos are relatable to something we are doing wrong and we try to be better so of course the timing will be always perfect.
@ric6611
2 жыл бұрын
Confirmation bias is probably at play here as well. I'm sure there are a ton of times the video's timing isn't perfect, it might be about a problem you're not struggling with particularly at the time, but you don't think much about it. When they do relate to something you're going through at the moment, you think the timing is perfect. Most of these issues happen over long periods of time, too, so there's a higher chance that a video is about something you're going through.
@FreshApplePie
2 жыл бұрын
there is no timing the video just happens to remind people of their struggles
@skipmanghondarg
2 жыл бұрын
at this point i feel like you guys are just ignoring people's post at the beggining of each video :/
@mr.orange6990
Жыл бұрын
Agreed! This video hit me in the right time.
@ae831
Жыл бұрын
what
@lasagnakob9908
2 жыл бұрын
I just realized that the "mind" in this case, is basically your inner child. It wants to do anything but be serious, and like a child you might raise irl, you have to consciously create circumstances where they have to do the one thing they never want to do. The child will cry, lash out, say mean things, and get clever to get what they want, but ultimately it's up to you to stand your ground. Thank you Doctor K for explaining the "mind" and "self" in a way that I could understand, and hopefully, get shit I want done, done lol.
@Herosoyyo2
Жыл бұрын
People usually say "monkey mind", emphasizing the restlessness of it. Both aspects are important, but I like your child analogy for emphasis on the devious / manipulative aspects.
@pianospeedrun
Жыл бұрын
i taech kids the piano and they can't stand the boring slow repetition... Even if that's really the only thing you have to do to learn pinao, get your mind muscle memory on point xD They get so restless and manipulative, indeed just like the "monkey mind" I had never thought about it... Usually what i do is I try to change the piano instrument (to violin for example) and add a dummer so that they don't get bored Anyway now i find it creepy how children are basically raw "minds" going around and about...
@sidonelmet6501
Жыл бұрын
@@Herosoyyo2 Personally, What I like te most about the child analogy is how, in relation to the child, the self would be the parent. And in a way, that gives me more clarity about how I should treat my mind.
@renosance8941
Жыл бұрын
Beautiful analogy.
@UserName-bs8eu
Жыл бұрын
@@sidonelmet6501 Parent can be another aspect of the mind, potentially just as harmful as the child. Most common situation is the normative parent, which is your mind telling you what you should do with little regard for what you want to do. Of course very helpful, but can lead to shame and anxiety when the shoulds are impossible to fulfill. The self is usually referred to as the rational adult, which makes sense for both of the relationships it should have with the parent and the child.
@mrblok1992
2 жыл бұрын
Takeaways: →Acknowledge the different parts of you (the self and the mind). → Hard reset : delete the options of productive & dopamine and reduce it to work & boredom. → Analyze whether the productive action is scheduled or an antidote to boredom. → Check what is driving your action through self introspection. → The self has to overcome the trickery of the mind. → Sometimes you should be willing to waste a day so that you don’t waste years.
@EmilyAllan
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this. Very helpful.
@themagnificentorange672
Жыл бұрын
Thx man
@TheMarmadukian
2 жыл бұрын
He's talking about the studies with schizophrenia, I am living proof of how it can work. I got schizo about 10 years ago, and spent about 8 of those years doing nothing much, not having motivation to do anything productive or positive or in any way live life(it's called avolition). But now I'm in therapy and I'm working on these variables and my life is totally different. I'm exercising, doing hobbies, meditating, cleaning, *actually showering on a regular basis*, and tons more. I felt hopeless for so long and now it's insane how much better I feel and how much better my life is.
@seekingfinding6204
2 жыл бұрын
This is wonderful! Great job!
@shaxter
2 жыл бұрын
Wow that's amazing. Keep going
@bubble313
Жыл бұрын
I'm so happy for you and for you the progress you've made! For real this is amazing
@stefc4663
Жыл бұрын
@themarmadukian this is really inspiring! Thank you for sharing. I'm curious what some of these variables are?
@hayleymahaney
Жыл бұрын
"But we're gonna waste the whole day!" "Let's do it." hahaha love this. Treat your mind like a kid throwing a tantrum.
@togfanatic3781
11 ай бұрын
maybe its a kid , not literally
@asparrow9876
3 ай бұрын
@@togfanatic3781 It most definitely is a kid. It wants what it can't have, it's highly egotistical, it always wants what it wants right now but if you ask it what it wants it'll never know. I could go on & on but we get the gist. 😂😂😂
@SimGunther
2 жыл бұрын
Heard plenty of times that boredom can be the problem AND the solution. The real solution here was to mold the environment so the "productive thing" was the only thing you were allowed to do when you were bored. If that means not having an internet connection and only having a single program on your device that lets you do the work you need to do that you must be, so be it. If the work is something you're absolutely passionate about, the challenge is reasonable enough to push you to your limits, the reward is immediate+obvious and points you towards doing even better work, and the time constraint is just enough to force yourself to do absolutely nothing but that task, that should be a recipe for flow perfection. Flowmadoro (modified tomadoro where you count up time instead of count down and the break is equal to the time working divided by 3) should do wonders with this kind of environment.
@Olafaru
2 жыл бұрын
so say i did 21 minutes of work, would i then have 7 mins of break? and then 60 mins of work, I would have 20 after that? does it have to be the same each time
@RaoBrandon
2 жыл бұрын
These stories from the community have been so helpful I am starting to feel like they are reading my mind ...
@florkiler6242
2 жыл бұрын
almost every time I'm like: huh thats a problem I should probably look for some drK vids about that" tey pose the exact video I was going to look for. they have
@martinnhantran
Жыл бұрын
15:40 ‘So when my dad was in medical school he had a rule for himself. That if he didn't feel like studying, and he taught me this rule by the way if he didn't feel like studying he wouldn't study. He was allowed to sleep as much as he wanted to, he was allowed to sit there and do nothing as much as he wanted to but those were his only two options besides studying. That's it nothing else.’
@simbian5900
2 жыл бұрын
I was doing that "I will stare at a wall until Im really bored" and it really works...I should start doing it again, since obviously more people think thats a quite good strategy
@PrestoJacobson
2 жыл бұрын
“The self is held hostage, or the mind is held hostage. Right now the mind is holding you hostage!” Thank you for this reminder.
@mora8612
2 жыл бұрын
How is Dr K's timing always perfect. I was just thinking about my problems with focusing
@meowzord
2 жыл бұрын
Same, I am literally editing a website and making minor changes while this video is playing.
@AguaBendita77
2 жыл бұрын
SAAAMEE
@monolith_g
2 жыл бұрын
Never not exactly what I need to hear
@beanoptodon
2 жыл бұрын
Literally, I'm starting another monthly class today and I'm already like "wow I'm having to do all these things and I can't focus on the actual important thing."
@PabuQQ
2 жыл бұрын
I've been asking these questions for like 10 years😢😂
@notreallyici
Жыл бұрын
Ah, this makes so much sense. Before the pandemic, when I had a physical work environment I was obligated to go to, I only had 2 options at work: work or be bored. The layout of our office was open air, so all desks and computers were out in the open and you were surrounded by your coworkers. If you were tempted to play games on your work computer or go on your phone, you'd probably get weird looks and feel socially out of place, so those 2 options - "productivity" or "dopaminergic" weren't actual options for you to partake. You were forced to do either work or nothing. And that's why I was actually productive at work and why my productivity is shot working from home. DAMN.
@eugeniebreida1583
Жыл бұрын
Oh yes, you've nailed it. And I have been self employed all my life, with a rare hired hand/"co-worker" to create the frame to stay focused. So I didn't work for the Man, but I also didn't work for myself, really, but for my 'mind', once the strong wish to please my paying clients started to wane and retirement lifestyle became more the norm (started working from home - final nail)
@jryce
Жыл бұрын
10:37 Frontal Lobe 11:36 Work v Boredom v Productive v Dopaminic 15:25 Power of Boredom 15:41 Tunnel Vision or Idle (Boredom) 18:39 Productivity not framed as Off-Track 20:32 Sitting with the Self (Our Thoughts & Emotions) 23:53 All Roads Lead to One Place (Not Work) 25:58 The Mind is on our side, It just needs to Trust 28:43 other: A Pure Self in Existence
@aneedfortheory
Жыл бұрын
This bloke is legit. Hard-hitting truth but needed to hear it. Feeling frustrated, lack of confidence and restless due to a resistance to getting stuff done. Glad to be a part of this network.
@iSoryu
2 жыл бұрын
I just started writing my last 2 essays for university and my deadline is on the 9th and then this notification hit, guess who is not doing their work right now 😫
@schmoferino
2 жыл бұрын
Here's a tip: set a timer for a small amoujt of time. 15 minutes. Maybe even 10. For those 10 minutes, ONLY prioritize the important stuff. Get started on the essay and add a little more to it. Once it's over, take a break and do something else for a bit. Come back afterward and set the timer again, and do it from the top. It helps me pretty often.
@ケルニコ
2 жыл бұрын
Mine is 15th. I'm gonna continue tomorrow for sure.
@iSoryu
2 жыл бұрын
@@ケルニコ I'll hold you to that! I made some progress today and I'm hoping to continue that through tonight but I'm working a lot this week so hopefully in my downtime I can get some more done :)
@ケルニコ
2 жыл бұрын
@@iSoryu Hi mate, I've got two hours left today, but I wrote a page. Although my mind brought me here :D So I gotta get back. Hope you're doing fine ;-)
@iSoryu
2 жыл бұрын
@@ケルニコ i forgot to hold you to it! But did you continue the following day? My essays are due in 2 hours and I'm very nearly finished 😊
@HeyItsLights
2 жыл бұрын
reminds me of when I was in HS. i had a big art project I kept putting off because I didn’t think it would turn out good. my art teacher said “I’m giving you the weekend but it has to be turned in Monday, finished or not”. she was actually being nice and giving me more time bc it was already late. so my mom makes me sit down at the table and I wasn’t allowed to do anything except paint. it was barely worked on. i didn’t wanna do it at all. but guess what? eventually I just started painting because of boredom. i ended up finishing my whole painting (it was pretty big) and turned it in that monday. the look on my art teachers face that morning lol she didn’t think I’d finish it, hell I didn’t even think I would. it ended up being put into a college art contest and I won 1st place. someone even offered to buy it from me. definitely gonna start practicing this method more! ☺️
@Vstrum
2 жыл бұрын
Thanks for the real world example!
@ahmaddynugroho
2 жыл бұрын
what a nice real example. i also need to apply this to my life
@flhourbud
2 жыл бұрын
This was very heart-warming to read, and applicable to my situation as I'm in an art related degree :') thank you
@kimberlymarciniak1751
Жыл бұрын
That's a great mom! I am glad for you. Thanks for sharing that.
@ferdsmand_
Жыл бұрын
As an artist, your experience is the best example and that's nice ~
@user-se3sc8gl7c
2 жыл бұрын
This may be the single most important video I've ever watched. I'm going to take these lessons to heart and change my life.
@studyinginthedesert7690
2 жыл бұрын
Dr. K has been fundamental in getting me to stop wasting my time away. The best takeaway I've had is to turn down the valence of and my exposure to the things I would fall back to for dopamine dumps; to just shut them out. Then the joy of doing things that used to be boring slowly bubbles up. I come back to his videos for continued encouragement and confirmation, but otherwise I'm essentially doing what I always wanted to but never could bring myself to.
@kyle88l
Жыл бұрын
This explains so much. When i was in elementary and high school, the teachers would make you sit there in boredom OR do your work. With that motivating factor I was an amazingly focused student. Once I got to university and professors and friends were not concerned with what I did, because it was my responsibility, my focus drastically fell off. And I ended up easily distracted by games, and literally anything else. Fast forward to 34, and I still play this chicken game on the daily. Really insightful
@TC-8789
Жыл бұрын
I think that last 5 minutes is really critical. Believing you can do something generates motivation. As soon as my brain fog lifted and i could think clearly and plan, i could see a path for myself, which created belief in myself to follow through, which created motivation.
@emmawanjiku4533
Жыл бұрын
That resonated with me.
@Pagaan4
Жыл бұрын
I want to say thank you. I’m a scientist in my 40s still struggling with these issues. I really appreciate the groundedness of your guidance.
@Chrisdfoust
Жыл бұрын
Thanks! It’s exhaustive for me to try and stay grounded. It’s like I have my own little world in my head, and I find myself almost exclusively day dreaming. I used to enjoy it, but I find it getting darker and darker. Now it’s like a “daymare.” Anyone else experienced this before?
@thefatcat87
Жыл бұрын
Yup I do. All the fucking time. Escaping into grand mental fantasies any time i sit down to do something important
@smollilbean
Жыл бұрын
I relate 100%. I'm a huge maldaptative daydreamer, it can quite literally ruin your life. Atleast I'm aware that I'm not normal and I'm trying to fix not living in my head all the time.
@nickeyd.659
2 жыл бұрын
I'm a sculptor and artists deal with this a lot. Art block. Creative block. The solution that artists have come up with is just "do more art" (one of them). If you have a commission you don't want to do right now, just get yourself to do something else related to your work. Draw something, sculpt something. Doesn't matter what, doesn't matter how good, it's just a matter of working in order to power through your brain wanting to procrastinate. Do that for a bit and then you'll much more easily get back into the work you NEED to do. In a way that teaches your brain not to go to "play games woooo" but instead go to "art must be done". It's why a lot of artists do morning practices, too. If you have to start working at 9am, then do something else to warm up from 8:30 to 9. It puts you in the zone instead of looking for ways to run away from the zone hahah This can also sometimes tie in with "let yourself be bored". Sometimes you can just fuck around with art. Do some abstract, stupid stuff and at some point your brain switches into creative mode cuz it sees something it likes. And when you switch back into that creative mode you can start working. :D Don't know, just some thoughts. I think that artists have come up with a lot of ways to combat procrastination and creative blocks, and a lot of those techniques can be transferred to other professions, too. The frustration for a lot of artists is that we WANT to do the art but sometimes we can't get ourselves to do it. Which is a strong motivator to find a solution.
@hollyberry86
Жыл бұрын
This is amazing! I love the way Dr K breaks down the “how do I work? question. It’s giving me the “rules” that no one taught me. “Understanding” leads to real change of patterns.
@delightfulsquirtle316
2 жыл бұрын
the last years really made me realize how damaging smarphones and social media can be. To be honest. I think most people would be better off without it.
@maximilianogranifo9650
2 жыл бұрын
It's incredible how much our phones change our life and also how people don't seem to notice it, myself included
@delightfulsquirtle316
2 жыл бұрын
@@maximilianogranifo9650 as someone who loves tech I couldnt agree more. However as I grew older I saw a pattern that these things affected my personally as well as others and mostly not for the best. I love it for the things you can interact with many people and learn stuff but it is a double edged sword.
@throwaway9347
2 жыл бұрын
moderation is key. i'd much rather have smartphones than not due to how much simpler they've made our lives, but moderation should be taught. i wonder what a society that relies on tech would look like if moderation was a key principle everyone had to learn before engaging with technology. imagine if there was an age limit to the access of tech or some moderation test. sounds kinda messed up now that i think about it, but definitely an interesting thought 🤔
@WanderTheNomad
2 жыл бұрын
@@throwaway9347 Your comment reminds me of the "society if ______" meme
@delightfulsquirtle316
2 жыл бұрын
@@throwaway9347 yes, sadly most apps and services these days are build from the ground up to exploit human psyche. The more I grew conscious of this stuff the more modest my behaviour became. But many people do not care and it eats their life away.
@vincidepo
Жыл бұрын
Fantastic and hyper useful video. It explains very well the distraction mechanisms, the "willpower" issues and misleading hypothesis, in particular for ADHD affected brains. Accepting, facing boredom is the first solution key. Perseverance, failure tolerance, resilience, delayed gratification, all the well known keys to success require accepting boredom, and related pain or discomfort. Perseverance is boredom in essence.
@mon0t0n
2 жыл бұрын
I cannot get this to work and I identified two reasons: 1. I need really long to get bored. I can easily sit and do nothing for a weekend (Not going for a walk no music no nothing. I learned this skill through intensive Vipassana retreats) 2. I can sleep and daydream for hours on end. If I do not do the above and just observe, I can slip into daydreams and fictional stories in my mind for basically ever. Does anyone have an idea ? I would be really glad for anything :)
@ravneetrajasansi9094
2 ай бұрын
@@mon0t0n same, I daydream so much as well now
@AskConner
Ай бұрын
Nope guess you’re out of luck
@Chizypuff
2 жыл бұрын
Could be a combination of things I've been hearing/thinking about lately, but I feel like this may be the single most helpful video I've watched on the channel. Being able to accept frustration and not give your brain an alternative. I've always thought of my brain and conscious and 2 separate entities so this actually makes a lot of sense, even in therapy I say things like "My brain wants to tell you this"
@Chizypuff
2 жыл бұрын
I was thinking about back in school when I would sleep instead of going to class, and thinking I would put work beneath boredom on the totem pole- but I realized that I was only sleeping long enough for it to be too late to drive to class before getting up and playing games or watching youtube while feeling guilty instead.
@danofcalifornia1043
Жыл бұрын
I like the idea of not allowing myself to do anything but sleep, be bored or work when I have something I need to work on. As someone with an active and vivid imagination, I will have to train myself not to go there when I'm bored. For me, the period of boredom will have a mindful meditative quality to it.
@ravneetrajasansi9094
2 ай бұрын
Yeah I also don’t know how to stop the imagination and daydreaming
@pokebronyborn
Жыл бұрын
I can't even imagine having that level of control of myself. I simply stop functioning when I get significantly frustrated. No wonder I don't like being alive. I was taught to not waste the day, now I feel I already have wasted my life and all my potential.
@hansonel
2 жыл бұрын
"I was not willing to waste one day and because of that I almost wasted my entire life." That hits hard.
@TehKarmalizer
Жыл бұрын
I instinctively started doing this with my toddler at dinner. She wanted to play instead of eat, and she would become hungry at bedtime. So I told her she could eat, stay at the table, or get ready for bed. I also know “distractions bad”. But I never put together the scope of what a distraction can be.
@philosophicaljock
2 жыл бұрын
I feel like it's not wrong to listen to this at work.
@Am_Ende
Жыл бұрын
Agreed. I am watching this at work currently. Edit: It did raise my productivity
@samirz7
Жыл бұрын
Only if you are not doing it just to run away from boredom 😀
@AyushiShukla-ls9ii
7 ай бұрын
Dr K i was so overwhelmed with so many emotions while listening to your explanations. I was crying and smiling at the same time Imao. I am really sad that i never looked at this way always cleaning it up 😂 thinking at least i am not wasting my day it's been years now! I am so happy and greatful for you for making this so useful info free of cost and i will work on it and gonna join your club with my first salary for sure! Love you so much!! 😭✨
@goman2019
2 жыл бұрын
As soon as K started explaining the mind's priority model, my actual mind became nervous and feeling threatened, even though I myself felt motivated, in comfort knowing it makes perfect sense. It is pretty insane.
@dulappen494
2 жыл бұрын
Man this video literally just changed my life. Without going into detail of my life story, through this video I had a realisation that answered a question that I've been struggling to answer for more than 6 years. The answer has literally been sitting right in front of me for all these years and I've just had that moment where all the pieces fall into place. Thank you so much
@dulappen494
2 жыл бұрын
I've never had a video speak to me as much as this one. I literally feel enlightened.
@Klarified01
2 жыл бұрын
These videos are god sent. They give me a new perspective on everything! I end up forgetting most of it usually, but even the small things that stuck with me help me out :) Thank you Dr. K. and thank you HealthyGamerGG!
@s.b200
Жыл бұрын
PLEASE, as a continuation of this... when you are burnt out and recovering, how do you know how when you can start working again, how much- and which work you can do? Im struggling, and my psychologist just advices me to rest. But my brain gets stressed/restless by longer periods of resting and fatigued very quickly when focusing on work (working as a PhD student). Physical activity helps to a certain point... so I work out twice a week, often take small walks and play games casually during my sick leave. Only to get fatigued by that too + issues with sleep. Im a high functioning autistic with some ADD traits and I have no clue what to do.
@noisegrit
2 жыл бұрын
15:50 yeah i´ve heard about this like 2 years ago from someone else, it was explained very similarly and it was called "dopamine detox". The point is the bar of your dopamine income is passively set too high (from constant stimul through all the "fun" stuff you are doing through the day / week / month / year or lifetime), the dopamine detox then means ur basically forcing yourself to be bored, so your passively high thirst for dopamine will decrease over the boring phase and then even the seemingly "hard" work seems fine and you will enjoy doing it, because the bar for getting the good vibes and enjoyment will be set lower, the enjoyment should lead to that you will also concentrate better. Through the forced boredom process ur allowed to sleep, or meditate or just "to be", but ur not allowed to watch n scroll sh*t, listen to music, eat, beat the meat etc., if ur willing to be really hardcore, you shouldnt even talk to anybody, which for me personally wasn´t problem at all, because i live alone. It helped me alot, since then i dont use facebook and i gave up on most of the other social bullcrap apps that make you scroll for 3 hours straight and watch videos with puppies or some south american dudes building a pool from dirt in the middle of a jungle, since then i am alot more productive and i can get stuff done if i want to.
@alecm4295
2 жыл бұрын
I had heard about your modules but figured they'd cost an arm and a leg like every other module or class people offer online. Absolutely SHOCKED that each module is only $20. Dr. K.... Thank you so much.
@guillermorelobalopez7553
2 жыл бұрын
I had watched EVERY VOD from their stream when I purchased the meditation module. I didn't learn anything new, but it was nice and worth the price having it all summed up and nicely divided and titled. I've already pre-ordered the new module.
@godfryopa339
2 жыл бұрын
@@guillermorelobalopez7553 hi no hmm h by HH j inning u on can be in vacation no hi
@socku5850
2 жыл бұрын
Last night , I was watch John Oliver talking about mental health therapy in the US. How difficult to find the right person. Or how expensive is it. Thank dr. K for some helpful information about various types of issues. Something, when you go to the therapist you don't have a ideas on what topics to talk during the section. Most difficult part of" do something "is starting the thing. Once you start it. It get easier. You can replace "the thing " with exercise, learning Japanese or learning about computer.
@vignesh0208
15 күн бұрын
Thanks. Somehow, you were able nail the exact problems which has, for quite a number of years, prevented me from getting anything significant done. I can only hope, to put these teachings in practice, to improve myself.
@vesperannstas
Жыл бұрын
First five-ten minutes, I didn’t know if he was going to say anything. I kept watching because the comments sold me. SO worth it!! I learned so much in the second half of this video. Thank you so much!
@WhiteTigerFox
2 жыл бұрын
this is insanely like mind breaking to me?? i feel more aware of the mind being “in control” so often. This was so helpful ty dr.k i am going to try ur methods out
@TurnOne350
2 жыл бұрын
@Daniel Morgan Jr bro….
@hunterwashere6242
2 жыл бұрын
@Daniel Morgan Jr lol, brutal
@jazmynlikethetea_0.0
2 жыл бұрын
@Daniel Morgan Jr lmao why r u so invested
@nikslit2690
Жыл бұрын
The breakdown of how the person would operate during the day, then calling it a day after cleaning, then going straight to games is a perfect picture of me on some days.
@vazzaroth
2 жыл бұрын
Edit: Well I should have watched "How the World Makes Us Depressed" first, lol. Dr K delivers, yet again. Has there ever been a more realistic, grounded, rational human being on this earth??? I'd like to know WHY to focus. I find it hard to buy in on the idea that the effort needed to make more money than a normal person can make working a standard white-collar job while being a consistent worker is worth the time for the money. I'm 32 and I make 50K a year in IT w/ no degree, just 10+yr exp, yet I can barely pay rent. I'm moving back to my parents with my wife next month b/c the rental economy is so crushing in California... and not even the popular places. A mostly rural place 5 hours away from anything else. But I ALREADY feel maxed out, constantly down or defeated, feeling like I'm drowning in debt and always JUST scraping by. We had to put our cat down instead of get surgery b/c of the funds just last week. So my other option is... what, become an entrepreneur and 'hustle' 60hours a week for a CHANCE to maybe make more money eventually, all the while going against my values, interests, personality, and previous life goals as an introverted nerd? Screw that. If there's another point to focus, I would love to know, but I just don't see it currently.I have a hard time understanding what is being suggested by 'life advice' besides this, at least under capitalism. Not everyone WANTS to be an entrepreneur. It's not fair or OK for that to just be the end-all be-all of life. And it wasn't always (and still isn't in other countries) this way. Maybe I want to learn programming and make games, but it's the same problem. I can't afford to quit for my family, and I'm so drained from just scraping by. I try to learn but it doesn't go TOO well (ADHD), and, at best and most realistically, I could see making a mobile game in a year or two that gets me like a few thousand in ad revenue over years. I can't see how I could equal 50K/yr by following my dreams with focus ever, really. To join a company, I'm back in the same boat. Having to move to a super expensive-to-live place just to make more money doesn't seem like a winning preposition to me. Everything is just WAY too risky anymore because of the psychotic apocalyptic wealth disparity we have and the increasing funds to simply live, as A/C is becoming required, water is becoming scarce, landlords are evicting people at the drop of a hat, etc. I love Dr K and this video is good, but (And this is prob beyond the scope of a psychiatrist) I think that most life and financial/career advice out there in 2022 discounts the fact that the environment and economy is so suppressing for a normal adult, at least in the US. Chaotic instability is not a very great time to be taking risks to improve your life, p. much the foundation of society.
@halloy5021
2 жыл бұрын
I agree! Well formulated and an important point. It's very easy to get swept up in motivational speakers and think that you have to hustle, but a lot of us simply don't want to become entreprenaurs. As you said so succinctly I feel like it's important to zoom out a bit and realize that the system is working against us a lot of the time.
@gam3rman0924
Жыл бұрын
Leave cali first no matter what u do they tax tf out of u. Some states dont have state tax im sure that would help a lot and since ur it u can prob find a remote job
@rachelgilbert3164
Жыл бұрын
I love how you don't talk down to anyone or judge anyone for not having motivation. It's honestly so helpful!
@Lukasek_Grubasek
2 жыл бұрын
A year ago I wouldn't be able to apply this to my life, but now after watching this channel for a while and learning all these awesome things I actually live by what's presented in the video and this information is kinda trivial to me. That's nice :)
@NikHem343
2 жыл бұрын
Means a lot to me to read that actually. Sometimes you start to doubt if it can actually work.
@Lukasek_Grubasek
2 жыл бұрын
@@NikHem343 I'm glad it gives you hope. Remember that you brain needs time to change and adopt and if you keep at it you'll see results
@elsh332
Жыл бұрын
I just sent this to my best friend. Your videos are so helpful 🎉
@AuthenticJourney
Жыл бұрын
You are the king of “Let’s break it down” First person I have come across that really breaks it down to the smallest atom possible. I love it. You’re a godsend. Thank you. ❤
@swanglabory8436
2 жыл бұрын
Sometimes, Dr. K says something so profound, I have to go back thirty seconds just so I know I understood what he said. That last 2 minutes seriously changed my perspective on relationships and who I “know” can get with, and who I “think” I can get with. Insane
@MandoCarlrisian
Жыл бұрын
This might be the single most powerful better self video i have watched out of all the powerful self help videos holy god. Super accurate
@TaKyraMoonlight
Жыл бұрын
My problem is that I will sleep 😭 I will sleep for 18 hours straight.. then I gotta eat… so I gotta cook.. then eating makes me want to sleep…. And I will sleep.
@thekingoffailure9967
Жыл бұрын
Yes Dr K fails to realize is that if I have "nothing" to do, I WILL sleep. Endless slumber is what I do best!
@annekedebruyn7797
Жыл бұрын
@@thekingoffailure9967 Thats where forcing yout to stare at your book, paper or whatever else you have to do comes in.
@meowmixd583
Жыл бұрын
This just taught me SO MUCH about myself. Thank you! Also gave me flashbacks to taking until 10pm on my writing TAKS test in highschool because I just “didn’t know what to write.” More like I didn’t want to, so my brain played the longcon. Nothing like having a teacher beg you to just write anything at all so they could get home to their family. The man was almost crying pleading to me to just write anything. I was crying too though. Lol. (I hadn’t been medicated for my severe ADHD yet at that time. That came the next year thankfully.) So glad I’m not in school anymore, but I find the same thing happening at work right now with some content I have to write. (My job has nothing to do with content - I did not choose this task for a reason! 😂) Thank you for this video. You explain everything so, so well! At least I know why I can’t start this content yet - I need to do more research so I feel more confident in writing anything at all! Gives me a place to just start. THANK YOU!
@alejrandom6592
6 ай бұрын
27:32 "Holding yourself hostage? You're not holding yourself hostage. You are holding your mind hostage. [...] Right now, it's holding YOU hostage." That was just beautiful
@josefdubisar5115
Жыл бұрын
I also came up with this method myself - to just sit and do nothing until I feel like working. But I thought it was stupid and didn't endure long enough. Now that you explained that it is not completely stupid, I'll try it again for real now. Let's see who can wait it out, me or the "mind". Thank you Doc 🙂
@Glown499
6 күн бұрын
@@josefdubisar5115 hey did it work for u?
@tahani146
10 ай бұрын
Every single word you said is true, I don’t want to believe that my brain trick me to do nothing all this time😢 thank you to show up in my first page 🙏🏽
@Bassdriver
Жыл бұрын
This sounds great. Problem is, whenever I try to do what I should be doing and remove all distactors, my mind begin to wander. And if I really force myself... I fall asleep. Almost automatically.
@mrs.quills7061
2 жыл бұрын
A very interesting take to a common problem. We need to experience states of boredom and doing nothing more, and I like the use of I either rest or sit and do nothing if I cannot do this. We’re so overstimulated and trained to do fun things that reward us, that when we have to do not so fun things it’s harder to get through the grunt work. Often sleep deprivation can cause us to procrastinate too, especially if we’re overworking. I’m going to try to implement what you said because I need to retrain my brain. I also recommend for those struggling with this to check out the channel, struthless, he’s more art focused but talks about procrastination and ways to combat it. I realized I procrastinated on a lot of things for years because of my fear of failure or because my basic needs weren’t being met (sleep, food,etc.) it’s helped a lot. I can still struggle with things but I try to analyze why I’m behaving like that and sometimes all I need is a walk to clear my mind. I think getting to the root of it helps, currently I’ve been having trouble focusing, but I’m in the grieving process and working with my therapist on this so I’ve been giving myself slack. I’ve really been enjoying your discussions lately, especially the call ins of people asking for help, they’ve been very beneficial to what I’ve been dealing with. Not that I haven’t enjoyed your topics in the past, but they really hit home for me, so thank you for that!
@ケルニコ
2 жыл бұрын
Self: I'm gonna do what's called a pro gamer move. Mind: What's that? Self: Absolutely nothing! Mind: Surprised Pikachu face.
@WanderTheNomad
2 жыл бұрын
Sans was right all along
@kleddo3126
2 жыл бұрын
Fight Nothing with Nothing
@The-Athenian
Жыл бұрын
This video literally made me go from unfocused to focused. Incredible trick.
@incanthatus8182
2 жыл бұрын
Oh yeah, we've been starting to do that when we're depressed! And sometimes we just sleep for like 2 days straight and stare at the wall for another one. But it gets us out much faster than desperately trying to do *something*
@KidCatYT
8 ай бұрын
The best 39 minutes I've spent watching a video. I'll be playing this on repeat for sure!
@FriendlyAC130Online
3 ай бұрын
Ok I know this is about focusing and what not but the “All roads lead to one place section” is amazing insight for people with addiction. My example was a short 2 month run with meffamphet, and along the way I realized, every excuse or feeling or urge my brain would come up with to do more, was leading me back to avoiding the struggle of quitting. After that realization it became nearly trivial to see the patterns and avoid them. Still hard work but just thought I’d share
@Nekotamer
2 жыл бұрын
this is the advise i would have wanted 15 years ago.
@riki4644
2 жыл бұрын
better now than never
@alexrusu7608
11 ай бұрын
Thanks! actually got some work done by allowing myself to stay bored instead of finding distractions
@AudsLecker
2 жыл бұрын
Ahh this reminds me of the "monkey mind" they talk about in meditation. Little monkey just wants to play around and do its own thing and absolutely never wants to sit still, but the practice of meditation is like "training" the monkey
@DhavalPateldp
7 ай бұрын
I've found a fairly simple solution for focus and getting the hardest jobs done during the day and end the day with higher energy than the start. Its 30 min pomodoro which everyone knows but its the rest time which is important. I wfh so i close my eyes and rest(if outside or office try break room) whatever you do..DO NOT DOPAMINE DEPLETE with social media or scrolling. Only slow activity..making coffee etc. i did 3 sessions of these and instantly feel like i got lots done and recall memories better, killing it in meetings etc! At the end of the day...i had so much energy for socialising/working out etc and my mind stayed soooo calm. Trust me try a few sessions and stick to it daily for focusing!
@riveteye93
2 жыл бұрын
how does this man know ALL of my internal dialogue I was supposed to be a special, unique snowflake dammit
@riveteye93
Жыл бұрын
@FlyingMonkies325 yeah, it's amazing. We are all so different, yet everyone is also human, and it's so grounding to learn what is necessary for all humans too be happy and healthy, and what you, an individual, need on top of that. I've been watching Dr K for a year ar now, and I can confidently say that I'm a much happier, and a much healthier man that I was before I've learned about him.
@raerae725
Жыл бұрын
Exactly!
@DonutDoch
Жыл бұрын
I really need to inplement this advice. Every time i try to do work or even think about work, my mind always goes the opposite way and I always give in to it. The cycle repeats and I get more and more frustrated and self-loathing at myself
@kearstenmarquez904
Жыл бұрын
I've found just giving myself something I enjoy for awhile actually helps me get out of the rut of not doing what I need to. If I don't have a constant stimulus I sleep. I'll sleep for 20hrs. I'll daydream for just as long. Deprivating myself of rewards doesn't fix this. If I can start I can often get through quite a bit, before taking a break. Regulating work and reward helps. What you're pushing contributes to burn out.
@BeautyMarkRush
5 ай бұрын
I have a very similar rule to dr. K's father's "I either do X or do nothing" rule. In summary: • I have a schedule • I don't fixate on "start" and "ending" times, only duration; • My weekday has 3 different major parts and to each one of them I assign a "category"; • Each category can have only one task at a time and have it's own duration; • I don't start anything else in the same category until I finish what I was doing first; • I can only start the next category if I've completed the assigned duration for the previous one • I have a "junk day" to keep myself sane. For more details: First, I know that, bc of my mental condition (I'm neurodivergent) and probably bc of childhood habits (my parents would often say "you can't have a new book/game unless you finish the last one"), if I start anything new, it's hard for me to put it down, sometimes even disrupting my sleep routine in order to finish it. For instance, whenever I start a new game, even if I don't really like it, I'll want to play it throughly, unless it's a really, really bad game or if I didn't pay anything for it (so it doesn't give me a sense of "wasted money"). If I start a new game at the same time, even if it's worse than the first one, I know I will only focus on this new one (bc it's a new thing; that's also one of the reasons why online games don't seem appealing to me, bc, essentially, they have no "end"). So, with time, I will forget the controls, mechanics, AI patterns and what I was doing on the first game, and all that will build up to a feeling of "nah, I don't feel like doing it bc it'll be troublesome to start it over". The same goes for everything else. Books, studies, projects, etc. So, whenever I start a new thing, I won't start anything else until I've finished it. This way, if I don't feel like doing it, then I will do absolutely nothing. I will purposefully waste my day in order to not compromise the ongoing thing. Second, I try to have a daily routine when it comes to eating, cleaning, playing with pets, exercising, sleeping, and other daily, physiological/healthy stuff. About cleaning, specially, I try my best to keep the house clean all week, like, for example, doing small cleaning tasks every day (taking out the dust, cleaning the pets' stuff...) and making my best to dirty things as little as possible [reusing the same glass for the day, taking shoes out when getting in the house (yes, like the Japanese tradition), etc] Third, to compensate for the first point, aside the daily routine, I separate my day in 3 major parts: work, personal (hobby projects, studying) and leisure time. I think of it as "equipment slots" and I can only have one thing going on in each slot. So, if I'm reading a book (leisure), I won't play games or read other books, or watch tv series/anime. But I will study (personal) a certain topic related to a hobby or career, and only one topic. Once I've finished this topic, then, and only then, I'm allowed to start a new one. The same goes for work (and I kinda lucky here bc my boss and coworkers know and comprehend about my condition, so they won't bother me with a new task until I delivered the other one first, unless it's urgent and there's no other option). Fourth, I have a schedule that doesn't have fixed hours ("time-centric"), like "oh I work from X to Y hours everyday, then do something else from Y to Z", only fixed durations ("duration-centric"). The reason why I chose this way is bc I realized that a "time-centric" schedule would make me really, really stressed out (and thanks to my mental condition, it would be really bad), like "oh, I'm late to do A" or "I can only do B from X hours to Y hours, so if something happens that interrupts me during that time, like an emergency or blackout, I'll get mad bc it will disrupt my schedule". Fifth, the way my schedule works is that, aside the daily routine, the 3 major "equipment slots" are allocated one beside the other in weekdays. The rule being that they each have their own duration and I can only do the next thing if I do the previous one first for the said duration. For example, if I have to work for 8h and study for 3h, and have fun for 1h, I'll dedicate 8h into working, not counting breaks, and only when I've finished the 8h, I'll start my personal projects for, say, 3h. Only then I'm "allowed" to go to leisure time. To "balance" things out, sometimes, say once in two weeks, I give myself a "junk day", in which I do nothing of productive all day. I play all day, I sleep all day, I hang out with friends all day, I stare at the ceiling of my bedroom all day, it doesn't matter, as long as I can relax and not worry about a single thing the whole day.
@starstenaal527
2 жыл бұрын
What if your mind favours boredom over work? Or rather, what if I can't be bored? I often find myself just sitting in front of the book and thinking about interesting stuff instead of working.
@matthewvillanueva4420
2 жыл бұрын
There's another video for your situation. But from what I can tell, the basic idea is that you dont allow your mind to get away. It's either do the specific task or do nothing. You dont daydream, you dont think about interesting things, you just sit there and exist till your mind chooses to continue the work and not be distracted. It's a similar concept to dopamine detox. Except this time, you wont even give it the benefit of daydreaming.
@preferstobesomeaverageguy
Жыл бұрын
@FlyingMonkies325 I know that it's late but try to play a white noise in background while you're doing nothing and/or doing the work.
@ravneetrajasansi9094
2 ай бұрын
@@matthewvillanueva4420it’s kind of hard to stop yourself girl daydreaming tho 😭
@caller145
2 жыл бұрын
My biggest tip for writing reports and stuff is that first I let myself write it badly. Sentences can be bad, words don't even need to be real words, sometimes there's even other languages mixed in. That way I get the basic structure and content down and I can edit it later. That helps me combat the feeling that I can't do it and I'm not good enough. I'm not even trying to be good at first so it doesn't matter. It also divides the work into two big stages (three if you count research) which helps scheduling the work better. Like "today I'll write it badly and tomorrow I'll write it well."
@Kimbolie12
2 жыл бұрын
I've often got the opposite problem...I can't seem to stop focusing/working on a specific task once I'm really getting into the flow of things. For example when I'm drawing, I can do it for like 8 hours straight. I look at my clock and see it's already 1 pm and I need to eat lunch. But then I just want to finish this one little thing, then the next...bam, it's 2 pm and I still haven't eaten. Sometimes I'm just like well, it's too late for lunch now anyways so I'll just skip it. I even have this problem with cleaning. I just cleaned my house and thought I'd spend about 30 minutes on it but I kept noticing things that needed to be done and spent 90 minutes cleaning. I have ADHD too and I think at first glance it might look like I can focus on stuff really well, but it's more like I keep noticing different things or getting different ideas and keep branching out the original task until it's this mess of a web I can't seem to get out of.
@UchihaMadara-yc7kc
2 жыл бұрын
So you are a perfectionist who care too much
@dad2827
2 жыл бұрын
From what I understand in ERP, the mind is the thought maker, and the self is the one who gets to decide on how to deal with thoughts.
@eddebrock
2 жыл бұрын
I split my self into three pieces when referring to my inner workings. Me, my brain and my body. For example me and my body hate sugar, but my brain loves it! My brain and my body don't really like meat, but I really like it. We all hate exercise! And so on and so forth.
@ItG8823
2 жыл бұрын
Fascinating I used to do similar concepts such as Mind vs Heart, (Mind, Body, Persona, Heart), The split that you do, (Family oriented, self-oriented, selfless oriented). Nowadays though I'm much more present focused and don't need to do split exercises although I have no ida how common that thought process is I assume it has to do with inner monolouge turning into inner dialouge but I have no idea what is a common way of debilitating with ones self. All of the above is purely anecdotale but I am curious if it is broader that just me.
@facundosoler2200
Жыл бұрын
This taps into my own experience and issues I've been having to get things done or tackle projects that I think I should be doing but getting distracted and doing random chores or playing games
@726Twister
Жыл бұрын
Who else is binging Dr K videos for dopamine when they should be working?
@gavinfinch2393
Жыл бұрын
I’m a professional writer who’s seen a lot of success and I still struggle with this. I don’t know many other professional writers so it can feel very lonely sometimes. But this video was so helpful! It showed me exactly what’s going on and I’m ready to show my mind who’s boss 😊 Dr. K, you’re doing the world a true service by sharing this content for free. Thank you for changing lives, mine included.
@nathanieldwiputra1630
2 жыл бұрын
I'm genuinely interested when Dr. K was mentioning correlation between feeling of self-worth / confidence with motivation. Does he have any video explaining more in-depth about this topic?
@motive-li1do
Жыл бұрын
The error with this method for me is I 'have' "maladaptive daydreaming" so stopping myself from daydreaming is already a struggle enough lol
@Lkabss
2 жыл бұрын
I'm so smug inside for coming up with the "do nothing or study" trick like 3 years ago. by far the most productive week of my life. Did my late work, my current work, and an entire chapter ahead for every class i could WHILE getting 10 hours of sleep in college and keeping my whole house spotless. but I'm also sad because it was kind of torture and I was really hoping for an easier way out.
@flhourbud
2 жыл бұрын
I really want to try implementing this and trying it out. Question though, how did you go about breaks during that time? I'm assuming you didn't just do work for the entire day? Did you do it in a pomodoro-like way? I'm just afraid I'll be completely the opposite and do too much work and burn myself out lmao
@Lkabss
2 жыл бұрын
@@flhourbud yeah pomodoro style. If I was ever feeling fried I just took a nap.
@noellerecoskie3008
5 ай бұрын
This video is definetly a reality check in terms of comingyo terms of how my mind tricks myself, even if its other productive things like cleanjng or exercise, or dopamine searching. As a college student, inwas failing 2 out of 5 classes in my first semester because the freedom i had was taken over by distracting myself by eatching youtube, social media and even going for a walk. I couldnt make myself to study, despite being able to fo to class and my mind could always trick myself into doing something else productive because i cpuldnt be bored. I found Dr. K and this video ib particular which really changed my life and put how i was living my life into perspective. The sentence "i was not wolling to waste a whole day and in that I was wasting my whole life away", is such a powerful statement Thank you Dr. K
@GregGBM7
2 жыл бұрын
Spongebob procrastinating "what not to do at a stoplight" or struggling with "What I learned in boating school is" comes to mind
@lukenester2319
Ай бұрын
This was the most useful video I ever seen
@holo6883
2 жыл бұрын
Take care of yourself like you would of a friend The self is you. The mind is that friend whom you tell to get his shit together and how to do so But the thing is that these two are dependent on each other constantly, so one needs to get in line for there to be unison
@Its_Toko
3 ай бұрын
You are a blessing to this planet dude, I swear
@Khora
2 жыл бұрын
Hi Dr K, could you please talk about intense Hypochondria/Health Anxiety. This shit is debilitating and is the worst anxiety I've experienced. I can't pinpoint a cause other than moving from my country to the US (healthcare system made me feel unsafe). I am back and the hypochondria is at its worse. Thank you
@SomeBody-ce3gq
2 жыл бұрын
What I love about Dr K is he gives actual practical advice. I will definitely try this strategy to focus!
@Dontdoit_
2 жыл бұрын
Can’t focus so I watch Dr. k. Dr. K tells me to put the phone down and be bored. Say less king
@MartinSorensen3d
Ай бұрын
"what will it do when it realizes you will sit there for 12 hours doing absoloutely nothing? it will start working". The realization I got from this just made me chuckle. It wasnt funny, but i think i just experienced happiness from realizing this is something i can control. Thank you so much. Your stuff is so amazing.
@ralunix4612
2 жыл бұрын
What if I told you, I could sleep for days? So nothing will be done. And I can stay on the bedside or chair and look at a wall without problems but still can get things done.
@girish9242
2 жыл бұрын
You might wanna seek professional help then.
@Like_a_lion_979
Жыл бұрын
Omg, I just a half an hour ago said, why I can' t focus? What should I do to focus? And this video came. Something just have clicked inside me, about either you work or does absolutely nothing or sleep. I need to write it down and put it right in front of me. Thank you so much for sharing your knowledge!
@reyne-soundtherapy469
2 жыл бұрын
1000% relate to this! That's why I have to have app/website blockers and make my work environment sterile AF to get my work done on a computer that has a million distractions.
@God-ld6ll
2 жыл бұрын
"Why do you want to focus? Who is it that wants to focus? And what do you want (,or at least what do you think you need)?" A few suggested as a guidance for clarity at least.
Пікірлер: 1,3 М.