I agree with her approach. My experience as a therapist, now retired, demonstrated that it is not an organic process. That many clients are aware of the why but are totally stuck in terms of the how to move into change
@Lanemoons
5 жыл бұрын
I could say DBT is one of the things that truly saved my life. I've been practising it full-time now for the past 1,5 year. I think it's just amazing, astonishing that one can create such a complex, smart form of therapy. It's just incredible. I'm beyond grateful.
@FromThe3021
4 жыл бұрын
Try DMT otherwise you're practicing horticulture and never planting a tree.
@darktoast808
4 жыл бұрын
She is our savior, I just wish that more people would know about this, that's why I try to talk about it frequently within my close circle because even people without BPD would benefit a LOT from it!
@abhijeetaanand2334
2 жыл бұрын
Are you taking therapy?
@Lanemoons
2 жыл бұрын
@@georgegray2712 actually there is a hospital in my hometown that gives the training. It was always with a group of 10 people or so. I really feel that you need that connection with the other participants, you learn so much from that, it makes an enormous difference. In this program, an individual coach is also a big part of the training. I don't think i could do the training properly just by learning it from a book.
@princessruth9155
2 жыл бұрын
🙏🏽🤙🏽✌🏽 I get it. 4yrs of that book for me saved me! So very glad we r here. Aloha.
@ivas1405
6 жыл бұрын
When Dr Linehan said: 'half of my patients when I ask them how they feel their answer is I have no idea, like looking at a fog' - WOW finally someone put in words what me and many others (diagnosed BPD) pretty much feel like every day.. I wouldn't say it's true 'depression' at first, but unfortunately quickly becomes that.
@zsuzsannamolnar1329
5 жыл бұрын
Iva Savic I felt the same way when I listened to her( also diagnosed BPD and GAD), “no idea how I feel”....but the lady who diagnosed me said noway depression as a diagnosis for you, the depression when you feel depressed it’s because of the BPD...
@franceduffoo2867
4 жыл бұрын
Exactly, this is it. You nailed it in your emphasis of this one sentence she said. I don’t think anyone can understand what that feels unless they’ve lived it. It is, in fact, very similar to looking at a fog.
@Soulbloom1
4 жыл бұрын
Me, too. I was like: "Am I supposed to know how I feel?"
@echase416
3 жыл бұрын
Having no words for feelings is called ‘alexithymia’. I can be measured using something called the Toronto Alexithymia Scale (or TAS). You can find out through Google.
@jolenereader5527
2 жыл бұрын
When my therapist would talk about working on an emotion. I often thought of an invisible box. I had no idea what was in it but I had to figure it out.
@HappyEnz
5 жыл бұрын
She is already a legend. Our Borderline Queen😊
@princessruth9155
2 жыл бұрын
She makes me know this is just a human thing we have to do in moments....lol
@transformationalbusinessmi9914
3 жыл бұрын
This emotional disregulation can also come from people suffering from PTSD.
@olivianewman6661
3 жыл бұрын
Also in ADHD and bipolar I think
@moonshayd
3 жыл бұрын
I have CPTSD and DBT really helps.
@jll2001so
3 жыл бұрын
Apparently even in GAD emotional tolerance can be very low. DBT is so helpful to a variety of mental health problems, I wish it was the standard for chronic conditions ^^;
@Dr.JudeAEMasonMD
3 жыл бұрын
Yes. I have C-PTSD and DBT really is helping me manage the emotionality and reactivity of subconscious triggers.
@kateraletcher3476
2 жыл бұрын
Bpd is usually a comorbidity to ptsd
@bluesinsideout
4 жыл бұрын
Thank you God for this woman!!!
@stevesteveson0101
3 жыл бұрын
No thank Marsha.
@HighSpeedNoDrag
3 жыл бұрын
She is damn good and thanks.
@elizakbryant
4 ай бұрын
Amen
@a.p5079
3 жыл бұрын
The dbt skills workbook (I have the green one) is really helpful. It needs to be practiced and actually read for it to work though haha, I’m sure I’m notthe only one who struggles with persistence and resilience in that aspect. But I’m determined to keep going.
@FineFeatheredHomestead
6 жыл бұрын
Thank you so very much for your work! I use a DBT Workbook for PTSD recovery, and today was hit by 5 triggers within a short time. That profound dread hit, and I cuddled up and had a chocolate, took some me deep breaths and got writing. Each trigger, one at a time, with its related cause and background vulnerability. I recalled a then & now categorizing somewhere, and specified that each trigger was from a trauma back then, but now I actually had far more resources in each area, and this calmed me down. Last, I made a list of the 2 problem areas in the now category...and got to work on one today. The difference between where this would have left me, and where I was now able to take myself today is astounding!
@BorderlinerNotes
6 жыл бұрын
Amazing! Thank you so much for sharing this and explaining. I spent much time doing worksheets and they took me to a whole new plane of functionality. Anyway, hats off to you for the work you're doing...
@franceduffoo2867
4 жыл бұрын
Victoria Lewis Good for you, it is so important to write and to know your plan when you have triggers. Proud of you :)
@Ryanlee978
4 жыл бұрын
What workbook did you use?
@FineFeatheredHomestead
4 жыл бұрын
@@Ryanlee978 The DBT Workbook
@AnnaSzabo
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing your practical skills and how your diligence is helping you
@tashahass8597
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you, Marsha for everything you have done to help those of us with Borderline.
@melk.3485
4 жыл бұрын
1:20 - Emotional Literacy 1:39 - Emotion regulation and vulnerability factors 2:03 - Prompting event and interpretation
@darktoast808
4 жыл бұрын
Dr. Linehan, I'll always be thankful to your work and research, as I had never gotten the clarity and help I had until I did a DBT program. Now I know that I can contribute to create my reality and deal with life in a better way. Thank you!
@caelidhg6261
2 жыл бұрын
I am 53. I was originally diagnosed sometime around 1978 with "severe anxiety neurosis" and this one page report could have been out of the BPD playbook. But I was 10. This was even before the DSM 3 came out in 1980. I was then, by 1980 diagnosed with ADHD and put on Ritaline nad Dexedrine. The next decades, I struggled ALOT but no one mentioned "emotional dysregulation" or BPD . I get that BPD is stigmatizing.. but I always felt that something BIG was missing with my diagnoses... in me.. and it was that piece... and now, I feel like too late.. I am broke, barely any money for therapy etc.. so many bridges burned, "friends" lost, opportunities lost... and I never had any of these skills . Just "positive thinking" and other CBT stuff. I had spiritual communities that I was engaged in personal transformation dump me and reject me. No one wants to put up with me. and I am childless, and in a challenging relationship... I don't know if I am going to make it.. I need outside help and there is none really to be had. I have to try and again pick myself up and figure out how to fix all these problems. ..... and I have no money to do it.
@caelidhg6261
2 жыл бұрын
I mean, I wanted to do residential day treatment >Can't afford it. I wanted to do group DBT.. all the classes are full. I am just trying to do some treatment with EMDR and I am stuggling with Co-pays.. it sucks.
@slavicavanovac3977
8 ай бұрын
It is a long way, but I am sure that you can help yourself. In the endeffect it is about emotional learning and learning how to unconcitionally love and accept and feel yourself. Just imagine, you were your own child you love the best you can. Start loving and learning with this child. Be your own good mother. And if you fail, start anew right after that not blaiming yourself for failing. Be patient. Go for it.Good luck!
@christopherpierson8237
7 ай бұрын
My emotions are so high I can't even express myself. Plus it is hard when I'm calm cuz I don't feel anything
@heartspacerelaxations6924
Жыл бұрын
Emotional Dysregulation also comes from CPTSD, and I think that is the common factor in a high promotion of BPD.
@IreneL
Жыл бұрын
Totally agree. Some more deep factors need to be look at. Ii wonder how are the programs? If they address CPTSD.
@riverdeep399
6 жыл бұрын
The UK has very much to learn from this lady..
@dotdashdotdash
4 жыл бұрын
Seronin Aran - most people never get help, funding gets taken away, therapists get made redundant, waiting lists get cancelled, Only wealthy people get any help.
@Eric-tj3tg
4 жыл бұрын
So too do we Americans......clearly!
@Medietos
6 жыл бұрын
Thanks for good info! I learn that emotion regulation is a key to healing only after 35 years of suffering, searching and trying help, very frustrating. Why did o-one teach it me; ? Grateful to have found out about it, just sad to have lost great life time and health, opportunities.
@marinapavli5178
6 жыл бұрын
I wish it was possible for me too.I don t think there s such help I can get in my country or my pocket...
@paulinevereker2426
5 жыл бұрын
I know what you mean, I feel I've wasted almost 30 years. Currently in a dbt program but can't help feeling angry I didn't get this kind of help much earlier.
@darktoast808
4 жыл бұрын
@@marinapavli5178 look up DBT skills, there's ton of resources online nowadays that although do not compare to the full experience, can definitely help you achieve a better life
@premier69
6 жыл бұрын
gonna watch this later. I have BPD so I have so much to learn.
@HappyMomma412
3 жыл бұрын
I hear you. 🙏🏾🌎💜
@jilliank4157
3 жыл бұрын
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@jilliank4157
3 жыл бұрын
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@jilliank4157
3 жыл бұрын
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3 жыл бұрын
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@kilowellness560
6 жыл бұрын
I wish there were more DBT classes Miss. Linehan, here in Ontario Canada theres just a few agencies that offer DBT and I find it really useful from watching youtube and I plan on taking it if I find a resource ..especially emotional regulation..may god bless you Miss Linehan
@BorderlinerNotes
6 жыл бұрын
We also wish there were more resources out there. I think you are, sadly, expressing a common desire / wish of many.
@angelamariarodriguezrueda38
6 жыл бұрын
Its true but remmember that this process are also effective because the guide of a profesional theraphys i know it can be expencive but.. its really worthy !! ♡ wish you the best
@ellemint
5 жыл бұрын
There is a two-year waiting list for the DBT group where I live in Ontario. Very very poor mental health services in Ontario. Always a ridiculous limit on how many times you can see a social worker (like 3 to 6 times), and one-time consult visits with psychiatrists. Mental health services in Ontario are a disgrace, and lack of access causes incalculable suffering.
@darktoast808
4 жыл бұрын
@@ellemint that's so sad to know. In BC there's a waitlist but generally you're able to get into the group (depending on their assessment of your condition due to "limited resources"). I strongly hope you can get the help and particularly DBT, although I understand access is scarce and difficult. It changed my life x
@princessruth9155
2 жыл бұрын
Mahalo amd aloha Marsha. Its been 4 yes of dbt and I no longer think about killing myself everyday. I never understood what "love ur self" means. I like myself amd the next ascension will be effective in different situations.
@diannasanders9267
3 жыл бұрын
We use these videos to aid in teaching acceptance the clients really like this lady, great video
@jngk24
6 ай бұрын
1. Know what you're feeling; 2. Regulate your emotions: factors that make you vulnerable to being emotional (what happenned yesterday? Did you eat? Did you sleep?) prompting event (can you change it or not?) if you can't change it, check the facts (is your interpretation of the facts correct?)
@dianawindham2744
2 жыл бұрын
So good, so helpful! People must be made aware there is help!
@the_80skid
2 жыл бұрын
Being someone who has BPD... and if anyone who has the condition reads this... I would just like to try and balance this out a little... I get what the Dr is saying... but I feel this casts a very negative look on it... that the lows are lows and only lows... and yes... the lows are the stuff of nightmares... but the highs... the highs are out of this world... when you do have moments of love and happiness... and ecstasy... there's nothing like it.... I'm not saying the Dr is wrong or anything... I just feel this is focusing on the negatives and the negatives only... when I've found one thing I need... and other people I know who have BPD is a more balanced stable approach... it sounds cliché... but it's not all bad and you're not alone... but then what do I know?
@laurafulop2486
2 жыл бұрын
I think her point could be “is it worth to have ecstasy - if after that you experience such a suffering”....so perhaps evening out a bit is more liveable....
@terywetherlow7970
2 жыл бұрын
Good point.....highs and lows.....
@princessruth9155
2 жыл бұрын
I wish lol that we could have an indigenous approach also. Itd be so interesting and validating.
@october13ish
2 жыл бұрын
What about people that cannot afford the therapy but have been diagnosed? Watch more you tube or break more hearts?
@sailing9802
3 жыл бұрын
Her memoir is interesting.
@MsArrika
3 ай бұрын
So im 30, i was diagnosed with BPD in 2017. Ive noticed i handled stress and frustration and negative fwelings increasingly worse as time goes by. Idk wtf if going on but it kind of scares me..
@Luis-qr8gc
Ай бұрын
Someone please advise me. I seem to be, in my opinion, on the opposite end of the spectrum of how I handle my emotions. They are so easy for me to turn off or to ignore and thereby stop feeling them. I intellectualise often in order to stop feeling angry when I am triggered. I distract myself from some feelings when I do not want to feel them. When I feel a certain strong emotion, such as anger, and I feel it in my body, acting on it still feels very much within my control; so much so, that I am really convinced that either my reasoning mind will convince me to do otherwise, or I will act out my anger so as to release it; but that I get to choose which one of these options I will make; it isn't a total control; sometimes I do snap. I often think about how I can improve my life and what I can do concerning non-self-improvements and self-improvement topics. I am not a very spontaneous or artistic person, though I do appreciate the beauty of the natural world and human-art. One of the thoughts I have had multiple times in my life is that it is better to be the way I am, or to be as I aspire to be; which is very much in control of my emotions, than to struggle to control one's emotions. So often people with less emotional self-control acts out in a way that makes their life more difficult or undesirable for them. Their actions seem to be the opposite of wise actions. How can they be wise if they do not act wisely? I desire for other people to have a very strong emotional self-control too. I am convinced that many people would suffer much less in life if they could be a little more easy-going and be able to control or shut down some of their emotions such as anger and self-pity (along with the action of crying) or find a different way of experiencing them without lashing out at people around them or complaining to others about effects that resulted from their lashing out at others. I do not feel superior to people who are emotionally unstable. I do not feel that I am better than them or worth more than them as a person. I only believe that it would be better if they were more like me concerning emotional self-control. Someone tell me if I am mistaken, and why, if I am mistaken.
@nomdeplume1358
4 ай бұрын
came here cause i was about to cry and i didn’t know how to calm myself (my bf’s running late)
@herbieshine1312
6 жыл бұрын
I have BPD and started DBT a few months ago, September?! I think it's helping but would be interested to know others experiences. thanks in advance
@evahabermann8344
6 жыл бұрын
Can you find me on facebook? (Eva Habermann from Berlin) I will contact you to someone, who helps you.
@evahabermann8344
6 жыл бұрын
oh well, just write me a message vvehela@gmail.com :) God bless
@angelamariarodriguezrueda38
6 жыл бұрын
Im from colombia and the truth is dbt basically changed everything in my life, is a strong process at the begining it was hard and got me tired the most of the time because it needs a lot from your side but .. in the moment it stared to work everything just went easier and better than ever i finished my whole dbt process a few months ago and its being awasome.. ♡ i wish you the best in your process ,patiente overall and a lot of selfcompassion !!
@sunnygirl87
5 жыл бұрын
Tiny changes add up.
@Citrusfruits50
6 жыл бұрын
I am in DBT... not sure if it’s really helping me either...
@angelamariarodriguezrueda38
6 жыл бұрын
Glue Sniffer thats a common feeling at the begining but have faith!! And you will see the changes when tou less imagine. Wish you the best♡
@laurafulop2486
2 жыл бұрын
Takes years of therapy....
@sunshine39707
3 жыл бұрын
Thank you!
@jcomm120
2 жыл бұрын
How many grade schools are teaching these techniques to kids ?
@rubyanaya126
Жыл бұрын
Thank You 💕😊❤️☺️💟☺️💟❤️☺️💟☺️💟
@brol2026
3 жыл бұрын
There's a state before that fog that can be beneficial
@lorree1
3 жыл бұрын
Nope, totally impulsive. Well, to me.
@alexandretzermias8027
3 жыл бұрын
Hello! I'm a DBT therapist from Brazil and would like to translate/put subtitles in portuguese for that and other Marsha's videos. Can you allow that type of edition? Thanks!
@AnnaSzabo
2 жыл бұрын
KZitem stopped allowing that feature
@laurafulop2486
2 жыл бұрын
@@AnnaSzabo a fellow Hungarian in the DBT therapy....
@Lorjamonvid
3 ай бұрын
Can a treatment for general anxiety disorder with escitalopram turn the disorder into some kind of BPD? Because I had GAD, and now I'm feel emptiness, I cut, I do impulsive things and then feel confused, all began when I started with lexapro. By the way, I'm seeing a doctor.
@marcyallison5996
6 жыл бұрын
I have bpd but dbt hasn't helped me much.
@BorderlinerNotes
6 жыл бұрын
I don't think DBT is in anyway a panacea. If you can find anyone versed in Mentalization Based Therapy, I think it is very effective in dealing with the interpersonal challenges BPD presents. As well, if you can find a group or treaters with whom you really connect and who are offering up ideas that interest you and inspire you to explore... anyway, that might be a good litmus test for a direction to take. For me, DBT was useful in understanding the architecture of the diagnosis, but other modalities (like mentalization based therapy) really dug deeper for me into the challenge of deconstructing my own thoughts and feelings (as well as being curious about other peoples') experience so that I could begin to redirect my behavior.
@Powergirl838
6 жыл бұрын
It probably won’t perhaps mentalization or schema therapy might help
@clairethemermaid8048
6 жыл бұрын
I really struggle with DBT ...comming up to 3 mths in and my 1-2-1 seems intent on making me quit.. telling me its not for everyone. Have no rappor with them ..
@karenbruno9887
2 жыл бұрын
@@BorderlinerNotes names of practitioners in nyc?
@gerardmcnally
Жыл бұрын
I know alcohol is effecting my progress, but it's hard to cut back further again, catch 22.
@cathywyman8103
Жыл бұрын
What can one do if they can't afford DBT. Is there anything you can do on your own?
@raplopez4258
10 ай бұрын
Please make Spanish subtitles
@heinzmathias241
4 жыл бұрын
Links for Experimenting with Check List!!!🤔
@Fla540
8 ай бұрын
Can any one explain what is meant by emotional regulation in simple words or synonyms
@shelleycharlesworth5177
Ай бұрын
NOT overreacting - staying CALM when you experience distress!!
@sagevicario-watson9288
2 жыл бұрын
But how much does it cost to learn these strategies
@AnnaSzabo
2 жыл бұрын
The book is $15 on Amazon I’m learning for free at home It’s a WORKbook, you do the work
@TheMercilessEye
4 жыл бұрын
The mindfulness angle is a dead end, for a lot of people. She's only offered a partial solution.
@echase416
3 жыл бұрын
Mindfulness involves observing without judging. People stay in suffering mode as long as they keep judging. Also Suffering = pain + non-acceptance.
@TheMercilessEye
3 жыл бұрын
@@echase416 I have news for you: Life = Suffering. Period. Acceptance is the LAST thing you want, if you want to try to improve conditions. Also, Tolerance = Enablement. You wouldn't have your nice little cell phone if people just accepted relay drums.
@shahilagh
2 жыл бұрын
@@TheMercilessEye yeah.. easy for people to come and comment on others. I just remember monet saying ppl act as if they understand my art but in fact they don’t need it they only need to love it. So ppl act as if they understand others lives and situations whereas they could only be a helping hand. I remember a mean person who wanted to give me a gift- the first after knowing me 10 years!- and that was the book by Mayo clinic about chronic pain. And I had already told him I. Don’t need it but he was insisting. This is reality of human beings they just want to force what they feel it is okay to you
@TheMercilessEye
2 жыл бұрын
@@shahilagh "Nothing is the world is more dangerous than sincere ignorance and contientious stupidity." ---Martin Luther King.
@shahilagh
2 жыл бұрын
@@TheMercilessEye yea and I add:) wanting to force their ideas to others as if they know all contexts and situations. I don’t like the other comments from the other person that suffering is pain and not acceptance. Even though I have chronic pain myself and can reject this but I don’t like it not for myself but for the sake of others in a sense that I don’t allow myself to judge others pain and if they accept they don’t suffer. The person instead of judging should just work on developing their empathy or just not saying any thing that can hurt someone in pain . Have a nice day!.
@РоманКузнецов-с7ы
3 жыл бұрын
princeroyce
@cassandrababalola2801
6 жыл бұрын
Is dbt only for people with borderline?
@BorderlinerNotes
6 жыл бұрын
DBT can be useful for many diagnoses, including basic living challenges. It's likely to help even the healthiest of people.
@caseywrad4430
3 жыл бұрын
For everyone it should be taught in school
@AnnaSzabo
2 жыл бұрын
@@caseywrad4430 exactly
@jksynth
8 ай бұрын
Grandma judy looks like is using an aluase and never went to college.
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