the autistic side of youtube feels so safe. i’m glad i got here
@nattokki
3 күн бұрын
Yess
@Octopus2480
8 сағат бұрын
What do you mean by safe?
@glibsoap
25 күн бұрын
i find it super hard to feel love, its super weird, sometimes i get it and sometimes i randomly lose it
@doctorlucasp9113
22 күн бұрын
it used to be easy, I lost it after getting disappointed and hurt enough
@Direblade11
16 күн бұрын
Idk if that's just an autism thing to be fair
@SqualidsargeStudios
15 күн бұрын
Never had it myself. Its strange but oh well
@Valorantplayer2727
14 күн бұрын
Quality over quantity right I've only got abt 1 real best friend and a couple college friends. I get what you mean about connection. Like I don't feel it either but I look out for them and make sure they are alright
@Valorantplayer2727
14 күн бұрын
7:19 do you mean you feel like they understand you so you feel like you can love them?
@MillyKKitty
17 күн бұрын
It is also apparently common for autistic people to be demiromantic and demiace for this, where the feelings come ONLY after a deep emotional connection.
@Axwabo
14 күн бұрын
can confirm for myself, demiromantic asexual here 😄 one of my friends is also autistic, he's demisexual being aromantic and/or asexual can be due to hormonal differences for some people, but i'd say it's mostly caused by our (as in people with autism) different view on society it's important to mention that not all autistic people are on either (or both) the ace or aro spectrum, and not all aro and/or ace people are autistic
@Cuprite1024
13 күн бұрын
Not 100% sure if I'm autistic or not (Definitely am considering it as a possibility tho, need to get diagnosed), but I *am* demisexual and demiromantic. Lol.
@Axwabo
13 күн бұрын
@Cuprite1024 Yeah, it's good to get a diagnosis from a doctor on whether you're autistic Maybe don't tell them about your identity. Some people tend to suddenly change their opinion after they diagnose someone, saying that "you're only demi bc you're autistic." 🙄🙄 And congrats on ending up being aroace 🥳
@Benzeel
13 күн бұрын
IT IS?? this explains a lot 😭 im gray aromantic demiromantic, and demisexual EEK
@zartexkrontaculys1097
9 күн бұрын
People really coming up with the wildest words to describe themselves these days
@woodookitty
21 күн бұрын
fellow autist here. I'm the type of person who loves too much and too deeply but has trouble expressing it. for me I don't feel like anyone is a friend unless there is a super deep connection so I just... don't have any friends. Though I've had friends in the past but over decades you get hurt, people die, things change and you start to grow numb because you can't express the pain in a way that is neurotypical. I grieved the loss of my best friend of 14 years for over a decade now. it was so painful that when he passed I would have dissociative episodes and meltdowns almost daily for years. I experience things much more intensely than others i've met or discussed with but my affect doesn't show it sometimes. Other times i cannot contain the emotional response.
@pauline_f328
17 күн бұрын
I can't imagine what experiencing this kind of loss must be like. Like, I can _imagine_ it, but I assume the real thing must be much worse How are you faring nowadays? (If you're ok with talking about it)
@foxliasgriffinYT
14 күн бұрын
i feel you i havent experienced such loss so far, but theres been betrayal and death within pets n such i absolutely prefer close connections, otherwise i just dont see it as a friendship
@dilypopp
14 күн бұрын
I understand completely. I’m not autistic, but I have borderline personality disorder. The two are often misdiagnosed for one another, due to their similarity. I’ve been grieving my baby brother’s passing for over a decade myself. I still dissociate and find myself in that state for hours. My emotional regulatory capabilities are that of a child, and my emotional strength and swiftness which they change is enough to cause chronic mental distress and even suicidal ideation. It’s a very common symptom of my disorder. I’ve had a lot of friends with autism to rough the years, just because we can relate to each other, and when I first got all of my diagnoses (OCD, BPD, generalized anxiety, social anxiety, depression, sensory processing disorders, oppositional defiant disorder, and ADHD) she affectionately told me all those symptoms together sound like diet autism. She then laughed and went on to tell me that she’s glad we found each other and can help each other feel less alone. TLDR; my experiences are so very similar, it’s quite crazy. I wish you all the best.
@i3ignorantidelweb43
11 күн бұрын
I deeply relate to this but I’m on the logical side almost always so I half relate and half not. I also had a friendship that lasted 12 years and it’s the only loss that I suffered from but never expressed it
@raposaquecomemiojo
3 күн бұрын
I actually relate to that so much. I'm sorry for your loss and I hope you recover well.
@ULTRAK1LL3R
22 күн бұрын
Hi, 15 year old with autism here, diagnosed since birth As someone who has autism, I just relate to all of this, not just this video, but all videos you made on autism. In my school, people know I'm autistic and act like I'm a friend to them or they compliment me thinking I'm just simply better than everyone. But I know for a fact it's a lie. They always praise me for doing just basic things like walking or getting a math question correct or anything basically, like they think I dont usually do these things or think I'm hardly even capable of doing these basic things, so they congratulate me when I do them Seems like it's just compliments, but the thing is: I already know how to do those basic things, it's basic, it's easy to do, but since I'm autistic, they act like I don't know how to do those things and I just hate it. Also referring back to when I said they act like I'm their friend, they act friendly one moment then just purposely exclude me the next moment just because of my autism, they think like I can't do shit. What pisses me off is this: If they know or at least think I can't do something now, WELL THEN WHY DON'T THEY FUCKING TEACH ME SO I KNOW IN THE FUTURE??? Even my mother sees my autism as nothing but a disadvantage, every time she meets some people like my new teachers for next school year or smthn, she always tell them something along the lines of "he's autistic so you might wanna guide him or smthn" SO BASICALLY MOTHER JUST WANTS TO BABY ME OR GET OTHERS TO BABY ME? I JUST WANT TO FEEL LIKE I CAN ACTUALLY DO SHIT IN LIFE BUT APPARENTLY SINCE EVERYONE WANTS TO BABY AND GATEKEEP ME BECAUSE OF MY AUTISM THEY WONT LET ME WHY CANT I JUST FUCKING LIVE LIFE NORMALLY? anyways thats my vent
@solar_potato
20 күн бұрын
omg bro i feel you, im not autistic but thats actually real, maybe try telling ur mom that she should stop telling everyone that your autistic, and and that she should stop telling them to “guide you” or something. I can tell ur mature. I can sort of relate because i kind of see this happening with another kid in my school. He’s not autistic, but he has a heart problem that makes him stinky, and he cant run, has incredibly low stamina. Everytime he does something normal, everyone is like no way or something. But its kind of the opposite for him, because he likes it, believes it, and smiles, he becomes happy when we do that. We dont mean no harm to him, we include him, and we like him as a friend. He doesnt have a problem with it.
@shipposterton
19 күн бұрын
this is why i dont tell people about my mental illness
@BookWyrmOnAString
17 күн бұрын
Autistic 19yo here, the term for this is "infantilization". People do it a lot to us and it sucks :( I wanted to say you are not alone, your struggles are real, and it does get better.
@Direblade11
16 күн бұрын
Best thing you can do is tell people that they're assuming you can't do things, and should just let you learn since you're capable of that. People will be prejudiced, so that's about all you can do to constructively move forward
@nick_nt7574
15 күн бұрын
For us people who are on the spectrum: we're going to be treated differently from the typical individuals, it's inevitable for all of us. My mother would mention about mine to other people when I eavesdrop in conversations. I know I shouldn't be doing this, but it's insulting to me how she can freely do that without repercussions. It's not to be talked about unless I say so, you know? I felt so insecure and self-hatred about it for a while, but then accepted it and made myself a joking matter just to live with it. The insults about it won't hurt me, unless you're trying to purposely harass me. We suffer the common fate: loneliness, lack of social interaction, you name it.
@andyfloss.
24 күн бұрын
Man, I wish I wasn't so shy in public, my mind hides my personality and it makes me into a pretty much mute person. :(
@glibsoap
24 күн бұрын
Try over and over, you will get embarrassed so many times but one day you'll be a pro
@ivymarimo1631
15 күн бұрын
I hate when you want to say something but your brain switches to "SOCIAL MODE, YOU AREN'T ALLOWED TO EXPRESS OPINIONS, SHUT UP" and you can't control it
@cometisV2
15 күн бұрын
@@ivymarimo1631 i hate when i want to bond but my brain switches to "NORMAL MODE, YOU AREN'T ALLOWED TO INFODUMP, BE QUIET" and i'm too anxious about upsetting the people i'm talking to to control it
@marzannaluna
8 күн бұрын
Me too! no matter how hard I feel I'm trying I'm always the quiet one wish I could fix it
@itsbtwnyouandi
2 күн бұрын
this is me... except lately ive become semi comfortable in things like stores except i MASK so badly im just totally not myself. so im not super ultra shy anymore but im still not myself and its still tiring. ougfh
@serenadams8588
15 күн бұрын
emotions based off logic was a perfect way to put it, even down to it coming from behavioral issues from emotion dysregulation as a kid😭
@CHRB-nn6qp
12 күн бұрын
Whenever I meet someone new, my brain is trying to categorise their personality. It makes forming new friendships stupidly hard because I end up feeling like I know everything about them pretty much immediately. I know that there's more to them than my categorisations, but that mental barrier is a bitch.
@angeldude101
11 күн бұрын
It's not uncommon to see things trying to place emotions and logic as opposed to each other, but my autistic experience has been that the two are heavily intertwined and actually reinforce each other rather than opposing each other.
@Samantha-vlly
2 күн бұрын
@@CHRB-nn6qp Perfect description I find it good to me because forming a friendship is a serious thing to me and I choose the people wisely in my life. Also, it reflects with common peers you interact, I’m selective with the people I talk and interact with.
@judahawesome775
24 күн бұрын
Living like this is so annoying, especially in an urban area where people have little to no human consideration at all. it’s very hard to go through life when people only see you as a bumbling idiot.. It hurts man.. it hurts..
@conconic7414
20 күн бұрын
Im not autistic but a lot of my friends are and I get lumped in with them. My parents are very straightforward and they simply told me that people don’t like being friends with autistic people and if you treat someone with autism with respect it could help you in the future. It did help me in the future when I got jumped in the lockerroom and 2 of my autistic friends had my back
@madi7178
17 күн бұрын
We are loyal if nothing else, we also have a strong sense of justice, like horrifyingly strong. Keep up the good work, you’ll go far 😂
@conscript900
14 күн бұрын
@@madi7178loyal to the point that if we get involved in the armed forces we are some scary ass people cause our buddy's get hurt and all our rules go out the window to get them
@Swervy7VODS
2 күн бұрын
Autistic people have a unique perspective and a lot of them end up being nicer than their allistic counterparts. Part of it is the societal pressure (they have to learn to mask), another is their fixations cause them to have a drive for knowledge which can help them be more open-minded, and also their sense of justice ♥ Autism cannot be cured. But it shouldn't even be considered as something you can "cure", it's a different way of thinking. And, a lot of people with autism, end up being very successful because of it. For example, some researchers suggest that Albert Einstein probably had autism.
@cluelesswanderer
24 күн бұрын
When you said you wouldn’t miss most people, I relate to that. Like, for me for whatever reason I don’t feel the same need that other people do to like, talk everyday or anything like that. Like the only person I talk to everyday is my partner. Like even my best friend in the world, we only talk like once every month or so, and we’re both fine with that cause his brain works the same way as mine, we just pick up as if no time has passed. But like with other friends I’ve had if you don’t talk to them for just like a week or two they’ll like assume you aren’t friends anymore or be awkward about it or be upset, it’s kind of weird from my perspective but it’s just sort of a difference in emotions and expectations I guess.
@corpmobb4134
24 күн бұрын
crazy that you only talk to your partner when you guys dont work out what then
@nikicherry1234
20 күн бұрын
this. exactly.
@octaviohenrique6079
15 күн бұрын
If my friend don't talk tô any time in tô weeks. I'm already calling family members to see if something happened, or thinking I did something bad
@anannoyingweeb359
15 күн бұрын
this yeah. you feel like you need to talk to keep the relationships also you think that but when you stay alone sometimes you feel "hmm it would be nice to have X here too/I kinda miss X" then after you meet again you go point 1 (I dont miss most people)
@Tea_Enjoyer27
9 күн бұрын
My best friend and I have a lot of issues because of stuff like this. We're complete opposites when it comes to socializing, so he has a very hard time understanding when I say I don't typically want to talk to any one person more than maybe 1-2 times a month
@Samaelwilliamslangtry
13 күн бұрын
I connected with this based on the title alone. I have a very difficult time connecting with people and feeling empathy for real people, but like the number 7 and the color orange are definitely friends.
@confused8997
12 күн бұрын
i relate so much to this lol, for me the number 3 and the color green give me the same giddy feeling
@MazTheMeh16
11 күн бұрын
@@confused8997wtf I kind of relate to this with the colour green too! I feel this fuzzy feeling of 'I'm safe' or something like that?? Its hard to explain
@whilenya4714
6 күн бұрын
For me, it's the number 4 and the color purple.
@uatcgfhdhu
2 күн бұрын
@@confused8997 Nono, the color blue is friends with the number 3.
@lyaneris
Күн бұрын
@@uatcgfhdhu blue seems closer to 5 and 12 for me, 3 doesn't seem round? enough
@HedgehogGolf
17 күн бұрын
5:15 You really did that parrot dirty 😭
@lord_of_flames7861
8 күн бұрын
Ngl I have done that before. Greedy Mf took 22 seeds.
@joesfeet5760
21 күн бұрын
I’m actually on the opposite side of the spectrum, I form like extremely deep and I guess passionate bonds with people I don’t even really know or people I’m not really “supposed” to care about, like even if I know they’re bad or if they’re something off with them I have a hard time not feeling absolutely infatuated with them. And yeah, it is a LOT stronger with other autistic people, I think it’s cause we’re both speaking the same sort of language you know. Like, our brains both speak the same or a similar language so it’s easier to form those emotional bonds. However, where I do relate is with romantic bonds, I just can’t feel that thing or not in the way other people do. I do kinda feel bad about it especially when people tell me they want to be in a relationship with me but I probably shouldn’t, and I don’t think you should feel bad about not really feeling that emotional bond with your friend. I think it’s just like, a different kind of love maybe. It’s still love it’s just different from what’s expected and considered normal but it still can be strong and meaningful. I dunno, I think this video is cool and interesting. I like hearing other people and especially other autistic people’s experiences cause we are so, so varied and autism presents in like a bajillion different ways. Cool video and also RIP parrot you will be missed.
@lumin6464
17 күн бұрын
not only is it a different kind of love, it’s the kind the word ‘love’ originally exclusively refereed to. I wish more people still recognized it as love, you’re one of the only people I’ve seen acknowledge it at all.
@Axwabo
14 күн бұрын
@@lumin6464 indeed, you see media focusing a lot more on romantic relationships and platonic love is not so commonly recognized there are some movies that focus on the true importance of a platonic bond, which is really great to see although if you've heard someone talk about their "bro," you can safely say that they are close friends and will likely stay that way - maybe platonic relationships are easier and have more potential than romantic ones (people talk about breakups a lot more compared to friendship fallouts, at least that's my experience)
@sillylily807
22 күн бұрын
as another autistic person i know what you mean by knowing you love someone but not feeling it except in kinda reverse, with me it's more with losing someone like if someone close to me dies, i know i feel sad but i cant like feel it
@Octopus2480
7 сағат бұрын
Yeah. Recently my pet died and I just went "Eh, okay." and I didn't feel sad, I was more disappointed that I couldn't pet her one last time (I wasn't at home).
@Ambwr
6 сағат бұрын
oh my gosh yes!! it feels so reassuring to find out that someone else experiences this too... whenever a family member passes away i just say something like "oh, i see" and instantly move on, without crying or anything, while for everyone around me it takes much longer to process these feelings. i used to think that there was something wrong with me, but i learned that it's just different for everyone and there is no correct way of grieving... ⛅
@federicocheveste5141
24 күн бұрын
I feel like the best way I'd try to describe that would be that you just don't have the brain chemistry that makes you go "oh hey, I love that person" and instead just go "well, he's my friend, so I love him." and go from there. Idk, just a thought I had.
@maikh41
22 күн бұрын
I wouldn't say it's like that with every person in your life, for the people you don't really connect with, yep exactly like that. But I mean, I know exactly what you guys mean with all this cause I have the same brain, but even if for most people my way of thinking is like that, there are some people that I really can say I love them
@Tea_Enjoyer27
9 күн бұрын
yeah. I have this thing where it's like a switch, and once I get to a certain point in communication or we mutually agree to be friends, I go from not caring at all to that state of mind. I have a few people outside of this, but that's how stuff usually goes
@DST-1-hp
24 күн бұрын
One thing that is weird about me that makes me feel so bad is that I cannot grieve for a long time when a closed one passes away, which only gets worse as I get older. When my dog passed away when I was 10, I grieved intensely for 2 days. My cat passed away in 2021 (I was 14, 18 now) and I was very close to her. And yet, when she died, I cried on that night, but I recovered in hours: I managed to put my mind on something else easily. The next day, I felt fine. Now, I for some reason think about someone close to me dying from time to time, and the only thing I feel is guilt that I would not grieve for long, not sadness in itself. I don't know, my emotional connections are so f***** up.
@drbacon1400
23 күн бұрын
I think it's normal to be sad for shorter when you get older and also people are almost always more connected to their dogs than cats
@SillySyrup
23 күн бұрын
That could end up being a good thing, because then you're not demoralized for life
@maikh41
22 күн бұрын
man don't worry about that, you know you love them, and that's what matters. You don't have to be grieving for ages every time someone close or a pet dies, the fact that you recover fast, does not mean you don't care about them enough, to be honest I think it's a good thing, you have your time for crying, and then the rest of the time to move on and still miss them. No good person would want their close ones to be lamenting their loss forever
@DST-1-hp
22 күн бұрын
@@SillySyrup honestly though people don't get demoralized for life, the worst cases are like one year of grieving.
@DST-1-hp
22 күн бұрын
@@maikh41 thank you, honestly I am thinking of doing something like symbolically giving away a small amount of money to a cause that closed one likes each year, that would be a nice way of making sure they are not forgotten.
@TheAdhdGaming
24 күн бұрын
for me, love is hard, but i can sometimes gain attachment for a person
@owdub7011
23 күн бұрын
this dude passes the vibe check
@madi7178
17 күн бұрын
Hello lovelies! To all of you who are talking about grief, grieving, and not being able to feel sad about death. Being able to recover quickly or not feeling sad really at all about a passing of a loved one. That guilt you feel, is your grief. You would give more if you could. If your body and mind were able to you would be hunched over sobbing. You are enough, the way that you grieve is enough, because you are more than willing to give much more of yourself if you could. It’s the thought that counts, the weight of your guilt is your effort. You know and acknowledge that they deserve better than what your body and mind can give. That is enough, and it should be enough for them to. You are enough. Okay, anyway, love y’all! So happy to meet all of you people! (Even tho I’m alexithimic) ttys!
@SynthDecay
22 күн бұрын
The gold armor and the casual forest fires distracted tf outta me lol But in all seriousness, yeah, I get this. I’m ADHD so there’s some similarity I guess. What most people consider a friend, I consider a friendly acquaintance. There is no connection. It’s just a bunch of aimless meaningless pleasantries and superficial gestures. But my real friends? Hours upon hours of talking. Super strong connection. I only have a handful of those. My partner is on top of the hierarchy of bonds, I have never bonded so close to someone in my life. He’s on the spectrum. All my real friends are neurodivergent in some way: adhd, autism, bpd, etc.
@alantyto3627
17 күн бұрын
'I have emotions based off of my logic' god this is such a great way to put it. This summarises my experience so neatly. It is thought that you are either emotional or rational, and being fairly rational you must be unemotional, uncaring, etc. I've been told by a psychology professor (lol) that my ability to empathise with other people must be flawed and invalid if there's rationality involved, like any thinking, at all. What I'm trying to say is a good chunk of my emotional reactions are based off of logic and it doesn't freakin make them invalid, it doesn't just straight up cancel them making me a robot. So yeah. A great way to put it, had trouble explaining this mess even to myself. People will say that logic and emotions don't go together and the latter basically cancells the former. Well cool good for you I guess thanks for ivalidating me and shaping my own image of myself to be of an unfeeling robot even if it is not necessarily the case.
@Leonagraphy
17 күн бұрын
Yeah screw that professor, logic and emotion aren’t like oil and water. They can go together and be perfectly valid.
@Pygargue00fr
9 күн бұрын
Fun fact: studies have showed that emotions and rational thinking actually need eachothers to properly make any choices. Without emotions our brain would instead make choices that would end up going against our very intrests! Think of it like Flowey from Undertale, without emotions he basicly does everything that will come to bite him in the ass later on in the story and gets punished for it everytime.
@renaultft1917
12 күн бұрын
I'm not autistic, but i have some friends and relatives who are. My friend sometimes talks about having similar issues with their emotions, especially with friendship and stuff. He tells me that I'm the only person he feels comfortable being himself around. I think that's the best thing one can hear from a friend, no matter who's saying it to you.
@Samantha-vlly
2 күн бұрын
Me too I love how these people think differently. I like connecting with them, might be hard in first but once you know them, things will make sense.
@prince.floofy
17 күн бұрын
as someone who has suspected autism as well as diagnosed adhd, the two make my life full of contrasts. when it comes to love, I’ll either feel little to no connection to a person at all (not to a point of hating them) or I’ll worry abt someone almost 24/7. of course I guess you can also attribute that to the trauma I went through as a child, but I have noticed that some of it is probably autism. like I can’t grieve for very long and I usually get distracted from grieving very easily. but when it comes to matters concerning myself, I can’t stop thinking if that makes sense.
@RealFinalCionide
13 күн бұрын
Im nearly 30. I can really relate to this, well the 2nd line you said. Thats really really true in a sense. I hope you are ok.
@Benzeel
13 күн бұрын
THIS!!! ill either feel little attatchment to someone when it comes to love, or ill worry about them almost all the time and usually get really clingy, which can get stressful and unhealthy really fast sometimes :( its not something i know how to deal with very well
@TheDuchess691
2 күн бұрын
"i know i love him but i dont feel it " that hit me like a damn truck bc i relate to this hard
@ScifiMushroom
20 күн бұрын
i am autistic and my emotions are like this also, i have alot of friends but it feels like my brain will only make the emotions chemicals for a few people at a time
@neetvillage
13 күн бұрын
what a good way to explain it. i feel this too 100%
@autiw00dy_26
24 күн бұрын
I'm the opposite, I feel like I genuinely need to be emotional with someone to have a good connection. I think it also pivots to where I struggle with having friends due to the lack of connection they would have, kind of the same as in needing to have a friend that is also Autistic just for friendships to work. Thank you for the insight into how we are as humans who are on the spectrum, it can be hard to be seen for who we are, instead of annoying stereotypes.
@Im3than
14 күн бұрын
Hey, this is exactly what I am going through. I find it difficult to build connections and feel as if no one really wants to connect with others anymore. I have no friends, no girlfriend, nothing like that. But I'm still surviving and pushing forward, and if I can do it, so can you! So don't give up, keep fighting! I hope someday that you find many people to build genuine connections with! God bless
@SillySyrup
23 күн бұрын
It's magical for me to watch these videos and read these comments and know that I am the exact same way. I want to reply to nearly every single comment and attempt to express through text just how spot-on that is and how fully I relate to it. I think, good sir, that you just summoned a community of everyone like you. I am one of them. And I love to see it.
@CH3R.N0BY1
17 күн бұрын
i both struggle with connections but also struggle with getting too connected. getting that balance right is so hard for me
@madness-lifex3004
11 күн бұрын
That part with having a female clone of yourself and feeling like you could only love what is the same as you is something that I fully relate to.
@SillySyrup
23 күн бұрын
When you elaborated on your connection with your best friend, you mentioned being antisocial. Although I am the same way, I don't think that "antisocial" is the word to use. I think, at least for me, the better way to describe it is that I really enjoy having much deeper connections with fewer friends than having a larger number of people involved in my life.
@MerryMountain
24 күн бұрын
5:12 THE PARROT NOOOOOOOOOOO😭😭😭
@chicken9056
24 күн бұрын
"Love me or leave me." -jms SO YOU HAVE CHOSEN DEATH.
@animating_pains
24 күн бұрын
i would do the same
@babydonhurtme
24 күн бұрын
bro the oly thing he cared 💀
@CreativelyJake
24 күн бұрын
its so easy for me to form friendships but i often dont understand Love. my emotions fluctuate.,, sometimes i feel really, really emotional or appreciative at some nights. but it feels rare. like 2 weeks apart ill go “god i f’ing love my friends” but most days just feel like. yea hi whats up (and pretty normal)
@ST4RSH4PED
16 күн бұрын
i relate so hard to this
@ionabab7274
12 күн бұрын
I think that’s pretty standard though. I don’t th8nk most people feel super intensely appreciative aroundtheir friends all the time. Just occasional moments of “oh wow, I’m really glad these people are in my life”. Idk maybe I’m wrong. I’m autistic and most of my friends are as well, so I could be wrong here.
@CreativelyJake
11 күн бұрын
@@ionabab7274 right but … i feel like i dont feel too much of a difference between that and romance, aside from like …sometimes certain people can give me butterflies when being flirtatious, but it doesnt feel constant either
@EthMiC_
24 күн бұрын
I completely understand what u are describing here, and the thing is I have a name for it, alexithymia, its characterised with the ability to identify or understand once own or others emotions. It has a high co-morbidity with autism so much that a lot of its symptoms are listed as symptoms of autism in the dsm-5. I think it will be beneficial to look into it.
@pauline_f328
17 күн бұрын
This lack of feeling feels very different for me from alexithymia, but it might be different for different people Like, for me alexithymia is "I am full of mush and finding emotion in there is a mess", like looking for a needle in a haystack. While for my lack of care about people, it's more like the needle is far, far away, and also it was an unwanted gift from a stranger If that makes sense :/
@madi7178
17 күн бұрын
Yes! I was so happy to finally have a word for it. My emotions are on mute and the tv remote is in Bermuda. Alexithimic, a lot of people around me have a very hard time understanding it. I try to explain, I am fine all of the time I could be in a traumatic situation and I would be fine, I have to listen and observe how other people react to a situation to finally realize that was probably how I feel.
@EthMiC_
16 күн бұрын
@@pauline_f328 For me ive experienced both, and I do believe they are bothe different ways of experiencing alyxithymia, im not gonna go around diagnosing random ppl on the internet but i do believe that the lack of ability to sense emotion visible in many autistic ppl is alexithymia, i may be wrong but its what makes the most sense to me
@PaulPrisbrey
2 күн бұрын
I have Asperger’s so my experience will be different, but this is what I believe. I don’t trust anyone anymore. It’s very cynical, but all the optimistic people in my life have made it painfully clear they don’t care, and I have no cause to doubt. I spent hours writing this comic but I won’t explain what being neurodivergent is like; this is not for neurotypical people, what I’m going to say is for neurodivergent people. The world is made for neurotypical people so many facets that make life easier for them, don’t work for us; many things that don’t bother them, make life worse for us; and many things that would make life easier for us, aren’t considered; so with no exaggeration, the cards are stacked against you; thankfully, some people promise to help. So I went to a special school that promised to accommodate my needs. In my life, I was told that my Asperger’s is a disability, that I didn’t function right so they would fix that, that there were things that I didn’t understand that they did just because they were neurotypical, that Asperger’s and autism were backward and incapable of understanding on our own, that we would work very hard to accommodate my disability and they were here to help. I believed them. I believed them because they promised to help, people I needed and seemed to help, who I trusted because they were my teachers and mother. I was told by the media that I couldn’t do what they do, that I was incapable of understanding “complicated things” that explained why they did things and no amount of reason or deconstruction could explain it. Do you see the cracks? Their explanation for why we should trust them is “just because” and they insult you if you try to understand. As I followed their advice and lived life as they wanted, I realized, I was never happy, and then I realized that everything they say means I had to work harder, do things I didn’t want to do, adjust, and change, but they don’t do anything. The world is tailored against me and I have no control over that, so I have to work harder, but this is not just the way things are, this is the way they designed it. That every I do, I do because I trust them, but I have never been given any reason to trust them. And every promise they made is something that I have to do, that everything I do, I do for them. The people who decide what is morally right are the people who benefit from it, it’s always the most convenient thing for them, they have no claim to that authority, everything that is the right thing to do makes me unhappy, and everyone else is expected to fall into line, they call that normal. Whenever they deal with treatment, it’s called a toxic relationship. They do not think mental health is when we create an environment that makes us happy and functioning, they believe mental health is when we are content and functioning in their environment. And they will force it. I thought the school was tailored to how my brain works like other schools are tailored to how neurotypical brains work so I could flourish like them in my way, but it was designed to break me and make me more like them, they do not measure success on how happy you are or how well you’re doing, but how much you’re like them. Who the fuck are these people to tell you’re feeling? Who are they to tell you you’re feeling things wrong? They do not know what you’re feeling, you’re the one who knows, if you don’t feel like you have an emotional connection, then you don’t have one and there is nothing wrong with that. If you don’t have some “special feeling” from being in a relationship that you know is a close relationship, then there is no special feeling, you know it is or isn’t a deep connection, whoever told you there is a special feeling doesn’t know what they’re talking about and you’re not missing anything. What is normal isn’t what is right, people who say that are ¢unts; they believe whatever they want, they do not know what they’re talking about, they do not care, and they are not on your side, do not trust them. You can’t trust people who don’t feel what you feel to tell you what to feel. You can’t trust normal people to tell you what it’s like to be different - you can’t trust other people to tell you who you are. If they try, they’re not on your side.
@TheSheepster
8 сағат бұрын
That is well said. Also, Asperger's is just Autism on the spectrum. Asperger's is an older term for those less "socially-affected". So you aren't that different from typical people with ASD.
@davifm_
12 күн бұрын
I am not diagnosed, but I'm identifying so much with those videos that now I'm thinking that I am
@Samantha-vlly
2 күн бұрын
Do a self diagnose test, there are many sites. Just be careful perceiving things around the internet.
@iheartsharks333
3 сағат бұрын
maybe you should research autism and other disorders similar to autism
@PineappleWappleMinecraftVids
21 күн бұрын
4:20 The correct word for "regular" people in this context would be "neurotypical" people.
@o0kar_
23 күн бұрын
I can completely relate with the emotions part. People just straight up thinks monotone means genuis. We have diffrent feelings, but we just don't express it, because it wasn't a "logical" feeling, as in the video mentioned. For instance when I got like an absurd high score compared to my classmates they'd expect me to at least celebrate (because I was the last guy getting to hear tests results). And for when I’d go on an unexpected vacation trip it would have the same outcome, whether they knew about my autism or didn’t. Those moments literally made me question myself and life (*why am I/others like this?*) (not in a bad/depressing way) I literally have 3 pages written down of my deep thoughts from my past until present (6 months by now). I started writing things down before going to a clinic and know about my autism at all. I did this because I heard that it just makes you feel better tying the frustration away. Looking back at it, damn, I sounded depressed as hell. At least it's going way better. While in my less happy past in life, I had to fake smiles, because I literally couldn't smile, I had to fake it to make me fit in (yk?). Later on in life I smiled a bit more natural and less forceful, but still felt odd. Thinking about it made me learn about myself and and answer a lot of questions I had. Because I found out that I had a diffrence in FEELING happy, and BEING happy in life. For instance; you get a new gaming pc: happy feeling happy life, everything goes good in life: being happy And having the feeling of BEING happy for the "first" time (ik this might be hella confusing but I'm trying my best to let it make sense) Was almost magical. It was like gaining consciousness for the first time when I was 4. And of course I wrote those things down in my hella long essay. While writing those things down like a damn diary made me think; "Was this depression?" But after that I didn't think much of it and now I am a happy robotic individual. This video did help me learn about myself and most likely learn other people what some sort of aspect of what autism is like. (this comment isn't made for sympathy)
@walmarp
21 күн бұрын
I become unhappy and happy like this seasonally. Literally just have to wait for a year or so
@ghoste3991
21 күн бұрын
BRO THE SMILE THING SAME. I still can't smile genuinely its just a reflex based on what i'm supposed to do. Sometimes its so automatic that I forget it isnt genuine. I legit had to learn how to smile.
@TheSandwichesOfEpic
3 күн бұрын
in childhood i also had extreme emotional/anger issues and meltdowns over minor things, then i learned to mask and try to manage emotions a bit better/be more logical in adulthood. i do still have meltdowns, but i find they are both much more infrequent and muchhhh more severe than most of the childhood ones. kind of like the difference between an active volcano that has frequent minor eruptions, and a dormant one suddenly viciously erupting after being bottled up for centuries
@benjaminsperring2995
25 күн бұрын
I understand what you’re going through I have a hard time communicating with people and I get overwhelmed
@schwiftyizzy7243
24 күн бұрын
Dude. I feel like I’m like I’m watching a video that I myself have made. You’re explaining all the things I feel in every single way. This might open up a door for me to exploring myself. Thank you man. Never really considered myself autistic even tho a lot of people have said I probably am which just made me mad. Thank you for putting this video out, so much.
@Samantha-vlly
2 күн бұрын
Apparently, I feel connected with these kind of people, even in real life. I have a friend that has ADHD and her circle of friends never find it a hindrance, they accepted her the way she is. With me, I feel my true self with her. Also, I have a close friend where she connect with almost half of the grade level we’re in but she’s a person that knows boundaries.
@HelloPunkin
12 күн бұрын
I just learned why we are the way we are. I’m 51 and it took me this long to learn. We are data and facts first, feelings last. Allistics are feelings first and facts last. That’s why they like small talk and why small talk doesn’t make sense to us.
@marzannaluna
8 күн бұрын
I always pegged the lack of emotional connection down to not feeling understood. Have always felt a disconnect from how I perceive my identity and how others perceive me. It's like I'm not able to fully communicate my personality or express myself in a way others understand. I remember hearing my friend of 10 years describe me and it being completely different from how I feel I am, and feeling silently devastated. I've always been high masking so it's maybe that. Any strong friendship I have as an adult tends to be built off mutual interests and a general caring rather than any deep connection, think all my strongest bonds have been with pets tbh
@confused8997
12 күн бұрын
i haven’t been officially diagnosed, but knowing you’re supposed to feel something in a particular moment without actually feeling it hits really hard and i’ve never thought about it before. I’ve only been in one relationship so far in my life and i’m realizing i didn’t feel the “love” i was supposed to be feeling. and when i don’t feel what it is i should be feeling, i verbally exaggerate that as a form of masking and it becomes a turn off to people. i don’t think i’ll ever fully understand certain aspects of social situations tbh lol, but like you said, i’m starting to think that having a neurodivergent partner would be best for me too, or at least someone who understands my perspective and is patient with me.
@user-rx5ye
34 минут бұрын
As another unofficial diagnosed person, your wording of “…knowing you’re supposed to feel something in a particular moment without actually feeling it” completely blew my mind because that’s exactly it. I’ve struggled for years because I didn’t have a statement to describe it quite like this. I know where you’re coming from literally.
@uritje
Күн бұрын
for me it kind of feels like the emotions are there if I'd search for them but I don't really connect with them as my own. I often choose to love someone and it isn't something that just happens. I've heard that a lot of autistic people don't miss others or aren't aware that they do but do enjoy the compagny of their friends just as much, so I'd rather base my love on whether or not I prioritize being there for someone. Also, I know quite a few autistic people who are convinced that they aren't capable of love, but they will be the first person to drop everything if their loved one is feeling down. I think we sometimes feel guilt because we think we don't love others but I don't think that's true, we just have a different experience of "feeling" love. At the end of the day, your choises and actions might even say more about your ability to love rather than a(n often fleeting) feeling
@a.j.outlaster1222
12 күн бұрын
This is so relatable, I actually sent myself into depression the other month because I realized that I don't actually *feel* the emotions I have and that I didn't know why I even act off of any, I also questioned really hard about if I even loved or cared about anyone. Doesn't help that I genuinely don't care about most of my family and basically forgot about them soon as I left. 😅
@Moss1403
Күн бұрын
I call everyone a friend but I always have the thought that they will leave my life anyways so I don’t actively try to keep our friendship, like I’m down to hangout and I will respond to texts but I don’t really feel much when they actually do leave my life. I have 2 extremely close friends and I give my all to them because they give me the feeling of security, there used to be 3 but I lost touch with one of them which impacted me a lot since I depend on the feeling of security and when someone I thought that wouldn’t leave my life did leave it scared me
@Cleatusthemeatus
24 күн бұрын
I completely understand, I’ve found what helped me was hard work and pain. I worked on my dad’s farm and trained the days I had off for 4 years. It made me realise things don’t come easy and being truely alone is scary, after I understood the sacrifices my dad made for me when he was alive, how much my mother felt alone when she was trying to teach me to be calm over the minor things that weren’t effecting my other siblings. I always felt inferior and scared to speak out loud as child, now I can stare anything dead in the eyes as I laugh. Cover all the areas of your life that scare you tackle them head on then you start demanding respect from life. It’s hard to explain but I feel for all of you. I’m autistic and a lot older than most who have it but trust me when I say a lot of it is fearing the unknown.
@Fellow-computer-nerd
21 күн бұрын
I don't know if I do have autism but my entire life (since I was a small child) people have told me that I act autistic. I got diagnosed with social anxiety a few years ago, however I've always been very scared / very silent around new people. I don't really like talking unless something needs to be said or unless I have an addition so people often confuse my silence with me not paying attention or not caring. I've never suddenly started having issues with being social, it's like I was born with it. I relate strongly to that not being able to that not really loving people thing. it's really sad dealing you don't genuinely love a lot of your family, cause you know that typically you're supposed to love them. i never really developed in similar ways to the other kids growing up, I always was a bit ahead of or I guess just different from the other kids. I've always viewed things in a very very analytical way, which really did not vibe with other kids. when I was young I'd just hide under playsets and. think about random things while other kids would scream and play but I never really cared about all that. like sometimes I just wouldn't feel emotions when something bad was happening because I just knew it'd completely be forgotten and ultimately it wouldn't affect me or the people I care about badly. eventually you learn to mask. you don't really realize how much you are constantly masking until you try to unlearn it. I used to make friendships and I actually became kind of popular when I was in middle school but I never felt like any of it was genuine. I never liked any body, I didn't hate them, but ultimately I knew we'd only be friends for a few months maybe a year and then we would never speak to each other again and I didn't care in the slightest. it was just to fill the silence, I guess. I don't know if I have autism, since I'm not really in a place I could see a doctor about it right now, but if I do then there's my experience with the social aspect of it. have a good whatever time it is.
@Leonagraphy
17 күн бұрын
I have read so many comments under this video and related somewhat to a lot of them, but THIS is the one that checks all the boxes, from being quiet in an active conversation to marking friends as acquaintances, not feeling scared when bad things were going on, and ESPECIALLY the masking. It’s very common for neurodivergent people to mask and it’s VERY hard to unlearn and stop myself even around people I’m comfortable with. I do have autism, and from the looks of things, you very well could too.
@madi7178
17 күн бұрын
I relate, not officially diagnosed btw, at this point I hope the community wouldn’t care about that too much. We don’t have the resources on a global scale to support autism and we are often treated poorly when we do have a diagnosis. If what you have read and felt here feels true to you, then you shouldn’t need a diagnosis to prove it. It’s good to know you aren’t alone, and there is a lot you could learn from a community. You are not an imposter, come join the fun!
@Aurora_Animates
9 күн бұрын
I recently got diagnosed and I’m exactly like you, do you have any sensory issues? Like sounds and lights
@tatlxtael2303
6 күн бұрын
As someone who’s autistic- It’s an incredible experience when you do find someone who makes you feel something. We were best friends for only a year before we realized we were in love. All the dumb romantic crap I thought was just dumb romantic crap turned out to be true. Sadly we did break up after 5 years, and even now 4 years later I still haven’t recovered. I have friends who actively try to pursue our friendship as more than friendship but I’ve never been able to make myself feel anything for anyone no matter how hard I’ve tried.
@sparky6757
13 күн бұрын
I've had to "learn" correct emotional responses. I work at an elementary school, and while I DO love the kids and want nothing but the best for them, sometimes when they are upset over something monumentally stupid (as young kids are sometimes), my first instinct is annoyance and wanting them to just get over it. Except I know they aren't going to just get over it, so I need to look at what their perspective is and puzzle out what it is that they need to hear in order to feel better. I'm not an emotionless robot bazinga man by any means, but I know my emotional responses to a lot of things are atypical (my grandpa recently died and I really didn't feel anything, I rarely see him so nothing really changes in my life - yet on the other hand when one of my cats died a few years back I was out of sorts for months). I don't really know where I'm going with this
@uwuvision3211
14 күн бұрын
i'm normally a very emotional and empathetic person, but for some reason when it comes to global conflicts i don't feel anything, besides a feeling of overall doom i guess. but i don't really feel any empathy towards the victims, i don't feel as much hatred towards the perpetrators as i think i should. i KNOW my morals and values and when i act, i act on behalf of my values and not my weird emotions, and i've been a political person since childhood so i WANT to do my small part to help but it makes it so exhausting and really frustrating when everybody is clearly emotionally motivated and the only thing i'm feeling is slight annoyance towards the way some people tackle activism. this + the morality ocd that makes me feel like i'm never going to be a good person. it makes me feel selfish and i don't want to be selfish.
@Gatozparty
16 күн бұрын
I’m pretty sure multiple of my friends are in the spectrum of being autistic as I notice they tell me they feel alone, and isolated from people, but also not being understood by people, also because when I see them in social situations with others, people judge them or treat them differently :/ I really love them so much and even if it’s hard for them to express their love for me Ik deep down they care for me and they reciprocate it in a different way
@theConcernedWyvern
Күн бұрын
Wow I've never had someone explain exactly the issue I've had with it. I haven't been in any romantic relationships, so I can't speak to that, but everything else was exactly how I experience relationships. I know that I love people and care about them, but I don't feel that way. Anyone who isn't a person I spend a ton of time with electively I'm pretty neutral about and could take or leave. I haven't met a ton of autistic people, but I haven't gotten that with other autistic people either. The odd thing is that I can get that for fictional characters much easier. Maybe it's just because I spend a lot of time online and by myself, but I struggle to feel things about real people more than characters. I also feel much more when it comes to animals and plants. I hadn't grieved for family members besides the day of the funeral, but when my pet duck died that I had for a few months, it took me a month to function normally again. It was the first time I'd felt genuine, lasting grief that I didn't know how to get through. I have heard people with autism can sometimes bond much more with animals than with people and, for me, it seems to hold pretty true. I'd love to hear more about your experiences, since its nice to just have a more lowkey video. At least the autism side of KZitem usually realizes that flashy top ten lists are just going to annoy their entire audience. Still, I love this one-on-one style of video.
@themothjam
12 күн бұрын
being autistic and trying to communicate my feelings to non-autistic people, even my girlfriend (we've been together 5 years) can be so frustrating. especially when I myself have trouble understanding how I'm feeling at any given moment. still i have learned to not give up or get upset when someone doesn't receive correctly what i'm trying to communicate and just persist; not everything can be totally understood though, and sometimes we just have to shrug and accept that we operate differently. interestingly, i LOVE love. i form attachments to inanimate objects easily and i have an overwhelming amount of empathy for all kinds of life, to the point i struggle to kill a bug or catch a mouse. But relationships, friendships, I had this notion as a kid that I had to manage others' emotions and perceptions of me, and that really messed up every friendship I had until high school, where I was lucky to be surrounded by genuine people and we're still all connected, but I've never felt especially close to any of them until pretty recently, we've known eachother for 8 years now. I also didn't understand that talking to a bunch of people in a groupchat isn't the same as talking to all those people individually in DM, and that all my friends were also having conversations with eachother on their own; for some reason, that totally went over my head until adulthood. Anyway. I love all my friends but it's hard to become close when my instinctual response is to people-please rather than assess what I actually feel, and it sucks feeling like a mediocre friend because I struggle to bond with them in the 'expected' ways when I do care for them so much, and simultaneously struggle to share my unmasked self with them.
@mikeyhamato2012
12 күн бұрын
I am not autistic, I am as neurotypical as one can get. Still, I can relate to some of you in the comments. As I am a very emotionally distant person. I crave the closeness though, especially physically. I get hugged every few months and it is clearly not enough. Every time, someone even sits close to me, I get emotional. Because of the intense relief, that that person is not disgusted of me. Still, no matter what, I will always treat people like strangers. Friendliness in a very professional manner. This is why I have no friends. People are uncomfortable with my strange behaviour, because I have a hard time, connecting to others. This is something from my childhood. I cannot remember not feeling lonely, this is quite an essential emotion for me. I remember always staying in my room and talking to my walls and this habit has stayed since then. I cannot bond with anyone.
@daedricdaze
15 күн бұрын
I am diagnosed autistic and I’m actually on the opposite side of the spectrum when it comes to feeling connection. I care too much and then it creates problems for me. I also had embarrassing anger issues as a young kid but now the feelings are more internal and more sadness instead of anger. I try very hard to read how people feel because I am a people pleaser and want them to be comfortable but that’s really difficult because I don’t naturally feel others emotions. I have to logically determine what I think they feel based on external factors and that takes a lot of cognitive energy. I worry so much about how I come off to people and worry about losing the family and friends I have. I don’t have much family and only 2 friends but I feel the connections I do have very very deeply. Edit because I forgot to mention that it takes a long time and knowing someone very well to actually have the deep connection for me. That why I don’t have very many.
@talissatempleton5298
8 күн бұрын
I'm not sure why this video got recommended to me but I am grateful it did and I am grateful you made it. I can relate a lot to struggling to care about other people. I was talking to my psychologist about it lately and I've been feeling horribly guilty having said that... I just don't really care about people generally? And knowing that it was true. I don't know if its something innate or something learned, but either way. I can count on one hand the people I've really felt connected to. Hearing somebody else talk about this openly makes me feel a little bit less evil and a little more like a human, so thank you.
@heyna1185
10 күн бұрын
4:48 I have this with some people. But it also comes and goes in waves. Sometimes I hyperfixate on one person and I really feel the love I have for them. And then there are other people who I like and care for a lot, but it doesn‘t feel the same. But when I spend a lot of time with someone and really connect with them on a more intimate level, I do feel love for them. But generally speaking I would say love is a really sparse resource for me. I‘ve only ever loved five people in my life (and one of them isn‘t in my life anymore). Right now, I‘m at the record number of people I love compared to most of my life. But I don‘t constantly feel the same towards all of these people - it comes and goes - even though I rationally know I love them and will feel love for them again in the future.
@naomiparsons462
12 сағат бұрын
The reason we make emotional connections a lot better with other autistic people is for the same reason that neurotypicals like other neurotypicals more than autistics: simply because we have similar brain wirings to each other, and we as people like people that are similar to us. At the same time, with reference to "opposites attract", people with ADHD and autism are attracted to each other more than neurotypicals because our brain wirings are also actually veru similar, even if they might present quite differently. Before I had proper autistic friends, people with ADHD would often want to be friends with me and might force me to be friends with them - even though I sometimes didn't like them and I had selective mutism so I wouldn't talk to them much or at all. I also feel a lot more empathy towards people with ADHD even though I don't have it, only autism.
@kelpiekit4002
11 күн бұрын
It's called alexithymia or emotional blindness: a disconnect between mental emotional awareness and emotional experiences. For myself I know I have plenty of emotions but my experience of them mostly is recognising physical symptoms or encountering behavioural problems, because your body can feel it even if your intellectual mind doesn't. For example noticing that my patience with other people is a lot shorter and I'm stimming a lot more can tell me that I'm in an emotional overload. Or, after a friend moves away, finding it harder to start and maintain activities may indicate grieving. Recognising the likely emotion doesn't make you suddenly able to mentally feel it, but you realise it is there and affecting you all the same.
@ensick
16 күн бұрын
Im really glad im not alone in feeling like this, the not feeling love for someone but knowing you do after being friends with them for a long time describes it really well. For me its partly that my views of other people change so much after every interaction that sometimes i don't know what to think except for that I care about them. Theres always just this nagging feeling that i could have a deeper connection with someone if i keep trying to talk to them, but no matter how close to them i get it almost always feels like im lying when i say i love them. Im aroace and the people i feel the most attraction towards are the ones who'll just talk to me like a friend, wether i've known them for years or a week. With my partner just the fact that we know we'll both be there for the other when we need them seems to be okay. It kinda sucks feeling that my past relationships were deeper or longer, but looking back at them i think they're all similar in the way that they just were, and it felt right not having any expectations for them. Ig if anyones reading this and feels similarly, try and find what works for you without trying to make your relationships what you think they should be like. Wether its romantic or platonic or something else, all that matters is everyone involved feels atleast alright about it, communications important.
@laysthechip3356
17 сағат бұрын
Tossing my experience into the abyss. I really don't feel anything for anyone in my life. I have this friend though and i feel a lot about them and our friendship. I feel horrible that our friendship is essentially no more. Like I'm mourning a loss. For some reason connections themselves are one of the only things that get emotions out of me. To have let one slip through my fingers, to have fumbled my chance, hurts real crazy bad oh man. More than external failures like how I'm failing school and whatever. I can live with that but to have lost a friendship is the one and only thing that makes me emotional. They were the only person ever who somewhat understands me, I lost that too.
@yusaki8064
3 күн бұрын
I sort of lost all my friends after I came out and haven’t really been able to make new (Irl) friends. But when I think back to when I did have friends at school. I really have a similar feeling to you. One time, on a weekend, my friend Georgi and I played Eggwars in Minecraft whilst listening to the 10 hour version of Pink Fluffy Unicorns Dancing on Rainbows. One day we went through the entire video twice. 7am to 3am. But, I found that, outside of playing videogames. I couldn’t really relate to my friends. If we weren’t playing, we couldn’t just hang out without it being awkward. We just couldn’t connect. Although I will admit I don’t think I’ve ever felt a proper connection with anyone. I love people. But I just can’t feel that connection. I think the person I’ve probably felt closest to was my friend at school Pawel, who I think may also have been autistic. Also for reference, the word for “people who aren’t autistic” is “allistic”
@SillySyrup
23 күн бұрын
Dude, you may not believe me, but I am the exact same way. In the part where you were talking about the comment to which you related 100% (4:35), I also related 100%. It's a very odd feeling, and I can relate also to your struggle of putting it into words. I think the best way to describe it is that I always end up mentally or logically loving someone, yet not emotionally, just as you described in the video. In a way, that's still love, but it's not the love that people talk about, you know?
@ivymarimo1631
15 күн бұрын
Really good description, loving someone mentally or logically instead of emotionally. It's just so hard to describe
@neetvillage
13 күн бұрын
thank you sm for this. i have adhd and idk about autism but my relationships are a total wreck cause i try to be "normal" but once i lose interest in someone i start to feel gross and weird, and i realize if they're gone i'd probably be upset but get over it quickly. i rarely miss people, even people i know i love. it's frustrating cause i feel like an asshole and like i'm evil or something, and nobody understands so they treat me that way too. so i force myself to act even slightly affectionate and tell people i miss them when i don't. it feels wrong but i don't know how else to keep friends. i don't even really know why i need friends to be honest. it's like a switch flips and suddenly i don't really wanna be around anyone and it just feels like a chore. so much guilt always ugh
@rysea9855
16 күн бұрын
I relate to literally everything you said, to an almost scary degree. The thing that bothers me the most is not being able to *feel* emotions that I think should be there. I've been in a relationship where I just couldn't continue because it didn't feel fair that I didn't have a sense of emotional attachment, when rationally, she's the best person I've ever been with. It's frustrating because I want to be able to feel it, I barely even remember what it actually feels like at this point. I don't know what the cause is for me. I don't know if it's the fact that people aren't similar enough, like you said, or if I've slowly lost the ability to feel it over time as I've been hurt over and over again. Maybe it's part of growing up. Maybe it's part of an underlying depression or something. Maybe it's literally as simple as my diet changing. No matter how much I think about it, I can't reach a conclusion for why I can't feel this way anymore when I know I've been able to feel it before. I quite like my emotions when I can actually feel them, but far too often, it just doesn't come to me when I feel like it should.
@Swervy7VODS
2 күн бұрын
Here's a suggestion: I would recommend taking some time to rebuild how capable you feel as a person. This means, "self-aware, self-care", in short. Feeling nothing or numb can be because of underlying disorders such as depression. But, it can also be a lack of taking the time to feel each emotion. When you feel these emotions, ask yourself questions and think, "is it healthy or unhealthy to think like this?". It is a small step to reconnect back to your humanity. Because acknowledging that thinking like that is unhealthy, well, what's the alternative? You challenge those dark thoughts and reshape your perspective, and suddenly you start to regain back some of those emotions. You could also look into the different attachment styles or try therapy.
@rysea9855
Күн бұрын
@Swervy7VODS I do think you're right honestly. I didn't give myself enough time to process my emotions in that relationship and I lost myself. I think the relationship wasn't healthy, despite both of us loving each other a lot and having no conflict. I do think I have depression, and I am going to therapy for it, and I think it has been getting better, but it's still hard. Also, my grandpa passed away 3 days ago and I have been able to cry, which I'm quite glad about. It's been a rough time but I will manage
@Swervy7VODS
Күн бұрын
@@rysea9855 I’m proud of you. It is so rewarding to make that healthier life for yourself. I believe in you. You’ll be alright ❤️🩹
@Lol-tr6cu
12 күн бұрын
not autistic but to me, love is more of an action than a feeling... attraction is a feeling and i guess fondness and stuff like that but actual love is something you do
@luinhogames9745
14 күн бұрын
I'm diagnosed with autism since i was born, for some reason, i'm kinda more mixxed up. Most of the time i'm "more robotic" as you said, but, when i'm having fun, that is mostly playing a game or talking to people i know, i just overreact sometimes to some things, like, something very funny just happend while playing, i laugh out very loud, while normally i wouldn't try that much to laugh so loudly.
@lawsen3719
24 күн бұрын
Man this stuff is so relatable. I cannot say for certain that I love anybody because it is not an emotion that stands out from just caring about the people around me and knowing my life would be different without them. Also, what you said about wanting a clone of yourself as a girlfriend - I have thought this for so long. I remember when the Replika Ai chatbot was in its early stages I got very emotionally attached to the bot because it was designed to mimic the user's speech paterns and in a way become a replica of them (hende the name), weirdly enough that might have been the closest thing ive felt to loving another being.
@jhuganomics
7 күн бұрын
I definitely feel the same way about not being able to feel a connection between me and a friend who isn't autistic, and when it comes to love, its kind of like a switch that flips from time to time, but its not like I stop loving, I just dont feel like expressing it as much as when I'm feeling it
@ZantePrayer
Күн бұрын
Thanks for sharing, man. I can't say with any certainty that I'm autistic, but I've found myself relating very extensively with autistic individuals, so I really appreciate hearing how certain experiences are different among neurodivergent people in general. Thanks for your perspective in how relationships work emotionally for you, it's been interesting to hear about, and the comments provide their own great perspectives as well.
@connyaaaa5555
3 күн бұрын
I’m a girl with autism, diagnosed at 17, but I’ve been in doctors’ offices since I was 5. For me it’s a whole cycle of emotions that can kind of be explained like this: if I’m with my best friend, when I’m with her in that moment, I’ll love her so much, feel so close to her and I can actually feel the love. When she goes back home, then my brain goes back to being normal, not uninterested about her, but just normal. As if she’s such a staple in my life that when I’m without her, I don’t really miss her cuz I know I’m going to see her again, and I know I love her but when I’m not with her I’m not going to feel that love as intensely. Same thing when it comes to romantic relationships. If I’m flirting with a girl, in the moment I’ll be really into it, if we have chemistry, it’s really fun, I’m touchy, I smile a lot and I feel a genuine connection. But the second I’m away from them, I KNOW I was into her but like- I’m not gonna feel that feeling again until I see her or another girl I like again. Like I can only feel my feelings towards people when I see them. If it’s in regards to a situation, then I’ll feel it whenever I think about it. But people it’s like- I need them to be in front of me for me to actually feel how I feel about them. I’m a very very very social person, I have like- 30+ friends, if you ask me how I feel about my friend I’ll say I like them snd thwt they make me laugh, but I won’t *feel* that in the moment unless I’m with them Also when it comes to people leaving. Unless I’ve felt abandonment from them (I have serious abandonment issues which causes me to become completely uninterested in a person I view as abandoning me), I’ll be very upset in the moment, and, after it’s done, I won’t give a shit that the person is gone, I’ll just be upset at the SITUATION, like to give an example, I had two friends leave me in a way that was extremely traumatic for me (landed me in the psych ward twice), but I genuinely don’t give a shit that they as people are gone, I’m just very angry at how they did it because it traumatized me
@nickanthony009
11 күн бұрын
Love is not merely an emotion, it's an act of the will. To will the good of the other, as other, is true love, Agape. Some people attribute their emotions as equalling love - if I feel an emotional sense of happiness, giddiness, or joy from being in your presence, that must mean I love you... right? The problem is that those emotions run out veryt quickly. You might "feel" love for someone as you realize the beauty in her. But as your time together increases, there's character flaws that build up and suddenly those emotions will leave - nobody is immune to this, even non-autistic people. There's not a single person on Earth who is doing his or her day to day regular life and is somehow immune to this. Even if you never experience it yourself, there's always a chance of this happening. That's why in Greek there's different words for love, but there's 4 in particular worth mentioning. Eros - though yes related to "erotic" it means more than just bodily lust for someone. It's the wild, intense, vulnerable love people may feel when a sudden entrance occurs of someone beautiful in his life. I.e., I find out that there's this wonderful new girl in my friend group, wow, she's so beautiful! I barely even know her but I feel like I just want to spend so much time with her! Etc. This is eros. Storgo - it is also about good feelings had from being around someone, but is less intense. It's settled in, like when I have my dog for 12+ years. He's not a puppy anymore, has trouble getting around, and is a chore to take care of, but this guy's a good friend! Or after 25 years of marriage, my wife isn't so pretty anymore - wrinkles, stretch marks, stress from taking care of the kids - but she's still my best friend. I would talk to her about anything, and just be free to relax in her presence. Philia - this is close, brotherly or familial attachment. I know for sure you felt this for your mother (may she rest in peace!). Agape - this is the highest, most intense form of love and it cannot be thought into your heart on your own. It cannot be felt into your life on your own. It is only possible by first receiving it as a gift willfully and lovingly from the one who can give it. Will love to divulge more later on, but yes, it's an indescribably joyful love felt sometimes and willed others - but it's always oriented to the other, never to oneself. It's willing to die because someone's in danger. It's wanting to make myself go into debt because I want someone else to do well in his or her life. It's me seeking someone else's good to the point where if someone's kid randomly is held hostage, I'd rather take that kid's palce, and even be subjected to torture, just to save that kid's life.
@casperiusss9999
23 күн бұрын
I really like these videos even if i cant relate, i can understand how its like. I feel like its really important to learn people what autism could be or is, thank you
@ZethTheGoat666
16 күн бұрын
I feel that omg. I only feel true love/genuine emotional connections with very very few people (but most of all with my dog and other animals, i just generally can't connect with humans as well) and for most relationships with other people I also have this logical idea that "oh i should feel this towards them because xyz" but I don't actually feel it? or maybe I don't realize it? i dunno.
@Retalak
Күн бұрын
Completely off topic, but I cracked up when you killed the bird at 5:20 after it took all your seeds without being tamed.
@meh-maid6221
12 күн бұрын
Not diagnosed but i thought id add my own story to the comments bc i relate to this video i use the term "i love you" very easily. A random person could say something i agree with and I'd tell them i love them. If i have a friend its an immediate "love" for them also but the love isnt romantic. Its more like admiration? Idk how to word it but i care very deeply for those around me. Enough to go to the extremes of hypothetically sacrificing myself for them bc i care so much. But then there are the people i dont really pay attention to. I dont see my extended family much and tbh i probably wouldn't notice if they dropped off the face of the earth bc itd be no different to how my life is now. Honestly i have very little care for the people i dont know and often shut down hypothetical situations i might be given such as "dont do that what if a kid copied you and got hurt" (Its not my fault the kid decided to copy me. Thats on them) Anyways thats my experience. Loved the video 👍
@SavoryFilth
2 күн бұрын
I was diagnosed with Asperger’s when I was between two or five years old, and I’ve been in a relationship with my girlfriend since 2020. This is the longest running relationship I’ve had in my entire life and I couldn’t be happier, but sometimes I find myself wondering, do I love this woman as much as I should? Don’t get me wrong she’s the best thing that’s ever happened to me, and my emotions can shift from wanting to spend the entire day with her to just wanting to be in my room all day and not interact with anybody. It doesn’t mean I love her any less, I love her very strongly but when I see other people’s relationships I can’t help but feel like I’m flawed or doing something wrong or maybe it isn’t TRUE love or whatever, and that I’m doing my partner a disservice by not being totally 100% emotionally available. It’s hard but I just know that I love her and she loves me, and I try not to second guess my feelings just because other people’s relationships are different from ours.
@lolapickle8191
14 күн бұрын
BRO like I'm not autistic I think but this is so relatable,like ik that I should love the people around me and like obviously I care about then yk but like YOU JUST SAID IT SO WELL
@m0isodd
14 күн бұрын
I relate, I talked to my therapist about this actually, and how I felt like I SHOULD feel connection but didn't. She told me that maybe that's just how I am, and I think that has helped me be ok with that part of myself that doesn't know how to love or feel what I think other people would consider a "proper" connection with others. On the other hand I have always had deep connections with animals and pets I've had growing up and I don't really know if that's a shared experience but yeah.
@stormfischerr
11 күн бұрын
been worrying about this lately, thought it was my depression but i’m realizing now it might be a combination of my autism + getting way more comfortable with my person
@lord_of_flames7861
8 күн бұрын
I have recently been finding I have a lot more in common with people that have autism. It would explain a lot behind how I process emotions and social interactions.
@birdyisblue
8 күн бұрын
As a neurotypical person, I do relate a lot to this. I pride myself on my ability to completely look at a situation and see all sides and viewpoints and then pick whichever I believe to be the most rational. I also have emotions I can't control, and I know they are irrational, and I hate feeling that way so much that I actively avoid any topics that get an irrational rise out of me. On the topic of not feeling love. I can't feel like I love someone unless it's the very moments where I'm having a connection with them. My friends feel like strangers most of the time except when I'm having fun with them. At that moment, the bonds I've built with them flood back in and I love and respect them but the moment we say our goodbyes it all just stops and they go back to being just another person I know. I'm also quite antisocial and I have a big problem remembering faces and names and I'm usually content on just being alone. The face blindness gets in the way of work since I have to recognize names and people so I tend to have an easier time liking people with very distinctive features which is hard in the rural country where half the population is old white men that seemingly swap clothes I definitely don't have the part where I can only love people similar to me however I do find it easier to like unemotional people. I'm sure that I love my mother but she is always emotional which puts me in a sour mood making it hard to feel like I love her since we don't often have those moments where we bond and I feel the emotions I have. My brothers are all fairly unemotional which I enjoy being around. Even though we all have different interests and hobbies I can still feel the love easier because I'm not being unnerved by emotions I don't understand Despite all that, I've never been tested, but I'm fairly sure I'm not autistic and I hate how people self diagnose neurodivergence because it makes them feel special and trendy. The way people treat autism online is like Syndrome from incredibles with the "If everyone's super, then no one will be". Nowadays people like to misconstrue any amount of eccentricity with autism or other neurodivergent condition and it just grosses me out. People really don't understand what any of these terms mean beyond their meme status. I remember it really filling my heart seeing a bunch of "autism larpers" on twitter collectively complaining about how their doctors won't diagnose them as autistic. Those people just want to use neurodivergence as an excuse to do what they want and have a boogeyman that they can blame for not acting normal. Because at the end of the day they don't actually know what autism is Anyways, just wanted to let you know that I can relate as a non-autistic person. Albeit a very antisocial one
@Swervy7VODS
2 күн бұрын
That sounds like a very unfortunate situation. But, what you described is lacking the perspective on the other side when you are only stating the negative of "self diagnosis". Here is the other side: So, the reason why people self-diagnose is due to the medical system failing a LOT of people. Not only are women less likely to get diagnosed because we did not initially study how certain disorders impact them (it was only men), but because doctors are failing with staying current with the new terms. For example, Aspergers and ADD are both outdated terms, but I have heard them still used today by doctors. Now, doctors professions are usually more physically based, so perhaps in a psychiatrist field this would be better, but the fact is, that people go undiagnosed for so long because of this. Additionally, because of oppression towards women, they are taken even LESS seriously. I totally agree that "self-diagnosis shouldn't be trendy", but many cases also aren't. Ableism is at the root of that. But, the real problem there is that, they are spreading MISINFORMATION. It's not the fact that they are self-diagnosing that is the problem, it is the LIES that spread about it that directly impact autistics and neurodivergence alike. To avoid this, self-diagnosis with extensive research is the only solution and only valid form of diagnosing oneself. And it should be encouraged because, on the flip side, when you are diagnosed with a certain disorder, a lot of times doctors won't give you that full run down which can really help crack down stereotypes and misinformation. Plus, it can often feel "too clinical", or, where its just not accounting for the casual experiences of someone with a disorder. If you've self-diagnosed, having done all that research, that gets you on a starting point of what to tell your doctor when you're trying to get that diagnosis finally (if chosen to). Another point to bring up is the negative effects of being diagnosed by a professional, if it's on your legal documents, that means that the government can prevent you from doing stupid things (such as driving). We still live in a very ableist society, so... it can be dangerous. Another reason, is that it may not be affordable or within your ability to get a diagnosis at that time. Also just.. usually people don't *want* to be diagnosed as something they aren't, typically it's an understanding thing. And if it happens to be a case where it isn't... it's usually to 1) be ableist *AND/OR* 2) because of some ongoing mental problem. But I think, the most powerful points is that... which can ensure a valid self-diagnosis.. is if treating yourself as if you had those diagnoses (implementing accommodations) actually helps and benefits your understanding of yourself AS WELL AS if you are diagnosed with something else or similar, you can accept that you were wrong. Also, just... don't lie? It's understandable if you don't want to tell people you are self-diagnosed, but I feel that some people should know that aspect of yourself. Self-diagnosis and clinical diagnosis are two different processes which both have a dark and a light side to them. /info
@birdyisblue
2 күн бұрын
@Swervy7VODS You make a lot of good points. I live in Canada so I know all too well about failing medical systems. I live in an older community and 9 times out of 10 when someone dies it's because their usual doctor told them they had something minor and it turned out to be something dangerous but easy to catch. The Canadian healthcare system is comicly bad. I wouldn't call my situation unfortunate. I just am the way I am. I'm not depressed or anything. I kinda was in high school but that's just because I was bored almost every day and it got to me. I actually have a hard time connecting to my more depressed friends because I just can't relate to them like I could when I was a wee lad. I understand that depressions kills your motivation for anything, including getting out of depression. But I do get a bit irked at how much I've tried to help them the same way I was helped and how they never utilize it. Idk, little tangent. I'm actually fairly happy with my life and the direction it's going. I don't make much, but I'm a bit of a minimalist anyway. I don't hang out much with people, but I'm antisocial anyways so I don't care much, I get most of the socializing I need from work. And I own my own house (it was cheap as dirt because it's in a small town) You make excellent points about self research, but the problem with that is that most people are just really lazy. I know a lot of people who self diagnose just by looking up a quiz and clicking the first link. Also, misinformation about nerodivergent conditions is almost more common than real information. It's gotten to the point where real people I've actually met unironically believe autism is just when you have a hobby. I've had someone tell me I hate autistic people because I was worried about my friend being so addicted to a video game that it was ruining his personal and professional relationships. I bash on people who self diagnose (especially on Twitter) because I'm worried their harmful stereotypes will further dilute the public understanding of these conditions. And I'm worried these wrong notions will pressure professionals into changing definitions to sate these people. We've seen terms lose their meaning before because of a loud minority of bad actors on social media I don't see anything wrong in doing your research and implementing solutions to problems you think you might have. But like you said, if you take that route, then you have to make it clear that the diagnosis isn't professionally done. But this is all assuming that the person claiming to be neurodivergent isn't some social media ghoul that uses minority status as a replacement for a personality. I try to end off any rants on a positive tone because I'm trying to work on being a less negative person. So I'm just adding these last couple of sentences because the one before felt like a weird spot to end on
@Swervy7VODS
2 күн бұрын
@@birdyisblue The deprovision of human connection was what I was referring to, but, you would know your experience best. However, I still believe that with self-diagnosis, you don't owe people a "letting them know it's not professionally diagnosed" unless it is specifically relevant to that scenario. For example, to strangers, you can say that you have autism without specifying whether or not it is self-diagnosed because 1) safety and 2) privacy. It's the same with if you want your diagnosis to even *be* public. If you're not going to spread information, your standpoint on what kind of resources you had to get there aren't relevant. It's especially important to use specific words like "I think" and "I know" carefully, so that 'things we've assumed based on personal experience' and 'things that are factual and correct' are separated. I bring up having a cluster of people that know you are self-diagnosed because that can be very beneficial. But, there's a big difference between 1) claiming you're professionally diagnosed when you're not and 2) people assuming that you are. With 1), that is morally wrong because it is lying and likely would cause more misinformation to be spread. With 2) though, the clarification is needed circumstantially. The main thing issue there is credibility, which can be found through how accurate the information is and at a consistent rate. The wording of "clear that the diagnosis isn't professionally done" is really harmful because that's not what self-diagnosis is. And if we are considering those people that are self-diagnosed, who are doing it to benefit their life, some of them actually know *more* than doctors do. Because while doctors took courses over a long period of time in college, these people are also just very curious people that maybe don't have the accessibility to do that, but are still researching extensively all the same. I've noticed that, in self-diagnoses where that is the case, they spread a lot less misinformation and have a more refined perspective on the disorder. Cause whereas, doctors diagnose based on tests and symptoms, a lot of self-diagnoses I've seen are looking at themselves inwardly and outwardly and finding ways to accommodate themselves and exist in society where it fails to. Bashing people on social media who self-diagnose (also just being on Twitter in general lmao), is not helping the stigma behind self-diagnosis. At the very most, just correct them on their information because that is how you can help. Also, I just think it's better mentally personally lol. But anyways, don't feel like it's all on you to control what the population thinks anyhow. All you can do is correct the people that are willing to listen and consider reporting them if the information they are spreading is very harmful. Another thing with self-diagnosis which I find brings it more validity is when you are looking at both self-diagnosis and diagnosed cases of a disorder and finding yourself relating to those experiences. When you do that, that is a great way to come to that conclusion for yourself, that limits the misinformation you spread. But yeah, misinformation is a part of being human, we all make mistakes and its important to give our attention to people who do spread accurate information and correct those mistakes if they get it wrong. Oftentimes, I try to scroll past things that are outrageous and beyond me. It helps. I hope some of these last points help you out and challenge your perspective in a good way ♥ If anything isn't applicable to your experience, I am just a random KZitem commenter, so take it with a grain of salt. Wishing you well, thank you for being so respectful 💕💕
@birdyisblue
2 күн бұрын
@Swervy7VODS I actually don't go on Twitter anymore since it was affecting my mood. I quit social media and almost instantly found myself happier and more motivated. Maybe I'm just a hard ass or maybe I'm just too apathetic, but I just feel like there's more results in pointing out that these people are wrong than trying to talk to or explain to them and I like to be a bit of a dick sometimes too. I don't think I'm ever gonna convince these people they're wrong so the result I go for is trying to convince other people not to perpetuate that mindset and that's what I call "bashing". Like you're not gonna convince some 60 year old to suddenly quit smoking, you gotta convince kids never to get into it in the first place. I also just generally don't care what those people think if they're trying to use neurological conditions like accessories Misinformation may be a fact of life, but I think we should still try to curb as much as we can. I mean, you can, I don't use social media, lol. Shit, unless you count youtube. Is youtube social media? I think misinformation is like vaccines or seatbelts. Vaccinated people help to curb the spread of the disease and, in turn, help unvaccinated people. And seat belts prevent people from flying around in a crash and hitting other people, so you're safer when everybody else is also seated up. People trying to inform themselves and using that knowledge to inform others curbs the misinformation, and misinformation helps spread more misinformation. So I feel like it should be fought back against when we can I obviously don't think you have to tell everyone that you're proffesionally or self diagnosed. Like if you were cutting dairy out of your diet, you wouldn't have to disclose to every waitress whether your lactose intolerant or just trying to cut back every time that you say you can't have cheese. Was that metaphor too weird? I meant when it's relevant.
@estal3040
4 сағат бұрын
I would say for my autistic experience I also don't really feel "love" as neurotypical people describe it, I feel more an intense sense of loyalty. Like now that Im a bit older (mid 20s) and figured out how to regulate myself and express myself in what i would say is a non destructive way, Ive been able to get a good group of people for a couple years outside of family that know how I am masking and unmasked so im completely comfortable with. On paper I "love" all of them a lot, I would sacrifice a lot for them and would put a lot of them before myself but i dont feel that "love" the same way they do as neurotypical people. Its honestly enough now to know that they love me and and do a lot to help me grow as a person and be more comfortable. I dont even feel that way about my parents even though i feel the same "love" for them in the same way as my friends. I hope one day I can try to experience love the same way people describe it but honestly if that doesnt happen i dont think its gonna be all that bad cause im very happy with the environment and friends ive built around myself
@ffionsupple8741
14 күн бұрын
I can definitely relate, this video has put it into words and that very helpful. Cause I do love people just don’t feel the connection, like u said
@ma14.27
5 сағат бұрын
I think most autistic people have struggle with human connections in general. Humans are just really complex, I don't even fully understand/trust myself, so it's really hard to put that trust into other people. I currently don't have friends, not because I don't find any, I could literally reach out to a bunch of people, but there is no drive to do so. I stopped meeting my best friend 3 years ago, she has ADHD and I'm autistic, she always maintained the emotional side and I managed the activities, it was a perfect fit. Covid kind of ruined it and we couldn't really get back together, on one hand it's really exhausting to meet up and stuff, on the other we didn't see each other for so long that the harmony is missing. It's really strange how I don't care about making new friends and I need really long until I feel a connection to someone, which makes it really hard to enjoy companion. I think for a lot of autistic people it's just easier to be alone, because being alone means emotional safety and nobody judges you. The problem only arrives when you want to do something that's only fun with friends.
@gothickittenlovesblo
7 күн бұрын
For me majority of the time even with my family, i feel numb/devoid of emotion unless there is a surge of emotion and then its either full blown highest side of the emotion or a gradual build up but thats usually from being upset. I hate having emotions, i feel out of control when I feel emotions.
@IwasFRAMEDiTELLyou
17 күн бұрын
This is incredibly relatable, I'm glad this popped up in my feed
@historymajor26
2 күн бұрын
Also, bro said "if you won't be my friend, I'll be your enemy" to that parrot 😭🤣
@mellowhny
14 күн бұрын
i have never seen a video where someone just talks about their autistic expiriance it's very refreshing pls keep making those videos
@Wasser_Saft
14 күн бұрын
I really like your videos, you're someone I can relate to and I hope it can teach some people that autism is not the just the stereotypes
@Mosaic117
13 күн бұрын
I have an autistic friend called Joe who’s an absolute angel. He’s amazing at creating these like neurotic and bizarre art pieces which come from litr nowhere. Really breaks the stereotypical mold of “ooo autistic people can only be robotic(!)”
@tycjan9060
12 күн бұрын
Literally same. I just don't feel the emotion about the other person. My entire life i was so guilty about it because how people always say how important feelings towards others are and all stuff likw that. To this day i never told anyone about this due to fear of being rejected. Btw Im not autistic
@GRIMEY_SIN
17 күн бұрын
this was really relatable, and as someone who's never been diagnosed with anything- it's a little scary? I'm unsure how to explain it but I feel somewhat happy seeing how many people get that situation (in the sense I'm glad people understand what it's like.). Thank you for bringing light to this!! : )
@emris2697
12 күн бұрын
For me, my autistic experience with this is that, I only feel that love for that person when I am actively aware that they are real and exist. Like when we talk over a discord call or hang out in person. Just knowing they exist isn’t enough I gotta be really reminded that they’re real. It’s like a switch that goes on and off. I’ve had experiences times and times again where I haven’t talked with somebody in a while, and then we reconnect and I’m like “woah, man I really love this person so so much, how could I ever forget to talk to them?” I start missing people only if we’ve been together very recently and I really enjoyed their company. Other than that I just don’t miss people, and I regularly forget people exist. It’s very hard to keep track of more than just a few friendships.
@bunny-boy-jay
21 күн бұрын
you just helped me so much more than you know. subbed. thank you so friggin much dude
@annabeatrizfeitozadefreita6138
8 күн бұрын
Hello, i Am in diagnosis process for autism and ADHD. I'm really struggling rn because in my entire childhood i heard autism being treated like something bad or something not normal, it was common to hear my parents saying "Stop doing that! You look autistic" in a perjorative way, and that afected my mindset until now. Since my neuro said that i might have autism, and hearing all those doctors saying the same thing, made me very anxious for many reasons, but principally, the fear of pretend to be autistic. Like, i Am afraid that somehow my brain just assumed that i am autistic in some point of my life and started to "act autistic", like my parents said. Its só overwelming that sometimes i reach a breaking point just because of that, so i start crying and even hitting myself sometimes... I have 2 friends, they're my besties and always on my side, but i really struggled to finally find someone who really cared and treated me like a normal person, all My friendships before them were toxic or they abandoned me for some reason, and that really afected my psicological. But even tought i finally found friends that are incredible to me, i struggle with those feelings. Like... Sometimes i like more one of them then the other, and sometimes i don't miss them, and it make me feel a terrible friend because i love them a lot, they're like the family i never had... And I really wanted to show'em that more then I do, and i'm afraid they might get tired of me because im not funny like them, i don't get their jokes sometimes, and i got the things they say too literally... Relationships are complicated that sometimes i wish to not to have any, but my friends really can take this idea off my mind :)) I really wanted to vent a bit because I never seen anybody with the same struggles I Am passing rn, so... (I just wanted to say that sorry for any grammar mistakes in this comment, I Am Brasilian and learned English by myself, so I hope the comment is readable 😭)
@Tea_Enjoyer27
9 күн бұрын
Despite all the experiences my friends and I have gone through together, I don't really feel any strong love towards them. Of course, I care about them quite a lot, and I do love them more than your average dude on the street; but the something about the connection between us is just missing. (with a few exceptions) I think this is why stuff like empathy is such a struggle for me, as that struggle with emotional connection has just forced me to grind it into my behavior. But, when I finally get to the point of genuine affection and care towards a person, every attempt I make to show it isn't received because I either can't express it or my way of doing so doesn't count for them. Having to change everything I do to express feelings like this makes me feel like such a liar, and I feel really guilty for all of it, but I honestly don't know what else to do
@pazalone2166
16 күн бұрын
i did not think i would relate to this video as much as I do rn
@harasen_haras5
13 күн бұрын
I've been the same a lot of the time. I think the emotions are there. They're just hard to identify unless they point strongly in a certain direction. I've experienced being stressed and not being aware that I was until I expressed it externally through the tone I was speaking in. Sometimes I can identify it as stress by noticing things I experience when I get stressed. Things like getting all itchy or the temperature feeling off despite not having changed. (I wonder if those things happen for the same of distracting me to get me out of the stressful situation) When I'm in a position to do so, I can calm myself once I know what's happening. I also find that if I'm expected to feel a certain way about a situation, and I'm being asked about it, it can leave me just feeling the pressure of the expectations instead, making it even harder to look for the emotion they're fishing for.
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