Really appreciate your channel. You helped me a bunch early on in my first relationship get over really disturbing retrospective jealousy mental images, and also alerted me to the fact that I might experience OCD in other parts of my life too. Thanks for everything.
@ZacharyStockill
3 ай бұрын
You’re very welcome. Glad you have found it useful.
@kylethedalek
3 ай бұрын
I’m having this issue with a Jewish girl. I have no idea why she didn’t wait?
@HigorMatos
3 ай бұрын
First of all, Thank you again Zach! One more day alive! The brain of a person who is suffering from retroactive jealousy is working differently than a person who is not suffering from it, you know. But the question is quite personal: is your brain working like a normal person, after overcoming retroactive jealousy?
@ZacharyStockill
3 ай бұрын
If you’re asking me, personally, then my answer is yes. Though I’m not sure how “normal” my brain has ever been to begin with. :)
@HigorMatos
3 ай бұрын
@@ZacharyStockill Thank You so much, brother!
@summerbourne
3 ай бұрын
Thanks for touching on dealbreaker issues. This was a helpful caveat for question-asking.
@ZacharyStockill
3 ай бұрын
Glad to hear.
@sebastiencarletti5610
3 ай бұрын
My deal breaker was her accepting to be intimate with someone, with that someone imposing a « frame » that was detrimental to her self-image, yet that she accepted. The « frame » was: « we can have sexual intercourse, yet I won’t kiss you. Because I only kiss women I love ». This was the last draw. And it wasn’t « deep in her past ». It was only a few months prior us meeting…
@ZacharyStockill
3 ай бұрын
Sometimes, walking away is the best choice for everyone involved.
@sebastiencarletti5610
3 ай бұрын
@@ZacharyStockill Indeed. Prior to that I had to endure unpleasant situations. Such as not being able to train together at a gym because she didn't want to bump into past hookups / yet, coming across one in the streets, with a smirk on his face and her feeling miserable / her having labial herpes outbursts because of a "guy she dated" a few weeks prior to us becoming a couple. She is a good woman. My interpretation is that she had deep insecurities that she addressed in the way she thought would help her. Alas, tremors of this choice cost us a relationship that really had potential.
@cotter3390
3 ай бұрын
My biggest hang up is knowing I’m always thinking like if I didn’t know and ask and she didn’t tell me even after I told her not to answer she did and now I’m stuck with knowledge i shouldn’t know and it’s frustrating I don’t ask questions anymore I just wish i didn’t know I’d be fine if I was ignorant I wish i didn’t have to learn the hard way
@ZacharyStockill
3 ай бұрын
I hear you.
@dfsw
2 ай бұрын
I know how you feel. I knew from my previous relationship I never wanted to know anything about my partners past but one night my new girl just blurted out something she had done that triggered the RJ all over again. I keep thinking if she had never told me that things would have been so good. Unfortunately we do know now and the life we thought we would have is gone nothing will change that. No use in wishing for something that will never happen.
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