She is brilliant. And once again Trevor' interview is one of the very best.
@francesigboeli6939
2 жыл бұрын
Indeed!!!
@parkviewmo
2 жыл бұрын
Trevor introduces us to conversations we need to have.
@tpebbles
2 жыл бұрын
@A P because he's old? Grandpas do that stuff. I don't think any living American Grandfathers aren't racist.
@RamMohammadJosephKaur
2 жыл бұрын
@@tpebbles dont normalise this behaviour
@tpebbles
2 жыл бұрын
@@RamMohammadJosephKaur agreed :/
@peggystreetinfluencer
2 жыл бұрын
I have a friend who will not commit himself to a relationship because he knows that he will be unfaithful. I admire him for his honesty. I feel that if more men and women were like this, there wouldn't be so much heartbreak!
@RamMohammadJosephKaur
2 жыл бұрын
If all men and women start thinking like that, our future is doomed. Extinction.
@HT-pl8du
2 жыл бұрын
@@RamMohammadJosephKaur lol that would actually make the lives of the living better, no?
@katrinespiegelhauer8625
2 жыл бұрын
Two of my most favorite people to listen to, talking about a topic that needs intelligent discussion. It´s a win.
@01jbeals
2 жыл бұрын
Esther is such an incredible person! I absolutely love her, I find myself hanging on every single word she speaks. She’s *brilliant* captivating, & thought provoking.
@B_Bodziak
2 жыл бұрын
This is the most important interview I've seen in months and months.
@Handl3sAreStupid
2 жыл бұрын
Why?
@IDadGoodAlot
2 жыл бұрын
Fantastic discussion! Trevor gives the utmost respect to every guest, and actually listens and understands, and in many times positively influenced.
@DeMaur
2 жыл бұрын
Esther never misses - I could listen to her brilliance all day. She brings such acute clarity to complex issues if you're truly listening to what she says. I see a lot of comments adding assertions and opinions that she didn't articulate... this is a 10 minute segment, take what she said and digest it. One of the BEST, hour-long interviews that I've heard from her was with Lewis Howes and it opened my mind to the ways that we operate in relationship and friendship. Definitely worth a listen: kzitem.info/news/bejne/tGttmWhprYJ8e5w. I also love her podcast "Where Should We Begin". I've gotten so much from her without even reading her book, but that's next on my list! :-)
@Manana131
2 жыл бұрын
I love that interview too. All her books are amazing, I've probably listened hundreds of her interviews, lectures, talks, there's nobody like her, she's simply brilliant and I was so happy to see her at Daily Show because I love Trevor too
@DeMaur
2 жыл бұрын
@@Manana131 I love it! Alright, I definitely will start reading her books very soon. Thank you! ☺️
@dreamlife2351
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for the link and podcast information. I learned a lot from her conversations and I have so much respect and admiration for her. 🌺
@MISNM0
2 жыл бұрын
This is a fantastic post
@oveckamj
2 жыл бұрын
I'm so happy Esther is getting attention and media time. I strongly believe this is what we as people need to hear. She's so much spot on
@Selambehere
2 жыл бұрын
Wow, I'm delighted to see two of my favorite people discussing!
@courtneycalderon3655
2 жыл бұрын
Love this! Ive been reading her for years glad to see whole human beings coming into conversation whether it be for media purposes of profit or not, knowledge is power
@Didmyreseach
2 жыл бұрын
I appreciate Trevor and his team for being up to date, not like the news!
@pilargonzalez8442
2 жыл бұрын
So great to see them interact together. Esther is amazing, very hope giving.
@amypupka9207
2 жыл бұрын
Amazing interview! She is brilliant. I will be listening to her podcasts.
@millcovecaveman
2 жыл бұрын
Currently re-reading this book, which has been very helpful in understanding my former partner's actions and the end of our marriage. Esther's other book and podcast are excellent, too. Having read the book and listened to a lot of her sessions through the podcast 'Where Should We Begin,' I think Esther's points about power are really important. Assault (from Trevor's examples) is not the same as infidelity (what this book is about), and she's not defending either. Esther has helped a lot of people to see their situations with clearer eyes and move forward with their lives.
@davidabbett7011
2 жыл бұрын
Powerfully presented . . . terrific interview by both parties involved.
@verda_renee
2 жыл бұрын
Esther is such a gem. We don't deserve her. 🖤
@Tobstar76
2 жыл бұрын
I'm reading this book currently & Esther is phenomenally brilliant. I am reading the book to expand what I know about infidelity and humans. I'll recommend the book for anyone who is looking for something deeper than the mainstream ideas.
@bisolaogunkola3819
2 жыл бұрын
Men sure don't need women to protect them from infidelity. People are strong enough to not cheat if they have made this decision.
@NellieKAdaba
2 жыл бұрын
👍🏿
@lotfang
2 жыл бұрын
I love this lady ..... when she speaks I am drawn
@mariannatheron7363
2 жыл бұрын
Esther, thank you so much for addressing these complex themes, loaded with so much compassion!!
@ShenanK
2 жыл бұрын
Esther is simply brilliant ❤
@kaylaharrop7639
2 жыл бұрын
LOVE HER. Alain de Bottom is also amazing.
@poptart6662012
2 жыл бұрын
i love her relationship counceling podcast
@siphephelophungula4618
2 жыл бұрын
I love this Esther's work. Her books are a must read
@ottercai
2 жыл бұрын
I agree that we need to deal with people with compassion, however cheating is extremely traumatising. Cheating is a violation of the body, the heart, and the mind. When you cheat you are ripping the other person’s consent away from them. You are endangering their life to disease when they have not consented. You are endangering them to the possibility of a child outside their relationship when they have not consented. You are endangering their ability to make informed choices for their future. It is one thing to be polyamorous, it is one thing to be in an open relationship. To have consent and knowledge. It is another to take away someone’s ability to consent to what is happen to their life and their body.
@rainbeauxunicorn5237
2 жыл бұрын
How does cheating take away the partner’s consent or endangering their ability to make informed decisions about their future?
@GermanEscobedo
2 жыл бұрын
You're right on every account. And I'm not trying to defend the act. However if you choose to move forward with someone that has cheated then you need to reconcile with their actions and find a reason why they cheated and find compromise. If you believe someone who has cheated doesn't deserve to be with you any longer that is also a valid choice. We are adults who allowed to decide for themselves what's more important and how to negotiate new agreements that would actually curb the behavior. Again if you choose to go that route.
@cukless6849
2 жыл бұрын
@@rainbeauxunicorn5237 Probably meant because consent isn't given if it's under false pretenses, and informed decision like having a kid with their loving faithful partner but they can't have make that informed decision cause they don't know about their partner cheating
@deniselee8151
2 жыл бұрын
That statement is a hot mess ! You make zero sense .
@thiacari
2 жыл бұрын
Of course all parties should consent. Often though, people are scared to have the conversation, so they just do it secretly. If we were more open about things, we could discuss, and then make less compulsive and better decisions together.
@adhilakhan4333
2 жыл бұрын
My fave line.. "We used to call it 'sin' now we frame it as an 'illness' ... patholigising 💩shifty behaviour."
@tigerlilly9038
2 жыл бұрын
Where has she been all my life?? THIS conversation!!!
@wilsonsmom411
2 жыл бұрын
Desire versus compliance. Perfect.
@Adrian13rams
2 жыл бұрын
I read it as she is saying most cheating stories are complex due to theres more layers to it than "they cheated on their loved one." Like the they could feel lonely even though they are in the company of their loved one and so seek it elsewhere. Doesn't make the cheating ok, but it shows some more depth than a simple lie to each other. If someone can work through that betrayal and they can have a happy relationship, all power to them. I am personally not that person but that's just me and my own personal standard. Have had friends that have worked through that personal betrayal before and still in happy relationship with that person, as a friend I don't understand it, but I make sure my friends know I'm here if something happens again and hope for the best for them
@jaujess
2 жыл бұрын
Cheating i.e. lying is still a wrong done to someone, if you can't continue with monogamy it is only fair to address it with the other person. Sure some relationships can still survive which I am assuming is Ester Perel's take; but not without consequences and pain in most cases. If it's as wide spread then it only makes sense instead for open relationships to be the alternative. It's not my preference but at least its the most honest.
@GreyCatDot
2 жыл бұрын
Totally agree with you except for one thing: I have been open to men who were in open relationships, but unfortunately, my experience has been that people open their relationships without STRICT guidelines as to the needs of themselves and their primary partner. I think a lot of people like the idea of an open relationship but are not emotionally mature enough to do it where no one gets jealous or hurt.
@oldcarguy700
2 жыл бұрын
@@GreyCatDot maturity would do the correct thing.
@lightuponlight6727
2 жыл бұрын
She makes some valid points y'all.
@myhandlewastaken
2 жыл бұрын
"We use to be sinful, today we have illness, and it is the new frame so we can pathologize our sh**ty behaviors." *waves church fan*
@juiciferjerny
2 жыл бұрын
Two of my favorite people!! ❤❤
@hydril1537
2 жыл бұрын
Everyone cheats physically or mentally most people just take the secret to the grave
@LUISGARCIA-wn4hj
2 жыл бұрын
Actually studies show otherwise
@BhavnaUnleashed
2 жыл бұрын
Seriously wish this internet was at least an hour long ❤️ 2 of my favorite humans.
@chestermijnals6914
2 жыл бұрын
Apart from this serious topic. Two of most favourite people!!!!
@davidodonohoe1773
2 жыл бұрын
Never understand the argument about covering up to modify behavior. If that was the case wouldn’t there be bedlam at the beach every day. Such an odd concept. Very impressive interview. Imagine being that articulate in a second language. Jeepers most of us can’t do it in our first 🙄
@TreebeardsHome
2 жыл бұрын
She not only was extraordinarily articulate for a second language, she was profound. I’m still absorbing. Have a great day.
@gracemunich1476
2 жыл бұрын
you can learn a second language, just start young. Education system must change…
@bolowbc
Жыл бұрын
Big fan of her command of knowledge and eloquence to deliver, glad to see a clip of her on here that I missed!
@sonderingkayla
2 жыл бұрын
Wow I am blown away this is such a great interview with really interesting information.
@pmbluemoon
2 жыл бұрын
This is an excellent subject, and truly needs to be talked about further. 👍
@danielcaceres9971
2 жыл бұрын
She is amazing!
@afeaaserhna8785
2 жыл бұрын
This lady is very intelligent
@rakhmianwar6785
2 жыл бұрын
Finally! Esther on Daily Show!
@Mack462
2 жыл бұрын
Ms. Perel is a genius she captures this topic in the most eloquent true manner!
@anj1ch1
2 жыл бұрын
Esther is brilliant.
@jointhearumanati8574
2 жыл бұрын
I gotta read this book sounds like a thrilling read
@MarcusHart
2 жыл бұрын
Who else is here doing their research on her after the resurfacing of the Will and Jada video leaked on Reddit 💀
@gauravvikalp
2 жыл бұрын
Her jewellery is so bomb!
@AleDeLaGarza
2 жыл бұрын
She’s so smart! 🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻 love Esther
@owamimphombele2229
2 жыл бұрын
i loved, and still love this interview, one of the best and very educational conversation i have ever been exposed to. thank you daily show, thank you @Trevor
@corrinvoeller9491
2 жыл бұрын
A nuanced conversation!!! More more more!
@warboss1117
2 жыл бұрын
GRUNT logic!!! If a man or woman needs their spouse to police them up sexually, they're not your spouse, just your current garden tool!
@zax2004
2 жыл бұрын
Your current trowel?
@warboss1117
2 жыл бұрын
@@zax2004 the saying is garden tool but trowel would fit the description!
@NellieKAdaba
2 жыл бұрын
Fact
@essence178
5 ай бұрын
The show The Affair tackles this subject beautifully…watch it..😊
@mlggamer5296
2 жыл бұрын
Regarding what she said about the woman choosing to stick with someone who was toxic to them or cheated on them that would apply to to say Khloe Kardashian
@TooDamnTall
2 жыл бұрын
I don't know if this is because of the Will and Jada issue but... This lady scares me for some reason. She seems nice and knowledgeable but she got my spidey senses going crazy.
@lyssimon4136
2 жыл бұрын
Excellent discussion.
@youwannaknoweh
2 жыл бұрын
A short interview for a complex topic. I’m glad to live in a place where equality is strived for, even though I wished it would happen faster. For her last example the situation might have more layers, but, to me, the outcome is pretty much the same, lying for personal gain to someone who is allegedly loved.
@thevioletgirl17
2 жыл бұрын
This woman is so brilliant
@ellenflanagan8582
2 жыл бұрын
The first thing when I saw this video was that Trevor had cut his beautiful hair. Until I heard the audience laughter
@tristanmoller9498
2 жыл бұрын
This interview was to short. The lady claimed we should look at affairs in a more nuanced way but wasn’t able to present her take on them. Every answer was worth a follow up question. Guess I’m going to have to read the book.
@DuranmanX
2 жыл бұрын
I think the point of the interview was to promote the book and the author by raising the questions.
@TreebeardsHome
2 жыл бұрын
This interview worked out well for her then, as plenty of us viewers want to hear more. I’m def checking out her book(s). Here’s hoping the library has an audio version.
@blackcatkro
2 жыл бұрын
@@TreebeardsHome She also has some great podcasts and audiobooks!
@TreebeardsHome
2 жыл бұрын
@@blackcatkro - Thanks. I’ll check out her name on YT & podcasts. Have a great day.
@stanstanton9043
2 жыл бұрын
I want to live in the world this woman lives in
@TitoTimTravels
2 жыл бұрын
It seems that you do. 😎
@motherswhoempowerothermoth3272
2 жыл бұрын
We are learning.
@GothicVioletVixen
2 жыл бұрын
It's one of our few redeeming qualities. ❤️
@bigcatenergy3707
2 жыл бұрын
I LOVE DR PEREL
@tpebbles
2 жыл бұрын
dope I love her!
@marthatatsanyane2322
2 жыл бұрын
I love this woman. she is so direct and honest...🧡🧡🧡
@TASmith10
2 жыл бұрын
Two of my favorite speakers together. Trevor, why didn't you bring up your chapter on Fluffy?
@ChrisAlbertH47
2 жыл бұрын
This is one heck of a throwback. This was from 2017 if I'm not mistaken. Where is Trevor these days? Why do I feel like his colleagues are filling in for him more and more?
@maddieman5921
2 жыл бұрын
He had a bad surgery, that he is messed up from.
@maddieman5921
2 жыл бұрын
He is suing. They left him in pain and unable to fully move his arm. From what I read.
@ChrisAlbertH47
2 жыл бұрын
@@maddieman5921 Wow, really? Didn't know that
@truthseeker94-w
2 жыл бұрын
Brilliant woman 👏
@johnmahlmann6382
2 жыл бұрын
Except in cases of abuse, affairs minimize the risk of being alone and denies the deceived their ability to make informed choices. Creative use of language does nothing to excuse sh*tty behavior.
@awake3607
2 жыл бұрын
❤
@NellieKAdaba
2 жыл бұрын
👍🏿
@bobjohnson6926
2 жыл бұрын
Cheating is just cheating because it's easy to lie to somebody that trust you.
@danihesslinger7968
2 жыл бұрын
From Germany, in the late 60s: "Wer zweimal mit derselben pennt, gehört schon zum Establischment" - > Whoever sleeps with a woman twice, already belongs to the establishment. I am a 72-year old woman, who hates certain social norms, e.g. marriage, but have been in a partnership - not marriage - for more than 40 years. Neither of us two (to my knowledge 😃 ) ever was "infidel". Tempted maybe, but love, solidarity, trust, friendship were stronger. However, you have to work on that continuously, not just bow to social perspectives. The topic is really complex - shall look into the book. "Infidelity" was important in feudal times, when succession and inheritance were important, hence the origin of offspring. Call me "romantic", but in our times it is only a question of psychology, not sociology any more.
@DuranmanX
2 жыл бұрын
I think like many things, like drug use or infidelity, when terrible people do them it worsens the opinion of it. Not everyone who cheats is a heartless chauvinist, but that's the only stories we here of cheating.
@brandindash1863
2 жыл бұрын
Maybe I should write a book I’ve been saying almost exactly this for years
@JNorth-rf3ui
2 жыл бұрын
I agree....This is not new information, nor is it a new concept. Many people have been having this same conversation for years, but it's the way she breaks it down that makes it so engaging.
@tylerhackner9731
2 жыл бұрын
I love her
@fatimabonita8255
2 жыл бұрын
Both absolutely brilliant
@GothicVioletVixen
2 жыл бұрын
It's about time
@michelleamatulle6378
2 жыл бұрын
I love this brilliant woman. I’ve watched her a lot on her KZitem videos.
@AC-xf6sw
2 жыл бұрын
Her intelligence is stunning.
@mariamtee
2 жыл бұрын
The only reason I was faithful to my husband of 20 years was due to my religious beliefs. Otherwise I deem monogamy totally unnatural which is why it wasn’t practiced by most cultures for the most part of human history. You know the contradictory dilemmas facing us religious folks, yeah it was one of those.
@bebopbonsai
2 жыл бұрын
Funny how religion often seems to prevent people, especially women, from having any fun during life on earth 🤷🏻♂️
@b.b.s2860
2 жыл бұрын
@@bebopbonsai Amen!
@TitoTimTravels
2 жыл бұрын
Monogamy is unnatural for humans and was never expected of men, until around the 1960s. We could not try to make women equal, and allow them the freedom to sleep around that men always had... so the men had to try and keep their zippers closed. It seems that it is not going well ha ha 😎
@edwardbeck
2 жыл бұрын
Great way to start the new year with a rerun Couples therapist Esther Perel discusses power and infidelity in her book "The State of Affairs." ... The Daily ... Comedy Central · Nov 27, 2017
@TaylorMeadowSun
2 жыл бұрын
Yaaaay Esther!!!!!!!!!!! Bringing in the conscious light !!!!!
@Handl3sAreStupid
2 жыл бұрын
I don't think it's that nuanced. If you want to cheat on someone, then break up with them. You clearly don't love them anyways.
@gunny1391
2 жыл бұрын
Can you love someone and still have an affair?
@VallThyo
2 жыл бұрын
@@gunny1391 Can you love someone and still choose not being with them because it's unhealthy? Like, for example, if they cheat on you.
@Handl3sAreStupid
2 жыл бұрын
@@gunny1391 IMO, no. Part of love is not hurting the other person. So if one has an affair, a seriously hurtful act, how could they still love their spouse?
@B_Bodziak
2 жыл бұрын
Things are rarely that cut and dry.
@FinalB055
2 жыл бұрын
@@Handl3sAreStupid if someone smokes and their partner says it hurts their feelings because of the health implications, does it mean that the smoker does not love their partner?
@mingtoiisaac4623
2 жыл бұрын
Wow! ( speechless ) must get this book
@zawarski
2 жыл бұрын
30+ years. Never the least bit interested in someone else. Guess I got lucky.
@mariamtee
2 жыл бұрын
Which is as rare as anyone not wanting to try something different for dinner every few nights or even every night. Human beings like diversity and change and this is no different.
@zawarski
2 жыл бұрын
@@mariamtee you might be onto something. My palette is limited. I like neither diversity or change. When I find something I like, I tend to stick with it.
@vickiecarnes8372
2 жыл бұрын
I’ve been on both sides I’ve had an affair while married which ended my marriage. At the same time my next partner was a constant cheater and the pain it caused me made hurt so much. I loved this man so much I didn’t leave it took 16 yrs b4 I left
@organicjames2901
2 жыл бұрын
She got great results for Will Smith! According to Jada Pinket, Esther Perel has been instrumental in redefining their relationship.
@MrCph2200
2 жыл бұрын
I sense some irony there… 😁
@zotz1150
2 жыл бұрын
Is it just me, or did the daily show get de monitized? Or something like youtube stopped reccomdending the daily show to me even though Im subbed... Cmon youtube.
@grainofsalt2113
2 жыл бұрын
is this an old interview?
@spicybrown75
2 жыл бұрын
Yes
@mgu1N1n1
2 жыл бұрын
Men, do not hesitate for one moment to put a restraining order against your female partner if you feel your safety and health is in jeopardy. Placing a permanent restraining order on my female partner was absolutely the wisest protective move of my adult lifetime. My only regret is not doing it years earlier. Men, be safe!
@lincolnhaldorsen5649
2 жыл бұрын
How about no infidelity is allowed? It makes sense to restrict all of it.
@TheRecklessCrew
2 жыл бұрын
Yo are they back in the old studio ?
@kevinsanders5308
2 жыл бұрын
There is a duality to what the guest stated because women have also cheated from the beginning of times, men much more, but women too. Men have tried to control women, and men have oftentimes been given passes, but infidelity is on both sides to which history has beared, and myself as well.
@Kate-hh8yi
2 жыл бұрын
Great question!
@leilapahlevan5736
2 жыл бұрын
WHEN YOU SEE TWO OF YOUR FAVORITE PEOPLE IN ONE VIDEO
@dayvontahoward
2 жыл бұрын
Why is the sound quality so low on this channel only
@janina8559
2 жыл бұрын
Beaten is the new shame she is so right!
@freedomfighter4446
2 жыл бұрын
It's true the woman are as cover for the men because the men are quick flares and the woman are slow when it comes to that so that's how we are created this is not about being unfair or not
@emilytamayomaher
2 жыл бұрын
Love this.
@lillyofthevalley208
2 жыл бұрын
Excuse me in my pj's but I am very sick. Kidney failure. I felt at home.
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