If you think somebody lying is just act calm and be silent.
@Bleepbleepblorbus
Ай бұрын
Or do a forced smile while staring at their eyes the entire time they're talking. Freaks them the out.
@ReMind8
Ай бұрын
😂😂
@dustinhellstern7728
Ай бұрын
Yeah, they have an EXTREMELY hard time dealing with that, ironically.
@Crimsoncloak_
Ай бұрын
dont know why this aint on the algorithm but this vid deserves more views
@dustinhellstern7728
Ай бұрын
Dude, the average person is probably afraid to view this, subconsciously..
@dustinhellstern7728
Ай бұрын
The most obvious sign I think is when you’re dating that person you suspect is lying to everyone about you- then REALIZE they won’t let ANY Mutual friends speak to you about ANYthing without them being there. & Yes, they CONTROL any & all conversations that involve them or you. Honest people don’t do that. Ever. Doesn’t matter their personality type, or medication they’re on- that’s someone who lies a lot, to a lot of people… knowing they could Easily be caught in 1 line of deductive questioning, by anybody who asks follow up questions, really…
@nightwoolf4545
Ай бұрын
lmao its funny that some of the signs are my standard behavior/body language, does that mean im a born liar?
@forevermorbid8949
27 күн бұрын
After getting yelled at as a child for doing the dishes wrong, I started lying about menial things to not get yelled at. Started a habit of what is really unnecessary lying out of anxiety. Got a bit older and have to consciously try to stop my instinct to cover my tracks. The truth is always easier and almost always gets a better result. You just dig too many rabbit holes and not ones you escape into but ones you get ur foot stuck in and can't get out. Has led to a lot of correcting right after saying something and often even contradicting to revert to being fully truthful. Have noticed it makes a lot of people sceptical of what you are saying to them. If you have a vid on how to beat habitual lying, or just have some good advise on it I'd love to hear it. I want to be truthful but it doesn't always come out that way. edit: Just wanted to add I enjoyed the video.
@ReMind8
26 күн бұрын
Thank you I’m glad you enjoyed the video. First, I’m not an expert but I will share my opinion based on what I know. Defining the problem. I will assume it is a parent (or caretaker) that was yelling at you as a child about menial thing. When a parent yells or gives disapproval to a child over things they cannot fix or without properly guiding the child on how to do things correctly, within reason, the child may resort to lying to attempt to get the parents’ approval. If the consequence of lying is that the parent begins to give approval to that child believing the child is doing well, the lying behavior will be re-enforced and repeated. This can lead lying to continue into adulthood. Children naturally seek the approval of their parents. They form aspects of their sense of self (or self-image) from the feedback parents’ (or authority figures) give them in the form of approval for “right behavior” and disapproval for “wrong behavior.” When this process goes wrong, the child develops a deformed self-image and suffers as an adult. If lying as a child led to parental approval, you may have developed a distorted self-image that remains with you as an adult. Maybe you believe you are not good enough; you will be rejected by others or by society if you reveal who you really are so you tell people what you think will get them to accept you or approve of you as you did with the adults when you were a child. Now to fix this, or at least improve it, you could simulate for yourself the approval and disapproval cycle to create a self-image that you accept and are proud to present to the world whether they accept you or not, of course keeping in mind that we all need at a least a little bit of acceptance. That may take away your motivation to lie and so reduce the behavior or eliminate it. I personally had a problem with my self-image due to confusing feedback as a child. There are many simple and complex ways to deal with this. I will share with you 1 specific technique that has been useful for me. WHAT TO DO: Create 2 lists, this process initially takes 30 to 60 minutes then 5 minutes per day. + Highlight reel. Remember and write down all the things that you had done that you now believe are good, things you are proud of, even if they are small. What are the good things about you? Everyone has strengths. For example, the fact that you realize you have an issue with lying and are doing something to fix it. You are wise enough to observe yourself and notice what you are doing correctly and what you could improve. Everyday take a few minutes to look at that list, acknowledge and re-live those memories in your mind and commit to creating new ones. This is a form of giving yourself approval for the good things, that you did not get as a child. + Shortcomings Reel. Remember and write down all the things that you had done that you now believe are bad and do not want to repeat. For example, remember a lie you told that caused trouble. Now, next to each bad thing write down what you learned from it, and how you plan to behave instead or the right way to behave in your judgement (This is called if-then planning or implementation intention). Everyday take a few minutes to remember and re-live the bad behaviour and then how you would like to behave instead if something similar happens again. This is a form of giving your self-disapproval for the bad things and direction for correcting them that you also may not have gotten as a child. Remember, some of your shortcomings are not behavioral and may not be changeable, acknowledge these things too and accept them completely, realize that everyone has imperfections, we are human after all. This process was helpful for me in many ways, I hope it helps you too.
@forevermorbid8949
26 күн бұрын
@@ReMind8 Wow, that is a very thorough answer. Thank you very much for taking that kind of time! I think you pretty much nailed what happened there. One of the other results seems to be the need to over-justify every thing I say, which is probably trying to make sure I'm not getting negative feedback whilst attempting to do good or be believed. I'm glad If you had a similar experience that you have found something that works for you, as its not something many people would like to be defined by. That is a really solid idea what you put forth and I will definitely give it a go. I am rather self-aware (at least I think) and do wish to move towards improvement and eventually; Slaying the dragon entirely. Again, thank you for taking the time as that is very helpful. Think you've got a long term sub 😉
@Theknightman-wg1dz
23 күн бұрын
I’m normally a pretty honest person, but I will always be nervous when someone thinks I’m lying because I want them to know that I’m not lying so I become self aware
@graceface418
27 күн бұрын
Fidgeting and stimming are things also done by Autistic folks and people with ADHD. That alone is not a sign of lying
@suponjubobu5536
24 күн бұрын
I think it's important to compare not just to everyday baseline, but also to baseline of being questioned. I for one get stressed out merely by being questioned intensely about anything and it can make it look like I'm lying when I'm not, and then I worry about seeming like I'm lying and it makes the stress snowball.
@isabellaaverion
Ай бұрын
learned a lot of new things watching this. great vid!
@ReMind8
Ай бұрын
Thanks, I'm happy it was useful.
@SirElmothe3rd
29 күн бұрын
thanks i can be a better liar now
@ReMind8
27 күн бұрын
Lying can sometimes, although rarely, be the ethical thing to do. I only share what I learned, how you use it is upto you.
@patricksmith2239
27 күн бұрын
Even when you tell the truth. You can still be accused of a lie. You can’t change others beliefs.
@lordnicoo3250
Ай бұрын
When i lie, eye contact is the hardest sign to cover up. Just gets so anxious and awkward
@ReMind8
Ай бұрын
It's because you have a good conscience. The more guilt and shame you feel the harder it is to hide the signs of lying, especially eye contact.
@degenincel
25 күн бұрын
@@ReMind8 That's why i can lie easily, don't have all the guilt and shame about it.
@ReMind8
25 күн бұрын
Fair enough, but how come you don't feel guilt and shame when you lying?
@degenincel
24 күн бұрын
@@ReMind8 I expect the same from other people they are all liars and will stab you in the back if you don't stab them in the back first
@ReMind8
23 күн бұрын
Maybe, however, a reasonable diagnosis cannot be made from a single comment. That is why I'm interested in what the commenter has to say out of curiosity.
@DacalLP
24 күн бұрын
it is nearly 2 AM. What am I even watching anymore
@sniper74839
Ай бұрын
Thanks...now I can lie more efficiently
@MikeFrazee222
Ай бұрын
I fidget all the time thanks to anxiety.
@systembyhacked6244
28 күн бұрын
Nice one
@paper5048
Ай бұрын
Watching this video to figue out how to lie better>>
@ReMind8
Ай бұрын
Lying can sometimes, although rarely, be the ethical thing to do. I only share what I learned, how you use it is upto you.
@Bleepbleepblorbus
29 күн бұрын
Some liars are aware of these and might point them out to draw attention away from this.
@LaughIsLife4ever
Ай бұрын
I have ADHD Type-C, I am fidgeting when I am telling the truth. Did you consider psychological disorders to the topic of lying signals? How does the accumulation of psychological disorders relate to the topic of lying signals?
@ReMind8
Ай бұрын
Good question. Certain psychological disorders may create signals that can be misleading. This makes it even more important to develop a detailed baseline for that specific person and then observe deviations from the baseline (check 03:37). You'll notice interrogators will ask basic questions like, "What is your name?" "What is your address?" even when they know the answer to these questions just to establish how that specific person behaves when telling the truth so that they have a baseline to compare to. It is also important to note that some signals indicate just fear or anxiety and must be evaluated in context; because someone may be anxious or afraid for reasons other than lying (check 02:56). One way to address this is to look for multiple signals and if possible, to observe the person at a different time when they are less anxious to get a better read. (check 10:59)
@dustinhellstern7728
Ай бұрын
Yes, they’re factored in more than you think, as “Fidgeting” IN GENERAL is a very minute component of The Whole. It’s Not that any 1 of these done by someone MEANS they are a liar…but rather, that the inability to “be honest” (as they’d claim), WiTHOUT exhibiting several of these- iS HIGHLY Unlikely..
@dustinhellstern7728
Ай бұрын
@@ReMind8exactly, it’s like Polygraphs. Anyone who thinks they’re “Unreliable” in general, simply does Not understand the concept of what are called, “Control Questions”. If someone is so nervous that they can barely answer what their name is- THEN they don’t continue The Test UNTIL they relax to Normal-functions shown by their Vitals. People don’t realize how trustworthy those really are.
@dustinhellstern7728
Ай бұрын
He explained the concept of a “Baseline” like 10x’s dude. Not sure how you missed that Every time. It was like 15% of his video, was reiterating that very thing.
@ReMind8
Ай бұрын
Good point, taking baseline measurements is standard procedure for polygraph test.
@user-gb4bn8pk9n
Ай бұрын
When I am lying I am using more details I think, cause so I have more time to think about the rest
@ReMind8
29 күн бұрын
That makes sense. Normally the details you would give would be less relevant to the lie so that you have more time to think without incriminating yourself. Irrelevant details are, in and of themselves, a sign of lying. (check 08:30) If you were to give more relevant details, it would quickly get very difficult to keep your story straight when lying, unless you had time to prepare.
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