Relax you are not in focus !
Often we put too much emphasis on ourselves, thinking that everyone is watching us, everyone will judge us and with this fear we stop doing certain things or we start doing certain things to look good in their books, but the fact is no one actually cares!
Nobody cares if you can’t dance well. Just get up and dance - dave barry
No one cares - it is harsh but it is true! - there will be some close friends and family who think about you , about certain aspects of your life, that's it! But they don't care about you as much as you do - to some of us this thought can be very scary! Does no one really care about me ? What am I going to do ? but the bright side of this thing that no one actually cares about you is freedom and this thought is incredible and valuable..because let's face it you are not the centre of the universe and no one cares about you as much as you do!
The freedom
So normally if you have to make any decisions, related to your career or any choice would have a first prompt in your head, how would i look? What would people think if I did this? What would people say if I opted for this line of career? This fear is loud and clear in our heads the moment we need to make important decisions or choices but when you recognise the fact that you are not the centre of everyone's universe, it gives you the freedom to think about things in your own way, thinking about things whether they will be beneficial for you and your well being in the long run or not !
Why don't we have to be insecure ?
The fear of being rejected is what is driving most of us decisions. We are insecure in a lot of ways and We want to be acknowledged, accepted for the person we are, hence most of our decisions are based on what will look good rather than what we like…and we assume that others will find fault with us! In fact no one judges us more than us! We are our biggest critic…and everyone has something more important to think about than you- that is themselves! People are focused on themselves and not you ! so relax everyone is selfish and all they care about is themselves !
The only reason you care is-
“In many ways we were drugged when we were young. We were brought up to need people. For what? For acceptance, approval, appreciation, applause.” - Anthony de Mello
The only reason we seem to care is because we need the approval of people, we need people to like what we are, what we are doing, what we have achieved…so on and so forth….
From childhood we have been programmed to seek approval because it gives us some kind of high when we are appreciated by our parents, teachers, siblings… so we go on wanting more…we are addicted !
And when we fear that we might fail, it results in negative things like depression, withdrawing from people and a lot more!
How to stop caring?
Sometimes, the solution to our problem is in the problem itself! We know that we are addicted to this approval thing… So the best way to stop caring is to be rude and cut all ties with it!
Almost always it's not people's expectations of you but your own need to be recognised , praised will drive you to some decisions, so recognising those instances and not acting upon those impulses is the only solution we have for this approval drug!
Observe your thoughts and you'll be surprised how many of your thoughts are based on approval rather than your own interests. And in most of the cases when you are seeking approval , people will recognise it and give it to you, but most of the time it is fake- so ultimately we are striving for some approval which isn't even real ??? So why bother in the first place?
When you stop basing all your decisions on approval, you will become authentic and true to who you are…because almost always our suffering comes from our attachment to false things and truth is what liberates our true self !
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Негізгі бет Everyone is not thinking about you ! About time you realise this !
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