My husband has early onset and we have young kids st home. I could never have a “boyfriend” before he passed. A friend I will need, probably many, but not another relationship.
@caup3126
5 жыл бұрын
Dont worry your biological kids won't stand for anyone disrespecting you. Unfortunately B Smith does not have biological kids.
@barbc.3093
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for being the only person who is willing to speak the truth! What happened to death do us part?! My Dad died of terminal Cancer and my Mom and I cared for him to the end at home. I did the same thing for our Mom who had Alzheimers with my siblings at home 🏡🙏🏼❤✨ This is just selfish and wrong.
@mac979s1
2 жыл бұрын
@@barbc.3093 thank you. I just don’t like this but I’m not in the situation.
@shareeweathersby9765
2 жыл бұрын
I watches this off & on all the times & it still makes me furious! I could “never” do this to my husband. I’m in medical field & I know how tiresome & aggravating caring for an individual is/could become. It’s my job & done it for my Mother(at her home w/siblings) before she passed. I feel as long as he has breath in his body & we’re still married, that’s committing adultery. Just my personal opinion 💔😢
@Ivymeg
Жыл бұрын
Please do not judge that which shoes one has not walked in. Every couple, every person, every story is different. It is my sincere hope that a cure is found for Alzheimer’s and couples are not faced - ever again - with these emotional, physical, spiritual, & intellectual hardships as these loving people bravely shared in this well produced piece.
@lawrencettajohnson-smoote2379
4 жыл бұрын
I am not my husband caregiver I refuse to be labeled caregiver, Iam and will remain “His wife’.The role of assisting your spouse thru life is part of your wedding vows. The medical condition has put limits on the both of you already.Dont let it re assign your marriage too, are my thoughts and position, as a couple. We all will have to deal with this the way we, the individual can. How ever you chose , love to you and yours.
@stillkicking2445
Жыл бұрын
it is disgusting and disrespectful to have an extramarital affair when your spouse is going through the most horrific time of their life…..there really are no words but betrayal certainly comes to mind.
@dkdeady17
5 жыл бұрын
What happened to your marriage vows? In sickness and in health? I totally understand getting help with caregiving, esp since it is so very difficult. But, a girlfriend? While your wife is still alive? Maybe “not present”, but still living. You commented, “Not intentional but you fell into it?” I have family members suffering with this horrible disease. You don’t like it & it totally changes every family member’s life. You must get help, you will cry, you will be physically & emotionally drained-but you honor your marriage vows!
@caup3126
5 жыл бұрын
Dam right!!!
@kaymiller2441
5 жыл бұрын
Greg wants his wife to go on once he is dead, he does not expect his wife to bring a lover into the home while he is alive. Do not equate the two relationships.
@lilliearvizu9447
4 жыл бұрын
Exactly!
@Strength_In_Wisdom
4 жыл бұрын
Right that is very disrespectful to someone who can't understand Mr. Smith's new girlfriend isn't Barbra's sister.
@amandafails8842
5 жыл бұрын
So damn sick of this bs.What is different he didn't bring a woman in their house,he love his wife until she past , that's respect !!!!
@lilannegirl03
2 жыл бұрын
If you're talking about Barry Petersen, then that's not actually true. 🤷🏼♀️
@joylynne8
4 жыл бұрын
For better or worse - remember?
@JellyBean-jr8xb
2 жыл бұрын
My spouse was diagnosed 5 years ago with Alzheimer’s. Yes, a lot has changed. He doesn’t recognize me as his wife. I’m not sure who he thinks I am, but I know who he is and he’s still my husband and believe me, that’s all that matters! Whatever happened to, for better or worse?
@tay-tayrazors8022
5 жыл бұрын
There No Damn way I would allow My husband bring another Woman into l home We built together and raise kids and pay bills at. I Rather My husband put me in a nursing home if I have dementia. Or any kind of sickness. I Will Not!!!!! Stand for My husband disrespecting me like that. No Way🙅
@trishayamada807
Жыл бұрын
I can’t believe you are even married. Wow. Negativity.
@terryrussell-dn2is
3 ай бұрын
Don't judge please, unless you walk in their shoes!!! It's absolutely horrid! I have a dear friend who's husband was diagnosed with early alzheimers, she did everything for him, but finally on his way out, she moved on. She still spent time with him, eventhough he had no idea who she was!!
@Rahsim
4 жыл бұрын
She’s gonna get ALL B. Smith’s 💰!!! SMH
@LauriKunes
23 күн бұрын
So happy for all of you! Everyone deserves to have love .
@kimmickal
10 ай бұрын
I understand why they found someone else. People with Alzheimer's can no longer meet their needs.
@gaylea.griffin9733
4 жыл бұрын
I’m sorry I think it’s wrong...
@SheTwice
4 жыл бұрын
Gayle A. Griffin it IS wrong and very disrespectful and inappropriate!
@xNatethaGreat
4 жыл бұрын
Agree something sneaky about his side piece he'll marry that gross thing next file quits and leave him hanging dry...fool smh!
@Joygirl827
3 жыл бұрын
Yes it is wrong God said so
@betsyd58
2 жыл бұрын
Let me know after.you have experienced it
@katrinahutchison1810
5 жыл бұрын
Well let's get at least some 8 hours of professional assistance for B. Smith.
@maggieholt2250
5 жыл бұрын
This was an incredibly caring and relevant discussion, and I hope millions of people have the opportunity to watch--and digest--what is being said. These folks are so brave.
@gardening4zone970
3 жыл бұрын
So relatable...a caretakers tale no one will ever understand unless you are experiencing it.
@lorirussell3980
2 жыл бұрын
Truth
@kathleenthompson8134
2 жыл бұрын
I read these comments and it seems most people have absolutely no idea what dementia is, the profound destruction dementia wreaks on everyone's lives, what caring for a person with dementia is really like. What love these new partners display by being active participants in such complex relationships. I know for myself that I would never want my husband to be lonely or alone; that's how much I love him. Wishing everyone all the best as they navigate their way through these troubling waters.
@sirdonslady
5 жыл бұрын
I can't understand how easy it is to commit adultery with no shame
@betsyd58
2 жыл бұрын
Oh brother
@thoyo
5 жыл бұрын
Incredibly difficult for everyone involved. I hope they all find peace and joy.
@karong7017
5 жыл бұрын
Get Dr Drew so we can get to the bottom of this. Seriously, we trust him. Men have no loyalty. Shame.
@MsLuvmusic81
4 жыл бұрын
not all men would do this - its the marriage and the person
@Atl404sFinest
2 жыл бұрын
Karon, it is very hard to take care of someone and love them at the same time. Let that sink in. You are speaking from an outer body experience. Please don’t judge something you can’t relate to.
@trishayamada807
Жыл бұрын
@@Atl404sFinest exactly. And the people with dementia are terminal, they don’t know their spouses. They will not get better. It’s fake over and can take ten plus years to die. And no person should have to be alone.
@CatElse
5 ай бұрын
Til death us do part is unrealistic.but I wonder if men find new love more easily I'm these situations.
@amerhousewife7813
5 жыл бұрын
Animals can't control themselves. Why is this socially acceptable? If this third person wants to help someone, why is breaking marriage vows the response?
@The2musiclovers
2 жыл бұрын
I lost my husband to Alzheimer's 2017 after 43 yrs of marriage. I was the caregiver with hired help. I loved him even more while I was giving him care. I am still in love with him and miss him very much. At what time do you love the person? You can't love them both at the same time. How is this different from adultery?
@karenperrealt3520
Жыл бұрын
My husband has dementia, he is 80 and I am 66. I am his full time caregiver. As they say it truly is difficult and yes it is 24 hours a day. I cant think of a relationship at this time in his life. He us still aware of what is going on but has trouble doing many things.
@Emotional2000
5 жыл бұрын
I have been a caregiver of a family member with Alzheimer’s disease and I would not dare do something as disrespectful as this! Me and my grandmother stood by my grandfather whom died having the disease! She never left his side and loved only him to the end! With that said, If you wish not to be with your spouse, I would suggest you get a divorce. And yes, your love one could live with other family members or you could choose a Nursing Home/Assisted Living Facility of your choice/even a Nurse to come in to tend to your loved one(s). By the way, we do have the right to judge according to the Bible/to those that are hearers and doers of His word. John 7:24 states: “Judge not according to the appearance, but judge righteous judgment.” In other words, people are allowed to judge right from wrong. So, give me a break with the “we should not judge” spiel! #DoUntoOthersAsYouWouldHaveThemDoUntoYou
4 жыл бұрын
Amen, wait until death do u apart. You made your vows before God and man. I know men grieve differently- but u still made the vow. Any woman that go with a married man before his wife dies havr very low self esteem. Because he will leave you the same way. And after his wife is gone-" the level of trust is very low or none exisitant. That will alwsys be in the forefront of his mind. That is where your relationship with God comes in at. His strength is made perfect in weakness. God can hold u close and be a wife to u. He will help u keep your vows that u made to him. Until death do us apart. Remain faithful to God.
@janiceisaacs6755
2 жыл бұрын
Judge not lest ye be judged. I have seen this in my own life with my own eyes. It takes an incredible amount of love for the "well" partners to continue to participate in these relationships. They deserve all the comfort they can get. I've seen so much worse in the world that is considered normal and no one says a word about it.
@gmoneyb5559
5 жыл бұрын
This is so creepy
@rosethornil
4 жыл бұрын
Thanks. That is the very word I was looking for. You're right.
@privateaccount6218
4 ай бұрын
Wow I salute you all 😢
@jackzimmer6553
8 ай бұрын
Glad I saw this video. I’m the caregiver of my wife who was diagnosed with early onset Alzheimer’s 4 years age. Unfortunately she is in the late stages of this terrible disease. Although I don’t have much help besides my daughter, I thank God for being an introvert . It can get very lonely though.
@abigailkiesel1385
Жыл бұрын
I'm beyond excited to share this it truly touches my soul
@savvysue3537
5 жыл бұрын
Thank you, Barry Petersen for bringing attention to this discussion; for providing insight with other couples' views and finally for voicing the need for each couple to decide their values. This is an important discussion for every couple.
@omegazavaleta9138
5 жыл бұрын
Marriage till death to you part. Shameful behavior an it's like you condone it. Nasty people only out for themselves
@callieford2228
5 жыл бұрын
I just wonder if the shoe was on the other foot...would these men be okay if their wives brought in another man to help "care" for them? What if it were a terminal illness like cancer?? Not a cognitive disorder but certainly just as serious...just wonder how they'd feel 🤔
@trishayamada807
Жыл бұрын
The cognitive part is the issue. They don’t know their partners.
@brookemiller7230
2 жыл бұрын
These people need more caretakers in their home, not a new boy/girlfriend!
@maggieholt2250
5 жыл бұрын
If you haven't had to care for someone with advanced dementia, don't judge the caregiver/spouse. Not even if you've walked the proverbial mile. A mile is not enough. This goes on for miles and miles and miles............. The caregiver/spouse can end up lost and starving.
@gilraenn29
5 ай бұрын
How convenient to release one from guilt. And it’s always men who move on. Mostly men.
@debbiemaligalig3176
5 жыл бұрын
This is amazing and I read about this. However this is how it is. You cannot judge others. We all have different situations. Bless you all. I will pray harder for all of you. Deb.
@linadowning218
Жыл бұрын
Caregiver of Alzheimer’s spouse or any other terminally ill can be a loneliness battle
@danamitchell6063
5 жыл бұрын
B.Smith needs a nurse at home if husband needs some me time.
@raksmeysc4798
5 жыл бұрын
This is called what again ? Is it even a human act ?
@icecream7yum1
10 ай бұрын
Create an end of life plan to prevent golddigging, ladies.
@Christine_58-v8q
5 жыл бұрын
Concerning Married Life 1 Now for the matters you wrote about: “It is good for a man not to have sexual relations with a woman.” 2But since sexual immorality is occurring, each man should have sexual relations with his own wife, and each woman with her own husband. 3 The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. 4 The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife. 5 Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. This right here!
@AwesomeLJ34
2 жыл бұрын
Don’t believe they take care of their spouse becauee of love , most likely Guilt. Otherwise why would you bring another woman into your family. That’s not what marriage vows and loyalty say. Just excuses for cheating while feeling pity for their other former spouse
@lavettaluckett3832
2 жыл бұрын
That's ninty %percent of men.
@d.h.dd.h.d.5230
Жыл бұрын
He's making excuses by playing the race card as a cover for infidelity, me me me me... How abt support counseling? It's the ho card that angers most respectful wives who've endured this. For 15 yrs I endured spousal illness. The utter disrespect of moving her into the home he shares wiith his wife, disgusting. It's called taking advantage of the weak.
@schawnettarobinson8584
2 жыл бұрын
Men move on quickly, ladies.
@Atl404sFinest
2 жыл бұрын
Why judge something you cannot relate to? It is hard to love someone and be their caregiver. Easier said than done.
@marigoldbeam5475
Жыл бұрын
They generally do indeed. I worked as a carer briefly many moons ago and always remember in one of our training sessions the instructor asking us why statistically younger women clients were the most challenging emotionally/psychologically. They typically were angry and bitter, the reply I gave was 'because they have probably been abandoned by their husbands or boyfriends'. The instructor gave me a metaphorical gold star. It was an educated guess, but I was spot on. Wives generally stick by their husbands to the end, but men do move on, and generally pretty fast. A sad reality.
@CatElse
5 ай бұрын
Not always true
@michaelray9113
5 жыл бұрын
Not a good message these people have no convictions what happened to marriage vows
@lashonejackson1621
4 жыл бұрын
Dan and Alex are so disgusting and disrespectful to live under the same roof as his then living wife!!! 💕💖🌺🦋 SIP The Beautiful B Smith!!! 🦋🌺💖💕
@arieltaylormo3111
5 жыл бұрын
Contact Dr. Joel Wallach for hope. He has successfully treated the disease.
@truthtube1000
5 жыл бұрын
like he wants to cure her! What would he do with his mistress then?👀
@bearkiels9032
2 жыл бұрын
I try not to judge but can't help it, so help me God. For someone who can be so open like this (Dan and gf) when cameras are rolling. Makes me wonder what is possible when cameras aren't rolling. I would be worried.
@elmobolan4274
2 жыл бұрын
Try not to judge is what Liberals say, look at the mess they've created in NW region with that saying....
@trishayamada807
Жыл бұрын
Worried about what? This is terminal. There is no getting better and remembering.
@madelinemontgomery8626
2 жыл бұрын
People don.t understand. You don.t stop living. An feeling because your partner or parent has. Care givers need help an someone else to talk too.
@jacquelinepayne4737
5 жыл бұрын
I had to take over the care of my beloved Aunt. Her son, my cousin was taking her monies and blowing it on drugs. I lived on the other side of the country. There was plenty of people who could have stepped in but did not. I'm the fixer in my family and I'm afraid of what will happen to the next relative when I don't give up my life again to step in while others right by the person side do nothing wanting and waiting for me to do the same thing.
@margiemargie6827
4 жыл бұрын
This woman did well that he could have get a caregiver and visiting nurse . He did not care about nothing rather than is self. I hope he knows that do unto others has you would have have them do unto you. To him and that mistress what goes around comes around. There's no sin that goes unpunished. I hope the both of them and all the people who agreed with him ask God for forgiveness.
@jjcgrass
Жыл бұрын
Shame on you people.
@davidmcmullen3864
5 жыл бұрын
Crazy
@davidmcmullen3864
5 жыл бұрын
Still dont agree
@honeybuzzard2843
4 жыл бұрын
Pink Toe, get your own house. TRICK
@margiemargie6827
4 жыл бұрын
It's wrong totally wrong, God said until dead do us part. When one get married it's for good and bad times. He did not love her . Loves never fails . That's totally abuse mentally , emotional . May her soul R.I.P. I hope the husband and his mistress repent. God sees everything.
@kareemfofanamf
5 жыл бұрын
Well at least his be honest. Muslim men can married up to four wife’s.. It’s okay he can’t marry her as wife that’s why she’s the girl. Stop judging him it’s his life not yours
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