Marriage taught me that everybody is either a saver or spender. My ex wife was better at spending than I was at saving
@biscaynesupercars
4 ай бұрын
Lol
@VirginiaNative1646
4 ай бұрын
That’s usually how it goes
@l.b.2392
3 ай бұрын
They (woman) want to be (earn) equal but they also want us (the men) to make more (in all departments: "be more (status), be taller, etc.etc). It's exhausting and basically impossible to achieve.
@sevenfights
4 ай бұрын
My fiancee and I have bank accounts for every expense, savings, and investments. We direct deposit into each account proportionally based on what we each make. We each have an account for our individual spending. $1000 per month. We decide how the joint funds are spent and have the freedom to spend our personal money as we see fit. No kids yet, but we'll keep this system as long as we can.
@jameschaves5723
4 ай бұрын
I also had that system until she decided to quit her job, ran out of personal expense money and decided I was now responsible for giving her money
@crobinson2624
4 ай бұрын
Money and finances should not be taboo.
@TC-cd5sm
4 ай бұрын
Just don't get married. Separate bank accounts. If they want to go, they can go but they not taking anything from me
@kinggrantking
4 ай бұрын
Separate bank accounts do absolutely nothing in the case of a divorce. Immediately upon marrying, any assets attained are shared exactly 50/50 between the two spouses. Even if you both use and spend exclusively your own salaries, it doesn't matter one iota.
@boxhead9282
4 ай бұрын
@@kinggrantking Thats why marriage is an old people thing lol. Us young guys with the cost of everything (inflation, Hoeflation, shrinkflation) everyone is just keeping it causal. Hell im 28 and I just want to hold hand with a girl but most are not wfiy or hell even GF material... everythings going down the drain.
@SamLee-e3b
3 ай бұрын
@@boxhead9282yeah it sucks man I'm just a few years older than you and it seems like it really went downhill
@VirginiaNative1646
4 ай бұрын
The advent of no-fault divorce and the mass entry of women into the workforce are the two biggest factors here. The social acceptance of “career women” doesn’t change a woman’s hypergamous tendencies. It’s a perfect storm.
@tjbellah349
3 ай бұрын
“Money is why people get divorced” nah money is why WOMEN file for divorce. A man never comes home and says “sheesh we’re broke, I wonder if divorcing my wife will help with that?”
@chenyitube
4 ай бұрын
Man: I have $30k student loan. Woman: We have all together $130k, how will we pay this off? Man: I will work 2 jobs. Woman: great! Now let's talk about your spending.
@manifest2203
4 ай бұрын
Man: you do all the ch1ld care and h0use w4rk and w0rk a full time job too. Also, go w4rk when you are pregnant and newly post partum also.
@smc_onetwo
4 ай бұрын
Don't share a bank account unless it's just for the bills and you each have your own
@Teamshmo
4 ай бұрын
Lol telling a girl to watch her spending and be accountable for her actions is gonna cause divorce anyways
@JoeB0604
4 ай бұрын
correct. and she's going to continue to get paid when the courts weigh in
@Teamshmo
4 ай бұрын
@@Believeinyourself8 I'm talking about modern day 40yr olds...
@edthelazyboy
3 ай бұрын
The best way to avoid divorce is to not get married in the first place.
@Chertoff88
4 ай бұрын
Yes we all know women love money
@PhsychoSomatic
3 ай бұрын
Yeah its about money. About how the man is not bringing hme enough of it
@michaelbarrett9107
4 ай бұрын
My ex left me for another ex who became a millionaire. And she said since he went to the same college was in the same sorority/fraternity so they have more in common.
@MidgardEchoes
3 ай бұрын
Prenup. It's not just for wealthy people.
@dudeilligence6441
3 ай бұрын
Unfortunately, this is part of what ruined my 5yr relationship : /
@Ingrid0410
4 ай бұрын
So crucial to hv this discussion before marriage. I think the man shd be the primary wage earner and the woman take care of the kids, most important job!!! No childcare fees! If a woman has a career she shouldn’t hv kids.
@johnboy14
4 ай бұрын
Don't be crazy. Any women with a slight interest in a career shouldn't have kids?
@BeczaBot
3 ай бұрын
Watch the birth rate plummet then. Nowadays everything is so expensive both mother and father would need to be working in order to support children.
@Gumby6583
4 ай бұрын
🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
@assorita3861
4 ай бұрын
Do the math! It's a bit like saying to a dog "write a poem!" 😂
@tobberfutooagain2628
4 ай бұрын
WRONG. Living beyond your means causes financial distress. Lack of financial discipline.
@jacobstamm
4 ай бұрын
That’s exactly what he was saying toward the end
@karla5395
3 ай бұрын
Women stress about money because women know all the needs at home. Sometimes dads don’t understand than in house you need more than food and a roof, you need money to repair things in the house, clothes for kids, they need money to go out, you want to have a cute house, kids get sick… and so on, but some dads only think if they give money to food and roof that is enough while the mom is struggling to keep up with the other stuff. It is easy to say women like money but when a kid has needs they go to their mom not dad
@sean658
3 ай бұрын
No man comes home when they’re broke thinking I need to divorce my wife since she doesn’t make enough… and who is lauded as the more compassionate sex lol
@karla5395
3 ай бұрын
@@sean658 You are assuming that all male partners earn more than their female partners and it is not like that, in fact, I have never met a male partner that earns more than me. Also, you are not addressing my comment, so maybe instead of being defensive you should read and understand what I am saying. Lastly, the point should not be “men this”, “women that”… it is about finding and choosing the right person for you. If you use money to conquer a woman, and that is all you bring to the table you shouldn’t expect that a woman to be with you when you’re broke, you no longer have your attribute that keep the relationship together. If a woman is using her body to attract a man and that is the only thing she brings to the table, then she shouldn’t feel bad if her body changes and the male partner is no longer with her. Also the fact that a person doesn’t ask for a divorce it doesn’t mean they are present in the relationship or doing things right regardless of the gender.
@xgtete
3 ай бұрын
That's just the thing. You don't need money to go out. You don't need to have a "cute house". You don't need all of the latest gadgets and trinkets. You don't need expensive clothes. You don't need to go on vacation. You don't need expensive cars. You should be fine with the basics. A roof, food, working utilities, basic clothes and other necessities. A relationship should never be about only sticking around because you're wanting luxuries. It's about creating a foundation to do life. It's about having someone there to support you when you need it. It's about duty and respect. If you're willing to throw a relationship away because your house isn't "cute", you're the problem.
@karla5395
3 ай бұрын
@@xgtete first, you are going to the extreme, you are talking about luxury, second, nobody needs to live life based on the standards of someone else, it would be very dissatisfying that a partner adjusts to a lower lifestyle just because the other partner doesn’t want to put in the work, this is applicable to both genders, people have individual ambitions and visions on how they want their future to look like, there’s nothing wrong to aim to have comfort as long as you or both put in the work. If you want a nice house, why do you need to settle for a mediocre or normal one just because your male/female partner doesn’t want to? It’s simply not going to work. Anyways, I think this is about attempting to choose the right person, but also understanding people’s aspirations regardless gender, that is why I think is good to understand the aspirations of your partner, what type of life do they want, how much effort are they willing to put on, and so much more. If you want to improve your quality of life, or whatever and you work hard and hard to improve and be better and you don’t get the support from your partner, it’s an indication you’re could be starting to grow apart, that can be solved, but most men sometimes can be very stubborn when it comes to these things (also women), and you tend to be the one who doesn’t want to meet halfway, and if you don’t want to, it’s ok, but do not expect the other person to stay.
@xgtete
3 ай бұрын
@@karla5395 Wrong. It's about loyalty. People these days have no respect for commitment. Let alone the wedding vows. "For better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, in sickness and in health." Nowhere does those vows mention happiness, but it does mention staying together even when money is tight. The issue is people are too focused on themselves and what other things they want, rather than being content with what they have. If you have the mindset of always wanting more, then stay out of relationships. They're not for you.
@stealthzi7465
4 ай бұрын
That's not true at all if women loves you truly you she won't value money she will value who you are
@sp123
4 ай бұрын
Yes, but that is rare. Asking every man to find a woman that likes them for themselves is not a scalable solution
@jacobstamm
4 ай бұрын
My ability to provide is a huge part of who I “truly am”. Implying that women shouldn’t value this in a mate is ridiculous. Like it or not, generally men and women are biologically hardwired with different priorities in relationships. Women want to feel safe, and that means the man’s ability to facilitate financial security is one of the pillars of her love for you. Call it shallow if you must, but if you don’t learn and accept what people’s needs and instincts are, you’re going to have a hard time finding a mate.
@stealthzi7465
4 ай бұрын
@@jacobstammthat may be for you but what he's saying if thats the same for everyone and that's incorrect. Having money is not making a women feel safe. Real value is in the mans ability to control his emotions and be his true self, and a great leader. People blind themselves with money thinking it will give them everything. Money will give you less. Most women will fall at a man for having money but the best women won't. They will vaue how much the man is a true leader and is wise. The richest people on the planet are also the most stressed out cause they work to much and don't have time for the kids or wife. Elon is a perfect example of this. Some of the happiest couples I've seen don't have money at all.
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