These poor precious little babies. My heart just hurts..I wouldn't have even thought about the smell of home and the need for something like a shoe to comfort a traumatized child. Thank you for your loving treatment.
@ambriaashley3383
Жыл бұрын
Ikr? This is great advice for future foster parents like me!
@riannaincatasciato2680
Жыл бұрын
I never went through foster care luckily because my parents were separated, I had already lived with my mom my whole life when some traumatic shit happened and an ACS case was opened. i remember going to live with my dad and stepmom and most of my items were extremely dirty, or unusable, so obviously most of it had to be thrown away or immediately taken to wash. One of the only things I had left was my moms sweater and when I tell you I held on to that god damn thing for dear life I mean it. it was the only thing I had of my mom for a good 6-8years of my life. I was no older then 12 when this all happened, I’m 21 now and I still have that sweater in decent condition. I wear it all the time, and although me and my mother have a strained relationship, it helps me feel closer to her when I’m not. It’s helps knowing that there are other adults taking things like that into consideration. I know I needed it when I was a kid, and I wasn’t even fully removed my my family, just the family I knew, and that shattered my world.
@moomicus3118
Жыл бұрын
Same! I want to foster and i have a terrible sense of smell so i would never reach that conclusion on my own! Thank goodness I see this now
@lucifermorn952
Жыл бұрын
I agree I was a foster kid aged out of the system I'm 28 Years old I'm successful in life someday I would love to foster
@suckingdickforfood
Жыл бұрын
I used to be in foster care and I had this comfort stuffed animal that had my mother's perfume sprayed on it. I had it all the time and never washed it bc it reminded me of home
@skellbo
Жыл бұрын
I wasn't in real foster care, but had a family who knew my parents before their addiction and my dad being sent to prison, they took me and my sister in for a year. My sister and I would take turns wearing my dad's flannel the whole time. I'm so glad the mother didn't make us wash it for literal months. It still smelled like old spice and cherry cigars. Like my dad. We needed that, and her kindness I'll never forget. She understood that even if our dad hurt us that we still missed him so much. Now tbh, I miss her more than I miss either of my parents. I would give anything to be able to see her again and hope that she's proud of me.
@jameberlin8539
Жыл бұрын
I am certain she is proud of you ❤️
@lisafranklin9089
Жыл бұрын
I guarantee shes proud of you honey💗
@rachelsuegoodman
Жыл бұрын
This is so beautiful. Thank you for sharing. It warms my heart to know that people can be sensitive to any and many kinds of situations. The world doesn't seem so bad when you learn about this.
@TaxidriverBarbi
Жыл бұрын
I'm proud of you just from a few written words. I'm sure 'proud' would be an understatement for her. What an amazing person you became
@pringle96
Жыл бұрын
That’s so sweet. I’m sure she is proud
@thebeloved141
Жыл бұрын
You just helped me realize why I cried every time my blanket was washed when I went to a new foster home. Thank you for making these videos 💖
@Psylaine64
Жыл бұрын
I'm sorry that happened .. Hugs
@nouraattia452
6 ай бұрын
❤❤🫂🫂🫂 i hope youre okay
@edithpatel7007
Ай бұрын
Sending much love
@etcetc6790
Жыл бұрын
"... have the scents of their parents..." I've never thought of that. ❤️
@lacey892
8 ай бұрын
And abuse is complicated... especially when the person is a caregiver. You will inevitably have positive memories and will love that person by default even if they hurt or neglected you. Comfort items like this can help hold on to some shred of stability and control for kids who feel like they've lost everything.
@FearlessLeis
Жыл бұрын
Uh oh... that first mom would have been me.
@da_kracken8879
Жыл бұрын
Yeah Oh noo
@emilydecruze2336
Жыл бұрын
I had a 12 month old baby the other week and I held her in my arms while she slept for a bit. Part of me was thinking about potential lice/bed bugs. But the reality is...baby girl trusted me. She stopped crying enough to calmly fall asleep in my arms with her blankey.
@cassidylopez671
Жыл бұрын
@@emilydecruze2336 I’m crying now. I think to my own daughter similar age . You held her like a momma should when she needed it most ❤️
@AngelaM745
Жыл бұрын
Would have, we learn every day and that is awesome!!!
@LaMexicanaBonita95
Жыл бұрын
I still would.
@lalenaferguson7626
Жыл бұрын
...Or do you want me wait? Damn that hit home. Every foster kid needs that. Much love to you.
@Ali-kb8gr
Жыл бұрын
Yeah that part got me too. So compassionate.
@HelloL.G.
Жыл бұрын
Yes, and maybe everyone needs someone to ask and respect children's feelings. Take the time to talk, listen, and teach them with kindness. Thank you for sharing
@Ali-kb8gr
Жыл бұрын
@@HelloL.G. 100%
@moniquerodriguez3013
Жыл бұрын
i cried at that point
@bbsclosetcreations
Жыл бұрын
The fact that in the 2nd example she gets down to the child's level ❤🥰
@alissaschilling9721
Жыл бұрын
Had me sobbing 😭 I wish this was normalized, I remember growing up in foster homes or crisis nurseries they would wash my stuff immediately, and it always sucked that first night without my dads hat or my stuffed animals smelling normal. Thanks for posting this ❤
@miacooley4661
Жыл бұрын
I used to carry a blanket with me to every friend's house I ever spent the night at. One time a friend's mom took it while we were playing, washed it, and didn't get it back to me before we were told to go to bed. I cried for hours specifically about the smell being washed away. To make it worse she told me she did it because it smelled like urine. It likely smelled like cats and cigarette smoke, the smell of my childhood home. The fact that this memory sticks with me over a decade later says a lot.
@jenniferwalter4452
Жыл бұрын
Mia, I'm so sorry. 💔
@lynnsieruffino
Жыл бұрын
That is heartbreaking. I am so sorry.
@cassnick2709
Жыл бұрын
Sounds like you went through some traumatic things during your childhood, I'm sorry to hear that and I hope you're doing well ❤ and what you said basically proved the lady in the video's point exactly. Well all deserve to have control over our most loved comforting possessions. Taking away that control when someone already has such little control of their circumstances can be very traumatic.
@louisnotonfire4243
Жыл бұрын
I’m sorry that happened to u :( especially that she didn’t even give it back??? Or talk to you at all about it???? Sadly I’m on the moms end about the smell tho… where as if I was the mom I probably would’ve done the same. I definitely wouldn’t have just taken ur shit without talking to you and not give it back but I would’ve had to have a conversation with you about washing it or SOMETHING since I’m very sensitive to smells (and even sights like shit/vom from Humans,pets, you name it) and I’ll throw up for hours and get EXTREMELY ill I start shaking and getting cold sweats etc and cats and cigarettes are two of some of the smells that are triggering for me the most
@MsDrientje
Жыл бұрын
Smells ARE that important. I'm sorry that happened to you.
@KCsFunHouse
Жыл бұрын
As a former foster kid, now adult, thank you! Smell is the strongest scent tied to memory and some of us end up with very few things to truly call our own. Taking the time to ask can really make or break the entire experience for us. I’m glad you took time to understand that. You’re doing a great job and on behalf of foster kids thank you for opening your home to us.
@moniquejenkins5193
Жыл бұрын
I've had my grandmother's coat since she passed. There is a kleenex (unused) in her pocket. It still smells like her. 21 years later. It's in a zip lock in the pocket
@janicejacome
Жыл бұрын
@@moniquejenkins5193 Monique, you are a sweetheart and l hope you accomplish all the things Grandma would have wanted for you ,plus those you want for yourself ,and MORE. Best wishes,Young lady. May all your dreams come true!!!💜
@TheLexieWilson
Жыл бұрын
I’m a former social worker and this means a lot. As a child, I never entered foster care but I was often cared for by other people and they wouldn’t really care about my feelings when it came to my things. When I became a social worker - I always tried to bring as much comfort to my kids as I could when I was transporting them to their new placement. And I would pray for foster parents like you. So thank you not only for doing this but for teaching other parents how to do the same. 🖤
@judyjimenez7000
Жыл бұрын
When my son was 4 his social worker threw away his new spider-man shoes. He is now 13 n still gets sad when he remembers. This is so sweet of u to actually CARE about the childs feelings. Ur amazing.
@Mrs.WyldRice
Жыл бұрын
I was sent to my aunts briefly when I was a kid, while my mom was getting over a drug addition. I didn’t know her at all, and everything was so scary. I was so grateful for my stuffed animals. Without them I don’t know how I would’ve gotten through. I’m almost 40 and those same stuffed animals are still in my room. Always with me. This video made me tear up. Thank you for being so sensitive to your foster kids.
@HelloL.G.
Жыл бұрын
I can relate, thanks for sharing
@catsoda
Жыл бұрын
@@HelloL.G. ooh I wish I had my stuffed animals with me, only a few survived the constant moves and from my parents to my aunts lol, i relate so much though ❤ the ones that lasted are so special
@jazelynnmarie4775
Жыл бұрын
I really appreciate this when I was young I was placed in foster care as a child I was terrified being placed in a strangers home. The day I was taken away from my home it still haunts me. But my foster mother who adopted me made me feel comfortable and gave us lots of love she fostered 75 kids throughout her time being a foster parent me and my sister are truly grateful for her.
@jennaseitz
Жыл бұрын
The world doesn’t deserve the amazing foster families out there. There’s some bad ones for sure but when the good ones are there, they should be rewarded so much more. The things they deal with is insane.
@aditi946
Жыл бұрын
OMG 75 ??? she must be an angel .. that's a lot .
@salgado0819
Жыл бұрын
WOW!!!! Amazing!!! I dream to foster 14 kids and man 75 is phenomenal!!!
@alexandramn6734
Жыл бұрын
@@jennaseitz Hispanic people often become foster parents for the money
@kenya1067
Жыл бұрын
This is so kind. After my mom died my grandmother insisted on washing everything and to this day when I smell my mom's blanket I feel a little sad. Because she didn't have to wash it she just wanted to.
@annm3064
Жыл бұрын
As someone who has thought about helping foster children when my kids get a little older, I appreciate bringing this to my attention, I never thought that the smell of something could be so important until you explained it to me
@mousebexley8641
Жыл бұрын
As an adult who has past trauma from being put in Foster care, it brings me joy to see the care and consideration you show children who wind up in that situation.
@tialunn9672
Жыл бұрын
Took the words right out of my mind. I was a 10year foster kid before I was adopted at 16.
@jennaseitz
Жыл бұрын
Dude…same…
@aidanbrown7210
Жыл бұрын
Same here.. I remember coming from a placement where they smoked and used spray paint inside.. the new foster told me that all of my stuff was smelly and made me immediately wash everything down to the duffel bag it was carried in when we got to her house. She then proceeded to tell me that I should be grateful when I broke down crying on her million dollar porch. She sent me back the next morning
@rosmerrywhateverer9245
Жыл бұрын
1000% this
@yeahB
Жыл бұрын
@@aidanbrown7210 what a f... b.... this makes ne so angy, but only because you were a defenseless child in a horrible situation that needed comfort so badly and not humiliation. Otherwise I just shake my had about people like that . I hope you know that this didn't happen because of you, This was just a real trashy human on her million dollar porch. I feel bad for her husband and her children , too . All luck and love for you!
@shadeinthedesert
Жыл бұрын
I’m not a foster parent or a foster kid - I have no relationship with foster stuff. I came across this video and you just touched my heart, deep. What a loving soul you have. Keep doing what you’re doing. Little people need more champions. ❤
@HelloL.G.
Жыл бұрын
Thank you for listening anyway.
@abrilstorms
Жыл бұрын
SAME!
@abrilstorms
Жыл бұрын
SAME!
@belindacotton2407
Жыл бұрын
This is so touching to me for the same reason. Children in this situation needs so much care, comfort and kindness
@AmateurAdvenurer
Жыл бұрын
As someone who has been in over 9 foster homes in the 10 years I was in foster care, Iam in tears over this simple act, I wish some people weren't in it for the check but to nurture the spirit of the child they're helping raise. Brought a bucket of tears to my eyes watching this.
@donnaleeah5075
Жыл бұрын
That would be ideal. Hugs from many of us when and if you'd like that.
@evthelez94
Жыл бұрын
As someone who was in foster care taken from a parent that truly loved me and simply made a mistake this would have made me feel so much better. Because my mom was all I knew and immediately taking my things away from me from her was hard to deal with as a kid. You truly do understand the kids you care for and it shows. Keep up the good work momma.
@a.munroe
Жыл бұрын
My goals involve being stable enough to do this for someone.
@my_flippin_journey
Жыл бұрын
... ♥️ ...
@Queen-of-Swords
Жыл бұрын
Its far better to campaign to stop the unnecessary removal of children from families who love them.
@a.munroe
Жыл бұрын
@@Queen-of-Swords ok. But I'm doing that now? But I'm not stable enough to take someone in. So maybe step off the soap box, your vibe is discouraging to people who just wanna help.
@rachelspencer8887
Жыл бұрын
Me too! ❤
@caladana1
Жыл бұрын
Same!!! I can't have bio kids of my own so my goal is to be stable enough to foster and adopt someday ^^ I want to give these kids that have been through so much a safe and loving place to stay for as long as they need it ❤️
@imjustsayin34
Жыл бұрын
This is relevant for majority of parenting. Always ask your child permission before doing something with an item they deem as “theirs.” It’s great practice for them to identify their own true wants and the ability to make decisions
@jennifergibbins8274
Жыл бұрын
Wow! This is good to know!!! I saved 2 of my great grandmother's aprons in a zip lock bag for like 20 plus years because they smelled like her! I would pull them out and sniff them. My grandmother had made them for her. Thank you for sharing!
@malrose
Жыл бұрын
A Ziploc, why didn't I think of that! I was literally bawling my eyes out last night trying so desperately to smell my dad on one of his shirts.
@tanyamd001
Жыл бұрын
I love these tips! Adults have anxiety starting a new job, so think of a child no matter the age moving to a new home. Thank goodness for good foster parents!
@jeannehafer6754
Жыл бұрын
Foster parenting is so hard sometimes. What an amazing way to share what works and how to make a traumatized child a little more comfortable. Thank you so much.
@honeybeehaley799
Жыл бұрын
I just appreciate you talking to them and asking them what they would want. As a foster kid I begged for my toys when I would move home(which I did a lot) and I never got any of them-just my clothes. I remember crying every Christmas knowing I wouldn’t be able to take any of my beloved toys when I went to another home. I was in 19 different foster homes until I was finally adopted at the age of five. The lady that adopted me was absolute hell.
@Isabella-cz8fp
Жыл бұрын
Giving kids autonomy over their bodies and own things is such a huge thing, especially in foster care. Kids are not given choice, they are dictated to over and over again about what is going to happen with them and their things. Setting the relationship right from the start, like what this wonderful lady is doing, is huge. It sets both you and the child up for success. It won’t be perfect, it won’t always be sweet and cute and it will break your heart every day what these kids go through, but if your able, do it.❤
@Loville
Жыл бұрын
Right now I’m in the process of getting certified as a foster parent myself and I will definitely do this! Thank you for this ❤
@brandysikes6811
Жыл бұрын
I was in Foster care growing up every foster care parent did that to me every single time I had to wash everything even my body when I got there. I am happy that you shat down and show the right way on how to do this because I was traumatized when they made me do it.
@voidspooks6372
Жыл бұрын
It just makes you feel dirty. Like you are some mutt in their perfect house. Definitely not a great way to start a relationship
@jdubwalmer4237
Жыл бұрын
i love how respectful she is... kindness is so wonderful for a hurting child. They left everything but that bag in their hands.
@natashamiller4860
Жыл бұрын
As an ex-foster kid, thank you for being sensitive to that! And also, thank you for being real and using a trash bag in this.
@ang8158
Жыл бұрын
Hope some foster care system's watches these as teaching tools...your very patient and tender, sadly, not all fp are like you. Thank you🤗
@KhadijahW.
Жыл бұрын
😢 you’re such a beautiful and kind hearted person. Thank you. I’m so bossy and ‘helpful’ I would’ve washed everything straight away. I really love these videos and your approach to caring.
@1vonehrenkrook
Жыл бұрын
Thank you for explaining the importance of taking things slow, and not being afraid of what they bring with them! ❤
@Sleepy_Sunshine
Жыл бұрын
Im not a foster kid, but as someone who relies on the scent of mycomfort items i really appriciate this mindset,since i was like 11 my comfort items smell was definitely more the smell of my safe space, but thats not a smell that will immediately develope somewhere, or ever really be the same if you live with someone else, especially if you're in the foster system and you might be moving around, my comfort items may have just smelled like my room concentrated, but thats not something easily replaced, thanks for being amazing
@TierTwoWorks
Жыл бұрын
Your compassion and tenderness moves me to tears! We would all benefit from being more aware of the feelings and situations of others. What seems trivial to us could be someone else's whole world. I have been blessed with a stable family life, but even in my position, the smell of my mother was always so important! When I felt sad or scared as a child, I would lay on her pillow for comfort. Thank you so much for the work you and other foster parents do!!
@kiaty5500
Жыл бұрын
As someone that grew up in foster care… you have not idea how much this makes me cry 😢
@jennaseitz
Жыл бұрын
Same dude ♥️♥️
@twillightrose13
Жыл бұрын
When my parents had foster kids the first thing we did is give them a backpack and let them get their own toiletries from the dollar store. They always showed up with almost nothing. Not even hair brushes or toothbrushes.
@macydiy9697
Жыл бұрын
Yeah, there usually aren't possessions to wash!
@dipitickner1927
Жыл бұрын
Funny how the world is,in the care home I work in the elderly residents don't have the basic items, I'm so surprised that their families visit but don't provide any thing.
@rach_laze
Жыл бұрын
@@dipitickner1927 devils advocate here but are the families made aware and updated on the status of these items? I know not all care homes are in frequent contact with families outside of visiting and some have toiletries and basic necessities included in the price of residency and arranged by the care staff. Every home is different and it might not be apathy on the part of the family but more not knowing its something they need to provide
@dipitickner1927
Жыл бұрын
@@rach_laze A lol of times I inform a family of certain needs or clothing, some do take heed but just as many can't be bothered.
@micks336
Жыл бұрын
@@rach_laze Lot of families are not proactive about the care their families receive old or young. Personally if my folks were in a home I would be taking care of them as much as I could. Change, check their skin and feed them. Do their HS/AM care. Even their bowel care. But I have long-term disability Care experience. They did it for me so... It's the least I can do for them.
@julieb7790
Жыл бұрын
You are the first person to make me wish I’d reached out for help as a child. I was so scared of the foster system. If I knew people like you existed I would not have felt so much like I needed to hide the way we were living. Thank you for loving these kids ❤
@NovasYouTubeName
11 күн бұрын
❤❤
@foxwonderland8467
Жыл бұрын
Such great advice. Adults need to remember these little humans they are taking into their home had lives before them and even though your home is very clearly the better option for every reason, these little humans still need to have aspects of their lives that they make the choices on and keeping the smell of familiarity is so very important. Just think back to your first puppy. You bring their mothers/previous homes scent with them for comfort. Us humans are no different we too need comfort. Even if we are already much better and safer in your home. What isn’t seen is the emotional needs of familiarity
@amanda6876
Жыл бұрын
These types of videos are so hard for me to even watch; I can’t imagine living this reality. Firstly from the child’s perspective and from yours. You are doing amazing work.
@tiffanystouchofcolor
Жыл бұрын
I'm 32 and I have never wanted children but yet I've always wanted to foster and I really appreciate how compassionate and informative this video is. Thank you. This will go in a safe space tucked in my brain for the future ❤️
@angiepangie989
Жыл бұрын
Literally same and I just turned 33.
@animallover8544
Жыл бұрын
That really makes sense, because when my papa died anything that smell like him comforted me and when my grandma moved the pillows that smelt like their old house, would bring me joy
@amandamendes9193
Жыл бұрын
You are so gentle, sweet, you make things feel like “home” for these children! The world is blessed to have you
@camchronicles9839
Жыл бұрын
I can only imagine how many kids have to go through this it’s heartbreaking.
@lisasisneros8200
Жыл бұрын
The kindness and respect you show is so overwhelmingly beautiful. If all parents were like this to their own kids, handling them with care and concern, what a world this would be. To be willing to be so tender to another persons child is all the more wonderful and really makes me believe in humanity when I’ve been so demoralized lately. This is heartwarming to see!
@waverly333
Жыл бұрын
:( as a foster kid in the past not being treated the best it really make me happy seeing you bring to light being kind and gentle with kids in such a vulnerable and emotional spot
@charliec9209
Жыл бұрын
I almost cried. This is SO important. You're definitely making a difference for those kids. Make more videos like this to spread awareness
@monaysmalls4699
Жыл бұрын
At 40 I still can’t forget the horrors of being a foster child arriving at a new home and how I was treated horribly.
@HelloL.G.
Жыл бұрын
I am sorry you had to go through that. It wasn't nice of them, and even though it was so long ago, your feelings are still real and valid. Thank you for sharing your comment, it was very brave of you.
@donnaleeah5075
Жыл бұрын
I'm so sorry. I helped to raise a friend's D. She's so precious to me to this day we are very close. I wish you been afforded this type of treatment. You were and are very worthy of it.
@Queen-of-Swords
Жыл бұрын
So sorry. A lot of people wrongly assume that the reasons kids are removed are fair and correct, they also assume all foster parents are as good as this one. The reality is that the prospects of "looked after" children are very poor and their experiences in care are worse than how things were at home. Its really messed up. I hope it made some improvement in your life, but I know many cases where it did not.
@AlauraJones
Жыл бұрын
I know nothing about foster care but seeing this video I am suddenly unbelievably thankful for the people who show care and love to children this way and think of things like this! Reading the comments I’m about to cry for all these little ones who went through this hard experience and those still remember kind moments like this. God bless you guys. 😭
@riverwoods5975
Жыл бұрын
As someone who had to go through this, I appreciate you doing this. My parents never did and it hurt, so thank you
@Amaryllis-4U
Жыл бұрын
Wonderful post -a reminder of the importance of compassion and empathy ♥️
@iminit4themoney330
Жыл бұрын
Oh sweet little muffins…..I don’t know I could be a foster parent I get attached really easy. Little muffins the scent of their parents 🥹🥹
@alainacarroll1234
Жыл бұрын
I will 100% foster one day! I will remember this. My heart hurts thinking that poor little babies world just got shaken up
@Queen-of-Swords
Жыл бұрын
Make sure you are fostering someone who has been removed for good reason, Social Workers in the country where I live, often remove children for very trivial reasons. They help the child by removing them, without first trying to help the FAMILY. Kids usually do better with their families. In the UK the social outcomes for looked after kids are usually extremely poor.
@JJ-yc2sv
Жыл бұрын
@@Queen-of-Swords It's the same in the us. Unfortunately, there's not really anything foster parents can do to prevent kids being taken for wrong reasons. Trying to make sure they only foster kids taken for "good reason" will just leave the ones who never should've been taken in an even worse position. It's not like they'll just be sent back home based on the foster parents' opinion. It's definitely good for foster parents to be aware of the fact that many children in care should never have been separated from their parents, but choosing to make their homes unavailable to such children won't do anything to help the situation they're in. While I totally agree that back with family would be best, since the foster parent has no control over that, the best thing they can do for such kids is to be available & like Laura.
@Queen-of-Swords
Жыл бұрын
@@JJ-yc2sv what awaits most kids in foster care, is worse than their birth families. And also most GOOD foster carers are eventually told they are "too involved" with the children, and any people who are too loving get thrown out. Having a proper bond is not allowed until the goal of ADOPTION.
@JJ-yc2sv
Жыл бұрын
@@Queen-of-Swords I know. It's a really horrible system. Far too many children are needlessly traumatized by having their family torn apart for bs reasons. And too many kids who really DO need rescued, never are. It would be excusable if human psychology were still a mystery to us, but we KNOW how damaging it is to separate a child from their primary caregiver. And yet, they're treated like it's nothing, aren't provided therapy for the trauma, and then when they inevitably develop behavioral issues, they're labeled & treated as problem children. It's a fast-track into the prison system more than anything else.
@starfish3182
Жыл бұрын
Awe I wanted to cry hearing your caring voice. You didn’t even insult the first time foster parents, that takes patience and a truly amazing personality. You are an amazing person.
@joyeemful
Жыл бұрын
I’m so glad I came across this. It brought me to sobbing tears out of no where. Thank you for such special education. My heart instantly broke thinking of all these poor children. Keep up the love 🤍
@justhadijat
Жыл бұрын
I'm not a foster child, but my word, you made even me feel seen.
@caitlynnbuswell6044
Жыл бұрын
EXACTLY, people don't understand the value of that scent, when you wash it you might as well be washing memories away.
@ThoughtfulPotato
Жыл бұрын
My heart is breaking... Thank God for good foster parents like you who put this much thought into this!
@libby9001
Жыл бұрын
This is such a great depiction! First foster parent still shows love but just hasn't learned some of the adverse reactions that might come with washing their things! It never hurts to learn. It doesn't make you a bad foster parent
@empath4445
Жыл бұрын
God bless you. I want to adopt someday and I hope for my heart to be open enough to foster as well. Sending them back into the world after caring for them would be so hard. You are an angel and inspiration. Thank you.
@janettassinari7391
Жыл бұрын
Thank you for your kindness!
@AcuraMomma
Жыл бұрын
Such a great foster parent- some don’t realize how important, reassuring and calming/ comforting “familiar smells“ are especially in these types of situations!
@miaa.4086
Жыл бұрын
You are an amazing gift created and sent, to help heal, bring peace and love. Especially for the children who were robbed of a safe, happy childhood. You are truly lovely in every single way! 🙌🙏🤩🥰✌
@jamiecrosthwaite8523
Жыл бұрын
One of my foster moms made me stand in the corner till I stopped crying on my first day.
@PainsawChenus
Жыл бұрын
My heart broke reading that. You deserved better. I’m so sorry you were treated that way.
@emg58104
Жыл бұрын
💔
@005Amergin
Жыл бұрын
🥺🥺🥺🥀🙏🏼❣️🇨🇦
@kimb3rGee
Жыл бұрын
so sorry you went through that. i’ll never understand why some people foster? i hope your surrounded by love and healing now and forever💔
@judenicholson5497
Жыл бұрын
Our first foster child came with nothing except the clothes on his back until a couple days later when the caseworker brought some of his clothes from home ..they were ill fitting and dirty and shoes way too small . He loved getting new stuff and he kept them in one place and his from home clothes he kept safely by his bed .He never wanted to wear them , but he need to know they were nearby. I love these videos you do !
@Hellerenhomes
Жыл бұрын
This is super helpful . It actually made me cry . To see the difference it would Make to a child in that situation . Thankyou for sharing this !
@MrsBees
Жыл бұрын
Thank you for this. We are in the final stages of approval (fingers crossed we'll be done by the end of this month/ early next month). This is great advice for new foster parents. I wouldn't have thought about this and needed to see this video.
@sgtigereye
Жыл бұрын
My daughter was in the NICU when she was born. The hospital provided scent cloths that I would wear throughout the day and when we would visit her they would place it under her head. Smell is more important that we all realize. My mom passed away 10 years ago and I still have a full bottle of her favorite perfume. I sometimes smell it just so I can be reminded of her.
@OGDeeHiggins
Жыл бұрын
🥺compassion always wins.
@gramnenew6196
Жыл бұрын
God Bless every Foster Parent.❤
@fp1912
Жыл бұрын
The smell of the sheets in the group home is one of my key childhood memories. Smells really are powerful memory triggers. So important!
@Izzy-cp8yt
Жыл бұрын
If possible, keep unscented detergent on hand. That way even if they're okay with you washing stuff, you can minimize the amount of "home" that's taken away/covered up. You could also keep a few scents in case kids want to get rid of scents (such as smoke) and you can give them a choice so they have some control that way.
@macydiy9697
Жыл бұрын
Yes! This!
@AngelicKat
Жыл бұрын
As someone who was in foster care and had a HORRIBLE experience and the only good experiences were when I was on respite and am now in independent living, this is important
@texavery5695
Жыл бұрын
This out a lump in my throat. I'm not a foster kids but I've got comfort items and bring mindful of that is just the most wholesome thing I've seen today. Ppl really discount how needed comfort items are
@bewellwithdanyel938
Жыл бұрын
Oh my gosh the compassion in the latter example makes me cry. It is so beautiful. Thank you for sharing this. If only more children experience this type of love!!!
@KDu400
Жыл бұрын
My son is 8 and daughter 4 and they both have items they don’t like me to wash because it takes away the “smell of home”
@alyssahamlett
Жыл бұрын
Great that your sharing!!
@MsSiReN87
Жыл бұрын
We need more foster parents like you. This is coming from someone who aged out of the broken system. Bless you. 🥺
@dawndiezwillis
Жыл бұрын
So much beautiful awareness and kindness in this
@juliejohnson7690
Жыл бұрын
How do you deal with a foster child's things smelling like cigarette smoke?
@waffles2450
Жыл бұрын
My mom (who I no longer live with) smokes and gifts from her smell like cigarettes. The smell will fade away overtime, but for me it became a bit of a comfort smell (sadly) when I missed my mom because she smoked so much it became her. That’s just how I see it. I’d say let the kid decide though
@AngelaM745
Жыл бұрын
My dad passed, one thing I kept smelled like smoke a stuffed animal which was always on the couch, I never washed it, maybe gross but it's the memories of the smell, it doesn't really smell anymore of smoke just him.
@macydiy9697
Жыл бұрын
Loundry stripping! If it smells like cigarettes it probably has that gunk built up in it which is not healthy!
@vickih5405
Жыл бұрын
Tobacco and diesel are very comforting smells to me. Please just be compassionate and let them have something that smells and feels comfortable to them.
@macydiy9697
Жыл бұрын
@@vickih5405 true, but also for there health try to limit the amount of comfort smelling items,(obviously don't just take everything, let them help you decide) but it's crucial for there health to constantly be surrounded in smoke sutt stuff!
@sky-et6md
Жыл бұрын
💔😭💔
@joannablade5886
Жыл бұрын
I’m not crying you are!!! 😭 the struggle these kids go through omg
@cheeks4208
Жыл бұрын
From a former foster child, thank you. We arent all lucky enough to end up with caring foster parents. People like you give me hope. Seriously, thank you so much.
@inalaska1208
Жыл бұрын
Until you get a bed bug infestation. I would do lice a million times to never have bed bugs again total nightmare.
@sarahs3988
Жыл бұрын
Dryer should be able to kill bed bugs
@heatherpride334
Жыл бұрын
@@sarahs3988 yes. Heat is best. Warning they can survive the washer.
@amandadoesnotcare
Жыл бұрын
Drier, washer, drier - for bedbugs.
@lemonsqueeze5147
Жыл бұрын
I was thinking this too. Bedbugs are an absolute nightmare. They seem to be particularly bad in Alaska too.
@inalaska1208
Жыл бұрын
Yes but they have to be on high heat for long time to kill them and normally they don't smell like home after that. Sad but it's part of life.
@justacutepieceofshit
Жыл бұрын
You are a fucking saint. Thank you for showing people how to talk to kids like the small humans they are 😭💜💜💜💜💜💜
@heavenlyvitality37
Жыл бұрын
❤❤❤ I pray for more people like you... I'm so grateful you love and care so much! God bless you!
@lee-annkenyon4748
Жыл бұрын
Thank you for taking care of these innocent ones.
@ariasnow2615
Жыл бұрын
Thank you so very much for the love and care you show these kids! For some of them, you may be the brightest star in their lives!
@Hazeldreamz
Жыл бұрын
I luv this. Shows so much love & compassion. It’s the little things that can mean so much & really make positive a difference in a child’s life
@sharonreneebrownmydiaries9943
Жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing this video. So compassionate and I would have never thought about the scent of the family that is washed away when you take these babies into your home. You are a blessing.
@keropi193
Жыл бұрын
You are so thoughtful
@kriskaneki8112
Жыл бұрын
that's so thoughtful. it makes me happy that there are foster parents out there like this.
@AliciaMartinez-fq6vp
Жыл бұрын
U have no idea how happy this makes me feel i grew up out of the faster system and aged out. You shining a light on this is amazing of u just thank you I don't know how to word what this makes me feel but thank you is all I can say
@hfortenberry
Жыл бұрын
Beautiful. Thank you for caring for these precious children. 💗
@lexip396able
Жыл бұрын
I'm not sure why I'm crying but I thought this was really sweet and very tender to have such compassion for a new guest in your home
@CandaceStevens
Жыл бұрын
Awww, that's so considerate! It really is THE LITTLE THINGS that get you thru traumatic events! Bless you!
@thalita137
Жыл бұрын
ADMIRABLE!!!!! Thank you for your service 🥹💕
@kt7274
Жыл бұрын
Your are heaven sent! Thank you for what you do for those children! This makes me tear up. 🥺 I'm so glad there's people like you to be there for the children 💓
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