I’m a 47 year old, and I find eye contact as difficult now as I did when I was a kid, it is extremely strange behaviour to most with ASD, and makes us feel as uncomfortable as it would a woman having her cleavage stared at 👀
@allthingsautism7505
3 жыл бұрын
Jason thank you so much for sharing that..great point!!!
@jasonclarke7422
Жыл бұрын
@pateckaaron7013 This is wonderful to know, I hope that your child continues to make great improvements.
@josephmartin1540
Жыл бұрын
I am SO VERY glad that you said what you did here, thank you. From the title, I hoped you weren't going to suggest forcing eye contact. I have been through that force. It was a wonder that I never hurt anyone: it hurt that much to be so forced. I eventually learned to do it and can often "perform" eye contact now and can out look most people. I don't know what is too much! It took a few years of collegiate study to learn to use eye contact. Forced eye contact feels EXACTLY like a physical assault, speaking from experience. Maybe even worse! For this I am poking the subscribe button!
@EclecticallyEccentric
Жыл бұрын
@Pateck Aaron Why is eye contact so important to you? Your child didn't necessarily lack social skills before, he just had different ones.
@drtaverner
Жыл бұрын
As a child I couldn't BE Autistic b/c the definition in DSM-3 required cognitive impairment. I was out of school and aged out of any potential services by the time DSM-4 introduced Asperger's Syndrome. I was well past 30 by the time anyone suspected I was autistic. It's good to see things change.
@lyratsura2243
3 жыл бұрын
When I first saw this channel and saw the puzzle pieces and the training tips I got a pit in my stomach. But my first impressions were wrong I'm so glad you insist for people to listen to autistic folk like me (the puzzle piece is still a hate symbol though)
@allthingsautism7505
3 жыл бұрын
Hi lyra, thank you so much for giving my channel a chance. I actually plan to chance that background image of the puzzle piece after doing some research on how it is looked at now. Please let me know if there are any topics that you think would be good for me to cover in order to bring more understanding towards autism. thanks again!
@InvisibleRen
25 күн бұрын
Usually, my workaround has been letting myself avoid it when I am talking then making intermittent eye contact when they are talking. If I’m uncomfortable with the topic though, I will only give them glances as they speak if I look at all. But sometimes I end up focusing so much on how long I’ve been inadvertently avoiding eye contact that I can’t take in all of what they’re saying and might miss a sentence or two. I just want to reduce the stimulation to my brain. Maybe once a year, I’ll meet someone who is really easy to make eye contact with. I feel like these are people with kind inner souls but of course that’s just random speculation. Most people are kind I think, but the ones I can look at easily seem to have zero judgment in their eyes and their words usually match that.
@justinnovator7718
Жыл бұрын
Its so nice to see more aspies like me and to know im not alone in the world of autism
@drtaverner
Жыл бұрын
I get so much anxiety around maintaining eye contact that I have a kind of timer in my head going all of the time so I avoid staring vs ignoring people's eyes. They tell us how important eye contact is, but not how to balance it properly. Too much and I'm creepy, too little and I'm ignoring them. It's one more stressor. This is exacerbated by the fact that I often find it easier to focus on someone's mouth while they speak. The lazy eye doesn't help either. I'm glad this is changing somewhat and that people are beginning to understand aspies/auties more, but it still others us and contributes to our social difficulties.
@drtaverner
Жыл бұрын
Why accept a child for who they are when you can drug them into compliance?
@gillb9222
9 ай бұрын
I'm a bit late to the party but this is really important. I'm 53, female and have AuDHD. I've been masking for so long I have got the eye contact thing sussed...until I have to think or feel anything at anything other than a really superficial level. As soon as my brain needs to engage my eyes have to disengage. Any kind of intimacy means my eyes have to close completely or I just can't process. When I was teaching I always used to ask the children to 'look this way' not to 'look at me' as I know how hard it is for me to do it so why should I ask them to. Teachers need to be aware of these thing but, unfortunately, when I graduated in 2016 there was absolutely no training on our course about how to teach ND children or children with any kind of additional/alternative supports. I chose not to teach after I graduated because if the education system is so ignorant to the needs of neutodivergent children I would never have fitted in as a ND teacher
@VicFrayreArt
3 жыл бұрын
I remember when I was a first-year teacher I made the mistake of requiring eye contact from students.
@allthingsautism7505
3 жыл бұрын
Hey Vic! thanks for watching. It's something so many people do because we have been conditioned to think that lack of eye contact is lack of respect and lack of engagement. Hope all is well
@vaishnavirudra9064
Жыл бұрын
My 7 yr girl don't have autism but always her eyes goes side while speaking,....just a glands they see face
@anuradhaharshani154
3 жыл бұрын
yes,i agree with you.
@allthingsautism7505
3 жыл бұрын
Hi there thanks for watching and for your feedback :)
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