Do you have deeply held regrets? How do you feel about regrets? How have you processed regrets in the past? Share your thoughts below! And don't forget to grab the five-step reflection exercise here: terricole.com/past-mistakes-guide
@chrisyv2577
Жыл бұрын
Hello Terri, beautifully put! Thank you! I'm sure the 5-step guide is going to help. I'd love to see more content on self-forgiveness, especially for people who were in the wrong. I have regrets because my selfishness emotionally hurt someone deeply who's not around anymore to ask for forgiveness. I've grown since and cognitively I understand my reasons, emotionally however still hurts and beating myself up and can't reach self-compassion on this one. Blessings and thank you for your wisdom! 🙏
@danadolores9557
Жыл бұрын
Pointless to regret..you said it so perfect....life is always NOW.. .. in the past we were different ...even our cells were different and no one from that time...this is our chance..with a different level of perception...to write in a good manner our present moment.....you are great in what you are doing❤
@sayusayme7729
10 ай бұрын
I used to be so stuck here in the past. Do very grateful to be past this . Lots of work 🤍🌬️🌃🫧
@AG-vp1ok
7 ай бұрын
Hi Terri. Thank you for this video and I'm excited to watch it. However, is this video just for what most would categorize as "small" mistakes? I have seen stories on Oprah about parents who accidentally killed their kids by leaving them in the car. Some mistakes cause us severe trauma, loss, and grief. Does this video apply to these type of mistakes or just ones that are less major? Thank you.
@siviraj6461
6 ай бұрын
guilt and regret after my father passed away I still unable recover since 2021 guilt for not being on time and also not leading a life in a right manner...now i feel nothing good I have failed being son i really failed... now I am in bit stable in my career but not able to do anything in life because past when my dad was alive didn't do much now ...i feel y should I enjoy or spend etc for my joy ,,, I don't think so I can overcome this pain',,i don't want this life any more
@alessaxn
Жыл бұрын
For those struggling with rumination + obsession about the past, i found eating healthily, avoiding food that causes inflammation, good night sleep, less technology and checking my phone helps!
@kellypreston8933
9 ай бұрын
Minorities have a whole other level of regret, pain, and guilt for just existing. Living itself becomes unbearable, however; the present does help a little to bring hope. Skin color is a form of guilt, this video may help stop such insanity.
@TheFracturedfuture
9 ай бұрын
That literally does nothing.
@alessaxn
9 ай бұрын
@@TheFracturedfuture have you tried this for a long period of time? it is like anti-depressants; it takes time for chemicals in your brain to change. I still struggle with rumination as I eat carb and sleep all day. But I still stand by what i posted here. Give it a try for 6 months to a year
@TheFracturedfuture
9 ай бұрын
@@alessaxn I've been into bodybuilding for over a decade so I have eaten pretty clean and excersised most of my life. Yes it does make you feel good but it hardly ever helped me with the ruminating. It could just be me though.
@alessaxn
9 ай бұрын
@@TheFracturedfuture I am in the same boat. It is a mental loop, a habit. I know. I suggest when you are "mindful" of your rumination, you catch yourself and stop right there. Remind yourself why this has got to stop. Repeat affirmations. This is what I am trying to do after being abused by a former employer and I am still wronged. I have to find a way out!
@canicebarbone8313
4 ай бұрын
I've been a horrible bully to myself. I've learned that no one and nothing can hurt me more than I can hurt myself.
@terri_cole
4 ай бұрын
Sending love ❤️❤️
@kimberlyacevedo2975
4 ай бұрын
I feel the same way 😢
@canicebarbone8313
4 ай бұрын
@kimberlyacevedo2975 I'm so sorry..... it's a rough road for sure. I have a quote that I try to remember.." be careful what you say about yourself. You're listening ".
@ToastyGhost2
9 ай бұрын
I am only 18 but i already have thoughts about my past and how horrible it was. I was basically raised by the internet and got addicted to adult content at age 8. Ive seen a lot of stuff online in that time and thinking of it makes me feel gross or depressed as i feel I missed out on childhood. This video helps me though, i hope anyone reading this has a good day. thank you ❤
@GODS.REQUIRE.SACRIFICE
8 ай бұрын
I relate to that
@ellat2302
8 ай бұрын
at 18 you're already ahead of the game, so to speak. Proud of you! You're amazing. I'm 65, and just starting. YOU got this! Keep going. So worth it 🙌🌛
@SmellMyKnee15
6 ай бұрын
Did someone show it to you or did you seek it out?
@ToastyGhost2
6 ай бұрын
@@SmellMyKnee15 Well, it more so went like some adults online did show me some things and then I got curious and looked it up afterwards. It was over 10 years ago so its hard to remember exactly.
@scottanderson5002
5 ай бұрын
If that's the extent of your mistakes then i wouldn't worry
@khadijahnyabinghi
Жыл бұрын
I do this repeatedly and really want to stop with this obsession. The constant ruminating and regrets.
@terri_cole
Жыл бұрын
I am witnessing you with compassion ❤️
@Dalaila77
7 ай бұрын
Same here!! I hate the feeling! It's suffocating and anxiety kicks in! May we all find peace!
@Mysterix619
2 ай бұрын
26 year old here, and I was an abuser in my last relationship. Didn’t realize it at the time of course, but she was the perfect person. Only realized it when she left me. This guilt haunts me, and I tried to chase forgiveness from her. But I realized I only need to forgive myself. The only way to truly do that, is stop being that person who did those things. Evolve into a better human, and you will have forgiven yourself.
@terri_cole
2 ай бұрын
Thanks for sharing ❤️
@Viv8ldi
2 ай бұрын
I know the story from the other side. I was abused my whole life and I dont unterstand how an abuser can feel bad
@Mysterix619
2 ай бұрын
@@Viv8ldi i am sorry to hear that. I hope you are healing. I do believe most people have the potential to get better once they realize their flaws and mistakes, and they get the proper help.
@johnbyerlein6682
Жыл бұрын
I am a 68 year old man with autism - diagnosed at 60. Outstanding video with specific strategies and hope, in most of my life I have often and always been lectured on what to do with no strategies to change for the better. Grew up with perfectionism - mistakes discouraged. My biggest regrets - going through life with no awareness of my ASD and receiving very little effective help from therapists, coaches and others on how to make my life work. Often blamed and shamed for my failures in life. I would need a 3 hour rant in your office to unload the crap and start healing.
@terri_cole
Жыл бұрын
I am witnessing you with so much compassion, John ❤️❤️
@karthikkj3421
Ай бұрын
I'm 21 and I wish I had been more honest in my relationship. I committed a grave mistake and it's been my biggest regret. I've been going to therapy and I hope I can grow into a better person❤️
@terri_cole
Ай бұрын
It sounds like you're on the right path ❤️
@nikita6822
2 күн бұрын
Hey, 20 here. I also have regrets from past relationships. I was not honest either, and I lost a great person because of my dishonesty. We need to realize we’re young and we are naturally going to make mistakes in the future, but we cannot be stuck grieving someone because of our mistakes because there’s nothing we can do about it now. Wishing you well❤
@carolyntarrant8302
Жыл бұрын
This is so valuable to me as I struggle with guilt from parenting mistakes and it just tears me up inside.
@terri_cole
Жыл бұрын
I am witnessing you with compassion ❤️
@Mokato011
10 ай бұрын
I have been felt so regrii have chosen a wrong surgeon who has performed the knee surgery on my kid. Instead of having one surgery, this either greedy or unskilled surgeon divide one surgery into two surgeries. I have two surgeons to choose, but in the end I have chosen the wrong one. I have been felt so guilty for my kid who differed twice.
@apples_and_orchards3205
9 ай бұрын
I am in the exact same boat!!!!! And it’s worse when your grown kids can never ever forgive you or give you any kind of grace at all 💔💔💔 I’m praying for you! I know it’s the worst pain ever! 😞🙏🙏🙏 I have ptsd so bad and all I think of all day and night is “ I should have done this , I should have done that, if I only knew then what I know now, how stupid I was and so on and so forth and it’s complete torture! I do give it to God , but then I keep taking it back
@scottys1423
8 ай бұрын
@@apples_and_orchards320517:43 . . . . . .... . . . . . : Is there no chance you could talk to them and apologize? Do they know you feel guilty?
@littleiodine9480
8 ай бұрын
Bless you. I have done the same to self. I came to this conclusion after decades- They have been adults for decades. If THEY CHOOSE not to talk things over, forgive and move on, everything I have been doing to make up for mistakes is of no use. I spent decades beating self up and it did NOBODY any good. I have lately said to self- piss on it. Take the years I have left and think and create happy. I have felt better and did more in the last month from that. It takes 2 to teeter totter. If they do not want to, go to the swing and feel the wind in your face smiling!!! 🎉❤
@David-fl4xw
4 ай бұрын
I’m 20. I’ve been a really shitty person to people who I’m supposed to love and do love, and even those who were past hookups and flings. Often my past comes back in some forms. Prank calls in which I’m hated on and told many things about myself that are negative, and some that are in the form of just running into someone I did wrong in my past. It’s making it difficult to leave it in the past. I’ve changed a lot but I’ve got a long way to go. I’ve messed up so much in my life. That prank call I got yesterday really bothered me, and it still is today. I can’t let it go. I want to know who that was that I once had hooked up with. I am worried about dirt they have on me and what not, because I am simply trying to move on from this past. It’s so difficult.
@terri_cole
4 ай бұрын
I am witnessing you with compassion, David 💕 That does sound difficult. Is it possible to not pick up the phone unless you know who is calling (and that it's safe to pick up)? That's one way to set a small boundary so you can move on, although I get not being able to do that with running into someone. If therapy is accessible/available to you, you might want to have the guidance of a therapist to work through all of this. Take care of yourself.
@trishamondal5711
2 ай бұрын
Whts your current situation
@Pan_de_Elote
10 ай бұрын
Thank you so much for this video. It's been really hard to forgive myself for something I did while I was still 16. I understand that we shouldn't simply let ourselves off the hook and commit the same bad behavior over and over again, but ruminating excessively won't help us solve the issue either. Hearing your perspective on the matter really helped me, I hope I can use your knowledge to grow as a person. ❤
@terri_cole
10 ай бұрын
This makes me so happy to hear ❤️ You're so welcome.
@amarisnavarro3854
7 ай бұрын
4years ago or may I say when I was 16 high school years I made a lot of mistakes and drank a lot and always thought I was fat when I wasn’t and I just find this keeping me up just can’t stop thinking of what I should’ve done with that time instead of running away so much and chasing highs n love from people who had other intentions bad ones I was letting my self get used and just so young n stupid I hate that this is keeping me up rn I feel so bad of how I treated myself I just feel so damaged now..
@Tonybaga_laughs
Ай бұрын
Been berating myself on a daily basis for many years, but over one decision particularly that didn’t just impact me, so it’s not just shame, it’s guilt. It’s 100% poisonous to progression in life, I’ll watch this video more than once, thank you ❤
@terri_cole
Ай бұрын
You're so welcome ❤️
@DesipetsoIndia
Ай бұрын
I'm 29 year old . My only regret is being overly kind to others but not to myself. Giving others chances to others but not to myself. I feel like wold is moving ahead amd I'm still at the same place.
@terri_cole
Ай бұрын
I am witnessing you with compassion ❤️ You're in the right spot because you're so not alone- I spent much of my younger life doing the same. It's never too late to begin putting yourself first and advocating for your needs and preferences. You might like this video I did: kzitem.info/news/bejne/ooCOqKefg3yaiHo at the 7:52 minute mark I talk about this.
@mohammedelzhenni
5 ай бұрын
Thank you. I have been ruminating about declinig a big promotion at work. Regret is a big deal and this video helps me move on.
@terri_cole
5 ай бұрын
I am so glad it was helpful! ❤️
@thegreatduca100
Жыл бұрын
There are so many things that I did in the past that I hadn’t understood were wrong or inappropriate because I was a child and didn’t fully grasp how someone could’ve gotten hurt or uncomfortable because of my childhood curiosity, or I did understand that they were wrong and don’t fully grasp how they could end up coming back to haunt me with regret in my later years due to believing that I was much more mature than I truly was. I’ve begun to do a lot of reflecting and have begun to see why the things I had done in the past were inappropriate or wrong and it’s sent me into a stage of self hate, regret and anxiety. I’ve been taking meaningful steps for years now to try and better myself and stand for the right thing, to make sure people don’t make the same mistakes that I did. I wanted to thank you for this video and helping me overcome my mistakes and my past, it has truly helped me in taking steps in moving forward in trying to become a better person
@terri_cole
Жыл бұрын
Thank you for taking the time to leave a comment! I am holding space for your healing journey ❤️
@Danak92
7 ай бұрын
Prayers for comfort and healing on you as you move forward. 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
@melanitomic3019
Ай бұрын
Thank you for this video. It helped to ease a lot of my pain. Through my actions I have hurt and disappointed the dearest, most favorite person in my life and gave him a trauma he is probably going to deal with for the next years, maybe even his whole life not being able to trust anyone again. I am afraid this experience changed the trajectory of both of our lives and impacted him in a very dangerous way. I will probably never see him again, nor our mutual friends, and if I somehow do, I won't be greeted. I have fallen extremely in his eyes and also my perception of myself darkened greatly. Thoughts like "I am really this person" or "I am a bad person" or "This cannot be forgiven". He didn't accept my apologies and has every right to do so. It hurts to accept that he hates me, and if he manages to heal from this, that he will feel totally indifferent towards me, because until yesterday I was the love of his life and vice versa. I love him from the bottom of my heart and just hope that he will heal from this, even if that will require changing his perception of me to the worst possible.
@terri_cole
Ай бұрын
I am witnessing you with compassion ❤️
@bethc1901
Жыл бұрын
i appreciate the idea of looking for what the trigger might be when an old regret surfaces. i have a few moments in my life that give me full body cringe, and i have always tried to shut down the memory to avoid the feelings. next time one comes up, i'll try investigating what else may be going on in my life to surface that regret/memory.
@msevolution2317
Жыл бұрын
Thank you 😢 I’ll come back to this one as needed. I wish I’d had this 20 years ago holding on to teenage mistakes lost so much time
@terri_cole
Жыл бұрын
I am witnessing you with compassion ❤️
@lattymom1
Жыл бұрын
I've been in a real slump over the last weeks. Remembering something that I did 40 years ago that had a negative effect on my children. I suffered from Mental health issues , a husband having affairs, and I could go on. But because I'm not very bright I made bad decisions. It was only many years later that I became self aware. My consciousness was made aware of all the stupid things that I've done and said in my life. Your video has helped. I'm going through a lot right now of beating myself up. It all came to the surface when my eldest daughter mentioned some things that I acknowledged . I've found life very difficult, especially relationships. . .. Thank you.
@terri_cole
Жыл бұрын
I am witnessing you with compassion and holding space for you ❤️
@bluepills8265
Ай бұрын
As anothers' daughter, I forgive you
@beritmason8567
Жыл бұрын
I was so bothered by regret today .... this helped a lot.
@terri_cole
Жыл бұрын
❤️
@benh7629
Ай бұрын
This was plainly and simply incredible. I'm going to place the mentioned steps into practice now, but I can already tell just after listening that I'm feeling ten times better about my situation. Thank you.
@terri_cole
Ай бұрын
I am so, so glad to hear that ❤️❤️
@mjs499
Ай бұрын
Thank you for this video. I regret for things I should have said or done to my dad who passed away in dec 2023. Regrets is killing me and steal my peace. It hurts a lot. I love my dad so much.
@terri_cole
Ай бұрын
I am witnessing you with so much compassion and sending love ❤️❤️
@mariateresazinser8711
2 ай бұрын
I am new to your program, I regret constantly not having a child when I could have , and it was the ideal moment, it would have improved things with my family, husband, I would have been connected with more people, and I feel it would have made my husband happy, and now that I am 66 I would have a child 26 and something to look forward to in life.
@terri_cole
2 ай бұрын
I am witnessing you with so much compassion and sending love ❤️❤️
@Renzowayz
Ай бұрын
Im learning to let go of my past. Im learning to make better decisions. Somethings are not meant to fight for if their negative. Im staying posive as much as i can today and growing for tomorrow.
@terri_cole
Ай бұрын
❤️
@artistmaureensharkey5321
Жыл бұрын
Terri, I had my doubts about getting over my past regrets, but thankfully, you said some things that are helping me make a break-through. Like - we're all human, we're all flawed, and we should treat ourselves with the same compassion as we would a loved one - with kindness and self-compassion. We did the best with whatever skills and awareness we had at the time. And there were reasons we did what we did. But if not having had modeling for problem solving or good communication, we can't expect to have done better. And we can learn upon looking back, so we can look forward to handling similar situations in a better way. Thank you so much. This really helped me.
@terri_cole
Жыл бұрын
I am so, so glad it helped ❤️ Thank you for sharing!
@hannahduggan3599
Ай бұрын
I could never forgive myself. When I was a little girl, I found out that my dearest baby brother Seth was a late talker. Because of that, I bit his little ear. I also pushed him off the rocking chair. When we got older, I threw away his dinner, which was a plain McDonald's hamburger. He was so hungry! Now, I am 28 years old. Seth is 23 years old. Since we're both autistic, we still live in the same home together. Whenever I apologize to Seth for treating him so horribly, he says, "That's okay. I love you very much." Also, when I was 12 years old, I called my newborn baby brother Jeremiah evil. I still feel extremely guilty about that. Jeremiah is 15 years old now and will be 16 years old on September 17th. Whenever I apologize to Jeremiah for calling him evil when he was only a newborn baby, he says, "That's okay. I don't remember any of that. I will always love you." Whenever I tell him that the real evil person was me for saying that about him, he says, "You're not evil. You're a nice girl. If you know that Jesus loves you, then you're not evil. I always knew that Jesus loves me." To make it up to Jeremiah, I give him hugs and money, I tell him that he's so cute and sweet, and I tell him that I love him. Also, when I was 10 years old, I lied to my elementary school guidance counselor. I told her that Daddy was physically abusing me. At 26 years old, I felt extremely guilty for lying to her, so I decided to write her a letter. In the letter, I told her the entire truth. I told her that Daddy had never hurt me in any way, shape, or form. I told her that Daddy always loved me unconditionally. When she got that letter, she called the police department. The police department called my house. When a handsome young policeman came to my house, he told me that my elementary school guidance counselor had already known the truth a long time ago. Also, when I was 9 years old, I threatened to kill my unborn baby brother Isaiah because I wanted a sister. Whenever I apologize to Isaiah, who's 18 years old now, about that, he says, "It's fine. I don't remember any of that." Also, when I was 9 years old, I refused to play Down By The Station on the recorder in school. I threw my recorder at my music teacher and yelled, "I HATE YOU! YOU'RE SO STUPID!" Whenever I write these letters to him, he never writes back. Also, when I was 11 years old, I wrote a lie about Mommy, Daddy, and my maternal uncle, Mommy's oldest brother, in school. A teacher then called the police. Everybody on Mommy's side of the family and Daddy's side of the family came to my house. Mommy asked, "Hannah, what did you write?! Your dad and I will go to jail!" When Daddy came home from work, the child service ladies came to my house and talked to me and Daddy on the porch. I was afraid that my parents and uncle were gonna get arrested. Whenever I apologize to them about it, Mommy says, "Honey, you were already forgiven a long time ago. Just forget about it and move on with your life!" Daddy, who had a massive stroke on February 26th, 2013, just tells me to forget about it. Mommy's oldest brother says, "It's okay, sweetie. Uncle doesn't remember any of that. Uncle's old. Uncle will always love you." The only thing that I want in life is for my elementary school music teacher to teach me how to play Down By The Station on the recorder. I feel like he will never forgive me. All these other people forgive me, though, but I will never forgive myself. Daddy now lives in the local nursing home, where he's in good hands. Every time we go to church, we pray for Daddy to get better from his stroke. Before Daddy had a stroke, he would always walk, talk in complete sentences, sing, and read Bible stories to me and my little brothers. Growing up, my little brothers and I had to witness Daddy going to the hospital. When I was a little girl, Daddy was taken to the hospital by the ambulance. He suffered from a heart attack. My little brothers and I wanted to ride with him. When I was 5 years old, Daddy had to get his chest and arm cut open. Why did Daddy have to get all those surgeries, you may ask? It's because when Daddy was a very little boy, his parents usually fed him lots and lots of junk foods, candy, chocolates, meat, sodas, and very little fruit and vegetables. The only exercise Daddy got was from playing baseball, his favorite sport. Growing up, Daddy maintained his unhealthy diet. When he was only 37 years old, he suffered from a heart attack. At only 54 years old, Daddy had a massive stroke. The story of Daddy's stroke. On February 26th, 2013, Daddy was at work. He had to give a big presentation. When his friends realized that he wasn't coming into the meeting room, they assumed that he was just nervous before the big presentation. They just waited for minutes. When those minutes became hours, they came to check on Daddy. One of his friends said, "Hey, Jimmy, what's taking you so long, man?" When they saw him, he was slumped over in his chair. His iced tea spilled all over his keyboard. His boss called 911. Lots of cops, firefighters, and paramedics, took Daddy to the nearest hospital. He was diagnosed with a stroke. I know that I'm getting off topic now, but even though those people forgive me, I could never forgive myself.
@vivianhudacek1556
9 ай бұрын
As I paused the video & reflected, several pictures of regrets came into my head, especially some that seem often to pop up,out of nowhere. I tried to delve into the sources of the behavior, especially since most had a common thread. I then had flashes of several varied painful experiences, things others did to me or that affected me. These were very, very deep hurts. Feeling “less than,” for various reasons, kept popping up, & I also,realized that that is likely the source of my perfectionism, which is not a positive trait. A sentence sprang into my head as a result of these reflections, an explanation for my behaviors: “It was a way of protecting myself.” I feel such relief & peace & lightness, & I can’t thank you enough.
@terri_cole
9 ай бұрын
I am witnessing you with so much compassion, Vivian ❤️
@vivianhudacek1556
9 ай бұрын
@@terri_cole thank you so much! I feel such a lightness of being. I’ve always been an introspective person (retired college a English teacher here) & have long wrestled with this obsessing over mistakes issue. I finally feel a sense of peace. Blessings to you!
@drewavery7811
6 сағат бұрын
It's 2 a.m. and I'm feeling regret mixed with blaming someone I love. In my professional capacity I advised a loved one to take a certain action but I did not take charge to make sure it happened. As a result another loved one may lose their home and I feel morally obligated to bail that person out financially at great cost to myself. So self-blame and blame of someone I love are mixed together in a toxic brew. It fills me with anger and it's ugly and useless. Maybe I just need to vent. First time on this channel, thank you.
@adrianguizar9115
9 ай бұрын
Thank you for this video. I recently have been making a lot of positive changes in my life, and the sudden shift in energy has resurfaced the anxiety and depression that I had in the past. I spent all day thinking about what could have been, which has been preventing me from sleeping well. But your words have really comforted me. It's hard to make change, but I just need to be proud of myself for digging my way out of the hole.
@terri_cole
9 ай бұрын
I am so glad to hear my words were of comfort to you ❤️
@GunslingerPanda
16 күн бұрын
I am my own number one bully. My mother mentioned that I give so much patience and kindness to others and I deny it for myself. I need to take this advice. self compassion. kindness. TO MYSELF.
@terri_cole
16 күн бұрын
Yes, you deserve it! ❤️
@colemeeker908
5 ай бұрын
Wow…i really needed to hear this. Stuck in the cycle of shame is not living
@terri_cole
5 ай бұрын
I'm glad it resonated ❤️
@stevedavis3320
11 ай бұрын
This is the first video from Mrs Cole that I've ever sceen. And this video is a God send to me. When my mind flashes back to deep regret my inner voice usally follows by saying "I hate myself" It's horrible. Thank you so much Mrs Cole! I down loaded the guide and will begin working on this out tomorrow morning. I feel like I just stumbled across a life changer.
@terri_cole
11 ай бұрын
I am so glad you found your way to this video! I hope the guide is helpful 💕
@MsJ3ny
Жыл бұрын
Thank you for making this video. I struggle with this a lot. I really appreciate you, Terri. Thank you for everything you do; your light really does help to empower people.
@ms.cruzcruz2298
7 ай бұрын
This video showed up in my stream and I needed to hear this so badly. I have so many regrets and it’s making me age faster and just feel horrible every single day.. I’m just taking my first steps to try and heal so thank you.
@terri_cole
7 ай бұрын
I am witnessing you with compassion ❤️
@thehumanwiII
9 күн бұрын
Looking forward to watching more, I’ve not been able to get out from under my guilt and shame and it has been feeding strong SI that’s only been getting worse, to make things much worse the people I’ve betrayed / hurt in the past refuse to let me forget it - they define me by my past mistakes and insist that they’re being angelic to me yet I’m narrowly escaping my own desire to not be here any more daily.
@terri_cole
9 күн бұрын
I am so sorry to hear you're struggling with people in your life defining you by your past mistakes. If you believe you are in danger of harming yourself, please reach out to a professional therapist, a friend, or a trusted member of your family or clergy so you are not alone during this time. You can also call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-TALK. The call is free and confidential, and the crisis workers are there 24/7 to assist you. I have other free mental health resources listed on my website here: terricole.com/gethelp I hope you find this resources helpful, as I am unable to offer any personalized assistance. I am sending you so much strength and love to get through this. ❤️❤️❤️
@Prabhsehajbawa
Жыл бұрын
Thank you for making this video, I have learnt from my mistake and also I am trying to make it right with good intentions. & Being kind and having faith is the key. Also praying while you make everything right has worked for me.
@BrysonLewallen
4 ай бұрын
Hi my name is Bryson I am 13 and have looked up some things that i regret. And don't know how to forgive myself and this really helped. Thank you for creating this video.
@terri_cole
4 ай бұрын
I am so glad to hear this video helped you, Bryson ❤️
@LucasSouza-xq1xe
2 ай бұрын
I made a mistake two days ago. I am 29 and I did drugs and I hated it. My thoughts afterwards were: why am I doing this? Why am I treating myself like that? My body is my temple and I made one mistake that is eating me from inside out and I can’t forgive myself for this. I know I’m not gonna do it anymore because I simply hated it but the fact that it’s done hurts me I lot.
@terri_cole
2 ай бұрын
I am witnessing you with compassion 💕
@matshepokekana3198
2 ай бұрын
I was a bully to a colleague, and did not even realise that he was going through struggles. Only more than 25 years or more later,I want to ask for forgiveness. Sad I can't find him. It is difficult to forgive myself to forgive myself. Each time I find episodes of how bad I treated him...when he was such a good person.
@terri_cole
2 ай бұрын
I am witnessing you with compassion and holding space for your sadness 💕
@SiriusGoddess555
17 күн бұрын
Thank you for this video. i find it very helpful. I will follow your advice and start a journal about it. I am 67 years old and have been obsessing about regrets. I really need to do something about it.
@terri_cole
17 күн бұрын
I am so glad you found it helpful 💕
@ceumonteiro8088
Жыл бұрын
I am 68 and I have many regrets. Some are about recent things, others are old. And sometimes I turn and turn to them. The more difficult to me are those I hurt someone and even I could find some excuses for what I did (not always) I suffer thinking of that. I know it’s done and it can’t be changed but it’s like I punish my self, I think.
@terri_cole
Жыл бұрын
I am witnessing you with compassion, Céu ❤️
@Truth786SubmittertoGodalone
Ай бұрын
I like the way you said shifting the lens
@terri_cole
Ай бұрын
I'm glad that resonated ❤️
@belleartist6875
Ай бұрын
thank you so much for this recently i have done some things i wish i had never done and im scared it could ruin my future but this help so much thank you really
@terri_cole
Ай бұрын
I'm glad you found it helpful 💕
@cassidyfullilove4353
Ай бұрын
I can relate, I hope you heal and I promise you will be okay. I forgive you, as a start. I love Taylor Swift too btw!! 💓💓
@AwatefAkermi-m8g
8 ай бұрын
I m from Tunisia it is the first time listening for you im deeply regretting the past mainly my mariage experience .after period of time of mariage i find out may husband in relation with another woman .At the beginning it hurts me alot but alater on i decide to move on i want to change my life . i retuned back to accomplish my study .I have learned alot from my past those horrible experiences are just stones and i want to build stairs from tghem i will move and never give up what ever happened to me alot of time ask myself why thet heppen to me but i retun back to praying and cheshing the moment and looking forward for better moments i need to move on for the benefit of me my future and my kid need strong woman who is able to do it and heal herself thanks fror you video i like your speech thanks alot again * ❣❣❣❣❤
@terri_cole
8 ай бұрын
I am witnessing you with compassion ❤️ Thank you for sharing your story.
@MarkKeilhauer
4 ай бұрын
always stepping in it, all my life.
@Sophiee.2023
5 ай бұрын
Im in my twenties now and i have a lot of regrets about who i was in the past and the things i did. I'm trying my best to do better,cried through half of what you said. thank you for your words and this video.
@terri_cole
5 ай бұрын
I am witnessing you with compassion 💕
@JAH-iu3yh
Жыл бұрын
Wow thank you for this! I’m so tired of putting myself in the box. Time to break free!!
@terri_cole
Жыл бұрын
Woohoo!!
@ColleenCopenhaver
7 күн бұрын
Hello! I’m brand new! Excited to be here
@terri_cole
6 күн бұрын
Welcome Colleen, glad to have you here!
@Bingewatcher439
26 күн бұрын
I am 20 years old now everyday i feel like i am behind everyone. I failed in my high school exam because I was chasing a girl i liked. Now its been three years after high school. I regret everday my poor life choices.
@terri_cole
25 күн бұрын
I am witnessing you with compassion ❤️
@Overarainbow-rr1ly
Жыл бұрын
Excellent video. This a daily struggle for me. Thank you very much for the tips. I am very grateful that you are taking the time to record such a video. What a blessing! Much love to you 😘
@terri_cole
Жыл бұрын
I am so glad it was helpful for you ❤️
@yourcakeandeatittoo
4 ай бұрын
Prayer for breakthrough, my relationship, a new home, and car. I pray for everyone as well .
@terri_cole
4 ай бұрын
❤️❤️
@saikiyo1634
8 ай бұрын
Thankyou, I'm really crying rn because of my decision..
@terri_cole
8 ай бұрын
I am witnessing you with so much compassion ❤️
@tamterell
Жыл бұрын
“We did the best we could with the level of consciousness “ ooh healing ❤️🩹
@terri_cole
Жыл бұрын
Exactly ❤️
@drstrangelove307
6 ай бұрын
This video is genuinely one of the best experiences I’ve had. It really helped me figure things out and sort out my internal feelings and struggles
@terri_cole
6 ай бұрын
I am so glad to hear it helped you ❤️
@drstrangelove307
6 ай бұрын
@@terri_coleThank you!
@Asher22222
10 ай бұрын
Feeling deep guilt and regret lead me into a years long abusive trauma bonded relationship that ended in my becoming completely disassociated. It’s taken a long time to figure out what happened and I’m still unpacking it all. Deep, painful regret and being constantly shamed isn’t something easily worked through.
@terri_cole
10 ай бұрын
I am witnessing you with so much compassion and sending love your way ❤️
@Asher22222
10 ай бұрын
@@terri_cole Thank you so much for your support and validation, Terri. ❤️
@Pampered_gal11
4 ай бұрын
Wow I really needed this!!! I do this every time I’m with people, what if.. do they like me.. drives me cry!!! 😭
@nicholasguzman5560
Жыл бұрын
Thank you for this video and for your channel. I recently did something that hurt a new relationship I'm in and I had no idea at the time how hurtful it actually was and the position I put both of us in. Even though they're giving me another chance (which I am HIGHLY thankful for), I cannot and will not go back, because that pain I felt for me AND my partner was the worst feeling ever. It was one of the hardest lessons I had to learn about self-awareness.
@terri_cole
Жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing ❤️ Self-awareness is so important!
@rebeccachapman2043
Жыл бұрын
Thank you, Terri. I am so grateful for your guidance. So much has healed in my spirit since I began following your wisdom.
@terri_cole
Жыл бұрын
❤️❤️❤️
@topsykretts2264
7 ай бұрын
Thanks for this video. Needed the encouragement. I left my stable and good paying job in my home city for a new one across the country in search of a change of scenery, weather, and lifestyle. I regret it deeply because I didn’t realize how much I would rather be surrounded by family and loved ones and live a simple life. I uprooted my family’s life for selfish and stupid reasons because I wanted to live that beautiful instagram lifestyle. Even got into debt and took out retirement money to move. Now I’m trying to find a job back home and move us back.
@terri_cole
7 ай бұрын
I am witnessing you with compassion and hoping you find a job back home so you can return ❤️
@stephanietimberman1028
Жыл бұрын
Thank you for your videos they are very helpful . I'm still trying to leave all regrets and baggage ....so sending my thankfulness to you.❤
@terri_cole
Жыл бұрын
Thank you for being here, Stephanie ❤️ So glad these videos are helpful for you.
@chroniclesofmedicine774
3 ай бұрын
I keep regretting why I was wronged/ blamed / mistreated I regretted things that were done to me . Thanks for this vide❤
@terri_cole
3 ай бұрын
I am witnessing you with compassion 💕
@DrHailin
8 ай бұрын
Speechless.. this is what i wanted to know for years to overcome my depression over my missteps n mistakes… jus the best ever information received… 🥺🥺🥺❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
@terri_cole
8 ай бұрын
I'm so glad it resonated ❤️
@DrHailin
8 ай бұрын
So happy for ur reply❤❤❤
@charlottekubjane9310
3 ай бұрын
I'm 33 and I feel like I've done too much, I have just retreated from life because I'm scared I'll sdo something that will build onto this huge mountain of regret that's on my shoulders. So much shame and guilt.
@terri_cole
3 ай бұрын
I am witnessing you with so much compassion and sending you love, Charlotte ❤️
@potamuspopo
Ай бұрын
Thank you for this valuable content. Keep doing your great job!
@terri_cole
Ай бұрын
❤️❤️❤️
@Ifkatufaax
Жыл бұрын
There is a period between April 2019 till August of 2020 that I wish I could delete from my life. Those 15 months haunt me all these years later. I hope that I can forgive myself and let go of the mistakes I made.
@terri_cole
Жыл бұрын
I am witnessing you with so much compassion and sending strength your way, Ifrah ❤️
@ishitadahiya9787
4 ай бұрын
Same time period i hope we both come outof it'
@Octaviacliosisley
Жыл бұрын
Thank you Terry, just knowing I'm not alone is enough. I was able to speak to multiple people who support me. And now I want to let go and this video popped up! ❤
@terri_cole
Жыл бұрын
That is so amazing 💕
@akuasoftlife
11 ай бұрын
Thank you Cole, this is exactly what I need at this time in my life.
@terri_cole
11 ай бұрын
Glad it resonated ❤️
@jcortega87
Ай бұрын
Thanks for empowering me to take action
@terri_cole
Ай бұрын
You're so welcome, I'm glad you felt empowered ❤️
@edbudzynski729
4 ай бұрын
Terri, you are so right on. Thank you.
@terri_cole
4 ай бұрын
❤️❤️
@4estdweller4ever
4 ай бұрын
I think I could have been successful forgiving myself but I’ve had too many humans around me who make judgment and shaming a sport. I realize this is probably not typical, but it has been my experience. I tend to be my harshest critic but I also know I was cut off by the knees when I was decimated by grotesque abuse as a child. Knowing what I know about that I believe I am a miracle. But bullies seem to follow me around and I’m already burdened with shame and I am easily trampled.
@ZeCahliPreppingGroupInBio
4 ай бұрын
I see you, feel your pain, understand what you’re going through. I know it’s not much, but you are not alone my friend. Keep fighting on.
@terri_cole
4 ай бұрын
I am witnessing you with so much compassion and I am so sorry to hear about the shaming and judgment you're experiencing from others 💕 I have so many videos on my channel about self-love and boundaries, but I believe it a lot of it comes down to our relationship with ourselves, because it is the most important one we will ever have. How we treat ourselves sets the bar for how everyone else will treat us. And this is made so difficult when we've experienced abuse in childhood and don't have proper support. I believe you are worthy simply by virtue of being alive. 💕
@4estdweller4ever
4 ай бұрын
@@terri_cole Thank you so much for your kind response to my comment. I shouldn’t leave so much of myself in a KZitem comment but I just can’t help it sometimes. Your thoughts are very comforting to me. Thank you 🙏
@4estdweller4ever
4 ай бұрын
@@ZeCahliPreppingGroupInBio Thank you for taking the time to offer support. It means a lot. 🙂
@terri_cole
4 ай бұрын
❤️ You can always go back and edit anything if you don't feel comfortable with it. Remember, we have the right to change our minds and course correct!
@alessaxn
Жыл бұрын
Thank you, Terri!!!! I really appreciate your time creating this episode + guide. Thank you!!
@terri_cole
Жыл бұрын
❤️❤️
@MelisiaEdwards-j8b
9 күн бұрын
Oh my God me every day,so many regrets anger pain even think i am not good enough.
@terri_cole
9 күн бұрын
I am witnessing you with so much compassion and sending love ❤️
@mitzicrowder2186
Жыл бұрын
We are given an owners manual! Great talk Miss Terri 💘
@miguelgalindo7302
7 ай бұрын
Thank you for your guide, Terri!
@mabfitness
7 ай бұрын
great video I am 48 just lost my job after 15 years from drinking. and the last 6 months its all i can think about is how i have stuffed up my life so bad. Trying to move forward. your video has really helped me
@terri_cole
7 ай бұрын
I am witnessing you with so much compassion ❤️
@Bigbrokevo
2 ай бұрын
I suppose it’s a journey, it doesnt happen just like that, it takes a while. Trust in the Process
@malibubeach6341
Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much, Madam. What you are saying in this video helped me to take distance with a regret that I am maintaining for years (The regret to have sold my house). I appreciate the way you deliver the message. Thank you so much for your intelligent words and advices.
@terri_cole
Жыл бұрын
I am so glad to hear it helped you ❤️
@AwakenedOne-qu
7 ай бұрын
My mistakes were all around being nice and forgiving, never forgive never forget always take action. I'm a different person than I was twelve years ago. Forgiveness is not part of what I am now.
@Jbutler63
4 ай бұрын
hello my name is James,I really have a lot of regrets from leaving jobs and female relationships and I do reflect on the bad decisions I have made in the past,great video glad I found your channel 😅😅
@terri_cole
4 ай бұрын
Welcome James, glad you found your way here!
@FaithfullyHope
4 ай бұрын
I’m new to this channel I have one regret that I made in my past that I shouldn’t have and it was being in a very toxic relationship it drag me down because I was blind by love I had rumors in middle school and high school telling me that I shouldn’t be with him because he had bad mental health issues this happened when I was 13 to 14 years old but now I’m 19 and it still gives me ptsd until this day🤔
@terri_cole
4 ай бұрын
I am witnessing you with so much compassion ❤️ Toxic relationships are hard enough to deal with as an adult- children are rarely fully equipped to deal with that. But what you know now from having that experience can protect you, too. ❤️ I have a short video that speaks to this, too: kzitem.info/news/bejne/y5-Omo2BrWqTfn4
@LoriAmbrose-t4x
4 ай бұрын
Thank you so much for this. You can't know how much it helped.
@terri_cole
4 ай бұрын
❤️❤️❤️
@lynetteevans7888
Жыл бұрын
This session has been very interesting, informative and helpful, thank you...
@terri_cole
Жыл бұрын
You are so welcome, Lynette ❤️
@ironmade4006
Жыл бұрын
Thank you Terri! This really helped me today. I've been struggling and finally feel some relief after watching your video. Bless you.
@terri_cole
Жыл бұрын
I am so glad it was helpful for you ❤️
@izaaguilo
Жыл бұрын
Thanks and blessings to you ❤
@mikestoneking4992
Ай бұрын
i have made alot of mistakes after i last my wife in heaven 31 yrs i still don't how to deal with life after being married that many yrs but i some how found my next wifey an she is a keeper for life
@amberkay2
5 ай бұрын
Thank you for the gentle and eloquent reminder
@terri_cole
5 ай бұрын
You're welcome!
@tonymagrof5303
7 ай бұрын
Im 39, single, childless, have made little effort to find someone in my late twenties and 30s....my career has been a series of unfortunate events that have resulted in no growth due to my stupid mistakes...i am the definition of regret. I like your message though.
@terri_cole
7 ай бұрын
I am witnessing you with compassion ❤️
@Berkovicka
5 ай бұрын
i feel the same,and so alone
@schmemmm
2 ай бұрын
You are still here, stay strong, although it feels bad a lot of people must also be in this position. We aren't all given the tools to thrive or know what to want or how to get it, nor do we always have that motivation or ability.
@ayujisu2144
Жыл бұрын
Hi Terri. My name is Aji, I am from Indonesia, I am struggling with letting go the past, either it was because of me or even other people
@terri_cole
Жыл бұрын
Hi Aji, I am witnessing you with compassion ❤️
@johnykryll
Жыл бұрын
Brilliantly helpful vid, got the guide,many thanks Terri. What a good soul you are
@terri_cole
Жыл бұрын
So glad it was helpful Johny ❤️
@EsmeKingfisher
5 ай бұрын
Thank you so very much for this 🙏🏼
@terri_cole
5 ай бұрын
You're so welcome ❤️
@davemustachio2734
4 ай бұрын
I am currently sitting here 2:30 in the morning after another argument with my wife. She has a lot of trauma from her childhood. Her father was terrible to her and we lived next to him for quite a few years. She said that I kept her in an unsafe situation. By staying next door to him. He would never hit her or anything but was argumentative and bossy. I finally moved us and she can’t get over that it took me so long. She also told me that I wasn’t around enough as a dad. I made a lot of mistakes and I can’t move past it.
@terri_cole
4 ай бұрын
I am so sorry to hear about your situation with your wife, Dave. It sounds like you understand where she is coming from. ❤️ Are either of you open to couple's counseling? A third party may be able to help here. Otherwise, I have a couple of tips on fair fighting in this video that may help: kzitem.info/news/bejne/o3qCsnuMfIWmn3o and how to communicate during conflict here: kzitem.info/news/bejne/2aah0HqhoX1np5w
@MeghaShingwekar
7 ай бұрын
thanks Terri . This video was really helpful.
@terri_cole
7 ай бұрын
So glad it was helpful for you!
@AsiatoLasgidiVlog
11 ай бұрын
I am feeling so hopeless and fatigue made a lot of mistakes in my past lost everything and hit Rock bottom.
@terri_cole
11 ай бұрын
I am witnessing you with compassion and sending strength your way ❤️
@xuemem
5 ай бұрын
I hope you're treating yourself with more kindness ❤️
@AsiatoLasgidiVlog
5 ай бұрын
@@xuemem yes I am,we learn from our mistakes..thanks so much
@XochitlDaugherty
3 ай бұрын
I also have past regrets
@rosemaryestrada205
2 ай бұрын
Hello from New Mexico
@terri_cole
2 ай бұрын
Hi there!
@Cathvisuals
9 күн бұрын
I am watching this in 2024 I am just 21 and I have made terrible mistakes for two times in my life concerning my finances When I get a huge amount of money I spend it recklessly without doing something important in my life and I just feel guilty of how I spent the money the way i did And I want to overcome those mistakes to do better and feel better
@terri_cole
9 күн бұрын
I am witnessing you with compassion ❤️ This is more common than you might think. So many of us have stories about money from our family of origin. This episode on financial boundaries may help as it talks about discovering your "money blueprint" (those inherited beliefs from family): kzitem.info/news/bejne/0JCHuXd4jHqCf2U You can also spend some time exploring the reasons why you spent it via journaling. It might be helpful to think about what kind of emotions you were feeling before you got the money and when you got the money, or what kind of thoughts you were having prior to it. It's also worthwhile to ask yourself if you saw this type of behavior from anyone growing up, as you may have learned it elsewhere.
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