As a society, we really need to make it less awkward to be around people with various disabilities. Exposure is key! I watch youtube videos of people who have different disabilities than me (ie blind/visually impaired), and blindness doesn't seem scary or awkward to me anymore.
@Wheelsnoheels
6 жыл бұрын
You are so right. Exposure is the key. There are some disabilities that I am unsure of. Im unsure of the "correct terms" and feel bad that I may offend them. xxx
@EmilyCheetham
5 жыл бұрын
Oliver Likes Cats me too. Also Iv met people with different disabilities and difficulties. I learned some basic sign language at college too so I can loosely speak (often my spelling out) to deaf people. There’s one person in my street partially deaf and I always say hello in sign language to them and ask how they are whenever I see them.
@beablenker7081
6 жыл бұрын
I went through similar situations throughout my childhood because of my disability people loved to cast me out and call me a freak. Even my boyfriends have mocked me, the level of maturity in school is minimal very true, I also communicate with adults better than peers. Not so much with my parents. School still isn't good, my peers don't bully me as much anymore but I don't have any friends I can depend on.. thanks for sharing your story ❤
@Wheelsnoheels
6 жыл бұрын
Its such a tricky time. Just trust me, it gets so much better. :)
@jcarey1983
2 жыл бұрын
That was much of my experience in the 90s and early 2000s 😣
@ladyroxanew.600
6 жыл бұрын
I also had a very hard time in school. Very similar I had three younger sister that told everyone we where not related. They bullied me at school and home. When I became older they apologized but the damage was done. I started college also without any one I use to know around me and I did very well. I wasn’t you it was them as my situation. But now women I get around get start the crap and as you told me a walk away and there are great people out there and I am finding them because of you. Thank you.
@Wheelsnoheels
6 жыл бұрын
Awww.. Yeah school and girls can be horrible, Im sorry that your own sisters were so mean to you, that must be really tough. Im really glad my video has helped and given you comfort. xxx
@alanacullom7204
6 жыл бұрын
I cant believe how some people can treat people like that. Its just unbelievable!!😡😔
@Wheelsnoheels
6 жыл бұрын
I know. It was a horrible time. :(
@shraddhakulkarni7109
Жыл бұрын
That's just what happened to me. It's just amazing how our experiences are so similar. I was with people of the same age from junior KG to 4th. Back then I was in a school with few children because there were more chances of getting fracture if there were more people in the school. Later I had an operation. After the operation, I took admission in fewer children's schools than before. But I missed a year, so I was studying with people who were younger than me. My all teachers were so good. But I had much experience of being left out, being bullied, Feeling that everyone is doing me a lot of favor. Feeling like a burden. Justifying me that I haven't done anything wrong. Actually it was such a awful time period. Then I came to college and everything just changed. Everyone was so mature to accept me, treat me normal. I was wondering that there are people like them. I have a friend who was not from school but is my childhood friend. And I can totally feel you and relate to you. It's such a nice thing that you shared your experience with us. That's the reason why I got to know that I'm not alone to feel like scool days were not the best days like everyone And I'm so happy now. I watch your videos daily and love them. It's really wonderful that you're creating awareness among people. about disability.
@thecottageunderthebridge9369
6 жыл бұрын
You are so brave to make this video and it is so important that people talk about these things. I was a fairly "normal" teenager in high school but still struggled with knowing who I was and fitting in. I can only imagine how difficult it is when you are marked out as different from everyone else and don't know anyone in a similar situation. I remember getting to the end of year 7 and thinking I didn't know how I would make it all the way to year 11. I just felt so overwhelmed. I wish I could tell my teenage self that it was ok to not be ok. Thank you for making this video :)
@Wheelsnoheels
6 жыл бұрын
Thank you for your comment. Yes its very overwhelming. I got to year 8 and thats when I really thought I couldn't go on. :(
@CozyWriter1307
6 жыл бұрын
I, being physically disabled had a very similar experience(s) in school. I lied a lot to make friends then as a result, in elementary school. Luckily by the time I was in middle school I was over that and more mature and ready to find my place - of course, other people weren't that far along yet. But, even in college, I didn't have very many friends or good friends. & I've felt as long as you described I just graduated from college today! and I really needed this actually because I still haven't found my people really. It's kinda sad.
@Wheelsnoheels
6 жыл бұрын
Hang in there. I found it gets a lot better once you leave education. Do you have plans to get a job? I found when I got my little job it got so much better. :)
@CozyWriter1307
6 жыл бұрын
I actually just do social media! But that gives me hope! :)
@thatgeekygirl6025
6 жыл бұрын
You are a Role model to all people disabled or not you inspire me I'm not disabled
@rhondabarlow860
2 жыл бұрын
I'm abled body and had to deal with mean girls calling me bald eagle because my mother cut my hair. People's choice to be mean is never about the person they are being mean to, it's about their insecurities and lack of humanity without themselves. You did good to leave high school early. This is an encouraging video.
@kikitinkerbell
6 жыл бұрын
I wasn't accepted in school either. I was bullied by this one boy until I was twelve and I was about to graduate to secondary school. That was an all girls school and a group of girls always bullied me because I dressed different and hand black hair and black nail polish and listened to rock, I feel alone at school and no one liked me. I had one friend and a few who did like me but that didn't out weigh the bullying. It was only in college when I made friends and no one picked on me because they were mature adults. but through it all since I was seven/eight, I had one friend who is still by my side to this day so it wasn't too awful.
@Wheelsnoheels
6 жыл бұрын
Its amazing how similar our stories are, and how similar you story is to others on here. Im glad you are happier now. xx
@Anne-ambesten
5 жыл бұрын
My heart goes out to you Gem. Kids can be so cruel and it's not ok. You are awesome. I'm so glad you are still here.
@Hopeandpeaceinjesus
5 жыл бұрын
As an adult- all my “friends” ditched me because my disabilities made me need crutches and a chair and now pretty much just chair... I did meet a great guy though (thanks tinder). I really miss having people to text and just be like “hey want to go get coffee/a drink/shopping/lunch/etc” I’m super sociable even though I’m a bit introverted but I really like to be social and do things, it really does hurt because like WTH I actually make a pretty decent friend. But growing up I recognise a lot of things from your story. Thanks for the videos they really do help.
@EmilyCheetham
4 жыл бұрын
I totally relate to you on the growing up quicker, hospital appointments, being friends with people older than myself. People at school thought I was weirded due to my epilepsy & autism. Until I left school and was in collage I had only ever had one or two friends my own age and even those people were just people who listened to me if I struck a conversation with them. I still don’t have anyone my own age who I meet up with regularly they are all older or younger than me. Still the majority of my friends are online.
@mc8180
6 жыл бұрын
I could totally feel with you when you told your story and I think it’s amazing that you made it through all of this , I understand that sometimes people don’t like to be treated like „Omg I’m so sorry for you“ and that’s why I don’t wanna say this , so I just wanna say you’re really strong and I look up to you
@Wheelsnoheels
6 жыл бұрын
thank you. XXX
@celiepoulain3649
5 жыл бұрын
Thank you sooo much for sharing your experience. My history is very similar to yours. Loooove how you talk about your life Loooove your way to be 😘😘😘
@billm6294
6 жыл бұрын
Amazing video...watching you dig inside so deeply to tell the story....emotional...I just hope that some youngsters in a similar situation now can find your channel...it will be so much help to them. Bless you for taking the time and energy to put all this on the internet. ♥
@Wheelsnoheels
6 жыл бұрын
Thank you bill. Yes I hope it will help people. xx
@stitch_andherhuman1888
6 жыл бұрын
You continue to amaze me!! I’m so thankful there are people like you in this world! 😘❤️
@Wheelsnoheels
6 жыл бұрын
awwww xxx
@LJ13222
6 жыл бұрын
i love you and your videos so much, Gem. I am able bodied but your videos and perspective have opened my eyes up so much. I love hearing your stories and advice, youve made me a better person!!
@Wheelsnoheels
6 жыл бұрын
awwww thank you thats so lovely to hear. xx
@stepht9268
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing Gem! I love your shirt and can relate to what you are talking about. Thanks for talking about it!
@rollin9588
6 жыл бұрын
My accident happened in my sophomore year, I didn’t go back till my senior year. While I was not in school I didn’t go out at all, I didn’t see friends either. When I went back I had no idea how to get back into the swing of things. Lucky I had a handful of friends to back me up and help me open up and get me back to being a normal student again. I did encounter one bully that would constantly pester me and make fun of me. I’m glad that I had my friends to keep me going in school because I’m very shy and I don’t like to open up. We had loads of fun and got in a lot of trouble, getting in trouble was a weird thing to do again but it was sooo much fun! The other thing that made highschool Bearable was that I was in regular classes and not in ec classes. I haven’t started college yet but hopefully I find new and better friends. Gem one question for you, did you have a dorm in college? I’m planning on staying in a dorm.
@Wheelsnoheels
6 жыл бұрын
Im glad you were able to find a little normality and get up to mischief. ;) I didn't have a dorm. I would really hope that they would be able to accommodate you with or with out a disability. xx
@RawAbilityLife
6 жыл бұрын
It is So horrible how kids can be, especially back in our school age days! I was not in a wheelchair in my days, but still had disability's. I remeber being nick named 'robot' because i had to wear wires on my head to monitor my Epilepsy from time to time. I had to 'learn' to laugh at the jokes the bully's made to make my life easier. Now as a Adult i realise that teachers should have educated the kids so they could of understood. And that the kids did these things because they DIDNT understand. For me NOW though, they taught me to laugh and keep moving on. To find the positives in everything. So at the time it was hard but now i see how in many ways it made me who i am now... I guess in many ways this is why many disabled people and people with chronic illnesses learn how to wear different masks! It was brave of you to share your story! TC, Hugs. Stacey K @RawAbilityLife (PS, sorry i have missed some your videos i have not been to well then packing and yeah, will catch up on them promise)
@Wheelsnoheels
6 жыл бұрын
Hi stacey. yes you are right there should be more education for kids to "deal" with other kinds and people with disabilities. I feel it is getting better. xx
@wheelie26
6 жыл бұрын
Gem your school story is awful, I’m so glad that you found happiness when you moved to college and in your adult life. Children can be so cruel to anybody who is a bit different. I think that there needs to be more education for young children about disability and not everybody being the same then hopefully they will just accept anybody for who they are. So glad you are happy now.
@wheelie26
6 жыл бұрын
Ice Queen that was what I was trying to say, education I think is key to accepting people with any disabilities or differences and as schools now have much more of a integration policy then I think children are exposed to all types of disability at a very young age that it becomes the norm and disabled children are just part of the class and not seen as different.
@Wheelsnoheels
6 жыл бұрын
Yes i think you are right. From day one, at school it should be taught and out in the open. xxx
@SohiTheTinyKittenHuman
6 жыл бұрын
Yes I totally agree! My third best friend in kindergarten used a walker and he got bullied a lot. Even by the older kids. It sucked. Most of my class kinda stuck up for him though because his mom came in and explained everything to us at the beginning of the year.
@wheelie26
6 жыл бұрын
Sophie Konishi that is a good way to do it by a parent or health care worker to explain what the child’s disability is and how it effects them etc.
@SohiTheTinyKittenHuman
6 жыл бұрын
wheelie26 I think it helped that we were young and his mom explained it really well. She called the walker something cute and so did he... I forget what it was though... forgive me I was five!
@joeldfisher
5 жыл бұрын
when I was 18 (last year of A levels) I was told by someone that all of my friends (able-bodied) were avoiding me. Since I have an anxiety disorder (something I didn't know at the time) instead of confronting them I decided to leave them alone and never talked to them again. Biggest mistake of my life. P. S. there's a great Japanese animation called A Silent Voice which deals with bullying and disability, I can't recommend it enough. Very relateable.
@ashkinnally6316
3 жыл бұрын
Agreed on silent voice. It's amazing
@sandramizen2290
2 жыл бұрын
Hi I can sympathize with you on this matter as when I was younger and I had spinal problems from birth and spent MI school year's mainly at hospital but when I was at school I got picked on and called nasty names it wasn't pleasant I was glad when I left school I never did any exams or went to college I went straight into work but even found this hard at times I still have no real friends today I am all alone by myself but I guess that I have got use to it now being alone.
@louisetrenchard2459
6 жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing your experiences. A lot echoes with my experiences - thank goodness for FE/6th form college - it saved me.
@Wheelsnoheels
6 жыл бұрын
Yes it did for me too. :)
@brittaroth3780
6 жыл бұрын
Dear Gem, mobbing and being mean to those who are different starts early, some go through the things you talked about in Kindergarten here, also. Kids can be so mean and cruel in all the things they do and say, just because someone is different. different includes disability and bodycolor or heights or nationality and so many more things. Kids don't want to deal with different people, because that would mean they'd have to think about the differences and maybe find out, there is nothing different between you and them! I guess the best reaction is (if you are mature enough ,strong enough, to ask themn how they'd feel in this exact situation. How they'd react when they are cheated or laughed out or even hit. Some opponents have stopped the harrasment (I don't know if that is the right word, but I hope you know what I mean) after being asked those questions, some haven't. Well, we are all different, and, of course, everyone is a foreigner somewhere. I am glad you talked about your schoollife! You are an amazing woman, so young and pretty. Thanks for sharing your story,Gem! Greetings from Germany, sincerely Britta
@Wheelsnoheels
6 жыл бұрын
Yes well said Britta. xxx
@EloiseEighteen
6 жыл бұрын
I really struggled with how you did in early high school in junior school. At this stage I didn't have any particular physical problems, just more prone to dislocations, fainting etc (EDS) and the struggle was more due to) girls can be horrible and b) it turns out I have Asperger's. At secondary as physically things got more difficult I found it harder. For instance when everyone did PE I had to go to the library, then in year 10 and 11 I was in and out of hospital so much that I just stayed in alternative provision (hospital school/ home tutoring). Some friends were AMAZING and came and saw me, wrote to me etc. However, when it then became apparent I needed more adaptations than my school could provide for A-levels I went to college and it was like all my school friends just disappeared. My college was great for me in terms of disability provision and preparing me for university but I made pretty much no friends! I'd only just turned 15 when I started and a lot of people were 17+ I'd also spent so much time in hospital that I was mature in some ways but inexperienced in others. My dad would frequently ask if I had 'any plans' and I'd angrily reply that obviously I didn't! Despite the college being accessible etc. there were basically no visibly disabled people in the A-level depatment. Most people with disabilities were doing post 16 SEN courses like independence training etc. BUT when I came to uni I then met a lot more disabled people with a whole range of types of disability. I've also found fellow students to be pretty fab at access etc, even when staff or venues aren't, which has been so so lovely. I guess school, and being in hospital, might have been easier with social media etc. but then equally you only need to miss one whatsapp chat group or something and you fall off the radar!
@Wheelsnoheels
6 жыл бұрын
Ah school is such a hard time. I actually begged my parents to let me be home schooled. I was the same when it came to PE. I ad to watch in the freezing cold (what joy!! NOT) or go to the library. Do you have friends now? xx
@anemoononfire333
5 жыл бұрын
I’m so sorry that this happened to you :( Almost 4 years ago I was at a school where I was really badly bullied I have chronic nerve pain in my knee and now in my back and feets and I was in a wheelchair and had crutches and cause the people there couldn’t see it they kicked my crutches while I was walking and they wanted to beat me up and I was called out as a freak and a pretender I left that school later and after months of searching I found a good school I loved it I was there for a few years but I still had the nerve pain but later I got functional neurologic disorder and I lost the ability to walk and I needed first a rollator and later a wheelchair again but the school wasn’t wheelchair accessible and they didn’t wanna chance so I had to leave school again it was a rough time but now I have a really cool job and there people like me it makes me really happy where I am now
@NoisyLittleCampers
5 жыл бұрын
When i was a teen i use to race my 10 speed with my neighbor who was in a wheelchair (at her request for the challenge) what a great time for me & her. Tnx for your vid.s
@RawAbilityLife
6 жыл бұрын
Gem, I know i already Commented but i wanted to separate this comment from my last.... your life story is so like mine, but in different ways to. it is Scarily FUNNY! I too found fitting into the alternative world much easier and like you was able to do so much thanks to them all. They would help me down steps lower me onto dance floors and do all sorts! Took me to a festival! I think the reason it is easier to fit into the 'alternative seen' is because all alternatives have in one way or anouther been hurt or not fitted in. So they find it easier to accept each other and care about each other. Now here is the BIG question, did you dress Alternative? i so wish i could add photos here for you LOL TC Stacey K @ RawAbilityLife
@Wheelsnoheels
6 жыл бұрын
hahaha yes I saw your message and pics on fb. its amazing how similar many peoples stories are. Yes I did dress alternative. LOL. Ill see if i can find a pic, but so far nothing. There is one of me on my TEDx talk. I have baggie skater jeans on, but thats all I could find. I think it was around the time digital cameras were just coming out. So nothing was really backed up. xxx
@iTyseries
4 жыл бұрын
im sorry that happened to you. That is physical and emotional abuse. It wasnt / isnt your fault
@SohiTheTinyKittenHuman
6 жыл бұрын
I got a spinal surgery commercial before this.
@acc0197
5 жыл бұрын
Dear Gem: I have been classified as 'non-disabled' at school, and university. Today, I am disabled. I would have loved you as a friend at school. So sorry people around you were most ignorent ,and treated you unkindly.
@shadowwolf1849
4 жыл бұрын
I have autism and for my classes I think the hardest thing was that autism is invisible. They couldn't sees it as with someone who have problems with asthma as a possibility they understand that they can not participate in school sport like all others do. But if they see me they don't understand why my autism affects they why I can participate I different classes. English is really easy for but sport and german are freaking hard.
@alliebrown4790
6 жыл бұрын
I'm curious how you think your story would have been different if you had gone back to the school you were at before your injury. I am writing a story about someone who uses a wheelchair and she does go back to her old school. I'm trying to figure out how her classmates might react or treat her if they knew her before her injury. If you have any thoughts based on your experiences, I would love to hear them!
@Wheelsnoheels
6 жыл бұрын
I did go back to my original school. But it was massive and very "rough." I was also struggling academically, so I needed better tuition with smaller class sizes. When I moved to the new junior school. it was amazing and had the best time. It was when I started the high school that i struggled. xx
@calibateman
5 жыл бұрын
The media, social media and culture doesn’t help. If society opened up to the fact some people are disabled and it’s not scary or a hindrance, I think that would change a lot as well. It would be great to see more actually disabled people in movies, that might help as well instead of always showing us as the weak person who always needs help and to be looked down on.
@bertiepimplebum5633
4 жыл бұрын
Immaturity is at the root of so much irrational, deliberately incorrect and criminal human behaviour. Once you know someone is immature, criminal or worse, narcissistic, keep them out of your life. You'll be so glad you did. It's not you who is at fault. (UK)
@gracet4444
4 жыл бұрын
school almost killed me too... part of the reason i was sectioned was due to the past and current school situation. I have an EHCP now which helps.
@Jaggededge112
4 жыл бұрын
To me those girls weren’t awkward they were mean and vicious. I am now an ambulatory wheelchair user but I grew up with both parents being disabled my mother has Cp and my dad has epilepsy, and had a brain aneurism which lead to him having his optical nerves being messed up from the surgery so he was considered legally blind. I grew up with empathy to other people and had friends that were both able bodied and disabled. I don’t understand why other people have such a hard time accepting people that are different to themselves.
@vesarchauhan3418
2 жыл бұрын
👍👍👌
@HighTen_Melanie
3 жыл бұрын
It’s interesting watching this again. You are telling people what you _want_ them to believe and aren’t sure you can pull it off. I’d be nervous to! Watching your reactions to the camera and when you look away, it’s obvious when you aren’t sure yourself about what you are saying. I have no doubt school wasn’t easy but have to wonder about why you don’t show photos as proof of using a wheelchair at school.
@beeb6730
6 жыл бұрын
Thanks
@ashkinnally6316
3 жыл бұрын
Its current the start of summer but I may need a wheelchair. Any advice Abt going to school in one? Thanks gem
@stephaniemcquillan6167
4 жыл бұрын
I had the same sort of experience so then I was actually moved to a special school
@sidbrown1415
6 жыл бұрын
Gem I am so sorry you had a bad time. Funny story...... I was picked on at school because my father was a police officer and had my head flushed down the toilet. I never told anyone. 30 years later a new lady started at work, short and fat. (I’m no oil painting. Ha!) No one liked her because she was loud and obnoxious. Then I realised “yes one of the bullies” she had a miserable time in training and in her job because everyone was so professional. She thought she was better than everyone else who had been doing their jobs for years. As I am a reasonable normal person I did feel slightly sorry for her ( only very slightly.) Anyway she moved on. Her husband had moved on years ago. Her children moved on. Her lodgers kept moving on. She kept moving on. Because ‘what goes around, comes around.” and it was her that didn’t fit in. *******So any of your subscribers or readers that have nasty comments towards you or your ideas, I hope they remember. WHAT GOES AROUND COMES AROUND!!!! ******** Keep up the good work we love your blogs.
@Kales0505
4 жыл бұрын
I am autistic & up until like 10 grade I was bullied nonstop until I got put into an all autistic school & I fit in perfectly. I loved it so much I tried to stay there past the age of 20 but of course they couldn’t allow that😂
@gracedaly6598
11 ай бұрын
I didn't like my school ether I have epilepsy if I had a seizure thae classroom Astint wood blame me on daydreaming and if I had a seizure when getting stuff for cutlery class I got drags on the footpath by the classroom Astint and cookery teacher
@rosied3717
6 жыл бұрын
I'm really not trying to rude or anything but all video i was looking at your ears. But grate video. X
@Wheelsnoheels
6 жыл бұрын
I have done a whole video on body confidence and my ears are something I'm very self conscious about, so thanks for pointing them out.
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