Also a true gentleman would want to see you arrived safely at your destination. There are a lot of unscrupulous people out there.
@EllieDashwood
9 ай бұрын
Especially the amusers with their pockets full of sand. 😂
@ViolettaD1485
9 ай бұрын
A true lady wouldn't stand on the sidewalk.
@annalisasteinnes
9 ай бұрын
Victorian texting would be like "I greeted him but he didn't turn to walk with me 💔😭" EDIT: Thanks for all the likes!
@andromedasignage
9 ай бұрын
“nooooo elizabeth! perhaps you will have better luck at the luncheon!”
@Aliceinahat
8 ай бұрын
Better than my suiter, he accompanied me to the grocer on my right!
@andromedasignage
8 ай бұрын
@@Aliceinahat the right! you deserve a gentleman, not… that
@annalisasteinnes
8 ай бұрын
@@andromedasignage "my mother is now threatening to send me to Bath with my aunt--like I shall find any gentleman worth knowing at the public dances!"
@ginathecookie
8 ай бұрын
I love this thread so much 😂
@bronwynreijnders7205
9 ай бұрын
I've done this for male and female friends. If they have to be somewhere and I have time, I'll go with them to talk and then just circle back to where I was headed.
@kawaibakaneko
9 ай бұрын
Yep me too! I hate standing around doing nothing, guess I (a french woman) is a truth english gentleman
@lrajic8281
8 ай бұрын
I love the book "Emma" where we learn that Mt. Churchll sees Emma's horse and carriage stuck in the mud. It reminds today's people to speak and help those who are having travel difficulty. I told my high school friends, a mere hook of the car horn isn't friendly. They should stop and ask whether I need a lift (I was walking). And also in "Emma" we see the young parson walk Emma in the path home, as well as others have done.
@oblivianette2860
8 ай бұрын
Me too! I would much prefer the company of a friend for a few more minutes and continue to talk, and enjoy the memory as I go back to the previous destination. I also feel so special when someone (particularly a guy 😅😊) does that to me.
@maddi_b_123
5 ай бұрын
I walk crazy fast, so anytime i see a friend in the hallway at school, I just turn around and walk with them lol. I would be a perfect gentleman.
@audraelynnegrimmelhaussen8808
8 ай бұрын
This is probably the reason why our grandpa absolutely hated when boys talked to us (his granddaughters) on the sidewalk instead of actually visiting us at home to chat.
@stellastella99
8 ай бұрын
How old are you??? My great grandpa didn't even live during the Victorian era 😂😅
@audraelynnegrimmelhaussen8808
8 ай бұрын
@@stellastella99 hahaha I only meant to say that my grandfather must have been brought up in the old ways
@Emily-tv1iz
7 ай бұрын
“Timothy! Why are you late to the meeting?” “Sorry sir I had to reschedule dinner plans and wound up on the other side of the drawbridge.”
@fairydreamz
9 ай бұрын
Love it! If he wanted too he would!!!
@emb21982
8 ай бұрын
I'm so glad this isn't the social norm nowadays. If you don't really like the person, now you have to put up with their company all the way to your destination and people will see you walking together, which could be embarrassing. Also imagine if you were going somewhere where you really didn't want a man to accompany you. Oh great, I'm late to my undergarment fitting / doctor's appointment and now I have a potential suitor tagging along.
@faithful2thecall
9 ай бұрын
Even today a gentleman should be willing to do that for a lady friend if he desires to talk to her.
@MsAngelique
9 ай бұрын
Many women today would actually find that behavior creepy.
@TheGabygael
9 ай бұрын
Note that the important word here is friend
@frann8002
9 ай бұрын
@@MsAngeliquenot if it comes from a friend, yes if it comes from the weirdo that keeps talking to her when she clearly isn't interested
@dgo333
8 ай бұрын
why tho? the rules of chivalry kinda go out the window when its not about courtship and just about friendship (im gay so thats just my outside observation/take lol)
@ZiggyWhiskerz
9 ай бұрын
I love these kinds of vids. ❤
@EllieDashwood
9 ай бұрын
Aw! Yay! ☺️💖
@maxi679
9 ай бұрын
i love reading classic / any novel which set in this timeline. Regency, victorian, Its like im experiencing meeting a gentleman
@matthewlaurence3121
9 ай бұрын
This is not something I am willing to risk nowadays. When I was in school, I engaged a girl in conversation on the school bus past my regular stop to her’s in order to continue our discourse. She betrayed no sense of alarm, at the time, but the next day the word was out that I was a creep who followed girls home. She was or claimed to be terrified. I never saw her house or street even. Standing up to offer my seat on a bus or train has been similarly-and embarrassingly-rebuffed, too. Etiquette and chivalry requires two informed parties.
@Aurriel
9 ай бұрын
Loved that little quiz! This would make a great series!
@viviisx
9 ай бұрын
that was very nice video! your voice is soo nice!
@EllieDashwood
9 ай бұрын
Aw, thank you! 😊
@johnhix8892
6 ай бұрын
Especially unchaperoned …😮, smile nod and shuffle away . Rumor mill darling and besides if he wants to have a longer talk let him leave a calling card and pick a time between 3 and 5pm. If the father accepts his company he would no doubt be invited to come. But not stay late “bc he is not family”, as the previous nod snd smile out of doors would have not been necessary as they would’ve already been acquainted
@sanjaynatekar8186
9 ай бұрын
Thats actually is a surprise....because I thought the answer B
@keponder47
2 ай бұрын
This reminds me of a scene in Persuasion where Admiral Croft being so polite to Anne, asking if he could go anywhere with her or for her.
@basicallybluesky
9 ай бұрын
oooh that's interesting! I love your videos so much 🥰
@EllieDashwood
9 ай бұрын
Aw, yay! 😃😊💖
@yessumify
8 ай бұрын
Too cute. It'd be so nice to go back in time and see what it was like to live back then first-hand.
@midnightblack07
9 ай бұрын
Learned something new from this one, thank you! :)
@you_already_have_it
9 ай бұрын
😊love this video. Please keep up with this quiz format. That is very informative in a easy and fun way. Thank you))
@user-bf3pc2qd9s
8 ай бұрын
Any woman who stopped and chatted with a male in public was obviously a trollop. Source: my mum, late 1978.
@coyoteblue9605
9 ай бұрын
So this is all part of why Lydia and Kitty accosting men in the streets to chat is evidence of their hoydenish behavior?
@rdb4996
9 ай бұрын
Based on what Ellie says, I think Lydia and Kitty basically offered themselves to the men.
@jezpin3638
9 ай бұрын
No, because she is talking about Victorian etiquette. P&P is from the Regency
@subratanandy2142
9 ай бұрын
@@jezpin3638 pretty similar actually. Lydia and Kitty would go out of their way to flirt with strangers on the sidewalk .
@jezpin3638
9 ай бұрын
@@subratanandy2142 Oh, they are really not. They are just not. You are being very naive to suggest so. While the beginning of Victoria's reign may be much like her uncle's, what we know as 'victorian era' is so very different in sensibilities than earlier in the century.
@cmm5542
9 ай бұрын
@@jezpin3638Agreed. While P&P certainly indicates Kitty and Lydia went beyond the bounds of current propriety as well, it is astonishing how behaviour perfectly acceptable for the Regency became 'not done' a few decades later! But then, one could say the mores of our own time are just as different from our grandparents . . .
@jeannechapman2696
9 ай бұрын
Love these historical snippets. You do them so well!
@sweetsandcharades8383
9 ай бұрын
Is there a C if the lady doesn’t want to talk to the gentleman?
@emhoj97
9 ай бұрын
I'm assuming she wouldn't greet, or do a specific greeting that implies she's not available to talk
@cmm5542
9 ай бұрын
Ladies had the privilege of ignoring gentlemen if they chose. It was similar to how a lady could break an engagement; a man could not. Women had certain extra societal privileges back then, as we lacked certain legal ones! A woman would not be allowed to 'cut' another woman; a man could not 'cut' EITHER another man or a woman. However if a woman was not interested in speaking with a man she could simply dismiss him, without even a reason, and he would be socially expected to accept that (not, of course, that every gentleman back then would ALWAYS do the socially acceptable thing, people were still human!) But sometimes I do wish we girls still had retained some of those past advantages. I hate having to explain to a guy WHY I'm not interested in dating him without hurting his feelings; it would be nice to live in a society where a lady can simply change her mind without being questioned or held to account for it! And where the guy will simply think 'it is a lady's prerogative to change her mind' instead of feeling it's a reflection on him personally. I'm always shocked to read past proposals, where the girls do not seem to fear any consequences for rejecting the guys, pretty hearllessly as a rule if it comes to that! Nowadays a girl could be putting herself in danger if she was that rude!
@malinasworld
8 ай бұрын
@@cmm5542I feel the same way. Where I’m from/among people my age here, women are treated from heartless sociopaths if they don’t break up face to face and provide a full speech detailing why she wants to break up, with proof. That can be so unsafe!
@comettripper
8 ай бұрын
It's funny though how they create this inconvenience Like, they make it a social rule that a lady can't stop her walk and a gentleman can't chat on the sidewalk to talk to a lady I'm pretty sure they'll later use that as an excuse to pressure you into being nicer to guys because "he made that effort for you" The effort that was unnecessary and unasked for. And now you Need to be grateful for It's interesting to see how these things haven't really disappeared from our culture, they're just modified. I remember being accused of being ungrateful and rude for simmilar reasons as a kid and then as a teen. I was always an inconvenience somehow, so I was always in debt
@eric2500
9 ай бұрын
As it should be!
@lt530
9 ай бұрын
I love your videos. I just discovered you recently thanks to the almighty algorithm, but I'm very happy to have found your content!
@brumbybailey6599
8 ай бұрын
Colourised photos are so hilarious. I found some old b&w family photos the other day, and I legit couldn't tell if a kid had been at them with texta or it was intentional🤣
@alessandrasmith339
9 ай бұрын
I’d be a terrible victorian lady because I don’t like most men following me to a destination even if I know them 😂 Like, go away, please. I don’t want you knowing where I live.
@cmm5542
9 ай бұрын
Back then, no gentleman would have been allotted the privilege of being your friend without already knowing where you lived! Most people lived in villages and would have known where EVERYONE lived, even those they weren't personally acquainted with. In London, your acquaintances would all have been introduced at one another's houses! It wasn't like today, where we can know people for YEARS at work without having a clue where they live. I too don't care to give mere acquaintances the information of my address today; but if they already live three doors down and know exactly where I live anyway, they can 'see me home' if they like, not going to give anything new away! 😅
@brumbybailey6599
8 ай бұрын
So classy.
@oblivianette2860
8 ай бұрын
Can you do one about the uses of a handkerchief in society?! Ive heard of it but dont know a whole lot.
@jesusguadalupe8396
9 ай бұрын
Thats so romantic
@saengding
8 ай бұрын
I guess you could say a true gentleman would "go out of his way" to talk to you. Badum tisssss
@megschuler8532
8 ай бұрын
Yeah man and woman can't be alone unless in motion.
@peregrinearc
9 ай бұрын
This is so sweet.
@lavanya1910
9 ай бұрын
Do we have a option of turning back and never meeting😅
@adibamamadolimova5302
8 ай бұрын
They should still do this now
@darshamuralidharan4694
9 ай бұрын
In those times men also walked behind women up and down a staircase "in case" she falls. No thanks i'd rather be in a time period where im not thought to be too incompetent to even climb stairs on my own by society. Imaging a time when standing on the sidewalk and talking to a man being scandalous🙄
@dualkitsune3813
9 ай бұрын
The stairs is not about incompetence. Those dresses had very long hems and were quite voluminous until around regency Era. Steps were actually quite steep and often shallow in those old buildings....aka: a tripping hazard. And it is possible to think some parts of a thing are good without wanting the whole thing. So yeah, some of the manners were juice and the fashion was beautiful, but I don't want the rest. I don't even want the fashion outside of the Met Gala or award ceremonies.
@Aurriel
9 ай бұрын
Honestly I do trip a lot when walking the stairs. So I always feel safer when someone is around, who can help me.
@cmm5542
9 ай бұрын
It's not about incompetence; it's about physics. A woman in a long dress is more likely to trip than a man in trousers. And if the larger man falls, a woman will not be able to stop him; they will both fall down and be injured. If the slighter lady falls, a man should be able to brace himself to stop her fall. There's nothing offensive about the basic biological facts of men having sturdier frames than we do; it's not society who invented that but nature. I despair frequently over our current society's lack of scientific understanding and its practical application in daily life! 🙄
@cmm5542
9 ай бұрын
Also, this video is about men and women talking to each other on the street? Nothing 'scandalous' about standing and talking, just rude to people who needed to pass and to the lady who needed to get to where she was headed! So you walked and talked. How on earth are you getting the idea talking on the sidewalk was thought 'scandalous' when it's the same male-female interaction regardless of whether you're standing or walking? The walking on was just about thinking of others, not some avoidance of scandal for the two already conversing!
@nancygorham5908
8 ай бұрын
We've lost all of the nice ways of ladies and gentlemen!!
@bumblehoney7206
9 ай бұрын
It sounds silly or strange but it's kind of romantic, a casual way of saying-without-speaking "I will meet you where you are", considerate towards them while the gentleman humbles himself to make the lady a priority.
@CJ-uo5cl
8 ай бұрын
I'm a true gentleman.
@bria1648
8 ай бұрын
no but like, I wish more men would do that, cause it's like I need to catch my ride and I want to talk to you and that would fix the problem
@DeadBore
8 ай бұрын
Istg if I see people like “men were so much better back then 😭😭” it’s not like you could tell him to fuck off, you might not even like him like that but it’s not your choice
@victoriaolson8985
9 ай бұрын
A real middle class lady would not be walking on the street alone.
@cmm5542
9 ай бұрын
A REGENCY young lady in a village would walk down the street alone. Not in a city like London, no. But Emma could walk to visit the Bates' or go shopping in her own little village without raising any eyebrows; even in London walking alone through your own neighbourhood to call on a friend would have been totally different from going alone to another district!
@BadWoIfRose
8 ай бұрын
WoW ghosted now and then hahaha
@tracimetcalf3374
8 ай бұрын
People must have had a hell of a lot more time in the Victorian era
@CynDiaz
8 ай бұрын
As a gentleman should
@piretkivi3218
8 ай бұрын
A is also wrong. A lady cannot greet a gentleman first. Agatha Christie has an entire murder mystery based on that etiquette rule.
@samuellopez2912
9 ай бұрын
Alright so I'm gonna right that down
@daniverdusco9452
9 ай бұрын
Not in todays economy😂😂
@MysticaFaery
9 ай бұрын
❤
@sasskvetch8617
8 ай бұрын
Regency etiquette, not Victorian surely?
@rnp497
9 ай бұрын
Ellie it would be the pavement over her in England not sidewalk. sidewalk is so uncouth ie American
@EllieDashwood
9 ай бұрын
That’s interesting!
@toshiamiyumi2604
8 ай бұрын
How many victorian girls cried cause their crush did not drop what he's doing to escort you lol
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