I play with family members, my wife, my parents, and sometimes other family and their spouses. Simple answer is, anyone can die, no hard feelings, sometimes the dice just say so. Chances are they can get them back to life somehow anyway, not like there army dozens of ways to go about it depending on the settings.
@tbgold07
Ай бұрын
All new players have a little immunity to death, outside of clearly suicidal actions, at my table. Don’t think I have ever officially told them of it or when it was over. Almost all games I run have chance of death explained early
@ringthatbell9597
Ай бұрын
Ha I don’t have this problem… *cries
@jackielinde7568
Ай бұрын
In general, I think "Character Death" needs to be discussed in the Session Zero. And before all new players (both new to the table and new to role playing) are seated at the table, the GM should sit down with the new players and explain the world with the mechanics and rules. This includes, "Is death permanent? Can characters be brought back or are players expected to have another character ready to go? How does revival work?"
@A.Hanson
Ай бұрын
You take the player aside and say "Bro, I know she's your significant other but right now, when we're at the table, she has to be less 'significant' and more 'other'."
@bigsarge2085
Ай бұрын
My wife and I game together, I'm often the GM. I say no (unless they're new to roleplaying)!
@helixxharpell
Ай бұрын
Mine wasn't. Back in 90s my wife played a 2nd edition beastmaster and her character nearly died 3x. Took other party members to save her. 😂
@LetMeintheLibrary
Ай бұрын
My bf and i both DM, we each run our games once a week with friends and a lot of those friends are also dating irl! LOTS of characters have dropped and we've employed a wild number of resurrection shenanigans! But there's NEVER been a version where the DM "takes it easy" on someone-- everyone gets a fair shot at the game! I WILL say MY character in my bf's game has died a lot and frequently goes unconscious bc I'm a glass cannon but i love to progress the plot, knowing how that can be tough as a DM to propel your players forward! Sometimes, u gotta take one for the team 😅
@ianhaygreen9899
Ай бұрын
Me and my wife are in two games: one which I DM and the other with other friends. There are no exceptions to consequences of actions!
@lbeckett8141
Ай бұрын
Another great video. I began dnd with my son as the dm. At the table, tho, I wasn't mom, I was Damaris. I knew that, and the Party new that. The Party I had known since middle school! He (the gm) wasn't above reining me in when I threw a tantrum in game, either. Still playing, still loving it. Bottom line, irl identity is parked at the door before you sit down. 😊
@the6ofdiamonds
Ай бұрын
The only way I can do this is flat equal treatment. I don't care if it's my sibling's SO, my SO, or a mate's SO. Session 0 I ask a question: "Under what circumstances are you okay with your character dying? Boss fights only, full plot armor, as the dice fall, what?", the group reaches a consensus/compromise (even if that means players walk away), and that's the rule. If someone joins later, we do it again. I will enforce the rules of the game as equally as humanly possible. When I put my GM hat on, there's players, characters, and myself as the GM, and we're telling a story, and they're interacting with my worldspace. I expect players to be able to enter a similar headspace, and they should know this before sitting down.
@jierdareisa4313
Ай бұрын
I love ALL How to be a Great GM videos!!!! ❤
@AleaumeAnders
Ай бұрын
Equal rules for all players. If you have a far reaching plot armor for all chars, (or for those whose players wish so) then yes, of course that plot armor applies to the SO as well. If not, then no. It's dependend on the "group contract".
@sarahs4655
Ай бұрын
My husband's campaign finished, it's now my turn to GM. Same group, friends we've been playing with for years. I insta-deathed his character in the first session. I felt terrible, everyone else thinks it's hysterical.
@peterclose1545
Ай бұрын
A tricky situation. Couples can be hard and I have no answers for that. When I have had characters die, I ask them if they want to be brought back. I ask the others if they plan to bring them back. If both are yes; then I run a split group. The party goes on with the mission or whatever and I run a post death with the dead character. That PC learns about the soul plane, maybe meets a few spirits, maybe makes a deal with someone or however the improv goes. The others decide how to raise/reincarnate them, but they can help by making deals with being in the soul plane. The last dead 4th level PC got reincarnated, but for far cheaper than expected as he made a deal with a dead pixie to later bring her back. She taught him how to stay close to the prime material plane to make bringing him back easier. Then months later, when the cleric of the group was 5th level, they brought her back through a special ceremony using revive. She then pledged herself to his service for a year-and-a-day. Stating she doesn't do windows or floors and NO funny stuff. The group loved the new follower and it gave me a safety valve if fights got too tough for the group.
@Xinoflow
Ай бұрын
I DM for my wife and 2 daughters (9 and 15). Even though we play a very relaxed and lighthearted campaign they know death lurks just around the corner. A couple of times they've made horrible deathly mistakes in which I allowed the Inspiration Token to be used. Other times they come fairly close to dying but have either escaped or managed an heroic (and risky) hail Mary to overcome the challenge.
@DaleyKreations
Ай бұрын
Our DND group is two couples and one half of a long distance relationship (so sometimes it's 3 couples). I am currently DMing and my husband is a PC. Aside from him getting minor spoilers if he comes across me prepping something like tea stained paper or sees me buting sealing wax I don't treat him any different than the other PCs.
@thelorewright
Ай бұрын
My partner used to DM for 3.5 and has taught me a lot about making games challenging for my other players. I would say no, they're not immune to death, unless they're very new. Then that is a different campaign with low stakes.
@Marijnzor
Ай бұрын
At my tables this is an incredibly easy question: Everyone who doesn't want their character to die is exempt from character death. Whether or not they are anyone's significant other has nothing to do with it. I direct with the motto "severe consequences are not inflicted, they are offered". Or in other words: I don't kill your character, I give you the chance to do it yourself. I'm starting up a new campaign on Thursday where we cooperatively built our own ruleset, and there straight-up is nothing in the rulebook that tells you that your character dies. Your character dies when we all agree that they do, and it's just that simple. In my opinion, if a character death was poorly received then the director has committed one of the gravest failures in the book. You've upset your loved one, so take that lesson with humility.
@POTATO-pl8kt
4 күн бұрын
My 2 biggest tabletop rules; 1. No significant others 2. If you aren't playing you aren't in the room
@corkscrewfork
Ай бұрын
I trust my friends not to give special treatment to their SO if we're playing together. That said, I am extremely wary of them joining because all 3 of my previous groups disbanded after the DM and their SO broke up.
@LordReginaldMeowmont
Ай бұрын
I warn significant others ahead of time: your character gets no special treatment.
@GrumpyGrobbyGamer
Ай бұрын
Significant others should be just as vulnerable as any other character in the game. Others will resent plot armor if they do not also get the same privilege.
@blackmage471
Ай бұрын
Look no further than Critical Role for knowing how to deal with this. Matt and Marisha, and Travis and Laura, know to be professional at the table (and on camera). The game and the relationship are two completely separate matters. If you have to separate them to keep them from smooching or playing footsie under the table, then separate them. If they don't like that, show them the door.
@mazzyelf
Ай бұрын
I had to talk to my partner DM for treating my characters seriously worse off than everyone else's because he wanted to avoid the trope of giving me special treatment and I was like you have given everyone awesome items and you have killed all of my pets for just being there... All good now, just wish I could play along side him more.
@thatdmguy4512
Ай бұрын
As a gm who has 3 games with my wife in them i can say with 100% honesty and with no fear of reprisals that i do not protect my wife from any dangers... in game
@savannahbrewer6161
Ай бұрын
Please do an episode on GM significant others. When either I or my husband run a game, the other just ends up being "assistant gm" even if they are trying to just enjoy the game. For me i feel obligated to try and make the game fun for the others at the table and my character just becomes a glorified npc
@scottlurker991
Ай бұрын
My wife plays in just about everything I run, and we talked about fairness before she joined the table back when we were dating. She's still my favorite player, but she is as likely to die as anyone else.
@M.J.Larkin
Ай бұрын
Through lockdown I ran a game with my wife and a bunch of total noobs. From the outset I decided it was going to be a casual game with low threat - nobody was there for a hard core game. As Guy points out, that group would just not mix well with my grognards, so I forbid them from even looking at each other 😂 Maurice/Gottfried.
@ottokarl5427
Ай бұрын
S.o. should be treated as any other player. Don't give them special treatment, don't tell them stuff they don't need to know (story-wise). You as the GM should know your s.o. well enough to decide if you need to have a talk with them about that or if that is in their mindset. And while I'm not banning it, I'm always a bit on edge when it comes to romance between characters when the players are an item. Because if your characters don't have any synergy, common-interests or whatever and the only reason they get together is because you as the players decided beforehand that this needs to happen...yeah, not a great feeling. Then maybe just start the adventure as a couple already? As for new players and the entire "no-death"-thing: New players always get a bit of a safety net, especially if they are really "new" to the game. No reason to throw them into a dragon fight in their first session just because that is what is happening right now in the story. But besides that...yes, if the campaign is designed with death as a looming threat, then new players significant others are of course subject to that threat.
@Castheknotted
Ай бұрын
Perfect timing my players fiance just asked to join the table!
@olivier8c301
Ай бұрын
Why Goblin cannot flirt with Elf ? This is racism. And Disney wont appreciate.
@thrar
Ай бұрын
One of the rare videos here that i think is actually bad advice. Regardless of any SO dynamic going on, to me session 0 is about establishing group consensus, not about the GM telling everybody how it's going to be. If players in a group want to take death of the table for everyone then the GM should either work with that or accept that they're not the right GM for that group. Having a character die early and then telling the player that they need to go play with themselves making a new character while everyone else is having fun together sounds like a horrible experience too. It's not that hard to find an NPC to take over for a few hours so they can still have fun with everyone else!
@HowtobeaGreatGM
Ай бұрын
Semantics. EVERYONE at the table has equal say. If there is disagreement over how the game should work it should be resolved internally. If the group can't agree, then the group should split along the lines of agreement. No point in playing if anyone is unhappy. And whether the player wants to play an NPC or make their new character is up to them. Some players just sit and watch and cheer their living teammates.
@Vormav777
Ай бұрын
I don't understand why anyone would protect the character of their SO as the GM or player, maybe I'm autistic but it's a game, whyyyy?
@Apeiron242
Ай бұрын
#boycottWotC
@ogyrfiwargf
Ай бұрын
No singificant others at my table. They break up and the whole campaign goes to shit
@scottlurker991
Ай бұрын
I have one group where two players ended up dating and then marrying, and the other two are getting married in two months (they didn't meet at the table like the other couple). The only other player is my wife. I know it's an outlier, but it can work. I call that group "the couples' D&D group" now. 😅
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