Let me know what stood out to you from this video.
@nunchukGun
7 ай бұрын
Your shirt 👍
@Calico_ECJ
6 ай бұрын
Encouraging you to be the person you aspire to become 12:15
@somethingdifferent4u247
4 ай бұрын
Everything.
@yeonsollee6592
Ай бұрын
shout out to ladies who doesnt have best relationship with their dads and still learning to be gentle and loving
@peterhoatson
15 күн бұрын
This man says that's a beauifuful thing to hear
@Annv3
6 ай бұрын
I'm watching this as a woman to think about what I can improve about myself
@nammi895
2 ай бұрын
So what you learned ? I didn't learned a shit from this video, all banal points
@lyndseyfifield
2 жыл бұрын
It's so nice to hear this perspective instead of just the usual "red flags" to look out for! Sending this to my brother and other single guy friends who keep asking me to '"find them a wife" -- even some of my husband's friends who ask "do you have any single friends?" ..... it's really hard to know what to say because yes, I do - and yes, those women also want to be introduced to marriage-minded quality men, but they're really intentional about living their faith and while all of these men truly want to be husbands and fathers and start a family but they're not strong in their faith ... and I don't think anyone should compromise on that - would love a video on that!
@kenseisato1989
Жыл бұрын
Greaat to find a married influencer giving out advice
@amydavidson2049
3 ай бұрын
It's not fair to say that about having a great relationship with your dad.. not everyone's dad stuck around.. not everyone has good family behind them. It's not my fault I don't have a great relationship with my dad. My dad is a selfish man who put alcohol and drugs before his kids.
@musicianwren9248
3 ай бұрын
I totally hear you ... I grew up in a similar situation. I am working on my issues with men because like how this person pointed out I've spent decades hating men. I am working on unraveling those issues and developing trust that there are good men out there.
@amydavidson2049
Ай бұрын
@@musicianwren9248 I actually really like men.. probably too much.. I need to learn how to love myself and not rely on men and others in general for my validation and happiness 😕 so maybe it affected me in the opposite way to you..
@Supsup7777
2 жыл бұрын
The same could be said for green flags for a man. I like a man who builds others up!
@likearollingstone007
Жыл бұрын
Men are the target audience here honey. Sit in the back and listen.
@sbrooks904
Жыл бұрын
this is about us. why do y’all do this
@JC-gw3yo
5 ай бұрын
I was married to a beautiful wonderful woman for 40 years until she passed. You are spot on with your "green flags". Loyalty had to be my favorite attribute
@ab.0298
3 ай бұрын
Okay, so as a woman who has had a very difficult relationship with her father, im afraid that men are going to see your video and jump to the conclusion that any girl with daddy issues is not worth dating at all. I really hoped you would atleast mention that there are women willing to address their issues and are going to therapy etc. Rest are wonderful, but this one definitely, i would want you to speak on more, because the nature of a relationship with a parent is not exactly something that we can control. We can CHOOSE to manage its affects. Similiarly, i can't just ask a man on a date what his relationship is like with his mom, and if the answer turns out to be anything negative, write them off as low value men. Isn't that judgemental and presumptuous?
@vivi-tv1dk
9 күн бұрын
better be safe than sorry.
@TresWinn
Жыл бұрын
Great relationship with her Dad. This one is interesting for me cause I've been involved with two women who looked to have a great dynamic with their Dad but as time went on, it looked more and more like an enmeshed relationship that lacked boundaries and felt like at times, that I was a third wheel or secondary option for her.
@dwellner502
Жыл бұрын
That sounds very dysfunctional to me.
@fiction589
5 ай бұрын
This point really is problematic I think. As a woman, you can select your friends, but you cannot select your father. If you have had no luck with your dad, it is not your fault at all and does not say anything about your value as a woman! Also, like the experience you mentioned: what looks like a "great relationship" and great closeness from the outside, can in reality be enmeshed, toxic, abusive etc. !
@delahmuur2754
5 ай бұрын
@@fiction589 very true.. but good to learn that when a man asks me about how things were with my father I'd rather say great now... in order not to land in his bin. Like trash or better suicide right away, no more value I have for a man lol. BTW, what if his mother was sh****...? Should I ask that then?
@soeralecha
5 ай бұрын
@@fiction589i agree. It’s important to deal with the load of a not so god father. But otherwise it’s totally not the daughter’s fault if her father wasn’t good. Being responsible and taking care of your emotions is key
@scottkenyon3194
Жыл бұрын
The more of the videos I see on this channel, the more I think it would be good for women to watch all of these as well.
@sales_coach_ai
29 күн бұрын
I found this channel about a week ago, listening to our content every day and learning so much. I just realized the girl I’ve been spending a lot of time in yan and having a lot of difficulty with hates men. even though she sells on the first person, she loves and trust somethings happened where I could see how dark that side of her and I’ll easily be returned to me whenever I make a mistake. I have to slowly get emotion attached because this relationship is costing self-esteem.
@gregoryjanczak7013
4 ай бұрын
To me, the most significant Green-Flag is the last one, She encourages you to be a better version of yourself and doesn't try to "fix" or "train" you to be who she thinks you should be.
@sbrooks904
Жыл бұрын
most of these i was aware of but a few of these i flat out ignored and paid dearly for as time progressed. excellent list!
@donaldelfreth553
Жыл бұрын
Standards (or lack thereof): "Can I get this woman's attention, and, can I get laid". Funny to hear, but so true. And maybe this was the underlying cause of relationship failure in the last forty years. It certainly applies to myself.
@whatdoyoulivefor735
3 ай бұрын
Agree with all of it, and can confidently say I embody these green flags -- some innately and some after inner and outer work. Except my dad has been dead for a looooong time and chose not to have a healthy relationship with his family so.... coo.
@ladyofspa
Жыл бұрын
Very well done clear concise. Only feeling is not too be too focused on the Robust life but a happy person on their own. Positive. Dream passions are cool but being a joy to be around is far greater quality that will serve all well.
@ChiqueIndustries
6 ай бұрын
I’m engaged and I’m really glad I found your videos. Great place to check in with myself and prepare for a marriage with the input of a married KZitemr I resonate with.
@gabrielandronache3217
Ай бұрын
Brilliant!
@yaboiinard5391
Жыл бұрын
Subcribed solid content man!🎉
@migueld5227
2 ай бұрын
One of the most important traits in a woman is she can validate herself internally. If she needs external validation ( attention aka validation from others, validation from alcohol, drugs or other substances ) you will have nothing but pain and suffering.
@MKULTRA_Victim_
8 ай бұрын
Love the video! These lists are very concise and comprehensive. keep up the good work.
@samyish
2 жыл бұрын
Excellent points!
@ManTalks
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you!
@carenjohnson3174
13 күн бұрын
Feel like I need a glossy here. Quality ? High caliber ? Masculinity? Respect ? HIGH VALUE ? seems to me allot of room here for conformation bias and expecting the other to convince you who you are.
@NunYaBiz1313
5 ай бұрын
Shout out to all the women with green flags
@aalvarez305
Жыл бұрын
Fantastic list. Thank you.
@fiction589
5 ай бұрын
I am a woman who does not have a "great relationship" with her father. The reason is... probably my father. He only initiated contact after I turned 18 and in general, I am his only contact person now. He has no close friends or wife. So.... I wonder, what does this relationship really say about my value as a woman? 🤔🤔🤔
@seth_piano
4 ай бұрын
It just says you don't have this one particular green flag, and that's all :) It doesn't barricade you from the thousands of other positive traits you could have, especially those you have true control over. Having "daddy issues" (groan) is not the red flag we've been led to believe. If you've managed to make a good life for yourself in spite of a crappy or absent parent, that's a big green flag in and of itself!
@xXMUurTXx
8 ай бұрын
These are basically traits that define an adult... The basic motto for me is that you should be building yourself well both physically and mentally first and then the person that you share your life, your dreams with should be such an adult in character that she/he will appreciate those values and share theirs' with you.. And then that would actually be the way to building up a future together as a whole..
@aura7153
10 ай бұрын
Well it seems I'm green flag walking on earth 😂 Thanks for this video ☺️
@cathyzhang2769
Ай бұрын
I respect men only on condition that he respected me first.
@krulboon
7 ай бұрын
What do you mean with the term "high value woman"? On the face of it I really don't like it because it seems very judgmental or moralistic. I assume it consists basically of having certain traits that make for a healthy relationship as opposed to not having those traits or having less of them. But that doesn't make the women themselves any more or less valuable an sich. Could you clarify? Is it just a blanket statement that could also be phrased as "women who would actually make you happier in the long run"?
@jessiemayfield6749
3 ай бұрын
I like the video but he unironically used the word high value woman. It’s giving alpha bro
@californiadreamin5093
2 жыл бұрын
As a woman, I can tell you that men are not looking for high value and high caliber women. They want the ditzy aerobics instructor.
@danielcain1003
2 жыл бұрын
As a man I can tell you you're wrong. But because you can't find a man it must be our fault. The men I know that look for that kind of woman aren't exactly the sharpest tools in the shed themselves.
@californiadreamin5093
2 жыл бұрын
@@danielcain1003 Men say they want intelligent and independent women, but I’ve found men go for the dumb bimbos. They’re intimidated by successful women. Look at all the successful and powerful men, do they choose an equal? No. They choose a plastic surgery laden trophy wife. Every date I’ve gone out on, men talk all about themselves and never ask anything about me. They try to impress me with their Porsches, Rolex watches, etc. I don’t care. I can buy my own. I want a quality man who is smart, funny, honest, loving and caring. I don’t care what you drive, or what you have on your wrist. I care about what’s in your heart.
@RooKangaRoo
2 жыл бұрын
As a man, I can tell you that your perspective isn’t as complete as you think it is.
@californiadreamin5093
2 жыл бұрын
@@RooKangaRoo Have you ever been out there dating men? Unless you’re gay, the answer is no. I have, and I can tell you that men are not looking for quality women. They want to be smarter and more successful. They are intimidated by a successful woman. All they want is a tall skinny dumb blonde to hang off their arm for their ego.
@aeganratheesh
Жыл бұрын
@californiadreamin your username tells a lot... Maybe try outside your ethnicity?
@keerthan9340
7 ай бұрын
I have a question.. like what if her parents are divorced and she lives with her mother ? Does 2nd point be included for this too ?
@KillaBean416
Жыл бұрын
My lady has alot of green flags. But lacks any interests… just reality tv tbh it pisses me off
@ladyofspa
Жыл бұрын
Like your shirt. Where's it from?
@Stitch308-s3x
3 ай бұрын
What if she had all of these but is a single mom of three. 😅 I started seeing her and fell in love thinking it wasn't a big deal. Now I'm not sure. I'm 39 and have no kids.
@adrianowallin
7 ай бұрын
Hmm, you might wanna watch a video on how to look for a better shirt :D
@MichaelVance-el5mz
Ай бұрын
This whole high value saying is gone TOO FAR!! ITS OVERUSED
@mintpepper6690
6 күн бұрын
3:20 Ouch 😵
@jillmichon4022
3 ай бұрын
Definitely can’t judge a woman based on her relationship with her Dad. Some Dads dont give their daughters the opportunity to have a good relationship with their Dad. I didn’t have a good one but I respect men!
@abrahamcordova3796
5 ай бұрын
1. Women respect and appreciate men and their masculinity. 2. She has a great relationship with her father. 3. She has solid values. And they are somewhat close to yours. 4. She has her own hobbies and her own interest. 5. She's got high-quality female friends. 6. She talks respectfully about her peers and friends. 7. She takes resposibilities for 11:45 11:47 11:49 her actions. 8. She treats you with respect and communicates your value. 9. She encourages to be better as a ( man, father, boyfriend, friend, profession) [later in the relationship]
@melissasmuse
9 ай бұрын
I love the masculine. I love what men have to offer. However I do not have an appreciation for my abusive narcissistic father. I do understand it’s good to look for a woman who has a healthy relationship with her father but it shouldn’t be a deal breaker. Having strong boundaries to that kind of relationship is the “green flag”. Especially if she conscious of how it’s affected her and made an effort to heal. She’s “closely connected to family” this list does not give credit to those who have healed from toxic family situations and set boundaries.
@NoNameWillBeGiven778
8 ай бұрын
Shutup dude
@Iamam313
8 ай бұрын
Exactly, I think there's probably less than 10% of women out there who actually had a good father/daughter relationship so by putting that as a condition (one she had literally no power over at any point) they are just making sure they will probably never find "the one":)) which may be better actually, singlehood isn't that bad
@MKULTRA_Victim_
8 ай бұрын
I have found that the vast majority of people who come from toxic family situations are not in your shoes. They have not healed, and are not doing the work. That is why me and many other men will continue to avoid all women coming from situations like that.
@Iamam313
8 ай бұрын
you can't heal when men keep taking advantage of you, that's one of the main reasons I just chose to stop trying dating, it's draining and toxic and I attract only fucked up selfish men@@MKULTRA_Victim_
@NoNameWillBeGiven778
7 ай бұрын
@@MKULTRA_Victim_ sap
@heatherbug265
20 күн бұрын
The guy I'm dating was going to help neighbors cut a tree down. He was loading all kinds of ropes and chains and chainsaws in his truck when I was there. I told him that I liked that he was helping other people, but I loved ❤ his courage and strength. He melted over that comment.
@brittanyworkman8356
6 ай бұрын
On the topic of a woman's father, what if she doesn't have a relationship with her father because he chose drugs over his own daughter?? So because a woman then doesn't have a relationship with her father that would then say she isn't worthy of a partner's love??
@tru_kru_bahbee24
5 ай бұрын
I agree. He was a little off on this one because this is many peoples reality. I think what he is trying to say is that is boils down to respect for the male gender.
@jdkayak7868
3 ай бұрын
I agree as a man, I think the biggest point is someone who respects other men. One thing I had to deal with with my fiance is her dad is alcoholic and her mom bosses her dad around, while she was showing that behavior to me I won't put up with it. So in that respect I would say don't treat men the way your mom treated them or pick them.
@brittanyworkman8356
2 ай бұрын
@@tru_kru_bahbee24 I do agree, he should add that to the video as he pretty much is saying it's a red flag if they don't have a good relationship. Some people don't get the opportunity to have a relationship at all with a parent because of their own choices. I respect men who respect me. If they don't respect me I will respectfully walk away without a word.
@brittanyworkman8356
2 ай бұрын
@@jdkayak7868 Sounds like she needs to do some healing work. Hopefully, she works through it!
@amyaubuchon2199
Ай бұрын
Thank you! I am dating an avoidant and this actually helps me know how to best support him and make him feel safe and seen.
@Himmiefan
23 күн бұрын
Just remember why many women dislike men, and look at how badly women have been treated all throughout history. Be the good guy who shows a woman that masculinity respects femininity and uplifts and genuinely likes women (not just in a sexual way) and does not put women down. As for the father part, well, many people have had fathers that are not so great, so don't hold it against a woman if she doesn't have a great relationship with her father.
@VXen76
Жыл бұрын
I like what you have to say. I feel like I'm learning. Thank you. I just want to say that some of us didn't have fathers that stuck around. That doesn't mean that we can't appreciate the masculine. I can and do you see the value in having man in my life. That being said I'm also an independent woman because that's the way my life is turned out. I made some bad choices in the past in men and so I'm doing it on my own. I guess you said that women want men that are high earners. That doesn't seem really that important to me. However I don't want to have to carry someone. As a single mother I'm already caring for a family on my own financially for the most part. There are things that men can do for me that I cannot do for myself. However those things have very little to do with physical sustenance. Sometimes we're forced to be independent women either by circumstance or own choices or both. I think a woman who has done the work, in other words is emotionally intelligent recognizes that masculine energy compliments feminine energy. This idea that is in opposition to feminine energy is toxic masculinity. I love and appreciate gentle protection. I like to feel vulnerable and small in my man's arms. I think nice guys deserve a chance. I think short guys deserve a chance. However that being said I'm a chubby woman and I seem to attract a lot of players always have even when I was thin. So I've decided to take a break from dating and now I'm on KZitem looking for videos. I need to do some growing and work on myself. Not just physically because no matter how little I eat I'm always going to be thick, but also emotionally, because the reality is I'm calling the type of men to me and I need to figure out why. It's either full on commitment right away which scares me or guys that just want to get laid. I have higher standards than that. Stuck between a rock and a hard place. Your videos are much appreciated thank you
@melissasmuse
9 ай бұрын
Well said!
@Iamam313
8 ай бұрын
you might have a hormonal imbalance or some other illness that causes the weightloss problems, I recommend you look into the carnivore diet, I'm the same and that's helped me a lot. Good luck
@supremereader7614
Ай бұрын
Likes men and masculinity
@LouChakao
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this video, as a man there were things that i wasn't looking for before, but now i'm surely going to be more aware of those things
@linaxxbina
4 ай бұрын
What if her Dad chose to not be in her life though
@adibfaisal2607
27 күн бұрын
Nice shirt brother
@ninc2518
3 ай бұрын
Guys this is the kind of men woman want to marry. Masculine, calm, wise, clean. You can follow Andrew Tate or others, but this is a better example. May God bless him and his wife.
@RupertMcGruber
9 ай бұрын
Fantastic points, thank you! Last one especially hits close to the heart! ❤
@flake8382
2 ай бұрын
Positive relationships with men is really important. If the family has a history of divorce, run.
@rusl12
7 ай бұрын
Nice vid, but I have to say I really despise the term ‘high value woman’ or person. Let’s not over financialise relationships, even if just in terms of vocab. It also makes you sound like the red pill and pink pill crowds
@somethingdifferent4u247
4 ай бұрын
Very interesting, useful and informative video Sir👍😊💯
@bahpapajarmjackson
8 ай бұрын
Only issue with her having a great relationship with her dad is you might not measure up to her views of her dad. I have had this issue and I am a decent guy. She wanted a copy of her dad.
@Iamam313
8 ай бұрын
which is why that particular point is moot in most cases. Less than 10% of women probably have good relationships with their fathers in the world so to put that as a must have is a bit ridiculous and only serves to shrink the dating pool to nothing...not to mention it's not her fault she had a shitty dad :)) why the fuck would you hold anyone accountable for something they had literally no hand in?
@delahmuur2754
5 ай бұрын
@@Iamam313 yeah the true gem can only be found in a shrunk dating pool, so let's be picky to the utmost.... and pretty she's got to be, sexy, erotic, rich. Oh young, I forgot.
@valterek
3 ай бұрын
Great video
@seancallahan7426
2 жыл бұрын
She has a good relationship with her grandparents and grandpa especially but not the best with her dad. How do you feel about this?
@ManTalks
2 жыл бұрын
You bet, that’s great. The main thing is that she either has a solid relationship with a male figure / care taker in her life, or can speak to the work she’s done to heal and work through the pain of not having healthy men in her life.
@delahmuur2754
5 ай бұрын
@@ManTalks that sounds better lol
@julienaklei8018
8 ай бұрын
I feel like this could sort of be summed up by saying to date a woman with a developed masculine side.... I get how that could be sensible although it is sort of all about how she will make your life smooth & easy. Not necessarily about what her innate value is & what transformative properties she can bring.
@MegaGraceiscool
6 ай бұрын
What about having a clear understanding of values, having good friends, and having hobbies is masculine?
@yougotgroove
10 ай бұрын
What if shes has male friends, she"s her 50s, never married, and she has ex partners as friends
@jennyw9656
3 ай бұрын
I absolutely agree with everything he said in this video. However, before you put a standard on someone else, you better have that standard for yourself first. You can’t be overweight and think you deserve someone who takes care of their health. You can’t be sleeping with multiple women and think you deserve someone with self respect and self control. It’s important you find a woman who doesn’t hate men for sure, and saying these things are important to you is 100% ok to say, but I heard this guy refer to women as chasing “pussy” 😕 which is a clear indication that he doesn’t value or respect women as people, but sees them as objects. Therefore, I would never date this guy, but I’m sure the response is “you hate men”… no, I don’t want a man who doesn’t value women, but that has nothing to do with men who actually do. And trust me, I had a man who I was drinking with stop going to far because he “didn’t want me to feel used” translated to “you are a person of value not an object”. I never forgot that guy. That was a good man, but obviously a lot of you boys wouldn’t be that strong or empathetic, so you don’t get to be on the same level as him. That was called emotional intelligence, he was self aware and able to control his impulses and see people as people.
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