Hi A-Listers! In this girl chat I'm covering why I don't date broke, stingy, or cheap men and why you shouldn't either! Thank you so, so much for watching!! How do you feel about dating broke, stingy, or cheap men -- comment below and let's chat!
@TheEyesisHazel
3 жыл бұрын
Never personally encountered this, I’ve been with the same man since I was 16, and I’ve always been treated like a Queen but what I will say is when we first started dating he wouldn’t buy me anything he said he needed to know I was there for him and not what he could give me, but girl I loved him and I waited and all I can say is it was the right move for me, I am now 53 and I’m with this same man 2 grown children one grand and whatever I ask for is mine…so sometimes you have to see whether this person has something else if he’s giving arrogance or has another trait you feel will partner his cheapness and broke stingy ways then, run, but if he has something you know you can work with give him a chance . He buys my cars and he bought me a house and he buys my expensive bags and jewelry and takes me on trips or treats me to trips with my girls and this all came from envisioning what kind of man he could be(does this make sense?). Good luck sis in your journey for the right one ☺️☺️☺️
@jakeowens187
3 жыл бұрын
I respect all this and as a faithful and loyal a listener for 2 years or so and as a Sagittarius man know we not all the same cause of our sign lol #yourgorgeousasf❤️
@rhodabaga382
3 жыл бұрын
I just don't believe in it😕How is there romance without finance?
@TheEyesisHazel
3 жыл бұрын
@Angellong he was 19 haha!!!! And he felt like he could do a lot, lollll! What he saw me as was a keeper and he wanted to see how I was movin. You know when you young her I’m am a cutie with hazel eyes and he thought I was running around pimpin which I was not but he was thinking longer term than me at that time but it turns out he was a keeper too. Now I’m not saying everyone will encounter this experience girl because it was a hella experience and we went through a lot but we weathered the storm and he turned out to be a provider but girl I was ready to do as you in the beginning because I’m like yo this dude is chheeaaappp😂😂
@HopefullyErin
3 жыл бұрын
I totally understand all of what you’re saying. This is one reason why I don’t let people close too fast because the true colors aren’t shown initially.
@cwambition
3 жыл бұрын
“We are taught to hate jobs that pay our bills but love men who can’t!” You said a word!
@YourLocalPaintshop
3 жыл бұрын
This is the comment I was looking for! She was on the money with this one!
@GMAHIPPO101
3 жыл бұрын
🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
@Loveeeeeeeeee11
2 жыл бұрын
!!!!!!!!!!!!
@The.ellebelle
3 жыл бұрын
And another note: can we cancel the concept that rich men will only try to manipulate you, abuse you, control you, and cheat on you? Broke men do all of that too. It’s not a money thing, it’s a character thing. There are men who spoil you with love, gifts, experiences, financial support etc because that is how they are built. You do not have to choose.
@TheTiffanyBrand
3 жыл бұрын
This is the comment!
@jaycee8181
3 жыл бұрын
Usually when men are stingy with their money, they’re also stingy with their time and emotions 😩 I agree with you 100%…
@ReynnaIyo
3 жыл бұрын
Facts!!
@ReynnaIyo
3 жыл бұрын
Scarcity mindset at it’s finest
@KathrynBedell
3 жыл бұрын
I have definitely been in the situation of celebrating an accomplishment, my birthday, etc., and the man couldn't contribute to the celebration. I now know that if I was truly a priority to this person, they would have made a way to contribute, period. I cringe looking back at those moments, but those instances taught me what I will/won't tolerate going forward. Great video per usual, Ashley 💗
@keilabazile2016
3 жыл бұрын
Yes to these talks , I love. My thing with men is like why aren’t you dating people on the same level as you . If you like low-maintenance women then why are you pursuing a high -maintenance woman and expecting her to change her standards … the math really don’t be mathing chile
@LadyDiarra
3 жыл бұрын
Girl yes 👏🏿👏🏿
@msroe3506
3 жыл бұрын
Please make it make sense
@Hello-qf3fd
3 жыл бұрын
Either because they would rather have the high maintenance woman. Orrrrrr they are the type who thinks every type of woman should be available to them so they don't like the fact that there exists women who they couldn't have access to.
@JoselynakaMissIDK
3 жыл бұрын
I can say in my last relationship, I asked for nothing financially and got everything plus more than what I desired. He was very generous just mentally and emotionally all over the place. If it’s not one thing, it’s another. I need it all.
@KataviaDestiny
3 жыл бұрын
Same sis….spoiled me with bags and fancy dates but tore me apart mentally and emotionally 🥴🤦🏾♀️
@TinyGlamz
2 жыл бұрын
@@KataviaDestiny omg same
@SchnellRobinson
3 жыл бұрын
If a man isnt able to maintain the standard of living a woman has and improve it then he doesn't deserve her. Period
@yannasu8784
3 жыл бұрын
The fraternity men “joke” is actually valid. It’s some men out here that will make being in a frat their entire personality. Sir, you’re 30. Please.
@theprototype_
3 жыл бұрын
Okay! Graduated 10 years ago, but conversation & social media bio always happens to reference the frat. It’s giving Peter Pan syndrome
@yannasu8784
3 жыл бұрын
@@theprototype_ LISTEN. I’m in a sorority myself. I graduated two years ago and my letters aren’t in any of my social media bios 😂 give it up
@watchyamouth22
3 жыл бұрын
I always found them to be weird af and overly hyper sexual like ewww
@PrettyYellaTV
3 жыл бұрын
Right
@delanaandrea1896
3 жыл бұрын
I’m married and 50/50 ain’t never and will never be an option! I absolutely loved this video! This is the side I love to see in your content…raw & real…great video💗💗💗
@yannasu8784
3 жыл бұрын
I was told a long time ago, “you have not because you ask not” I will ALWAYS have my own money but if I KNOW you got money, imma ask you for yours and keep mine 🤷🏽♀️ it’s been working for this long
@ReynnaIyo
3 жыл бұрын
Question is, how do you ask? 😂 I don’t want to seem tacky, I know there’s a way to do it like dropping hints
@yannasu8784
3 жыл бұрын
@@ReynnaIyo I just say “you wanna buy this xyz for me?” Or “you wanna gimme some money?” If they don’t have it they’ll tell me they’ll send it when they do 🤷🏽♀️
@lwilliams418
3 жыл бұрын
My mama said closed mouths don’t get fed. I have definitely not asked for anything and got nothing🤣
@nenavanessa3553
3 жыл бұрын
If a man compliments you by calling you "independent"... 🚩🚩🚩
@superwomanme
3 жыл бұрын
Damn girl you dropping gems. I never realised that that was how my bum ass, cheap ass, lame ass , broke ass ex loved to refer to me. Been there done that. Never dating a cheap broke man again
@Sassybesos
3 жыл бұрын
Girl ! The hood ones say things like “oh you got it Big Money!” Lol even start Nick naming you something related to money. Im so sleep.
@JeanThigpen
2 жыл бұрын
You were on point with everything. Stay away from the broke, stingy and cheap man. They never have good intentions.
@k0k01
3 жыл бұрын
Keep your standards high ladies it’s a lot of people trying to trick us out of what we deserve!
@housewife181
3 жыл бұрын
Or men who pretend to have money…until it’s time to actually pay! Literally just left the mall and a man was carrying what was obviously an OLD LV shopping bag trolling for women! Sir… who are you trying to fool?!
@XoBreeRo
3 жыл бұрын
Lmao really??
@housewife181
3 жыл бұрын
@@XoBreeRo Girl, yes! He was doing laps! LOL
@Pearlfect3
3 жыл бұрын
@@housewife181 not laps!? 🤣🤣🤣🤣
@_arieee0
3 жыл бұрын
😂 that’s so embarrassing
@KeebeMillez
3 жыл бұрын
Lmaoo🗣 Sir, you are a weirdo 🥴
@deedotcom
3 жыл бұрын
“ They won’t post you on your birthday .. wouldn’t even post you if you died “ 😭🤧💀THAT PART !
@panamasfinest2458
3 жыл бұрын
When I asked for nothing, I ended up with literally nothing. And when asking for the bare minimum later it was an issue! Lol every situation isn’t the same tho. Just my experience
@tracieeeejoyce
3 жыл бұрын
This!
@kmonet7707
3 жыл бұрын
Girl chile!!! The bare minimum be the most for a lot of these men nowadays! It’s so sad. They wanna go half on this and that, but still want you to do wifey things. No, sir!
@TheTiffanyBrand
3 жыл бұрын
This was MY situation. And he would throw things back in my face during an argument. Eventually, the bare minimum was me asking him to call more and one day, we just weren’t talking at all. So that was the end. Some of these men are CHILDREN.
@Samone8428
3 жыл бұрын
Yesss, just say no to cheap/stingy men!!! Broke men could still be trying and have the motivation to succeed. If you are cheap, it doesn’t matter how much money they have, they will not give you shiii…my fiancé was broke 5 years ago, but he saw how I was moving, and now he gives me the world. We need more of these discussions.My son dad was fine, ambitious, degree, 1 kid at the time but chilleeee he was stingy to the CORE. My fiancé…no degree, a few kids, biggest heart ever. People would say what you see in him. Now they see and know. First date was a helicopter ride and I knew he spent his last and we’ve been rocking ever since.
@LauryneAmanda
3 жыл бұрын
Period queen. If he’s stingy while you’re dating it will only get worse as the relationship progresses.
@sophisticatedmm3632
3 жыл бұрын
Yup bow out quickly
@julsss1509
3 жыл бұрын
I thought I was the only one who thought audacity was on sale
@Rieka.Chanel
3 жыл бұрын
Whew yes sis! Don’t give a F what he got if he ain’t spending it 💁🏽♀️ Like yes I want a financially responsible man but that’s not the same as having a scarcity mindset. We live an abundant life over here!
@SpeshialKae
3 жыл бұрын
I just feel like inviting a woman to your house for a first date is not only lazy, it shows you are careless and irresponsible. Like you said, I could rob you! I would never feel safe with a man who makes reckless decisions like that.
@nneoma9240
3 жыл бұрын
This video definitely hit a soft spot. My ex was broke but wasn’t cheap or stingy and would treat me when he was up but that was not often. I couldn’t realistically see a future with him because we weren’t on the same financial level and I got tired of feeling like I’m settling.
@ashlicandy
3 жыл бұрын
You must know my bd!! 😂😂😂😂
@PettyLabelle
3 жыл бұрын
How did you break it off …. I don’t want to seem like a bitch ?
@chinezeslife
3 жыл бұрын
@@PettyLabelle need to hear this too
@krislatoya7556
3 жыл бұрын
Girl, yours treated you when you were up. Mine got up and started acting differently. Led me to the conclusion: *Money unlocks characters jailed by poverty* . The person he was broke, was not the person he continued to be. I walked away.
@PettyLabelle
3 жыл бұрын
@@krislatoya7556 damn that’s a POV I never considered . I love open spaces like this that way we can put each other on .
@LordLex
3 жыл бұрын
Man and let’s be real if you go out to eat by yourself or take a trip with friends a lot of the times your food and drinks end up being covered by some generous man 😂😂😂
@AshleyDevonna
3 жыл бұрын
I thought about it but babes YOU said it 😂😂😂😂😂
@Pearlfect3
3 жыл бұрын
Sis, EVERY table that needed to be shook was SHOOKETH!! love it!!
@veronicaonyejiaka2886
3 жыл бұрын
I asked for nothing.......and got nothing..... any who! love this kind of content Ashley!
@sorennastewart
3 жыл бұрын
YES. It definitely feels like a chore or just another thing to do as the female who is the bread winner in the relationship. Super exhausting. Glad I’m not in this situation anymore. I was always feeling like I was too hard in the relationship and couldn’t be submissive at all
@Naswillshine
3 жыл бұрын
Relationship goal post bit is tooooooo true ! I mustered up the confidence to just ask “where is this going ?” And heard , “you want a pre commitment promise? If I didn’t want you around you wouldn’t be. “ Sir it’s been a year and some change . I was up outta there shortly after. It was my fault for lingering but the words never add up . They say one thing and do the other in all ways. Men really keep you around as a placeholder or a hobby . Never again God willing.
@NurturingNatasha
3 жыл бұрын
Ashleyyyyy 😭😂 it’s the dry chicken Alfredo and reused wine example for me but I lovedddd this video from you. Your chit chat GRWM’s always give me life ❤️
@jasminetaylor6890
3 жыл бұрын
“We are taught to hate jobs that pay our bills, but love men that can’t” WHEW 😭😭😭
@tamahhrahh
3 жыл бұрын
"They don't post you on your birthday they wouldn't post you if you died"😭😭😩
@j.lauren6282
3 жыл бұрын
“It’s frustrating that we are taught to hate the jobs that pay our bills but love men that can’t/won’t.” A mf word! 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
@misssparkles15
3 жыл бұрын
It’s the opposite for me, guys always try to pay for everything but im so used to carrying my own weight. Learning to just receive and accept it, but it feels weird. However... after hearing how cringe some of these situations are this was all the motivation i needed to accept my blessings 😭😭😭
@rainerwells1573
3 жыл бұрын
Lord I think you popped out of my head this was the last 4yrs of my life, got honest with myself . Closed mouths never get fed being from a “country town” holding your man down is law but when you know better you do better and there are men out here where you can’t possible seem to ask for too much. Once you run into a man with a wealth mindset whether he is making 60k or 260k is he generous, does he appreciate the peace you bring him ? I’m happy that I went through it and I will never dim my light again! Everrrr honestly that’s the MOST TOXIC thing I’ve ever done to myself
@nafeebanks
3 жыл бұрын
it’s the title for me lol. clicked right away 😭
@QueenOyinkan
3 жыл бұрын
The only men that joke about you having money are cheap men. Real men don't care about a woman's money cuz he makes sure everything is taken care of. Okay I've never thought of getting glasses that aren't sunnies but I must purchase this for these reasons 1. Im on the computer for hours daily & dont wanna mess up my eyes 2. Its super affordable! $7 & $10 is a steal!
@MENA_ADUBEA
3 жыл бұрын
Not - “dry rendition of chicken Alfredo that I THINK I mastered during quarantine!” Ashley. Please. Stop. 🤣🤣🤣
@AshleyDevonna
3 жыл бұрын
That one was very personal I will admit 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
@CorshaLishell
3 жыл бұрын
😂😂😂 that came from her throak ✍🏽
@EricaSymone
3 жыл бұрын
I LOVED this video... I have actually never had a man ask me to go half or go dutch on a date, ever! But I think its so crazy that a lot of women have had that happen to them. Like, no sir if you can't afford to take us BOTH out then I'm not the woman for you lol ... And when I get married 50/50 isn't an option for me. I'll pay the cable bill lmao
@Lillykait
3 жыл бұрын
Lmfaooooooooooo ok! I'll make sure we don't run out of tissue.
@EricaSymone
3 жыл бұрын
@@Lillykait lmao nah frfr
@beautybybossy3202
3 жыл бұрын
😂😂 same sis... SAME!!!
@TheTashaNichole
3 жыл бұрын
😂😂😂
@TheBrookeAshley
3 жыл бұрын
Say that again please!! 👏🏾😂
@PalestinianBaby
3 жыл бұрын
IDK if it was just me, but I could barely hear you, Ashley. not sure if your mic was acting up, but I had to turn up my volume almost all the way up. it sounded like you were whispering. but besides that, LOVED this video.. probably my fave of yours since the new year. On the last date I went on, the guy got tipsy and spilled allllllll the tea. he basically said that he needed to start keeping up with his tabs if he's going to keep going out with me. this threw me ALL the way off because he never showed any issues before. HE was the one always inviting ME to go out "let me take you to dinner" "let me treat you to a couple drinks". what's really crazy is that he even PAID FOR MY MEAL when I met up with my best friend and their friends... I didn't even know him at the time and barely spoke to him that night (I found that odd but sweet at the same time). I'm the type of person to grab the ticket if need be. I like showing that I care. I like balance in a relationship. I don't need a man to treat me out every time, but honestly... this was so embarrassing. I didn't know what to think. if you wanted me to pay, you could have just said so. anyways, after he voiced his concerns about the money issue DURING our date, I embarrassed him at the bar and told him I can pay for my ish and all eyes were on me. yep, I was pissed. he refused for me to pay for OUR meal and drinks because he felt bad and ended up signing the bill. after that night, he kept his distance and so did i. this guy had MONEY. it's not like he was broke, but yet... wanted to act like it??? he was always traveling for work and making business moves, buying expensive shit..building his car collection, and owned two homes... yet it was an issue spending money on a lousy few dinners?? (always went to a bar.. nothing fancy over here). I'm not by any means a golddigger.. and NEVER will be one. I can take care of myself... I have been for so long now. I've never really been spoiled either, maybe a few gifts here and there, but nothing extravagant and I'm okay with that. I don't expect anything from any man these days. I just want them to be upfront and real from the start... whether he's stingy as fuck or cheap or heck, BOTH. smh. Love you, Ashley.
@nneoma9240
3 жыл бұрын
This guy proposed we meet for the first time at a dog park at 8pm and I gladly declined.
@davinasway
3 жыл бұрын
As you should 💯🤍
@TheTashaNichole
3 жыл бұрын
Girl what??? 😂😂 smh
@KadrinaA
3 жыл бұрын
He tried it 💀
@awalker5098
3 жыл бұрын
I learned early on to set my expectations in a relationship up front and therefore hopefully avoid these pitfalls. Every guy I've every dated including my husband knew that I had a successful career but a man leads and provides (i.e. pay for dinner, trips, and household bills).
@tatiyanaRDH
3 жыл бұрын
Paid for my dinner for my 33rd birthday. My friends came out and all . The bill came … and I paid for myself and boyfriend. Needless to say I’m not with him anymore lol
@Plamedie4651
3 жыл бұрын
Girlll😅🤣🤣
@rosebeauty5446
2 жыл бұрын
@@LolaSemone he should at the bare minimum saved for his GIRLFRIEND'S birthday dinner. They're in their 30s
@TheEyesisHazel
3 жыл бұрын
Why I’m mad you got all these glasses and I don’t hannone 😫😫😫 girl it’s giving Harvard educated…..every last pair is beautiful Sis and so are you! Definitely getting my pretty self some too😂😂😂 thank you for the hook up♥️
@xcellla
2 жыл бұрын
Omg! I’m 21 and this is so needed. My spirit tells me all the time to just give up on men with money… because they’re manipulative. But I feel more comfortable being with a broke manipulative… it’s backwards.
@mygorjesslife5505
3 жыл бұрын
Your background set up is definitely giving ❤️🔥
@cutiegyal7
3 жыл бұрын
Gyal, I agree with you 100%!! Thank you for reminding us that we (women) are more than deserving to really operate in our divine feminine energy. Light & Love
@LifeOfKells
3 жыл бұрын
Ashley just comes on these youtube streets spitting ALL THE FACTS!!😭 “why are we taught to hate jobs that pay our bills, but to love men that won’t” SHEEESHHH Come on with the word!!!!! This is why I LIVE for your content fr. Thank you for always giving us the REAL real.
@SheTheOne.1
3 жыл бұрын
That Aries ♈️ energy is alway on point! When we check out, it’s done done ✅ looking back is a blurry. It’s like Who?
@phemelomamosebo6323
3 жыл бұрын
Sis please make a pt 2 about how you'll know he really wants you and his serious and when to actually speak up about your needs
@laporshacampbell7076
3 жыл бұрын
I’m married and refuse to EVER do 50/50 AGAIN!! The math was NEVER mathin! 50/50, led to being manipulated into a 85/15 relationship. And trust me ladies… He WILL resent you in the long run for this. Let a man be a man and take care of you. This lesson has cost me my peace, health, time, and money. Please listen to our girl Ashley. Do NOT make the same mistake as me. I’m blessed I’m still young enough, fly enough, have the resources, and NEVER had kids with this man. Stay sucker free ladies! 😘💕
@nikkisosedity5500
3 жыл бұрын
Everything about this was spot on...whew we could talk for hours about this. Sometimes I am truly amazed at the type of men who approach me because I'm such a girl girl, a lady, high maintenance, successful...and I do so only because it makes me feel good to treat myself because I deserve it and look good because looking good is an example of self love. The audacity of some men who question how much we spend on maintenance, the very thing that attract them to us yet have an issue because why? If you're broke just say that...but yes Ash, I too have experienced these things and after my last relationship promised myself to never accept anything less than I deserve trying to be that ride or die...Chile, never again! These men will let you ride or die literally with only broken promises to show for it... anyways, good talk, love you Ash🖤
@linetteshardey
3 жыл бұрын
The volume on this video is really low, very hard for me to hear.overall great chat!
@TiaunaT
3 жыл бұрын
Thought it was just me. I was over here tryna blow on my speakers 😂😂
@monique_m1985
3 жыл бұрын
The title alone had me click super fast LOL😂👏🏾❤💯
@Born2bglamtv
3 жыл бұрын
well the “not asking and receiving everything” is bs becauseeeee.. I wasn’t asking for anything and only received what he wanted to give knowing that wasn’t enough for me but the new guy told me “if you don’t ask you won’t receive” so when I started asking he never had enough money 😂😂!! whewww so now I put a stipulation on it and that has saved me so much time and energy on wasteful men
@UniquelyVickie
3 жыл бұрын
The well is literally dry for men that can't or won't provide.
@Cable796
3 жыл бұрын
Do you think it's just our men or across the board and if it is just our men why do you think their like this? #soannoying
@UniquelyVickie
3 жыл бұрын
@@Cable796 I don't see any other groups of men complaining about providing and doing what men are called to do except BM. I think it's because of social conditioning and generational mindsets in the black community. For excellent insight watch Cynthia G KZitem channel.
@numerologicatarot3333
3 жыл бұрын
@ Chelly Boo, it’s just our males.
@Naswillshine
3 жыл бұрын
Yikes . The dating scene is trash. That’s what I gathered. What you said is all facts. Even made me think about certain ways I approach things. 😭 Lord make a way.
@michellewilliams7007
3 жыл бұрын
I use to be the girl that asked for nothing, and that's what I got nothing. I have also dated a man I never had to ask either, which taught me that if you have to ask for specific things (basic observable things that require funding), cut that mess off. The fact is if a man sees himself as a provider and acts upon it, you never have to ask.
@TinaBlaque
3 жыл бұрын
Cheap stingy men is the new pandemic. Especially in Dallas. Will NOT be my portion tho.
@sophisticatedmm3632
3 жыл бұрын
Chicago has the same problem as well
@_pitschool
3 жыл бұрын
"Hate jobs that pay our bills but, love men who can't," a whole word!!!
@KathyOdisse
3 жыл бұрын
“Think like a men” really helped me out by how to date with men’s. It’s not the Key to relationships or dating but kinda like a tip guide.
@brittanybonnett2008
3 жыл бұрын
Ashley, the girl chat was much needed. Thank you for sharing your wisdom and experiences to help us not to tolerate men with great potential that leads to disappointment. Can you do another girl chat about men that are actually stepping up to the plate without women having to ask for anything but also doing things for the men that shows our appreciation for them.
@jasminemorris367
3 жыл бұрын
"Come into your life and not do a damn thing for you." Whew!
@Pearlfect3
3 жыл бұрын
like sir, why are you here?? 😩
@terrytrammell7730
3 жыл бұрын
damn Ashley this was amazing
@prettygurlsrock14
3 жыл бұрын
You did that ash. I’m reflecting on life and you’ve definitely hit some key points. Go off
@yolandaahamilton
3 жыл бұрын
Seeking technical support, the audio was really low for me alsoooo how do I like this video more than once ❤❤❤😘
@AshleyDevonna
3 жыл бұрын
So sorry love! I edited the video with my headphones on so it was loud to me during the editing process! I'll turn the audio up going forward, thank you for letting me know! x
@yolandaahamilton
3 жыл бұрын
@@AshleyDevonna thank you, love this content!
@chauniquemartinez
3 жыл бұрын
My husband was super cheap when we were dating and then when we got married he purchased me a house Literally like 20 days after we got married. So depending on the man cheap might be ok. However I don’t pay the mortgage lol so I do not understand the 50 50. My husbands handles the bills and I save my checks and do whatever I need to.
@AOdum90
3 жыл бұрын
This topic is so on time! Literally a chapter that I just closed and I agree wholeheartedly. Thank you for being brave enough to address this!
@meelovebeauty
3 жыл бұрын
And then you end up on a boat 😂😂 that movie had me looking like “am I crazy that I agree with her”😂
@msroe3506
3 жыл бұрын
These grwm chit-chats be the absolute beeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeest Ashley you like my lil Sis..I love. Always will. Always. I mean no matter what!
@lifeaskat
3 жыл бұрын
Yasss Ashley! You told no lies. Definitely do more vids like this 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
@patriciasprings23
3 жыл бұрын
Girl WHAT?!!! Love all of the above! And can we just say thank you for not messing up the chit chat with a million ads?! Whew I literally had this conversation with my daughter over dinner today. Confirmation.
@Micahh6071
3 жыл бұрын
I’m hollering at the bit about the chicken Alfredo😭😭
@cwambition
3 жыл бұрын
From 35:52 - 36:08, I know you didn’t mention the movie but I have a feeling you were talking about the movie, Acrimony 😂 That movie had me so annoyed🙄😂
@chaneles.3861
3 жыл бұрын
Girlllllll I had to watch this video twice! Yes Ashley! Advice well given!
@jericasharae8881
3 жыл бұрын
Whew Ashley! Love love love this video! We need a part 2 talking about how these men will try to swindle their way into living in your place bc they don’t have they’re own.
@CierraMonei
3 жыл бұрын
You definitely dropped some gems!
@theprototype_
3 жыл бұрын
& yes, as much as we like to think we’ve evolved, society still places male value in their pocketbook. Men definitely internalize that societal expectation & move accordingly. So whenever a man says they don’t mind if their woman earns more, I automatically know they’re lying or looking for a sugar momma 🤣
@ciexjae
3 жыл бұрын
I ask for nothing & I GET NOTHING! Had to pay half for my birthday trip that was supposed to be my gift lol
@superwomanme
3 жыл бұрын
In this situation now.
@ciexjae
3 жыл бұрын
@@superwomanme girl it sucks!! I have a child with him so I don’t know how to leave 😭
@teeshastrio915
3 жыл бұрын
@@ciexjae sis me too 😩
@Aviao100
3 жыл бұрын
hahahaha this was funny. lesson learned
@joydonley5436
3 жыл бұрын
Facts,! Well said Queen! 👏 I'm 35 married working professional mom of two in a few weeks.. I worked to hard to be settling. I use to sound and stand on this. Time to re-evaluate my situation. Before it's too late. Also I'm new to your channel loving it. Playing catch up in my spare time. Keep representing Queen. 🙏❤🔥
@JaaShiify
3 жыл бұрын
Loving the new intro!
@deasiagolden1181
3 жыл бұрын
This intro Ashley 😍😍😍😍 please use this for now on
@jeraedublin6003
3 жыл бұрын
Loved this raw version of you Ashley! ❤️
@NaijaDoll1
3 жыл бұрын
"Dry rendition of chicken alfredo" lol🤣😂
@Toyae86
3 жыл бұрын
Got my popcorn! 🥰Love these chit chats Ashley!
@taymain2246
3 жыл бұрын
We need more videos like this! I love ittttt
@candyc4713
3 жыл бұрын
Closed mouths don’t get fed. I’m no beggar but I would look for the signs. The generous ones will usually reveal themselves out the gate. They are not the majority but they will certainly be clear.
@millionairesshoptress7307
3 жыл бұрын
Yessss to the advice. I love to see young black women, who have their heads on right. It’s the self with for me... Women aren’t safe, while dating broke men
@averyadams7198
3 жыл бұрын
I honestly think it just comes down to dating someone within or above your tax bracket, someone who possesses or understands receiving gifts as a love language and maybe even someone who already lives a similar luxurious lifestyle……. because not all men have the same values when it comes to money and relationships but that’s not to say they’re bad people per se - they genuinely may just operate differently and you may need to communicate your expectations or just find someone who’s more compatible. However, broke boy energy is never okay lol i.e. leeching off a woman, intentionally putting in low effort, etc. Nonetheless, love love love you and your channel Ashley 🥰🥰🥰
@Kindofasuperhero
3 жыл бұрын
Yea In my last relationship in the beginning I didn’t have to ask because he was doing it but he couldn’t keep up with the standards he maintained so I started asking for the previous energy and he said I was doing to much. It depends on the personality but those type of men are annoying. I gave and gave to him without issue and he got comfortable and stopped reciprocating it
@beatsdontstop305
3 жыл бұрын
Yes my last one I experienced the same too.
@theprototype_
3 жыл бұрын
I agree with so much of what you said! Men really need to date more intentionally, and not just follow the vibes all the time.
@elitewhite25
3 жыл бұрын
Whew!! Nothing but gems dropped throughout this video!!!
@The.ellebelle
3 жыл бұрын
Whew girl. So much to say on this. Nothing about the way I present myself says you can low ball me. It doesn’t say I’m the one you can just chill with and hang out at the house. Effort is a must. I only want to attract men who are used to the experiences I am. I dated the other way and was so resentful. The men I have dated that didn’t have their finances in order were insecure, needed ego stroking, wanted to be able to neglect the relationship to go get it AND need financial support. It’s not worth it for me. If you don’t have it, go get it and spin the block. Thankfully, my partner now is amazing.
@andreafaulknor7344
3 жыл бұрын
I love that you asked for your dad’s advice and I do too! My argument is that if my father would not approve or he said something is unacceptable then it’s unacceptable lol it’s not happening. Love the content of this video and the glasses are fire! Keep it up!
@ambercharmayne
3 жыл бұрын
I literally tell dudes if they want me to stay waxxed (tmi) then they can pay 4 it. I'm not going thru pain and dishing out money to satisfy them. They should pay 4 their satisfaction. Not me.
@alwaysjanel
3 жыл бұрын
Not the Chicken Alfredo sis….😩😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
@BeautefulSha
3 жыл бұрын
I’ve definitely been in situations where I’ve asked for nothing at all and I received exactly that. I just asked my sister how she gets guys to do certain things and she said she opens her mouth and asks.
@AlwaysAmeera
3 жыл бұрын
Yes thank you for the tip! I am the girl that will squint my way through life because I don’t wanna mess up my makeup.
@linahmarakalala7855
3 жыл бұрын
Ashley always coming through with realistically affordable deal for us ...Love the video by the way🥰🥰🥰🥰
@Annie-jt9km
3 жыл бұрын
Oooh thank you for the tip for making sure you don’t get that mark on your nose from glasses! I always have that problem so I will be doing this!!
@nieshagrn
3 жыл бұрын
I love your candor!! It’s a terrible feeling have to pay a man’s way I won’t ever do it again. Your so right and what you look like should I determine how many she treats you it’s sad we live in that type of world what is your choice to allow them to do so.
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