All I hear is that men in modern relationships are just a burden. I don't want to be a burden, so I can't bring myself to date anymore. I don't understand how anything is supposed to work, as there is no social contract and no set of rules. I can get dates and sometimes a second or third date, but the more I think about real relationships, the less I want to get into one. I feel like a snowplow truck driver in an overcrowded Miami street.
@yucheung5853
8 ай бұрын
You can solve this by recognizing your own and your partners' emotional needs. And recognizing the validity of emotions and feelings. Avoid the irrational use of 'logic' to trump everything in a relationship where emotions are the main focus.
@pavelthefabulous5675
8 ай бұрын
@@yucheung5853 Above all else, my emotional needs are to feel clean, useful, and respectable, and to feel as though I honor God and my family. I don't value intimacy or sex, and I have friends to socialize with, so I don't need to date to feel a social connection. I have no reason to date other than to save face and make my family proud, but I believe a partner should be more than just an achievement. I cannot ask someone to be my lifelong partner but to have no romantic connection with them. I will face the shame and accept my own issues instead of dragging others down. I think God can forgive this.
@SvalbardSleeperDistrict
26 күн бұрын
@@yucheung5853 Well, that assumes the person in question isn't already recognising emotional needs and isn't avoiding use of "logic" to trump things in a relationship - I don't think he alluded to either. The point he is making is that he is trying to not be like the typical men raised under the patriarchal culture and toxic masculinity, but when he hears all the prevalent messaging about men being trash, it kills his enthusiasm.
@BeyonceStan95
8 ай бұрын
I think all the pain that dating men has caused me is the reason why it’s embarrassing. It’s like I really want love but every time I enter relationships they end up being so unsatisfying and upsetting that I’m like why did I even do this to myself. It just feels like what women and men want is so opposed to each other that there’s such a little chance of things working out. Men have literally made me feel crazy because sometimes I want to go have quality time my partner once or twice a week?
@FinnyThePorg
3 ай бұрын
0:46 I haven’t because I’m also attracted to women. I can just date women if I have that much trouble with men.
@pipersolanas3322
2 жыл бұрын
I'm a radical feminist heteropessimist
@amb600cd0
2 жыл бұрын
im cum rat 727
@siddhartacrowley8759
2 жыл бұрын
Nobody cares
@lancewalker2595
Жыл бұрын
Feminists have always presumed to understand men and boys better than men and boys understand themselves, they pathologize everything they couldn't possibly understand as a symptom of "the patriarchy". You people have zero credibility.
@alcevallo4631
2 жыл бұрын
25:15 Shots fired lol
@pipersolanas3322
2 жыл бұрын
Why are you guys quoting Andrea Long Chu! They literally wrote a book about how "validating" it is as a woman to be sold into the s*x trade. Not a good look pls do more research.
@jeffzenick4795
Жыл бұрын
Hmmm....Hard to listen to in a way (Ha-ha, talking about my experience, not Yours). But a lot of food for thought, past the tendency to make excuses. Mostly a realization that this is the way a lot of college educated people are thinking these days based on their experiences and taking for granted the experiences of other as being what their experience would be.
@ngerfandanjihan
2 жыл бұрын
First!
@agarcia1786
7 ай бұрын
Feminism is suspicious of "innocent" pleasure, it's all dialectical.This immediately places that relationship in the middle of a game theory contest of "what have you done for me lately?" 🤭
@yucheung5853
8 ай бұрын
30:00 the problem with heteropessimism is the anesthestic feeling that suppresses reflection. Instead of reflecting what should be done/what they really want, they channel the discontent as something else, and thus leading to lack of self-awareness and action.
@yucheung5853
8 ай бұрын
Similar sentiment as hetero pessimism is expressed by lesbians as well, which the mass recognizes as "biphobia."
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