The oldest child: the scrape goat The middle child: the lost child The youngest child: the golden child
@MrDannymations54
Ай бұрын
They all sound awful but the middle child sounds the least awful
@Terestrasz
Ай бұрын
See, this is what I didn't understand - because where I live, the oldest child was always the golden child who got to run around wild, do whatever, get to do everything sooner, got everything they wanted, are held less accountable.... Meanwhile the leash got tighter on every kid. Like, you can usually tell someone was a younger kid because their parents were more controlling and restrictive. I live in the states. No, I'm not Asian.
@juxt_aposition9935
Ай бұрын
oldest child can be the golden child as well
@HCCatherine961
Ай бұрын
@@Terestraszexcuse me whilst I'm jealous 😂😂💀
@phuck8627
Ай бұрын
nope nope nope, the oldest is usually the golden child, lots of parents stop being attached to their kids the more they have and only care about the first one
@andrewjones9488
Ай бұрын
You know it's bad if you do one bad thing, you expect to get kick out and never return
@mysterygirl1606
Ай бұрын
Especially if that thing is AN ACCIDENT and it was ACCIDENTALLY BREAKING A VASE!!!
@erynnmurphy2996
25 күн бұрын
No wonder I'm terrified when my siblings don't listen and I pick up the slack.
@kaos5633
14 күн бұрын
Scapegoat here but allow me to tell you that parents who do this to their kids are awful
@origami6479
Ай бұрын
Like in Encanto : Isabela : golden child (first grandchildren, hate all this pressure, bottle up her negative emotions and lash them out on Mirabel) Luisa : lost child (nobody seems to really pay attention to her, especially during the dinner scene, until they need her to carry, move or bring something heavy) Mirabel : scapegoat (getting blamed for all her family issues because she is powerless and dare to question those issues)
@ZorimePati
Ай бұрын
Except with her own Parents its the other way around putting their focus on Mirabel since shes treated as the family black sheep while neglecting Isabella and Luisa since they already get enough attention for their abilities. Can't blame them really since abuela is the one encouraging everyone to scapegoat Mirabelle and her parents are trying to make up for it
@Terestrasz
Ай бұрын
Antonio: The "Baby".
@sweetiepuffs99
Ай бұрын
@@ZorimePatireminds me of eda and lilith from the owl house! Lilith was the "independent" one while eda was the troublemaker, which caused the former to be negleted from her parents attention, since it was mostly focused on eda It led lilith to resent her sister and then SPOILERS
@alexjewett7455
Ай бұрын
Always fun when people forget all about you until they need something.
@origami6479
Ай бұрын
@@ZorimePati i wouldn't say they neglect their other daugthers that much. Augustin wears a flower button at his jacket and a sock with weights embroideries on it, symbolizing Isabella and Luisa. We also sees him chasing Luisa to confort her at the end of the dinner after realizing she lost her gift.
@tultsi93
Ай бұрын
Dudley along with Neville was one of the few Harry Potter characters who had real character development.
@AmaryInkawult
Ай бұрын
So did Mrs Dursley when she realizes she's been a bitch to the last reminder of her sister.
@pinkrebellionxyz1567
Ай бұрын
The deleted scene of Dudley and Harry never fails to my my heart hurt😭😭😭 the character development after Harry saved him should’ve stayed in the film
@RenegadeGamer89
Ай бұрын
I actually wrote a fanfiction chapter in the Deathly Hallows called Family Reunion. It takes place between the Silver Doe and Xenophillius Lovegood. Long story short the Doe comes back and tells Harry the Durselys went back to Privet Drive and they are not going to be safe. Harry convinces Ron and Hermione to accompany him and when they arrive the Durselys are already being tortured. The trio save them and afterwards Vernon starts crying and hugging Harry. Vernon apologies for how they treated him and thanks him. Harry tells them they can't return to their house until the war is over. Before they leave Harry and Dudley have a really nice conversation: "So how long until you beat this guy Potter?" "I don't know Dudley. There's a lot I have to do and I'm not sure if I can." "Yes you will. This is the same bloke who couldn't kill you as a baby. How many times has he tried to kill you over these past years and still failed? He doesn't stand a chance. You're my cousin aren't you?"
@IamBardsongWolf
Ай бұрын
I love Neville Longbottom and also Luna Lovegood.
@xtremeyoylecake
Ай бұрын
Neville is awesome
@georgianagheorghe8848
Ай бұрын
99% of sibling rivalries are caused by parents according to recent studies.
@jasonrandom372
Ай бұрын
@@georgianagheorghe8848 especially narcissistic parents because the golden child must be better than the scapegoat. Or else!
@anthony-be6fl
15 күн бұрын
...welp it always starts at home lol...
@kainoaharris6097
15 күн бұрын
Nah, I'm just an asshole to my siblings.
@stellafanders
Ай бұрын
I got the worst of both worlds. High pressure to get straight A's, didn't apply to my siblings since they have learning disabilities. AND I am the scapegoat so much that my youngest sibling is aware of it and uses it to their advantage to get away with stuff
@HCCatherine961
Ай бұрын
Same
@LokiStarOmen
Ай бұрын
When perfection isn’t perfect enough so you still get the blame for everything wrong with your family because they expect your perfection to be perfect enough to single handedly fix the systemic mental and behavioural issues and generational trauma that they perpetuate - but don’t dare actually try to fix those issues by suggesting to your family they should seek the help that they need, how dare you suggest their mentally abusive asses are the problem - but also fix this damn family on your own while taking on all the responsibilities and doing 15 hobbies you hate with no mistakes so they can have bragging rights and getting straight A’s in every subject you even consider studying - what do you mean your burnt out and stressed to the point you can’t keep food down or sleep or stay awake or breathe properly anymore? We DoNt HaVe MeNtAl IlLnEsSeS iN tHiS fAmIlY!!!!!
@stellafanders
Ай бұрын
@@LokiStarOmen yes, this. The constant "How can this ever get better?" "When will X change?" But then get angry when suggesting therapy
@sweetiepuffs99
Ай бұрын
Hopefully this isnt too personal, but what disabilities do they have?
@stellafanders
Ай бұрын
@@sweetiepuffs99 one has dyscalculia and bad short term memory, the other one has dyslexia Why?
@disneyqueen6319
Ай бұрын
Another thing I loved about Dudley's growth of character was that he made Harry cups of tea. I remember from one of the books, that Harry woke up every morning by stepping into scalding cups of tea or cold cups of tea. He thought it was just a prank from Dudley but it was Dudley's way of thanking him for saving his life against the Dementors.
@user-wl6yz6uc7g
Ай бұрын
My older brother was the golden child to my mother, me the younger sister was the scapegoat to her, my father and I get along great, we have similar personalities. My mother forgot my birthday a few times because of what my brother did, and he got praised for school projects when my dad and I were the ones who did them.
@jasonrandom372
Ай бұрын
It is sad too. Because what the golden child doesn't realize is that he or she is being abused too without realizing. Because the golden child is the golden child because he or she benefits the narcissistic parent or parents the most and is expected to be perfect in school, hobbies, sports, etc and can often never get privacy and/or peace and quiet. It is easy for the scapegoat to realize he or she is being abused because the scapegoat doesn't benefit the narcissistic parent or parents in anyway shade or form and is often neglected or mentally or physically abused and used as a household punching bag for the narcissistic parents and their golden child.
@SolaceJames
12 күн бұрын
W dad
@saadiayaqoob2363
Ай бұрын
I once got a 79 percent on geography and around an 80 percent in science so my dad thought that I was failing school.
@oni_with_potenial
Ай бұрын
Those aren't bad numbers at all. What was he smoking 💀
@Nostalgic80s-nd3qb
Ай бұрын
Ikr. That’s still a great score. Those parents were definitely pressuring you.
@ayushiabedin4530
Ай бұрын
@@oni_with_potenialwell 79% out of 100 in my country gets you a C. To get A, you need 95% and over 45% of my class gets A in finals so 79% is considered as a failing score in my class. The lowest I ever got was 81 in all my school life, but I am getting better day by day. This time out of 25 class tests, I got full mark in 22 of them! In others I got less by 4 or 5 marks! I want to beat the topper but before that I have beat 4 people who are ahead of me and then the topper. Pretty hard since they are the best in our grade.
@guhjghughjugs-ce1ic
Ай бұрын
You can get a 9 (highest score) in science in my country with a 60 something but i think its climbing up to a 70
@tazreenrahman3587
Ай бұрын
@@ayushiabedin4530where are you from? Here in Bangladesh, 79% means an A grade.
@OveratedUsername
Ай бұрын
Henry is actually really good at the cello (sorry I don't know the actual instrument) for someone who hates it 1:00
@thing4201
Ай бұрын
"Man I hate this instrument" *good playing* "Bro this instrument sucks so hard if anyone has drums lets swap"
@CatherineNguyen-g1f
28 күн бұрын
That looks more like a bass but it’s too oddly animated for me to tell
@lendercattos9652
12 күн бұрын
Me who thinking that violin 🎻 💀
@Bulebee-ex9lp
9 күн бұрын
That’s definitely a cello, too small to be a bass
@CatherineNguyen-g1f
9 күн бұрын
@@Bulebee-ex9lp Henry’s standing to play it but I get what you’re saying.
@Backnbusiness
Ай бұрын
You know it’s bad if a golden child is getting sent to his or her room
@BrandonScott-mi5pz
29 күн бұрын
EXCELLENT WORK.
@meadowchanyukikosangacha2643
Ай бұрын
I was effected by this. My dad did unspeakable things to my sister & treated my like a princess. He also made me write on paper until my fingers hurt when I stole from the store. Thankfully, he lost custody & now can only see me with supervision. ( He’s not allowed to see my sister )
@user-wt9kd2wv8d
21 күн бұрын
Omg he sounds like a arsehole
@quynhchipham9607
16 күн бұрын
HA, karma is a bitch! Glad you are free from that pig 🫂
@pecahalloween
Ай бұрын
Me and my sister had the same problem. She was the golden child, I was the scape goat. She was a straight A student, I was not. Anytime something went wrong my father would go berserk and take it out on me thinking it was my fault when actually, it was my sister. I was always given hand-me-down stuff. I hated it. Some years later, I've realised the pressure she's been under. Always doing her best to be perfect and all for nothing, because narcissistic parents never actually care about the child's wellbeing as long as they are perfect in every way. She herself admitted she had her own demons to battle. My sister and I reconciled and moved past our differences and now we're a great team. A small glimpse of hope for all of you dealing with a sibling. It's never too late to put past behind and be each other's best support. Don't let narcissistic parents or care takers make you hate the easiest best friend you could ever have.
@katiebonser9712
Ай бұрын
In my family, there's no Golden Child or Scrape goat because my family thinks there's no such thing and being the Golden Child can turn you into a perfection obsessed maniac with depression.
@jasonrandom372
Ай бұрын
@@katiebonser9712 That's great! That's how normal parents are supposed to be. However, narcissistic parents will always have a golden child and a scapegoat.
@katiebonser9712
Ай бұрын
@@jasonrandom372 I forgot that the golden child can have low self-esteem issues
@WispyBlueBricksGPX
Ай бұрын
Sadly its true, both the Scapegoat and the Golden Child are indeed victims
@joshuagraham2843
Ай бұрын
I feel like i should focus both kids in the future
@Crackbimbo
28 күн бұрын
Of their parents
@WispyBlueBricksGPX
9 күн бұрын
@@joshuagraham2843 please do that, give them equal attention and treat them equally
@jasonrandom372
16 сағат бұрын
@@WispyBlueBricksGPX They are both being abused. It is easy for the scapegoat to realize he is being abused but not so much for the golden child to realize that.
@juliopeinado2660
Ай бұрын
That is why favoritism is considered to be child abuse.
@forestreflection2066
Ай бұрын
I'm the youngest child. But I was in a weird position. My dad and mom both narcissistic people. My dad showered me with attention and gifts everything I ever wanted. As long as I met the high expectations of him. Getting A's in school and college. Excelling in extra curricular activities, even being perfect in cooking. My dad found potential in me because we were both similar. In musical talent and intelligence. But my mom made me her scapegoat. And my older sibling her golden child. The one that can do no wrong. So she would punish me for things my sister did and neglect me labeling me a problem child. Meanwhile father showering me with love and attention only when I excelled in academics and with his high expectations. Fun
@gnome9773
Ай бұрын
Man. That's fucked
@ayushiabedin4530
Ай бұрын
40 mins ago and this is really sad Everyone thinks that it feels really good to be the golden child but being a golden child sucks really bad. You always have to be the best in everything. You always have to fulfil high expectations and when make one mistake, it feels like the world is going to end. I once had a friend who was what you call a “golden child” and when she used to make trivial mistakes in class, she used cry while everyone would just be shocked. Whenever she got 19/20, she used to panic a lot, saying “what would my mother do to me when she learns about this? She is going to be so mad oh no” and then just start crying. It would take me and my 2 best friends to comfort her. Through her, I got to understand what it feels to be a golden child. Always having the pressure and tension. Glad my parents treat me and my elder brother equally and love us equally as well.
@littlemoth4956
Ай бұрын
Who has ever said it feels good to be the golden child?
@ayushiabedin4530
Ай бұрын
@@littlemoth4956 it could be anyone who has siblings. Because the golden child always gets attention.
@jasonrandom372
Ай бұрын
You forgot Azula from Avatar The Last Air Bender showing real symptoms of Golden Child Syndrome in the final episode when she has a mental breakdown after she the golden child loses the final battle to brother Zuko the scapegoat.
@firerose4495
Ай бұрын
That's all too true.
@chestbumphero
Ай бұрын
The whole “Azula was born lucky, Zuko was lucky to be born” line that I’m surprised wasn’t brought up
@williampulfer-melville8536
Ай бұрын
Not to mention she likely went to prison along with her father
@Rella-rellai
20 күн бұрын
@@williampulfer-melville8536 she was 13?
@firerose4495
17 күн бұрын
@@Rella-rellai No 14.
@sacredsin7282
Ай бұрын
I really like how Dudley comes to recognize how unfair and wrong his parents’ (and his own) treatment of Harry was. Rowling could have simply kept him being a spoiled, entitled kid who despises Harry to the end, mirroring the vitriol and hatred spewed by his parents, but the quiet moment between him and Harry and his genuine worry over Harry’s safety is a really satisfying moment of character growth. There’s something profound about him breaking away from the bigotry and prejudice instilled in him by his parents.
@renaterijerkerk2368
Ай бұрын
In the case of Perfect Peter I like to assume that Delightful Desiree (that's her actual name) was in her youth very similar to Peter and wants Peter to be perfect the way she never could be and failed to enforce on Henry, who is more like Silly Simon was during his youth along with his brother Fussy Francis who was the Peter in their relationship. In the case of Desiree, Rich Ruby could've been the Henry in their sibling relationship. All of this is hinted during the episode Silly Siblings.
@CombativePlays
Ай бұрын
Wait, where is it confirmed that her name is Desiree?
@Adamm17-iq9gu
Ай бұрын
Then Henry will win in life and Peter will fail, it seems as if Rich Ruby ran into some money whether it was due to her own success or more likely through marriage. Henry is always seen being married to Margaret in the future and we know that Margaret gets princess treatment so it likely means that she’s rich along with her being a celebrity so Henry will win like Ruby and Peter will lose like his mother
@disneyfan0639
Ай бұрын
Is that a headcanon name for the mom or....?
@DeepakKumar-fi4os
Ай бұрын
Wasn't her name Francisca?
@LeReubzRic
Ай бұрын
More like Delusional Desirée
@ultrainstinctgoku8452
Ай бұрын
this is honestly sad, i hope the parents gets punished
@Kennysstan
Ай бұрын
Punished? What about court
@nuts12548
Ай бұрын
That works too@@Kennysstan
@jeffowens9536
Ай бұрын
"GO TO YOUR ROOMS, MOM AND DAD!!"
@williamaftonsdiscordkitten3868
Ай бұрын
I was the golden child in my family and it's left me with constant guilt, pressure and anxiety. I constantly apologise for everything including things that probably aren't even my fault in the slightest. I feel horrible because I was treated better than my sister and also teased her about it when I was little, because I was a stupid kid. I'm now stuck with NPD, Depression and honestly a whole list of disorders that might or might not be related to this. Thankfully my sister and I started to connect when we moved away from my father, because we have other shared trauma and started to be treated a bit more equally. I'm still the golden child from my mum's perspective though, she just makes it less obvious and I hate her for it. I still live with her and any attempt to escape her she tries to manipulate me into staying. She even said she'd prefer to lock me up with several locks on my door than let me move out. I think it was a joke but it was far from funny. By now I've figured out that it's okay to fail and all, but the pressure still weighs on me subconsciously and it's absolutely excruciating. Thank you for covering this, I've never seen anyone talk about this. It means a lot.
@SnipeSnap
Ай бұрын
Sorry you went through that. Sounds like a really difficult situation. So glad you took some comfort from the video!
@williamaftonsdiscordkitten3868
Ай бұрын
@@SnipeSnap Thank you for making it. C:
@d4n737
Ай бұрын
I'm sorry, but Dudley is NOT a golden child and don't you dare compare him to Peter. Perfect Peter has an entirely fabricated personality made to please his superiors; his parents and teachers. He's been conditioned to be innocent. Dudley is just a brat that has never been told no. Golden children are not the same thing as spoiled children. Peter works harder than anyone to be liked, while Dudley indulges in every whim and is the leader-type to two school bullies.... That's not a kid who'd expected to be perfect, that's just a kid who's SEEN as perfect no matter what
@tencents6
Ай бұрын
Um, yeah. Dudley IS a golden child. He was a bad kid, but a "Golden Child" usually means a child that can do no wrong "in the eyes of their parents." Dudley could have grown up to be a Nazi, and the Dursleys would have praised him for all he did. Meanwhile, Harry got in trouble with his aunt and uncle for even BREATHING!!!! Compared to Harry, Dudley was a golden child; even if he was a bratty bully.
@poncho9587
Ай бұрын
@@tencents6I'm not so convinced. Consider the fourth book where he threw a massive hissy fit on being forced on a diet. In the subsequent book, in the opening, this would have been the perfect time to throw Harry under the bus, yet Dudley knew Harry saved his life.
@tencents6
Ай бұрын
@@poncho9587 Doesn't matter. Dudley was still the favorite. His parents put him on a diet because they care about him. If it was Harry, they wouldn't do a thing. Also, Dudley might have become nicer, but his parents still treated him better.
@Margatatials
Ай бұрын
That's not what a golden child is, a golden child is the parents favourite, sometimes a child has to be perfect to maintain that position in Dudley's case he was the favourite because of genetics, he couldn't make himself the black sheep if he tried.
@jackaylward-williams9064
Ай бұрын
I like how, in all three of the examples that you picked (If you go with the book description of Dudley) "the golden child" has blonde hair, just in case the audience needs a visual cue.
@fablethewolf825
Ай бұрын
You missed an opportunity by not including Zuko and Azula here. The last bunch of episodes of TLA beautifully showcases how, paired with parents to encourage violence, Darwinism and bloodlust, this treatment can destroy the Golden Child. Azula's mental health takes a nose-dive until the final battle, when her Scapegoat brother, defeats her with the help of a friend. The thought that Zuko, who she was taught was inferior to her from birth, should walk away while she is defeated is entirely too much and her mind completely breaks as she is reduced to an almost feral state, screaming, sobbing and writhing. Azula was explicitly taught that there was no difference between second place and a bug to be squashed under one's shoe, so to find herself behind her brother in anything at all broke her.
@Worldoffun1-vn4kh
Ай бұрын
Yeah
@joeyfaircloth9308
Ай бұрын
This
@sacredsin7282
Ай бұрын
I was thinking the same thing! The handling of Azula’s fall from grace and her complete mental breakdown thanks to her superiority complex, the dismissal from her father, her unresolved mommy issues, and her outrage over Zuko proving that he WASN’T inferior was so beautifully done. You can’t help but feel pity for this ruthless but damaged golden child who has tumbled so completely off of her pedestal, even as you’re gratified to see her defeated.
@tencents6
Ай бұрын
I have always said this, and I will post it here. If your parents had a favorite child, your parents didn't love ANY of their children. Not only that, but the favorite child was the most unlucky child because they would most likely become dependent on their parents, while the least favorite learned to fend for themselves at an earlier age.
@UKSKIDS
Ай бұрын
I look at Prissy Polly and Olga, and I see the similarities. Mental, isn't it? 😅 I can see Henry and Helga becoming friends.
@martinmcneal2778
Ай бұрын
My step mom always favored her biological children but never had the same care or feelings for me or my sister. She always loved them, but if they wanted a toy or anything, they got it. If me or my sister wanted something we had to work for it or do extra chores just to get it. I tried to be a good kid but there were times I screwed up (either with my grades or I made a poor decision) and I would get absolutely no benefits at all. My step brothers and I are still really close, especially when they realized that she wasn't being kind to us as she was with them, but my step mom is effectively dead to us (not actually dead, but we don't speak to her or even acknowledge her if she tries to talk to any of us) But for me and my sister, we both had to grow up a bit more quickly because of that, when we should have had a decent childhood. Parental favoritism is possibly one of the worst sins a parent could ever commit
@spectradusker4305
Ай бұрын
Azula from Avatar: The last Airbender, would also be seen as a golden child Her father favors her over her brother and the pressure of being perfect slowly drives her insane
@alexanderfoote6153
Ай бұрын
Let’s not forget Isabella Madrigal, she was willing to marry someone she didn’t love for Abuela and her family for god sake
@d4n737
Ай бұрын
That's different though. Some cultures treat marriage as a family affair much like a corporate fusion. Isabella is simply performing her role in making the family unit function. She's just been dealt a bad hand by Abuela.
@tultsi93
Ай бұрын
@@d4n737 That still doesn't mean Isabella isn't a golden child. She was Abuela's favorite and wanted her to be perfect every single way while treating Mirabel as a scapegoat.
@d4n737
Ай бұрын
@@tultsi93 ... I never said she is though? But what you've described is literally the definition of a golden child
@alexanderfoote6153
Ай бұрын
@@d4n737 touché
@williampulfer-melville8536
Ай бұрын
@@alexanderfoote6153This also hits harder in an early draft to the film where it's revealed Isabela was actually in love with a Boy who didn't meet the Expectations a perfect as he would have been short, overweight and geeky But He was scrapped from the film as the directors didn't like him for some reason
@CommanderBuzzerProductions
Ай бұрын
When you ever release a video you know it’s going to be a banger
@SaraNightfire1
Ай бұрын
I used to read a book series where there was a group of girls who would have different things going on. One of the characters was a single child. But her mom forced her to take dance, painting, piano lessons, horseback riding, ballet, etc. The girl basically never said a word about how she felt about this. Her mother tried to get her into “high society”, by trying to make her friends with the richest girl in town, and in the books, it's frequently said that her mom dresses her up like a doll. In the horseback riding classes, on the first day of classes, she wore expensive riding clothes that you would see in the National Horse Show instead of around the stable. The only thing the girl pushed herself (brutally hard) into was her grades. She had to have straight-A’s. She would go beyond what you could picture, including a paper due at the end of the year she would start at the beginning of the year by writing and researching it to make sure she not only got that A, but best her classmates. She ended up with Anorexia. Because she got a B-plus in advanced math. She starved herself for two weeks until her friends realized what was happening and talked her into getting help. All so she could just get that bit of control over what she lost. That always stuck with me, especially with her mom driving her into that state, and how she was so driven to impress her and please her to get that approval that she ended up like that.
@urlocaltotaldramaaddict
Ай бұрын
what was the book called?
@SaraNightfire1
Ай бұрын
@@urlocaltotaldramaaddict It was a book series called “The Saddle Club”. The girl's name was Lisa, and she was actually the one who started riding in the first book because of her mom. It's a good children's series, especially since it deals with issues that can get dark.
@Leeann-ys1jk
Ай бұрын
Shouldn’t Anais be on there as well? I mean think about it, Nicole would ALWAYS blame Gumball and Darwin even when it’s not even their fault and she ALWAYS puts her sons down, and she puts an unnecessary amount of pressure on Anais who is only 4 years old just because she is smartest in the family and Nicole was being a hypocrite during “The Goons” she got mad at Richard for saying he favors Darwin when her golden child is clearly Anais and she even punishes Anais more harshly than her brothers. I know this is a bit stretchy to say Anais is Nicole’s golden child because to me she somewhat views Gumball as an extension of herself, I mean he’s blue cat just like her but also, you guys saw “The Parents” Nicole had a very rough childhood because Daniel and Mary having very unreasonable expectations on her not to mention they nearly killed her by giving her the wrong blood type, you guys know what happened during “The Fridge” and “The Hero”. Nicole was basically repeating the cycle of abuse during those episodes toward Gumball (and to a slight lesser extent Darwin and Anais due to what I said about the unnecessary amount of pressure). She forces Gumball to be a “winner” just like her even abandoned Gumball in a middle of a desert and she said she wasn’t disappointed in him when she IS disappointed in him, also during “The Hero” she told Gumball and Darwin she would not provide them the necessities anymore because they talked bad about Richard, I get Gumball was being unreasonably mean in during “The Hero” but why couldn’t she just ground Gumball and Darwin for refusing to apologize? That’s not so hard to understand. Also why was Richard at their school to begin with, he wasn’t supposed to be there. I also get the creators of AWOG making Richard and Nicole flawed parents as reminder to the viewers that parents are not perfect. But as I said, there are limits and there is a difference between a mistake and a bad decision and repeating the cycle of abuse is a bad decision and a bad decision was made intentionally
@fish9230
Ай бұрын
Richard was a better parent to the kids playing with them and cheering them up when they were sad but nicole was an angel compared to henrys mum
@littlemoth4956
Ай бұрын
What are you on about lol Anais isn’t pressured to do anything and Gumball and Darwin are barely even disciplined by Nicole. If they are, it’s usually deserved. Have you even watched TAWOG?
@Leeann-ys1jk
Ай бұрын
@@littlemoth4956 In “The Goons” Nicole told Anais she expected more from her and won’t let Anais hang out with Richard, Gumball and Darwin just because of their low IQ, and having her do puzzles with a ton of pieces. Nicole has way higher expectations on Anais than on Gumball and Darwin because like I said, Anais is the smarter person in the family and she most likely punished Anais offscreen for kissing a frog thinking it can turn into a prince Also, during “The Hero”, does Nicole have the right to call out Gumball and Darwin for talking bad about Richard? Yes. Does she had the right to throw rocks at him and Darwin and commit child neglect by not providing her sons the necessities they needed in order to survive? No. Like I said, Gumball was uncharacteristically overly mean than usual in this episode for his refusal to apologize to Richard and talking down to him but why didn’t Nicole just grounded him and take away things he DOESN’T need in order to survive such as taking away video games or tv privileges. There is absolutely no good reason to commit child neglect. Gumball may have stated that he and Darwin favor Nicole over Richard during “The Password” but guess what, Nicole doesn’t favor him nor Darwin, Anais is her favorite child, and as I said she blames her sons for EVERYTHING even when it’s not even their fault, she blamed her sons for her bad day at work during “The Worst” by screaming at them and during “The Allergy” she said that Anais has all the good genes. And yes, Nicole WAS disappointed in him during “The Fridge” and she shows her disappointment and resentment towards Gumball and Darwin ALL the time
@sissysovereign1294
Ай бұрын
This makes me wonder if Nicole only just wanted girls and not sons
@Leeann-ys1jk
Ай бұрын
@@sissysovereign1294 No, Nicole just favors Anais because of her high IQ, and since Gumball and Darwin’s IQ’s are unfortunately the same as Richard’s, they’re her least favorites. Also Nicole is projecting her own bad childhood onto Gumball because she sees him as herself during her own childhood when Mary and Daniel were putting WAY too much pressure on her by forcing her to be CEO, sign her up for so many activities, nearly killed her by giving her the wrong blood type and they even kicked Nicole out of the house when she was a TEENAGER, and it doesn’t help with the fact that Gumball is a blue cat just like his mom. Like when Anais does something bad she would get grounded for 6 months but when she “punishes” Gumball and Darwin she will resort to child abuse and neglect by telling them she will not provide them necessities anymore, not to mention she will always yell at Gumball and Darwin even over the littlest thing, but when’s the last time you saw her yell at Anais?
@asalways1504
Ай бұрын
7:10 Dudley’s growth as a character had a payoff in an earlier draft of Deathly Hallows. In the epilogue, Harry and Ginny bump into Dudley dropping his kids off at the station for school and asks them where to find platform 9 3/4.
@VVesteria
19 күн бұрын
Peter was the original aishite aishite aishite girl
@maxthedoglover
Ай бұрын
I’m crying Peter In the thumbnail looks like me the morning after I said I could handle 17 pints 😂
@mel_DeLux
14 күн бұрын
This guy should be a psychologist.
@georgianagheorghe8848
Ай бұрын
Harry was raised by his uncle and aunt after his parents died. Lily was rather a golden child because her parents were treating her differently ever since she got her Hogwarts letter. This neglect cause Petunia to hate her sister.
@jasonrandom372
Ай бұрын
@@georgianagheorghe8848 Petunia then was the scapegoat.
@choiichanhee_
11 күн бұрын
This is probably why Petunia favours Dudley so much, because she doesn’t want Dudley to be the scapegoat like she was (even though he’s also far from being a golden child)
@capulet5580
Ай бұрын
Another great video :) I think there’s a few additional things worth mentioning too. The whole concept of the “golden child” doesn’t just affect the one it’s targeted at, but also on their siblings, and it can cause lifelong damage. My sister and I don’t live near each other anymore, but we’re on good terms. That being said, she’s always been the golden child. Our mom put high expectations on my sister, as high expectations were put on my mom when she was younger too. The problem then though is that i’d say something like “Hey mom, look, I got a B in math!” when I struggled a lot with it, and she’d kinda gloss over it cuz my sister was getting A+ on all her subjects. I had a good relationship with my sister growing up, and with my mom too, but nowadays I struggle a ton with expectations because i’m constantly being compared to my sister. I’m currently unemployed (though i’m searching for work) while she’s just graduated law school, almost receiving valedictorian, and she also has multiple part time jobs. I know i’m rambling a bit, but I felt it was relevant. Preferential treatment towards a child can have really bad effects on the other children too. I know in most cases, siblings can lose their connection over stuff like this
@MMDVAWARENESS
Ай бұрын
The fact you managed to make an hour long video essay on the psyche of horrid Henry characters is concerning
@Blue_Bear-BB
Ай бұрын
I was the middle child and youngest girl. It was hell. My dad was a narcissist and it was super pressuring to be perfect. I am awful at maths and my dad would scream at me. I had to be good at Art, Sports, English, Languages, But I'm awful at languages. I am good at the other things. I had my older brother who was the golden child boy and I was the golden child girl. Everyone else was a scapegoat. I hated my self, I thought it was my fault.
@jasonrandom372
Ай бұрын
@@Blue_Bear-BB so you were the lost child?
@FilmmakeroftheFuture
7 күн бұрын
Henry’s enjoyment and mastery of the cello as well as his rock star aspirations shows that he has a passion for music.
@zamranwisal9809
Ай бұрын
I feel like henry and peter should be taken away by the CPS
@thomasfoster7387
Ай бұрын
they're british
@europancrasinternational
10 күн бұрын
@@thomasfoster7387well cps is in britain
@thomasfoster7387
10 күн бұрын
@@europancrasinternational it is? I thought that was purely an American organisation
@animefangirlj6073
Ай бұрын
Alot of scapegoat kids cut contact with families when they leave the house at 18 then the families act all surprised and ask why the scapegoat kid isnt wanting to take care of the elderly parents Also dudley and harry are cousins
@readdescription4132
Ай бұрын
It’s honestly heartbreaking. The golden child is put on a pedestal and feel like they need to always be the best at everything.
@MobileGamesMaster4745
Ай бұрын
My brother was the golden child for my dad, the both of em weren’t half dopey melts
@thomasfoster7387
Ай бұрын
beg pardon? what's a half-dopey melt?
@MobileGamesMaster4745
Ай бұрын
@@thomasfoster7387 a dopey melt is an insult. When I said ‘weren’t half’ that expresses the insult
@Nebula_Omega
Ай бұрын
bro the thumbnail got me dying, you made peter look like a cocaine addict
@Shoesandpews
Ай бұрын
What did Henry give lil bro 💀
@busybees.
Ай бұрын
@@Shoesandpewspeter ain't switching this time😭
@fish9230
Ай бұрын
joe biden lookin ah😂
@Danilovshkovski
Ай бұрын
You deserve at least 200k susbcribers. Keep the great content going brother!
@SnipeSnap
Ай бұрын
I appreciate that!
@IsabellaM-tk7fx
Ай бұрын
Honestly I think the golden child's sibling is the real victim.I mean they get neglected and are made to feel worthless, while the golden child is loved by everyone.
@skmuskanrahaman1690
Ай бұрын
Both are.
@Ollie.H-23
Ай бұрын
The one thing I like between Harry and Dudley is that Harry isn't afraid to throw it back at Dudley. Book 1. Vernon: "Get the post Dudley!" Dudley: "Make Harry get it!" Vernon: "Get the post Harry!" Harry: "Make Dudley get it!" Also Book 1. Dudley: "They flush people's heads down the toilet first day at Stonewall. Want to come up stairs and practise?" Harry: "No thanks, the poor toilet's never had anything as horrible as your head down it. It might be sick." Harry then ran before Dudley could work out what he had said Book 2: Dudley: "I KNOW WHAT DAY IT IS!" Harry said nothing. Dudley repeats himself. "I KNOW WHAT DAY IT IS!" Harry: "Well done. You've finally learned the days of the week." Harry also dishes it back at his Aunt and Uncle. Book 5. Petunia: "What are you doing under our window?" Vernon: "Yes! Good point, Petunia. What were you doing under our window?" Harry: "Listening to the news." Vernon: "Listening to the news? AGAIN?" Harry: "Well, it changes everyday, you see." Vernon: "Don't take that tone with me boy! We know you're up to something." Petunia: "We're not stupid, you know." Harry: "Well, that's news to me." A few pages later, Harry starts making fun of Dudley's new nickname "Big D" (being honest, who wouldn't laugh at that?) He also mocks him for the names Petunia calls him. Things like "Popkin" "Dinky Diddydums" "Ickle Diddykins" that sort of thing. Dudley tells him to "shut his face" and Harry says, "you don't tell her to shut her face." "Her" of course referring to Petunia.
@ValeriaXSandra
Ай бұрын
Fun fact. Lilly was a golden child over Petunia. Then Petunia grew up and repeated the cycle with Dudley and Harry.
@sparrow1862
13 күн бұрын
And dudley thankfully seems to have at least attempted to break the cycle.
@ZombiePlayz-i1q
Ай бұрын
dude this is so weird i just binged all of your horrid henry content
@cartooncrazy9433
Ай бұрын
Mine was less about academics and more about expectations around behaviour (I automatically put pressure on myself with that one as I associated it with good behaviour anyway). I wasnt a well behaved young child and once I got to school it was expected that I would be perfectly behaved or else. My sister was always a really well behaved young child so she was the "golden child" in meeting that expectation, but wasn't seen as academic, so whenever she did well at school she was always celebrated whereas it was just expected of me. Then when she hit teen years she became a nightmare with behaviour and was always at odds with me because she saw me as "the boffin", but I saw her as the one who got away with things I'd have gotten kicked out for. Then there was our younger brother who was the quiet one more just in the background.
@StevieBaker-yf6on
10 күн бұрын
Goddd this struck a nerve with me 😭 soon as my grades started slipping and i lost 'interest in my hobbies' (they werent my hobbies just activities i was told i needed to do) , was made to feel like the worst, i started suffering from bad anxiety, paranoia and depression and was told it was cause i was 'hanging out with the wrong people who were bad influences' ... not once was i asked 'are you okay?, do you feel too much pressure?' Nope was grounded and made to 'study more' as if that would help anything, it didnt
@suhaankhan8147
Ай бұрын
3:38 WELL, HENRY, YOU SHOULD HAVE GOT OUT OF THE WAY WHEN PETER WAS WATERING THE FLOWERS!!!!!!!
@suhaankhan8147
Ай бұрын
9:46 WHAT'S GOING ON?!!!!!!!
@ShintogaDeathAngel
17 күн бұрын
Henry wasn’t even near the flowers when he first got sprayed. And wouldn’t have got as wet as he did if it was accidental lol
@HSOP-OFFICIAL
Ай бұрын
Let me clarify something to the older children/scapegoats. Being the youngest doesn't mean you can do whatever you want and get the best parenting, it means you're their last shot to get it right and you WILL get it right and be perfect. Being the golden child isn't a luxury, it's a responsibility. You have to always agree with them, always be what they expect, always be obedient, never argue with them, never be yourself if it goes against what they want/expect, you get treated like your dumb for trying to take care of yourself, you get hate and mocked by your siblings for something you don't even want or enjoy, and you always, ALWAYS have to keep up the act, because the SECOND you don't, they take back all their love until you "earn it back", and there's so much more I've blocked out. Get over yourselves, being the youngest or the golden child isn't what you crack it up to be and we deal with enough without getting hate form you for something we never asked for.
@amberliddell4503
13 күн бұрын
Well said
@ghostespeon5681
Ай бұрын
Honestly I can relate to being the scapegoat
@Imyourpookieforever-y7b
Ай бұрын
In my family, I have 2 twin brothers named Jacob and Leo. One has autism, and the other has angelman syndrome. Here’s how it works in my family. Me, Older Brother, Little Sisters: Lost Leo and Jacob: Golden Little Sisters (Chloe and Sierra): Scapegoat (They are sweet and kind but they blame people sometimes.)
@LokiStarOmen
Ай бұрын
I grew up with these books and this show and I find it so odd but awesome that now people are talking about it so much. I identified so much with show Henry, not because of how my mum treated me but how the entirety of my ‘dads’ side of the family did. Expected to be the golden child but treated like a monster. You’d think the way they talked about me that I was committing crimes. But no. While my cousins were getting In trouble with police, I was… struggling with my crippling disabilities. Which everyone knows is so much worse than stealing, vandalism, domestic violence and under age alcoholism /sarcasm
@Jesus_is_hope_for_all
Ай бұрын
Do you think Perfect Peter was getting more and more evil throughout the show it feels he was willing to be more extreme at first it was snitching on Henry to get him in trouble and then it slowly turned into getting him in even more trouble untruthfully and as much as he would get Henry in trouble before it would have a reason but later he would be more and more untruthful about it and provoking it
@sparxstreak02
Ай бұрын
6:46 It was actually the Dementor’s attack on Dudley that caused the change in how he saw Harry & himself as a whole, finally seeing the horrid ugly person he’d become & it terrified him…but also caused the change within him.
@Warrior_2121
Ай бұрын
I’m like in the middle, I’m expected good grades and stuff, but I also do stuff that gets my dad to yell at me every day
@Lx1mz
17 күн бұрын
I'm so happy you exist all just to talk about this show. The show was part of somewhat some of my childhood so thanks.
@MyxIsNotHome
15 күн бұрын
Thank you so much for not describing golden children as narcissists/egomaniacs! So many people think we're evil, selfish, and that we think we're the best. Most of us actually have really low self-esteem.
@4444Ferris
Ай бұрын
Remember If parents play "who is the best kid?" Even the sibling who wins, is a looser
@Rushfromdoorsroblox
18 күн бұрын
The thumbnail looks like if perfect peter started smoking lol
@lukejackson2354
Ай бұрын
One thing I disagree though is the one that is made to look after the parents. Sometimes the golden child is deemed to be doing too important of things and the scapegoat needs to “do at least this much for them” as of having a permanent houseguest is easy. This facet of elder care mostly is a calculation on how little do they care for the scapegoat and how much responsibility instead of expectation they put on the golden child. Though of course that if the golden child is actually requested first and refuses they are not blamed for it.
@sumsumplays
Ай бұрын
I feel like most only children get a strange mix of both. Like have standards and pressure because you’re the only one regardless of how much is put on u. Since you’re the only one seems like you should be perfect but if something goes wrong regardless its your fault
@sirmultiverse5896
Ай бұрын
I'm a special case. I was a mix of the golden child and the scrape goat
@sirmultiverse5896
Ай бұрын
If you're wondering how that happens, don't the gold child if you're nerodiverse
@Aphafacts
5 күн бұрын
Its confirmed now , henry is a borned musician and music is his passion
@gothicraver89
Ай бұрын
Story of my life really... My sisters were always considered the favourite out of the 3 of us, me being the oldest n suffering with autism made me out to be tge problem child n they treated me badly for tge simplist mistakes i made growing up, wasn't invited to anyones birthday party or sleepovers because everyone thought i was strange.. meanwhile my sisters get all the attention and grew up to be successful.. these videos were an eye opener for me and Its unlocked certain memories of my childhood i didn't want to revisit.
@BlueShadows235
Ай бұрын
Guys wake up SnipeSnap Uploaded a banger
@angelrose3796
Ай бұрын
Every Parents Needs To Treat Their Kids Equally NOT Favoritism, Cause Their Going To Be A Serious Consequences For Their Own Action
@StevieBaker-yf6on
10 күн бұрын
Also on another note i realised my brother was the scapegoat child as an adult, it made me feel so angry for him and so sorry for him as even with the 7 year age gap, he was a kid (17, but still a kid!) He was grieving and acting out and rather than helping him, ya know the adults in his life! They made him out to be the one and only problem (no one is perfect in my family including me) which i found to be unfair
@rustyshackelford312
Ай бұрын
The best part of the episode where Helga changes Olga grade is when she decides to confess the first thing she does is walk in, turn on the lights and turn off the stereo, and at that moment you realize that the whole time you have been hearing Mozart's Lacrimosa has been diegetic.🤣
@ChildOfTheFlower
Ай бұрын
Was the scapegoat growing up while my youngest sister was the Golden Child who could do no wrong. It is very hard to feel any sympathy for any pressure the Golden Children are perceived to have when they are getting the fruit of mommy and daddy's attention. If Olga truly gave a frack about Helga, she would stood up for her demanding her parents notice her but she never does and is shocked Helga doesn't truly like her all that much.
@amberliddell4503
13 күн бұрын
That's easier said than done but you are a little scared that you might be kicked out of the house by your very parents
@gp-1542
4 күн бұрын
I actually meet one during my senior of high school He had good grades all around, perfect attendance, great with teachers, but was absolutely miserable. I only found out about it because he went to my house for a project. Dude clearly didn’t expect my mother to…act like a mother, he looked genuinely happy, only to look disappointed when his actual mother came
@Casual_Otaku
16 күн бұрын
This is why i wish everyone gets parents like Mitshi and Harry
@EndoblueGamez
Ай бұрын
I like the fact that Dudley is kind in the final book 5:50
@caribou3552
Ай бұрын
How about an analysis on Moody Margaret?
@jackscotcher3099
Ай бұрын
I LOVE THESE VIDEOS!!!!!!
@HendrixLoketi
15 күн бұрын
Or or getting kicked out of the house god I feel bad for Henry😢
@victorialaing4227
16 күн бұрын
I would like to see Horrid Henry snap and his bottled up emotions boil to the surface as a teenager. I would love to see Horrid Henry become a bratty rebellious teenager who talks back to his parents and teachers, skips school, breaks rules and laws, trespasses and even runs away from home. It would be nice to see Henry finally have enough of his parents abuse and run away from home and never come back and start living on the streets, and I am sure his parents wouldn’t even look for him cause they would be so focused on Peter they wouldn’t even care that Henry is gone
@mariodulexfive
15 күн бұрын
I like henry playing the cello it was total enjoyment
@AidanSuperStudios
8 күн бұрын
this video shows Peter is a victim to and he’s the perfect example of a perfect child who’s actually one of the biggest victims and is actually suffering just as much as the scrape goat.
@dragonbite7665
15 күн бұрын
My parents aren't narcissistic but my second youngest brother is the golden child and that made him selfish and a hypocrite so parents just treat all your kid equally
@cooldollstuff
Ай бұрын
I'm an only child so I was my mother's favorite but my father wanted another child and always used to say tje second child that was never born was his favorite 😢
@gillianmcewan3570
Ай бұрын
Absolutely fantastic 👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏Factual and very clever
@SnipeSnap
Ай бұрын
Thank you kindly
@seanchukwuezi3079
Ай бұрын
Peter was the most tragic Character in horrid Henry
@user-adrsilva123
Ай бұрын
Hey Snipesnap do you agree that Henry gets Too much hate From People inside the Show! Because let’s be Real! I agree he isn’t a saint and should be hold Accountable for his Actions! But Not Everything is literally his fault! And often time people in the Show can be way worse than Him and I mean full on Horrid than he’ll ever Dream of! and yet They don’t Seem to bat in Eye and think he’s just Horrid! Heck People almost everyone in the show may as well be more Horrid than Henry ever was!!😭😭 it’s Bull crap and Annoying!!😡😡 Henry deserves people who would actually help him and threat him like an Actual human and Permanently call him Henry and never call him horrid cause it’s Disgusting plus Knowing Henry he has a lot of Potential and can be successful in the Future! If Henry doesn’t get in help at all in the Show and still threat him the way he does even up to his Adulthood! And if it Worsens Than we shouldn’t be Surprised that it would be the perfect recipe into creating a Sociopath or at least an apathetic and near heartless individual in the Future because nobody Valued him nor Threated him like a Human!😢😢😢😢 I feel bad for Henry even for Peter! How would you help out Henry if you were in the Show?
@suhaankhan8147
Ай бұрын
3:33 DON'T TELL LIES, HENRY!!!!!!!
@suhaankhan8147
Ай бұрын
9:51 PETER, TALK TO ME!!!!!!!
@minimog16uk
Ай бұрын
It's not always the case that the Golden Child is under huge pressure to be 'perfect'. Quite often a Golden Child can do pretty much anything they want and not get punished tor it and sometimes the Scapegoat could be blamed for things the Golden Child did instead. This comes with its own problems though, as having everything handed to them on a silver platter their whole childhood often means it is a major wake-up call for them when they grow up and find that's not how the real world works.
@ramisnotdead
Ай бұрын
As a teenager, I got a 96% on a big exam for a subject I was terrible at. My mother said “it’s ok sweety, you’ll study better next time” when I proudly showed her my exam results
@Lily_2904
19 күн бұрын
i always thought peters hair looked like scrambled eggs
@magentacactus6066
Ай бұрын
Could you ever do a seven deadly sins of animated parents? 😊
@titangirl161
Ай бұрын
Dudley remembered Harry helping him escape from the dementors, even after being horrible to him for years. So yeah, that incident did help with some character growth for Dudley
@ShaSha-zq3my
Ай бұрын
I was definitely the scapegoat. I seem to be the scapegoat no matter where I go. I suspect it may be the same for golden children. These roles your parents arbitrarily slap on you seem to follow you even when you have to deal with the real world.
@swordchild0013
Ай бұрын
Also remember the horrible experience of flipping roles in abusive families - where the scapegoat becomes the golden child etc
@harryfleutv666
Ай бұрын
Henry's parents remind me of watered down versiona of The High Evolutionary in Guardians of the Galaxy 3, they seek perfection in the things they created but fail to realise that no-one is perfect despite their high expectations
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