I lost my wife in November 2019, only 3 days before our children’s birthday. She was 30 and I was 31. It sucks. It really does. There are no other words for it. But it does get better. It’s hard to look beyond the tragedy. While we had a good marriage, I look back with so much regret. There were so many things that I did (and didn’t do) that prevented it from being a great marriage. I will have to live with that guilt for the rest of my life. Don’t wait. Don’t take your relationship for granted like I did. Do absolutely everything you can to make it better and more fulfilling.
@anneteli
2 жыл бұрын
Regrets seem inevitable when there has been a loss, so many things we wish we had done differently and all the while, we think we have more time with the person, I wish I didn't have any regrets, but I console myself by saying I only knew so much in those moments and I try to forgive myself for my lack of knowledge
@RobertaRico705
2 ай бұрын
Lost my husband in 2019. It was devastating I was 33 he was 38. I'm 38 now... ive been able to not move on but move forward. I fell in love with one of his childhood friends... We've been together for a couple years now, about to buy a home together. It was the loss of my husband that brought us together. It was so hard and sad going through what I went through. I never thought I'd find love again. You just gotta open your heart. Life is about loving. I'm happy right now, nothing would make my husband happier. I know that in my heart
@da---536
2 ай бұрын
i lost my husband to cancer our only child was a year and a half his family never called or reached out to us 😢 but life goes on
@rosew7962
3 жыл бұрын
My brother was widowed 14 months after his wedding and still had a preemie baby in the NICU. 13 years later he has finally moved on and found a second amazing lady.
@faitharrand4269
3 жыл бұрын
The
@gingerhughes9303
2 жыл бұрын
I just lost my husband 3 weeks ago, he was 43 and I am 37, to say heartbreaking is a under statement. This woman is so positive, I pray she can continue to heal with strength from God. This is a journey no one wants to walk through
@leahhunt1984
2 жыл бұрын
Young Widow Sister here. It's been 16 Months. He was 41 and I was 37, now 38. We were together 18 years and have 6 Children. I now see why Widows lifespan is definitely shorter than others. I'm actively dying of a broken heart. Prayers to you love.
@veronikapalmer7588
Жыл бұрын
💔💔💔
@amaliagallegos1446
Жыл бұрын
@@leahhunt1984 same 💔
@peachyxoxo9086
Жыл бұрын
Same here. Lost my fiance this Jan 29th to ❤ failure...we have a 8 year old & 4 year old... This is the most challenging thing I've ever been through. I pray the healing part comes soon because it's changed me as a person. 😢 I pray for anyone who loses their spouse.
@cassietheboss9211
Жыл бұрын
Same age of both my husband and I when he passed
@markeayers
3 жыл бұрын
3 weeks is just the beginning. There is no healing from the loss of a spouse in three weeks. Any semblance of normalcy is just a facade. The grieving process takes months, then years, then a lifetime. I hope she keeps a strong support system and her friends and family don't judge her for every action that they don't agree with.
@Feliciations
3 жыл бұрын
Yes, for me, over 20 years later, things are finally feeling a bit better.
@567Kriss
3 жыл бұрын
My mom was 22 already widowed and had a child, if this lady needs someone to talk to that would be my mother.
@LilitLilok
3 жыл бұрын
I was 26 years old when my husband past away (almost 4 years ago), our daughter was 5 at the time. I hated being called a widow or attending support groups. I felt like I was robbed of my happiness, most widows in the group had time with their husbands and I only had few years with him. 6 months ago, I started dating an amazing man, he lost his mom when he was 5, weirdly he has that special bond with my daughter. It was hard, but time heals broken hearts!
@pinnedyfinalstand.4298
3 жыл бұрын
Lovev's life true love Never die I know a great and powerful healer that can get back your ex or crua without delay Just forever within 48hours he helped me too immediately
@pinnedyfinalstand.4298
3 жыл бұрын
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@pinnedyfinalstand.4298
3 жыл бұрын
massage him on WhatsApp
@JessicaLeigh
3 жыл бұрын
wow, I would love to talk to this woman. She's so strong. I wish I had her courage and optimism. She's incredible.
@bakeboy78
3 жыл бұрын
@Jessica Leigh, What is stopping you from having that courage and optimism? I'd start there. Sorry, I know you didn't ask for advice from a stranger.
@JessicaLeigh
3 жыл бұрын
@@bakeboy78 as she said, she’s a natural optimist. John as well. I think I’m just a natural pessimist. I’m trying to change it, but it’s so hard. Would love an episode about this Dr John!!
@kimberlysmith7625
3 жыл бұрын
In the insightful words of the great Willie Nelson....." It's not something you get over......it's something you get through."
@thejakelegion
2 жыл бұрын
A lot of hurting people in this comment section. Sending a prayer up for anybody who has lost anyone.
@dluxsolutionsathome5162
3 жыл бұрын
I was widowed 17 years ago at the age of 21. This year I had a major trauma response to an amazing partner and he couldn’t handle my trauma response. Recovering this time around is HARD!
@julietaluna1117
Жыл бұрын
I just lost mine a month ago at 21 , I’m scared of living a life without him
@JYO2023
3 жыл бұрын
I lost my husband at a young age not quite as young as yours but young you never get over it you have to grieve don’t let anybody say “you’re grieving tell you what to think or how to feel and always have something to look forward to if you can. Because in time it will get a little easier but you’ll never get over it. But you’re young enough hopefully you will meet someone that can’t replace him but will treat you very well. I believe that God is the only one who can help us with this type of grief or any situation really. He’s the one that has sustained me God has.
@jellyrcw12
3 жыл бұрын
Wow the caller is so insightful and shared a lot of gentle loving insights. Sending her and everyone love, healing, and peace
@shandramorris5038
Жыл бұрын
I was widowed last summer my husband passed by suicide so unexpectedly at age 35. Left me with a 9,7, and 4 year old children. It’s been a year now and I’m finally feeling like I can think about dating and moving forward again. Young widowhood is not easy for sure, but choosing to be present and hope for a future again helps so much.
@jeremyzamorano4774
3 жыл бұрын
Sorry for your loss. Will be praying for you. Thank you for being here for these people, John.
@lv8902
3 жыл бұрын
This was HEAVY! 3 weeks and to call in is crazy to me but shout out to her for making that step. Hoping she heals properly.
@fembot521
3 жыл бұрын
Ugh I just lost my husband of 20 yrs at 45. He died suddenly of cardiac arrest. We have two daughters aged 11 and 8. It’s a tough road.
@msi8311
3 жыл бұрын
I’m sorry for your loss
@bryniarskifamily
2 жыл бұрын
This is so similar to what happened to me on April 21st, nearly a month ago. My husband was 41, I’m 40. Our children are 11, 10, and 6. He passed from sudden cardiac arrest. His second heart attack. I’ve been trying to find someone who understands. How on earth did you get through this?
@isay207
Жыл бұрын
I was widowed at 38 people often said to me your young you'll move on and find someone new ( I knew they weren't trying to be hurtful) but it was they did not understand how much pain I was in and dismissed the fact that I was grieving when you are in the throws of grief you can imagine being happy again😢
@Nikkisweeets
Жыл бұрын
Grief is like being lost in the woods… the further you let yourself wander into the darkness the more lost you feel. Lost my husband to ALS 5 months ago
@courtneynettles7016
3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for doing this show. I have been listening to you (and Dave) since the start and love your content. I just looked a few days ago at your topics for something along this line and think the stars aligned today. I too just lost my husband on 4/30/21. Not the same way, my husband had a routine procedure and suddenly died 4 hours after. August would be 4 years of marriage.We are in our 40’s and it was my first marriage. Laura, I feel your pain yet your strength. I’ve had a huge outpouring of love and support and being a person that has never accepted help or asked for help easily, I will say, just showing up is the best way. The most helpful things were people just seeing what was needed and doing it. I don’t know what I need... except, a break on the carbs, please! :) Proud of you for making it through the show. I didn’t think I could do the speech at the funeral, but I made it and I’m oh so happy I did. I didn’t want any regrets regarding that. He deserved to be honored, because like your husband, my husband was very well loved too. Peace, love and light to you. ❤️
@janae09
3 жыл бұрын
Laura, you are so insightful. There truly are no words. Sending prayers your way.
@kiafaridge7101
Жыл бұрын
There are people who will take advantage of your shock and weakened state. Do not deal with contractors or make big financial decisions for at least a year. No major changes. This is standard advice for good reasons.
@MC10046
3 жыл бұрын
I just lost my boyfriend. I can empathize with her so much, it’s crazy. Thank you for sharing 💐
@yaretagnel4874
3 ай бұрын
I am speechless, what an amazing woman. I love you John, RIP Jordan
@KrogunDK
2 жыл бұрын
What a lady. RIP Jordan.
@jeepchicful
3 жыл бұрын
I lost my husband in November of 2020. I have a 1 year old and a 6 year old. He died of natural causes in our home. Our kids keep me going
@juliaclaire89
3 жыл бұрын
This is just heartbreaking, but what an amazing call. Anyone going through this, I would highly recommend they listen to this. She is so well-spoken and communicates so clearly.
@pinnedyfinalstand.4298
3 жыл бұрын
Lovev's life true love Never die I know a great and powerful healer that can get back your ex or crua without delay Just forever within 48hours he helped me too immediately
@pinnedyfinalstand.4298
3 жыл бұрын
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@pinnedyfinalstand.4298
3 жыл бұрын
massage him on WhatsApp
@carolynfulton4060
5 ай бұрын
This young lady is wise-may God bless her with peace and a new love who is worthy of her.
@florsaldana2120
3 жыл бұрын
This has been by far one of the best segments I have heard! First I am sorry for your loss, myself coming up on my 6 year anniversary of sobriety, it NEVER GETS EASY!!! I have an amazing husband whom listens to me and understands me, but she describe exactly what a lot of us RECOVERY are going through. Once again, THANK YOU SO MUCH!!!!
@pinnedyfinalstand.4298
3 жыл бұрын
Lovev's life true love Never die I know a great and powerful healer that can get back your ex or crua without delay Just forever within 48hours he helped me too immediately
@pinnedyfinalstand.4298
3 жыл бұрын
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@pinnedyfinalstand.4298
3 жыл бұрын
W.H. A.T.Z.A.P.P.l.m
@RobertaRico705
2 ай бұрын
Lost my husband in 2019. It was devastating. He died right in front of me from a pulmonary embolism, sepsis, and cancer, the cancer was in remission.. but ya.. he hit the ground i tried to lift him up.. there was nothing i could do. I just screamed and screamed. The paramedics , fire department, everyone came the police... i just screamed for the 911 operator to get someone to help now... I was 33 he was 38. I'm 38 now... ive been able to - not move on, but move forward. I fell in love with one of his childhood friends... We've been together for a couple years now, about to buy a home together. It was the loss of my husband that brought us together. It was so hard and sad going through what I went through. I never thought I'd find love again. You just gotta open your heart. Life is about loving. I'm happy right now, nothing would make my husband happier. I know that in my heart
@reneeantwi-boasiako3974
2 ай бұрын
I'm so sorry 🙏🏿 ❤️
@klwheeler1590
Жыл бұрын
You were right there is no positive here….three weeks in…that’s so soon. Losing a loved one that young…even if someone gets help because of it…it’s not positive. It’s a glimmer of light , I agree with the host and I’m also so proud of the bravery of the young widow. So enlightening
@chaseluinstra2901
3 жыл бұрын
What an incredible, emotionally advanced person
@miketheyunggod2534
6 ай бұрын
I lost my wife in May. I day before her birthday. It’s the hurt that keeps on hurting. 😔.
@reneeantwi-boasiako3974
5 ай бұрын
I'm so sorry 🙏🏿❤
@salonsavy6476
3 жыл бұрын
What a beautiful soulful lady !,, god bless her !,, stay strong ,, keep the lord close 🙏🙏
@HitmanChase
3 жыл бұрын
I’m not crying, It’s just allergies I swear. I feel for you ma’am.
@ruthmckee4905
3 жыл бұрын
John. I think you say graceful when you mean gracious. Does not make you any less awesome. I say soldier when I mean shoulder.
@pinnedyfinalstand.4298
3 жыл бұрын
Lovev's life true love Never die I know a great and powerful healer that can get back your ex or crua without delay Just forever within 48hours he helped me too immediately
@pinnedyfinalstand.4298
3 жыл бұрын
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@pinnedyfinalstand.4298
3 жыл бұрын
massage him on WhatsApp
@dianabentz3380
13 күн бұрын
As a grief counselor I could write a book on what not to say to people who are going through grief.
@carriebeaty9619
3 жыл бұрын
One of my family members is a recovering addict. He struggled all through our teen years and early 20’s. He still struggles but has learned from it. My heart goes out to her because I know what it’s like to love someone who struggles from addiction and anxiety. One of the best things I did was to attend Al-Anon meetings. This is something that would greatly benefit her in finding peace here. God bless her and her optimism!
@pinnedyfinalstand.4298
3 жыл бұрын
Lovev's life true love Never die I know a great and powerful healer that can get back your ex or crua without delay Just forever within 48hours he helped me too immediately
@pinnedyfinalstand.4298
3 жыл бұрын
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@pinnedyfinalstand.4298
3 жыл бұрын
massage him on WhatsApp
@0ptixs
3 жыл бұрын
Oh goodness, I thought your daughter was going to ask if that person with a large belly was pregnant. My brother did that on an elevator to a larger set woman when we were younger... That was super awkward
@JYO2023
3 жыл бұрын
I have more happiness than ever before after my husband died. I learned to become who I was an M and what I could be
@tonymarin909
3 жыл бұрын
Whats up John, Tony from ontario california 🏀
@lorraineb5136
Жыл бұрын
Love on the people in your life. Be present with them, and 100% pour out how much you care for them to them in the moment. Make a memory that is so profound, so powerful that it sustains your souls for the rest of your lives. Because it may need to. I love my husband, I miss him.
@Sails7Seas0171
2 жыл бұрын
I lost my wife about two weeks ago, I am 26 she was 30
@moniquedefranca5759
2 жыл бұрын
Im so sorry. Do you have a support system?
@cindymcginnis8201
3 жыл бұрын
What a strong lady
@userasdf1546
3 жыл бұрын
My wife's grandmother became a widow at 25 with 4 girls. She had a rough life
@minziwinzi2554
3 жыл бұрын
Your daughter was great 😀 Mine is also 5 years. They are sweet like chocolate and explosive as dynamite at the same time
@coastsalishnative241
Жыл бұрын
I am coming up on the 4th year as a widower dad of 2. My daughter is 14 my son is 11. I lost my mate of 13 years to a overdose in 2019. I ended up getting into the hardest drugs for a year straight after she O.D. In the shower. I overdosed a month after she passed, 2 narcans and 10 minutes of cpr brought me back to life. The first second my eyes opened I seen the paramedics and angrily said wtf did you bring me back for! I was cold as an ice cube because it was November 30th. I used hard drugs for a year straight, I literally stayed high everyday until I got clean July 13th 2020! Which happens to be my little sister birthday. While in inpatient treatment, my councilor said that I should do a grief and loss letter to her. It took me about a month to write it and I read it at the smudge pit around 4:30-5:00pm right before dinner and ended the letter with “let me know that you’re still there, that I’m not alone “ and burnt it with my group. The following morning I was sitting on the lawn at 8 in the morning and a small wild bird came and landed next to me starting chirping, hopped on my knee and continued chirping and then pooped on my shin. I came back home and it took me 27 months to regain full custody of our children and ironically we moved into our 3 bedroom apartment on their mother birthday. Jesus 👑 is the way
@paolaespinoza1559
11 ай бұрын
Beautiful 🙏🏼 God knows what he was doing when he brought you back. My husband passed June 2023… from an overdose as well. I plan on staying sober for the rest of my life in his honor. He was 3 years sober of alcohol but unfortunately fell for another substance that ultimately took him from us😢
@salonsavy6476
3 жыл бұрын
When my son was little,, we were in a grocery store checkout and a black man was standing behind us,, my son looked at him and started screaming,, I was so mortified,, I froze and that wonderful man just smiled at him and didn’t say a word ,, I paid for my groceries and left ,,, 😩😬
@aaronmoyer4722
3 жыл бұрын
Should’ve paid for his as well. Just my opinion, not actual advice
@JustFollowthePetals
3 жыл бұрын
@@aaronmoyer4722 lol
@LoganMaddoxfilms
3 жыл бұрын
Best.Episode.Ever.
@pamelatd
3 жыл бұрын
"Where are we going?" 💜😍
@Vanilla_Phil
2 жыл бұрын
I couldn’t imagine what I’d do if I lost my wife. She is my best friend!
@misstbikini
5 ай бұрын
Thank u for sharing this, helped me, i wasnt seeing through the correct lense at the time how i missed all the medical signs and red flags to save my husband, he died suddenly from blood clots i missed the signs
@TheHopeofIsraelWorldwide
3 жыл бұрын
Thank you Dr. John
@leanhnguyet71
3 жыл бұрын
Life's still tough with those couples of normal people at times , and much more challenging with the partners with their unwanted illnesses and addiction . What should we do ?. That's our decisions to love them and to face with the problems ....
@giovannicortez4448
3 жыл бұрын
This was important. For many
@mar3053
3 жыл бұрын
I have a question: I met a newly widower on a dating site. His wife died a few weeks prior he started flirting with me. He had a happy marriage . Is this a normal behavior? I was frankly quite shocked how fast he started dating again.
@bstoked
3 жыл бұрын
Yes, I'd say it's common. As a widow I've been in many support groups. It's actually so common among widowers that it is a regular subject. It confuses the men as well. I think we just process things differently. Men seem to move on very quickly but i don't think it's a reflection of their love for their late spouse. Still, I would avoid looking for a serious relationship with someone that fresh into grief.
@walkaboutwidower9462
2 жыл бұрын
I agree with Bevin. A few weeks is probably too soon for a serious relationship, but it does always depend and depends what you're looking for... I lost my wife unexpectedly in 2016 and speaking from just my experience I dated too soon. As a counselor told me as well... "I wouldn't want to be the first person someone dated after a divorce." Depending on the situation, it may take him some time to figure out what he really wants. Hope that helps.
@alimatambwe3402
10 ай бұрын
We all a widows are here and lessen,I lost my husband in 2009,he left me with 6children he was 34 I was 27 I have never remarried again I think no one can be there for my children with good intentions because I sow another Mother she was a widow too,and she remarried again but that was happen,the men who married her,he was wielded he was rape her children when she was not home,she came found out was too later but that men goes in prison,that something broke my hurts and said I ll not remarried to any men until now I’m 40 years old and my children have moved on a little ahead they have had,and I’m thank God🙏🙏.
@brightpage1020
Жыл бұрын
A good friend’s widow is dealing with this. I’d like to know how to help her better.
@PCKA1987
3 жыл бұрын
Well, My 5 year old son told my husband’s boss who has an epic beard 🧔🏻 “you are a HAMSTER!” With the biggest smile on his face. I was mortified, to day the least. 😨 😂 but we all kinda laughed about it. Then we had the conversation at home.
@maryanne1367
2 ай бұрын
2:39 at least she didn’t ask him if he was pregnant…lol
@KidTheRedRanger
3 жыл бұрын
What's with the devil horn hand bronze statue in the background. Is it "rock on," "hail Satan," or how/when was the gesture co-opted by christians?
@waitamin7132
3 жыл бұрын
When does he go LIVE??
@azteca6695
3 жыл бұрын
I sound like the lady you're daughter was talking about....And, yes I'm backed up.
@hanooi7450
3 жыл бұрын
Sorry to hear how she lost her husband to drug overdose. Drugs alters a person's soul. Tell how he died and we can tell how he lived.
@DorothyM45
2 жыл бұрын
She’s still in the shock of it all. Wait til it wears off and “real life” starts up again. Not easy.
@eatpigsnot
3 жыл бұрын
that is tough, and it's not a contest as to which is worse, but i think people in their 30's and older who never had a relationship or even a date have it just as bad if not worse
@kamarwashington
3 жыл бұрын
Kinda disagree. You don’t know what you’re missing until you’ve had it
@crazeekids9744
3 жыл бұрын
I don’t know that one is better or worse, but there is definitely a difference in having an empty place that has never been filled and having an empty place because something has been ripped out of you.
@eatpigsnot
3 жыл бұрын
@@crazeekids9744 well said
@dluxsolutionsathome5162
3 жыл бұрын
Building a life, dreams and sharing a space with someone and having it suddenly shattered - worst experience ever. We raise children to grow up and build lives, they move on. Relationships that spend every day together. Every day - all day and that person is suddenly gone to never see or hear again. Never sleep with. It absolutely sucks.
@Feliciations
3 жыл бұрын
Judas, have you lost someone significant in your life? You can't know grief until you have felt it. It knocks you out, bowls you over, breaks you down. Grief is immense and huge and one of the most painful things to experience in this life.
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