I am somebody who feared change. To an extend that when it was inevitable to change I got depressed! I was looking for certainty and fearing failure. Then I read Who moved my cheese! It changed every thing. After I made that decision there was uncertainty and i did fail. But it all worked out in the end. I did get what I cherished. And am happy that I made that decision.15 years later I am making yet another big change to my career! This time it is voluntary and not inevitable. I re-read who moved my cheese and your video made me confident again.
@carladossantos1142
25 күн бұрын
@@shahid7635 wow, thank you for these words. They really helped me! And so did your book suggestion! I hope you are in an amazing place today! :)
@PeterCianci
3 жыл бұрын
Do my gifts/talents and desires align with this decision? Shade, I love how you put these subject matters into much better perspectives! Thank you!
@ShadeZahrai
3 жыл бұрын
Thanks Peter for the kind words! I'm happy you appreciated the topic and video 😊🙏
@maggiesun5423
3 жыл бұрын
This totally comes at a right time! It soothed me to believe that this less travelled path, wherever it leads to, will be worth the journey! Thank you Shade!
@ShadeZahrai
3 жыл бұрын
Hi Maggie! I’m so happy it was timely for you! And that’s exactly right - it’s all about how you learn & grow from the experience 👌🧡
@AksharRamsundra
3 жыл бұрын
You are the most beautiful woman I've ever seen with the most beautiful advice I've ever heard.
@ruheanabegum9554
3 жыл бұрын
Shade at her best, once again! So articulate, eloquent and always spot on !
@tinachaudhary6585
3 жыл бұрын
But she speaks very fast.atleast thats wat i feel.
@a.w.5684
2 жыл бұрын
One more question that I would suggest to add here (or to add under any of your questions as a sub-question) is: "Is my decision driven by others or forced by someone?" This question is relatable in sense of relations, or also in job. Some negative people are so manipulative and scrupulous that they convince us its what we want to do, while actually its been forced or say, emotionally blackmailed (in relationship). Yet it can be also forced upon with help of fear of any person or any future-event. The trick is to make decision-maker think all the time its his or her decision without him or her knowing they have been tactfully influenced, manipulated and lastly, made believe by someone... The manipulator could be a friend, a lover, a family-person, a collegue, a senior or boss, etc. Add this question if you feel this question must be included and is worth asking to one's self. I question this to myself often. When i noticed I found that in my surroundings, many decisions are taken by people under someone's influence/emotional blackmail or out of someone's fear.
@TRWhite474747
8 ай бұрын
She addressed that in the video
@rameshadhikari3285
Ай бұрын
I really used to worry about the decisions I made, whether they were right or not. Now I can be more confident about them. Thank you a lot.
@roohulaminkhan5437
3 жыл бұрын
Am gonna start a new job. Just in time when I needed it the most... The scientific and psychological angle you provide, it is so simple that we can relate to them and even verify them with our past experiences. This makes your advices super trustworthy.... just love them all :)
@ShadeZahrai
3 жыл бұрын
Thank you and best of luck Roohul!
@jigs2004
3 жыл бұрын
I always look forward for your videos..there's always something interesting n new to know..I make sure that I don't miss out on any of them..agree, ego satisfaction should not be the only reason to make a decision..I think ppl grow over the time n realise things from their experience,but videos like these help in preventing huge errors..
@ShadeZahrai
3 жыл бұрын
Thanks for the kind words! I'm glad that you're enjoying what we share on the channel. You're so right there - things always appear much clearer in hindsight... and little reminders can always help in the moment. 👌
@SurajThapar
3 жыл бұрын
Yep. Thanks for always reminding us!
@ankushwakchaure9327
Жыл бұрын
It’s not about the decision it is about anticipation of obstacles during course of decision, prepared for surprises and plan how to respond to it, so that it becomes more informed journey rather than surprises
@aristides.almeida
3 жыл бұрын
Thanks Shade for sharing. I passed through this earlier this year. Huge career change. In the middle of the pandemic. The third question was decisive to take the change... And I'm still very excited with it...
@ShadeZahrai
3 жыл бұрын
That's great to hear Aristides! Congratulations on the career change! Very happy to hear you're still excited about it... the sight of the right path for you 🙂
@aristides.almeida
3 жыл бұрын
@@ShadeZahrai Regards from Brazil 😉
@devarena9130
3 жыл бұрын
This video just touched my heart. And without knowing i actually ended up following exact same 3 steps that you mentioned. Last year i got fired from an IT QA software enginner position after which i sat at home developing my software development skills in to Web and App development area of expertise just because my heart is totally in to it and i ever wanted to persue this skills from long time but never got chance and time to develop these skills. Now after mastering this skill for 1.5 year i am starting my own online development teaching platform and may start applying for job next year. But i feel more confident and worthy of my decision and i feel getting fired was the best thing that cound have happened in my life. I have been watching your channel from recent 3 months and i cant tell you how much valuable your content is to me for dealing day to day challanges at work being a software enginner. Please do let me know if you have some online workshops running which we can attend as i am from India. Really thanks a lot for all your valuable efforts.Your skills, knowledge, wisdom and efforts are extra-ordinary. :)
@ShadeZahrai
3 жыл бұрын
This is such a beautiful comment! Thank you for sharing this with me! I’m so happy for you, that after 1.5 years of mastering these new skills you’re now ready to start your own online development teaching platform - that’s fantastic! And that you’ll be applying for relevant jobs... I’m so happy you’re feeling more confident - you’ve absolutely stepped-up and taken back control of your life and career. 💪 I’m so happy that you enjoy the content we share here! We don’t have any public webinars or workshops at this point, but hopefully soon! Thank you again for taking the time to write this lovely comment, and wishing you all the best with the next steps in your career! 🙏🙂
@devarena9130
3 жыл бұрын
@@ShadeZahrai You are welcome and Thanks again for putting up such useful content on your channel.. In case you start webinars or workshops in future please post info / schedule on channel about that .
@priyaranjan1970
Жыл бұрын
I have been running after doing a Data Sciences course, (a largely ego-driven decision) but your video opened my eyes...looking forward to becoming a successful KZitemr one day - I know it won't be easy, but CAN be just as rewarding as a full-time job with Google, with foresight, imagination, and perseverance. I confide in you that I watch a lot of educational and musical videos on KZitem. 😃 😊
@vikramsrivastava2730
3 жыл бұрын
Thanks, very insightful👏 recently I realized that the best decision will give u the sense of freedom and no bondage (activating ur heart, mind and soul)
@ShadeZahrai
3 жыл бұрын
Well said! 👌
@Dinesh-ks4yc
2 ай бұрын
You know what , the thought of the weather , really comes to my mind. I've been living in the UAE , for a long period of time , on and off. But , moving to California shortly . It cannot be the only reason , but the major thing for me , these days , is that earlier I could take the extreme weather conditions. Now I'm not able to. I glanced at , what Google told me is , that it's 24 degrees celcius in California, a few days back. And it said , feels like 24. That felt good actually
@unknown-is9lm
2 жыл бұрын
Your voice is so calming 💕.
@roadking1962
3 жыл бұрын
These are decisions which can be taken when a person has choice to think. For an average, middle class person (including myself) most of the vital decision are taken under certain and/or painful, situations and/or circumstances.
@Musiq4all
Жыл бұрын
I believe change is always good if it comes in my way! It refreshes me from within, keeps in look forward for the next moment to happen and cherish the moments where I can share the effect of change with others!
@LetsBeHuman
2 жыл бұрын
I came across your videos in 2021. I don't why I feel soo positive after watching your videos. I decided to watch all your videos during my winter break, but couldn't. Starting it now. Video no: 1 done. THis is very helpful filter. Thanks.
@growwithradhika778
3 жыл бұрын
God bless you Angel, your outer beauty is truly a reflection of how beautiful you are from the inside ❤️ Keep inspiring us, it's such a delight to watch you
@bethlehemhailu4302
3 жыл бұрын
"...except having children or skydiving without a parachute." Loved that.😂
@shabbirchowdhury6142
3 жыл бұрын
Shade you & your team are too good. You all bring tremendous value to our mindset, our insight, our skill set and the quality of our work. Your content is absolutely brilliant, the pleasant tonal quality , your relevant content, the set & lighting the video making, editing and titles, etc. Top grade content and a sure winner
@ShadeZahrai
3 жыл бұрын
Thank from both my husband and I for your kind words and encouragement. We're glad that you're getting value from them. 🙏🏽😊
@shabbirchowdhury6142
3 жыл бұрын
May God bless both of you with raving success & abundance of everything that you need in life from my family & I.
@ehsanghorbankhani9382
2 жыл бұрын
God bless you, this is what I really needed it. Tomorrow is my first day at work as an intern, and I was so anxious and sad because I was dwelling with tons of thoughts whether if this was a wise choice or not. This gonna be a huge challenge for me as this is somehow new area for me and the task by itself is so demanding.
@Moneyandfood
2 жыл бұрын
We will always be faced with that question. I set up my business but borrowed thinking my pension fund in my Life insurance policy will cover my debt when it comes due. The insurance company was sold so now I am trying to run after the new owners. But good vid though!
@akash-hx5ut
Жыл бұрын
This totally comes at a right time! It soothed me to believe that this less travelled path, wherever it leads to, will be worth the journey!
@EzekJohnson
3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for another very educative and practical video, Shadé. God bless you
@ShadeZahrai
3 жыл бұрын
Thanks Ezekiel! Glad you found this helpful 🙂
@EzekJohnson
3 жыл бұрын
@@ShadeZahrai You’re very welcome.
@KJO13
2 жыл бұрын
Wow this is the best video from your channel I have watched. Maybe I’m in that situation to take the next step in life. 👌👌👌thank you.
@jagrutshah7518
3 жыл бұрын
You have strengthen my way of thinking about goal setting with these three questions you have quoted as i am working on Year Planning chart to assess my past experience with current scenario for better and progressive future.
@ShadeZahrai
3 жыл бұрын
I’m so happy to hear that! Your Year Planning chart sounds great. I just released a new video today about planning for 2021 - hope you enjoy it!
@DJTripleY
3 жыл бұрын
Found "the Padgett Messages". Started following the Divine Love path. Best decision of my life.
@RAKESH084
2 жыл бұрын
Hi, thanks for sharing life saving techniques. My practice was, 'assuming' I have taken the decision and see if my mind is nervous or calm, the calm decision is the right decision.
@Earthtime3978
6 ай бұрын
Sometime bad decisions are not just switching jobs, it could be quitting a good job that dramatically effects you life going forward. Your finances and status are never the same again in the most negative of ways. That was 18 years ago for me and I relive it every day, even now at 60 years old.
@tinachaudhary6585
3 жыл бұрын
I think one shd weigh all the pros & cons if we hv to make a choice between 2 or more options. And so many decisions cannot be reversed.smtimes we r taking a risk. All said & done,i wd prefer to pray and discuss the advantages & disadvantages of taking a decision wd the experts who know their job & then take a calculsted risk.& u know wat,smtimes we do not hv a choice.Smtimes sm things hv to be done just cz the other choice is not safe enough in any/various ways. She speaks so fluently & is very impressive both looks wise and regarding her ability of being a good orator. But Shade,pls speak at a lill slower pace. I wish all of us women were like her,.....good looking & impressive regarding speaking skills & understanding life & ppl in a logical manner.💜
@evnsriram
2 жыл бұрын
I'm just going thru something which made me question my decision and here is your video helping me with the tips! KZitem probably read my mind! Thanks for the tips!
@yashaswinil7485
2 жыл бұрын
Wow, your English is so good, I request you to make separate Playlist for English speaking
@gargipravinkubde6795
Жыл бұрын
Thank you, I found this helpful in choosing a course for my masters and I will try my best to make it right
@dasarishivakumar5069
3 жыл бұрын
I am always remembering your face whenever I am taking decisions especially the last 3 concepts said by you, 1. helping me grow 2.ego and 3. excitement, thanks a lot @shadéZaharai
@AAAA5730
7 ай бұрын
You speak so well and convincingly. Thank you. Just one observation. You seem to speak so fast, it looks like anxiety to say it all quickly. Slow down a bit. It will sound even more effective.:)
@SafiullahWasiullah
3 жыл бұрын
Actually we learn about decision, but never think about MAINTAINING the decision, and that is the lacking.....if we have to grow so we must learn about maintaining our decisions.....Nice one Shade...regards #SafiullahWasiullah
@ShadeZahrai
3 жыл бұрын
That's a great point - committing and maintaining momentum are really important factors. Thanks for the comment.
@jinkycastor9115
2 жыл бұрын
Glad I found this video, I just accepted the role and I know I made the right decision. Thanks for sharing this ❤
@sergioortiz1839
2 жыл бұрын
This also works with choosing a partner. Are you with them because you want to prove that you have game or because you really want to share your life with someone of genuine value!!!
@hewadkhan107
2 жыл бұрын
The whole world should know about you . you are life savior !
@heshamhassan9822
3 жыл бұрын
your videos are great and very helpful, thank you.
@ShadeZahrai
3 жыл бұрын
Thanks Hesham - glad you enjoyed it 🙏
@hafiz786nasir
Жыл бұрын
I am just loving the way, each and every topic you discuss. Putting study references and at the end giving tips/suggestions Thanks for such supportive videos
@46vighnesh
3 жыл бұрын
Your channel came as a Hidden Gem 💎 in KZitem shorts!! Thankyou for Video!!
@ShadeZahrai
3 жыл бұрын
Welcome!
@Teachingbydanishsir
Жыл бұрын
Exactly I was looking for. Thank you so much ma'am.
@Shyam8174
Жыл бұрын
❤️☯️ Totally Agree with you
@chaossage8852
2 жыл бұрын
I was trying to decide on which course i should be studying and thank God i found this video, this really helped thank you ms.zharai
@abbasfakhruddin866
2 жыл бұрын
This video helped me make a major decision, and made me believe I'm making the right one, Thank you...
@aatali2001
3 жыл бұрын
Very nicely and clearly explained. Those three questions would make my life a little easy. A bagful of Thank you!
@ShadeZahrai
3 жыл бұрын
In exchange of a bagful of you're are welcomes!
@nq1322
2 жыл бұрын
Hi Shade, your videos are amazing. It’s good to see a young women like you have so much knowledge and confidence. Your advise and tips are highly beneficial.
@thehealingsaga3750
2 жыл бұрын
This video helped in finding my vision . Thank you !
@moving.quotes
3 жыл бұрын
This actually aligns with Bhagvad Gita Do the action. Don't think about outcome, if you do, then you will be polluting your action. You only have choice of action while outcome is beyond humans choice.
@edigweoghenero3510
Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much. I appreciate you, you just gave me clarity. God bless you Love❤
@stefaandeswert377
2 жыл бұрын
Even when i ask myself these questions. I can't make an honest decision for myself. I have a serious issue with indecisiveness it's painful. I am currently in a situation where i am homeless in 2 weeks. So i have found a place to live on a 1 year contract. But it doesn't feel good. I feel like I have to move abroad for a while, but i never end up doing it because i keep procrastinating the decision. To a point where i don't know what it is i truly want anymore.
@anujsahare1021
2 жыл бұрын
These are the most important questions to ask ourselves in decision making Process. Thanks a lot for simplifying these Complex topics 😇
@mohammednishadh6284
2 жыл бұрын
feeling is important
@ahmedjamalhumakani
2 жыл бұрын
Heck yes! this was really helpful.
@somayehkhatibi2060
Жыл бұрын
Best decision making tool, thanks million
@varshayadav5621
2 жыл бұрын
Need of the hour! Tysm ma'am 🙏
@AryaGiram
8 ай бұрын
1) will this help me grow, will i challenge myself 2) is my decision based on rgo, a title, feel good factor, validation, chasing title or stuff, hedonic treadmil, short term ego, because they said so is a big RED FLAG be invested in for the right reason not just becoz they want me to 3) does that excite you? 4) does it hurt someone do i have th e means to get it done
@fadiaburass
3 жыл бұрын
I think that any decision should always be made on rational and balanced analysis of the pros and cons ... ignoring the downsides and focusing only on the possible good outcome can sometimes lead to disastrous results ... and this is from experience ... I agree with your qualifying questions concept however
@baljitsingh8757
Жыл бұрын
Thanks for thanks shade for positive inspiration 🎉
@Ajay_the_invincible_1997
2 жыл бұрын
You are a Gem.❤️ These 3 are the most important questions to ask. Thank You for this video. 💯
@lawrencefox563
2 жыл бұрын
Good info ,I'll know if I chose right path when it goes well or not but appreciate your sincerity and well meaning that's often enough to know fans cheering you on.
@ImranBashirIB69
3 жыл бұрын
You always make things interesting. Thank you for your good work. When faced with the paradox of choice, how should one make the right decision? I often struggle with the problem. Kindly illuminate.
@reirey0106
Жыл бұрын
Thank you for the great insight Ma'am Shade 😇🥰
@sengsoipomoung-le1jr
Жыл бұрын
Wonderful ❤❤❤ you sparked my awareness thanku so much wish your welfare and many one may find useful to it and may take correct decision in life
@ayoubkharoub3893
2 жыл бұрын
A great job 👍 Thank you ❤️
@parthasarathi1689
2 жыл бұрын
It's really helpful. Perfect summary and template for decision making. Appreciating your preparation and efforts. Keep up the good work 👍
@ShadeZahrai
2 жыл бұрын
Glad it was helpful!
@ganeshmandal3639
Жыл бұрын
make a video on choosing a career
@confer-to-you3427
Жыл бұрын
Thank you shade for this insight, I also check the worst case scenario as well if it goes wrong and then I can ensure to have enough options to deal with un- intended outcomes.
@dhruvgaba865
3 жыл бұрын
Amazingly clear and impactful work. Thanks a ton you both.
@ShadeZahrai
3 жыл бұрын
Our pleasure! We really appreciate Dhruv! 😊🙏🏽
@vipinvalsan191
3 жыл бұрын
Thanks very helpful...
@ShadeZahrai
3 жыл бұрын
Happy you found it helpful 😊
@lifecoachroufdar
2 жыл бұрын
phenomenal ❤Shade Zahrai
@dr.alokbhardwaj3378
2 жыл бұрын
You blog content is highly valuable.. Shade You always shines⭐✨ in each n every video
@monicachavez9091
Жыл бұрын
Love all this knowledge! Thanks so much for sharing. Please translated your videos to Spanish, I’d love to share it with my family and friends 🙏
@syaminisegaran1345
2 жыл бұрын
Such a refreshing video to help me plan my career development plan!
@KumR
2 жыл бұрын
I am making a huge life decision today.. And this really helped and changed my perspective... Thanks Shade.
@ShadeZahrai
2 жыл бұрын
Glad it was helpful!
@abdelrhimhagag8835
12 күн бұрын
Teacher shade thank you so much ❤
@royalhighness6263
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for this video. Really help me............😇
@redsky7309
3 жыл бұрын
So glad I came across your channel...I'm finding every video really inspiring..thank you
@kaartheikgeiyan6004
2 жыл бұрын
Eloquently elaborated ..
@sohailkhan5987
3 жыл бұрын
Always get something out of your videos shadé. Can you make a video on how to get rid of maladaptive day dreaming in future?
@ShadeZahrai
3 жыл бұрын
I'm so happy to hear that! And thanks for this suggestion - I'll see what we can do in future to address this one. Appreciate it 😊🙏
@sohailkhan5987
3 жыл бұрын
@@ShadeZahrai I'll be waiting fot notification ❤️
@MilindBorkar_MENTOR
Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much 🎉 Shade
@basim313
3 жыл бұрын
As usual, your videos are full of value and make you think differently ... Thanks for all the info you feed us @Shadé Zahrai
@ShadeZahrai
3 жыл бұрын
Thanks Basim - happy you found value in this one 🙏
@farhatfarin3376
9 ай бұрын
hello, i really like how you explain things! your contents have been very useful to me! can you please make a content about how one can do a proper planning for something? for those who are not that good at planning things. TIA 💓
@prashanthb6521
3 жыл бұрын
Excellent points. Thank you.
@ShadeZahrai
3 жыл бұрын
🙏🙏🧡🙂
@patrickeggs4447
3 жыл бұрын
Thank you very much !
@wyattmccain5697
Жыл бұрын
This is Grrreat Content
@heavenline6246
2 жыл бұрын
please make video on self discipline required for preparation of exams
@b0ndrey
2 жыл бұрын
Another great video, thank you!! This applied personally like your recent 5 reasons to quit your job post.
@marygrace5054
3 жыл бұрын
Wowwwww💖💖💖🥰🥰🥰🥰 this is brilliant 💪💪💪 I like all the parts where I'm relates 😜 absolutely perfect again on my situation👏 wowww shadé you made my day again, thank you so much for sharing this tips🙏 it's really helpful for me not to feel hurt on my failures while figuring out the best decision to choose and all the decisions that I'd made or either any Challenge come across into my life showing excellency on this video you've shared. I love it shadé 💖 thank you so much again💖✨🎶
@ShadeZahrai
3 жыл бұрын
Happy to hear you found it relevant Mary Grace! You raise a great point - there's really no use in beating yourself up over 'failures' or decisions that you feel weren't the right ones... it's about regaining control, feeling empowered, and taking action. Wishing you all the best! 😊💪💖
@marygrace5054
3 жыл бұрын
@@ShadeZahrai thank you so much 🙏💖💖💖
@ibnrochd8273
2 жыл бұрын
Greatful!
@favourafinni
2 жыл бұрын
It's like this is pointing directly to me
@nanceemisra
3 жыл бұрын
This video has completely changed my thinking .. Thanks Shade❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
@ShadeZahrai
3 жыл бұрын
My pleasure Nancy 😊 So happy that it opened your mind to new perspectives. 💕
@timcook4552
3 жыл бұрын
makes so much sense.
@nhardzquinto2605
2 жыл бұрын
The decision to choose Love is just a heartbeat away. I'd rather choose Shade than to stay out in the sun.
@bhavloves
2 жыл бұрын
This is exactly what I needed today! Thank you.
@shlomitcdo
7 ай бұрын
you're amazing😊🙏
@TharunsaiB
Жыл бұрын
Always trying to learn
@abdulrazzak3976
3 жыл бұрын
@shadezahrai Thanks for sharing these tips and suggestions to take a good decision in life. You're a Awesome Motivating Person... May God Bless You @Shade 🤲🤲🤲👍👍👍
@ShadeZahrai
3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for your lovely comment Abdul! 🙏
@abdulrazzak3976
3 жыл бұрын
@@ShadeZahrai It's My Pleasure. I am your huge fan... Take Care & Keep Smiling 👍👍👍
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