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@martinaduvenhage1952
2 жыл бұрын
What did you do Kris, while waiting for your release? Did you carry on with your marriage relationship or distance yourself from your husband and just focus on God?
@faithmakwiranzou8422
2 жыл бұрын
Kris what did you do in those 9 years, did you continue to make love to him? Did you live with him like everything is normal while you focused on God? How did you carry yourself around him especially going through all the toxicity?
@lindaaryani5795
2 жыл бұрын
I was married to a narcissistic pastor for 8 years. I’ve never been so depressed in my life than in those years. I wanted to die so badly cause I thought divorce is a huge sin and I really didn’t want to continue in that toxic marriage. But one day I was like you Kris, I thought I don’t care anymore if divorce is a sin, I just wanted to be out so badly! But the worst came after, he started talking bad about me to the entire church and bc he was a pastor, everyone believed him and turned their back on me. Don’t be surprised if you’re now married to a narcissistic and everyone around you including the court be on their side, cause they would play a victim and everyone would feel sorry for him. And remember, these narcissistic people are smart, manipulative, deceptive, they would turn around stories and they are a very good and smooth in talking so everyone would believe their story.
@renesouthafrica
Жыл бұрын
How do i know if i am the narcissist or not pls advise
@beautifultruth4777
Жыл бұрын
Kris how did you navigate interaction between your husband and yourself during the 9 years before you were released?
@Matthew-cz3gk
3 ай бұрын
God delivered my narcissistic husband!! With God all things are possible!!
@jamiebrumant8512
2 ай бұрын
Amen
@allisonayalaeaves4755
25 күн бұрын
Amen!! praying for the day mine is delivered 🙌🏾
@Awhis1
2 күн бұрын
@@Matthew-cz3gk can you share with me how God deliver him please?
@Matthew-cz3gk
2 күн бұрын
@@Awhis1 I was married to him for over 20 years before God revealed that I was dealing with an evil spirit. I started following Jesus wholeheartedly and then the narcissistic abuse got worse. I was contemplating divorce on many occasions but God would not permit me to divorce him. So then I began to literally war in prayer for my husband’s soul. It took two years but God set Him free. He is now living for Christ!!!
@ruthkoning6036
2 жыл бұрын
I was married for 31 years to a porn addicted "Christian" narcissist . He controlled our finances so I was trapped. It took me 20 years to find language for the abuse I was living in. We went to counseling but it was more damaging for me because he used the things I shared to gain more control. I finally got out 4 years ago and for 2 of those years he stalked me and the police had to get involved. The divorce process took 4 years because he used this to try keep me. As of Friday I AM FREE Thank you for sharing this video.
@DJH97
2 жыл бұрын
Oh my word. 30 years for me. Same scenario. Scoped out women right in front of me. Porn. Girlie magazines etc. All the men in the family were the same and one was a pastor. Cause “Eve ate the apple” was what we women heard all the time. Wish I would’ve found Kris earlier. I’ve watched many narcissistic info videos after counselor told me my narcissistic husband was “passive aggressive “. Well. That was just the beginning of my education.
@Kelle0284
2 жыл бұрын
@@DJH97 There's nothing in scripture that says that eve ate an apple.
@christinabrown5499
2 жыл бұрын
I have been married to one for almost 25 years. I want to be free so badly!! I have no money saved and can’t get out, so I’m just trusting God. His grace is sufficient and I know He will bring beauty from my ashes! We tried counseling with our pastor once. He went in there and lied and exaggerated, so I will never do that again. I’m praying for God to open his eyes!! I didn’t know about this disorder until 14 months ago. Learning about it and seeking God has healed me so much.
@ladybugblu60
2 жыл бұрын
@@DJH97 beware of those in the pulpits because that's a hiding place for them.
@rhondaredeemedprodigal
2 жыл бұрын
Oh my goodness 😭. That's so terrible 😢. I'm glad you're finally Free 🙂💘. I'm going through some hell of my own
@sharonbarker5751
Жыл бұрын
My husband gaslights, he gives the silent treatment for days. He is a liar, he goes places, while never telling me where he’s going, or how long he will be gone. He appears to get pleasure from being cruel, he is rude, he speaks to his family and our dogs with kindness, and speaks to me in a totally different tone. He NEVER apologizes-under ANY circumstances, EVER. He gets his feelings hurt constantly! I have to weigh out everything I say before speaking. He can even get offended if you offer to do something for him. That’s a sign that you think he’s stupid. He accuses me of things that he does. In fact, the very things that he does, he accuses me of. He is an alcoholic, passing out drunk, yet denies it. I begged him to go have a physical. He would say, “no, I’m perfect. You’re just trying to speak negative things on me.” Then on October 15th 2022, he had a massive brain stem stroke, and is paralyzed on his right side. Then four months ago, he had TWO heart attacks. He is now back to getting drunk every day, and eating nothing but junk. He is incapable of having a normal conversation. He doesn’t even know how. I’m sorry this is so long. I’m just venting. I feel like I’m going to have a stroke myself, if I don’t get away from him. He is the most passive aggressive person I have ever been around. He is constantly playing games, and bragging about being able to mess with people. Who does that? He has NEVER been affectionate, in fact he’s cold! He doesn’t tell me he loves me, he doesn’t hold my hand, nothing. He says the woman should ask for sex if she wants it-she’s the door keeper. It’s SO creepy and weird. Living with him is hell. The problem is that I’m a Christian. I pray every day, and never miss Mass on Sundays. I feel like I’m drowning:( I started watching this video, and now I’m going to go back and finish it. I pray it has the advice I need. Oh wow! Amen Sister-done!
@dustisiljenberg8339
5 ай бұрын
This is my husband !
@isabellemarienoelle
3 ай бұрын
Same! I can pray and nothing happens. Never miss mass either …
@katoyireaohwonigho8574
2 ай бұрын
Sound like my current situation 😢 I found these videos. Asking God what should I do. But until then I will remain quiet and distant. He now sleeps in the spare room
@sharonbarker5751
2 ай бұрын
@@katoyireaohwonigho8574 I’m so sorry you are going through this. Just know that you are not alone.
@DH-jd8gq
Ай бұрын
Spend some time away and pray. You don't need to go to mass for God to hear you, He is with you where ever you are. He sees all that is going on and He cares about you. Call on the name of Jesus and talk to Him. He wants you to cast your cares on Him so He can carry your burdens. You just need to invite Him into the situation and then listen to His voice on what to do next and be obedient and do what He instructs.
@rhondawallace4090
2 жыл бұрын
I do not agree with you that there are only two reasons for divorce. If a man is emotionally and mentally abusing his wife to the point where she has a nervous breakdown- God does not expect a woman to endure that type of treatment The Bible speaks of abandonment as a reason for divorce. Emotional abandonment is a real thing, is extremely damaging and can be worse than physical abandonment
@SandraMittry
2 жыл бұрын
I agree with you Rhonda. I stayed with a covert narcissistic abusive husband for 31 years because I was taught that the only reason I could divorce him was because of infidelity. My pastor said that my husband broke the "marriage covenant" by being abusive emotionally, psychologically and once physically. Jesus said that if a man only looks at a woman with lust in his heart that he has already committed adultery in his heart. Narcissists are well known for "flirting" with other women in looking for the next possible "narcissistic supply" or replacement target/victim. My husband was very secretive, as most of them are, and I found an email in his computer after we separated where he was hiding the fact that he was having an emotional affair with another woman. My husband's lust problem was a daily battle for him. He always flirted with other women in my presence and always made me feel so uncomfortable. God does not intend for his daughters to suffer abuse of any kind. God calls every believer to conform to the image of Christ. To be "Christlike", to display the fruit of the Spirit which starts with "love". God is Love. Everything about the narcissist is contrary to what God's Word says a true believer is. Shaneen Meghi does a great job describing all the demonic influences and spirits affecting those who call themselves "Christian" when in fact they are being influenced by demonic spirits. Manipulation and control are NOT of God. This is a spirit of witchcraft. Narcissists are also pathological liars! Who is the father of lies? Satan! The Bible clearly states that no "liars" will enter the kingdom of God. Those who make it a habit or a continual practice to lie will not be entering heaven unless they repent of their wicked ways! God can do anything including change a narcissist, but they must be willing to admit their evil ways, but because they are blind to their ways, even though they KNOW right from wrong and KNOW that what they are doing is WRONG, they CHOOSE to continue to do evil and ignore God's truth about these matters.
@gabrielamartiniuc6322
2 жыл бұрын
Abuse is never ok with God. If a husband is toxic and abusive emotionally, is grounds for divorce
@yianlee3278
2 жыл бұрын
@@SandraMittry. Totally Agree with you. I am in this for 29 years. Extremely exhausted until i leave him alone as if he does not exist.
@teriecekuykendall4622
2 жыл бұрын
My love, you and the others please listen again, she clearly mentions that type of abuse!!!!
@authenticme5708
2 жыл бұрын
Did you know that when God hates divorce, he's speaking about the spiritual divorce the abuser did when he left God. The abuser is divorced from God to be the abuser. I left a husband for the abuse. He wasn't willing to repent. Toxic Christianity teaches you have to stay in abuse. I suggest you do some innerwork so that you do not pick another abuser. When God shows me a man with godly character, I'll marry him. God is not in black and white. A person who doesn't turn from their ways, they are still manipulating, and that's the devil's work.
@tg5732
2 жыл бұрын
My daughter is married to a narcissist. We are praying. It is so hard as a mother to see the pain her husband causes her. I sent her this video. Thankyou for making this video. She is so tired and depressed. They have a 2 year old and a 6 month old. My heart breaks for them.Pray for my daughter please.
@cindyreeves5048
2 жыл бұрын
Yes…I prayed, I fasted, I had everyone praying for me, I tried to reason with him, find resolve but nothing made a dent. The day I decided to leave my verbally abusive alcoholic husband (whom I believe could be diagnosed with NPD) was the day I posed the question to myself: “if one of my daughters were the woman in this relationship & told me how he was treating her, what would I do?” I’d tell them I’ll be right there to help you pack; you’re moving in with me! So I took my own advice, put what I needed in my car & drove away. It’s been several weeks now. I left the state, went to family and filed for divorce. 😢 I don’t feel happy, but I have peace. I still constantly pray for him, but now I’m sleeping and able to swallow again. I was that nerve-wracked and tense. 💔
@dilciaenid57
2 жыл бұрын
I’m divorcing my Narc husband. We have 5 & 3 year old. Am keeping them, and me, safe.
@margaretcollins4925
2 жыл бұрын
My daughters too , I suffered narcissistic abuse from him and his family but I escaped but now my daughters are suffering! ❤️❤️❤️❤️
@mariskagolden7308
2 жыл бұрын
❤🙏
@florabraswell8423
2 жыл бұрын
Bless her heart and yours too ! Prays 🙏🙏🙏
@dottiEpre
8 ай бұрын
I’m hear to testify that God has turned it around for me. My husband has been changed and it was all through God speaking directly to his heart through prayer , the Word and a Holy Spirit filled Christian counselor. There was a time He had no interest in counseling, respecting me or anything. Talking to Him wasn’t working anymore. I truly feel loved and valued again by my husband. Be constant in prayer ladies and I thank God for this video because I literally thought my husband was possessed and didn’t even know what to pray. He was covert. I listened to this video and it described the exact change in my husband. Stop talking and start praying against this Narcissistic demon. It was a long two years of pain and confusion for me before God restored my husband.
@barboranovotna6070
6 ай бұрын
He likely did not have the disorder, just few narcissistic traits.
@rosalindr4975
Ай бұрын
Rare . Thanks for sharing
@dawntate6723
Жыл бұрын
Hi Kris, this is Dawn. I think I'm the Dawn that asked you the question that you made this video about. I just came across the video tonight - 2 years later. I've been divorced from him for a year and a half now. I just couldn't live with his craziness anymore. I know it wasn't Biblical reason but i was setting a horrible example for my daughter's of taking way too much in my marriage. I'm free and at peace most of the time now but still struggle sometimes. Thank you so much for what you do.
@rosebettencourt8928
Жыл бұрын
She is right.. I just left a 16 year toxic, covert narcissist.. I was a minister..I prayed hard.. spent hours every day with God.. did everything in the book and I drew very close to God as he began to open my eyes to the severity of the situation. I had no voice, no money, isolated from friends and took care of his dysfunctional drug addict and narcissistic family and had to ignore my own, Stripped of everything, micromanaged my every move, recorded calls, suspended my phone. I had so much before I met him and lost it all.. After I received deliverance from the dark forces that drew me into such horror.. God RELEASED ME. I moved away and God even released any grief or sorrow.. to the point where I don’t miss or desire to return to the vomit. When God releases you.. it is a whole different ball game! Love yourself
@bronzinagordon9512
Жыл бұрын
Oh my God🙏never knew so many suffered like me!!! I'm waiting ..26yrs now...to be released...have to..my tears ..I thought I had mo me.. are streaming silently now...how can one person take all this abuse and not die on the inside?!😢...the loss of things is 1 thing ...but to lose what you have in Christ😢😢😢😢
@lisasmith4958
Жыл бұрын
This is my situation right here
@claracb1512
Жыл бұрын
That's me too. God in His mercy is delivering me and giving me clarity
@emmaculatemenzeiwa
Жыл бұрын
I'm in the verge of leaving a 23 marriage because I've been stripped off everything in the name of a Christian. I'm done and God is showing me the way out. Thank you Jesus
@H0meN0w
Жыл бұрын
Going thru this now with my husband & man it’s a mental mind blow. I was told there’s no cure but I’m praying. God help us all 😢
@AleksandraAltynai
3 ай бұрын
Dear God! Heavenly Father! Please! Either release me, or change my situation! I beg you in the name of Jesus.
@triplekids3
2 жыл бұрын
God’s timing is perfect, I was married 33 years to covert narc husband, God said too me put your trust in me, and on August 28/2015, I did, and on August 28/2020 I left all the toxic people in my life, I’m now on my healing journey, and I give God the glory!
@ruthmacharia1784
Жыл бұрын
I left my narcissist husband Three months ago after 6years in marriage with 2 kids and this was the best decision I have ever made.Narcissts never change
@sharonericson480
Жыл бұрын
They seldom change, unless they submit, seek and cling to God. Through Him, all things are possible.
@jdmciviczc
Жыл бұрын
what made you choose him in the first place ?
@user-lo9po5mp5u
Жыл бұрын
They are filled with demons
@MrsDazl
9 ай бұрын
Had a close female friend (my former teacher, 95y.o.) tell me the same thing. Listen to other women, ladies.
@writer1986
Жыл бұрын
Yes, the confusion. I've been married to a covertly narcissist man for 5 years, and I didn't realize it until we had our firstborn. My husband is self-centered, sensitive, rageful, negative, arrogant, easily jealous, you name it (plus all the sweet stuff that makes me go "Ah, this is why I married him"). It took me physically leaving for him to fall off his pedestal and agree to therapy. The changes are slow, but I'm now strong and assertive, and my husband is more thoughtful and gentle towards our kids and me.... Thank you, Lord, indeed, for staying with me and my family all this time.
@juliannarenk1803
3 ай бұрын
Any update or tips?
@johenderson7786
Жыл бұрын
My husband doesn't even tell me he loves me and hasn't told me for years. No physical abuse but a fair amount of verbal abuse....not as much as he use to give. We just had our 40 anniversay and I can honestly say I haven't felt loved for 30 years. At the time of our anniversay I discovered narcissism on youtube. I am like mom or at least that is how I feel, and I am very tired of being the housekeeper. I want to be loved....not used. He has all 7 signs you stated in covert narcissist video. I care about him but I can honestly say I don't love him anymore. And my relationship with God has gone down hill for the last 40 years and I want God back in my life very much....I will have Him back!
@feliciajames5032
Жыл бұрын
I'm so sorry that you've endured this for so long. I'm 46 and divorced my narcissist ex-husband 12 years ago and I was 34 yrs old at the time. We we married for 9.5 years. We had 2 children together. I separated myself from him when I was 31. Long story short, he was the arrogant narcissist, who knew it all, did no wrong and everything was everybody else fault. It was all about him, his timing & he belittled others so he felt better about himself or so he could control the atmosphere or energy in whatever room he was in. His mother told me not to marry him because he was low down, and God rest her soul, she didn't even realize that her son was a narcissist. I didn't even know until we were divorced for nearly 3 years. I would be dead if I stayed with him. Not because he was abusive but because he wasn't loving or empathetic. He would laugh or get pleasure in seeing us (his wife & children) sad or hurt. Leaving him was the very best decision I ever made because 12 years later, he's still the same. But I've been remarried for 3.5 years to the absolute most loving, caring, empathetic, and humble man ever. It breaks my heart that you've lived 30 years of your marriage basically unloved. Praying for you!🙏
@jennytaylor6476
3 жыл бұрын
Amen! 33 years of covert-ness along with sadistic-ness. SO many lies, affairs etc. Etc. God and faith is the only thing that got me thru my chronic illness, surgery and seeing things OH SO clearly. Then I worked on me and my codependency issues while separated. We tried couples and individual counseling before and thru separation but it was clear he was never going to change. I waited and waited and prayed patiently for over a year. There was no choice but to pursue divorce. I just am sad for my children….I’m now in a much happier place and on the road to healthier day by day!! What she said is true - God doesn’t expect nor ask us to stay and be abused mentally OR physically!! I almost lost my soul so please put you and your children first before this happens. You will have a very hard road but in the end you will get your life back!
@albywhite6827
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you. Needed to read this
@cindyreeves5048
2 жыл бұрын
Jenny! I pray you are well. I just left my husband a few weeks ago. It’s amazing how shocking life is without constant torment & abuse. But I’m liking it!
@martinewaeyenbergh9502
2 жыл бұрын
Joling and meaning don't get you nothing Divorce , beware most will stalk you ! Don't listen to this ,No man will ever be my Boss .I knew this from childhood ¡Be Free , independent. m
@barbaragraham-siegenthaler
Жыл бұрын
Sound exactly like my story. Thank you for sharing this!
@visionvixxen
Жыл бұрын
So happy! Praying for you…
@sherryo7315
Жыл бұрын
I grew up with a narcissistic mother. No wonder I married a narcissist. He was emotionally and sexually abusive to me for our entire 34 years together. He was emotionally and physically abusive to our children. The day I left the marriage, he was physically abusive to me and I have the photos to prove it. Never the less, Heavenly Father pushed me to leave that horrible excuse for a man and I was afraid. Once I was out and on my own, I was praying and in the middle of my prayer God made it known to me that He told me I'd be ok and I then knew He was right. God brought me to a wonderful Christian man who has been so good to me for the past ten years! Getting out of a bad marriage is the best thing you can do for yourself!
@lilyamongbrambles4458
Жыл бұрын
Sad how we get abused and messed up good by our "mothers" and then walk right into the arms of another abuser, thinking he will protect us,lol. I just finally figured out at 52 that my mother has npd and my ex was a covert npd. I would love to find a good man but don't know if I could ever trust anyone again. Glad to hear you had a happy ending.
@chantalrodriguez5269
Жыл бұрын
I'm in a narcissistic marriage , I'm so afraid of getting a divorce 😫 what if God wants me to stay and he will change?
@nicholecornes1915
8 ай бұрын
@@chantalrodriguez5269God does not want you to be with satan
@DH-jd8gq
Ай бұрын
@@chantalrodriguez5269You can always separate for a time without getting divorced. A time to pray and seek God.
@jm5229
13 күн бұрын
Such a powerful video. God bless you for helping all of these women!! I’ve been through all of this and now I have a family member going through. I vow to help women with this issue for the Glory of God.
@vikkigrenier2978
2 жыл бұрын
Try 52 yrs... I'm so drained... its hard to care ..he is now ill with cancer...and still his narcissistic self... he seems made at me because he is sick..but I'm still caring for him the best I can... I'm sad and scared .. sad that I don't feel much love for him and scared because I've never been alone... he's a Christian and yes I love Jesus!..... your story made me feel not so alone... I always knew something was wrong and thought I'm the crazy one.. depression and suicidal thought rang in my soul all the time, but I had 6 kids to take care of.. but the passed few months I discovered you and Dr C and it has opened my eyes to the truth and reality of the situation!.... so thank you for sharing!....God Bless you!...
@rosehealy2705
Жыл бұрын
I was married to a nassitius for 41 years and then the Lord released me. The Lord is so dear and precious to me.
@terrihunt522
Жыл бұрын
Thank you for this information, I’ve been married to an arrogant narcissist for way too long. It has messed me up health wise, mentally and emotionally. I’ve been praying so hard for God to help him to change but God doesn’t. I see now that staying in this harsh abuse is is going to destroy me. Please pray for me as I try to focus on getting myself back to being healthy and totally focused on.God.
@abba7707
Жыл бұрын
Hi there, do not give into fear, especially what ppl will say in the church. Do not let him destroy you and everything around you. 🤗
@gracegiven3182
Жыл бұрын
Praying for you. God wants your husband to change, but this only happens when the person is willing. God gave us free will-it’s not God’s fault or that He isn’t answering prayers. It is on your husband to repent and to call on God’s power to enable him to do the hard work that is necessary to overcome sin and narcissistic behavior.
@goldentransitions7985
Жыл бұрын
Praying for you in Jesus name ❤
@Nix-theMiracle
Жыл бұрын
To anyone battling in this situation, pray Psalm 31 out loud in earnest - it is powerful! I have seen the power of God’s Word in this way. God bless you. God’s Word is absolute truth, it is the very fabric of reality, use it and declare it over yourself and your home and your relationships. Bless you!
@brandibee7058
Жыл бұрын
This is true after years of praying I finally read this pslam and a few others the lord showed me . God helped me live out the word and had me set some boundaries I also fast to hear from the lord then do as he leads and my marriage is turning around :) my husband never apologized and was very emotionally abusive I would respond in pain which can be seen emotionally abusive too as I fed on a gods word I started learning how God wanted me to respond and in tjme things started to turn around and my husband started repenting . We still have a ways but I def am seeing the lord working in his life :)
@CAmom75
2 жыл бұрын
I'm about to be free after 25 years of marriage. What caused so much damage, is that I came from a house of Christian parents who were both narcissists, especially my mother. She was very controlling. And when I married my husband, she was right there to back him up any time I complained about anything. Then once we finally had kids, I felt so stuck. 😶
@janetvarghese5248
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much Kris.. Yes,taking our focus off from our narc spouse and focussing on JESUS is what gives us peace and keeps us going...
@wedesiregodministries1851
3 жыл бұрын
GOOD LESSON SIS. MY HEART GOES OUT TO THOSE WOMEN WHO HAS A NARCISSTIC HUSBAND
@Kris_Reece
3 жыл бұрын
Thank you Steve.
@maryshalom33
Жыл бұрын
I just have come to realize that I’m married to a “christian” narcissist with traits. We been together for 20 years. Im finally building up the courage to tell him that I want space away from him and I don’t feel guilty in front of God for feeling this way. The Lord knows how much tears and hurt I have been in, Im so unhappy in this marriage. I feel like my wings have been clipped and been put in a cage. 😭😭😭
@doryhill563
Жыл бұрын
Exactly feel the same
@bronzinagordon9512
Жыл бұрын
I hear you loud and clear 😢...so unfair...trapped...dying slowly becoz you luv God?!😢...staying coz of kids?! 😢I hear you...🙏
@liezebartsch-wx2wf
Жыл бұрын
I feel exactly the same, always sad and my natural exuberance totally gone, always sad and traumatised, been going through 6 years of this.
@cindysanchez9808
Жыл бұрын
Hang in their sister, you have a crown of long-suffering waiting for you. I am still with my narrsassist 36 years. 12 kids 19 grandchildren. I won't divorce but I must leave because of financial abuse the last thing he has left, and because it ruining my health. If God gives me a miracle I might return. I may never return. I've been here for the kids. Baby is 12. I don't think I can go 6 more years. I might have to leave early. May the Lord bless and keep us all and give us the wisdom to know when, how, and if. We should go. Amen
@liezebartsch-wx2wf
Жыл бұрын
@@cindysanchez9808 Thankyou dearest Cindy. I pray for you and me and so many others in the same situation. I’m still with my husband. Sometimes if I see signs he was with another woman it feels if I have a heart attack and I can’t breathe. But always I cry out to the Lord to help me and all my sisters out there going through the same and I have moments in which I have peace and gratitude for small simple things. God bless you and may He see us and lead us and give us wisdom. Hugs
@BlueJean751
2 жыл бұрын
I have finally awakened after 48 years of marriage!!! There is a long story that goes with this. I've realized after this amount of time, decades of strong prayer, my husband has gotten worst. Iam dealing with a covert narcissist and bi polar in him. Currently educating myself, and slowly working my way out of this unholy alliance, as it is NOT a Gods marriage covenant.... I disagree with Ms Reece, that we should just separate. It would be dangerous for an empath to separate, get help to heal from abuse... only to go back into the demonic trap of a narcissistic spouse. That empath will go thru double hell and punishment from the narcissistic spouse!!! Even if...my spouse would change which is highly unrealistic, I must stay away. Nearly 50 years of hell is enough to leave a lasting emprint. Food for thought.
@barboranovotna6070
6 ай бұрын
It is so and for example Catholic church teaches this better than the Protestant church and nullifies those marriages with people with NPD because they cannot be possibly valid from the beginning! A person with the disorder has no right to get married as a holy union, and so, until they heal, they are not married! As simple as that!
@jessicacisneros6952
Жыл бұрын
I am a christian counselor married to a narcissist and I agree wirh everything you've said! I'm still waiting for God's direction
@KarlaAyers
10 ай бұрын
Just know you are not the only one in the SAME situation.
@lindaj7559
2 жыл бұрын
I am Christian and did the praying. And I prayed for either that he would turn it around or release me. Suddenly my husband decided to leave.
@gypsybelle637
Жыл бұрын
Thank you. My exhusband was a narcissist, and so is my 40 year old daughter. I needed this so much! I love her, she's my child. I have to step away , for my own health, and love from a distance.🙏🏼GOD, BLESS YOU ALL!
@jukes243
2 жыл бұрын
I am married to a covert narc. I have known for 30 years that things weren't right. He lied about the smallest of things plus he loves the ladies. Two years ago, I gave him over to God. Now, I am hearing this. I believe I did the right thing by telling him to leave. We are still married but have been separated for 12 years. I just turned 70.
@monicahocking1507
2 жыл бұрын
Hi. Sounds similar to me. 44 years married left 2 years ago at age 66. Not divorced but it almost killed me. I'm catholic, divorce wasn't an option but Jesus never said anything about separation. Sadly some of our children are like him.
@daisyy99
Жыл бұрын
He could easily run up debts that put you out on the street. Plan for your own self care. You are young enough to be live in nanny for example....
@jessicaoliveira1578
2 жыл бұрын
How do I focus on God and not on my husband? I'm struggling with this. It's been a battle. But I'm so thankful for this teachings. It really has helped me and opened my eyes. I'm just waiting on God to show me what to do 🙏 Please pray for me.
@Mamasan742
2 жыл бұрын
We are in the same place. I've been married for 35 years. It's gotten to the point where God has given me this strength I've never had before. I fasted and prayed 2 days ago for clarity on what to do. The Lord is not telling me "yes, leave" or "no, don't leave." He's simply telling me to "wait because there are things I don't know yet." I'm going to continue growing in the Lord and I'm going to keep my spiritual ears and eyes open to wait for His next word to me. I pray that you see and hear the Lord’s leading in your situation. I'm so sorry for what you and many others are having to endure. Keep looking to Jesus. He will surely lead the way.
@daisyy99
Жыл бұрын
Educate yourself, learn a skill. Sell everything you don't use. Have duplicates of all documents and info. Keep with exercise and grooming. Have clothes, shoes you can work in.
@doryhill563
Жыл бұрын
I am asking the same
@cherylvanesch3086
Жыл бұрын
I don’t know what will help you, but I know what helped me. I have my own stuff and baggage, God has shown me that being brought up by a narcissistic mother primed me for relationships with narcissists. I learned co-dependency, and to not see red flags, and to idolize (huge idol for me) a “good” marriage and family situation because of some severe trauma in my teen years (allowed by my mother) after my parents divorced. I decided in my mixed up traumatized teen mind that the solution was to find and replace my ‘happy’ childhood home with two parents and kiddos. Spoiler alert, all idols will NEVER work out, they will always cause pain and heartache. And mine did too. I married men who wanted to be idolized, and because I was raised with red flags being the norm in childhood, I did not see them in these men. Five marriages later - God is helping me to see, and work out all of that garbage. I am focusing on MY stuff, not my husbands. I have plenty to work on, and with God helping me though it, I now have a sweet, loving, relationship with my Jesus. That is what it has taken for me to focus on Jesus. Him helping me, taking me by the hand and leading me through sorting through all of my junk, and He’s loving and compassionate, and opens my blind eyes, and helps me heal, and repent, and see His truths, instead of believing in lies. Just work on your stuff with Jesus. We all have stuff He wants to work on with us. Humble yourself, and His grace will be overflowing and abundant. Your walk with Him will be amazing. Very painful at times, but I have a joy and peace within this that I have never had before. My being co-dependent and a people-pleaser was not pleasing to God. That is not godly. I’m learning differently now. God is helping me. That. Is . Amazing.
@shelbydiorrr387
11 ай бұрын
I ask anyone who reads this to pray for meand have faith that my children and I will be released by God of my childrens father. Its been 7 years, adultery, abuse substance abuse and lying. Please anyone thay prays for us, I ask our good Lord to bless and praise you and from me, i thank you for such a kind and loving gesture
@Shelb13v
Ай бұрын
1 peter 3
@sunpathgarden1034
2 жыл бұрын
You are an answer to prayer! It is so hard to navigate mental illness while being a Christian. This is a relief to my soul.🙏🏻💕 thank you
@kathymyers7279
5 ай бұрын
Yup.
@keysnotalicia
Ай бұрын
This was SO helpful for me. I hate that you had to go through the pain from the toxicity, I would not even wish it on an enemy! But I thank God because I was able to identify with your story and also that just distancing myself and staying close to God until He tells me what to do. I am a little over 5 years in.
@dennisd3505
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you, Kris for this info and for the work that u do. I intend to share this with a friend who is married to narcissist. My husband (he's Dennis - I’m on his YT acct while commenting here) and I both recognize how cruel he is to her and actually stopped going on couples dates with them years ago due to the way he would speak to her when in front of us; so disrespectful and inappropriate. And of course what a narcissist would do in front of others would only be a fraction of what they feel they can act like when they have their “victim“ alone. He is quite cruel to her …verbally, emotionally. They’ve been married for over 40 years. I am urging her to seek counseling if for no other reason than to learn how to emotionally protect herself. I myself, learned about narcissists years ago through counseling, books, and online info because of my brother. I was about 40, and had been under his thumb in a sense for my whole life. I can truly say that the Lord freed me, and now, even though it’s rare that I speak with him, the pain and tension has been about 95% removed. Unfortunately my husband’s son is a narcissist and has hurt me emotionally many many times. He’s as selfish and uncaring as they come. Distance is my friend. But it grieves my heart so to imagine being married in that situation - to be financially connected to these cruel men - it’s a certain kind of evil. Lord come and free the prisoners from their bondage and heal them in Jesus' holy name.
@eden7440
Жыл бұрын
You were with your friend and watched the abuse and you didn't say anything!!! You didn't say how angry it made you? By keeping quiet you became part of the problem and the abuse
@Cayuse2009
2 жыл бұрын
After being married to a Narcissist "Christian" woman for 30 years, I can tell you, don't waste your time trying to make it work. Odds are It won't. Read 1 Kings and study about Jezebel (chpt 19) and if you study her characteristics you'll find that many of her traits are Narcissist. I think that what we call Narcissists today actually is a Jezebel spirit. Anyway, everything you said, I went through, including being physically assaulted many times by her along with put downs, verbal abuse etc. I even called the police a couple of times as I would have blood running down from her blows but they wouldn't even come out to question her. There isn't a Violence against Men's Act. I was raised to never strike a woman so I just "took it like a man". I didn't think I had justification for divorce because as far as I know she wasn't committing adultery. We went to many marriage counselors, but as soon as they would tell her that she was the problem, she would say they didn't know what they were talking about and look for another one until she finally gave up looking for one. Remember she'll never take responsibility for her actions as it is always someone else's fault. When I told her no when she wanted me to give her money to buy illegal drugs, (yea she was a drug addict and couldn't hold down a job) she called the cops and said I had assaulted her (I hadn't even touched her but that didn't even matter to the police.) The assault charge was dismissed later, but it came with an automatic restraining/no contact order that was the best thing that could have happened to me, because of course she kept trying to contact me to get back together and I would just say no contact order and hang up. I moved 1200 miles away and am free from her although it cost me about $400,000 in the divorce, it was worth it. She's the one who filed for divorce as she needed my money as she had spent what little she had on drugs. She has now renewed her "supply" and "flying monkeys" but is still trying to turn friends and family against me, but my true friends know the truth and the rest I don't concern myself with. My advice is don't ignore the red flags and get away while you can.
@chosenone2851
2 жыл бұрын
@ranger rider agreed 💯
@karenkoenig5518
2 жыл бұрын
Amen. May God help and give us all strength and wisdom to heal and make away to make the right choices to move forward. Hallelujah
@shad5637
3 жыл бұрын
Abuse yes im praying for a way out we have a son together for now all i can do is keep myself in my spare room and pray
@martiwalsh2069
2 жыл бұрын
They know enough to keep it behind closed doors and not let anyone else see or hear it. They know enough to buy gifts when they think it will "fix" things. They know enough to instruct the kids to lie to mommy because she won't like this. Sixteen years of marriage counseling and EVERY ONE of the professional counselors was "not a Christian" or "biased against men" or "swayed to your way of thinking." Even the ones he selected. Evil, pure evil. Run, Forrest, run!
@Kelle0284
2 жыл бұрын
Next time, pick a Christian counselor.
@Kelle0284
2 жыл бұрын
@@charityhutton6719 The husband is supposed to be the head of the wife. It's the husband's responsibility to be the peacemaker and the one to make the first move. For him or the counselor to say that you are at fault for the.way your husband acts toward you is unbiblical. That counselor certainly lacks discernment about the situation. If he/she clearly was led by the Spirit, he/she wouldn't have responded to you in that way. That counselor was either a wolf in sheep's clothing or a charlatan who was going through the motions.
@martiwalsh2069
2 жыл бұрын
@@Kelle0284 we did. He decided those Christian counsellors were "not true Christians." Multiple times.
@elenabogdan3874
2 жыл бұрын
What I can’t understand is, how can a Christian be a narcissist, and how can a narcissist be a Christian? They go to church, some are in full time ministry! I can’t reconcile these two! Can anyone explain?
@esthersahu9916
8 ай бұрын
Yes just how the Pharisees were in Jesus's time hypocrite. I have dealt with a similar person a minister. Angel and demon in one person. Very hard to detect . People will never believe you if you shared the type of abuse he did because of his good presentation.
@joaniebrooks631
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you , I’m truly fight being afraid of starting over and the wrath I will face if I leave him , I seek God out every day and I’m ready to accept God will change his heart or make a clear path for me to exit
@doryhill563
Жыл бұрын
I am in the exact same place!!!!!!!
@precilladsouza7112
Жыл бұрын
God doesn't want his children to be in abusive relationship because he has set us free. God always makes a way but you should move on boldly. Don't expect God to change the heart of a person who doesn't want to change as God has kept before us our choice. Dutronomy 30:19
@liciacanada7527
Ай бұрын
Awesome advise! 😮 I will focus on my relationship with God only! And pray and pray! I divorced a narcissistic traits person and married again a covert narcissist and am separated now….im going thru therapy and surrendering all my all to the Lord!
@roslyntucker590
Жыл бұрын
Praying and waiting for the Lord.
@elizabethy2912
Жыл бұрын
My pastor referred me to 1 Corinthians 7:10-13. My husband refused to go to counseling for 31 years. When I told him I wanted a divorce or separation, he immediately said he would go . How do we continue to " love" a false relationship, when " loving" him seems to give him permission to continue being him. Thank you for your advice.
@endtimewarrioress
Жыл бұрын
You're spouse refuses Christ in a nut shell but narcissism isn't bibical grounds for divorce. You by who are in Christ and the light of Christ in you (hopefully) is to help bring him into Christ 1 Corinthians 7:14.
@victoriacreighton9126
2 жыл бұрын
I do appreciate everything you are sharing to help your listeners, its such a blessing I'm just listening in amazement everything you say is always 💯 .I've listened to several of your messages they are always such a blessing to me. I thank God everything ,my relationship is definitely a covert marriage. I did not discover it until almost 1 year into my marriage. He is very religious and hypocritical. But through many narcissistic teaching I have learned to set my boundaries. I'm waiting on God as to what he wants me to do I definitely pray everyday, he is in another country now but I've had to deal with his drug addiction, that he continues to go back and forth with. Now he's on this religious wheel again Bible scriptures on his car going to go back to Bible School,still what's in my heart and what I've experienced with all the narcissism it's torn me up on the inside . I've been able to go on with my life. I'm trusting the Lord that in this negative Soul tie I will be able to get out. I wish I would have discovered who he was before I married him but I move too fast. I married within three 6 months . I fault myself, he was a Christian went to Bible college for a year. He Bible me. bombed, I didn't realize he was narcissistic I thought maybe he was bipolar because I never had heard of narcissistic before . I saw that term and listened to so many KZitem teachings..I was able to put my finger on the traits with so many examples that were happening after 9 months of marriage they began to come out. Even though these things were happening. I would say to myself oh I'm going to forgive him he asked me to, he would apologize. I would say yes that's r what Christians are supposed to do, but this kept going on for over a year. I started realizing this is just love bombing me. I never called him a narcissist but after all the teachings I've heard on it, they don't change .I still see these traits even when he scripture bombs me. I began to see the selfishness, violent rages, temper tantrums, rules don't apply, he was above the law, plays the victim, NO empathy, does all the talking, skips over my thoughts unless it benefits him, presents this wonderful personality to the public, treated me like I was a child over and over again, entitlement, take NO responsibility, every one else is to blame, his way or no way, argumentative, disrespectful, controlling, low self-esteem gaslighting, manipulative, takes bible scriptures out of context.The list can go on you know the traits. I'm trying to find how I can love him. The only way I've been able to is to see through God's eyes. I know I mess up and miss it. I'm not perfect, but I've never been treated like this before ever. Really what I learned it just boils down to it's a wolf in sheep's clothing, you know them by their fruits. God does not manifest his spirit like this, it's demonic it's the devil, it's easy for me now to recognize a narcissist.Their actions and thoughts are not in line with God's word. Its an unhealthy situation to be in. I'm sorry to go on and on. But maybe l am helping someone else. Thank you soooo.... much😇 God bless you will be in my prayers🙏 I will make sure others hear about your channel..
@julieolaniyi2060
Жыл бұрын
I'm in the same situation. Thank God for this channel, it has been of great help to me.
@KeepinItReal632
2 жыл бұрын
I’m only about 5 minutes in so I know it’s possible this is addressed later on, but we also have to be aware that narcissist use hoovering to suck you back into their narcissistic trap. They will say they will change, get help, seek counseling, etc. etc. just to get you back in the relationship, only for it to be worse than it was before. Just make sure there’s real change, consistent changed behavior, before going back to someone with these narcissistic traits.
@GodsChosenMekAmoR
Жыл бұрын
Yessss, this really should be touched on because even the covert narcissist does this. When you leave them or set up any type of boundary you need to move in silence. They get psycho deranged when they feel you are about to leave. It was the grace of God that protected me and the kids when I got out. He did still do a lot of vindictive and evil stuff and in his delusional mind still was convinced it was my fault a whole 3 mistresses I found out later. God gives us intuition for a reason and we need to trust ourselves again as we are under God. They do not change and they hold that grudge of you leaving against you forever. We have been divorced 3 years and he still tries to get back at me and still smearing so yep I was glad I listened to God and did NO CONTACT. You have to find reality again after their evil and churches and counseling is a no no. The preachers will tell you to take them back in faith with no works or put you down as an unsubmissive wife because you say he needs to prove he has changed. I'm so glad I did it God's way because my Father built me up to find my voice and sound mind again whew. Now if someone in authority or a man says you need to do this I know they do not trump what the Holy Spirit is telling me. I don't care who it is God has given me a new discernment and I will not be spiritually abused or told a good wife takes her husband back and must be forgiving to an unrepentant narc. They will make you pay ten times worse. When God told me go because I feared God I never went back to him, He hoovered many times, professed love, and cried, to my later reading the malicious things he lied and said about me in custody court as he tried to take the children so I could pay him child support because I would not give him another chance. I moved on in peace and wanted to peacefully co-parent but they definitely hold grudges for things they did to you. These spirits are treacherous. We must stay alert and trust the intuition God has given. If fruit don't show changed don't be scared to say NO!
@davetorchia9985
3 жыл бұрын
I enjoy listening to your podcasts,I was discarded by a which I know was a pathological covert narcissists.i couldn't believe that their are female narcissists.this devistated me till this day,you were so inspiring to me,thank you Kris.
@Kris_Reece
3 жыл бұрын
I'm so glad you've found the content helpful. Thanks for watching Dave. May God bless you on your healing journey.
@tanjarott7535
Жыл бұрын
Amen. I certainly knew something was wrong all along. I never really knew what a narcissist was. Until about 3 years ago when i realized what I was living with.
@johnniegeorge9106
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for bringing my mind set back to the Most High in these trying times of being married to a narcisssist
@doryhill563
Жыл бұрын
Financially absolutely stuck....but sure have the scales off my eyes and see clearly the covert ways ....praying for financial freedom
@marilynng4337
Жыл бұрын
I forgot to mentioned I stayed 18.5 years I was so close to God put I was dying inside Now I am even closer to God and I am free thriving and feeling amazing I love our amazing God and his word Psalms 27:10
@chantalrodriguez5269
Жыл бұрын
What happened? Did you stay with him? Did he change?
@peacefaith560
2 жыл бұрын
sometimes divorce is the only way out, and God understands!! narcs will steal, kill, & destroy your peace, joy, finances, self esteem, health....divorce is sometimes the only option!!!
@Jen18lol
15 күн бұрын
I need prayers for mine to be delivered! I don’t want to live being in this marriage
@nokotose7127
2 жыл бұрын
I truly believe when it comes to Narcissism, we are dealing with a demonic entity within the person. Why else would they act so cruel and so evil? I can tell you that I know 8 Narcissists at present, some malignant, some covert and some overt. None, at the present, I am conversing with. Having no contact is the only way to go for me so I can keep my peace. These people do nothing but disturb your peace. When you pray for discernment, God answers your prayers!!
@donnawoodham868
2 жыл бұрын
Me too . Even after calling on the Lord for his own salvation. He looks at porn , gets made over nothing , ... Just finding out about narcissist in the pass five years . ... Now knowing what's wrong with him .
@nokotose7127
2 жыл бұрын
@@donnawoodham868 I hear you. Praying for your situation.
@marialang9420
Жыл бұрын
Thank you, Kris, for sharing your story. I, too, was released from a narcissistic abusive marriage with a christian man after 20 years and 4 kids. Things are still difficult, co-parenting with him very unbalanced and unfair. But I also found a deep strong relationship with God which carries me on and even learned to trust again in the healing process from all the abuse. Halleluja to God who set me free and put me on safe ground again! My self-worth had been wrecked and is restored again.... Now a younger woman is with him, blind like I was in the beginning. They betrayed me, but my anger against her is turning into pity and prayer. She will need a lot of prayer in the next few years... I find this topic really important to share so that people wake up earlier!!!! Had I known these things before, I would not have suffered for such a long time and maybe taken other decisions.
@shannonleahbeauty
Жыл бұрын
I’ve been married to a narcissist for the last 18 years. We have three children. I separated myself from him just this last year, but we are still living together, which is super difficult. He always controlled the finances and has used that multiple times to “exploit” me. For years, I knew something was terribly “off” but I didn’t have the words to describe it. All I knew, was that I was constantly put down and devalued, while he battled a pornography addiction. I have no desire to move outside the will of God, but I also have no desire for this. I am learning to wait on the Lord and trust in His timing. I’m currently in therapy with a spirit-filled woman and it has been amazing! It’s nice to know that I’m validated and not “going crazy.” I’m so thankful I found your channel!
@BeautifulLife-ge9rp
8 ай бұрын
Your story sounds so much like mine... Identical I can say! The only difference is that I am married to this narcissistic for about 13 years.. I am also waiting for God's timing and releasing! He has done so many miracles in my life for The past 2years and I believe He has a plan for my life! I encourage you to be strong in the Lord! He will not forget US, He will release!
@BeautifulLife-ge9rp
8 ай бұрын
Your story sounds so much like mine... Identical I can say! The only difference is that I am married to this narcissistic for about 13 years.. I am also waiting for God's timing and releasing! He has done so many miracles in my life for The past 2years and I believe He has a plan for my life! I encourage you to be strong in the Lord! He will not forget US, He will release!
@BeautifulLife-ge9rp
8 ай бұрын
Your story sounds so much like mine... Identical I can say! The only difference is that I am married to this narcissistic for about 13 years.. I am also waiting for God's timing and releasing! He has done so many miracles in my life for The past 2years and I believe He has a plan for my life! I encourage you to be strong in the Lord! He will not forget US, He will release!
@BeautifulLife-ge9rp
8 ай бұрын
Your story sounds so much like mine... Identical I can say! The only difference is that I am married to this narcissistic for about 13 years.. I am also waiting for God's timing and releasing! He has done so many miracles in my life for The past 2years and I believe He has a plan for my life! I encourage you to be strong in the Lord! He will not forget US, He will release!
@BeautifulLife-ge9rp
8 ай бұрын
Your story sounds so much like mine... Identical I can say! The only difference is that I am married to this narcissistic for about 13 years.. I am also waiting for God's timing and releasing! He has done so many miracles in my life for The past 2years and I believe He has a plan for my life! I encourage you to be strong in the Lord! He will not forget US, He will release!
@jentbotbfa
2 жыл бұрын
Great video. Most devastating relationships you will ever encounter…
@gillianraq5485
2 жыл бұрын
Blessings to you, this podcast was amazing, for I am embracing my relationship with God 🙏 due to my challenges with narcissists relationships, God really hears our prayers and answers.
@maggielucy9824
2 ай бұрын
Separation has allowed me to detox. I am so grateful he's not in my life. It's been a challenge to get to the point where I'm at. If i could completely cut off communication I would. He still does the gaslighting. Unbelievable!
@eden7440
Жыл бұрын
"God will either turn this relationship around or he'll release you". Hard advice when you've been praying for years for God to act. Yet you are right. As a Christian I have learned that God first is smoothing the rough spots off me. Through my narcissist husband I have come to so treasure the Lord Jesus. He has become to me everything my husband is not. And maybe this was necessary for me. It's not easy to wait for God to act, but I've learned that when I have taken my life into my own hands, I've really messed it up. That's how I got into this hell of a marriage in the first place. So I haven't given up and I'll "Be still and KNOW that He IS GOD".
@Muchjoyhere1981
Жыл бұрын
I feel for you and could say the same thing. I could take anything from him myself and did starting the day after we were married. I was then his personal possession. But when he started abusing the children, I started reaching out for help. I did not think he wanted to be like this, and he wasn’t so much of the time, but if anyone crossed him or didn’t obey, it was a bad deal. And then he would accuse me of interfering with his discipline and that made it not effective, according to him, so he could not be a father. Then I didn’t take it to him per Matthew 18 and try to fix it… I took it to the church, which, I didn’t, but in his mind the church getting involved meant I took it to them. And how many years did I plead with him and quote scripture that his methods weren’t godly, and yet I never told him. 🤔 It drove me to Christ. I revelled in my quiet time and that’s how I survived. Now I am separated. I asked God to make it clear to me if and when I should leave. He did. And I have the full support of the church. But I don’t have the closeness with God anymore. I am so busy caring for my children, taking care of the property a church family is letting us use, making money to live on, and I’m feelingless. I miss it. The need for God. The drive to be close to God to have Him for my husband. I am away from the emotional, physical and verbal abuse, but I miss the nearness of God.
@shad5637
3 жыл бұрын
Thank you been dealing with this for 13 years so so tired of it bless you
@ytb8361
3 жыл бұрын
Why is it that most people join malignant narcissists when they scapegoat people ? Why is that most people are bullies and care only about getting people to respect their own boundaries and not also the boundaries of people ?
@Kris_Reece
3 жыл бұрын
Good question that perhaps we will answer more in depth on an upcoming episode. in the meantime, remember how charming and convincing these people can be PLUS how ignorant and mindless others can be to their lies. this makes for a perfect recipe for deception. That's why as believers we need to cling to Isaiah 54:17. blessings!
@LuwizaChidzangwe
8 ай бұрын
Thank you so much for ur word of encouragement 4 us to kip on praying it's so difficult wen u ar in such tym of marriage with a Narcist3
@cassified1378
2 жыл бұрын
I so enjoy listening to your words of wisdom! I needed this so much right now, more than I can say! I’ve often thought if I could have a do over on anything in my life it would be the day I met my husband (or at least after my kids were born! I try my best not to focus on him & the mental hurt he has caused me & my daughter but it is so hard! I will continue to try to focus on my relationship with Jesus! Thank you fo allowing God to use you to help the hurting!
@dawncapps8017
9 ай бұрын
My name is Dawn. I needed this video very badly. God bless you!
@esthersaldana9772
2 жыл бұрын
You don’t stay in a marriage with a Narcissistic man to stay close to God that is a lie. God doesn’t agree with abuse.
@Kelle0284
2 жыл бұрын
He casts people into hell. Hell is the most abusive thing that could happen to a person.
@jaellouis4749
2 жыл бұрын
Actually, the bible doesn't mention God not liking abuse, but we know for sure that he specifically says he hates divorce. AND the Bible also says that God uses our circumstances to draw us to and keep us at his feet.
@jennypearson9955
2 жыл бұрын
Hi My husband of 33 years is a sociopathic narcissist . I have no way in which to leave as my health is not good and I'm not able to work. I don't have finances. My husband emotionally abuses me. Love Jenny
@esthersaldana9772
2 жыл бұрын
@@jennypearson9955 my suggestion go visit an attorney ask questions there should be no charge for first visit. Get informed before saying there is no way out. Your husband and environment has now affected your health you will only get worse. I had to make my decision to divorce or stay and continue getting sick because of his Narcissistic ways. I decided I rather be alone then allow him and his womanizing to continue destroying my health. Many, many women including me think or thought there is no way out. A woman needs to get information instead of assuming there is no way out. No one in this world deserves to be destroyed by another human and especially by a Narcissist. Think on this question. Do you want to be where your at in a year and rest of your life? It took me 17 years to say to myself I don’t want to live the life I have left, with this man. I have never regretted my decision.🙏
@homedriven
2 жыл бұрын
@@jennypearson9955 praying for your healing Jenny. in every way you need to be healed.
@mamaluvsherbabes
2 жыл бұрын
Oh my gosh! What you just said is exactly the message I got from God just yesterday! That I was just to give it to Him and let Him deal with it. And I wasn't looking for your channel - I just happened to stumble upon it. It just happened to be here in the lineup of videos that was playing next. This could be God confirming the message that will ultimately give me peace. ❤️🌹❤️🙏 Thank you... To you and to God! And what's interesting is back in the first week of october, 2021 God suddenly spoke to me and said, "you have been betrayed". Then he said one more word, "narcissist". The only person that came to mind was my husband. But I didn't know what a narcissist was. So I spent the next several weeks, devouring information on the internet and through KZitem videos like yours. Realizing that the descriptions that everyone gave concerning what a narcissist is and does exactly matched the person of my husband. And everything suddenly fell into place, everything made sense, and I no longer felt that I was guilty or crazy but rather understood and vindicated! And a couple weeks ago I found out that that same week and perhaps the same day in early October when God told me that I was betrayed, my husband was speaking to a woman then he met on linkedin. They have been texting on linkedin. But they decided to leave that format and go to a more private setting via personal texting. They exchanged phone numbers and began to text. They were asking each other if they were married. And how old they were. And my husband lied to her. Not only did he tell her he was not married but he also told her he had been single for 2 years! And he also told her that he was 55 years old - when in reality, he is 63! He was attempting to present a more attractive package to this 36-year-old, unmarried woman. Given the fact that this conversation happened on what just might be the very same day that God told me I had been betrayed, is quite astonishing! And it confirms the message God gave me. Now, I am to just stop trying to reach my husband because he simply can't be reached. It is in God's hand.
@tracymartin8721
2 жыл бұрын
I am in the same boat over thirty years with a narc God led me to move out of our bed room so that he would no longer have axis to me the Lord is so close God will judge he is righteous and Holy he can not deny himself ❤️❤️🙏🙏
@larissataylorspence183
Жыл бұрын
kzitem.info/news/bejne/lJtpuYWOkZZkoKg God will take care of this!
@daisyy99
Жыл бұрын
Act to protect yourself, clean your home and have a garage sale. Keep one small tote of clothes, shoes you can work in.
@Jeri-
Жыл бұрын
This it excellent and truly biblical, mine is a deeply Covert too, he was never unfaithful bcz he's got erectile disfunction along with an inability to stop talking about himself. He glazes over as soon as someone else begins to speak. I totally agree with everything you've said, thank you.
@jeancraig7765
Жыл бұрын
You saved me ! Your words that God sees everything. He knows what im dealing with. Focus on my relationship with Him and God will lead. Freedom. Thank you
@ajlocs2361
Жыл бұрын
I married a covert narc at 23. DIVORCED at 40. It was God who revealed to me who and what I was dealing with. I like to say I had all the puzzle pieces but did not have the box cover to show me what the completed puzzle was suppose to look like. Something was off from the beginning I ignored lots of red 🚩. Listen ladies if you say to yourself Something is off not quite right or I just can't put my finger on it. You dont need to know what it is. The fact that you had to think that thought get out, leave and go no contact. Trust God to reveal what he just protected you from. I am ever grateful God got me out safely. I am 8 years free. There were multiple infidelity during our separation. God had him to tell me himself. He had no shame he felt justified.
@learningismyjam9425
2 жыл бұрын
You just spoke to my heart! You said the words I needed to hear. Amen! Tears!!!! You see, I’m in the exact shoes you were once in. Married to a CN, desperate for a way out, and it’s affecting my health. I started dating my husband in 2003, married in 2007 and I knew early on something was off but I was in love. The mask came off after our first was born in 2010. I was introduced to Covert Narcissism a couple of years ago and I finally had a name for what was going on - CN, with PA tendencies, and gaslighting. It’s been a real struggle bus. I found male enhancement pills in 2020 (even though we hadn’t had sex in years) but he explained them away as “wanting to rekindle us” and I had no other proof - I was actually happy, I thought God was releasing me and He was revealing that my husband had an affair but no other proof came forward. I have no idea what my husband does with his time and money. He’s financially abusive which is a whole other story. I’m oversharing, which is not usually like me, but I think it’s because I am just that desperate. Anyway, this gives me hope and strength to keep on praying, trusting God’s will and his timing.
@valentinavadillo
2 жыл бұрын
Your testimony is very powerful you don’t know how much it helped so many people, if you shared it in just want video of your testimony to share it would be very helpful. Thank you for sharing
@Angel-mx2gh
2 жыл бұрын
Counseling didn’t work… he just wants to win and tear me down…consequences work… no contact worked by sleeping in another room…whenever bad behavior was demonstrated.. doing this consistently worked!! Boundaries with consequences work! Praise God but I always have to be on my toes!!!
@Lauren-vd4qe
2 жыл бұрын
always have to be on your toes? what are you a ballerina doing the dance of death? good grief, THATS NOT a marriage, lady!! pack your bags and get out DONT take his calls or texts; block him, get a lawyer, get a job, go live with a friend he doesnt know and DONT go back to a job that he knows about; go get another one immediately. GET OUT
@monicahocking1507
2 жыл бұрын
Being on your toes is the same as walking on eggshells. I walked them for 44 years it almost killed me
@johndwyer6111
Жыл бұрын
Praise The Lord for Kris Reece!!!
@anafortes6830
3 жыл бұрын
Thanks once again Kris. I have been praying for a sign, an answer from God. I guess this is it. I am beyond my strength, lost weight, night sweating, nightmares. Dealing with passive aggression, stuck professionally. I caught his chatting with other women early in the relationship, same women I knew before we married and decided to stop looking at his phone. I shall wait for Gods time. My battle now is constant thoughts of giving up. I am praying to God to give me strength. Living one day at a time.
@DivaDerin
2 жыл бұрын
The Lord is your strength. You shall overcome.
@Kelle0284
2 жыл бұрын
I'm glad to hear that you lost weight. Congratulations!
@hodaviahfoods3754
2 жыл бұрын
Please flee , flee from him. Pray for him from a distance. You are not God. Leave him in God’s hands. Do not stay!
@anafortes6830
2 жыл бұрын
@@hodaviahfoods3754 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽 thank you. Praying day and night not to do anything unworthy and keep hope that I can be happy again with my kids.
@bobsims762
9 ай бұрын
This Message was so refreshing. You have given so many of us hope .
@Beatriz44429
2 жыл бұрын
They never change they just camouflage for convenience
@Simonenailsky
Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for this video. I have so much to say I don’t even know where to start. But God is working on me through me been married to a narcissistic husband
@doryhill563
Жыл бұрын
Thank you...this helps me so much
@elenatamuk1
10 ай бұрын
Even though you posted this 2 years ago…. I want to thank for posting it……. May God continue to use you to assist others like myself in areas like this….. but t is hard to find a Godly platform to steal you in Gods direction
@tosha1191
Жыл бұрын
Woa! My ex fiance was covert AND overt. Played victim, accepted no blame, bragged was comperitive, overbearing, arrogant. Maybe he has a split personality, which he hinted was a past diagnosis along with bipolar disorder.which mostly came out when he was under pressure with his business.
@tanyamonique2771
3 жыл бұрын
Thank You i been in a relationship for 5 years. And I feel just like you im afraid if I get free im go away from god. I need him so much I don’t won’t nothing but god.
@shannongardner6648
Ай бұрын
I am married to one for over 30 years. He won't relent. He says he wants change but he keeps lying and manipulating while acting like he is being 'honest'...he gets counseling, and has everyone fooled. He can't/won't keep promises. And acts like it's no big deal when he does. I do feel crazy. I want to believe he can change. But I am thinking its time to looking into leaving. I feel so lost and am praying for next steps.
@Courageous2024
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for the affirmation. I had been with a [covert] narcissistic husband for about 32 years. Indeed, when you submit everything to God, He will either turn your spouse around or He will release you. I didn't really think God would release me from my marriage, so, many times, I wanted to commit suicide because I thought that was my only escape.
@LadeeBugg81
2 жыл бұрын
I'm in that situation now, I just want an exit route then I look at my 6 yr old daughter and tear up.
@AJAJade
Жыл бұрын
EXACTLY THERE I have been married to my covert narcissistic husband for 20 years and we have seven kids…. The psychological abuse was unbearable. It took my 18 year old sitting me down and explaining the pattern of narcissistic abuse to me for me To open my eyes…. This is the best advice I have gotten so far- grayrock- radical acceptance and prayer- then just give it to Yah every morning- I am believing he will do one of the two - repair or release
@cherylvanesch3086
Жыл бұрын
I physically separated and left because of the psychological, mental, spiritual and physical pushing around and intimidation. My spouse will not confess or repent. It’s looking like He might release me. But my goal at my age is to stay single and just love on my kids and grandkids, and serve in my church.
@eden7440
Жыл бұрын
So did God release you from your marriage?
@lb3749
10 ай бұрын
Thank you, I have been praying and praying and praying … I trust God! This video was one of the best on this topic! I am now at the point I put it all in Gods hands
@staceyhughes3261
2 жыл бұрын
I really needed to hear this today. Thank you for your honesty and openness, it really blessed me.
@Allrandom42
2 жыл бұрын
Am so glad I came across this channel today. Thank you Jesus.
@tonyaknight2239
3 жыл бұрын
This was so good. Thank you! I love what you said at the end about being willing to stay in a difficult relationship if it meant staying close to God. ❤
@Kris_Reece
3 жыл бұрын
Thanks for watching Tonya :)
@ritagomes9186
2 жыл бұрын
insane you dotn stay in a relationshiop witha NARC PERIOD. Horrible advice to give to women
@esthersaldana9772
2 жыл бұрын
@@ritagomes9186 100%%%% I agree with you!!!!
@ritagomes9186
2 жыл бұрын
@@esthersaldana9772 I really cant feel sorry for women like this, people deserve what they put up with.
@esthersaldana9772
2 жыл бұрын
@@ritagomes9186 YES!!! God has given us free will. He never desired for us to be abused by anyone. I was married 30 years to a Narcissist, of course I didn’t know he was until 4 years after the divorce. I know had I stayed he would of destroyed my health because his behavior was truly affecting me. He had several affairs. I will NEVER recommend to any woman to stay NO WAY!! Horrible example to children in the marriage too!!!
@marthalamontagne7704
2 жыл бұрын
This is a great video! I wished I listened to this many years ago. I Ben married 39 years in a foggy cloud ! Not knowing what did just happen kind of questions in my head! It’s Ben a Journey for a few years now since I noticed something really wrong is happening! My eyes were open!! And like you say we have some traits of narcissist in us, I stared to see that in me as well. That confused me more. Realizing we all a sinful by nature so now I’m focusing on my relationship with God and let him lead me to what is next. I thank you so much for doing this video!! 🥰 may God bless you!! ✝️💜
@teriecekuykendall4622
2 жыл бұрын
I'm a first time listener. God bless you!!! I'm married to a arrogant ragefilled hell raiser narcissist who claims to be a Christian, that is an alcoholic and marijuana abuser that is loved by others outside our doors because they have no godly discernment, YEAH!!!! Can you imagine, I've hit the narcissistic jackpot. And yet God healed me so I can see and learn or I would possibly be dead or institutionalized. EVERYTHING you said happened to me!!! And yet I'm free by the grace of God, step by step I'm on my way out!!
@MarilynCrosbie
Жыл бұрын
Yes, quietly plan your escape. I did it and am much healthier and jmhappuer. My dons tell me they see I'm a lot happier than I was married to their dad. Would your husband raise hell were you to get a part-time job?
@teriecekuykendall4622
Жыл бұрын
@@MarilynCrosbie God bless you, I'm truly happy for you, may the Lord restore all that you have lost, thank you for your wisdom
@1975Godmade
2 жыл бұрын
“Unless there is abuse or infidelity, you are not biblical released”. Are you referring to only physical abuse here, or are u just referring to being with someone with the Narc Traits? Because I do not know how you can be with a person that has NPD And not experience abuse. Emotional, mental spiritual, financial abuse and usually all of those. Not to mention the neglect. And I do enjoy your insight very much. And I am very happy it’s out here in the world for others!!
@gailrosenberg48
2 жыл бұрын
@ Sunshine. Dear sister in Christ, I have been through the neglect, silent treatments, devaluing, dismissing, blame shifting, gaslighting, the whole gamut of abuse to the soul and realized I would rather have been kicked, punched, bloodied because then I would have known very fast what was happening to me was abuse. God does not love the institution of marriage more than He loves the 2 people in it. He may very well want to set you free from your abuser for your good and to give the abuser the consequences of his sin. God disciplines all whom He loves. If your husband is truly a son of the Most High, he will need to submit to the chastisement of the Lord for his wrongs against you. Check out From Confusion to Clarity website for women who are surviving abusive "Christian" marriages. This is an oxymoron because the moment a husband abuses his wife, in any way, he has violated his vows to her. Christian husbands are called to sacrificial love toward their wives, like Jesus does for His Bride, the Church. So sadly, many of the men Christian women marry are either little broken boys in grown-up bodies who have never submitted to the sanctification process, or they are fake Christians who can only put on an act for their public image to remain intact. I wasted 35 years of my life on such a situation and almost got tangled up with another narc Christian, but got out after only 75 days cuz he let his mask slip suddenly and I saw what was underneath the façade. Godly women, we just want to give and receive love and live out our faith with a partner who loves Jesus. We trust and become targets for men who want to take all our goodness and give little to nothing in return. It is all about satisfying their little twisted egos. I do believe it can be very demonic. You are so worth love and honor. Believe that. Love and honor yourself and walk humbly before our God.
@juliasaunders6866
2 жыл бұрын
@@gailrosenberg48 Nothing is wasted with our Lord
@fortheone4275
Жыл бұрын
RUN! God does not condone abuse in any way.
@gregslady5457
2 жыл бұрын
I'm married to one now! We have been together 43 years. I'm trusting God to help me. We are in our 60s. I have seen him grow some over the years. This vedio has shown me God is working with me. I have learned so much over the years. I feel God is ready for a big change in this relationship. Please Pray for us. I love him dearly, however I willing to end this relationship if that is where this road is heading.
@brandibee7058
Жыл бұрын
Hi is there a update ?
@deborahwentworth8792
2 жыл бұрын
Prayer did end up releasing me from my vows to that man who cared nothing for me.After 24 years of marriage and 21 years of no love of any form God knew my heart and how hard I tried.The day I was released I knew it was God who gave me the strength and the power to demand that man and his evil ways Leave my home.He did
@betterlivingonabudget
Жыл бұрын
You said it so well: Godliness does not mean never getting a divorce. When one realizes they've mistakenly married an abusive person, there is close to zero chance that person will ever truly change. To me, the main difference between a narcissist and a sociopath is the desire/need to hurt or belittle other people, a total lack of compunction when they're called out for that behavior (especially doing so to those who are supposedly closest to them). Also the issue with being driven to take needless risks, i.e. shoplifting, gambling. Narcissists are all 'me, me, me', but not really risk-takers for the sake of risk - they don't want to look bad or be made fun of. While sociopaths are also all about themselves, that drive to harm/take risks is what most distinctly separates the two in my experience.
@baronfamilyadventures4974
Жыл бұрын
This is a satanic lie.
@rhuleg09
Жыл бұрын
Im 14 years, 3 kids. I can truly say im praying to be closer to God to cope through this. Its taken me the last 3 years to realise what it is, ive had counselling he doesnt believe he needs counselling. Anyway. This has been encouraging
@delsiastokes7823
Жыл бұрын
Praise GOD for you Minister Kris 4 your annointed teachings and spiritual illumination concerning this demonic plague of narcissism attacking and trying to destroy GODS creation. You not only confirmed all the revelations I received in my spirit about the bizarre behaviors from my spouse. But, bestowed GODLY wisdom, knowledge and next steps moving forward to set the captives free from this wicked demonic possession/oppression. May GOD 4ever bless, favor, prosper and endow you with grace upon grace as your portion IJN!🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
@Leeofthedesert
Жыл бұрын
You have no idea! I’m set free today
@karoonkegham5245
2 ай бұрын
God bless you. Thank you for this video
@WeAreStrongwithJesus
Жыл бұрын
This was incredible advice!!! I am thankful to be led to this video today!!
@debbieheidrick3682
10 ай бұрын
I do not agree to turn my back on him. God desires us to show the Love of Christ to these people. My husband has a sick way of dealing with small issues. We are to pray over scriptures over them. God is in Control and for me I know God has me in my ministry with him. Thank you for some clarity on what I'm dealing with. I appreciate your insight Kris. I am truly blessed by you.
@kathydrake8003
9 ай бұрын
I’m 74 years and I’ve been married 41 years to a narcissist and he is getting worse. Being a Christian it is hard for me but I’m going to take your advice and go pray more. Ty for this video
@katig.4094
2 жыл бұрын
Bless your heart Kris, for helping and Sharing your knowledge and wisdom with many of us. I love how you asked the Lord to keep you and the relationship with your ex husband if that mean to keep you closer to God, bless your desire for Him
@yizetortiz6114
Жыл бұрын
Get out get out get out is all ima say. I been married to one for 5 years it’s draining and will mess with your health. I left my husband and now he is filing for a divorce. But I feel so much peace.
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