Jewel’s Pieces of You saved me as a 10 year old. I didn’t know it then, but I was being subjected to narcissistic abuse. I always had this connection to that album and now I know why. I will always consider Jewel my Earth Mother. She taught me emotional intelligence through her music. Thank you ❤️❤️
@Orchids92
Жыл бұрын
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@Itsunclegabby
Жыл бұрын
Wow. There's a reason I saw this today. I just had a blowout fight with my mother and it made me ask myself, "Certainly this banshee didn't raise me."
@TallulahBelle3276
Жыл бұрын
Beautifully said. 💝🌹💝
@MoonLitMews24
Жыл бұрын
Yes. This album has forever been close to my heart because the abuse and trauma I went through. The song about Adrian and the song Little Sister.. I would just lay there in tears.. dreaming of the day I would leave my abusive home.. thinking about all the ones I love who passed.. mrdr.. self-termination.. age.. I’m glad I’m still here.. I’m glad I’m living the life I would daydream about as a young girl wanting to escape. I’m so thankful.
@aliciakwong1149
Жыл бұрын
Don't stop with Pieces of You. I literally heard one of her songs in my head dealing with my narcissistic sister recently and it helped me reframe my thoughts to see the truth. My voice is the same pitch as hers and I didn't realize how emotional I got when I sang songs from pieces of you. The first time my daughter heard me sing Jewel songs. She was a toddler and it scared her. But then the first concert she went to was jewel at about 8 or 9 in a small theater. She heard her warm up and then when she stepped out on stage all in white. My daughter gasped and said, " she's an angel."
@fineartlifestyling
Жыл бұрын
Wow I can’t believe Jewel’s life story. I never knew until now. She is so eloquent and poetic. She is truly a phoenix rising out of the ashes, what a beautiful role model!
@heartheart5543
Жыл бұрын
You might want to read her book never broken (paperback and audiobook read by jewel) about her life story. Mind blowing
@cecesmith6229
Жыл бұрын
Just an absolutely beautiful soul
@LoverofSunflowernBees
Жыл бұрын
@@heartheart5543’ve listened to be apart of her book, read by Jewel, which should be done more often by other authors. Of their books. Audible is Awesome! I’ve listened to Jewel for 10 years. I heard her signing voice and songs and I was reaching a mental peace.. I was and am full of hope when I listen to her music and her her life story here. It’s a Beautiful gift to us all. I will finish her book but this tells me a lot about her childhood with her mother and father. I have a mother with Borderline Personality disorder or CPTSD and I love her but I need to get out of her house. I’ve been here way too long, in 2003 didn’t jewel says she stop talking to her mother. Stopped her relationship, it’s what I need to do only, my mom is putting a roof over my head and people think WOW what a blessing but keep in mind there is no love from her towards me in fact she wants me out, when she passes I will be homeless if I don’t find a place to go, she is giving this house to my estranged daughter. Because she has switched us. My mother is so abusive that she has switched us. My daughter has become her daughter. She is giving her everything, and her best friend her house. I live it. I don’t know if my daughter will allow me to keep living here once my mother is gone. But it’s not looking like it since she refuses to talk to me. It might be because my mother is here though and she is very jealous of our relationship we have had in the past. My daughter is overwhelmed and has been unloved too by my mother. No hugs from grandma and no help from grandma but just with money. No emotional support from Grandma. But here I am here mother and she is choosing not to be in my life either. It’s okay she is scared… to have a relationship with me. If you all listen to Dr. Kim Sage , she talks a lot about parents switching their kids for other people’s children and making those children there children. And dumping their own children. Betrayal and abandonment they do a lot. My mother isn’t a narcissist she probably has Borderline Personality Disorder and Autism. She should have never had children. And same goes for me. I had no idea how unhealthy I was or she was for 40 years of my life.
@daCubanaqt
10 ай бұрын
I knew she was homeless when she was discovered, but dang her story is very intense and powerful!
@juniperfall
Жыл бұрын
I just love her shift in the language around seeing anxiety and anger as a guide post rather than some kind of pathology or something negative. So beautiful.
@cynthiaburrus255
Жыл бұрын
@asshatslovejohnnydeppjohnn8377 Sorry Dear. THAT WAS NEVER IN THE TRIAL. IT WAS SHE WHO PERSUED HIM THROUGHOUT THE HOUSE FOR NINE HOURS WHILE HE LOCKED BATHROOM DOORS AGAINST HER. HE WAS PROVEN NEVER TO HAVE BEEN THE AGGRESSOR. THAT WAS CLEARLY LAID OUT SUPPORTED BY WITNESSES AND PROVEN IN COURT IN VIRGINIA LAST YEAR. MEN TOO, ARE VISTIMS. JD WAS THE VIC.TIM OF HER AB.US.E. FOR YEARS. IT ALMOST UTTERLY DESTROYED HIM. IT IS RIDICULOUS TO BRING UNPROVEN ACCUSATIONS AGAINST HIM FOR WHAT HAS BEEN PROVEN OVERWHELMINGLY AS FALSE.
@Barbara-em3zk
Жыл бұрын
A rare encounter with the mind of a genius. Raw and honest. A beautiful conversation.
@angelaholmes8888
Жыл бұрын
Yep totally agree
@heartheart5543
Жыл бұрын
Her book "never broken" (paperback and audiobook read by jewel) is mind blowing and hearbreaking (about her life)
@robynburns2375
Жыл бұрын
I love that she says "I'm not broken". I always hate when I hear people referred to as broken. Bravo Jewell. 💚
@NO-ib1ip
Жыл бұрын
Yes, I agree. I dislike it too. It reminds me of a covert narcissist ex friend. She wore it like a badge of honour, then boom 💥 she’d talk about being a warrior and being able to survive everything. It was exhausting listening to her. In the end I just couldn’t do it anymore.
@user-og2wt3le4j
Жыл бұрын
"But man is not made for defeat. A man can be destroyed, but not defeated."- Ernest Hemingway, The Old Man and the Sea.
@helener7545
Жыл бұрын
I do believe you can be broken, although you can patch yourself together again. Everyone is unique in how they handle intense pain and loss.
@calisongbird
Жыл бұрын
@@NO-ib1ipI know people exactly like that. It’s usually women, in my experience.
@irritatedkitty7301
Жыл бұрын
@calisongbird I don't believe it's just women. Jewels own father had issues. Believe men/males cope by being angry, aggressive and ashamed (the act of bringing the school lunch maybe gave him, his forgiveness for the day) but males deal with pain differently and if they admit the pain it shows weakness. Her took up drinking but finally quit in his sixties. A lot of years wasted drinking instead of seeking help. Agree to disagree
@a.wilcox5690
Жыл бұрын
I am 65 and still on a lifetime journey of healing from narcissistic abuse from both parents and 3 brothers. It is a lifetime journey. I saw Jewel talk about her journey in SF a few years ago. She is so authentic. I was deeply moved. I have listened to all her music over the years. We are on a similar journey of healing. I appreciate so much her honesty about her own healing journey. The world needs her voice right now.💗
@Sereme18
Жыл бұрын
How did you cope with a negative mother and three toxic brothers?
@shilparathore3181
Жыл бұрын
❤
@sandysouthward3635
Жыл бұрын
Yes. Her message is so powerful!
@angelaholmes8888
Жыл бұрын
What jewel mother did to her is truly despicable
@olgakim4848
Жыл бұрын
She probably believed, in her mind, she was fully entitled to her daughter's earnings. She was already making an exorbitant 50% as Jewel's manager. So I'm guessing it wasn't all about the money. Despicable, indeed. How do people like her live with themselves? How do they face their ugly mugs in the bathroom mirror every morning without being disgusted with themselves?
@JulieWolfe-db8zb
Жыл бұрын
It is very easy for those people to do that. I know someone who’s been not paying taxes on bookmaking income for 40 years and covers the mayors office of a large city for a large newspaper. The number of families harmed by his shenanigans is huge and no one says or does anything about it. Humans are always incredible. Good for Jewel for self healing and for taking her time doing it, as well as for paying it forward.
@jacquelynskye295
Жыл бұрын
Her mother is very good at inputing into the "relationship" what she knows the other person is starving for and her mother runs with it. She sure isn't cut out to be a real heartfelt mother. Not a real mother who cares about her child. I felt sick hearing about this mother. Jewel was like a dry sponge, so thirsty for water. Her mother offered her water but it was not a fresh source of water. Polluted water. I hope she stays away from that woman. That was a hard lesson for Jewel to absorb but she can be her own water source now. She is a beautiful flowing clear water source, like a small river cleansing itself over and through the river rocks. 💝❤
@jennyferguson5583
Жыл бұрын
Wow- Great insight! I see a pattern! Mind F . Gaslighting, confusion. Thank you for This!
@user-og2wt3le4j
Жыл бұрын
And my guess is the courts could never recover any of the money she stole from her daughter.
@elan007
Жыл бұрын
Jewel is an empath -- a bright light, a truth-seeker, a truth-speaker, a gem that spreads loving kindness and a higher consciousness. Excellent interview.
@angelaholmes8888
Жыл бұрын
Jewel is right when you come from a childhood filled with trauma and dysfunction you tend to repeat the cycle as an adult
@grammamellow1219
Жыл бұрын
She is a gem. Sister sunshine. Dressed in yellow. Gods hands and voice. Warrior Mama. Thanks for being, both of you.
@grammamellow1219
Жыл бұрын
That little bird somebody sends
@user-og2wt3le4j
Жыл бұрын
Jewel's mom sounds like a real piece of work. How do you go about stealing over $100 million from your own child?
@sr2291
Жыл бұрын
Greed.
@lynncrf
Жыл бұрын
Continuous long term planning and self justification.
@JudeScott007
Жыл бұрын
It's not the amount that hurts, it's the theaft.
@GabrielleP310
7 ай бұрын
Because her mommy is a narcissist‼️Everything is possible especially sick perverted poor boundary things for narcissists.
@StellaArtnoir
6 ай бұрын
Greed, selfishness & a pathological sense of entitlement. My mother is the same pos, hiding behind a mask of social status, while sitting on a wealth of personal property, stolen from her own adult offspring, including inheritance & heirlooms from late grandparents (my father's parents). Narcissistic parents are disgusting. I have more respect for the thug strangers in a crime ring who broke into, looted & ransacked my home. At least they never smiled in my face while saying they were helping me & asking me to trust them.
@blessed7927
Жыл бұрын
“I love healing. I will be healing for the rest of my life” Amen
@calisongbird
Жыл бұрын
Wow I read this at the EXACT MOMENT that she said it!
@angelaholmes8888
Жыл бұрын
Jewel totally made the right choice to cut ties with her narcissistic mother it's obvious that she never cared about her daughter
@melb2258
Жыл бұрын
That last sentence is so sad
@angelaholmes8888
Жыл бұрын
@@melb2258 yes sad but unfortunately true
@olgakim4848
Жыл бұрын
*"I'm always here to forgive you whenever you're ready..."* Say what?! I feel a lot of rage for Jewel's mother right now. Outrageous! The absolute gall. Ack!
@foxyauragems6146
Жыл бұрын
Of course they always turn it on you. Classic Narc
@Valerie-hw4bq
10 ай бұрын
☺️💯
@ourworldfinallyelaine
Жыл бұрын
Still dealing with that anger and working through it. While anger was the energy that pushed me forward, it’s also the energy that you are gaslit for. Narcissistic families use absolutely everything against you. It’s always lose/lose.
@annalisavajda252
Жыл бұрын
Abusers want control of everything even your emotions and anger is unacceptable though some of them try to provoke that response intentionally to criticize you for feeling that way. I was actually assaulted then filmed swearing so the abuser could claim look she's hysterical for no reason etc. They are just completely manipulative and degrading and victims are then conditioned to blame themselves knowing that's how others will respond to them likely too. Jewell is lucky to be so independent or else people get desperate for love even toxic love.
@grammichal6759
Жыл бұрын
@@annalisavajda252 GREAT insight beautifully expressed❣️
@FaytheInGod
Жыл бұрын
@@annalisavajda252My ex husband did that to me, among many other things. He was so good at manipulation, especially in my somewhat dysfunctional family & even with some friends that he turned half my family away from me with crap like that.
@realhealing7802
10 ай бұрын
Yes! The only way to save is to leave the narcissistic family. No contact was my only option.
@APerson-tq1zg
5 ай бұрын
@@annalisavajda252I've had this done to me so many times in attempts to 'prove' that I'm really to blame for how abusive I've been treated. I wish people fact-checked more.
@ruexlala
Жыл бұрын
My parents gaslit me this same way. So much love to Jewel and to Dr Ramani ❤
@lisacranmer8005
Жыл бұрын
Mine also..both are master manipulative people, self righteous and narcopath...
@alexismerrilldragonqueen6552
Жыл бұрын
I yelled "WHAT???" when I heard Jewel's mother embezzled approximately 100 million dollars. She just completely used Jewel in the worst way.
@juniperfall
Жыл бұрын
I know right??? And that letter inviting Jewel to apologize. I also yelled WHAT????? There were probably thousands of us yelling lol! What an incredible human being Jewel is. Taking the high road, committing to healing, then creating an accessible platform offering community and education to thousands. Incredible. Wow.
@alexismerrilldragonqueen6552
Жыл бұрын
@@juniperfall Jewel's mother was disgusting. Expecting an apology after she embezzled millions is absolutely psychopathic.
@juniperfall
Жыл бұрын
@@alexismerrilldragonqueen6552 absolutely. Total psychopath.
@lisacranmer8005
Жыл бұрын
@@alexismerrilldragonqueen6552 she is a Narc....maybe Bipolar also..
@ladylo-fi6979
Жыл бұрын
I know, right? I googled her mom and saw that she presents herself as one of these super special enlightened New Agey types. And she wrote a book about how to manifest abundance! Meanwhile she's creating abundance by embezzling from her own daughter. Just wild.
@kathyingram3061
Жыл бұрын
~Her story on Joe Rogan, of how she dealt with the Hollywood music industry, is my favorite interview ever!~She is brilliant & awesome!~
@75ENVY
Жыл бұрын
Me to , I still remember the feeling of hearing her first time
@ponzo1967
Жыл бұрын
Some people are naturally interesting simply talking,.she one of those
@nyx4love
Жыл бұрын
I am in awe of Jewel's wisdom ... finding her own way to sanity and peace ...
@glennlamb4310
Жыл бұрын
Dr. Ramani, I just realized about a month ago that I was controlled most of my whole entire life then your podcasts started showing up, and I have been watching them ever since. My mom was the messenger between my grandma, and grandpa, and had no freedom to do anything as a child like spend 1 night at a friend's house. She had to take care of her younger siblings, and wasn't able to marry who she fell in love with, so she married my dad just to get out of the house. I grew up mocked that I had ear stuck out more than another,, teased, and called things like a shameless hussie or it was bad that I looked more like my dad. I couldn't become a brownie, play instrument, or make any decisions like if I wanted, like to wash my hair, not get it cut, or pick out my own clothes until after 6th grade. Until this day I still won't even let my ears show even though I'm thankful that I have good hearing which matters to me more. I was told that even if my dad said that I could do something that I still couldn't listen to him, so I left home the first time at age 13, and kept it up until age 18 which was when my parents got divorced. I moved out of state at that time thinking that if I stayed it would never be any better, and I would have to believe that I would never amount to nothing like I was being told. I married to young after that at the age of almost 20,, and had 3 children with my 1st husband. I was so happy to finally feel like I had purpose in life, but that marriage ended with my children, and I being abandoned when they were only ages 3, 5, and 7. I had to walk to get my groceries, clean houses, and babysit to make ends meet with no child support. . Thank God my inlaws at the time were supportive, and helped us a lot.I stayed single for 13 years, and vowed to be there for my children so that they would know that I would never leave them. My mom called me one day while I was still married after I had my 2cd child, and said that I was selfish for not staying in touch, and I mentioned to her that I just needed to be treated for the person that I am, and she said that she could do that, I replied, you can? She said yes, so we made up for lost time, and remained close until she died last year. I remarried after after being divorced for 13 years, and learned how to drive at the age of 35, then worked my way up to owning my own business, but unfortunately I lost my only daughter, because she lost her mind with addictions, and then being killed by a hit, and run driver which no one was ever convicted for. So after 45 years in that state my husband, and I moved to a better climate state. We'd been married nearly 20 years by then. Once there, he decided on wanting to learn to fly a 2 seater airplane, which ended up with the instructor, and he being killed the 1st time of night flying in 2020, right when covid hit, and we only lived there 2 years. Being devastated, I made the choice between going back to where my 2 son's live or move somewhere that suit me best for my well being. I ended up moving to where my deceased husband grew up, since his sister lived there, I trusted her, and I've known her for over 23 years. My oldest son is married to a narcissist, I don't know what type, and I've commented on a couple of your podcasts about this. My son, and his wife have 2 daughters, plus her mom is also living with them. His wife was sexually abused as a child along with 2 other girls, it started at the age of 8. Once this was found out the man was imprisoned, and ended up dying there. One girl went to a mental hospital for the rest of her life, another went on with her life, and my daughter- in-law has majorr issues along with feeling like a person is like a piece of luggage or something. I figured this out when I made a surprise visit to congratulate my son for being with his company for 20 years. The trip about killed me, she tried to sabotage everything, because it wasn't all about her, but I wasn't taking the bait, and I could see that she didn't like that it wasn't getting to me even though she'd have an airplane movie on or her kids were playing airplane games on there devices. What really made me sick is after I returned back home, was the comments that I would remember her saying, like she told her 19 year old while I was sitting there,, that quote, ( you just use your friend to get to go to expensive baseball games, and things, right ,) and she said yes Mom. So now that I'm back home my son says that my 19 year old granddaughter isn't responding to my texts, because her mom is reading them. My other granddaughter will be graduating next year, and I may go back, but with low contact like talking about the weather, but only for a short visit if at all. I hope that neither of my son's 2 daughters grow up being like their rmother. I've been sick since I've returned, I'm dizzy, had to stay in bed for 3 1/2 weeks off, and on, and have made a doctor's appointment for the end of this month like you'd mentioned that it's a good idea. I was in counseling at the senior center for loosing my past husband in the plane crash for awhile. I had heard of the term narcissist, but it never sunk in until now on how it has effected my life. Thank God I listen to my intuition if something isn't feeling right. Once I get further along I hope to subscribe to your sessions or Jewel's. Thank you both for all that you do!❤
@SamStone1964
Жыл бұрын
Do you have any idea what is causing your dizziness?
@glennlamb4310
Жыл бұрын
No, I'm going to the doctor at the end of the month to figure it out.
@RawOlympia
Жыл бұрын
I hope you are better with the dizziness, I used to have it, I think that diet must have helped and rest!
@NO-ib1ip
Жыл бұрын
Yes yes yes 100% yes. Sorry does not rebuild a relationship. CHANGED BEHAVIOUR does. I totally agree. I think this is why my narcissistic mother’s apologies always feel like empty BS. Because it’s the same pattern of behaviour and when the sorry arrives … I feel nothing in it.
@klw8771
Жыл бұрын
Totally agree! I have a friend too who feebly says I’m sorry while continuing with lying, hypocritical acts.. when i point out truths I’ve experienced with him in the past he says i shouldn’t bring up the past and look to the now and the future..but if in the now your behaviours don’t exhibit change why would i trust that?? So YES to CHANGED BEHAVIOUR rebuilds relationships..loose and meaningless ‘sorry’s’ do NOT COUNT. I’ve always said actions speak louder than words.
@lisathomas5719
Жыл бұрын
@@klw8771 I agree. This also made me think about a segment Dr. Fonda ( licensed therapist/ on KZitem} did re. " Meaningful apologies" listing what they should include. I think it may be on the Will Smiith apology after the infamous Oscar slap.
@fifilafleur5555
Жыл бұрын
Wow... Jewel is incredibly intelligent. What an interesting conversation as I had a mother who abandoned me at 1.5 years old and a father who was physically, verbally, emotionally & sexually abusive. I can relate to some of what Jewel spoke about here. ♥️ I cannot imagine the hurt, anger & betrayal she must have felt over her mother stealing her fortune from her. I wouldn’t put it past mine to do the same.
@cynthiaburrus255
Жыл бұрын
I have watched her dad on a reality program that was on for several years. He wasn't the primary person of interest but the bother of the primary family's patriarch. His personality, the brother's, is exactly the opposite of her father's. It is so ironic as she stated that a number of children are raised by the same parents or parent, yet they cope with it so differently. Some are determined to heal their lives while others are locked in an eternal struggle with the past. I hope she had the opportunity to find solace with her uncle's family and her cousins. I've no idea if it still on. It was clear her father is a perfectionist. It deeply saddens me to learn of her story. I saw one episode when she came to see her dad and I believe she had a child and perhaps was pregnant. It was a very touching reunion. They made some awesome music together which they enjoyed as I'm sure the audience did. Clearly, they loved one another. It is a terrible thing to live with Two Dads...in One Person. His guilt is VERY LIKELY, one would Think, Overwhelming. As a retired RN, I felt there was a sadness in him one often sees with Alcohol fueled broken relationships. That underlying sadness and guilt seemed evident to me without knowing the story. She has a Lovely Soul and a She is a beautiful woman. She now has what she needs, the knowledge and tools to raise her own children so much sweeter and purer for them and for herself. And then, THERE IS HER GREAT TALENT!
@patricianoel7782
Жыл бұрын
“Hurt people, hurt people.” These few words were so powerful for me. I have multiple sclerosis which occasionally cause me to be impatient and disappointed. I then inadvertently hurt others. Thanks, Jewel. 😮
@winheather2976
Жыл бұрын
She has such a unique way of explaining, psychological and spiritual matters! I heard her speak a year or so ago I was so impressed! She is truly brilliant!
@Samantabhadri
Жыл бұрын
Jewel is my hero. I've always loved her music, but this interview really shows her inner wisdom, eloquence and maturity.
@VioletEmerald
Жыл бұрын
I saw Jewel in Concert 5 years ago and knew enough of her childhood trauma before realizing you were gonna do this episode that I was SO excited to click and see this... she is such an inspiration.
@bluelake6646
Жыл бұрын
How heartbreaking for the father and the guest. Father is angry and hits the kids, and kids walk school in cold weather, then dad regrets and brings lunch. Same pattern in my family.
@teresarenee3829
Жыл бұрын
She is very articulate and emotionally intelligent.
@gladysgreen2
Жыл бұрын
I learned so much from this interview, thank you. Especially the part about listening to and trusting your pain/anxiety/and body as "truth and to trust it" at 31:10. "My anxiety was my best alarm system I was consuming something that didn't agree with my nature" Wow!
@robertataylor5794
Жыл бұрын
I am so glad to have come across this video on my healing journey. I am not broken and damaged goods. My children saw me fall down, but they are also watching me stand up! Thank you for sharing your story.
@rubytuesday7653
Жыл бұрын
Stand tall 🤍
@viviennea.293
Жыл бұрын
Jewel is an amazing woman. I've always loved her, her music and her acting. She is talented beyond all. But this whole episode showed her as incredibly wise. I am so very happy for her. Her nature is totally the Gold Statue. I couldn't love and admire her more.
@alexismerrilldragonqueen6552
Жыл бұрын
I loved Jewel's album in the 90s. I listened to that thing over and over. I have a snaggle tooth like Jewel's, so it used to make me feel pretty to have crooked teeth to see beautiful Jewel this way too. I also read her book about her life and she comes from a similar toxic family background as I do.
@susiechristianson8491
Жыл бұрын
This was a brilliant interview with Ms Jewel. I recall her fame in the 80s. I grew up in Fairbanks/Nenana/Anchorage, so I felt that 'last frontier' connection with her on the radio. But, after my life of horrendous malignant narcissistic abuse from my mom (I was on the streets by 15 as well), I too have come full circle. Her words are melodious, sincere and powerful. Her mind's view - it's aim and the dusting off of the problem while still being connected to the hurt is amazing. Bravo, Ms Jewel. I pray your son grows to know you aren't just his hero, but many other people's, as well.
@tiajin248
Жыл бұрын
I didn't expect, this video to be this good, must confess it. We survivors want to be loved and accepted terribly, otherwise we have never let the narcissist to screw us even the first time😔
@justice8563
Жыл бұрын
I love that Jewel spoke up about help, shouldn’t always cost money to get help. So many look for what they can get instead of extending compassion without a price tag. People’s time is precious, but so is taking the time to just listen when a person doesn’t have the resource or a person to turn too. Jewel gets it.
@teresarenee3829
Жыл бұрын
She hit the nail on the head with how you deal with your anger and resentment towards the narc, you cannot let it consume you. Especially when you are still having to live with them. I do get angry but I choose not to stew. I either reinforce my boundaries or I create new ones, but I refuse to allow myself to hate the narc, because I don't want to live like that.
@sherriholt3814
Жыл бұрын
Jewel has a beautiful soul. What a journey! Thank you, Jewel for sharing your experiences and avenue of healing. Your name suits you well. You are a Jewel...a pearl of wisdom!
@Dee_bestest
Жыл бұрын
beautiful and honest interview, you can hear the hurt in her voice. I’m so glad she’s able to talk about it now & share her story with us all. I loved her perspective on anxiety because it’s so true! ❤
@WillChil466
Жыл бұрын
I want to hear about the mrg. to the cowboy.
@gregaiken1725
Жыл бұрын
my advice is to discard all that is not in alignment with our journey. learn to see clearly and quickly those around you and your environment. dont put up with excuses, deceit, or gaslighting.
@hannahk.summerville5908
Жыл бұрын
"Don't talk yourself out of your EXPERIENCE with your thoughts!" That was so accurate it made me cry. Such a beautiful interview. I've loved her since she appeared on "Men in trees" with this song that starts like: "Self? Why are you awake again? It's 1 am." Good day? I love it so so much.
@laine80
Жыл бұрын
Thank you both so much for this interview! I’ve been a huge fan of Jewel’s since the 90’s and have found so much of her music healing. Goodbye Alice in Wonderland really speaks to me as a narcissistic abuse survivor. I had the chance to interview her years ago and she’s just as down to earth and genuine as she seems. ♥️
@VioletEmerald
Жыл бұрын
Thanks for song rec. Wow it's so good. Hadn't heard that one yet.
@laine80
Жыл бұрын
@@VioletEmerald yes!! My favorite part is: “I hit the bottom when I reached the top But I never knew it was you who was breaking my heart I thought you had to love me But you did not Yes a heart can hallucinate If it's completely starved for love It can even turn monsters into Angels from above You forged my love just like a weapon And you turned it against me like a knife You broke my last heart string You opened up my eyes” Family Tree is another really good one you should listen to. Dr Ramani referenced it too. It always brings me to tears.
@Prometheuspredator
Жыл бұрын
You are not a survivor, but you are a conquer. A victor and a champion. You overcame the odds. You are the winner. The queen.
@007nadineL
Жыл бұрын
Rxy. Yf yf y yyugyccyc6f6cf6cf
@annmarie4794
Жыл бұрын
What a an intelligent and wonderfully rare human being. I was enthralled with this podcast. She is a jewel. You are a wonderful podcaster. Very respectful to your guest and a genuine caring soul. Thank you for sharing with us.
@cascade00
Жыл бұрын
Jewel is fulfilling her destiny, Her dad telling her that mother earth has the cure. . . I understand how that would help her believe that she could heal. . .anxieties, problem areas, and stay the course, not giving in to bad decisions in critical moments. Incredible story. I"m so glad there was a Nancy there for Jewel. That is the missing puzzle piece for a lot of people.
@nancybest21
Жыл бұрын
Thank you for giving her the platform to share her truth. Love this woman and send her heart felt blessings 💙
@Juliette_Thandi
Жыл бұрын
This is something that really comes from the heart and soul. I'm a musician and writer part-time. I used my skills in maths etc to become an engineer and escape the problems my home gave me. This is where my income comes from. Save your soul and the lyrics of that song stayed with me for many years, & her intuition on stage. My issues have been pretty bad but obviously nothing in comparison. I'm starting to use the VR from Jewels site. I knew with everything in me that I would be, and still have to be the only one to save myself. A long way to go. But she really does hold a light. I'm fiercely grappling with how to deal with the zing-zang of the mother that caused me so much struggle. But also wonderful things. Thanks for bringing this special human on this.
@heartheart5543
Жыл бұрын
You use vr for innerworld?
@chiyerano
Жыл бұрын
"I'm sorry is nice...Changed behavior earns back relationships." Indeed. I am sorry you didn't have a better relationship with your mother but glad you were able to develop a better relationship with your father. Thank you for this interview. Almost just in time for Father's Day, thank you again for this interview. 🌹
@calisongbird
Жыл бұрын
Yes. The words “I’m sorry” don’t build back broken trust. Only changed behavior does that.
@carolgarrett1786
Жыл бұрын
YES! HER PHRASE: SORRY IS NICE BUT IS CHANGED BEHAVIOR THAT EARNS BACK RELATIONSHIPS WAS SOMETHING THAT CAUGHT MY ATTENTION 👍
@ahimsaalexander9004
Жыл бұрын
Ooooo…”I’m not broken. I just need to do a loving archeological dig into who I am…” damn good line… And I love how she looks at anxiety. Considering that anti-anxiety meds are the number one water pollutant in most major metropolitan areas, I wonder if people can learn to deprogram themselves like she’s done…to use anxiety as an ally versus a symptom that needs to be suppressed and treated, versus actually digging deeper into the sick programming that evokes these symptoms. I think when we can start doing that, then we quit creating a world modeled on these narcissistic social models of bonding.
@scrapshappen
Жыл бұрын
Jewel and her music were the soundtrack to my own undoing. . .and to how I found my way through. Still a work in progress.. but everyone is. Hurt people hurt people, true. But healing people heal others just by bringing that energy into the world.
@Bellasun670
Жыл бұрын
This is good to hear. I’m so glad she is sharing about her journey of healing … I loved her honesty and rawness. She is such a artistic beautiful lady. I’ve always thought she was far beyond her years, she is a deep soul. Thank you Jewel for sharing and spotlighting something that is so painful. I can relate❤
@bpassion4fashion581
Жыл бұрын
I love Jewel and love her more after I saw her interview at the Rogan podcast . I was dumbfounded and heartbroken at the abuse she went through through her own mother ! God bless her !!!
@katarinahinsey3931
Жыл бұрын
I’ve loved Jewel’s music since high school but in all this time I never knew how wise she was. A beautiful woman with great voice and can write lyrics and she’s wise as a Shaolin master too. I’m just stunned.
@karenherndon8941
Жыл бұрын
Jewel is an unbelievable genius on helping so many people, so sad she had to be a puppet to learn. She's AMAZING ❤❤❤
@ellesmith7877
Жыл бұрын
God Bless you Jewel!! I was in a narcissistic marriage for 18 years. My now 31 year old son is narcissistic 😞 I’m devastated, he has cut me off completely. Your story gives me hope. You’re truly a miracle!!
@nancyjohnston5985
Жыл бұрын
Having a narcissistic child is the worst - people blame the parent when the child cuts you off!
@karenf9564
Жыл бұрын
This angel/goddess has been put on this earth to teach us what a human is capable of: In terms of pure, raw unadulterated talent. Artistry. Brilliance. Passion. Intelligence. Resilience. Work ethic. Wisdom. Self knowing. Compassion. Forgiveness. Radiating love. I could go on. She is extraordinary.
@llhannah9297
Жыл бұрын
"There's not something wrong with me, there's something right with me" - Jewel This was awesome. I'm going through this right now and can relate in so many ways. It's so heartbreaking when you realize your family is incapable of loving you. We have to decide if we can love them knowing they can't love us back. Accept their limited selves and protect ourselves psychologically. Seek love and validation in healthier places. I love and totally agree with her thoughts on how we can actually use our anxiety and anger as tools to help us know when something's not right and how to react. What an empowering and very effective way to look at it.
@Prometheuspredator
Жыл бұрын
Jewel's book is her way to call out her mother and father. To tell her story to the masses about how absolutely horrid her mother and father are.
@honkytears
Жыл бұрын
What an insightful, resilient and brilliant human being.
@magtag853
Жыл бұрын
Jewel is so lovable and lovely. So unbelievable that her mother would treat her so unspeakably. It boggles my mind!
@suemick8709
Жыл бұрын
Her mother saying, "I'm just so glad that I get to go back to just being your mother." made me freeze in horror. I heard a person unrepentant, and lacking empathy with empty words . To her daughter that she had abandoned as a child and financially ruined, she seemed oblivious what effect her actions had on her daughter. It was like a horror movie monster wedging it's foot in the door just as you're trying to slam it shut. I related to so much of Jewel's story. It is so difficult when it is family but you really have to take care of yourself and remove people who are detrimental to your mental health. I'm a pro at ghosting, I'm still too reactive to trust myself with a more direct approach. Still a lot of baggage to rummage through.
@FNFIHOCTW
Жыл бұрын
I always loved her music, but now I love her resilience!
@karenweaver7574
Жыл бұрын
Jewel lives up to her name, so wise. Love this.
@grandmaG67
Жыл бұрын
It's hard to understand why people abuse others especially when they profess to love the person. Jewell has the most beautiful soul and voice and it's sad that she has been abused so badly. But by surviving she proves that what doesn't destroy you makes you stronger. For those who have survived and come through in the other side, God bless you.
@SofiUk0319
Жыл бұрын
These women are brilliant, very impressed w their conversation. It does really put into perspective the angry alcoholic villain vs very subtle emotional abuse that had much more damaging and long lasting consequences ❤
@leeseh7137
Жыл бұрын
I've seen Dr. Ramani before but never as an interviewer.....I think she has found her forte'!....Every time i wondered something...Dr. Ramani, asked Jewel the question i was thinking about! Truly enjoyed seeing Dr. Ramani in this format.
@creativevanspace
Жыл бұрын
This is such an inspirational interview. My interest in Jewel’s story started when I started watching the Alaska’s Last Frontier. This is incredible story of survival from psychological abuse.
@heartheart5543
Жыл бұрын
Her book "never broken" (paperback and audiobook read by jewel) is mind blowing and hearbreaking (about her life)
@creativevanspace
Жыл бұрын
@@heartheart5543 Will check it out! Thanks!
@bwms6879
Жыл бұрын
She is able to speak words of self love so well. I’ve spoke and acted out the opposite to myself the majority of my life, believing my abusers and abandoned. I am on a better direction now and truly want to be where she is.
@Epona55
Жыл бұрын
I was so impressed with this interview with Jewel. Good job to both of you, Dr Ramani and Jewel. I came to appreciate how intelligent, thoughtful and well spoken Jewel is. I immediately got Jewel's audiobook 'Never Broken' and was thrilled that she narrates her life story. It is an amazing story of survival and resilience, and how Jewel became the JEWEL that she is. Thank you Dr Ramani for doing this interview.
@audreystarr6166
Жыл бұрын
Wow I'm amazed...no wonder why I resonate so much with Jewels music and lyrics...I was raised Mormon and repetitive trauma and abuse. It's amazing and such a healing thing to experience 💛 her music!!!
@lamusica1592
Жыл бұрын
Yes, a malignant narcissist will embed themselves in your support structure. Bravo Jewel for surviving and seeing the light
@yaranpaupore2041
Жыл бұрын
I didn't allow myself to feel and/or express the anger I felt toward my mom until she passed away. Attempts to do so before this always left me feeling guilty and appologetic. The day she died was the day I was free.
@jaq3405
Жыл бұрын
The part about her moms letter reminded me of my mom, shes ready to forgive her. Its crazy because when you grow up with this sly covert abuse, it gets embedded in you
@brenthoward8261
Жыл бұрын
Such a great interview. Jewel's attitude is so positive and upbeat. Her inner wisdom shines thru.. thank you for being such a light Jewel. Love your music too! Best to you Jewel, much love!
@kimberclevelandmusic
2 күн бұрын
Yes, I agree. Sometimes one becomes a narcissist to survive narcissism… maybe one becomes a charismatic narcissist, expert at hiding the true self from people not in their orbit daily. Sometimes it leaks out or can’t be hidden from very aware people who know what they’re seeing pretty quickly. Jewel has really used her life experiences to make healing music, or managed to not let it keep her from getting that art out there. Her music has helped (and entertained so many, including me). Great success story.
@jp5419
Жыл бұрын
Traumatic Narcissism... just bought the audiobook. Thank you.
@kmulligan5928
Жыл бұрын
Jewel is one of the most insightful people I have ever heard speak.
@Cherylcoder
Жыл бұрын
Amazing interview! And kuddos to Dr. Ramani for letting her talk and not continually interrupting like so many interviers do. Jewel has so much to say to help others..thank you
@juliebraden
Жыл бұрын
yeah & still sometimes I thought Dr. R cut her off b4 Jewel finishes her thought so I wasn't sure wat Dr. R was agreeing w/. Like @ 29:09 wen Jewel said "my job was to learn how to heal; the most rebellious thing u can do...." wen Dr. R said "it is" & THEN Jewel finished her thought "...is to figure out how to be happy" So I don't know if Dr. R was agreeing that healing was the most rebellious thing u can do instead of the figuring out how to be happy being the most rebellious thing u can do which I think was way Jewel was actually saying. & I think Dr. R did the same thing another instance
@kayakins3051
Жыл бұрын
That tricking the mind is denial . Trauma bonding … bless her heart
@kathyparker2409
Жыл бұрын
This was most excellent!! Love the way she describes healing and chooses to go right instead of left every day. Many of us have an emotional inheritance that we need to look at, edit ruthlessly, and choose to learn new tools to rise above and not stay in the black hole. Also, appreciate the way she describes the dysfunctions without contempt or witch hunting derogatory dialogue.
@CherishEachDay2023
Жыл бұрын
All I can say is wow. Jewel has always been one of my favorite female singers with her soulful voice and deep lyrics. Now I see what a strong and brave woman she is to face her past and choose the best path forward for her and her son. God bless Jewel, her son and her father as they continue healing from the trauma. She seems very much at peace and I nothing but respect for all the good work she is doing to help others. Thank you for all you do to support people in narcissistic and traumatic relationships with this incredible channel. 🙏🥰
@colettespencer3357
Жыл бұрын
I resonate. The people who make you doubt your sanity. It takes time to recover.
@coppermoon4747
Жыл бұрын
It's challenging in so many ways! Well done! ❤ So emotionally articulate and beautifully described! Thank you! Thanks for the great music too! Been listening for a bit.🎶🙂
@katec9893
18 күн бұрын
Jewel's story has always resonated with me. She has such an intuitive way with words it really connects to me. I love how she used the imagery of the oyster and the pearl, the buffalo, the compass and she said her goal was to learn a new emotional language in order to save herself.
@tjtampa214
Жыл бұрын
This was so good. I am so happy for Jewel. 💜 She was right so many times. We really do have to listen to ourselves. And what a big struggle it is. It takes a lifetime for so many things. God bless you and thank you for making your platform "innerworld" available to everyone in an economical way. God bless you! 💜
@birdtribes
Жыл бұрын
She is amazing !!! What a Spirit , my God !! Thank you for this testimony , much love !
@elvaldes2072
Жыл бұрын
This was so inspiring. Thank you Dr. Ramani for having Jewel on to tell her story. This one will stay with me on my healing journey.
@337BLOOMLEE
Жыл бұрын
Jewel is a amazing grl, n what that grl went thru was HORRIFIC... Bless her ❤️ 💙 💜 🙏 she is a tru WARRIOR. My Alaskan grl!!!
@andreadanburg5649
Жыл бұрын
Thank you for this brilliant discussion! I can relate to Jewel’s perspective on so many levels. I love that she is honest about her healing journey and her willingness to share. Her statement about choosing to do the work, rather than ignore the trauma is so true. Either way, work is involved, but at least if you are striving toward healing, there is a light at the end of the tunnel. My sister and I grew up in an abusive home. She is still hurting 😢. I try to help her as much as I can, but realize that it is a personal journey. One thing I always say is “Remember, you have feelings, but your feelings don’t have you!”
@marianne9496
5 ай бұрын
Thank you so much @Jewel for your brave and rebellious soul, for your authenticity and vulnerability, for having planted that seed of love, kindness and compassion to self in me when I was a teenager through your music and watering it with so much wisdom and peace now that I’m in my 40s! And thank you @Dr.Ramani, not only for your brilliant work that I have been following for over a decade now and that helped me put words and clarity to what I have been confronted with, but for creating a platform in which all of us survivors of (narcissistic) abuse are put centered to the conversation instead of (only) focussing on the abusers behaviour. If surviving the abuse is the happy end of a wicked fairytale, it’s important to help us understand, what the “ever after” should/could look like! I’m grateful beyond words to your resilience, courage, empathy and strenght! And to all of us happiness rebels, may we all wash the mud of our golden loving souls!❤️✨
@PeaceMeBish
Жыл бұрын
Love this. Reading Jewel’s book changed my life. It gave me the courage to face my traumatic childhood with the belief that I could and would triumph. Got out of an abusive relationship with a covert narcissist a month ago and about to move into my own place next week. I know my future is bright and I really appreciate people like Jewel who share not only their pain, but also their joy, accomplishments, and healing with others. It really can and does make a huge difference. Thank you for this amazing episode!
@orielwiggins2225
Жыл бұрын
I loved her book when I read it many years ago and it was helpful to my own healing process. Makes me think I should go back and read it again. Some really good insight on this episode! And LOVE the artist mine she brings to healing process. So so good. And I can't wait to check out the Inner World healing space. Thank you for featuring her.
@heartheart5543
Жыл бұрын
Never broken book?
@orielwiggins2225
Жыл бұрын
@@heartheart5543 yes, read it shortly after it came out in 2015. Good stuff
@heartheart5543
Жыл бұрын
@@orielwiggins2225 i read never broken paperback while listening to her reading it (never broken audiobook)
@crocadoodle7101
Жыл бұрын
Jewel is a gem!💎
@TallulahBelle3276
Жыл бұрын
I sought help through counseling for 2 years. It helped me tremendously but I can’t afford it anymore. So I’m grateful that I have your channel to go to and continue my education of navigating my life with a narcissistic husband of 40 years. I’m 61 now and I’m terrified that I won’t be able to pay my own living expenses to survive. I’m a shell of the woman I once was. I was confident, optimistic, hardworking, and talented in many ways. Now I’m afraid of everything. I’m totally unsure of myself. I live in a dark place and don’t know how to get out of it. I feel hopeless. Not suicidal but hopeless. If I didn’t have your channel n content I’d be even more lost. Thank you.💝🙏🏽💝
@Prometheuspredator
Жыл бұрын
I hope you can get out as you need to. You deserve a better life than spending the rest of your life with an abusive narc. You can apply for your social security at 62. Please look into this and there are resources out there to help you. Don't mean to come off so rigid. You deserve happiness and joy. Blessings to you.
@TallulahBelle3276
Жыл бұрын
@@Prometheuspredator ,Thank you. 🙏🏽
@janefinley-english1051
Жыл бұрын
Please work on healing you. The mentally healthier you are the easier it gets to make the right choices. Wishing you love & light. Been there. Healing is highly possible. 😍
@GabrielleP310
7 ай бұрын
Her description on the sand/pearl process, this is so AMAZING‼️‼️‼️ In my opinion, she in essence described all forms of ADDICTIONS and the inner CORE of narcissists who mainly have a hallow sense of SELF‼️‼️‼️
@rundbaum
Жыл бұрын
'willfully tricking myself' . . . that is SUCH a good term she spontaneously used. i've willfully tricked my self into believing i wasn't being duped & someone cares when all along i was their assigned consumer serf, or something. i personally can say i've 'willfully tricked' my self into believing that someone 'loved' me--but it was a commercial exchange in their mind, they weren't landing on 'love.' that kind of thing. i LOVE jewel!! we went thru a hospice situation w/my own dad in his house in dec (& he passed) but 'jewel' kept coming up repeatedly on his google tv after i'd 'set it up!' nutz. my relatives had to get sick of me singing her songs to the tv late @ night as we all tended to my dad. i like 'intuition' best, b/c i DON"T 'follow my own mind' to reach my intuition :) . . .
@Jennifer1Carr
Жыл бұрын
I am in awe of Jewel's strength and talent. This has been one of the best and most educational videos I've ever seen on this subject. God bless you Dr. Ramani and Jewel for sharing this with all of us who have been through, or are currently in similar situations. It always helps to get others' insight in the complicated issues of manipulation and abuse! ❤🙏
@6by6by6
Жыл бұрын
Jewel has gracefully navigated through a landscape of deceit manipulation betrayal & abuse not only at the hands of both her parents but the music industry as well. I don’t know why she would ever want to give her abusive father the time of day .. He doesn’t deserve to ever be in her or her child’s life and should be purged from her life entirely as she has demonstrated a weakness towards manipulation & enforcement of boundaries related to family relationships.
@smadm2437
6 ай бұрын
In her book, Jewel says that forgiveness does not mean condoning what someone did, but it's the scissors that cut our ties with that person. We forgive to free ourselves and move on. A powerful analogy 💝
@michellerose7591
Жыл бұрын
❤Dr R… thank you.. this for me is a life changing podcast you shared with Beautiful Jewel.. I follow your content regularly and you have helped me so very much in my recovery from a life time of narcissistic abuse from my Father step mother, and two ex husband’s… I tragically lost my Mother when she was 52 yo she was brutally killed in her own home I found her 4 days after the fact.. I played Jewels famous song at her funeral “My Hands” still to this day over 20 years later I cry when I hear that song playing.. What a beautiful interview with you & Jewel… Please do a follow up interview with her she is amazing and I can relate to her story very much.. Tho I didn’t get take for 100 million I did lose my soul which has no price attached xxxxx bless you and all you do DR R 💜💜💜💜💜
@wordswordswords8203
Жыл бұрын
Jewel is brilliant. Wow. And so brave. My takeaways. Don't look for other people to heal you. Go out and take the chance to do it yourself. Use your anxiety and anger to your advantage to learn about yourself. Take the road that gives you a chance for change, even if it's hard, because the familiar dysfunctional road is hard and pretty hopeless. I have huge anger issues and I often get stuck in the anger. Her saying to go to sleep and just figure out what she can do about it the next day is good advice. Not easy or even possible to do often, but good to strive for. One other thought I have comes up. when you grow up in an abusive, narcissistic family, what your family does is not bring you up but tear you down. You have to be very aware of that, that it is no natural and to not adjust to it, because adjusting to it is always going to put you in a bad place, but work very hard to disengage from it. This often means winding up alone. That is a real problem and threat but maybe that is better and leaves space for something else to happen. Or maybe it means you die. But maybe it's not worth living the other way. I think this is very overwhelming and complicated also because not everyone is as bright and gifted and attractive as Jewel and that has helped her survive her entire life. So if you are just average or less than average you have even more of a fight on your hands. Possibly then suicide is a better choice than being used by your family. I don't know. Just a thought. this video is so extreme. Most of us can't achieve the success that Jewel has achieved in every way. It is so black and white. So what started out as a positive comment and evaluation has changed into one that is critical because I think it is asking too much of many people to get this far out of their misery and dysfunction. I think a lot of us are just kind of stuck somewhere in the middle and I guess we have to accept that's ok and do the best we can.
@LoveLoveStrong
Жыл бұрын
Shaking my head nonstop at the Jewel discussing her mom. Not knowing you are consuming poison.
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