Don't like people standing too close to me. What really puts me off, is when I try to keep distance, but they keep getting closer.
@jillconway6465
3 жыл бұрын
Someone kept doing this to me in the store yesterday ans I even had to ask myself why am I getting so internally irritated lol. I called myself out.
@user-dm1ew3gg6e
3 жыл бұрын
You are soo right
@justChrisjones
3 жыл бұрын
I've even looked up what is the correct distance to talk to someone. 😢 !
@ryanlucascarrasco
3 жыл бұрын
Yes
@Angelicconnections111
3 жыл бұрын
yes !
@deanacincotta2236
3 жыл бұрын
Being stagnant in your own growth. INFJ's spend sooo much time researching & learning about themselves and others (in order to understand, to grow, to help) and it's disheartening to an INFJ when others don't put any effort into learning about themselves. Besides, the more they learn about themselves the more they can share with INFJ's and it will help us to understand them better (and have deeper & more meaningful interactions). I've noticed that the relationship between an INFJ and another person will get stunted when the INFJ sees that the other person isn't investing in their personal growth and "self-knowledge".
@mrg6663
3 жыл бұрын
An INFJ would know if somebody is genuine or faking a personality to impress or manipulate. I can tolerate many differences if the person is genuine. But disingenuity is unforgiveable and noticed pretty quickly.
@yenvi1546
3 жыл бұрын
absolutely!!
@LisaCorleone
3 жыл бұрын
My actions always match my words. I remember everything too. I can't stand wishy washy ppl. Indecisive ppl. Ppl who ask others what to do & take advice from ppl who know nothing on a subject. I don't call them out on it. But in my mind....I remember that.
@04ingoditrust04
3 жыл бұрын
Yeeeessssss!
@rissa5161
2 жыл бұрын
@@LisaCorleone yes I agree... I have a close friend who would often ask me what to do in certain situations or ask me to decide things for her. Sometimes she even regrets the decision. It really gets on my nerves. >:( One time she wanted to get this dress and asked me to pick one... so I did, and she said that the dress I picked looks too plain, but she bought it anyway 😃... After it came, she kept on asking me if it looks good on her, and I said yes it does. But, again... she kept on asking me over and over again if I think that it'll fit the theme for a party she's going to, I said it does... AGAIN... she sent me pics of other dresses and asked me if one of those would look better... And me being an honest person, I said this one dress would look better I think... but then she replied that the second dress I picked might make her look fat. Yeah, after that I just stopped replying to her for a while and she finally decided to wear the first dress. 😭
@nalissolus9213
3 жыл бұрын
Lack of authenticity and dishonesty are my biggest turn-offs.
@ItsNicola
3 жыл бұрын
Yes!
@LisaCorleone
3 жыл бұрын
Me too. I despise everything artificial. Real or nothing.
@TheUniversesDaughter
3 жыл бұрын
makes me cringeee
@annmarie6870
2 жыл бұрын
Ugh me to
@didi_0111
2 жыл бұрын
Yes…. Agreed
@JohnJohnson-bd9zq
3 жыл бұрын
"We like to have conversations that actually MEAN something. A lot of us have a hard time with small talk and see it as a waste of time. I have better things to do. I got work to do. Why am I standing here for 20 minutes talking about nothing with someone that doesn't matter." - The truest thing I've ever heard/seen on the interwebz. This is like every company party or every party that your extrovert friend forces you to go to.
@justChrisjones
3 жыл бұрын
Scare me away by trying to impose your extroverted ideas on what I should be doing with myself. Example: I'm sitting in the warm sun writing or reading and my nieghbor automatically thinks I want her to run over to me with her 3 pitbulls. She assumes anyone in her line of sight wants her to come over and chat. No boundaries. Like, let's keep doing this until your dogs knock me on to the concrete. I love paw prints on my book.
@cliffvandersluis1112
3 жыл бұрын
Sounds like you need to learn to set strong boundaries.
@justChrisjones
3 жыл бұрын
@@cliffvandersluis1112 yes, this kind take no hints . This was after I called the police when she was chasing me into my house. So after many tries she finally moved. Her boyfriend was a felon.
@cliffvandersluis1112
3 жыл бұрын
That brings more clarity and understanding to your first comment. Hope things worked out for you in the end.
@justChrisjones
3 жыл бұрын
@@cliffvandersluis1112 Yes, thank you. Peace and tranquility.
@Jo-kh1yo
3 жыл бұрын
I had a neighbor like this... if I left my front door open in the summer time to let in fresh air, within a few minutes or less she would be messaging me asking if I wanted to meet up for a cuppa.... It was like she was watching my front door! Aaarghhhh!
@jonesy2892
3 жыл бұрын
Don't micromanage us!!!! INFJs are highly competent people and just do life very well. We don't need anyone hovering over us and we'll become VERY resentful if we have to put up with this.
@buckeyemusicguy
3 жыл бұрын
Not a fan of Ego. 100% agree. Bragging, I just don't feel the need to do it myself & get annoyed when others think they are going to impress me by doing so. Don't brag about anything to earn my respect.
@chaapola5694
3 жыл бұрын
I feel you bro like we infj pick up when people around us start to brag even about little things and that shit annoys us.. that’s why when we talk we try to avoid bragging to not give that bad impression that we feel when people brag around us lol
@aishiasenior2617
3 жыл бұрын
Tell me what I'm thinking, my motivation or intent, without asking and especially after I have explained myself. I lose soooooooo much respect for ppl like that, it's a count down to the SLAM!
@EmeraldEdge72
3 жыл бұрын
I've had this problem with two black girls for quite a few weeks now. I even gave them videos (not INFJ vids) to help explain myself, but they just seem so hopeless. I am black as well so you could only imagine.
@aditi1729
3 жыл бұрын
Yesss someone gets me! I don’t like it when people assume things about me. Like no, we’re not the same people. Don’t tell me how I’m going to be/what I’m going to do. Go away. Haha
@nalissolus9213
3 жыл бұрын
I'm a depressed INFJ who procrastinate ALOT, it has become crippling and thinking about stuff just fills me with guilt and sadness that I'm not able to live up to my ideals. I'm an all-or-nothing kind of person so when I'm too weak-willed or tired to perform I shut down completely. I wasn't like this before so I'm ashamed of what I have become. I think total isolation has worn me down. I also have problems making choices since I have many different interests and I can't pick one life path. I'm stuck in my head and don't follow through with anything anymore. The list of what I feel I ought to do piles up and I don't know where to begin so I just shut down and distract myself with youtube etc. while feeling miserable and guilty.
@uckBayNguyen
3 жыл бұрын
Dude, your dark night is upon you. Your last and final step is to let go. Your ego and madness of wanting to make sense. Let them go. Detach yourself from what is holding you back. Once you realize your insignificance is when you will experience your spiritual awakening. Let yourself be nothing. No connection. Absolute nakedness like the day your were born. Set your soul free and let it fly. You will no longer be a slave to the world, but a master of your own destiny. You will no longer be of the world. You will be a much more understanding of being an INFJ. Don't be afraid of the dark night, it's the door you've been searching all your life. Take a deep breath, release the hesitancy and let the power above guide you through. See you on the other side, INFJ
@itsyourgirlkay6521
3 жыл бұрын
@@uckBayNguyen even though this comment wasn't meant for me, thank you so much for this! I'm also experiencing the same things in my life right now
@uckBayNguyen
3 жыл бұрын
@@itsyourgirlkay6521 Kay, the spiritual awakening is a calling. A calling to answer to a higher conscience. A calling to do the will of our Father, who art in Heaven. You will not walk alone but will be guided by His love and inspiration. Your mind will open, your soul at peace, and wisdom will come as you ask and knock. Your intuition will sharpen and you must take heed. You'll never be alone as Jesus will walk and talk to you daily. Embrace Him and His guidance. Let go of everything and let Him take you into his arms. He will set you free. He will bless you with strength and health and bestow upon you wings to fly and a trumpet to declare His glory. Always give thanks and gratitude. Be grateful of who you are and the gift you have. He will help you detach from the bonds of setting you free. In the world you'll walk alone, but your soul will soar freely. Seek inspiration to be like Him. In essence, let those who see you can say, a disciple of Christ, she is. By the way, you'll spend a lot of time crying. You'll be shedding your old shell and your tears will be joy of letting go
@amandagarcia9229
2 жыл бұрын
You have described exactly how I feel. It’s almost scary. To be honest I don’t have any advice for you…we’re both in the same unhealthy state. So just know you’re not alone.
@54lex
2 жыл бұрын
My heart goes out to you. I 've been the same way all my life. Im 61 now. Feel like my life has been a total waste even I have been blessed with a beautiful family,and a beautiful faith in Jesus.
@Shawn-fn6gl
3 жыл бұрын
It’s so spot on that it’s ridiculous. I feel so seen. It feels amazing to be understood.
@04ingoditrust04
3 жыл бұрын
Yes! I've found home! 🙃
3 жыл бұрын
I’m loving this channel and all your content on INFJs! Thank you 🙂
@renemartz1520
3 жыл бұрын
Thank God I'm not the only one who catches and releases spiders from my house! I've literally never met another human being in my life who does it too. I've always had a complex about it because others have made fun of me or made me think I'm weird. I'm so happy to know I'm not alone in that lol. Your awesome! Love this video too! ❤😊🕷
@Gigi-wo8yv
3 жыл бұрын
I have been doing the catch and release of insects for a very long time! Wish everyone felt like we do!
@stephaniescott424
Жыл бұрын
You are not alone! I grew up in a household where that was what you did if you didn't want a bug indoors. Spiders are nice to have around though-they typically keep to themselves.
@sarahmeadows5432
10 ай бұрын
I do this and I'm not INFJ
@MsDoryLinda
3 жыл бұрын
I'm an INFP and I relate to ALL these 💯 Just the other day I had one of those sales call for my business too and I decided not to buy because of that pressure to commit to buy by the end of call. I kept explaining that I needed time to weigh my options and digest the conversation and they completely disregarded that saying "if I was serious then I'd invest". There was NO way I'd work with someone who didn't care to listen and honor my way of working.
@infpanaisluciacomedy
3 жыл бұрын
Yep! I'm the same way with purchases! I like to research all options, think about it, then decide. By the way, love your videos! Very helpful! -INFP
@MsDoryLinda
3 жыл бұрын
@@infpanaisluciacomedy awesome 🤗 I'm so glad you love my content 😀
@thejoycatcher8189
3 жыл бұрын
I love doing what others believe I couldn’t accomplish! I do things quietly and I don’t push for too much outside help. I plan a lot! LOL I enjoy my alone time and have patience. So when I have a goal I do not waste my time telling just anyone any longer. I’m working on something big for me right now. It has a process it has to go through. It’s reached a point most thought I’d never get it to! It’s empowering and exciting! I’ve learned so many vast things and realize just how little I know myself?! At first it was scary. But now that I’ve taken baby steps and fear less, I’ve tasted a bit of success! It makes me want to keep going! I’ve watched several of your videos for a few weeks and subscribed this A. M. I am so picky and want to make sure I’m learning and listening to someone who can bring more to my life, open my mind, and know they’re relatable! LOL You make so much sense to me! Just wanted to thank you! This is something I’ve been struggling with. I realize there’s so much more out there to learn, I need less but know less about what I’m capable of? It’s funny and exciting now but when I first realized how much I still have to grow it was scary and overwhelming. But now it’s become an adventure?! LOL Better in my 40’s than 20’s?! For me it is! No midlife crisis. It’s a midlife awaking of sorts? 🤷🏻♀️😄👌🏻👍🏻
@MA-vf2ir
3 жыл бұрын
YES!!! I also relocate bugs! - fellow INFJ
@Gigi-wo8yv
3 жыл бұрын
So do I. Thanks for sharing that! Doesn't it feel good, when we put an insect outside. I think the insect is happy also!!!
@Elletorryshred
3 жыл бұрын
We definitely love asking why?! And some people find that so intrusive, when we are just curious and want to understand them properly, deeply.
@MVPA-io5ee
3 жыл бұрын
I can relate even from the first opinion... When INFJ heard 1 statement from someone and decide we don't want anything to do with them ..😂😂
@JonasAnandaKristiansson
3 жыл бұрын
10:12 EXACTLY: Nothing is more limiting and making me want to spend even more time alone than "this". Can't ask or get into, or question things without people thinking one is "against them" or disagreeing with them. I am not against or disagreeing, with my own stuff or theirs, I just want to make the energy and time worthwhile, investigate. Looking at ALL sides, not just what I believe and think is right. I want the perspectives, the clarity, the reality, not just the "seemings" of things. We ain't getting anywhere as a human race from that.
@JonasAnandaKristiansson
3 жыл бұрын
"What are your reasons/reasoning behind your concept/belief/whatever?" Other person; " I don't need any." Or/and: " Why are you so annoying, why are you questioning me, don't your trust me?" Or anything alike. It has NOTHING to do with my question that is based on curiosity and the genuine interest to understand and evolve, for self and other. Just because one wants to understand, go deeper, question and whatever, doesn't mean (whatsoever) that I am not "for you, or with you". Has nothing to do with one another. One can be of sympathy and use logic and the intellect at the same time.
@JonasAnandaKristiansson
3 жыл бұрын
In short: The problem is that people misunderstand and misjudge our/my intention of "adding more" to whatever it may be. It feels to me like a lack of true trust, as though I am not doing anything I do FOR them.
@Gio-sx7kt
3 жыл бұрын
One of the things that bugs me in a lot of mbti discussions is the perpetuated idea that trapping a spider to put outside is of the Fi function, an Fi value, but I was always the one wanting to save and trap spiders to put outside, which I felt a product of my Fe-Se functions, while my INFP ex would just kill it, which I felt attached to his Si-Te. And well he's my ex for a lot if not all of these very reasons. The breaking point was when he told me it wasn't ok for me to be me anymore. I should've left sooner, but I felt conflicted, and I think maybe that was a product of my Fi blindness, and Fe desire to accept people as they are, but I'm still trying to figure it out. I just know that there are solid reasons to keep that door shut.
@TK-kf8zc
3 жыл бұрын
Yes, passive agression does stimulate our overthinking, and it is stressful, exhausting and makes us distrustful.
@RaeLarz
3 жыл бұрын
As an INFP who dated an INFJ, this video is very helpful on both fronts! The only thing I DON'T relate to here, is I have a tendency to enjoy impulsive decisions
@ohyeah2269
3 жыл бұрын
mann as an ENFP everything you mentioned were huge turn-offs to me. Things I also wouldn't appreciate though I'd have tolerance for those things. No wonder we love INFJs and sure INTJs cause I very much resonate with them probably not liking the above experiences.
@dovilegrickeviciute378
3 жыл бұрын
Being pushy with me. Being very egoistic (no-maskers, I'm looking at you) Some very serious moral values clashes (I don't think I could ever view a hunter positively)
@achtube85
3 жыл бұрын
Man, you hit the nail on the head again. Great content and great quality as always!
@aly7754
3 жыл бұрын
The end and means part is so true. I have been debating with my ISFJ bestie for years (eventually we just accepted we’re different) on this issue. I think the means is as important as the end but she thinks only the end matters.
@fredericrahgoshay-chauvin3039
3 жыл бұрын
I got so annoyed and pist off 😅 Gosh! It felt like you were rubbing sandpaper on window 😂
@bike6776
3 жыл бұрын
This is a great video! It is like you are going into my brain and explaining what I could not have explained to this day😁 I will save it to utilize wherever I need to explain myself. Thank you!🙏🏻😊
@overseaoversea6602
3 жыл бұрын
Ticked every box, the INFJ personality test passed! :D
@lorraine8962
2 жыл бұрын
Spot on - find the layers of meaning within all things!!! I feel like a lone cosmonaut most of the time, going where no one has gone before, in exploration of theories. My mind naturally does that. I found that many of them are bs, used as marketing tools. Picking up on the personality and motives of others happens in lightning speed.
@shynicorn3193
3 жыл бұрын
Thank you, perfect examples and the crazy part is we feel like we pit up with or compromise constantly. Those are our crumb demands to feel loved and valued. Especially the road trip or inviting others, always disappointing but they do it because we are to intense to completely be alone with.
@sabrinalrose
3 жыл бұрын
Interrupting my work - biggest turn off ever.
@Calla0001
11 ай бұрын
Nailed it, excellent examples
@infpanaisluciacomedy
3 жыл бұрын
Wow. I'm an INFP and I would never do any of these things, ha ha. These would turn me off too! Great video! It's so funny because I actually recently uploaded a video of INFP Women Turn-offs, ha ha! :D
@ma_ja1744
2 жыл бұрын
I think i am more an INTJ, but this explained a lot to me why i react to things like i do. INTJ would kill the spider, yes? ;-)
@beckywarren7732
2 жыл бұрын
Wanna piss me off, be manipulating or try to be intimidating.
@MeeCee5204
3 жыл бұрын
Be closed minded Be coy or vague Be fake humble Be wilfully ignorant Be unpredictable Be purposely difficult Be overly judgemental Be selfishly opportunistic
@uckBayNguyen
3 жыл бұрын
Loud people. Loud laughter that can echo off walls. Anything loud that is inescapable. Penetrating megaphone mouth
@joshuabernardo4305
3 жыл бұрын
I forgot this was a list of what not to do. Every bullet point had me triggered and confused.
@CajunAdrienne
Жыл бұрын
I'm the loud and hyperish type around people. What's funny is I'm totally quiet and calm when alone. I have social anxiety and think that's why I mask it with talking to much .
@elikagf8954
Жыл бұрын
How about this one : be indecisive about your emotions, tell them you have feelings for them one day , and few weeks later take it back and say you don't remembered saying that!!!!
@kartikatrielallevariyahela278
3 жыл бұрын
YEA. I HAVE WATCHED 4 OF YOUR VIDEOS. YOU SOUND LIKE AN INFJ .🤟🏾💛👑🗝💎
@pamchapman3694
3 жыл бұрын
Spot on!! My husband agreed 100%
@CourTooKnee
2 ай бұрын
All it takes is one little break in concentration and *snaps the finger*.... Yeahhh... IOTYYANMIAA! But playing like so is the next best thing, ain't it?
@retrogradepink
3 жыл бұрын
i'd add: unsolicited advice! if an INFJ tells you about some fanciful idea they just had, the best way to instantly crush their enthusiasm is by telling them that they *should* really do X, Y, Z with that idea. happens all the time with my ENTJ boyfriend. he loves to hear my ideas, and then tell me i should be acting on them, when all i really want is to express my ideas. ugh.
@sussycatto30
3 жыл бұрын
I guess people hate me now.. it's ok I'm all alone anyway - INFJ
@bluntweirdo
2 жыл бұрын
being put on a pedestal and idealized while being related through and not to. they relate to “me” but it’s really their own eroticized idea of me.
@BrJon-uh8cm
2 жыл бұрын
Wow, every point rings true. I can't stand pressure salespeople or deadlines, we need to process the info and distill the info.I save spiders from the shower BTW.
@emmaransford
3 жыл бұрын
I can totally relate to all of the above mentioned. I'm into with my darker side of my personality,
@mickeybear2972
2 жыл бұрын
Another way to piss us off: Talk bad about someone to us; especially if it’s family/someone We’re close to. It makes it impossible for that person to defend themselves (even if you’re points are valid) and makes us want to defend on their behalf since we hold justice as a worthy and untouchable ideal.
@saranox7319
3 жыл бұрын
Any abusive or close minded behaviours. Lie to me (that's an insult becuase I'm not judgemental becuase I see all sides, and it shows how little you know or trust me). Be manipulative. Be aggressive. Gaslight me. Blame shift. Try to intimidate me. Be led by soely emotion. Have double-standarts. Repeatedly try to push my boundaries. Label me as "negativ" or complaining. (When I am disecting a social construct or behaviors.) Call me boring (cause you can't comprehend my side of the conversation) Be a trashy person and only contacting me at late hours when bored or I'm convinient. Show up to our meet ups without sleeping the night before, (that's disrespectful to the quality time I am looking for and to me.) Never provide any emotional support and refer to "independant strong woman" when I ask for support. Be all ego. Don't put any effort into self-reflection or improvement.
@thatinfjgirl
3 жыл бұрын
Wow! Spot on. Thank your for this. 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 LOL, I have the same policy when it comes to high pressure sales. Automatic no.
@SavannahRoseDI
3 жыл бұрын
I cannot abide people turning up at my house unannounced or saying I'm on my way! and rocking up in 10 minutes its like jezuz!!!
@lisaariottiart
Жыл бұрын
Spot on! Wow -- I feel so less socially awkward listening to you 😂 Would you say and INFJ/INFJ relationship is the ultimate?
@lyfeelai5553
2 жыл бұрын
I'm an INFP and all you said are turn-offs for me too.
@zijywo5550
2 жыл бұрын
On 07:18 - Be overly attached to traditions - Every communication class on TED talks etc asks people to never make assumptions, find out where the other person is coming from. Doesn't that mean that the people who don't like to be questioned 'why' and never ask 'why' are just poor communicators? I'm talking about just the initial 'why', and asked in a polite manner. It's ridiculous how FPs and SJs feel so indignant about being asked to explain their decision-making contexts.
@YamaBeth
3 жыл бұрын
Laughed at every point because: Me. I really wish that I knew about Meyers~Briggs and INFJ when I was in my 20’s. I think that I would have been able to navigate my emotional life so much better. And the one about people who think you’re crazy. So many times. So many examples. Hence, a “few” friends and family that I make time for. Couldn’t care about the rest. Well, I mean, I do care, but not as a part of my personal life.
@DeeS8
3 жыл бұрын
spot on, especially 1, 3, 4, 5 , 6, 7, 8, 9 and 12.
@why55555
3 жыл бұрын
I had to come back to watch a 2nd time to confirm...you are perfectly describing my family now. They didn't used to be like this. Does this happen to the female elder of a pack of sons & grandsons she lives with eventually or only after they all find out the dead Dad/Ex hubby was CIA Minister then 2nd wife's house burned down? Stuck in Sarasota. Feels like hell. Blessed to be alive.🙏Determined to help others stuck in confusing isolation after attacks before I'm gone anywayz. Thx for your view that helps ground me when I feel so alone & ganged up on somedays. It is nice someone understands what we are like.👀
@joyowen7522
3 жыл бұрын
After watching this video I finally realized my bf of 1yr does not open up at all! I broke up with him right away. Why do I need to be with him when there is no connection!
@GenRN
6 ай бұрын
I’m supposed to be a perfect match with an INFJ as an ENTP (female). On paper INFJ sounds absolutely perfect for me. The 3 I’ve met are kinda a$$holes. Is it just the ones I’ve met? I don’t have these issues with any other type. One was abusive, all 3 completely talk past me, do not listen and seem to have their own conversation going on in their head that no one else is privy to. They refuse to get into deeper conversation. They seem incredibly shallow and defensive. It’s exhausting and I’m not seeking them out anymore. Maybe these are just unhealthy INFJs?
@marieofstad6984
3 жыл бұрын
I 100% agree with this! Great video :)
@maybee...
3 жыл бұрын
Do not under any circumstances tell me I am depressed. My silence is not and indicator.
@cezabose
Жыл бұрын
Passive aggression IS abuse .
@aaronrobinson6244
Жыл бұрын
Spot. On. 👏🏾
@Dr.JudeAEMasonMD
3 жыл бұрын
🤔… You’re literally the male version of me. All of it. Being rushed into making a decisio? Nope Being interrupted while I’m working? Nope. (I don’t have a neurotypical brain and it takes sooooo much time to get back on track.) Yes, time boundaries are something so crucial to recovered “people pleasers” Yes, I have made the choice not spend undue time with people who only ever make room for that they want. I have learned use my words to ask for what I want and some people still can’t see beyond their ego into equitability in relational interactions. No, I can’t do people who don’t use their words, I am just too much of an empath to read the tea leaves of random stonewalling or silent treatments in any relationship. Yes, I just need good quality time. Don’t take me away for an impromptu fancy ski weekend and be salty because I took too long to pack my suitcase; the gesture is lost and I’d rather stay home and enjoy my own company. I thought I was just weird. I guess the universe/KZitem algorithm knows entirely too much about my psyche. 😉 #INFJ #InattentiveADHD
@canadianchinota
3 жыл бұрын
That was hilarious, impressive!
@edixasanchezpacheco3692
3 жыл бұрын
Please to all those narcissistic out here don’t use this info to be a bad person on an INFJ
@peggyb86
3 жыл бұрын
You are so good looking and wise and healthy... Sorry just saying
@kacake
9 ай бұрын
I prefer old songs, classic forms of art, I prefer conservative ideas too, so maybe not traditions but systems that don't give the maximum result, we like the best food, best dress, etc and we like making complex ideas simple, innovate to improve. well when I am given a role to decide on the project our team would always winh coz I see the big picture I see what is needed and criteria to be met I think that's how we are wired, solving problems for our caregivers, our brains were forced to push ourselves to our limits a lot, when we were young, we know how to build up people and even rescue lost people, like all family members couldn't contain d person but I could, I can activate dead passions or spark sense of purpose out of sheer intuition. I was surprised with time but really I hate it when someone breaks an appointment or late all the time, doesn't show up and even explain, or when we are together is distracted, coz we don't have to meet if the person is not available, I can manage long time of no contact but if we have time and the person doesn't maximize the time I give, yeah, it's a big thing
@juliemayhwang4469
Ай бұрын
Just feel. 🧚🌷
@MindfulEating-n3c
3 жыл бұрын
You said all
@SashaCapricious
3 жыл бұрын
These words are UGHHH. Mainly these are all the reasons why it doest work with ENFJ.😂😂😂
@annmarie6870
2 жыл бұрын
I’m an INFP. Not too into this personality type though lol!
@joinahmukanangana2993
3 жыл бұрын
Tell me about politics ,celebrate gossip beauty magazines and football .fashion ,or what you own or how much you have I will slam the door
@consciousthoughtwithkatie4051
3 жыл бұрын
This made me laugh 😅. Thank you kindly. Irony within myself hahaha 😆.
@beckywarren7732
2 жыл бұрын
So me. Pressure me, the answers no.
@diannovianti101
3 жыл бұрын
✔🎯👏👏👏 Loved your content so much!🧡⚘
@donnastichert549
3 жыл бұрын
Yeah, I'm a (stupid) rule breaker... :)
@flower341
3 жыл бұрын
I still didn't understand why am I an infj
@juliemayhwang4469
Ай бұрын
shy
@nambc777
2 жыл бұрын
A-Z of me! 🤣🤣🤣😘
@Hambar7
3 жыл бұрын
Everything is true :)
@deathpunch6766
Жыл бұрын
Take a trip in the mind an faze them out
@Heyitsmecathyo
3 жыл бұрын
Me: No no no noooo noo. Dont expose us like that. Everyone's going to be mean. 😅😣😣😣😞😞😞😞
@robinpees7472
3 жыл бұрын
Some one better talk an talk fast. Remember the legend. John Lennon dont u like his music. I think the old stuff is pretty good I just remembered a song from john Lennon or his brother. I think. Dont leave me now I think the name is slower
@t.c9537
3 жыл бұрын
I don't like being around people who always turns a discussion into an argument...people who takes everything I say personally and who makes it their mission to prove me wrong
@miafannin1
3 жыл бұрын
this.
@yenvi1546
3 жыл бұрын
oh my god yes i hate that
@stacfred9509
3 жыл бұрын
Absolutely this.
@thatinfjgirl
3 жыл бұрын
Agreed. Too combative and stressful.
@mysterical-
3 жыл бұрын
I agree so much.
@achtube85
3 жыл бұрын
Timestamps: 00:00 - Intro 00:46 - 1 | Be a logical contradiction 01:49 - 2 | Never open up 02:50 - 3 | Force them into small talk 03:48 - 4 | Dismiss their ideas 05:03 - 5 | Discourage their passions 06:24 - 6 | Interrupt their work 07:18 - 7 | Be overly attached to traditions 08:52 - 8 | Accuse them of being crazy 10:30 - 9 | Force impulsive decisions 12:46 - 10 | Be passive aggressive 13:38 - 11 | Make everything about you 14:21 - 12 | Act like the end justifies the means 15:28 - 13 | Disrespect quality time 16:49 - Outro
@madmushroom8639
3 жыл бұрын
Here it is! Thank you :)
@heronofheaven
3 жыл бұрын
If an INFJ truly understand that, he will make an internal smile whenever see this kind of people and he will find a way to understand and attracted by them.
@aditi1729
3 жыл бұрын
This video describes me to a T. I’m gonna send it to my potential boyfriend hehe
@DeSa5602
3 жыл бұрын
Thanks man amazing!
@vanessa271
3 жыл бұрын
Love it...thanks so much! This list is 100% correct.
@Reindeer911
3 жыл бұрын
Belittling an INFJ in any fashion is risky business. Definitely on the mark with this video.
@paulmulhern1096
3 жыл бұрын
OMG, this is so bang on. By describing how not to attract an INFJ you perfectly describe the INFJ!
@barbarawarren9443
3 жыл бұрын
These points are spot-on. No wonder I enjoy quarantine so much! Any quarantine negatives are quickly offset by not having to deal with all that crap.
@LisaCorleone
3 жыл бұрын
Agree.
@yenvi1546
3 жыл бұрын
so true!
@thatinfjgirl
3 жыл бұрын
😂 same
@JonasAnandaKristiansson
3 жыл бұрын
AWESOME as always. Insightful, reflective, clear, intelligent stuff. Thank you brother!!
@pieterbruin
3 жыл бұрын
My biggest turn off is the logical contradiction / cognitive dissonance thing. It's effing everywhere. And my second one is jealousy / envy / competition. I really enjoy gardening and one of my neighbors down the street has made it quite obvious several times that she thinks I'm doing it solely to impress and compete. And what makes it even worse is that she often tries to trick me into confirming her pathetic view by saying 'You must be very proud that you have the nicest garden in the street. NO?'. It's SO annoying.
@violet18
Жыл бұрын
Yes! I've often heard people say that a narcissistic individual will expose themselves by accusing you of things that they are guilty of. If the neighbor is asking you that question, then it is likely that it is their mentality. I had a coworker get upset with me because she asked me if I ever got frustrated with the students and I told her no. She told me to wait until I had a class of kids all to myself. I'm literally the assistant for the class and she's going to claim that she has them all to herself!
@sarahofer4368
3 жыл бұрын
Clever Valentine's Day topic :-); the subtle irony of INFJ humor. Another altogether enjoyable vlog.
@serban2139
3 жыл бұрын
-only like me for the body -don't be willing to improve in any way, shape or form -tell me there is nothing beyond our 5 senses -tell me we're not gonna hang out on your day off because you have an 1 hour appointment all day and that makes your whole day busy(it's insane how many do this) -say "we're all gonna die, so why bother" Uhm I'm not sure how accurate these are, but they apply to me, sounds more personal than INFJ, but hey whatever there we go haha
@achtube85
3 жыл бұрын
I can so relate to this!
@user-dm1ew3gg6e
3 жыл бұрын
I totally get the 1 hour thing, I have this one friend since kindergarten who always acts like this and I do not get it at all. It seems as if it's always me keeping in contact as well 😕
@Ricard1807o
3 жыл бұрын
I relate to some of the points, although not entirely INFJ specific
@darthcarrots2581
3 жыл бұрын
First one for sure. Ended my last relationship because they were pushing too hard for physical intimacy and ONLY that when we were alone together.
@cristinamariawilmer
3 жыл бұрын
"In any way, shape, or form"... well said 👍
@kitsudanagisa
3 жыл бұрын
Not just romantic partners, also very close best friends, I noticed I get very irritated when my best friend invites me to watch a movie or a weekend full of a tv shows and they get on their phone instead of spending that quality time *they* planned for us..
@Jo-kh1yo
3 жыл бұрын
If someone ignores me and spends time on their phone when I am in their company, I say something. Its extremely rude behaviour!
@kitsudanagisa
3 жыл бұрын
@@Jo-kh1yo I do say something, I say it in a kind manner, or hint about it, they'll realize it, but get on their phone like 20 minutes later..
@darkknight3251
3 жыл бұрын
I find it so odd when people put on a show or a movie and get on the phones. Why? And as INFJ I like to pay lots of attention and try not to miss a single detail :/ 🤷
@kitsudanagisa
3 жыл бұрын
@@darkknight3251 I mean if they have emergency calls, that's okay with me, but texting during the movie or tv show they display when we're supposed to hang out, or them scrolling through their facebook/twitter/instagram/ect feed when we planned to hang out..
@darkknight3251
3 жыл бұрын
@@kitsudanagisa agreed
@rawgage7
3 жыл бұрын
Bro, you describe every thought and desire that literally goes through my mind and soul. When I took a personality test and came up with the INFJ (which I pronounce as in-fij) descriptors, I was exposed to every reason other people irritate the life out of me! I'm constantly criticized for talking about things too deep, always over analyzing everything and caring too much or being too passionate. Most people turn me off instantly with mindless small talk and can't understand why I refuse to be interested in it. I explain, "small talk is for small minded people and I'm not small minded." This has proven to most that my time and attention is valuable and only earned, not granted. I love that you are very similar and love watching how you explain it in laymen's term. Thank you for being you and being humbly strong enough to put yourself out there to the world. A deep conversation is absolute gold and cherish every one I have. Be safe and please keep making content like this so people like us know we're not crazy and the only ones feeling like this. Btw, interesting way to put the reverse psychology spin on the subject on how to turn us off instead of on... I like that 😎👍
@Glitteryglows
3 жыл бұрын
I feel you on this! You are not alone ❤️
@Gigi-wo8yv
3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this right on target info. I feel the same way.
@thevoid186
3 жыл бұрын
I have struggled and been turned off by all of these. I used to contort myself to work around them...
@rachelscheaffer9225
3 жыл бұрын
Friends talking about themselves incessantly and telling the same stories over and over and not seeming to have any interest in us. It is mind numbing. I can’t hardly take it anymore, but I politely oblige because I know they really don’t mean any harm, they just don’t know any better. When I’ve tried to stimulate the conversation, sometimes I get statements like “where did that come from?” So frustrating.
@andy-xx1rj
2 жыл бұрын
And for some reason you can't stimulate other conversations that it isn't about them cause they keep going back to the same storie, I'm so tired of it. Or making all about them when you are trying to open up.
@asdfghjkl8236
2 жыл бұрын
One main thing that has been hurting my relationship is I can’t take any more guessing... I can’t guess about how someone is feeling, thinking, or going through. I can not be with someone who isn’t transparent and is passive
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