Insecurity makes a person a target to predators everywhere.
@Blaaaah98
26 күн бұрын
Bothe genders do this in the workplace as well.
@sORrYiMLaTEwHAtdiDiMiSs.
23 күн бұрын
True, found that out at 9
@lkeke35
23 күн бұрын
Yeah they can smell insecurity a mile away!
@shanouboubou
22 күн бұрын
I'd also like to add that female friends can also be predator and feed us others's weaknesses
@MaryDunford
20 күн бұрын
Security makes predators openly hostile. I'm okay with that, but it's not ideal. I've learned it's easiest to let them think you're more insecure than you are and quietly disengage. Maybe that's a form of enabling. Who knows? But they're time burglars, regardless of whether they're passive-aggressive or openly hostile. Dealing with short-term passive-aggression is usually less emotionally charged or destructive. 🤷♀️
@liza.radley
23 күн бұрын
Keep in mind many of the predatory men think that they're good guys.
@TheSpiritRoom23
23 күн бұрын
That’s a lot of them! How would they know if they aren’t dating each other… the way they claim there’s so many good m@les how would they know…
@EnlightenedGoldenBeauty
22 күн бұрын
🎯
@Pandan1351
21 күн бұрын
FACTS
@elegantempress1395
17 күн бұрын
They all do. Men are delusional
@bunnyboo6295
14 күн бұрын
Its always the one's claiming to be good. A good person normally doesn't need to announce it
@GrowWildOutdoors
24 күн бұрын
What I'm learning: Be strong, confident & self-actualized before dating someone.
@rosamaundallen1035
18 күн бұрын
This is supposed to be common sense though.
@smudge8882
13 күн бұрын
@@rosamaundallen1035 It might seem like it because it's been something you've been aware of for a long time, but a lot of people don't realize this. I think one important piece of self-awareness is knowing that your own experiences are not going to be the same as everyone else's.
@rosamaundallen1035
13 күн бұрын
@@smudge8882Obviously but people should know not to walk around being dumb potential victims of other people.
@NataliaMoon29
12 күн бұрын
That why im still single xD
@shiannafoxx
12 күн бұрын
@@rosamaundallen1035Victim blaming at its finest
@mariono244
Ай бұрын
Another sign is you capacity to accept struggle in the dating phase. Not just big struggle but little struggle - meeting when it's a hassle for you, allowing disruptive last minute changes, taking calls when you typically sleep. Just signs that you are willing to struggle to make it work. Relationships require effort but not struggle. As an example, a guy I previously dated for 3 months would always be late, one time towards the end of us dating, he was 3 hours late with weak excuse and no apology. My current partner always (I mean always) arrives early everywhere we go, to check the place, make sure it's suitable for us. And as a sign of respect and appreciation, I make sure to arrive on time every time. A healthy masculine man hates to see their woman struggle in any way, especially for them.
@tamsparris-bah8283
Ай бұрын
@mariono, that's great advice! 😃👍🏾
@acd1168
Ай бұрын
Yessssssss 💯👌🏾
@fn-2187bb8
Ай бұрын
💯 excellent advice! thank you!
@TheMaxymama
Ай бұрын
@@mariono244 This!! Words to live by
@jesusisable7052
29 күн бұрын
I love that for ❤thanks for sharing 🎉
@mc1618
28 күн бұрын
Being single is wonderful thing
@taz9234
27 күн бұрын
Very 😂😂😂😂Just too much to find the right guy 🤦🏿♀️🤷🏿♀️😂
@userofyoutuve
27 күн бұрын
Absolutely 💯
@Vshlynnn
25 күн бұрын
Amen lol no relationship problems or drama, nobody else to romantically consider besides myself
@HoneyBee1980
25 күн бұрын
Yes It Is
@jetblackkinks
25 күн бұрын
WONDERFUL
@cherylmorton2883
23 күн бұрын
They Talk Sexually Quickly ( Huge Red Flag ) Even in their compliments.
@mechellejackson6336
21 күн бұрын
Yes this is a big one a total red flag
@Muck-qy2oo
13 күн бұрын
Unless they are clear about only wanting sex and being capable of accepting a no.
@squidwardwithoutaclue
11 күн бұрын
Okay so women never want sex ??? Why are you dating a man then ? 😭
@seraphilight
11 күн бұрын
If they're saying things like "You're a fun girl/guy." and it doesn't sound as nice a compliment as it should be- it's because it's not a compliment at all. They're setting an expectation that you need to prove yourself to them, earn being their equal, and meet their requirements. Usually by degrading yourself and agreeing to whatever they want.
@strawberrytiramisu
10 күн бұрын
This!!! Guys who do that with me get blocked with the quickness. I’ve had enough of that bullshit when I was a teen with creepy ass teenage boys. Fuck that.
@elonawilliams4809
27 күн бұрын
Watch out for back handed compliments ❤
@KatGlo
22 күн бұрын
He touched on it early in the video. But it’s negging and I nip it in the bud immediately.
@alexia3552
6 күн бұрын
Like my dad to my mom, “Aw, you’re so broken, but I love you! You’re such a good woman!”
@Avelithe
20 күн бұрын
Once I went on a date with a man who turned out to be a real creep. He was insisting I get in his car and go home with him and he wouldn’t take no for an answer. I decided to go FULL UNHINGED CRAAAAZY MODE and scream on the top of my lungs in public, just full on embarrassing him. Needless to say, it worked and he left in a hurry.
@icingcake
16 күн бұрын
*wouldn’t take no for an answer” -> run
@Avelithe
16 күн бұрын
@@icingcake LMFAO!!!!! Dude I spit out my drink
@icingcake
16 күн бұрын
@@Avelithe lol 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩
@icingcake
16 күн бұрын
@@Avelithe I worked with a guy like that. After I said something that the other guys said they thought made him tear up, he toned it down. 😠😒
@xxxtrddy
13 күн бұрын
As you should. 😅
@EarthLady333
Ай бұрын
I think another target of a predator is if you are a single mother, talking about how unsupportive or deadbeat your child’s father is. Some predators want to take advantage of what they may feel is a vulnerable single mom.
@tinyking11
Ай бұрын
BINGO! 💯‼️
@EarthLady333
Ай бұрын
Or, introducing your child to that man, early on. That might come off desperate too (not to mention it just being unsafe).
@tinyking11
Ай бұрын
@@EarthLady333 Yep. I only have 1 child and I’ve been single for 3 years but I’m exclusively dating someone and this guy is the only man that has ever met my son. I’ve dated a lot too but no one was worthy of meeting him.
@marshaanderson7105
Ай бұрын
💯
@olgabushak2942
29 күн бұрын
Anwar have said to just tell the guy right away if you have kids....I don't agree. Women w children have to BE CAREFUL. Safety always comes 1st then him trying to say oh you lied ... no I didn't lie... I'm just being cautious
@gracefulgardenia7713
28 күн бұрын
If you tell a man about anything abusive that an ex did to you, he will think it's ok for him to do it to you too.
@spacebar9733
27 күн бұрын
Not true for every man.
@sophrosyne5900
27 күн бұрын
😅 This is only true for TOXIC man . Choose differently 🎉
@gracefulgardenia7713
27 күн бұрын
@@sophrosyne5900 Most if not all men are toxic. Which is why I made the aforementioned suggestion. Telling women that "not all men" are toxic is encouraging them to keep getting played and then blaming them after the fact "You should have chose better" Instead I'm suggesting that we accept that men are toxic and act accordingly by withholding certain information such as anything abusive an ex did to you. I will add another. Don't tell him how much money you make or how much you have. Period.
@saturdayschild8535
27 күн бұрын
@@gracefulgardenia7713Too true.
@sophrosyne5900
27 күн бұрын
@@gracefulgardenia7713 True that 💯
@trenchrock
20 күн бұрын
When you start dating he'll ask you "So what are you looking for?" When you tell him, he'll pretend to be all those things until he has you where he wants you. Instead, when he says "So, What are you looking for?" You just say "Just be yourself and I'll let you know."🙂👍
@shaktimishra9710
15 күн бұрын
Nah it's still better to tell them directly. Some women like princess treatment some don't that's why it's better to them Edit: Your boyfriend isn't a mind reader or God tell him what you want directly don't expect him to know everything when you don't even communicate. Grow up ladies be little mature life isn't a film.
@SunflowerOfTheEast
12 күн бұрын
Had a guy ask me that recently. He said he likes to think he fits the bill. Well I asked him what his intentions towards me were: Girlfriend, just friends or friends with benefits? He said casual relationship and see where things go. I straight up told him I wasn’t into casual intercourse. He ghosted. It was like garlic to a vampire. 😂
@tamick2000
12 күн бұрын
Or turn the tables on him and ask what he is looking for. I finally recognized that the less I talk, the better. Most people really just are not good at hiding their agendas if you let them talk
@TheGrowingChristianLady
11 күн бұрын
@@SunflowerOfTheEast 😆😆😆
@Nokss87
9 күн бұрын
I say I'm not looking for anything, you approached me 😂😂
@TheBurgessNetwork
13 күн бұрын
One of the biggest problems is society doesn't teach women certain things. Including "following your gut." I have weeded out so many men because I followed my instincts. Just because you have a man's attention doesn't mean he deserves your attention, your time and space in your life.
@NataliaMoon29
12 күн бұрын
As an only child that grow up playing with barbies I can agree with this, they should encourage girls since their birth Then we can talk about physical strenght and all that stuff But society needs to encourage both Boys and Girls!
@lostvampire69
12 күн бұрын
Exactly. We even teach girls to NOT follow their gut. So many boys treat women bad but instead of educating and disciplining them, we tell little girls that they are sensitive, too emotional etc.
@cmg25
12 күн бұрын
I heard someone say that “butterflies” are not attraction or love, they are your nervous system sounding the alarm. 🏃♀️💨
@squidwardwithoutaclue
11 күн бұрын
We are all society. Society is you. And me. Everyone impacts everyone.
@b1njjj95
7 күн бұрын
So true! Society puts too much pressure on women to get married and have kids, but it never teaches women how to watch out for the danger signs and how to enjoy life without a man. I'm not interested in dating because I enjoy being single too much. But there is so much wisdom in videos like this and books that talk about red flags to look out for while dating. _Why Does He Do That?_ by Lundy Bancroft is such a good book!
@saturdayschild8535
27 күн бұрын
Predators love to get you talking and then will mirror everything you say. It’ll look like you have so much in common. I haven’t dated in nearly 30 years (married), but I will never tell another man what I’m looking for so he can pretend he fits.
@cassandracross-soto4133
22 күн бұрын
This is so very true! I remember our first date and I did most of the talking not realizing he was just mimicking all my likes and dislikes pretending we had so much in common. Well, one divorce and a PFA Order granted later, he soon realized we are nothing alike! Mental Disorders such as ASPD, NPD and BPD need to be addressed more openly in our communities!
@yezmirsheppard-halika6892
22 күн бұрын
@cassandracross-soto4133 my husband did the EXACT same thing. It's VERY weird. He mirrored me. Now I'm leaving him.
@TheBurgessNetwork
13 күн бұрын
Oooooh! "I will never tell another man what I am looking for so he can pretend he fits." Damn. I know better next time. What are you looking for? My answer: let's get to know each other and you will find out whether or not I'm looking for you. 👍🏾THANK YOU.
@UnpopularOpinion3000
12 күн бұрын
@@TheBurgessNetwork 👍🏾
@APTTMHYforever
6 күн бұрын
100 percent facts!! I’m naturally introverted until I really know someone and it works so well to my advantage. And I am an excellent listener with an amazing memory so needless to say I can pick up who someone truly is within a few dates.
@IraSol37
24 күн бұрын
The best date I've ever been on has been when I'm dating myself... No fuss, no stress, no manipulation, no test, no disappointments, no creepy vibes. I would never change that! 😊🥰
@strive4253
22 күн бұрын
How can we date ourselves? I'm very confused.
@zoraidacastro2703
22 күн бұрын
@@strive4253 basically work on yourself by taking a class, or writing in a gratitude journal.... Getting to know your boundaries of what is not acceptable in your book.
@strive4253
22 күн бұрын
@@zoraidacastro2703 But how can we be intimate with ourselves?
@rachelschendel2476
21 күн бұрын
You definitely can @@strive4253
@zoraidacastro2703
21 күн бұрын
@@strive4253 I just answered this, learning about yourself what you like and what you are not going to put up with, your boundaries physically, mentally and spiritually.
@getreworkd
24 күн бұрын
Also, you definitely don’t want to stick around once you’ve had to set a boundary that’s considered a deal breaker. For example: violent yelling, shoving, teasing, inappropriate behavior etc. you want to communicate (if necessary) then leave. Block. Delete. Don’t return. Your returning is a signal they can do worse.
@jamuq3589
23 күн бұрын
🎉Yes🎉
@Celestials1aurora
23 күн бұрын
wait what if he when on call or when he plays videogames he starts yelling and raging when he plays videogames and curses alot??
@pearlschoice1988
20 күн бұрын
@@Celestials1auroraRun!
@Celestials1aurora
20 күн бұрын
@@pearlschoice1988 why? he hasnt yelled or cursed at me though..
@haileyt857
19 күн бұрын
@@Celestials1aurora he isn't considering your presence. Especially over the phone
@blushbaby5278
23 күн бұрын
This happened to an ex friend of mine she has 2 daughters ages 12 and 8 from a previous relationship and started dating a new guy after a few months he promised her marriage and she moved him into her home, within a year he SA the 12 year old and gave the child Herpes.Took a year for her to get her children back because they placed both girls in a foster home the pedo was a serial child rapist with numerous charges from other children he was finally sentenced to 25 years to life in prison. Ladies if you are a single mom who wants to date do background checks on men or wait until your kids are 18 stay safe and god bless...Never bring men home to meet your children!
@yezmirsheppard-halika6892
22 күн бұрын
Why are you all ex friends? This is so awful. A nightmare. This is what dating as a mother scares me the most.
@blushbaby5278
21 күн бұрын
@@yezmirsheppard-halika6892 To be honest i never looked at her the same her job was to protect her children and she failed them by bringing a stranger into her home. I just couldn't see myself being her friend anymore
@QueenOftheScorps
18 күн бұрын
@blushbaby5278 This is similar to one of the mother wounds that I carry. My mom would move her abusive boyfriends into our home, they would beat her up (and me because I always defended her), she would kick them out, then let them back in after a while, rinse and repeat. Once things didn’t work out between my son’s father and me, I never allowed a man into my home because A). I wanted to protect my son in the way I wasn’t protected as a child; B). I didn’t want my son to feel that instability and precariousness; C). I didn’t want my son to witness different men coming in and out of my life/home. Your ex-friend’s daughter’s situation is infinitely worse than mine, and I’m so sorry that baby experienced that. It will have a lasting effect on her, but I hope something positive is able to come from her trauma, and that she’s still able to live a full life.
@pettypattytheprincess3784
18 күн бұрын
@@blushbaby5278I see where you coming from. She moved him in her home after a few months of dating, that is wild
@janetteadams4023
18 күн бұрын
I just had to write to mention I just watched a video on KZitem tonight where a women let a man into her house. The criminal psychopath ended up killing her and kidanapped her 6 year old daughter and used her as a sex slave until he was finally caught and arrested! Date someone out of the house and do background checks and all the research you can do!
@wendiesioux
28 күн бұрын
I had a predator groom me for close to four years until I was trapped in a situationship. He was charismatic, sexy but also the guy next door. I even checked in a local tea group and no one had a bad word to say but none of them had dated him. He bread crumbed me with friendly Facebook private messages, hugs and attention. When we finally became intimate he knew just what to do to bond me to him but withheld the relationship status that I wanted. It about broke me but I finally blocked him for good and got away. This man also went after women either much younger or much older than him. Definitely something to look out for, ladies! Thank God for Anwar spilling the tea! I feel proud of myself for changing my old patterns and doing the work!
@thetruth40026
24 күн бұрын
You go girl!!
@EthersTarotReadings
24 күн бұрын
🥳👏🏼💚✨
@rosamaundallen1035
18 күн бұрын
What he is saying is common sense and no one should be having sex with anyone outside marriage anyway. Also, when you notice oddities in someone’s behavior, you are supposed to stop contact with them.
@guineaslaughsandpets488
16 күн бұрын
I think this is the main problem, women having sex with men outside of marriage When the sexual revolution started and birth control came out. Now us women are suffering because giving men free sex has not helped anything! Men having sex without having to marry women have made men worse in behavior, and it's women who has caused it If women would say no to Sex outside of marriage and stop trying to be friends with men by giving them girlfriend benefits men would probably take relationships more seriously. But women rooting for abortion, showing off all there bodies, and sleeping with lots of men who won't even pay their bills for them or help them when they need help, just shows women in a bad light. Men are becoming more disrespectful towards women because women are disrespectful to themselves and other women. Women bragging about killing there sons and daughters, bragging about sleeping with a lot of men, and showing there. Bodies to men who aren't there husbands . I think it's causing more problems than good!
@Shambhav-qf7od
16 күн бұрын
I have been in the same situation wendie
@vivekkarajasegaran2664
24 күн бұрын
As a bi, I tell them I'm bi and they start having the locker room talk which is abhorrent!!! And also if you're strong and independent, he'll def find it challenging to break you. Not to say that women who are strong and independent are vulnerable but are mostly targets for such men, they enjoy being sadistic by breaking someone and it's terrible when I come to think of it
@LittleSparklingStars
17 күн бұрын
Mind immediately goes to threesome
@carlyh6913
12 күн бұрын
Facts. It's all about control and breaking down a person.
@g3n0sc1d3
9 күн бұрын
The strong and independent one... my ex used to crap on me for being a "independent woman" I feel that one he used to say "one day you'll have to submit" So I left.
@thepragmatist
8 күн бұрын
I’m bi and have had the locker room talk as well.
@satisfaction.6735
2 күн бұрын
The locker room talk?
@curtistinemiller4646
24 күн бұрын
A predator looks for your vulnerability.....
@loveusyendi.7621
17 күн бұрын
More like weaklings who find their strength online from KZitem videos. Perfect prey
@guineaslaughsandpets488
16 күн бұрын
Yes they do I've had a man tell me he goes after weak broken women because there easier to control
@curtistinemiller4646
16 күн бұрын
@@guineaslaughsandpets488 I know..
@curtistinemiller4646
16 күн бұрын
😔
@audreyquinn73
7 күн бұрын
A woman's vulnerability is what attracts a predatory male. If she is isolated, he can "make a move" without witnesses. Always, always be aware and alert in your surroundings. Be safe.
@clarenceadams2143
25 күн бұрын
Keeping boundaries when you’re vibrating low. Hard to do.
@thealchemist0000
24 күн бұрын
True. All that attention people give to others should be focused on themselves. Once we create a solid bond with ourselves and God. Things do get a lot clearer.
@goddessblack8787
7 күн бұрын
Get your vibrations up!!
@APTTMHYforever
6 күн бұрын
Honestly when I was at my lowest (pre meds and counseling) no one approached me anyway🤷🏽♀️😐 which I’m grateful about because I definitely could have been someone’s “prey” My unsolicited advice, take time to yourself until you feel like the best version of yourself💞
@SylviaGonzalez
6 күн бұрын
Try singing to get your vibration up!
@kdphotos4691
22 күн бұрын
There's also the ones who will insult you when they see you're comfortable with yourself. Example - a random maintenance drunk at a bar where I worked said to me, "you're hot!" I replied, "thank you" then kept on with my work. He started cussing at me and calling me "full of myself" and "hey, I gave you a compliment." What's the correct answer when someone compliments you? "Thank you." That wasn't the first or the last time one tried that mess.
@DanielaRosenrot
16 күн бұрын
In idea : "I will kick you out the exit door or call the police if you don't behave." something like that. Evil people do not deserve to be treated with kindness and also not with enduring their disrespect.
@kdphotos4691
16 күн бұрын
@@DanielaRosenrot - I didn't own the bar. I only worked there so didn't have the power to kick him out. If I owned it, nobody would be hearing the story at all because it would be one of many incidents.
@MeiMariie
14 күн бұрын
Clearly that MF was insecure. No real Confident man would have a problem with a woman who sees her own beauty
@thepragmatist
8 күн бұрын
@@kdphotos4691It’s hard when you work at these places and don’t really have the power to defend yourself the way you ordinarily would. These guys know that and take advantage of that.
@kdphotos4691
8 күн бұрын
@@thepragmatist - Being at work wasn't really the point. They've done it when I was out with friends. The point is the entitlement of expecting anything more than "thank you" when someone claims they're "complimenting" you.
@sierral8027
28 күн бұрын
Great information and I agree. Some things I am aware of is external factors. A lot of you probably already know this, but I still think people need to be actively aware of it. Some might target you solely because of external characteristics that they assume make you easy prey. 1) Being fat- A lot of predators assume you are desperate and don’t have any self worth. Therefore, they can show you a little bit of attention and you’ll do whatever they want. 2) Living alone/ not having a village or support system - This suggests that they can do whatever they want to you and you’ll have no one to turn to. When you do ask for help, it’ll probably be too late and no one will be there in time. Often times you see predators take their girlfriends and move them out of state and away from their family for this purpose. 3) Being young, a virgin, or “church girl” - Assumably, you don’t have a lot of experience. Anything they give or show you will be taken with awe. You’ll fall for them easily and they know they have you. 4) Older/ Middle aged woman with a good career- charm you and stick around for the money. Suck as much out of you as possible before moving on to the next person. Others: Having a daily/ weekly routine - easy to track and hurt when alone and vulnerable Single Mother- Desperate, looking for a good man to help out, introducing kids to people early on suggest you have no worries for the safely of your kids (too trusting) Tourist-Ignorant of social norms and surroundings, don’t know who to trust Overall, it seems like the main two things they are looking at is what aspects make you easy to manipulate and what aspects make you easy to access.
@lovebug6388
28 күн бұрын
Wonderful assessment. I remember hearing about reformed criminals having conversations with police. They asked how & why picked their previous victims. They went over surveillance tapes of people in parking lots and pointed out who was a target and who wasn't. Those who were deemed targets were preoccupied with phones, not paying attention to surroundings minus phones, didn't have keys at the ready when approaching their vehicles and or had too much stuff in their hands. They also were parked in bad lighting at night or really far away period. Similar MO with these predators, just a different crime.
@SNYhandle
26 күн бұрын
@@lovebug6388 Yes! Even people who walk at a faster pace are targeted by predators because it looks like they’re in a rush and unprepared and/or rushing because of anxiety
@matxalenc8410
24 күн бұрын
Yes. I've always been aware that me being fat and with no social circle makes me a target. I noticed it when I was in elementary with how people would treat me in such a disrespectful or abusive manner, no matter how nice I was - including adults. When I got older, I noticed that the people who claimed they wanted to be in my life would act up, too. I would give them the axe. If you call them out on it, sometimes if they really think so little of you, they'll admit it, but try to spin it into a good thing.🙄 It's not always about insecurity. Sometimes it's literally about who's at the bottom of the social totem pole, and what you are socially allowed to get away with.
@Jem5122
24 күн бұрын
How do you manage dating while a church girl. This is actually something Im fearing as someone in my mid 20s. I didn't date much to focus on school and work, but now I don't have a lot of experience. What should i say to a potential partner if they ask about my dating history. I don't want to lie but at the same time i don't want them to see me as someone new and to conquer
@sheilan6959
23 күн бұрын
@@Jem5122Just be aware of being love bombed in the first 3 months. They know as a church girl you want marriage and kids. Anyone who promises you marriage without knowing you, it's a trap. Remember when you date church guy, just because he is a good guy, doesn't mean he will be a good partner. Church guys can hook a girl and then put no effort into te relationship, so it can be a lonely relationship, run don't waste time if that's the case, they will ever change.
@lilianfowler7988
16 күн бұрын
At 61, I am a nun - I literally don't want none. If you had been my friend 20 years ago I could have avoided a world of pain. Thank you so much for sharing God-brother magic. The protection from predators is angel level work. ❤
@TheBurgessNetwork
13 күн бұрын
Amen. ❤
@g3n0sc1d3
9 күн бұрын
Being a nun doesn't seem so bad these days. Especially seeing how well sisters treat eacother.
@nahjacutler
5 күн бұрын
I am a 39 year old nun myself, have been for 3 years now😊
@Svetlavic
2 күн бұрын
@@g3n0sc1d3true been considering it
@ang28471
23 күн бұрын
You said "Mother Wound", I felt that. I don't want my daughter to be able to say the same.
@chershoopshoop7942
19 күн бұрын
You are doing a good job mama 💘
@Lo-kv3tg
22 күн бұрын
Gonna have to add that every predator I've ever known used their own offers of help as manipulation tactics. It does many things -- earns the person's trust, makes them indebted to them, gets them into their house...help is not always altruistic.
@traderLeah
20 күн бұрын
yeah I don't even accept drinks that are made in front of me anymore because we're worth so much more than that, and 99% of the time it's a way to see how much you value yourself.
@thepragmatist
8 күн бұрын
Completely agree with this.
@anacristinamoura881
5 күн бұрын
Very true! 👍 From my experience it's the favourite strategy of covert narcissists.
@Bernardt_Art
4 күн бұрын
This is the worst
@sapphira5323
24 күн бұрын
Yep the teasing or negging was a big one that I put up with because it was always a 'joke" he was a controlling narc
@kdphotos4691
22 күн бұрын
Yep, learned that one too. I dip at the first sign of teasing or negging. It seems harsh, but sticking around only leads to irritation and being annoyed all the time.
@nothingbutme1150
Ай бұрын
Absolutely spot on! Ladies please listen to this man!
@miriamuSama
15 күн бұрын
Scary shit. I just started to ghost a predator and this video just confirmed every little thing that bothered me. Truly gave me chills…
@pvz0484
6 сағат бұрын
I'm glad you're out of that scary situation 🧡
@user-deesegma
27 күн бұрын
This guy is GOLD. His delivery is so loving and authentic. Delivery is concise! ❤️
@themultifacetedmami
23 күн бұрын
I keep attracting guys who say I’m too serious when I set boundaries or tell them I don’t want to play with them like that. Only attracting them, no longer dating or entertaining
@lyricst.germaine1153
22 күн бұрын
I wonder if showing vs. telling them about boundaries would be best? You know, as in be about it, not talk about it. Let 'em see by my actions vs my speech
@themultifacetedmami
21 күн бұрын
@@lyricst.germaine1153 I agree I do be talking too much but it usually will be they’ll tease me or joke and my response will be serious, not necessarily “don’t play” but I’ll address what they said if they were incorrect
@chershoopshoop7942
19 күн бұрын
@@themultifacetedmamiHow dare they. I think standing more firm in your delivery will be a good thing. Seems like they sense loopholes/cracks in them. You don’t deserve that.
@themultifacetedmami
19 күн бұрын
@@chershoopshoop7942 thank you for this
@loveusyendi.7621
17 күн бұрын
If you're too serious all the time then you probably have anger problems too. Address it 💯
@Kiki-jx6by
26 күн бұрын
What worked as a negative for me was when I allow men to come over to my home too soon say within the first week need more information about this individual because he could be anyone from anywhere. Or going to his home too fast. Just meet up for small dates for a while basically work on a friendship first, gather as much information on him as you can.
@Bb-jm6wx
23 күн бұрын
He doesn’t look at you as a his friend and there’s no way to be his friend . A crocodile doesn’t see a squirrel as his friend .
@Keeks492
7 күн бұрын
I will never understand how women let a total stranger to their homes.
@ladyofspa
28 күн бұрын
Agree its a self esteem wound from childhood, not necessarily a mother wound... need to be aware and heal all wounds or predators will eat you alive.
@ladyofspa
28 күн бұрын
You might be right on stating dating for marriage you demonstrate it with your high worth and self priorities. Let him ask dont volunteer.
@Bb-jm6wx
23 күн бұрын
A self esteem wound would be a mother wound lol……The fact that she didn’t build up your self esteem when it was her job to do so is the wound part
@lucyandecember2843
16 күн бұрын
@@Bb-jm6wx i mean it could be caused by someone or something else than a mother
@cmg25
12 күн бұрын
We need to learn about sociopaths and how they only engage with people as if they are toys. I am hella skeptical and still had an encounter with a real piece of work at work. Now, I am even more skeptical of 100% of people because it’s efficient and necessary.
@jessicapoolson2720
24 күн бұрын
This might be an obvious tip but don't ever see it come up but Never give them your last name makes finding Home Address & a lot more
@TheKim369
21 күн бұрын
I met someone on a flight, friendly enough but not my type. A couple week later I get a letter with some tame pictures, his bird bath, a plant that had recently blooomed. We had only exchanged first names. But I was carrying a book and used my boarding pass as a bookmark. I left the book on my seat when I used the washroom, I am certain he must have gotten my full name from there when I was away from my seat. (I was married, and had even mentioned it, was abolutely not interested, never replied, nevr heard back)
@tania0070
2 күн бұрын
Be careful giving them your phone number then because they can get your home address and information by inputting your phone number in a search engine.
@lexa_power
23 күн бұрын
I’m not dating at this point in my life but I have noticed a lot of these tips apply to other relationships in your life- especially around male platonic friends, male co workers/bosses, even male family members with bad boundaries. In terms of saying you’re dating for marriage, I have to half disagree - I think it’s good to say it only if you’re ready to stand on business and genuinely not doing anything physical outside of marriage. When you’re serious about it it can be a powerful tool to weed out people who are going to waste your time. But that also means that once they tell you they’re “not looking for anything serious” you have to clock it and block it / stop replying to them altogether and never give them another chance- which 99.9% of people don’t have the strength to do when they’re attracted to someone! But if you really stand on business and your actions match your words and you don’t give any men who are not marriage oriented the time of day, that frees up a lot of your time to focus on other things besides relationships with men who don’t share your values. It only comes off as desperate if you say it but then don’t stand on business and leave him when he starts not acting right.
@j-us-t_be-in-g
11 күн бұрын
Many of these women, from my observation as well as experience, play mind games with men, so it's both ways.
@CloseYourWombs
23 күн бұрын
Ladies RUN for your life. Nothing is wrong with staying single. It's too dangerous to be out here dating (man) off the internet or off the street. To do all this man is saying means the man KNOWS nothing about you except superficial things i.e. (pictures) and you know nothing about him. Date people you have something in common with and that you know somethings about and he knows some things about you and have similar values and cultures. --- Date through mutual friends, people your family or relations know. People you grew up with, people you know from a work place....things like that. This way they know things already and about and you know things about them (cuts out faking)....cutting out all of this weirdo sht. --- WOMEN GET OFF DATING APPS. It's 2024. Get Off!
@soulfuljuiciness
23 күн бұрын
@@CloseYourWombs I was introduced to a guy through friends at a party, he stalked me for a year, and then he lied about me to them and I lost their friendship
@prosperpetuity7987
23 күн бұрын
Predators are everyone whether you know the or not! You have to do your due diligence and leave the first time things are not right!
@CloseYourWombs
22 күн бұрын
@@soulfuljuiciness That’s a different topic/narrative. Sorry that happened to you. Navigating our circle can be hard but it beats wandering the wilderness alone.
@rivers9023
22 күн бұрын
Dating apps are full of perverts or weirdos/abusive people imo
@shaktimishra9710
15 күн бұрын
With the mindset like you i believe you aren't even patner material
@AmbientofLight
22 күн бұрын
Honestly? The bestway to weed out predators is to not want a relationship period. When u do, they cannot seduce u.
@SamSpray-jg9hz
3 күн бұрын
Exactly because you can have more fun by yourself learning and traveling the world and taking care of your family and friend relationships not being abused by some no demon
@amayzingyoga6403
Ай бұрын
I realize.. I did most of these in the dating world and then you had to call me out about my mother 😂😂😂😂 I guess that’s what I needed to hear, I have since stopped most of them but I’m glad I listened 😅
@702thomas
Ай бұрын
I do allll of this intentionally to see his reaction to weed out predators.
@SNYhandle
26 күн бұрын
How? Can you give examples? When I read your comment, I’m just thinking of how you’d be sucked into a bad situationship
@secureboundaries
26 күн бұрын
Brilliant 😍😂 I think I've done this myself unintentionally few times 😅
@pilarq7886
24 күн бұрын
@@SNYhandle I'm guessing if one throws out big bait and he bites then for confirmation throw some more little bait - you only wasted few hours of your life. Narcissists cannot handle word NO, Rejection and Are Entitled 😳look for that
@EthersTarotReadings
24 күн бұрын
@@SNYhandle Play into there wishes without going to far Or act like a pick me or pretend a lot knowing it's all research to get him comfy to drop his mask 🎭💯✌🏼
@tsholofelojmodise6728
24 күн бұрын
Yes. I stay on the run, any reason to run...my calves are at work
@tamick2000
12 күн бұрын
The lesson most of us were not taught or maybe don't want to accept because we want instant relationships, is you will date many men who are not the one. Chasing them when they are not calling you doesn't create a relationship, it just opens you up to predators. If you don't heal your wounds, you will chase and then wonder why you keep ending up with bad relationships.
@barbarav4046
21 күн бұрын
It's true, they test how much they can disrespect you...
@Jac527
26 күн бұрын
Glad I’m 4B. Men are exhausting. Kudos to all ladies still looking for the “one”. Wish you the best.
@BelwillCoily
24 күн бұрын
What’s 4B mean?
@sapphira5323
24 күн бұрын
So true and we are conditioned to think women are the complicated ones 😂😂
@reelfly
23 күн бұрын
@BelwillCoily It's a feminist movement that began in Korea in 2019. Basically, 4b is the refusal of (heterosexual) marriage, childbirth, romance, and sexual relationships. 😊👍
@Bb-jm6wx
23 күн бұрын
If that was sarcasm you ate lmao . Women don’t realize they are looking for “the one” and men literally aren’t 😂 and they aren’t secretive about it either. I don’t get how they don’t see what’s obviously written on the walls and that’s not something that’s prioritized by men in real life. They make it known they are very anti-love and they think it’s weakness
@EnlightenedGoldenBeauty
22 күн бұрын
Exactly because why go through this? Constantly making a man behave is exhausting
@Blaaaah98
26 күн бұрын
This is what needs to be taught in public schools. ❤
@zoraidacastro2703
22 күн бұрын
Both.
@2_blAck
27 күн бұрын
I skip over compliments because I don’t need them. I’m grown, kids look for validation from others.
@staceywilliams1863
26 күн бұрын
Shit don’t move me at all! My homeboy told a dude: you might as well kill them compliments she don’t like that shit! 😂
@MadamButterfly19JDM
24 күн бұрын
Correct! Teach!
@shianeharris1340
23 күн бұрын
Speak for yourself, if you can. I was a shy kid that never wanted compliments bc they made me nervous
@cassandracross-soto4133
22 күн бұрын
AMEN!!!🙏
@mommyevolve1378
21 күн бұрын
Nothing wrong with compliments actually. If they never do...red flag
@Yougotthis1212
23 күн бұрын
It’s important for women to tell men what they’re looking for. I told my husband on the first date that I’m dating for marriage not just to date and if he wanted to just casually date then that’s fine but it would be our first and last date and I didn’t want to be friends because I had enough of those. We’ve been happily married for over 20 years. I gave my sibling the same advice and she got married also. You don’t beat around the bush with men and you don’t allow them to waste your time. You set clear expectations and either they step up or they don’t. The choice is theirs but I going to do what I’m going to do regardless 😊
@prosperpetuity7987
23 күн бұрын
Congrats that worked for you, but there are some bad actors out there who will pay along with your desires and switch up on you afterwards. It happens don’t tell everyone your whole script because they will play the part!
@MeiMariie
14 күн бұрын
Times Have Changed Mam. That Is No Longer The Way To Go
@CarolAFollowerOfJesusChrist
10 күн бұрын
Yes they mirroring what we tell them we desire in the partner we want. I had to learn the hard way.
@APTTMHYforever
6 күн бұрын
Happy it worked for you BUT as women we need to listen more and speak less. Your actions should tell a man if you are just looking for a “special friend” or if you want marriage. Let your actions speak and listen, listen some more and then listen again😂 because they will ALWAYS inadvertently tell you their true intentions.
@gaiatropicana
10 күн бұрын
a black, african, christian man was trying to pursue me, and the first time he acted manipulative "oh, you don't love me, because you won't do this and that" (we were seeing each other for 2 weeks and hadn't even kissed yet!), I cut him off and showed my limits. he said I "wrote too much", was exaggerating and said "it was a joke, I was testing you, you always jump to conclusions". he's out of my life. yikes.
@winternightsky6945
27 күн бұрын
The way I see it with my friends, family members, coworkers and associates. You can give them all the tips/warnings you want. It doesn't matter if they have a two parent household/good daddy around or grew up with a good single parent home. They will get with these men/or women that they know very early on is not right for them. But society has taught females directly/indirectly that it's better to be in any kind of relationship/or marriage than to be single. So many stay in toxic/dangerous relationships when they can safely get out before producing kids/or more kids in the mess and things get worse. Then they lie and say they didn't have family/friends. Many do have family, but they know their family isn't going to let him come around with that bullsh*t and they don't want to be embarrassed depending on family/friends. They get distant because they want to stand by their man/or don't want to be reminded that they need to leave him alone. I feel sorry for the kids because they didn't ask to live with two toxic/or broken people. I've lost a lot of relationships with friends/family because they put up with vile mates and expect you not to say anything and give them money/watch their kids while their mate doesn't contribute like they should.
@clairewilliams7762
24 күн бұрын
Great comment 💯
@inevski
23 күн бұрын
Fact is it's women who make it difficult for women to be single.
@Bb-jm6wx
23 күн бұрын
Yup
@lucyandecember2843
16 күн бұрын
👀
@inevski
14 күн бұрын
Society's messaging is messed up. There's nothing celebrated about being single as a financially independent mother or woman who got free of any type of abuse. Being single is pathologised.
@MilesAndCounting
24 күн бұрын
There was a jewel in this that I needed to hear. All the last week or so the phrase “interested men act interested!” I got ALL the confirmation that I needed. Life is too short and I needed this short cut! 😉
@aprilswill9204
29 күн бұрын
When they compliment me, I look at them like they’re full of shit. I know they’re saying it to see how I react.
@MsCrissell
25 күн бұрын
This is an over-correction. You're going to weed out good men this way too. To treat guys like they can't be trusted from the door is a sign of being jaded and wounded. That's a red flag for any regular honest guy with good intentions. Although they initially like you, they don't want to have to pay for what the last guy did or didn't do. You should graciously accept compliments with a confident "Thank you" and a smile.
@HM2FLY
23 күн бұрын
Then when you suddenly stop receiving compliments you’ll be on tiktok crying 😂
@lkeke35
23 күн бұрын
I give a brief thank you and and a nod and that's it! Your demeanor when people compliment you means a lot. I appreciate it but I don't need it!
@lokisfriend
20 күн бұрын
Say thank you, a small smile, then move on. If you don't acknowledge it, you won't get another one.
@ExperimentalSDWH
13 күн бұрын
Kudos, Don't be polite if you can SENSE they're fishing for Miss Polite Princess; Give them stinkeyes like a Cat and let them know you're a dignified creature NOT to be toyed with for any reason. Don't make the innocent newcomer pay for the crimes of the bad apple exactly, But know your body "kept the score" And recorded past incidents for a reason. You cannot just wipe away your past experiences In favor of the new fellow. Maybe it's not fair to make him clean up someone else's mess, But it's not fair if like, He wants a "Clean Slate" with you And a "Clean Slate" back from you But you're already stained with some coffee and... ...Other things. >.> (in context i mean "Clean Slate" as in forgetting any trauma you have like deleted paper off a story draft. Sorry if I'm babbling by now ^o^; it's just... trauma for myself means my bar is set quite high now; I can't just lower it because someone else is starting at level 13 but I'm already at level 55 somewhere, or something xux) I don't care much that "Women, be polite" programming seems to be in effect still >w> It's not very polite to toy with you and fish for "useful" reactions, after all. Cats can be super playful and affectionate, But they're also quick to let to know when they don't appreciate something you're doing to them >u> By the way I've never dated. These pieces of advice May actually be really poor to act out in a dating scene! So accept with grains of salt; My brain finished spewing out its eccentric thoughts on the matter, So thank you for reading if you did ^w^ 💗💗
@dlod8371
Ай бұрын
Doing the lord’s work. God bless you!! 🙏🙏 Sometimes I wonder why we as Hetero women even bother in the first place, so sad we have to educate ourselves about these things ☹️
@TheModernAlchemix
27 күн бұрын
(New level of love and respect for you!!) THANK YOU for speaking on the mother wound!!! I tell my friends who are mothers with daughters, “they don’t do as you say, they repeat what you do.” You must be the shining example of how a woman is to act as well as be treated in this world, otherwise it’s another generation lost in trauma😢❤
@DulceBesso
23 күн бұрын
I'm not looking to date. Married 16 years, totally in love. But everything you're saying makes sooooo much sense and will be sharing with the women I know and love. Fantastic video!
@deborahtichy3877
23 күн бұрын
I’m personally do not date just no desire no more. But that said I would like to thank you for putting this out there for other people. I agree with everything you say I’m really appreciate you putting this out there for all of those women and young girls who are dating. Sometimes people just need to hear it so they know it. Thanks for such a wonderful thing.
@niceymix1
Ай бұрын
Fairy God brother, you just...you just...dropped PURE GOSPEL ❤ love you for this.
@heathengypsy
18 күн бұрын
I wish someone had told me this in my twenties, sadly 20 years later I have learnt the hard way and everything he says here is on point. I’m too tired for straight men’s shenanigans now. Been deliberately single and haven’t touched a man in 7 years and honestly it’s been the most peaceful and contented time of my life. Close friends fill my social/companion need now. I’m 42 and honestly can’t see myself ever entering another relationship.
@karynbanksley7110
8 күн бұрын
Agreed! I chose to stop dating after having my heart ripped out once again in November 2014. This November 2024 will mark 10 years of peaceful existence without being hurt, used, or traumatized by a man!
@GA-ik6pi
23 күн бұрын
Narcissists will target. But everything you said makes alot of sense 💪🏾. This is duly noted.
@Vshlynnn
25 күн бұрын
Thank you for bringing this up!! I learned these lessons the hard way in past relationships by doing too much & dealing w too much. Avoiding/not dealing w low effort & showing yourself love like you’d give a partner are some of the best things we can do to help this!
@Wally733
23 күн бұрын
I had a child by a warlock ! As soon as I had my daughter money went missing, he was digging in my handbag, I would be at family’s house and he’ll randomly pop up (which I didn’t mind) , broke my daughter arm etc I had to run!! I was laying with my biggest hater. Everything you’re saying is true.
@rosamaundallen1035
18 күн бұрын
You should have been more discerning. Men all of a sudden don’t become horrible. They are like that from the very beginning. People always intentionally overlook the red flags. Also, you should not be having sex with a man you are not married to. We bring problems onto ourselves.
@ladylove34
17 күн бұрын
@@rosamaundallen1035you're 100% wrong. They do change overnight. Look up "love bombing," which is a tactic that can last YEARS
@loriar1027
14 күн бұрын
@rosamaundallen1035 That advice may have worked many years ago (though I have my doubts), but I'm not going to marry someone without knowing if we're sexually compatible first. My husband and I have been happily married 14 years but we were together for 5 years before that.
@TheBurgessNetwork
13 күн бұрын
@rosamaundallen1035 - I once thought like you - wait until marriage before having sex. Then I found out that a woman can be allergic to a man! 😳 That was it for me. I'm having sex before marriage. I'm not marrying a guy I'm allergic too. Biblical days are long gone.
@rosamaundallen1035
13 күн бұрын
@@TheBurgessNetwork This world is too sex crazed.
@asiablackgrl6482
Ай бұрын
This was so helpful!!! Now I know the signs so I don’t have to move with fear or be worried. When I see some 💩, I can just leave!
@MoonLightOnWater1
23 күн бұрын
Absolutely true….I’ve tried to tell women about all of this over the years.
@celestialfortuna37
24 күн бұрын
appreciate your advice. i dont need it anymore given my age but for vulnerable younger women with less experience your wisdom is like free gold. thank you for helping and protecting the innocent and vulnerable.
@RicciCaine
8 күн бұрын
1. Don’t always make yourself available. Even if you’re not busy, avoid being at his beck and call. If you’re constantly available, he may think you have nothing going on outside of him. Predators often don’t reciprocate, making themselves “busy” when it suits them. 2. Don’t invite him over, especially if you live alone. Predatory men often ask about your living situation to see if they can move in or assert control. A useful strategy is to mention living with a male family member rather than a female roommate. This can deter him from trying to take over your space or run your household.
@lori-annefay4138
18 күн бұрын
I was with you all the way until the end. You could have had the most loving supportive mother who bent over backwards to make you happy but if your father didn't show up, or abandoned you, was emotionally unavailable, or invalidating, cruel to your mom and you, THIS is where this comes from. Yes for boys it's from their moms, but for girls it's all about daddy. Don't lay everything at mom's doorstep. I used to tell my daughter how beautiful, kind, smart she was in no particular order, and her response was "you have to say and believe those things, you're my mom". She needed that mirroring from her abandoning dad. She needed the love and admiration only a dad can give. Like the comedian Bill Burr says, it's a dad's job to hug those hooker shoes right outta their hands. They will chase their father's love for years until they look inside and build their own self esteem.
@ronellepatterson4176
26 күн бұрын
Thanks for helping me clear that up. Because I thought I was being paranoid, but men be out here really this type of stuff.
@datcat1981
Ай бұрын
Ummm i think ALL women need to watch this!! Thank you for sharing your knowledge
@CitizenB23
25 күн бұрын
100% Facts….remember it’s called the “Dating Game” ….so don’t be the Loser
@lahlahluv8380
25 күн бұрын
Truth 💯
@JAHzJaJa
26 күн бұрын
Naw, everyone is NOT healing; hence, one of the major issues in society today regarding relationships.
@ametrineambrosia4929
20 күн бұрын
Not everyone is. Everyone is not means nobody is healing
@karynbanksley7110
8 күн бұрын
Beware of the “me too” guys. It seems like no matter what you say you like or dislike, they will always agree saying “me too” as a way of establishing a (false) sense of compatibility with you. That is why it is essential for YOU to ask the questions and get his answers first before giving your answer.
@rosej5029
28 күн бұрын
It's interesting he doesn't mention that women also have a father wound especially when so many women never grew up with one having to watch their mothers be both mom and dad in the home!
@younggiftedandblack7634
26 күн бұрын
Many women who grew up WITH their dad's in the house have father wounds from watching dad abuse mom.
@RoyalBlood23
26 күн бұрын
You sound almost gleeful 😅
@Jem5122
24 күн бұрын
Girl just speak on your own trauma instead of dragging him
@HealedChakras777
23 күн бұрын
@@younggiftedandblack7634agreed. My father was around physically and financially until my mum wanted a divorce for cheating. He was invisible in every other way.
@angrycannibal6625
22 күн бұрын
THATS IT!!!!!
@ms.rivera7898
28 күн бұрын
Thank you for this. I have been out of the dating world for 4 years, since I moved back to the US. I am a bit rusty.
@reallifetopicsrevealed7295
5 күн бұрын
*My best male friend is the most honest man I know. He said, "Some men see a house full of women and children as prey. That's why it's important to have a man around that cares. It deters other men from taking advantage.*
@sasakidotcom2232
5 күн бұрын
Truth truth truth stop chasing these men women!
@kimsnyder5456
4 күн бұрын
I drive uber and I'm positive I had a predator in my car the other day. He was asking me so many personal questions... I answered only those I knew he couldn't hunt me down with. He got almost violent when I mentioned partner instead of husband referring to someone else. He kept talking about how I needed to hit (male genitalia,) and didn't say a word about himself. Oh yes, he kept telling me how I was a beautiful girl like I am a child. I was very aware he was gathering info on me to use against me. When I dropped him he wanted me to take his number so I could 'drive him around without the app'. I was well aware of his tactics and told him I don't do that ever. I then reported him once I got him out of my car. There was other illegal behavior going on so I hope he has been banned. No matter what, I have him blocked from ever getting a lift from me again.
@Bb-jm6wx
23 күн бұрын
Ladies- what is your thoughts on the last one, that texting or showing interest is “chasing”? It’s really sad that we have to sit bored and can’t reach out for connection or else that’s seen as “chasing”. Or we have to go out and try to get the attention of a new and newer guy every time because showing attention to the one we are currently entertaining at the moment is considered “chasing” .
@kp7726
5 күн бұрын
Amazing, thank you. One thing I notice in addition to what you said is when the predatory person will minimize your thoughts or feelings and say “it’s no big deal”, and attempt to increase doubt in your perception of reality at higher intensities over time.
@AmericanFYEChief
23 күн бұрын
I'm almost 50 and you're spot on baby brother! 💯
@UnpredictableAri
26 күн бұрын
Absolutely LOVE this, all young girls need to hear this. Wish I could repost this
@allsmiles3281
24 күн бұрын
Gotta be willing to leave and not see the baby pink flags turn red. I’m out of there babes✌🏿. Also having your own, starting within, is critical! I was easily bamboozled when I wasn’t secure within myself or established (career, personal, etc.). You don’t need to be perfect but you need to “have you” to not be easily impressed. Also elevating your circle and interests (no not the level up stuff lol) but in the real world, so you see examples of standards. I’m a lesbian and the standards are the same. Always be on awareness and observe, give only what has been earned and what you can easily replace. Anything of value is not easily accessible. Testing phase is huge I throw out stuff just to see.
@user-lr4dj8fs6e
18 күн бұрын
I never cared for guys to repeatedly tell me how attractive I was. The first few times is nice, after that each time they say is I get is a bigger red flag. 🚩
@carolinpurayidom4570
27 күн бұрын
Money is a big one any man that cares for you will not ask you for money they are the ones providing for you it is their pride to provide for you theyll be ashamed to ask from you even when they need it or of you try to pay for them theyll try to stop you dont trust men who ask women especially women they are with for money.
@siciliamoet9081
25 күн бұрын
I agree, however, in my case, I actually dealt two sociopath types that were very generous & doting & paid for everything- one would get very mad when I offered to help out… that anger was def a red-flag. He, also, liked to show off in front of friends, by handing me a wad of cash for me to go out w/my friends.
@kdphotos4691
22 күн бұрын
I was video chatting with a used to be famous musician from back in the '80s. I didn't fancy him, but he was funny and we had some good talks about music. I got the vibes he was trying to play me as if he liked me for more than a friend, and I was extremely disappointed when one evening, he asked me if I had any money. That was all I needed to hear. I didn't even want to be his friend because if he's that old, has the world at his feet because he's still deeply respected as a musician, and he was asking if I had money, which would only lead to him asking for some, then he's not even friendship material. I used to work in the music industry and a lot of people in the know will tell you, "never date a musician." Unfortunately, they're right. Even the ones in the classical music world... 😂😂
@shaktimishra9710
15 күн бұрын
It is mostly women who asked for money for no reason. If she is true woman she wouldn't ask husband money too.😏☕
@carolinpurayidom4570
10 күн бұрын
@@shaktimishra9710 she would but only when necessary
@carolinpurayidom4570
10 күн бұрын
@@siciliamoet9081 Thats true if its coming off as lovebomby like too much too quickly then yikes thats where dicernment is needed.
@lakitawright6003
6 күн бұрын
Great advice. Married my husband as a virgin & no regrets. I made him work! As in prove to himself that this relationship would be about the relationship 1st. This will be 20 years & we’re even happier
@_InsertName_
13 күн бұрын
I did all the mistakes with my ex, and he took advantage by being a predator. Thanks for listing everything down. 🧡
@ydakda7233
25 күн бұрын
Very valuable information. Only a few decades late 😅
@Quebonitoeslobonito123
24 күн бұрын
I follow you on TikTok, but just found you on here. I want to say your advice is miles ahead of many love gurus out there. It’s so practical and full of insight. I appreciate how much value we get in a single video unlike a generic theory as so much of the stuff on TT. There’s very few creators out there that I would say are on your league. Leaving this here because you deserve the flowers 💐 I may not know you personally but as a woman, and most importantly as a living being, that has gone through so much even at an early age… I need to tell you that this is more than dating advice. You are helping people with their lives, and every day that you wake up, I hope you remember that you are helping a lot of people. Especially in this day and age, where so many male content creators are teaching young men how to destroy a woman’s sense of self for their own egos. Thank you for your work! You’re a beautiful human being ❤️
@mx.chiugo
28 күн бұрын
I don’t agree with the if you see more skin than clothes that means you’re inviting predatory behavior. Wear what you want and have strong boundaries. That’s it
@BearingMySeoul
27 күн бұрын
More than half these men are addicted to porn with women predominately being portrayed as prey or at the very least consumable. Anything that places you more closely in that category is wise to avoid. That clothes, drinking habits, clubbing habits, or as someone else pointed out, being too sheltered. Whatever the case, those are all things to avoid.
@ilovehorses38
27 күн бұрын
He's a guy, he understands their predatory perspectives. But ur right as well....
@scooby1970m
27 күн бұрын
Question: why show so much skin to a man you don't know? Now if it about skin to skin action I guess but this man is a stranger. Just curious
@marcotroop
27 күн бұрын
@@scooby1970m Maybe some women just like that style of clothing. If that's the case then I don't see a problem with it if you maintain your confidence and control in these interactions. Ultimately, the goal is for people to wear what they want because it makes them happy and feel good regardless of the attention it gets negative or positive.
@scooby1970m
27 күн бұрын
@@marcotroop good points. unfortunately most in society don't think that way. people usually cast judgement on first glance and act accordingly
@LindaMoroun
23 күн бұрын
Omg you’re 💯 correct. Thank a for telling the ladies the full truth
@momobebe
17 күн бұрын
I just sent this to my daughter to tell her to share with her friends! They're in HS now and they need to wise up before it's too late
@thePhoenixxx1983
27 күн бұрын
I completely appreciate the tone of your teaching and where this is coming from in general. This information is incredibly helpful to those of us with less experience. Thank you so very much from all of my heart and spirit❤ You are actively teaching me to handle inappropriate behavior and cope with a situation in real time with my obnoxious and evidently drug abusing neighbor, which I just learned is part of the loud behavior and have stayed away but am forced to need effective communication this person interacts with me often when I step out my front door and usually totally ignore me. It is hard to even deal with the change in attention a total switch
@cherylmorton2883
23 күн бұрын
Men that Invite themselves to your home..... That askl you if you cook (they are thinking about what you can do for them) That make light jokey insults THAT DONT OFFER YOU A COLD DRINK That don't talk much THAT DON'T SMILE That don't laugh That are mean to others That Don't seem to have any interest in you like ... No questions.... That ask ten questions in a row with no conversation in between THAT MAJORITY OF CONVERSATION IS ABOUT YOU AND HIM AND WHAT THE RELATIONSHIP WILL BE LIKE That talk on top of you That don't listen to you That give vague answers ..... Nothing concrete That Get Upset About Little Things That don't seem to want to reveal themselves after you've been dating more than 2 months That ask you about what you own That ask you about where you've traveled to during your first few conversations THAT TALK ABOUT EVERYTHING EXCEPT YOU AND HIM That corrects you right from the start DOESN'T RESPOND TO TEXT WITHIN A FEW HOURS That text or calls you excessively Doesn't Balance Information ( i know where you live, you know where i live ) TELL YOU A SOB STORY ABOUT THEIR LIFE ON THE FIRST FEW DAYS OF TALKING ( HUGE RED FLAG)
@maryberry8331
22 күн бұрын
My Darling were you ten years ago? 💯 correct
@liorasitelman1856
22 күн бұрын
I’m not Black but I think this is valid advice for ALL women. Noted! Thanks for sharing!
@rosamaundallen1035
18 күн бұрын
This is common sense information.
@lisakukla459
16 күн бұрын
Smiling when saying "he already knows he's got you," and glaring when saying "I hope this helps" makes me feel like this dude isn't safe.
@brokensword8402
19 күн бұрын
Honestly, these kinds of signs are a symptom of something deeper both in the antagonist and protagonist in our life stories. Many times, our own families and childhood experiences mold us to be a predator or victim. It could be overt or covert and cause us to react consciously or unconsciously throughout our lives. It doesn't just apply to predators and abusive relationships either. You may find yourself in a relationship that isn't abusive but just doesn't work because neither of you has found yourselves yet, perhaps because you were a victim of predators. You were looking to be completed instead of being whole before adding to an already strong foundation. These intricacies can affect relationships in all worlds, not just intimate ones (business, career, family, friends, neighbors, pets). Speaking from experience, if you can dig deep into your past and find someone who is open enough to do the same, you will be better off finding those strengths and weaknesses before they become red flags and unfortunately nightmares for some.
@j-us-t_be-in-g
11 күн бұрын
💯💯💯
@user-yd2mp7wp3k
22 күн бұрын
This video needs to go viral! This is spot on!
@loverboij9345
24 күн бұрын
I know a female who does this all the time for her man. It's sad, and everyone knows he has her at the palm of his hand.
@alicefreist318
12 күн бұрын
10 seconds into this video, and I'm hitting the like button. This young man is a breath of fresh air, and an incredible coach! He simply oozes sincerity and emits trustworthiness!
@ana102502
Ай бұрын
Fabulous advice
@ghetto-nu1ul
22 күн бұрын
Loved this! I do kinda challenge the part about a man “asking for career advice” as a red flag 🚩 I don’t consider a man asking me for my input or advice in general as a negative. Now if they end up needing me to hold their hand and babysit them through life then that’s a big no 🙂↔️ but I appreciate when someone who has their life together values my opinion on things
@erykahhoney588
Ай бұрын
❤ Keep these types of videos coming.
@Str8fromtheHIPshutyoMouf
27 күн бұрын
Out of ALL that was said, the mother wound was the root and on point. 💯
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