“it was your job to keep men out of hell” damnnnn that hit hard
@KellyRMinter
5 ай бұрын
So ugly and yet so wide spread 💙
@bethr2726
6 ай бұрын
Such perfect timing, I needed this video today!! Thank you!
@KellyRMinter
4 ай бұрын
I'm so glad you found it when you did 💚💚
@JAMIEB22649
6 ай бұрын
It would be nice if you did another video like this accept for amabs
@KellyRMinter
6 ай бұрын
Good point, I can definitely do that
@sarah_757
6 ай бұрын
I'm AMAB. I came out in May 2023, at the age of 45. You're so right, it was that lack of authenticity that compelled me. And even with the pure hate directed at the trans community by evangelicals, my mental health has improved, my self esteem is through the roof, my anxiety is turned from 11 down to 4. It's saving my life. I was fortunate to have maybe the most chill youth pastor between 13 and 16. He didn't do most of the purity culture stuff, thankfully. But my overall church experience left me with a distorted view of human interactions, especially when I came to sex. I felt so guilty and ashamed about anything with sex, I'm still working on stuff in therapy and with partners. I don't know what the future holds. But I know that I'm going to face it as who I am, as Sarah. 😊🏳⚧
@KellyRMinter
5 ай бұрын
Thank you for sharing part of your story here with us 💚💚
@Becoming0ne
6 ай бұрын
Maybe you could talk about authenticity at some stage. Everyone is talking about being your authentic self these days, but I can’t help but think that the pendulum has swung too far with that one. For instance, we all can’t just go about doing whatever we want, when we want. There would be chaos. We all need to conform to social norms to some degree. I need help thinking this one through more deeply please.
@Elinzar
6 ай бұрын
Everything, EVERYTHING is about balance Yes begin pure until marriage is absolutely BS, it doesn't exist and it stresses both men and Women unnecessary But hook up culture, about fuckin one day and leaving the other is destroying relationships and the core values for having a long term partner Like Sex is as much about instinct as it is about connection with your partner Hook up culture is basically assisted masturbation and it fries your brain as much as Porn does... Thats my take anyways
@KellyRMinter
5 ай бұрын
That's a great idea! I can definitely put that on the list! 💚💚
@Grounded_Gravity
6 ай бұрын
I resonate with this even though I wasn't raised in purity culture. It has seeped into mainstream US culture sooo deeply that it's hard not to be impacted by it. Additionally, the culture when millennial women came of age was VERY much about seeking male approval at just about any cost.
@KellyRMinter
4 ай бұрын
Very, very true. These days one doesn't need to be raised in a religious environment to feel the impacts of this! 💜💜
@christopher3d475
6 ай бұрын
Yeah, purity culture can certainly do a humdinger on a person. I grew up in Mormonism which is big-time purity driven. They even having youth interviews during the teen years with bishops to make sure they are adhering to the 'moral' standards expected of them. I remember back in the early 80s when I was young that we had a youth retreat and in that the leaders decided to take the opportunity to educate us about the dangers of modern music and how morally debased it was. They singled out Olivia Newton John because of her song Physical. I remember so clearly them saying she would be held accountable in the next life for influencing young people to have lots of unwanted babies. LOL.
@KellyRMinter
5 ай бұрын
Oh wow yes! That shaming that so many youth gatherings were taught to direct at celebrities is INTENSE!!! 🩷🩷
@Kee900_
6 ай бұрын
It was not great being taught about marriage and having biological children as an asexual person!
@KellyRMinter
4 ай бұрын
I can only imagine how that must have felt, knowing (or at least suspecting, depending on where you were on your journey of knowing yourself) that you didn't fit the "mold" they wanted you to fit into but also knowing that verbalizing that would not do anything positive for you 🧡🧡
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