🎨 Get all my drawings HERE: gumroad.com/l/Full-Archive ⏱ TIMESTAMPS 0:00 - Intro 0:41 - Why Going At It Alone Doesn’t Work 2:42 - Why Accountability Leads To Consistency 5:04 - Consistently Achieve Your Goals And Form Strong New Habits 7:45 - Now Do It Thanks for watching! SUPPORT The Art of Improvement: 📖 My Book (with subscriber discount!): gum.co/Stoicism/ 🔓 Membership: kzitem.info/rock/tYzVCmNxrshH4_bPO_-Y-Ajoin
@brazenserpent7
3 жыл бұрын
colleague* (There's a typo in the video.) Fantastic content anyway, mate!
@TheArtofImprovement
3 жыл бұрын
@@brazenserpent7 No there isn't, but thanks :)
@theoligarchist1503
3 жыл бұрын
video is great but you might have missed something, you might make a video about whats that missing thing which makes great men keep on doing a great thing, that motivation, to know that watch this, there is also a Hindi movie about this guy Dashrath Manjhi kzitem.info/news/bejne/2XeMu3iBsGZyfKA
@mysterical-
3 жыл бұрын
@@TheArtofImprovement Look closer, there's an L missing 🙂 nevertheless the random typo doesnt affect the value of the video, still great as always.
@TheArtofImprovement
3 жыл бұрын
Sorry, you're wrong :) Put a timestamp and people can judge for themselves. Are you sure you're not just watching it on a small device or low resolution?
@QuietlyMagnetic
3 жыл бұрын
“In your actions, don’t procrastinate. In your conversations, don’t confuse. In your thoughts, don’t wander. In your soul, don’t be passive or aggressive. In your life, don’t be all about business.” - Marcus Aurelius
@gracefullife4621
3 жыл бұрын
kzitem.info/news/bejne/tph4voKqs36Ldag Tips to uh guys in hindi ❤❤❤
@k27ism
3 жыл бұрын
I rather follow what Jesus told me which is to let tomorrow worry about itself because your Heavenly Father wants to give you the kingdom and likes to see you forgive others completely.
@killtrxll
3 жыл бұрын
i love that quote fr bout to get it tagged on me
@johannesfit
3 жыл бұрын
Such a good quote.
@user-qx6ky9zg7e
3 жыл бұрын
Im almost everything :/ not sure if it a mistake tho
@SY-sp8uo
3 жыл бұрын
Success is not about intelligence, money, social status. It's about discipline.
@mysterical-
3 жыл бұрын
Success is about using discipline to acquire those things. But note that success only brings you conventional happiness, but it can improve the quality of your life and increase your value for you too finally realise how to be content & grateful with what you have (unconditional happiness)
@SoulPapiii
3 жыл бұрын
super million
@ToquzOghuzKhaganatekhan
3 жыл бұрын
@@mysterical- Thx a ton . I have to become more disciplined either I can achieve anything . I didnt achieve things I wanted early because lack of discipline and consistence
@ToquzOghuzKhaganatekhan
3 жыл бұрын
I really have to get a good daily routine right now . Alochol cuted of , no other drugs or anything shits against myself but I need to create a good daily habits now
@MT-nh5eg
3 жыл бұрын
and how much money your parents have 😂😂😂😂
@thetriumphanthustler7001
3 жыл бұрын
"When you want to succeed as bad as you want to breathe, then you'll be successful" -Eric Thomas
@SachinThakur-sx6jf
3 жыл бұрын
More like Aristotle.
@MatthewChafe
3 жыл бұрын
That is my homescreen background
@johannesfit
3 жыл бұрын
100% true
@samhowl1152
3 жыл бұрын
I don't want to breathe that badly.
@SAnderson54
3 жыл бұрын
C'mon!!!!
@Kool212
3 жыл бұрын
6:08 It's actually been proven that telling other people your goals gives you partial satisfaction of completing them. This can make it harder to actually start the goal.
@eyesofra1111
3 жыл бұрын
Yeah, i get ur point but he is talking about a different thing He said that, tracking our progress alone isn't enough...often we are not as responsible & productive as we would be, if somebody was watching over us. So, he suggested to ask a frnd/mentor or anybody, who's opinion we value, to question our actions (Sorry for the grammatical mistakes and errors T-T)
@bigpapisaunds
3 жыл бұрын
Yeah, people who like your comment 100% miss the point of this video sadly 😕
@Dr_Analise
3 жыл бұрын
So true
@zoomermcboomer4771
2 жыл бұрын
Yes, however it also causes more anxiety if you don't because you make people think of you less and as a failure, especially if it doesn't go to plan. Make sure these people are those that you trust and care about you.
@festuswilliams654
2 жыл бұрын
@@zoomermcboomer4771 🎯
@makmohssine
3 жыл бұрын
Consistency IS EVERYTHING in Life,
@ToquzOghuzKhaganatekhan
3 жыл бұрын
True
@Tweakkkkkk
2 жыл бұрын
Absolutely
@jase1568
2 жыл бұрын
And patience
@FocusMrbjarke
3 жыл бұрын
For me I don't need accountability from other people but rather a reminder or a system that helps me to be consistent.
@aslt5711
3 жыл бұрын
You could write a schedule of daily actions to take, and do them everyday, probably keep a photo of it on your phone's background. That's how I do it to remind myself, but sometimes I just don't want to do them although they are the right thing!
@bouabdellaouibasma4173
2 жыл бұрын
It is already a plus for you that you know what it takes for you to achieve that consistency. Good job I feel u are already on the right path 😊
@_naveun2627
3 жыл бұрын
I guess there are differences between cultures and individuals. For me, having someone to whom I have to show my progress, be accountable to, makes me feel like I'm doing it just to tell that other person, not for the sake of myself. Thus I'm more likely to lie or manipulate the truth when being accountable to someone else, whereas I could not do that to myself.
@VxDxLx
3 жыл бұрын
I relate to this
@dontimes1
3 жыл бұрын
you have successfully outwitted your own self
@_naveun2627
3 жыл бұрын
@@dontimes1 Excuse me for I'm not a native English speaker. As far as I understand, you're claiming that me being accountable for myself rather than others is harmful, although I generally find it more helpful for myself. If it's so, would you mind to elaborate? I apologize if I've misunderstood your message.
@_naveun2627
3 жыл бұрын
@@atrueba5147 I was talking about individual differences; the individual being me, not the people around me (so I definitely am not blaming anyone else). I rarely lie to other people, but it's still more likely than lying to myself (as that doesn't really happen). I still don't see the problem with this.
@artistrymindsstudios2531
3 жыл бұрын
@@_naveun2627 You Intercepted the message horribly. He was just complementing you, but it went over your head.
@Amirisphere
3 жыл бұрын
A year ago, I was watching Pokemon Sun and Moon, the last episode of the show, I got inspired by all of the character's dreams to improve their lives and make the most of the time they've got by doing what they loved, that was the last daylight saving time, I feel like this is a renewal time for me because I have slowed down in some areas where my consistency was sharp, this video showed up on the day I was going to make my biggest change, which is today, I have lots I want to do with my life and I can't keep myself held back any longer, I have companies I want to create, medals I want to win, lives I want to improve, I'm making it my OWN LIFE POINT to change so I can change the world the way I want, no more holding myself back, it's do or die! Thanks again for the video!
@MissLolo9324
3 жыл бұрын
That's awesome. Good luck with your endeavors!
@artistrymindsstudios2531
3 жыл бұрын
"It's do or die!", sound's a bit too serious don't ya think? Anyways, good luck mate.
@ekoriantochan8085
9 ай бұрын
You can do it bro! You are awesome
@Wars7498
3 жыл бұрын
Literally COVID made me lazy as hell. Since there’s no one around to make feel bad about being lazy.
@collectiveconscious1590
3 жыл бұрын
Same yo
@convolution_talk_show
3 жыл бұрын
me 2
@ezequiel2955
3 жыл бұрын
Nothing makes you lazy but yourself. Keep yourself accountable. I respect COVID, but actually think if it’s an excuse and not a real thing.
@ioana4011
3 жыл бұрын
This is THE BEST advice about discipline and consistency I ever seen. I've been applying it for 2 years now, and it rarely failed me. It works better if the person you are making yourself accountable to, is someone who you greatly admire and look up to, rather than someone who you love and feel comfortable with. There is actually a big difference, that not everyone is willing to admit it. Good luck everyone 👍
@ms.k8260
Жыл бұрын
❤
@Riahthealchemist
3 жыл бұрын
step 1: find someone to trust 😅
@CalmestK
3 жыл бұрын
Proving we don’t even trust ourselves
@ashvideoer
3 жыл бұрын
Lmao fr tho
@hadiqausman4467
2 жыл бұрын
imao
@yilangroenenboom1117
Жыл бұрын
Yeahh
@jaxx-inspiregrowcreate2862
3 жыл бұрын
A little accountability can completely change our lives! Let’s crush this week! Happy November!
@georgistoianov3260
3 ай бұрын
how's it going?
@jeffhess4650
3 жыл бұрын
When I began to write my first novel I had several people, including my then wife, to whom I would email before noon the words I had written that day. Having one person isn't enough, you need a team made up of people you don't want to disappoint.
@Karinnederland
3 жыл бұрын
Nice! I am looking for people to form a team :)
@highvibrationcoaching2149
3 жыл бұрын
"We are not going to be accountable to ourselves" "we need to outsource our accountability to a partner or coach". Love it! Appreciatively, Neil
@RaoBlackWellizedArman
3 жыл бұрын
This is one of the most informative and effective self-development videos I have watched. Thanks a million.
@TheArtofImprovement
3 жыл бұрын
Glad it was helpful
@MrPelikan500
3 жыл бұрын
Yes! Accountability, is The Best Way to Consistency! But It's to *Ourselves!* this is the only sustainable way ... we are our own fuel ... since we are the only who can feel the *Pain of Misalignement* between what we say & do ! 😁💛
@wadepatton2433
3 жыл бұрын
AHA! that's why I've always been very slightly "outcast". I never worried much about what others thought.
@Justifycope
3 жыл бұрын
Das hard
@pyschologygeek
3 жыл бұрын
From a brand reputation point of view, a lack of consistency means customers are left feeling confused and frustrated. And, if they're forced to make contact multiple times because they're unsure of the conflicting information they've been given, this pushes up customer service costs
@learnnaturesecret2022
3 жыл бұрын
Indeed! Consistency, discipline and committment... all key. Seems I can do it for a while then fall off the wagon... and get back on again. Ups n downs for sure... looking for ups now! Inspired!
@janetheobscure3426
3 жыл бұрын
February 15, 2021. Just a day after Valentine's Day! It clicks. It makes sense. Although I listened to it when I'm at a better place, I hope it helps me in my struggle. Happy Sunday everyone!
@NenaLavonne
3 жыл бұрын
Ah yes....good ol’ accountability 😀
@claudiacha2536
3 жыл бұрын
lol
@zanetruesdale8336
3 жыл бұрын
An excellent video. Having a coach/mentor is by far THE BEST way of making progress
@NinaPerezDanceTodayThriveToday
7 ай бұрын
Great reminder! It makes me think this is one of the reasons partner dancing is more successful when you sign up with your romantic partner or even a friend and do it together!! Thanks for the effort in making this video. Keep up the good teaching!
@seandangercampbell
2 жыл бұрын
Your voice takes on a sort of Churchillian aspect when you begin a sentence with “However”, or “Therefore”. I love it.
@wadepatton2433
3 жыл бұрын
"Assign accountability partners" as if folks simply take on that role when we ask them to. I've yet to find one to really help-because they've all been online and we never have similar schedules. THIS video may help me find others in that it can help them comprehend the task and benefits. Thanks
@MilesLeslie
3 жыл бұрын
Consistency is a major key in life ( DJ Khaled’s voice )😂🔑
@crucialque4862
3 жыл бұрын
"WE THA BEST" = HE THA BEST😁🤫👏
@bbrosser694
3 жыл бұрын
At the start of your serious but delightful program, I didn't know if I would really want to follow your leadership-- now I know for sure that you're offering solutions that will work. And, I will gain focus and productivity because you offer sensible and practical ideas that, if practiced, will definitely make my life better. Thank You!
@TheArtofImprovement
3 жыл бұрын
I'm glad the videos have helped and good luck!
@Amos-dm3ie
3 жыл бұрын
Consistency is key
@nicolash.9222
3 жыл бұрын
Hm... I understand, but some advices here goes on the contrary of certain rules I've seen in "48 Laws of Power" rules... Most of the time, you must keep your goals and aspirations secrets, and not talking certain things to people at all, keep them to yourself, because you never know, your today's friend or partner or even spouse, can be your enemy of tomorrow, and also, you must be confident enough to be able to rely on yourself and not depend on others to check you. Accountability is a great concept or quality, even more when you are to yourself and don't need other. Me ? I speak in front of the mirror, and talk to myself harsh when I said I'd do something and finally happen to didnt. But thats just me though, since most on the time I must only rely on myself.
@fammnak852
3 жыл бұрын
cmiiw but for me I apply that particular Law of Power you mentioned at a work/professional environment. I do work towards my 'goal' in discreet. The accountability partner I saw in this video for me is more like my boyfriend, my family, or my (trusted) colleague, basically someone that I am okay to be vulnerable with. And also depend on how I much I trust that person and what KIND of goal. The goal in the video would be something like wake up without snoozing or exercising or stop watching youtube something that we tend to procrastinate the most
@yilangroenenboom1117
Жыл бұрын
I guess I'll try this since I don't have anyone else in my life 🙃
@NicoleDue
3 жыл бұрын
Accountability partner is an amazing idea! Thanks for sharing!
@ninatownsend6547
6 ай бұрын
ugh... I have conditioned myself not to care about fitting in... and having someone to help me be accountable doesn't work..cause I don't care what they think!! and I am highly independent and issolate... I think my struggles run deeper than the average.
@HaylesConsultingCareerCoach
3 жыл бұрын
Excellent video! Accountability partners are so important especially when it's already a person you speak with everyday! My boyfriend will be my dedicated AP :)
@sibelka1994
3 жыл бұрын
how about being your own accountability partner? i am shocked that no one mentioned this in the comments. as a person who has self-image issues, anxiety and depression, i have a problem of heavily relying on other people's encouragement and validation to get anything done. however, when my support system is unavailable or simply absent, unwilling, or inconsistent themselves, i have no motivation to better myself or get to work. i am lost, i am alone. therefore, i have decided that i should respect myself and my progress first and more than any other person in my life can so that i don't give my 100% per cent on things i cannot fully control, like other people's attention and encouragement towards me. i find it much healthier to work on the reasons WHY you proscrastinate and self-sabotage before making other people your rock. this would save a lot of disappointment and fix some behavioral patterns that cause the trouble in the first place. THEN you can find a support system and make other people your rock. interesting video, but i think you missed a huge point.
@CassieWinter
3 жыл бұрын
You make a really good point. For someone to be a valuable accountability partner, they need to be both invested in you and your goals, and also have the skills and capacity to hold you accountable. Finding someone that ticks all of those boxes can be really hard, but it's SO worth it. And the more power to you for trying to be your own accountability partner right now. I had to do that, but going it alone made the journey take so much longer. Know that there are people and coaches out there that specialize in showing up for you, so you can finally show up for yourself. 😊
@TrainerLiz1
3 жыл бұрын
I agree with you. I don't want to Have to report in to people. People are just too busy.
@collectiveconscious1590
3 жыл бұрын
This has been me for a couple months now I’m a senior and I’m nearly almost done and I have 39 credits , I also stopped working out and just stopped a lot of good habits , hopefully this videos gives me some type of insight
@RohitKumar-ig8jo
2 ай бұрын
Dont spoil ur head.. by listening to all this.. Thats Y lot ate struggling.. keep. Wt u want in mind.. u will automatically do that❤🎉
@ashleytims974
3 жыл бұрын
I wish I found this in high school but I’m still happy I found it at 24 oh how my life is changing now that I actually take care of my mental health I never thought I’d live a kinda regular life
@MaximillianCallender
3 жыл бұрын
I wouldn’t want to bother other people with my tasks. I wouldn’t want to depend on other people when it comes to my own improvement. In my opinion, it’s better to just start very very small and make our tasks habits. I really don’t like the idea given in this video.
@FrozenFox20
3 жыл бұрын
yeah. I prefer to write down a thing and put it somewhere i can see every day so i am "accountable" to that commitment and cannot forget it. Once it starts feeling effortless and forms a habit that requires no willpower i can change focus to another thing i want to form as a habit. Even though you could argue willpower is like a muscle that can be trained, other and the easier way is to lessen the willpower required. Habits do break too from time to time, but then you can focus at it again and picking it up is faster and easier than it was before, in my experience. These can be anything from making your bedbin the morning to going to gym or studying at least 1 hour without interruptions every day. To conserve your willpower make decisions ahead of time. Plan your week and day, what time you are supposed to study, when you go to gym, what you will eat during the week. This way, if you put your plans onto paper it becomes a chore that requires no willpower to do, because you already agreed to yourself to do said tasks beforehand. This way you don't waste your willpower arguing to yourself if you are too tired or not to do it.
@damnpirate1259
3 жыл бұрын
it's just one of whole possibilites, the one which doesn't work for you but maybe works for others. Bother other people? Why are friends for? You just inform them and you do your best in order not to get roasted :D there is no need to look at this advice extra serious or obsesion. Sometimes it's enough just to know that there is some kind of support :)
@EdwardT9
3 жыл бұрын
Some of these things don’t apply to everyone. My wife needs no one to be accountable to to get her stuff done, she’s accountable to herself. That might be you too. I don’t work that way at all...I seem to value my self accountability at near zero.
@leaneice6269
3 жыл бұрын
This is so accurate! 😌 Consistency and organization goes a long way 💯
@johnhoward1181
3 жыл бұрын
I like the video, but I would never do that, I would never put myself in a position of being accountable to others. I know that works well for many, but I do not want to be held accountable to anyone else but myself. If I can't get it done then it just won't get done. I'm a very independent person. There are drawbacks to being accountable to other people.
@joliev1706
3 жыл бұрын
I agree. I personally don’t think having an accountable would be a sustainable way in a long run. I think it’d be much better if one can find an approach to become their own accountable self.
@SoulPapiii
3 жыл бұрын
these videos are really powerfu man no lie
@SoulPapiii
3 жыл бұрын
^
@SoulPapiii
3 жыл бұрын
^
@TheMoneyPlantChannel
3 жыл бұрын
Awesome vid! All about turning up everyday and getting the work done! Consistency is key
@csengercsizmadia
3 жыл бұрын
I think I also have one which I don't see in other videos. So if you start an activity that you know you do to procrastinate, you need to assign a reason to it, or if you can't then you mustn't follow through with it. For example when you open up your phone and tap on youtube, ask yourself why you do it? If it's not a very sound reason, put down the phone and place it somewhere far from you, and do your task that you have to complete
@helenmarshall3799
3 жыл бұрын
Great idea and I'm just wondering who would want to take this job on. I don't have anyone that would be motivated and consistent enough to want to be an accountability partner, unless I paid for a business or personal coach. I love this channel. Thank you. It's amazing and I listen to you everyday.
@Karinnederland
Жыл бұрын
I could be your accountability buddy , no pay but the day you did not follow your goals you will pay a penalty Fee :)
@CassieWinter
3 жыл бұрын
Having an accountability partner can indeed be transformative for your productivity. It's really important to keep in mind, however, that not everyone benefits from external accountability. If you do benefit from external accountability, it's then really important to pick a partner who is invested in your and your goals, and has both the skills and the capacity to hold you accountable.
@c.s.hayden3022
Ай бұрын
The hardest part isn’t getting started, it’s maintaining good consistency.
@Tettzz
Жыл бұрын
As a game developer, I always have huge ambitions, but a week after I start a new project, I think about quitting programming
@AnalystOfTheTruth
5 ай бұрын
Often big projects can quickly start to feel impossible when you're the only one working at them.
@Uhhdolphin
3 жыл бұрын
its always the ones in a relationship who win, huh?😔
@Mayeli12054
3 жыл бұрын
Keep ur head up king
@ryank6322
3 жыл бұрын
Relationships can also hold you back.
@Chris-ki6ui
6 ай бұрын
First minute and a half requires you to have the luxury of an intimate and trusting relationship. That's like making a guide to start a small business and the first step requires a million dollars.
@cascada122321
3 жыл бұрын
I can attest to this 200% you cannot hold a family member as an accountability partner. Pick someone who has done it and you look up to and you don’t want to let them down or yourself down
@Stunning-j6t
5 ай бұрын
I want to get fit and living a healthy life For this I start waking up at 4:30 several times because as a early bird I can easily manage my routine but not getting consistency Today is my Day 3 and I put my alarm clock on my table this time I hope this time I will get consistency ❤️ I will surely give update after a month
@itsjustme1728
4 ай бұрын
Yoo Brodie any results
@Stunning-j6t
4 ай бұрын
I can wake up at 4:30 only for 6 days after that because of feeling low energy in rest of the day I shifted my timing to 5 and honestly till 8 may I would wake up at 5 but after that 9 may I went for tour and sleeping pattern got disturbed again I started 5 am routine and today my 10th day but ya putting phone away from you , it helps you definitely
@bloxborg2371
2 жыл бұрын
3:32 this guy was just spitting literal facts
@OfficialTashika
3 жыл бұрын
Great video, I’m definitely going to implement this method in my life
@Madilandia
Жыл бұрын
man I need to be consistent to change my body but man is hard… every time I try I fail. i’m trying to wake up early to workout but when my alarm sound a bad part of my brain snooze that alarm and some I convinced myself to stop the alarm and continue sleeping even though I really need and want to start changing my habits… I’ve been trying for a month now and I feel like I’m not gonna be able to do it. The good thing is that I’m not gonna give up until I make it.
@pinkrifle984
3 жыл бұрын
thank you! your English is so clear, I can enjoy your videos without looking at the subtitle :D
@sdaly415
3 жыл бұрын
Wow.... a group of my peers and I literally started a 30-day accountability group, which began today.
@joliev1706
3 жыл бұрын
how’s your progress so far?
@pkozanov
3 жыл бұрын
I always enjoy watching your videos and find value in them! Thank you! Keep up the great work!
@katarinaimelda2244
10 ай бұрын
This is so good, thank you very much.
@rise_and_reborn4048
3 жыл бұрын
The Key to Consistency is Persistence and Never Giving Up until it is finished. You Never hear about Successful people or Hard and Strong people focus on consistence, but they always focus on persistence in some form.
@chenylabemnwi4128
3 жыл бұрын
This is exactly what I needed
@notgate2624
3 жыл бұрын
I don't know people. I also have no issue telling people I've failed to do things. I feel like this video was created for a different species than me.
@davidschantz5363
3 жыл бұрын
Discipline with flexibility
@RVAPerformanceTraining
3 жыл бұрын
Great video - going it alone DOESN'T work and accountability goes so far.
@elijahj-l825
3 жыл бұрын
BROO! This video is seriously MIND BLOWING BRUH
@hammer8771
7 ай бұрын
im so inconsistent that i watched this video at one point before but i dont remember it. literally a year ago or so i was at the same level on the same path searching for more consistency
@theresezammit13
3 жыл бұрын
Who is trying to find an accountability partner? I have had friends that I would to this with but it doesn’t work. Maybe with one of you guys it would be more effective!
@MichelleWade1973
Жыл бұрын
Kudos for putting in an amputee in the drawing! Awesomeness all around!
@Gigusx
3 жыл бұрын
I'm not a huge fan of the video in its current form. It has some good advice but could (and should) be built on. The technique is extremely effective if you want to achieve your goals, but misusing it can put you in a place where you're depending on accountability to get anything done, it's also very fear-driven which is simply not a great or healthy way to go around things in the long-term. What I'd recommend doing is implementing some accountability mechanisms in your life, but refining this technique not to be fear-driven but one that helps create a better YOU (not your achievements), build up the discipline and personality of a person who does their best for himself and the world - or whatever are your motivations - not for any external validation.
@lexijs
3 жыл бұрын
my adhd loves this video
@halfacrehomemaker
2 жыл бұрын
You would need a consistent type of accountability partner for them to care enough to follow up to make sure you achieved your goal. That’s a big task to put on a friend. I can only see this working if the person is paid (like a personal trainer or business coach).
@fatoumatasylla1996
3 жыл бұрын
6:29 definition of integrity
@clairelawson9079
3 жыл бұрын
What if I ...don’t get embarassed by my bad behavior or lazy reasons anymore...yeah time to get a therapist and motivational coach. Great video!!
@htww1205
3 жыл бұрын
make video on how to do this alone, for those of us who don't have anyone. this is like that tedx video, where the girl giving the talk on loneliness, just assumes everyone has friends/people to talk to.
@CalicoCooperFan
3 жыл бұрын
How do you find like-minded people to form a master mind group with?
@jeffhess4650
3 жыл бұрын
Consider forming a Meetup, or similar, group. Offer to be the person responsible to someone else in exchange for them being that person to you.
@bill85122
3 жыл бұрын
They just bring themselves, you know? They see a call like this, shrug and type out something as inane as this and you're still reading right now, aren't you? Let me know when you form the group!
@swaroopsankargr629
3 жыл бұрын
I don't have any accountability partner.. What should I do. No one is there who can sincerely,take accountability.
@janafaramawy771
2 жыл бұрын
idk.. I feel like even my telling my silly excuses to someone isn't enough to motivate me, I'm in much deeper than I had thought.
@tyronefrielinghaus3467
3 жыл бұрын
Good video : I'm always trying to improve (but not succeeding too well)...and I REALLY see what you're talking about having to tell OTHER people (those that you value - that's important) why you haven't done 'it'. Embarrassing - when I think of excuses to articulate - that really don't put me in a good view! MUCH easier to tell yourself that something 'got in the way'. (that's my favourite I'm afraid) Accountability Partners : I'm going to think about how to get that going for me. Mmm, has to be someone whose opinion I value.... When I am consistent, it's WONDERFUL - and I feel sooo much better - so anything that can help is very appreciated. Thank you for this -for me - so timeous advice. ******
@Kemelya
3 жыл бұрын
These videos never get old.
@GittePiano
2 ай бұрын
Thanks for sharing.
@shinnoke8
3 жыл бұрын
Thank you very much.
@DominionAdesuwa
2 ай бұрын
Thanks for this
@mschrisfrank2420
3 жыл бұрын
Making myself voluntarily accountable to anyone else makes me LESS likely to do it.
@nicolausthothmes2325
3 жыл бұрын
I spent 1500 dollars for a coach. When it came down to crunch time, I couldn't stand the idea of answering to another man. Scrapped the entire thing and lost all the money. Super expensive lesson. This works for obedient people who care what people think about them. For the few of us that answer to no one, we have to figure out what makes us move. I'm believing that it has something to do with converting the work into a perceived passion through unorthodox paradigms.
@luciidity_
3 жыл бұрын
Amen to that! Reliance on coercion through accountability feels like the main reason I've felt stuck since childhood: accountability is always attached to something I have to do for survival/external validation, else risk being a disappointing failure not worth anything. It may make me consistent but it also has a great chance of making me resent the thing I went through all the trouble for.
@luciidity_
3 жыл бұрын
Amen to that! Reliance on coercion through accountability feels like the main reason I've felt stuck since childhood: accountability is always attached to something I have to do for survival/external validation, else risk being a disappointing failure not worth anything. It may make me consistent but it also has a great chance of making me resent the thing I went through all the trouble for.
@frankoueblaw8359
3 жыл бұрын
Many thanks for sharing these techniques 🙏
@DevinSymone
3 жыл бұрын
Consistency is everything to achieving your goals
@NellyMilligan
3 жыл бұрын
Good Stuf💚Definitely going to apply this ASAP
@rise_and_reborn4048
3 жыл бұрын
Accountability Partners are great for _motivation_ *But Terrible for Discipline and therefore Long-term Consistency* Here's why: *You have to develop Self-Discipline to conduct yourself in the best manner alone, without the need for other people to push you to set your own life straight, that is the only way to be consistent long term, through your daily deceisions and actions, that add up over time.* You are telling yourself you cannot accomplish your goals on your own, that you are capable of doing on your own, without someone always there keeping track of your life or be on your case for your personal decisions. If you are in a group or always around people, that can work for periods of time, but for true long term consistency, for years in a row, there can't be an excuse or set of conditions that break your system down. You will be alone in in most critical periods of your day to accomplish your priorities. ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ Eventually *you will be alone for a long period of time*and you *will* feel weak and insecure because you have leaned on other people to get priorities in your own life done. But training your mind to harden and developing Self-Discipline doesn't happen over-night, change happens over time, step by step and day by day. I know from personal experience that trying to rush development beyond my capacity on consistent basis doesn't work long term. Your life is a culmination of all actions and decisions over time, and you can't completely remake your life and you who are immediately, but you can change direction in life immediately, keep going in the best direction , or at least a good direction, gaining momentum the more and longer you keep going. How hard you push yourself each day depends on how high you aim in life, and fully intent to achieve in actuality. --------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Realize that your subconscious mind directly resists changing your life for the better ( but not for the worse) and will play tricks to convince you to forsake what's good for you for what's has the most pleasure for the least pain, instant gratification. But that also is the time to show who you really are, when you are by yourself, and what you need to change, improve, and develop within yourself to do better. Your daily personal decisions added up decide your life, or rather "You decide your habits and your habits decide your life" Mere Motivation wears off, while can be great of supporting and reinforcing habits, and perhaps getting people started in habits. But motivation isn't infinite, our dopamine receptors get de-sensitized (so you get less bang for more buck motivation-wise), so I recommend a dopamine detox either when you feel motivation is wearing down from the same activity or on a weekly basis for a habit. Andrew Kirby and Alex Becker have great videos on dopamine detoxes. -------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- For more knowledge on this, I recommend either reading or listening to _The War of Art_ and listening to podcasts with *David Goggins* and his book _Can't Hurt Me_.
@carprincess
3 жыл бұрын
I both love and hate that the key of consistency is accountability.
@MidnightAhri
3 жыл бұрын
ah, tfw i can do 30 day challenges, but my depression gives 0 fucks if i wanna do something long term or not, no matter what consequences, to suicidal thoughts as endgoal >.< like i dont give a fuck on who i let down and with what... only thing that helps is positive reinforcement of seeing myself improve in art and showing others and myself what i made and looking back on it. but even that doesnt help me being consistent, just keeps me coming back for a new spree... i cant daily draw for 2hr... starting is the hardest thing, and even when i started i need things to draw that engage me a bit. which ehh... most of the time i dont know what to even draw because my skills arent at a level where i can produce things that look like the ideas in my head which just is demotivating instead. pff ill get there eventually, everytime i draw for a while i get better so it should fix itself
@halimahpatel4681
Жыл бұрын
Rely on the Creator
@EndariDeathgrin
3 жыл бұрын
Is it weird that I'm less productive when others TRY to hold me accountable, whilst been more productive when holding MYSELF accountable?
@katherinehabits8988
3 жыл бұрын
You are lucky..how did you do that? Staying consistent by yourself...what did you thiught about
@EndariDeathgrin
3 жыл бұрын
I just don't want to rely on others in a way like this, besides, what if nobody was around, who's gonna keep me accountable then? I don't really know how I do it, to be honest.
@EndariDeathgrin
3 жыл бұрын
@@katherinehabits8988 Okay, I need to back-peddle a little bit. If my self-observations are correct then I tend to be, if only a bit, more productive when I'm not taking myself too seriously. What I mean by that is that I try to find a way to make things enjoyable, and subsequently more desirable. For example, wiggling my hips to the beats of a song i love while doing chores, or treating a study session as if it were some sort of a game, helps boost my mood, which makes me want to do it more. It requires some creativity to make this work but it definitely pays off. One thing I ABSOLUTELY AVOID DOING is forcing myself to be productive. It's kind of like sleep; trying to force it only keeps me up at night, and feeling crap about myself for not sleeping\Productiving (?). Ultimately, I don't take myself too seriously when it comes to this; lest I lose any motivation and desire to do said thing. Hope this helped!! 😊😊😊
@katherinehabits8988
3 жыл бұрын
@Venos Hazard omg, thats a great idea, really thankful for the advice, you are right that it really needs to be enjoyed, its all indeed about how you feel happy doing it, but how do you make studying felt like a game?
@EndariDeathgrin
3 жыл бұрын
@@katherinehabits8988 I guess I always saw as a game. The times where I performed badly were when the teachers took themselves a bit too seriously, getting all up in your face about how you should be and what you should do to the point where you just hate whatever they teach. Really, when you think about it, most tests are just a game of fill in the blanks and solve these puzzles. And the process of studying a subject has always been fun for me so long as I was taking an active part in it, not to mention being able to control the pacing; it always gave me this feeling of 'yay! I learned something new!'. No need to treat it as a matter of life and death. Right?
@queenapple9012
3 жыл бұрын
Honestly just push yourself two or three months and then you get into a routine. I am currently forcing myself to work more and now it’s doesn’t hurt or bug me anymore. My best goal is to start workout and eating healthy but I have to push 2 to 3 months so that I can achieve my goal! Lol
@queenapple9012
3 жыл бұрын
Then your body and mind get use to it. You have to have a goal. For me is saving enough money to see the beach and a road trip. I want be healthy enough to drive and not feel 😷 sick. I also want pay off my debt so that I can move out eventually or live in a van. (-: so everything has its place in life. You just have to push until you think it won’t end. Once you accept that this is your life now it’s easier to stay in that situation.
@ifureadthisugay9293
3 жыл бұрын
You definitely deserve over a million subscribers
@TinaMartinez97
3 жыл бұрын
Just found this channel while being on a self improvement journey! I love this video really great!!
@amanvermalh
3 жыл бұрын
Excellent video Sir! Thank You
@yveserieux
3 жыл бұрын
Great video. I'm sure it will be of great help to many people. I have a question though. When I was living alone I was able to be very consistent - I was working on business development I was running for 2 years and cycling for 5. But then I've started relationships and married. Since then my ability to be consistent wore off dramatically. However, according to this video, it should have improved. What's happening? No, my wife isn't a slacker, if anything she's more disciplined than me.
@kundalinee
Жыл бұрын
I like to make my own calendars and give myself fun stickers 😂
@luzhernandez36
3 жыл бұрын
the only way to get better on this is by facing yourself or try break free of your inner self.
@greatmindsunlimited
Жыл бұрын
My alarm goes off 15 min early. I have bird chirping music that comes on and a sunrise lamp. I lay there and wake up slowly.
@k27ism
3 жыл бұрын
([PAUSED] I haven't watched this yet but here's my advice) It's all cute and all but here's the dead on serious note. Take it from someone who has spent the past two and a half years going on third to remain consistent at something LIKE studying law and starting a small time business WHILE balancing responsibilities elsewhere. It takes humility and patience to accept that you need to start somewhere no matter how embarrasing and small it makes you appear to be. Being consistent with something means accepting that you must continue with things even when you lose that first impression excitement everyone always get, when starting something new and finding out after that you will be stuck with it. It is not attractive having to find out you must sacrifice your time and effort to become better or have a good chance at staying on the right track. Watching KZitem or browsing social media should not be something you look forward to be doing not even on free time. Don't be interested in finding social comfort with people who have no idea what you are really up to. If you want to feel good about what you do while invested long term you should have something that will keep you motivated all day everyday any time any where. Something like a good routine and a plan with records to mark objectives and achievements and where you are in between. Something like a spot to feel safe and synchronize into your goal every day. Something like a friend or close buddies who help relate and encourage you to be productive. Something like books to point you in the right direction. My advice? Read the Holy Bible. Trust me. It's the single most important piece of item that is truly ever consistent over centuries. *Mathew* 24:35 - Heaven and earth shall pass away, but my words shall not pass away. This saying is so true today and will be true forever. If you read it ten years ago or ten years from now it will still be valid. It's so consistent that it lasts forever. So read the Holy Bible and trust me you will not regret it. I hope you gained the right advice out of this. Edit: (Done watching the vid) Wow! Completely agree with the second notion which was to create a system that encourages consistency among peers. I did that with my law school buddies when we divided work up and each completed small tasks and came together to show our strengths and connect huge complex ideas together. It worked for me even before i saw it here because we all want to help each other as mutual partners. If one fails they prove how useless they are which no one wants to display. We all communicate and understand how to handle a case and no one is burdened over another. I like the second point this video makes and encourage it for anyone looking to achieve something that can be done with some parallel processing support. It will reduce the time you would need and just boosts your motivation to work again in the future after you find out how productive two or three can be intp one objective. The first point on having an accountable partner is helpful when you want to show you mean what you will do and it is great to prove for yourself that you are now straight handling what you plan for. It is an added boost to have to be accountable for things you say you will do and you feel good when completing it in the presence of someone whose opinion you also value. *GREAT VID*
@ZTRCTGuy
Жыл бұрын
This won't work for people that are disagreeable. or very resistant to social pressure. Example, If I choose a goal to get better at drawing for example, you can take one of your friends or a coach as accountability partner. The problem is that if you're very resistant to social pressure, you're way less likely to worry about the consequences. Also if you look at these consequences objectively, there's basically no cost to not doing your work. Your friend will stay your friend (most likely...) and the worst thing that can happen with a coach is that the coaching sessions will end. You will of course get reprimanded in a social way but your life will not change, your survival is never in danger. For some people, getting socially reprimanded is hell. For others, not so much. Take me for example, I'm very well able to shrug off these things, an that doesn't mean I don't value their opinions or themselves as people, but I'm very well aware that these goals are my own, not theirs, they cannot hurt me. And that's a big problem with this method.
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