She is one of the few people I hear who puts accountability on both parties.
@GreatnessClips
Жыл бұрын
🙌
@mazi2756
Жыл бұрын
Single woman here who has followed Esther and her practices for some time now. Can never get enough of what she has to share. Unfortunately many people out there are not operating in a space that allows for successful relationships. These teachings should be mandatory before marriage and after divorce.
@GreatnessClips
Жыл бұрын
🙌
@TekstenTalent
Жыл бұрын
Q
@marylinson5712
Жыл бұрын
Enjoy listening to you Ester thank you
@mimiglaes2479
Жыл бұрын
What is your definition of "space?"
@printempseternel
Жыл бұрын
Completely mandatory!! We literally know nothing about how to be humans
@8165Pat
Жыл бұрын
Esther is a genius! My husband & I play @ the park on the swings, slide & jungle gym! It is so fun to have him push me on the whirly, whirl! This 30 min fun activity causes the next 2-3 days to be joyful! Play is absolutely essential to our marriage! I am 54 & my husband is 62!
@huiapuketapu2881
Жыл бұрын
This is so inspiring. 😊
@christinah.8504
Жыл бұрын
humble brag much? Take it easy. Those things are what you should be doing.
@marcoz6023
Жыл бұрын
that's really cute :)
@mb8219
Жыл бұрын
Love that so much !
@deepaknambisan3251
Жыл бұрын
@@christinah.8504you need to play more instead of being an unpleasant person making gratuitously mean comments about people obviously far nicer than you 🤡
@Fiona-West
Жыл бұрын
“humor and play is possibility. possibility invites change. change invites healing” what an incredible quote. i just recently found Esther and i love her perspective!
@GreatnessClips
Жыл бұрын
🧡
@imambitious1913
8 ай бұрын
🎉🎉
@cinderling5472
7 ай бұрын
"Play is the opposite of fear" What a genial woman. I'm so grateful💖🙏
@GreatnessClips
7 ай бұрын
Thank you so much for watching!
@countrygospel601
Жыл бұрын
To whoever is reading this, you are loved. You are blessed. Your dreams are manifesting as we speak. Time is on your side. Everything will work out in your favor. May you find more love, peace and prosperity. Keep shining your light in this world. We need you and we love you. Bless you with all the best🙂 💖💖💖
@samanthaparry-gd7kl
Жыл бұрын
❤❤❤
@mancha500
10 ай бұрын
Bellisimo!!!! Thank YOU so much for this blessing. Much needed!!!!
@SarahB-xf1ze
10 ай бұрын
Mom?
@natalie.Maharaj
9 ай бұрын
Thank you 😢
@marian5477
9 ай бұрын
Amen
@trishaspire199
7 ай бұрын
I love the focus on humour! My friends and I call this “clowning”. Where we exaggerate an aspect of a situation with jokes or even an expression of emotive embodiment of the irrational fear. For the purpose of bringing it to light for observation of the group in a palpable, digestible way.
@anin3993g
8 ай бұрын
I am really impressed by the way that she explains difficult things in easy way
@mrkeitt
Жыл бұрын
Good to hear true wisdom not saturated with modern day toxicity. She really has a great view on human behavior and mannerisms.
@GreatnessClips
Жыл бұрын
Thank you for being here 🧡
@akumacode
Жыл бұрын
i loved the focus on "play" at the end of this conversation. When i was in university, i studied psychology and did some research and wrote papers on how fundamental play was in child emotional development for both boys and girls. Which also lead me to secondary research on how important fathers are in play and emotional development from childhood into adulthood
@yzma6142
Жыл бұрын
She is incredible. Accountability is a key step to true healing.
@valuerjtp7
3 ай бұрын
And most women do not know how to practise it accountability
@Portia620
24 күн бұрын
Yes for trusting someone ! Agreed!
@Starlight-qr7cq
9 ай бұрын
3:15 We are not the same person with different partners. Different things come out, depending on what is being sent over to us...we are constantly responding to each other. Different people bring out different aspects that are already within us. Thankyou Lewis & Esther for such an insightful & powerful interview! I feel more empowered to make positive changes within myself to heal a painful marriage. 🙏💖
@GreatnessClips
9 ай бұрын
You're welcome, thank you for tuning in 🧡
@indigoblue4791
9 ай бұрын
I was thinking exactly those things. 😊
@yaabima2
8 ай бұрын
She's deep and accurate. ❤
@EMuro-wu7uy
10 ай бұрын
Best part of a good relationship is communication. Being responsible and being respectful
@zinedinezidane4771
7 ай бұрын
Fun and humour I'm learning is in that list too.
@Timocoh
4 ай бұрын
She is a smart person and one of the best I’ve heard on relationships. A true professional and specialist.
@csmith9699
18 күн бұрын
Absolutely...she is brilliant
@Englishroserebecca
Жыл бұрын
I’ve never heard anyone explain things so well like this before. It makes things so much easier to understand. It gives us a better insight into everything.
@GreatnessClips
Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for your feedback 🙂
@moragmcgill
Жыл бұрын
Wow! Brilliantly authentic and insightful as always. The questions to ask ourselves. Who was I in this relationship? What role did I play? What did I see that I didn’t want to pay attention to? What things do I wish I had done differently? Where do I wish I said less and where more? What did I learn from this relationship ? Who do I want to be in the next relationship? 3:12 we are not the same person in every relationship which is a "figure 8" of dynamics 4:14 not blaming game but understanding the dynamics 5:34 What keeps us "connected-alive" with a sense of possibility? Calibrating expectations; Diversifying your social connections; taking risks, doing new things and play. 08:06 humour is essential
@LinhTruong-iw9px
Жыл бұрын
Thank you for writing down and timing for each section. You are a great help
@carolgeorge6409
Жыл бұрын
Thank you. This is so helpful
@peri272
Жыл бұрын
Thank you!
@kimgordon3695
Жыл бұрын
💞
@7Earthsky
7 ай бұрын
Thank you for this. x
@passthegravy7688
8 ай бұрын
If you don't arouse that primal passion in a woman then it doesn't matter how good a partner a man is.
@timothyn4699
4 ай бұрын
and how do you do that?
@Portia620
24 күн бұрын
@@timothyn4699play and flirting and make sure to play with words! It’s hot!
@leenapoirier9423
Жыл бұрын
Wow! I have only watched a minute and a half and I am already blown away! I already need to rewind and then stop for personal reflection! If you are stumbling onto the work of Ester Perel for the first time, listen closely and find more videos! So much insight and wisdom and her ideas are applicable to both women and men. Thank you!
@GreatnessClips
Жыл бұрын
You're welcome, thank you for being here 🧡
@alexlupi3108
Жыл бұрын
After watching this video I kinda understood why my relation collapsed, total and absolute lack of sense of Humour. I`m sure many people think sense of humour on both sides is not that important. I can freaking garantee you it is utterly important. And especially if your partner has basically zero sense of homour , then, my friend, you are Done. And I agree with Esther, at that point, when there is zero humour, the relationship is OVER, dont even try to salvage it, cause you cant.
@jz362
Жыл бұрын
I like the figure 8 analogy. When I tried that in my marriage, I was accused of blaming. It was not a blame deal...but could never get past that hump.
@VivienReacts
Жыл бұрын
Ahhhh my bf always tease me, every single day, never gives me normal selfies, always weird pose selfies. I asked him, when you're gonna stop to tease me like this? And he said, I wish never. The moment I stop tease you means I stop caring about you. Since then, I tried to loosen up and be playful with my bf like in the beginning of our relationship ☺️😆
@beatasynowiec4165
Жыл бұрын
without communication there is no negotiation, no transformation, no relationship. And we can't blame or win anything unless both sides are heared. We must listen and communicate, the end. Beautiful interview Mr. Howes. 🤭🌹
@GreatnessClips
Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much! Your comment made my day 😊
@tulsalien
Жыл бұрын
i love how esther talks about the importance of humor even “making fun of”. i’m a survivor with cptsd and my favorite relationships involve roasting ourselves and one another in friendly ways that don’t cause pain just lots of laughter. i realized through this conflicting values don’t always have to mean tension, stress, and arguments. not everyone feels safe playing with everyone though.
@mmandkat
8 ай бұрын
I neverrrrrr thought of it this way! The figure 8 analogy makes soooo much sense 👏🏼
@attention_shopping
Жыл бұрын
shes amazing
@Gptencate
Жыл бұрын
This type of conversations heal my soul ❤ ty ty ty
@keysersozefede
Жыл бұрын
Esther is amazing. I'm learning so much from her.
@smurfiennes
Жыл бұрын
I love it when figure 8 is beautifully explained, thank you.
@bobbiParkerHall
Жыл бұрын
My 3 rd marriage and we are still on fire for each other Of course I married the ultimate marriage therapist. It’s work but it’s work I love doing! There is nothing better than finding your true love 💗
@GreatnessClips
Жыл бұрын
🧡
@akcr5769
Жыл бұрын
Give us some tips….I’m considering a 3rd marriage but fear the odds are so terrible!
@shaaddhillon3819
Жыл бұрын
@@akcr5769 Same here. Too scared after 2 divorces!
@beautyfashiongoals7912
Жыл бұрын
@@shaaddhillon3819 3rd time is a charm! Is for me, 17 years and still as happy. Each year gets better! 🤍
@beautyfashiongoals7912
Жыл бұрын
@@akcr5769 do it! My third is 17 years and getting better!
@yolandastahl6266
Жыл бұрын
Always learn so much from your interviews. Thank you both for all you do🙏
@Esme26433
Жыл бұрын
Your wonderful, Louis. Thank you!! And your guest just gives me hope for myself every single time I hear her speak. Keep up the great work!!
@kristinej.4182
Жыл бұрын
She’s the best! I learn so much from her wisdom and knowledge.
@badmojjo
Жыл бұрын
Duuude I just realized that I hadn't had time to listen to your podcasts lately, I actually remembered how I enjoy them. Not just the guests but the interaction, your listening skills and the fluidity of it all.
@GreatnessClips
Жыл бұрын
Appreciate you! 🙏
@anweshakar146
3 ай бұрын
Yes, the fluidity!!
@jonasbermejo
Жыл бұрын
This video of Esther Perel is great and more than great... enlightened, for us who walk in the dark without knowing it. Merci beaucoup Esther Perel !!! 🏮
@Goldenheart2911
Жыл бұрын
This is an excellent clip. Understanding our role in our past relationship failures is key. It's much easier to blame and see the problems of our past partners then it is to accept that our role was just as significant and damaging. By taking time to heal our inner wounds it changes how we show up in relationships moving forward; which is definitely a blessing. What an unhealed heart looks for in a partner and brings to the relationship is much different than what a healed heart looks for and knows they now have to offer. 💛
@GreatnessClips
Жыл бұрын
Glad you enjoyed it!
@douglasstewart518
Жыл бұрын
I truly wish I'd found her and these conversations at least 4 (if not more) years ago before the catastrophe I've experienced over the last 3 years-the loss of my beloved wife of 48 years due to the growing distance between us and ultimate "irreconcilable differences" that drove her to leave our marriage and not return. Everything I've heard so far is exactly what we needed to hear together.
@jrj2764
Жыл бұрын
48 years WTF? why i’m the world wouldn’t you too just stick it out!?? However I understand it only if infidelity was at play
@FancyNancyChung
Жыл бұрын
I’m sorry to hear this Douglas. I’m healing from a recent breakup but your wound puts mine to shame. I’m still glad you learned❤
@izabelazielak8963
5 ай бұрын
Why blaming yourself, when it’s true
@zinedinezidane4771
7 ай бұрын
Love Ester's take on play. Now im being mindful of play and being more silly my aporoach to dating is less intense and im feeling much more relaxed.
@kerryfoster1
10 ай бұрын
The depth of understanding and ability to see how it all works (or doesn't work) is astonishing. I can see how my failed relationships went wrong but also my successful relationship worked. Then realising I knew this all along. Brilliant video. Should be compulsive viewing at 20 yrs old!
@foxxyloxxyxo
Жыл бұрын
Pearls of wisdom, Always! Thanks!
@GreatnessClips
Жыл бұрын
You're welcome,thank you for being here 🧡
@staceydean619
Жыл бұрын
I just love her!
@GreatnessClips
Жыл бұрын
Thank you for being here 🧡
@jstew7777777
Жыл бұрын
So helpful!
@stephaniefortney22
Жыл бұрын
Thank you both for this … great questions, wonderful insight and her wisdom is so valuable, I could listen to her all day….Esther’s a jewel. Appreciate this interview very much
@GreatnessClips
Жыл бұрын
You're welcome, thank you for being here 🧡
@kimgordon3695
Жыл бұрын
4:00 This tapestry called Love is worth every stitch. Treasured ~
@Paeoniarosa
5 ай бұрын
So much to learn from Esther. Thank you.
@GreatnessClips
5 ай бұрын
You're welcome,thank you for tuning in 🧡
@for777mer
Жыл бұрын
fantastic! from start to finish. she is brilliant as always.
@GreatnessClips
Жыл бұрын
🧡
@anthonymaranca1380
Жыл бұрын
It takes one to know one Tonista
@jackijohnson3778
4 ай бұрын
Humar and playing is what got is through all the really hard conversations.
@Portia620
24 күн бұрын
Yes!! Humor and play is soo so important for passion and fun in a realionship! I bring so much to the table and if a guy doesn’t see it then oh well! 😂🥂🙏. I’m a hoot and amaze myself some days! lol
@Inflowfitmethod
Жыл бұрын
It all boils down to people’s level of consciousness!
@Nancy-vt3xm
Жыл бұрын
She's great.
@GreatnessClips
Жыл бұрын
🧡
@willow_pillow
Жыл бұрын
I love these greatness clips!
@GreatnessClips
Жыл бұрын
Appreciate you and your support! 🙏
@anikaray4192
20 күн бұрын
I cannot begin to express how grateful I am for this interview 🙏 So many great questions and break throughs for me.Absolutely magic especially about intimacy and yes I agree.Thank you to both of you.I feel empowered 🧡
@GreatnessClips
19 күн бұрын
So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching!
@Zen-qe8ro
Жыл бұрын
I love this woman 😘✨
@GreatnessClips
Жыл бұрын
🧡
@jenbrown1362
9 ай бұрын
I was hoping to see both of you play this anticipated game.😮
@sahcho9213
Жыл бұрын
Love this thank you
@GreatnessClips
Жыл бұрын
You're welcome,thank you for being here 🧡
@johannesvandermeer2256
Жыл бұрын
This lessons are awesome Thanks
@GreatnessClips
Жыл бұрын
You're welcome, thank you for tuning in 🧡
@tinadenfinaNOT
Жыл бұрын
I wish this Intelligent educational conversation had less of a commercial and simplistic headline, since it actually i think stops people from watching it for the correct reasons.
@maumiceli
Жыл бұрын
Hahahaha I love her vibe so much
@fharag1732
3 ай бұрын
Gracias ❤
@mis7089
Жыл бұрын
Thank you 💝
@GreatnessClips
Жыл бұрын
You're welcome, thank you for tuning in 🧡
@Portia620
24 күн бұрын
We all need to fix something!!
@GenRN
10 ай бұрын
I knew my marriage was definitely over when he refused to laugh at my jokes anymore. I’m really funny. He would rarely have sex with me for 10 of our 24 year marriage but I knew it was over when he refused to play with me or laugh.
@cristinalacoste2062
Жыл бұрын
I love her insights
@GreatnessClips
Жыл бұрын
🧡
@melluques8475
6 ай бұрын
Love this two🤗🙏🏻❤️
@AlbertNewton-bf6cr
Ай бұрын
Are you single?.
@brunogoncalves4484
4 ай бұрын
Totally agree 100%...
@GreatnessClips
4 ай бұрын
🙌
@collective_tarot
Жыл бұрын
❤ excellent advice❤
@GreatnessClips
Жыл бұрын
Thank you for tuning in 🧡
@debbiesianturi2505
Жыл бұрын
Wow.....Esther Perel is a good Mentor for relationship. Can I with Lewis Howes? I am a mature woman and good sense of humour....
@Arieslove176
10 ай бұрын
I love the way she refers to it as ‘being in transition’
@09280215
Жыл бұрын
Excellent! ❤👍❤👍
@GreatnessClips
Жыл бұрын
Thank you!
@gertaqilla7795
Жыл бұрын
Esther, you flower🤲🤗💞.
@Starlight-qr7cq
9 ай бұрын
"Each one creates the other..."
@Beatrice_bb
8 ай бұрын
This one video is eeeeverythiiing. Eyes wise n wide opening
@GreatnessClips
8 ай бұрын
Appreciate you for watching. 🧡
@coolandgood0062
Жыл бұрын
Lewis, you don't need to interject, it's ok to just listen sometimes. It was at times very distracting and frankly didn't apport anything to the conversation. But thank you for the content nontheless.
@scottbarker21
Жыл бұрын
What book would you recommend I start with?
@buddymac3993
Жыл бұрын
Say yes dear all the time and keep your eyes only on your pride and joy!!!!🇨🇦
@buddymac3993
Жыл бұрын
And attention!!
@buddymac3993
Жыл бұрын
Cannot say it enough!!!!
@joellaj9
4 ай бұрын
Grazie.
@GreatnessClips
4 ай бұрын
You're welcome!
@ceciliagranados6989
Жыл бұрын
Thank you for this, you are both brilliant! Is it possible to purchase the game in Mexico?
@melluques8475
Жыл бұрын
I really love this two. 🙏🏻🙏🏻
@GreatnessClips
Жыл бұрын
🧡
@jennyjames9634
11 ай бұрын
The film Life is Beautiful is a powerful example of a father helping his son psychologically survive a concentration camp experience by creating/narrating an imaginary "game" to create joyful play in the midst of trauma and terror. Play is a survival skill!
@annawasterbyjara9527
8 ай бұрын
I think Esther is very wise. I have a question though. It happens sometimes that you are married and to a spouse that gets a mental illness or a dissorder and really doesn’t whant help. We are living in the assuption that everybody is just neurotic but never ill. But there are ill people, and I think that is something we must not be naive about. Many of us are trying to hard for too long.
@maghrath1
Жыл бұрын
Which podcast episode is this extract from?
@Avoid_Low_Frequency
3 ай бұрын
I tell the men I dated, the common denominator in these relationships that have ended is me. I made significant contributions to the demise of the relationship.
@AlbertNewton-bf6cr
Ай бұрын
Why? You didn't liked them?
@amylebaron6544
7 ай бұрын
What about people with addiction? How does this change the dynamic?
@muhiskeinan8265
Ай бұрын
I use to feel hurt by my wife now i dont feel anything. I must say, i prefer this feeling.
@supritiphani1282
8 ай бұрын
One can be all this and still experience strange things
@monicastevens2669
Жыл бұрын
There is no such thing as a perfect partner, perfect person. Please, do not set up this type of expectation. It is dangerous.
@GreatnessClips
Жыл бұрын
Agreed!
@kimgordon3695
Жыл бұрын
When we refer to something as perfect we are appreciating each aspect of the composition. Who we are together can be complementary
@monicastevens2669
Жыл бұрын
@@kimgordon3695, still never perfect.
@yuliyayeudachenka297
Жыл бұрын
@@monicastevens2669 it could be perfect to you only...
@supritiphani1282
8 ай бұрын
Yes I have to agree because I have experienced it
@Islandbui242
7 ай бұрын
What exactly are these risks that push you beyond your comfort threshold?
@paulafrance0404
Жыл бұрын
How would you do this if your husband is going blind and is angry
@kemiolumide-aluko9150
Жыл бұрын
Thanks…a lot!
@GreatnessClips
Жыл бұрын
You're welcome,thank you for being here 🧡
@GeorgeLista
8 ай бұрын
8:04 sorry ladies, this one is for the guys - most women just aren’t funny, it’s not easy to find a woman you’re attracted to who has a great sense of humour, witty and can genuinely make you laugh… but they do exist, so don’t be average and pick someone who doesn’t have that quality, you’ll regret not waiting.
@circlesthesun
8 ай бұрын
I'm dating a woman with a sense of humor and intelligence. I reciprocate. What a positive experience.
@sheilafitzgerald9635
Жыл бұрын
How many of you are in a happy and successful relationship or marriage, and how long have you been together?
@sheriwilliams8942
4 ай бұрын
Being the Perfect Partner means being a Whole Person without having to have another person to complete you. You Should already be complete. And as far as supplying someone else's needs be careful, because if you are a Whole Person and they are a Whole Person then each can take care of there own needs and that way a Whole Partner can be a Luxury and not a Needy Necessity in a Relationship. Whole Complete Mature Adults know how to behave with one another. Get Yourself Fixed so that you don't bring unwanted garbage in and "Ruin" what may be a Future Whole Relationship and a Life Story and perhaps also some Love as well.
@katethegr8324
5 ай бұрын
I am a perfect partner. Now where to find mine?!?!
@anamarkovic4944
Жыл бұрын
🙏💗
@abbygodfrey3282
Жыл бұрын
How do you handle when I'm the only one wanting to play ...he plays and flirts with others but says we live together so no need to play with me and my desire for it pushes him away
@andreacruz108
Жыл бұрын
I'm not and expert and far from it. My heart tells me if being playful is a need for you than just be playful for your own health. Be playful with others and with him if it is received, but never dim yourself. Be joyful for you... I think he will eventually see the value in it
@jobatty116
10 ай бұрын
Express that it's important to you. Tell him you want to play together. I hope he responds well x
@antonelaionica
Жыл бұрын
❤
@justjames1111
7 ай бұрын
When Women so many times say to a Man... 'My Children are the most important thing in My life and always will be'...'But I want you to make me the most important thing in your life'....how would you suggest a Man respond to that Esther?
@lizkim1546
10 ай бұрын
Has this worked for anybody here????
@rox-annerhodes168
Ай бұрын
PLEASE INTERVIEW JONATHAN ASLAY‼️🎤💜
@AlbertNewton-bf6cr
Ай бұрын
Is that you and your husband, in the 50th anniversary video?
@KarpeDiemSemper
Жыл бұрын
My ex said i have contributed to our downfall which i don't deny and have recognized several times during conversations, he says i made him feel unloved, I'm not affectionate person, my question is, is that enough reason for him to cheat and lie to me?and if that's the case why not leave?
@diane2413
Жыл бұрын
It's hard to say. No that's not an excuse for him to lie and cheat. Each person has parts they are accountable for. It sounds like he wasn't ready to admit what issues needed to be looked at prior to lying and cheating. The question is really prior to the lying and cheating how did you feel about the relationship, how you were showing up and the connection you were sharing? It's not just about his complaints but what lies beneath. I know in my failed relationships I can honestly say the relationships really never should have began at all. I was not honest with myself and did not listen to what my inner self was telling me and that those persons were not a good match.
@KarpeDiemSemper
Жыл бұрын
@@diane2413 absolutely how you close this beautiful statement, that's how I felt bout this relationship.... I appreciate you saying this 😊. I feel as women most times we tend to love more when we have been proven we shouldn't. It's been a rollercoaster ever since for me. I realized he's narcissistic but I'm the one called narcissist. It is breaking my mental so bad that I don't know what else to do. I appreciate you responding.
@LizY9271
Жыл бұрын
Cheating is a part of a personas character , and character has nothing to do with anyone else but the individual!!! You could have been a devil and it’s still no excuse to cheat !!!! You could be an angel and if he wanted to cheat he would !! That’s just who he is
@csmith9699
18 күн бұрын
Humor and play...
@lpsglitterpaws8536
2 ай бұрын
My husband is leaving me for another woman. Should I beg him to stay? He says he no longer loves me and does not want to grow old with me. Should I beg him to stay with me???
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