Never sell yourself short, never lower your standard and never date exclusively until you meet your kind. There's a way you have with words that you put everything into its right perspective. Am 25 and I think my generation we are raised to be independent, with the right values, character name them. But they have failed to mention that in our nature as ladies, soft and tender despite our achievements we overlook or we forget how we should be treated we give much than we receive which is very WRONG. I think that with this conversation you have highlighted the root cause of many problems ladies face in dating and in marriage. Mr Zulu you have saved a generation that was clueless. Watching from Thailand.
@naomimwaky5570
9 ай бұрын
Thank you Zulu for sharing this. I am an independent young lady and I made few mistakes when dating guys. My kindness and good got me heart broken. I won't settle for less or lower my standards anymore for a guy. Wishing to get married and I believe God will provide me with that one man that will love me I just need to be patient and intentional
@yvetteebot302
2 жыл бұрын
Wow Mr Benjamin you are just describing me 100%. Am balance in every area of my life financially because am an Accountant/Cashier in a big company here in Dubai and at the same time studying to become a medical practitioner, because i want to switch my career. balance in my spiritual life, balance everywhere except my relationships because is like guys come to me only for what they get from me because of my good heart.
@blessedmercy3036
2 жыл бұрын
I think this is me, though not married, am independent. I always come through for people & sometimes am left hurting for my kindness. My heart, please learn this
@3danimation464
2 жыл бұрын
Kicked him out confidently 😏💪🏻 I rather be alone than starting another romantic relationship that should have been a charity project 🙈
@beverlykanale9665
2 жыл бұрын
In one area she is a prayer item 😂😂 eeh Benjamin spitting some hard truths
@ogechiorji77
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you Benjamin.. the value I get here is so massive. Nigeria
@shade_ofnite7autopsychogra411
2 жыл бұрын
There needs to be a delicate balance. I think the place those types of ladies need to start is inward. Start with you self- compassion, setting boundaries, knowing exactly what you'd like and want, being intentional in your romantic relationships and being honest with self as well there's nothing wrong with wanting to upgrade your life with your partner and money in this reality facilitates that.
@winniemulongop5359
2 жыл бұрын
I like before I watch because of the great lessons in store. Keep up the good work Benjamin & Bramwel
@sanitationEng
2 жыл бұрын
It's a struggle to leave someone when they have not wronged you, the person you feel love for. I just realised i need better because he wasn't putting effort to build himself and his family,leave alone building me. I miss what we had sometimes but i have been single since and more aware of what i want.
@shaneliki
2 жыл бұрын
God bless you Zulu, you speak my life 😂😂 and I agree if people would pay attention to what you say, they will have an easier life. We keep learning and growing.
@agaltoto8506
2 жыл бұрын
I feel like today Benjamin Zulu has described me 💯
@sydneyliz1923
2 жыл бұрын
Me too, am glad because this has opened my eyes 🙂
@margeymeg7735
2 жыл бұрын
I was laughing so hard at this until I realized they’re describing me 😂😂.so much lessons learnt from Maryland United States
@TheTabbym
2 жыл бұрын
lol, thats me being described, very balanced in general life but a messed up love life. May God remember us
@lorraineoneill9297
2 жыл бұрын
I have fallen into this trap and it was a mistake. Thanks for your wisdom and describing this problem in a way that I can learn from.
@rosiewakio1777
2 жыл бұрын
You put it right, "marrying out of sympathy" because of my good heart am now single, i thot i would rescue him 💔
@candacesmith5572
2 жыл бұрын
Lol I burst out laughing about the woman with best performance throughout life. But relationships are lacking I used to be sad about it. But I now laugh my standards are back in control. Taking life as it comes at peace with my wins and losses. They made me the woman I am today.
@phoebemukhwana3058
2 жыл бұрын
Hoopz o yes, is me🤣🤣🤣
@nataliendagire454
2 жыл бұрын
Benjamin I'm that girl discussed today🤭🤣🤣🤣
@hedwigmodise3206
2 жыл бұрын
there is always something to learn.. thank you Benjamin, I needed to hear this. all the way from Namibia.
@nurujuma4209
2 жыл бұрын
Today is my day wow 👌 😄 🤣 😂 really enjoyed the topic 😀
@maureenkemei9254
2 жыл бұрын
Learn people without getting into exclusive relationships, thank God for this, be blessed Benjamin for opening my eyes.
@chidinmajudith7679
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you Benjamin..you spoke to me.
@wendymkhwanazi9862
2 жыл бұрын
Great session Benjamin and Bramwel 💯👌👌
@delayedmaturity5274
2 жыл бұрын
Story of my life I guess
@paw-leenshikongo6910
2 жыл бұрын
Never lower your standards to meet their requirements.
@alukwejoy808
2 жыл бұрын
An eye opening..am one of them
@hellenndege4983
2 жыл бұрын
My favourite persons yeesss😁😍 Here to learn as always.🙏 Happy new year ✨ 💛
@jackienjeri2404
2 жыл бұрын
Benjamin u r the best ..but did u have to say 'who told u that some people will grow' funny
@evakamene9431
2 жыл бұрын
The law of giving and receiving.... If you love receiving be open to give... It's a cycle
@ravmedialtdjoh-lxnicoh3140
2 жыл бұрын
💯
@florenceojowa7706
2 жыл бұрын
Powerful conversation. Thank you
@lucynjoks7942
2 жыл бұрын
I love this because I exist my man exist and I trust God for that
@StarWayne.3626
2 жыл бұрын
The Betty Kyalos of this world.
@wachairman7657
2 жыл бұрын
It's wrong to mention people's name
@jeannekaze560
2 жыл бұрын
Exactly sir Zulu many people are in the problem because they’re want only sex not married. Married is something to be prepared for a very be careful,married isn’t business or job. You are good sir zulu 🙏
@londiwengema5100
5 ай бұрын
You talking about me😅
@puritywilliam2081
2 жыл бұрын
benjamin is talking about me
@maureenkemei9254
2 жыл бұрын
Hahaa kicking him out confidently oh my God.
@lorraineoneill9297
5 ай бұрын
You have just described me 😅 I've dated some people I shouldn't have dated as they have no prospects or job stability. It didn't work out. I'm single
@wengiwendy8865
2 жыл бұрын
thanks for uploading these educational videos. i keep learning
@osagloria4331
2 жыл бұрын
true love is intentional
@tabithakasina3711
2 жыл бұрын
The type of life I want is intentional
@josphinekaibi8095
Жыл бұрын
Spot on Benjamin
@judithngonyo5254
2 жыл бұрын
👏🏾👏🏾BZ you are such a blessing
@kinyanjuijanice8591
2 жыл бұрын
So educative 💓
@cathyajulo4352
2 жыл бұрын
Notes taken❤❤
@kiito_s_World
2 жыл бұрын
Yoooo this is talking to me
@dianamuthoni4070
2 жыл бұрын
Wow this is what I personally needed knowledge it's now easy to make a decision
@sanitationEng
2 жыл бұрын
Why does it have to be Engineering Zulu🤣🤣🤣🤣. Yes, we don't like exploiting men. I dated someone after being attracted to their personality but later discovered they are not motivated to be better, i almost felt like the boyfriend in the relationship. The day i decided to leave is when i noticed i had a bad pattern. I will never feel sympathy for a guy again unless it's my husband, bro or dad. It's difficult finding respectful men as a respectful lady in the technical field.
@tammialevisnus4259
2 жыл бұрын
Aaaaaaaaa😇🥰🤗iam glad to be here Sir👍🤜
@wisdomlife
2 жыл бұрын
Following..
@faithmwoloi7649
Жыл бұрын
Aki mbona mnatucheka hivo aki😢
@wanjirukarago9308
2 жыл бұрын
How to date when you know the man knows his responsibilities how about that? 🤔😂
@damah8431
2 жыл бұрын
if you win a man by giving him er money you need to maintain him by giving him Money, wise.
@xolimashiane-LK
2 жыл бұрын
I am this girl she is me but thank God now I know better.
@polinenjue1084
2 жыл бұрын
But Zulu good prudent wives unfortunately marry in supportive husbands
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